Mufti Menk – Don’t judge me!

Mufti Menk
AI: Summary © The importance of avoiding negative self-talk and acknowledging actions is discussed, as well as the need for people to be aware of their actions and report them to higher authority. The challenges of divorce, divorce and the rise of depression in the digital age are also discussed, along with the importance of protecting oneself and others from bad behavior. The speakers emphasize the need for empowerment and helping others to change one's life, and emphasize the importance of protecting oneself and others from the "monster" in the Islam world.
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Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa ala cattle

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Mashallah that was quite a good response my brother quite a good response. I see the brothers intimidating you guys even before we started Mashallah Baraka Bismillah R Rahman r Rahim In the name of Allah subhanho wa Taala the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful Alhamdulillah All praise is always indeed due to Allah subhanho wa Taala for Salatu was Salam ala rasulillah Allah Allah He was happy here Jemaine we send blessings and salutations upon those who were sent to remove us from the darkness and to bring us to the light. We send blessings and salutations upon Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam his household, his companions, may Allah bless them bless every one of us and grant

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us, Goodness

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Masha Mashallah. My brothers and sisters.

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Allah judges us, does he have the right to do that?

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does Allah have the right to judge us?

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Yes, he does. Definitely. Why?

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There is an uncle here from Kashmir who has intrigued me and impressed me from the moment he entered this room Mashallah. He's eloquent. He can be heard. He speaks so clearly. And he has a strong message Mashallah. Jessica Lafave you're about the only person I heard.

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Mashallah, did you hear that? May Allah bless you and bless all our brothers and sisters in Kashmir and grant and goodness and ease me. So Allah has the right to judge us, He will judge us. He says he has kept an entire day to judge us and that day will be very, very long. Who knows how long that day will be?

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Ghana Mikado, Hong Kong Xena, alpha Santa, its duration is equivalent to 50,000 years. Thank you, Sister 100% rights spot on 50,000 years of the years of this world, that will be one day that day, Allah will judge everyone. And Allah will issue the judgment in a way that those who deserve the goodness because of Allah's mercy, but because they tried to achieve the mercy of Allah, Allah says, we will give you your book, the book of what? Tell me, your deeds, your own deeds, what you wrote today, in that book, what you wrote yesterday, what you will write tomorrow, all of that, for as long as you haven't changed the things. And if you did something bad, you can edit, you can cut,

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delete, you know, when you want to write a book, you look at it, and you see and you read, and you edit, and you go back and you check again and again, and you make sure that there are no mistakes. And when you're proud of it, then you can send it to the printers, right? And if it comes back from the printers and you notice a little error and a blunder what do you do you have in the second edition, you have a better copy. May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us goodness, so your book, the one that you have written, Allah says we will give it to you in your right or your left for

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me via boo,

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boo ha Oh, Gita.

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As for the one who's going to be given the book in the right hand, maybe be from among them say I mean,

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he will be so happy of this work that he has just received. The marking of that he will say, oh, read my book, guys read read Check, check what's happened? So how Allah May Allah make us excited in that way, in this world? And the next? I mean,

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so Allah says, We will judge you, we definitely will we have the right. And then those who get the book on the left? Oh, I don't even want to go in that direction. Because you know, what is the opposite of goodness? You know, what is the opposite of paradise? You know, what is the opposite of being extremely happy and excited? And no one wants to be that.

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But we have a major disaster. What's the disaster? Can I tell you? We are on Earth right now. Where we have people around us who keep judging in a way that distracts us.

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Don't you agree? People look at you. They judge you

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They judge you based on what? Based on your color. They judge you based on your complexion. Sometimes on your height, sometimes on your size, sometimes on your nationality, sometimes, perhaps on something.

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They judge you based on so many things, so much springs to my mind. They judge you based on your

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People judge you based on your sense, am I right? You have a person who's for example, being caught pants down literally. And you know what? Everybody talks about this person? The whole world embarrasses them, they become suicidal, no one cares. Do you know why? Because that's it. You deserve it. What do you deserve? When you did this sin? They will tell you it's a punishment. Now you must face the consequences of what the people are going to do and say about you. My brothers and sisters. I want to tell you, a lot judges you. But he's the only one who never judges based on your sin.

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Did you know that?

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You must be surprised. I think he's making a mistake. No. Allah never ever judges you based on your sin.

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Do you think I'm right?

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Yes, Mashallah. One. Yes, Allah bless you, my brother.

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Allah judges you based on your repentance, La ilaha illAllah. You can have committed sin all your life. Allah says, You know what? Your judgment is not based on that. It's based on your repentance. Did you repent? Did you turn? Did you become a better person? It's not based on your past. People will never forgive the sin you've committed. Even if you've changed your life totally. In most cases they won't. That's humankind. We're not conformed. We're not Rahim. We're not we're dude. Allah is gaafu Rahim. Allah is the Most Merciful, the most forgiving, the most compassionate, the most kind, the most good, etc, etc. But people are not. They will throw you out based on one mistake you made.

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One mistake you make and your entire life comes crumbling. Because humankind does not forgive. What does Allah say? Allah says my worshiper,

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you might pay a little price because the other human beings around you

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are not merciful.

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They don't care.

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But we want you to know we will forgive you, we care. We are here for you. And like it's so happy when people turned to him. Allah says, we wipe out your sins, Allah said, You know what, let alone wipe out your sins. Whatever sins you committed, we want to convert them into good deeds on the right side of your scale because you changed your life. Look at you. You're such a lovely person, my brothers and sisters never ever be let down by your past. Do you know why it was exactly that? Pa St. Past, that's what it was.

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Leave your past behind. Forget about it.

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Somehow a lot of people may remind you, people may keep talking about it.

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Come out of that.

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Change your company if need be.

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Divorce yourself from toxic people who might be in your circle of friends. So much so that if it is a spouse who is toxic, Allah allows you to actually come out of it. So Pamela,

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I know it's easier for a man. But I want to tell you, I challenge the scholars always.

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To make it easy, easier for the sisters as well. And it's the duty of those whom Allah has placed

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in leadership, to assist the sisters who are going through struggles. I know of people who are absolutely suicidal, and nobody's helping them. Nobody reaches out to them to understand what they're going through. When you go to someone and you say you know what? And I've heard this May Allah forgive us? Someone says

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May Allah subhanho wa Taala forgive us.

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I've been sexually abused by my own father. That's what someone said. And I went to a scholar.

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And he told me

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what do you think he said?

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have supper? My brother. You got it? At supper? Don't worry. That's your father. Jenna was your father. Don't worry.

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brother, my sister, this is where we're failing. These people need your help.

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The minimum you can say is you know what, what he did is totally wrong, totally unacceptable. He's a criminal, if need be, you can report him. And you should be reporting him to higher authority where he can be penalized, and perhaps jailed, and perhaps shamed as well. Because you know what that is insulting. Heaven lies at the feet of your mother is actually a statement that is sometimes used as religious blackmail, to keep the person under the spell of a mother, when the mother is toxic, and really a nasty, evil person who won't even be Subhana Allah.

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Who won't be your door to paradise, not at all.

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But this is the case of some.

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In the case of the majority, my brothers and sisters, in sha Allah, we hope we can be decent parents to our children. And we hope that we have decent parents who don't abuse us and then I call it religious blackmail. That means you show someone a verse of the Quran, or a Hadith, and you use it to justify the sin and the evil that you're perpetrating against them, which is unacceptable. Husbands do it too.

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It's a pity the wives don't find those verses.

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To lie, they're there.

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The Prophet sallallahu Sallam tells us

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that impresses me the most.

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And I challenge the menfolk to live by it. He says the best from amongst you are those who are the best to your spouse's

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Subhan Allah

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best to your wife, your family members who from amongst us can say we are the best.

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May Allah make it such that people bear witness that we are really good people. So my brothers and sisters,

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sometimes people are crying for help and assistance, and we don't.

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We don't help them. We don't reach out to them.

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We have aid organizations, such as human relief and so many others doing a lot of good work across the globe. So panela What are they doing reaching out to people in need in a different way?

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Every country that an aid organization visits, sometimes he's affected by something uniquely there's it's a problem. Sometimes it's a flood, sometimes it's an earthquake. Sometimes it's a mudslide. Sometimes it is a tsunami, sometimes it might just be a whatever else it may be but some form of a disaster, the outbreak of a disease may Allah grant us all cure and protect us. Those who have any illness and sickness May Allah grant you cure. I mean,

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those who are struggling I said it yesterday. I'm saying it again today. Those who have been affected by this Coronavirus that has overtaken the globe. May Allah grant and cure May Allah open their doors. May Allah subhanahu wa taala safeguard the rest of us, no matter what phase they belong to, what nationality they are, where they are, from, what their color is, what their size is, may Allah grant and cure, say, I mean,

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we won't judge. It's wrong for me to say that was a punishment.

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So How on earth did someone come and dish it out to you to say, Tell them it's a punishment, punishment? Go tell them, let them know.

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That would happen, not a job

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Subhan Allah you could be affected by it. And so could I. Yes, it is a reminder from Allah, it may well perhaps be a warning from Allah reminder etc. It is an it is a disease, a virus that is taking over the globe, not looking at who you are.

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When the tsunami happened, people were saying that's a punishment. And I said what about those who died in the masjid while they were in salah and the others who died while they were fulfilling their reciting the Quran, and some died while they were engaging the vicar of Allah? What about them? Oh, I didn't think of that. You see TV to allowed to decide. It may have been their means of entry into paradise right? Wouldn't it be

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considered as a Muslim the best death to die while you're in frustration while you're in so do one of the best tests who wants to die Institute? My hand is up.

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Put your hands down. To do that. You have to read your Salah more often.

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Have you heard what one of the youngsters told me? I said in one of my talks. The guy said

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I want to die Institute. I said, Well, you must eat slices. No, if I need my Salah, if that die is accepted, then the possibilities of me dying are greater. I'm like, gosh, you're dealing with people with a brain that's thinking a bit too fast.

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So he's saying if Allah accepts my heart to die Institute, then I'll start doing that soon in about 20 5060 years stuff. Illa that's obviously a stupid way of looking at things. But what is meant here is we become closer to Allah, Allah will open Allah will guide Allah will given grant its Allah, my brothers and sisters, what I wanted to say today, and I want to repeat it today.

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A lot of judges you based on your repentance, not on your sin. Allah says your tasks can actually become the biggest blessing no matter how negative it was.

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When you just turn to Allah, that is between you and Allah. In this world, like I said, People won't forgive you. You made a mistake, one mistake two mistakes, people will actually see you go all the way down the tunnel, and they'll cheer you on. That's how people are. You know why?

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It's Allah, the Almighty.

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He shows you he is the only one. That's it. Who will be with you. The only one, there comes a time when people leave you. Your friends might leave you, your family might leave you it happens, it happens.

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Those you never expected would actually distance themselves. Don't get depressed. It's Allah telling you they've all gone. It's just you and I come Subhan Allah.

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Allah is here for you, he will always be here. He grants you innovation. If you take a look at the books of history and the scriptures, the Old Testament, the Quran, whatever else it may be, you will find that there was a period of time of hardship after which the east came. Take a look at the story of the Prophet Joseph made peace be upon him. They had hardship. They had drought did it last forever and ever. How many years did it last? Tell me.

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Someone said seven years, didn't they? Correct.

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You deserve a medal. My sister I think I had seven years did someone say seven years today?

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Mashallah, you deserve another medal. The only person interacting here man.

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And after that Allah gave them ease. So Allah does not keep you down all the time. Don't lose hope while you're down. Just bear it. You won't be down for a while, I promise you in a year, two years, three years, five years, seven years. Do you know what will happen? Within those years Your life will change to the degree that you will look back and say who I was about to give up at one stage. I know business people, people who are unwell people who are going through medical problems, you know, family matters. Sometimes you're going through a divorce and you know what? You went through it once it was so painful. you desperately do not want to go through it again. But unfortunately, it's

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coming let it happen. Let it be no problem. Divorce is never the end of the world. It might just be the beginning of your life. I went through a divorce myself many many years back in fact, when the brother earlier was saying I've been listening to move to make for about 15 years did you hear him say that?

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First time I actually said Gosh, I'm old man. Mashallah, it's true. It's very true brother. I kicked off in 1999 that's 21 years ago Subhanallah my kids are in their 20s some of them are married. You wouldn't even believe that. And I'm not lying by the way. Okay.

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So Subhan Allah it's amazing my brothers and sisters how there will come a time when ease will come through you go through a divorce You're not the first person you will never be the last one. It may not be your first divorce you might go through it again and again. And who knows the third the fourth person you're going to get to through marriage is going to be wow the king of your dreams. So how to like can happen

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and then you can let the other three know that by the way, anyway, you don't need to do that. Okay.

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But man is such that when we're going through the issue, it's the end of the world it's not just write this for now. You know the waves are coming in. Just ride the wave for now. And you lay low for a little while. Thank Allah develop your relationship with Allah a day will come when you will have the last laugh. And always as they say he who laughs last. laughs the best.

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You have the best laugh. That's a good concept. It's true. It's actually true.

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So my brothers, you're going through financial hardship, don't worry. Count the years. How many

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It's been three solid years, two more years, how two more years before you know it is going to be 2022 done.

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Please don't come back to me 2023 and say, I'm still waiting. May Allah grant you it's not I'm only giving you an example, I'm only giving you an example. It could be before that, right? And anything, those who are not doing well at school, the way we shove our opinions down their throats, they become suicidal. Many of the brown parents are guilty of putting so much pressure on their children to get A's I tell my kids, you don't need to get an A go to school. Enjoy yourself thoroughly. Just make sure you pass come out. That's all. Enjoy yourself. How many of you after you crossed, you know, school? Was it extremely important for you?

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That people asked you Sorry, when you were in grade five? Or grade six, did you get A's? Do they ever ask you that? It's irrelevant. No one asks you what you got in primary school, nobody even asks you what you did at all level, to be honest, or a level for that matter. It's irrelevant. The fact that you're now a doctor, they not gonna know that you failed three times before you passed, or they wouldn't allow that scalpel in your hands.

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Right? Don't worry, that's life. It's allows way

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the brightest children are not always the most successful on earth. And I want to tell you something else, to prove that

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your education and your wealth are not necessarily connected. Allah makes some of the wealthiest from amongst us.

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Some of the least educated

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Do you guys agree? Thank you. So just leave school Subhana Allah.

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That's a joke. Okay, that's a joke. That's a joke. What's the highlight? It's amazing. And this is why you know what I really feel hurt when

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people sometimes see successful businessman,

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a person who's doing really well. And then they make an issue out of the fact that this person has not gotten a degree or whatever else, so they cannot marry our daughter. But what was the point of going to school in the first place to earn a living this man's and the living without having gotten that degree? Now? What's the problem SubhanAllah. And sometimes he may later on I come from Zimbabwe, I know of so many school teachers, and university lecturers and doctors and lawyers and others who actually have just become businessmen because they need to make ends meet in my country.

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wheeling and dealing, you get a guy whose proper qualification and Subhanallah they're just wheeling and dealing because they're making money, at least through that wheeling and dealing.

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It's a scenario that can happen, it has happened.

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But let's be more realistic. I'm still telling you and I want to encourage you work hard, work hard and shallow, as best as you can, and enjoy the days you have. Even if you're at a workplace. Things are tough. Enjoy the little bit that you can for now, make the most of it. It has to be challenging, that's life. Life will be challenging. People will judge you It's not your fault. It's theirs. It's not you who is sick, it is there it is them.

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Who has never made a mistake in their lives, put up your hands.

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Almost saw a hand

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sister at the back Mashallah. Wow.

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Wow, Mashallah, anyway, she's not she's just teasing us. Right? Okay, I want to ask you a bigger question than that. So we've made mistakes. Who has never ever sinned? Put up your hand? No, sir. never committed.

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Not one of us. Not a single one of us. Say that again. Uncle.

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Let's start off with Rasulullah Salaam Salaam. And you know what right the angels Leia asuna, la Hama, Amara home WiFi Luna yo maamoun. Allah says they the angels, they have never they will never transgress against Allah. They do exactly as they are commanded. They don't have the capacity. They don't have the ability to sin. So I want to let you know the purpose that Allah created us. You know what?

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worship Him as best as you can. And repent because you are going to sin.

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How do I know that's the purpose? Because before my greatest grandfather and your greatest grandfather, who was by the way, the same person so it makes us really ease. Okay.

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We're related, bro.

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Well, yeah.

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Who was your greatest

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Grandfather What was his name?

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The sister who was saying never ever the one who's recording Okay, who was your greatest grandfather? What does that mean? What was his name?

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Don't pretend like you don't have a voice say loudly. Adam Subhanallah Did you hear say man? Don't ask anyone else say man say movie related Come on. My brothers and sisters Let me explain. before Allah put him on to the earth, Allah made sure something happened. What was it? Allah told him?

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What ah Baba the Shahada takuna Amina Vani mean, don't approach this tree. Don't eat from this fruit. Otherwise you will be a wrongdoer. The only thing you're not supposed to do is this. Imagine you're in Jannah. And Adam alayhis salam was in a special paradise that was created for this particular purpose. So it's not the same paradise we're going to be going to It's a special paradise, a special garden that he was created in and Allah told him, You know what, do whatever you want you and your spouse Eve, do what you want. And I tell you, Allah subhanho wa Taala says to this man and his spouse, his wife, to my greatest grandfather, Allah told my greatest grandfather, do

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what ever you want here, eat whatever you like, there is nothing prohibited besides one fruit.

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Guess what happened?

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granddad blew it.

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Love Akbar its effect. That's what happened.

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He blew it. He actually did the only thing that he wasn't supposed to do the only thing did Allah judging.

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Do you think he's not going to make it to paradise?

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To Jenna?

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He will.

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Allah chose him to be the first of the species. He committed a sin. It was considered a major sin. It's the only thing wrong and Allah says, You know what I love.

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I just wanted to create a creature who sins and repents.

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repents, it's the repentance. So if you have sinned, you repent. What is repentance? When you say Oh ALLAH forgive me.

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It is a massive act of worship, because you're acknowledging that Allah is the owner of forgiveness. Allah is the owner of goodness, He's the owner of punishment. He's the owner of everything. You are acknowledging that by merely saying, Oh Allah, forgive me. That's why he loves it so much. Why would I say Forgive me when I haven't wronged you? Why would I say Forgive me, when I don't believe I've done anything wrong. The minute you say, forgive me, I believe I did something wrong. And I believe you know what, you're the one who's going to forgive me. So I'm asking you forgive me, the mere fact that you said Forgive me. You're a superhero. You've acknowledged how many people today don't

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acknowledge their sins, they don't acknowledge that they were wrong.

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So my brothers, my sisters, remember this? Allah subhanho wa Taala. He wanted that repentance to happen before this man was sent on to the earth, and therefore we're all on Earth. What you need to know is Allah taught him that look, you're gonna do wrong when you do wrong, just repent, when you repent, we wipe out the wrong that's what we want. If Allah wanted creatures who only did right, he already has the angels. He has them. If Allah Allah has creatures who only do wrong shaytan is there we're in the middle Subhanallah we're neither angels, nor are we devils. See what I mean? The worst from amongst us might be called little devils, but they're not. In actual fact, as human beings

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there is hope for everyone. The worst from amongst us, there is hope for and the best from amongst us must not become so proud and arrogant. Because you know what, no one knows when he can falter or she can falter.

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That's why I don't judge people. You might see someone and we have a bad habit of judging people based on what they look like, you know, one, look at this. Look at this brother stuff.

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He's got all these tattoos and he's got, why are you judging? You don't know anything? You have no clue. What has gone on in his or her life? You don't even know the circumstance? Are you prepared to know? Are you prepared to help them? No, you're not. You know why? You need to help yourself.

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That's what it is. If we knew the stories of those we judge we'd be embarrassed. We would never be able to assist them. We would would not be able to live in their situation. We wouldn't survive. They're surviving, they just scraped through and Allah knows that. I want to tell you something.

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When a person abstains from soon or when a person does a good deed

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The reward of abstention from sin and the reward of doing the good deed is not always the same. It depends on your circumstances if you're going to fulfill salado Virgil, yes, you will get a reward for fulfilling that early morning prayer. But if you're living in England at a time when it is freezing cold and and it's so difficult to get up because the night is so short and it's very very difficult because I'm so tired and you still get up and you still use that cold water and you still do that fertile for Salah over and above the mere fulfillment of the Salah you get a massive reward more than those who perhaps have it all beautiful Mashallah, you know, you said you had a good

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night's sleep your eye open so Mashallah you got up you also did your Salah, who had the greater reward while law he the one whom it was much more difficult for them to have gotten up, they get a reward beyond the mere fulfillment of the prayer.

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If you follow what I'm saying, The same applies about a sin. You go to a country where everything is, you know, let me give you an example. Example, I'm giving you a real life example.

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Go to Madina, munawwara.

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You find people are covered, Mashallah, you know, people are respectful, no alcohol is available. And, you know, there is no apparent sin that is just happening all in front of you. If you were to sit there, Allah says himself, that you know what, it's a multiplied sin, because, well, it's not available, where it is not even there, where it is not even in front of you, and you went around hunting for it, you went around to do it. And on top of that, it's a blessing place, it's a sacred place. And you did that it's multiplied. Allah says, Allah still forgive you if you seek the forgiveness. But for purposes of this example, I'm giving you it's a biggest sin, right.

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And many of you have a sin dangling in front of you every single day, morning and night, your friends and your brothers and your sisters and all those around you and you fell once, trust me, you know what, Allah knows you did better than some of those who might have abstained from sin where the sin was not available. I remember once I had a friend coming from Medina to Cape Town, many years ago, and he told me you guys are saints.

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And I said, What do you mean, we were walking on the beach?

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And he says, Look at you.

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You're not even noticing what I can see. I said, What is it?

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A lot of the *. SubhanAllah Don't ask me what are you doing there? There's just a beach.

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And we didn't notice because why you see that every day. It's no big deal. I mean, if you slip down, carry on being and this guy's like, you know, some handle, I couldn't control myself. I can't you know what's going on. And he says you guys are saints, the sin is dangling in front of you meaning the the chance to commit the sin. You know, I don't want to call anyone filthy because to be honest with you, Allah subhanho wa Taala is the one who decides how people will die, that you may be involved in something displeasing to Allah today, but tomorrow you might earn paradise prior to myself. When when you are teaching what's right and wrong from an Islamic perspective. Yes, you

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know, and yes, I know that we can change that. But when it comes to what the person is going through right now in their lives, be careful how you speak to them. We are it's our duty to give them uplifting words to encourage them rather than to knock them down and hit them into the hole that they were trying to come out of. You get the point.

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Very interesting. This is the dean the prophet SAW Selim always spoke to people in a way that empowered even if they were down in the dumps, even if they looked so negative Abuja was the worst enemy will lie every time he showed a small interest in talking to the prophets of Salaam the prophets of Salaam rushed to him and spoke with utmost respect and dignity. Whoa, whoa, hit Allah says he was the fifth round of this whole oma later on the process. alum confirmed that he was equivalent to the Pharaoh of the oma and perhaps even worse.

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So, when something is dangling in front of you the chances of sending a dangling and you don't you know what has happened.

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You've actually proven to Allah,

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that your connection with allies far stronger, or it's developing, it's becoming stronger. In the case of a person, for example, and I know another realistic example, a person who's trying to quit a bad habit.

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You're trying to quit you can think of whatever bad habit, right? You're trying to quit. I know people telling me you know,

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I'm hooked on to I'm addicted to *. I'm trying to quit.

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And the guy says, Well, I was okay for two weeks and then I just fell. You know what, my brother? You did? Well, two weeks.

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Don't let the one

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little slip, make you lose the gaining of two whole weeks. Keep it going. Keep it going get up again and keep now It must be four weeks, six weeks. I'm not encouraging you to break it at six weeks. But if you can break that record of the two weeks You've done well, haven't you but people won't look at it that way because why? They are not merciful. They are not afford and Rahim they don't care for you. They won't reach out to you youngsters on drugs. If when it's your own child, you know what it feels like? When it's the child of others? That's gonna that's an out he's totally out of luck. Keep them away, do you making matters worse at times?

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It's tricky, because while you're protecting yourself, and perhaps your children and maybe others, you still need to help this person. When you see someone sin, you know where the oma has gotten to today.

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We are so excited to expose them. That's the oma even the pious from amongst us, the so called pious from amongst us, we're excited to expose, not realizing you know what you should be excited to help. You should be excited to assist excited to bring them out of that hole they're in, but men judges you based on your sin, Allah judges you based on your repentance. So what should we be doing if we are good Muslims?

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You repent to Allah, you help people come out of their mess so that they can get to that repentance rather than judge them based on the sin. You can say You know what?

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Like, they say every saint has a past Subhana Allah, and every sinner has a future. I'm sure you've heard that. You might have a few saints who really may not have such bad things. I mean, you know, when you say sin, we've all sinned. But if you were to see the magnitude of the sins, it differs from person to person, based on many factors still, don't get excited. Whenever you see someone being exposed. Number one, it could be alive. I know of a real life case, two weeks back in South Africa, where innocent people were being accused of something that I knew immediately. This was definitely not them. absolutely impossible.

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I thank Allah I was able to reach out to the person involved and just express my solidarity. Say, brother, I stand firmly behind you, whatever you need from me. Done.

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What? This don't believe this rubbish. So panela number one, number two is even if it is true, in the case of other things, this particular one I know it wasn't but in the case of other things, even if it is true, shouldn't you as a true believer Pyrex, be excited about trying to help them trying to let them come out of that mess that they're in?

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The Prophet sallallahu wasallam tells Ali ibn Abi Talib radi Allahu anhu something we keep repeating what la isla and you Ania de Allahu Allah wa he didn't come in harmony Nam one la he if Allah uses you to guide one person, it's better for you than the most valuable of red camels. Which means

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the sp 50 de Subhan Allah in our words, Mercedes Benz

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better than that? guide one person.

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See, you guys are not fans of Mercedes. It's okay don't worry.

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I'm not even

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Mashallah, Mashallah a brother saying you have one downstairs? That's not mine, brother. I drive an old Toyota Toyota Camry. 2007. That's my car by the way.

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My brothers and sisters, I tell you, let's learn to empower each other. We have a two fold problem as well. One is why we are being told to empower each other. We need the power ourselves.

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Because in many cases, we're struggling with our own struggles. How am I going to give you help when I need help myself? I tell you what Allah teaches us kind of lava lamp de makanda lambda v. Allah continues to help his slave for as long as that person is involved in helping another person. No matter what your circumstances are, get up and help someone else. See Allah help you. Help another. They could be whoever. Look at the Hadith. The prophet SAW Selim speaks about the reward of someone who assisted a dog and the other one who helped a little kitten the kitten and someone else Subhana Allah imagine what is the reward of someone who helps and fellow human being so Pamela human, the

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kindness when your heart is good, when you're not selfish when you're not jealous when you don't have envy when you don't belittle people

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When you don't laugh and scoff at people, change your life, Allah will empower you. But when you belittle people, when you laugh when you scoff when you expose a low will expose you one day, perhaps in a much more embarrassing way, wait for the day, wait for it, it's coming. I guarantee you it's coming unless you repent, you turn to Allah.

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And all this I've said is from the Hadith, the prophet SAW, Selim says, Whoever covers the faults of another, allow, uncover their faults, whoever helped someone alone will help them. Whoever has empowered someone, Allah will empower them in this world and the next and so many different durations of the profits are seldom, I remember seeing a beggar not too long ago, again, in Johannesburg, where there was a lady who didn't have one leg. And she was begging

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and a security guard from across the road who just had been given the tip by someone who you know, who was leaving the car, by car. He ran across, and he gave her a green note green, notice 10 rounds equivalent to perhaps 50 p here, right? He gave her and he said, That's for you, sister. And he ran back. And I watched this because I was waiting at the traffic light was red. And I said Subhana Allah, the percentage that this man gave this woman, he must have been seeing her every day without a leg begging. And he's there. He's got a job. And he's a security guard. But he's not a rich man. But percentage wise what he gave was something huge look. And I said, Yeah, Allah help that man, no

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matter what help that man. Whatever difficulties he's going to help him, guide him, grant him, goodness and assist him. The same applies to all of us. You help someone Allah will help you, my brothers, my sisters, I want to end off the same way that I started

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by telling you

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remember, Allah judges you

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and he is the only one who has the right to judge you. But he judges you, not based on your sin,

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based on your repentance.

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If that repentance has come through, the sins are wiped out never to be spoken about again. You will never be reminded by Allah never ever that hate but one day you said never I was not like us. Never. Allah says we wiped it out the angels forgot the books have not don't have it at all. No sign of it. No trace of it. No, heck no heck on earth that would get you back to those two, you know the embarrassment of those sins.

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So I pray we can empower each other if you're going through difficulty or hardship, my brothers, my sisters, may Allah be with you. Don't worry. It's just a few days, a year, two years, perhaps a little bit more, a little bit less. Allah has blessings in the situation and condition that has kept you in that you need to search for look for them. See how did my life change in a good way? Come back to Allah turn to him. Remember him he has empowered you in so many ways. Look at those who are in a worse condition than yours. I say to people, when you look at war zones, and you see bombs dropping on people, and you see for example, the weather is against them. It's freezing, it's ice,

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they have no clothes, they have no accommodation, they have no food, they have nothing. They have no family members, they don't know anyone. They're standing all alone, then you can tell me you have a massive problem.

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You hear what I'm saying?

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That's not the case. Trust me.

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You're in so much of goodness. You're about to have a scrumptious meal here at saffron

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Mashallah, trust me? How many of you have been here before put up your hand?

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I'd say about a third of the crowd Mashallah. You know what to expect, right? I was telling the brothers yesterday.

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Don't dig too deep into the status looks like a main dish. It's only a starter.

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And then when you're done and you're full of suddenly the main meal comes in. I really don't know what there is today. But when it comes in, you better have space so panela because when we're greeting each other at the end there, we don't want burping to happen.

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You got to say a Salaam Alaikum that's the way we greet May Allah subhanho wa Taala Bless you all I really enjoyed myself thoroughly. I want to thank every one of you for having come here this evening inshallah we'll enjoy it. We're just going to be hearing from our brothers in sha Allah and thereafter we will have the meal and after the meal inshallah, I will be at the door to greet every single one of you by the will of Allah subhanho wa Taala present you with the book, and perhaps a little moment to say Salaam shukran lakum was Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.

Motivational Evening London, 20 Feb 2020

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