Comfort in Times of Crisis #18

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a Salam Alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh Bismillah al Rahman al Rahim, Al hamdu Lillah wa Salatu was Salam ala rasulillah. While Allah He was happy, I mean, my brothers and sisters, sometimes life becomes so difficult and sometimes the challenges in our lives begin to overcome us due to our weakness of some sort. Subhana Allah, Allah knows this, people begin to think of the worst. And sometimes people start thinking of suicide. People want to take their lives away, not realizing that by taking the life away, we're not going to solve the problem. Many people who were in greater hardship than you are have come out of it after a year or two years, or a few years or a decade, in

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such a way that they would have never believed to see the success they saw later on. Had they taken their lives earlier, they would have lost out on a lot of goodness. So Allah subhanho wa Taala tells us what great a loss a person who kills himself would actually go through. And this is why in verse number 29 of surah, Nisa, Allah prohibits suicide completely. And Allah subhanho wa Taala says, There is no way that you should ever think of consider or take your life away. Because Allah is far more merciful than what you think. So Allah says, Allah dako to do full circle in law, how can I become Rahim? Don't kill yourselves. Don't take your own lives away. That's a very clear cut verse,

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verse number 29 of Surah Nisa, why? Because Allah says, Allah is indeed Rahim, He is merciful upon you, you're a believer, you believe in Allah, these challenges will come to pass, live a day at a time, go through it, because Allah will never allow you to go through that which you cannot cope at all. There is always a way out, find the way look for it. speak to someone confide in those who are trustworthy. Make sure that you have confided in Allah to begin with, he knows your problem, but you keep on praying to Him. And Allah subhanho wa Taala will open your doors. So this was a clear cut verse telling us suicide is prohibited. There is no way you should think about it. No matter how big

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your problem is, no matter how big your disaster is, there is no scope for this as a Muslim and as a believer, because Allah has mercy is far greater than the problem and the issue that you're going through. If you were to take your life away, you would meet with Allah subhanho wa Taala. While he would be very, very upset or angry, so May Allah make it easy for us. And may Allah subhanho wa Taala help those who are going through challenges. I know, as a human being, sometimes people go through so much. A lot of it is connected to how others are making your life difficult. I know this happens, and I know sometimes people think I wish this could end. And that's how it starts. And

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after a while they start thinking well, maybe I should take my life away. Remember, that is not an option. There are other ways of resolving the matter. Be strong, be steadfast, be firm, Allah will show you a way May Allah make it easy for every one of us. I mean, so Allah subhanho wa Taala tells us thereafter that you know, I've given everyone a different level. I've given every gender different special realities. So I've also given people different amounts of material items. I've given people different amounts of various things I've chosen and I've distributed It was me. So Allah says, while at ataman, Noma football Allah who be Heba Kamala bow, don't desire don't wish for

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that which we have given others. When we have raised some above others. Allah has given someone something Allah has created different races. Allah has created different sizes, different shades of skin, on one hand, different levels of intellect different Allah has created different roles for everyone to play. So Allah says, You know what? Don't become depressed by wishing and wanting that which Allah didn't give you Subhana Allah, especially when it comes to something natural. If Allah didn't make you, for example, in a certain way, that's okay so Han Allah be happy with Allah.

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Be happy with the way Allah has made you. be okay with your hair with your looks with everything else, be fine with it. That's how Allah wanted to make you. Unless there is something absolutely abnormal, which you would be allowed to rectify and to correct don't even tamper with the creation of Allah subhanho wa Taala. So he's telling this to us in a beautiful way, you want comfort, just be happy with the way Allah has made you. You don't need to hide. You don't need to be embarrassed about your your skin tone or the type of hair you have or how Allah has made you Subhana Allah Just be happy. And this is why in Islam, we're taught to dress modestly, and not to show off what we have

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in order not to create some hurt within the hearts of those who may not have and it becomes a rat race where everyone is racing to look a certain way to be a certain way etc. When they don't realize Allah wants you to be different. May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us a deep understanding the reason I mentioned this is many people lose their comfort. Many people plunge themselves into crisis because of thoughts. Thoughts of I don't like the way my fingers are. I don't like the way my nose is I don't like the way this is that is and I'm not too happy with listen to happy with it. Be excited about the way that Allah has created you. You know what those who are genuine will love you

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for exactly who you are and how you are. May Allah subhanho wa Taala make us from among those who are always genuine. So Allah subhanho wa Taala then speaks of difficulty in marriage. And he's spoken about this in many places in the Quran, I guess it's because it happens a lot. And a reminder always helps those who believe. So Allah subhanho wa Taala tells us if you're fearing that there may be a split in the relationship of marriage, then if both of you really want to solve the problem, it is resolvable, it can be solved. The condition is both of the parties need to want to solve the problem. The intention should not be to pick on someone, the intention should not be to battle who

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was right and who was wrong. But the intention Allah says should be we want to go forward, we want to solve and resolve the matter. This intention is so noble if both parties are sincere in it, they will be able to resolve the matter. The problem is, when one party doesn't want to solve the problem, then you'll never be able to solve the problem. Although the context of this discussion is within marriage, but it applies to any conflict, people who have a situation or a conflict with others. If both parties are keen on resolving the crisis, you will achieve comfort, you will achieve solution. But if one party is not sincere, there is no chance that you will have an everlasting

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comfort or solution to your crisis or problem. So Allah subhanho wa Taala is telling us he read the law

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of fit in

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verse number 35 of Surah Nisa, Allah says, If both parties would like to resolve the matter, then definitely Allah will grant them the acceptance to solve the problem. And Allah says, be charitable, be good, be kind. Who should I be kind to listen to this verse, verse number 36. What I will do learn how Allah to Chico being a

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leader in

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worship Allah subhanho wa Taala alone. don't associate partners with him, and be kind to your parents. So the list starts with Allah. Be good in your relationship with your maker, worship Him alone. That's what Allah says, don't associate partners with him. That's the biggest sin you could commit. Allah says you want peace? You want comfort? First things first, your relationship with Allah after that, be good or kind to your parents. Notice Allah didn't say obey your parents because obedience is for Allah, your parents, if they were to tell you something within the obedience of Allah, it's okay. But some parents, they are human as well. They make mistakes, they do things that

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perhaps are not correct. Sometimes they might be abusive, they might be wrong. Allah says, you don't have to listen to them when they are wrong. But you have to be kind to them whether they are right or wrong. You have to respectfully disagree with them when they are wrong. You have to kindly excuse yourself when they're asking you to do something wrong. So Allah says, Remember to be kind to your parents. I think this is a powerful lesson because people mix obedience and kindness. Many parents say you have to obey me because Allah instructed you to obey me. That's wrong. Allah did not instruct us to obey our parents, where they are wrong.

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Where they're being unreasonable where they are being an Islamic ungodly, no, Allah says, Be kind to them smile and disagree Subhan Allah, many parents themselves have issues they need to deal with. Many parents themselves don't have a good relationship with Allah yet. So how do they expect Allah to be pleased with a child who will obey an instruction that's against the commands of Allah, Allah tells the child here, be kind to your parents, be respectful to your parents, but you don't have to be obedient when they're telling you to do something wrong. As simple as that. So the list starts with Allah. It moves on to parents, then Allah says, what we will obey then be kind to your

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relatives. Be kind to the orphans, be kind to the poor, and the needy, be kind to your neighbors, be kind to the ones who live next to you, and those who are with you next to you at all times and the wayfarer, the wayfarer, meaning a stranded person, a person on the streets, a person who has no abode, a homeless person, a person who's trying to get from point A to point B but they're stranded. Allah says, Be kind to all of these people. And Allah subhanho wa Taala says he doesn't like those who are arrogant, those who are haughty, those who are disobedient to Allah subhanho wa Taala. So remember, if we would like goodness and kindness, if we would like comfort, be kind and respectful

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to the following categories, your parents, then your relatives, even if they are nasty people, what's stopping you from being kind and respectful, even though you might keep a bit of a distance, no harm in keeping a distance, but be respectful. And then Allah says, Be kind to the orphans. Be kind to the beggars, the poor, the needy, be kind to your neighbors, make sure that you're very, very good to your neighbors. May Allah subhanho wa Taala help us and then he says, Be kind to him, you know Sabine, wayfarer, a person who's lost a homeless person. May Allah subhanho wa Taala help us develop this kindness so that we can achieve comfort akula Kali hada was Allah Allahu wa salam wa

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Baraka ala nabina, Muhammad

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