Mufti Menk – Who is the best?

Mufti Menk
AI: Summary © The importance of Islam's teachings and the importance of technology in attracting the right people at the right time for the right reasons is discussed. The speakers emphasize the importance of learning the Quran and practicing it to become the best in their life, being religious and tolerant of others, and being aware of one's roles in community. They also emphasize the importance of balance and being aware of one's roles in community, finding the right person to work with, and building friendships through technology and greedy behavior.
AI: Transcript ©
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Bismillah R Rahman r Rahim Alhamdulillah wa Salatu was Salam ala rasulillah Allah Allah He was happy ultramarine or praise is indeed due to Allah subhanho wa Taala blessings and salutations upon Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, his household his companions May Allah subhanho wa Taala bless every one of us may Allah subhanho wa Taala bless those who struggled and strove from the very beginning through the generations, to learn the goodness to put it into practice and to convey it to others, in a way that today we are seated here, in order to listen to this goodness, I mean,

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my beloved brothers and sisters,

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I am overjoyed to be with you once again, in such a beautiful environment.

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And Allah has bestowed upon us the most beautiful of whether and Allah subhanho wa Taala has indeed given us this opportunity and he will ask us about how we have used these opportunities. Before I actually go ahead with my points to ponder inshallah, I would like to make mention of what happened the last time in Ghana,

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not because I was upset, I was never upset. That is a miss notion. I was so delighted that I came back quicker than I've been back to other countries.

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I was so delighted because I had so many brothers and sisters, who were so warm and welcoming.

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And indeed, the fear at the same time was that I have a responsibility under my makeup, just like you have a responsibility unto your maker. It is the message that will last up to the end and up to qiyamah whether I carry it or someone else carries it, while it that is the choice of Allah subhanho wa Taala. So we always glorify the message of Allah subhanho wa Taala, but not necessarily the person who has brought it because unless it is Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Indeed, he is the greatest of creation, and the most noble of all prophets of Allah subhanho wa Taala. As for us, we are mere mortals we are human beings, we are equals, in fact, we may not know I may even be worse

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than all of you put together, may Allah subhanho wa Taala, grant us general freedoms. So therefore, it was my responsibility to make mention of this, when I saw so much of excitement that I felt perhaps perhaps, it is a test for me. And therefore if you notice, I cut my talk. And I made mention of this fear of mine, and I promised myself and then asked Allah, Allah, bring me back to these lovely people so that I can complete what I wanted to tell them by the will of Allah, he has brought me back.

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So this is something that I felt I needed to clarify because some brothers some sisters thought perhaps I was upset me I was not upset. Not at all. In fact, I'm super delighted again to be with you. May Allah subhanho wa Taala bless us all. I mean, my brothers and sisters, don't we want to be the best, the best of our communities the best of the Muslim in the best that the people wouldn't we like to be the best. Imagine if the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam were to tell us that such and such a person is the best of the people and we happen to fit into that description. Would it not be an honor Subhan Allah. So I'd like to spend the next 45 minutes talking about who Muhammad

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sallallahu alayhi wa sallam has described would be the best so many times in the Hadith, he says, or he says Cairo nursey he says the best from amongst you. And then he gives a description. And then sometimes he says the best of the people and when he gives a description, did you know that a lot of this is connected to your relationship with the rest of the creatures of Allah subhanho wa Taala when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam speaks about the best of you, a lot of the times, it is connected somehow to how you have benefited the other people who also exist on the earth because my brothers and sisters do not forget that he who made you has not only made you, but he has an entire

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creation that he has made together with you for a purpose and for a reason. You need to understand that reason. When Allah made me he did not make me alone. I should not be selfish. I'm not the only one on Earth. I'm not

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The only person in Ghana for example, there are people, many more people, perhaps better people than myself who exists, I need to treat them fairly because they belong to the same maker, remember, Muslim, are not Muslim, they are creatures of the same law. Remember, human beings are animals, they are the creatures of the same Allah. Remember, animals or the environment, including the plants and the trees and so on the rivers, the water, all of that is created by the same Allah you have duties to fulfill, and to all this creation of Allah subhanho wa Taala. The one who fulfills that duty in the best possible way shall indeed be the best person may Allah to Allah grant us goodness, but

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today I wish to go into a few more details. The first idea that I'm going to speak about is where the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in this hadith in Sahih al Bukhari, he tells us how you come into a lemon or Anwar Lama,

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the best from amongst you, is he or she, who learns the word of Allah subhanho wa Taala.

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And teaches it to others. This includes all aspects of learning why because it is the word of Allah, Allah made you together with you, he sent a manual, he sent a book, that book will guide you as to what Allah wants from you, and how you need to live and where you will go if you live your life, as per the plan of Allah subhanho wa Taala. So if you don't read that book, you will know Subhana Allah, this morning, we had a beautiful program on the television. And my colleague had actually made mention of a powerful point regarding the Quran. You know, when a person has a sickness, or an illness or a cough, etc, what happens, he will go to the specialist, and the doctor will write the

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prescription, he will then take that prescription to the pharmacy from where he will collect the medication. And you find that he will put that medication in his pocket and antibiotic, for example, put it in his pocket, and it did not take it. He did not administer it. If that's the case, what happens? So Panama simple, he won't get better. But where is the medication with him on his person in his pocket? Did it help him no zero who was foolish, he was very foolish. The solution to your problem is in your pocket, but you did not take it out and use it the way you were supposed to do it. The same applies to all of us. We are living on Earth, it's a challenge the solution to all our

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problems and the path of entry into paradise is actually sapan Allah the Quran, the Quran, the word of the same Allah who owns us, He created us, He is the owner of Paradise, we are going to return to him. He's given us the solution. Many of us that solution

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is packed away on the shelf at home, we barely read

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the ceremony.

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In surah, Allah says, the book that we have revealed

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a blessing book that we have revealed, referring to the Quran. What was the purpose of revelation? Allah says Lee does it for them to ponder over, it's versus deeply to reflect over the verses of the Quran in a deep way. That is why Allah revealed that he did not reveal it so that you can pack it away on the shelf and perhaps pick it up. Every time something happens and you read a few verses without any form of understanding, put it away and you have not felt in your heart that you need to do something to understand the word of Allah. Don't get me wrong. I am not saying that the recitation without understanding is not important. It is very important.

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reciting the Quran even if you have not understood it is absolutely important. It is still our it is the word of Allah. But equally important is to want to understand that word, and to make an effort to go out and to listen today. We become lazy. We don't want to read we are no longer May Allah forgive us. We are no longer a nation that loves to read as those before us.

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So what has happened, Allah says

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I make it easy for you. Now, you can listen to it. In what way, when you can turn on the television or you can listen to an audio, you can listen to the radio, or you can google it on your phone, as simple as that. You have it on your phone. But still with that phone, we don't make an effort doing, we would listen to everything that would lead us away from gentlemen. But when it comes to leading us towards paradise, do we actually use our phone every day in a way that it would draw us closer to paradise? If the answer is no, brothers and sisters do something about it, do something about it, let's improve, myself included, we need to improve, we need to make sure we use technology in order

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to develop a link with our maker that is far stronger than it was. So the four iron is in our phones, I want to ask you a question. And I want you to raise your hands displaying the answer. The question is, how many of you in your phones, you have an application where the arm is it put up your hand? You have an app on your phone that has the most

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put up your hands?

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Almost everyone can you see that? Mashallah. Now, I don't want to ask you how many use it every day, just like you use WhatsApp. No, I don't want to say that. But what I want to tell you is ask yourself, What is more important to you Facebook, or that other app? Snapchat or that other app?

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Instagram or that other app? Twitter or that other app? What app or that app? Which app?

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We need to ask yourself so panela

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I say it again? What app or that app? Which app? May Allah subhanho wa Taala help us to answer it. I think it's okay to use WhatsApp obviously in order to communicate with the right people at the right time for the right reasons. Yes, it's okay. No harm, no problem. But at least spend some time during your day becoming Pharaoh command Allah, Allah, Allah, and it is on your phone. Subhana Allah, the best time amongst you are those who will learn the Quran and put it into practice conveyed to others. And it's on your phone. As simple as that. Pick it up, read one verse, listen to each presentation, read the meaning of it, and you have understood it, talk about it that day, to your

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family and to others. The problem was us when we get on to the table to eat, if we are fortunate to have the meal together as a family, and I very strongly promote that we must have at least one meal as a family every single day by the will of Allah subhanho wa Taala go and check it out. No matter how old you are. No matter where you work, no matter how important you are. Back at home, you are just a member of the family. You need to make time for your family, for your children, for your spouse, for your parents, you need to make time I promise you, those who have the meal together and pray together they shall remain together by the will of Allah subhanho wa Taala A lot of us have

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lost the importance of this. So my brothers and sisters, if we are fortunate to have that meal together, talk about the verse that you read on that day, to your children to your family members. Let them all talk about verses that they read on that particular day. It will make a very, very interesting meeting and Subhanallah if you were to die on that day, imagine the angels have already written that this person spent part of his day reading the Word of Allah He spoke to his children about one verse, do you think it's going to be a bad day the last day of yours cannot be a bad day because you are used to doing something regularly. Emily Medina Allah

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the best of deeds are those that are done regularly, even if they are a little even if it's a small amount. So Subhanallah there are so many aspects that I can speak about when it comes to the Koran and learning it and teaching it to others. But I have said very little and I will stop at that inshallah I will continue to the next point, the point being raised, you will become the best if you learn what Allah wants from you. And you tell others what Allah wants from us. That is when you become the best. And Allah subhanho wa Taala His Word is so beautiful it has in it a proper balance in the way that if you were to learn it, it would show in your character. If you are to learn the

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Quran, you become soft, you don't become hard. It is shown in the way you talk to people that this person is definitely mean analytical and he's the person who has the power and in his heart, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was the greatest when I shall be alone and I was asked about

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His character, she simply said, Can I follow COVID on his character was the Quran embodied in one man Subhana Allah, whatever the Quran has taught, he had it in Him. May Allah subhanho wa Taala make us from those who are lenient. Sometimes people think when you are religious, you are harsh. In fact, it is the opposite. When you are religious and pious, you become tolerant of people, you become respectful of others, you actually want for them the goodness and you reach out to them in the most beautiful manner. Why? Because you have recognized Allah subhanho wa Taala and you recognize that the others are also the creatures of Allah subhanho wa Taala. We move on to the

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second Hadith, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam also a narration of Al Bukhari, he says, he has seen

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the best from amongst you are those who have best character I just spoke moments ago about the character being the origin. Here it is mentioned by Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam. Have you noticed he didn't say that the best amongst you, those who read one hole or on every day, and those who stand in voluntary prayer all night, and those who perhaps fast every other day, he did not say those are the basic, some of these deeds? Yes, they are good within certain limits, if they are done with the right intentions, and within the correct limitations. Yes. But remember, those deeds can be taken away from you. If your character is bad, you backbite about this one, you cheated. This one,

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you spoke harshly to that one, you hurt the heart of the other one. And you did not even think about what you were saying in terms of slander about the fourth one, what will happen your good deeds go on the day of judgment to those people whom you have wronged until they have dispersed when there's no more good deeds, the bad deeds of the people you have wronged will then come onto your shoulders would we like that? No, we would not. Therefore, be careful when you do good deeds. It will show in your character because your character will be so beautiful, you are scared to lose those good deeds to the people you may have wrong with your bad character.

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So I call on myself to begin with. And then every one of us. Let's improve our character and conduct the way we speak to people, the way we talk the way we interact, what we say about others, I promise you more than half if not 90% of our problems would be resolved if we only spoke good about others behind their backs. Imagine Subhanallah

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your mother in law Mashallah. The only thing you said about her good things behind her back? Mashallah your daughter in law Subhana Allah, the only thing you said about her was that which was good behind her back. The problem was us behind the back we say the worst things. In fact, he

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we have the bravest smile. What is that smile? May Allah subhanho wa Taala Forgive us, we need to change that be genuine be a legitimate person who has a good feeling. So Pamela

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I know I've given the example of in laws, but it always goes back to the term law. We don't know why it's there. To this day, no one has explained to me why the term law is used when it comes to marriage.

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But perhaps I heard it once someone says you know, when you're a father, you become a father in law. Subhana Allah, when you're a son, you become a son in law, when you're a daughter, you become a daughter in law. When you're a mother, you become a mother in law. When you're a wife, what do you become?

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You are the law, right? So this is something that I'm sure you may have heard me say in the past, right? So that means you guys are quite well cued up. May Allah subhanho wa Taala. Grant us ease. But that's the only explanation I've ever heard. Obviously, it was just on a lighter note, don't take it serious, because the law belongs to Allah subhanho wa Taala. And may Allah Subhana, Allah grant us forgiveness, the point being raised, speak good about others behind their backs. Be kind to people reach out to them in goodness, don't make life difficult for someone. Ask yourself, if you want to be the best of people, in your own family, and in your community and in your nation, while

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he asked yourself,

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Am I the source of difficulty for others? Have I made anyone else's life difficult? Starting with those I live with? What am I doing to make life easy for others? If you can answer the questions correctly, you are successful, if you answer them wrongly or if you have a wrong answer, and that is the answer. In that case, you need to improve what am I doing to make life easy for those whom I interact with? for my family members, for my children, those who want to get married? What am I doing?

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To facilitate for them, many people have told me, I cannot wait for my father to die.

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And I am shocked. I say why? Nine times out of 10. You know what? He's just disagreeing with whom I want to marry. And I think to myself, I wish there was better communication. And I wish the fathers were not stumbled. Because my beloved fathers and mothers, we all have dreams for our children. Remember, those dreams need to be adjusted within limits, from time to time, based on reality on the ground, you cannot have an idealistic approach in a real world where it's in a couple of times. Now, Allah subhanho wa Taala. Grant us goodness, I hope you've understood this beautiful encouragement. If your character is bad in your own home, you will have children cursing you and you will be

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cursing one another. That brings me to a point my beloved parents never ever curse your children no matter what. I know people who curse their children because they are dark in complexion. I know people who curse their children because they did not achieve results at school. And I know that some of the richest from amongst you have hardly done well at school.

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Is that not correct?

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Correct. I had quite a few yeses here. I can actually give you examples by name. May Allah Subhana. Allah Allah grant us all goodness, it goes to show one day a young man asked me he said, How can that leech man only has great seven. And I said it is for Allah to show us that wealth has nothing to do with your brain, rather than it has to do with Allah gift whether you have that or not. Some have, yes, they have excelled and still achieve, still become wealthy, but some without excelling at school. They became rich. I know a man who qualified as a doctor, he gave up medicine because he became a businessman. When he saw that one or two winnings and dealings made them richer than him.

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He thought to himself what I worked, and I had a chat with him. I said, my brother, you have a blessing of Allah, you are helping people as well keep on helping the people with this beautiful field that you have taken so much of time to study. You know what he told me? He was very intelligent. He says, well, Allah has given me money, I will pay them to go to the hospital to visit another doctor.

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Imagine when a man wants to run behind it, he will run behind it and he will give you any excuse. Let's get back to what we were saying. Speaking about the best from amongst us, we spoke about character and conduct. Then the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says and this is another narration in Sahih al Bukhari Cairo Come on, come on, you know what that means, the best from amongst you are those who are based in retaining wealth or money after you have borrowed you return it timelessly, you are the best. So panela I have borrowed some money from someone and I gave them back, but I made them seem for that money, I made them sweat for it, I made them run after me for

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months on end, can I be considered the best No, you borrowed money the man gave you a month to pay you paid it and Subhanallah there is another part of the explanation and that is

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if without any conditions at all. You know if I make a previous condition it becomes known as Rita Rita means interest, I say I give you 1000 give me 1100 after one month that 100 is known as Riba and Allah subhanho wa Taala says,

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Allah has made dealing permissible, but Allah has prohibited usually an interest. So interest is not allowed. But without any conditions. If a man gives you 1000 and you have then given him back the 1000, and together with that you've given him something without any conditions just because of your delight, your happiness, whatever else that is also part and parcel of this narration, it is permissible and it is meritorious, it is something that you will be rewarded for, but he did not expect it. And it was not part of the norm in the community. These are some conditions we need to know. But the moral of it the most important part of it is please return what you've taken from

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others to them in a good way timely, you need to make sure that you have given what is theirs back to them. May Allah subhanho wa Taala make us from among the best.

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Then we have a beautiful Hadith or insight he had given me money. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says, Hey look, man, you're

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the best from amongst you are those who their goodness is expected and we are all protected from the evil from the evil you know what this means? You see a person and you know in your heart that you know what we expect only good from this man. We don't expect to be harmed from this person. If you have that strong feeling

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with him, you and that person is indeed a good person. You follow me? So the question I want to ask myself in yourself, when people see you, no matter who they are, no matter who they are, do they look at you and think to themselves, I expect only goodness from this sister or this brother? Is that what they think? If that is what they think, Mashallah you have achieved a lot, you are becoming one of the best. If the people can say this person will never harm me. If that's the case, you are one of the best because today, my brothers and sisters, we will all agree that your best friend is no longer the one who helps you, but is the one who does not harm you.

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Do you not agree? There was a time when people used to say, you know, my best friend helps me here and does this for me that for me, I think good, a good person, let's say a good person. A good person is he or she who does not harm others, if you cannot benefit them, at least don't harm them. Like I always say, the older man who struggled and who strive to help the oma and they perhaps benefit us in so many different ways. One small thing and we start speaking bad about them bad mouthing them in such a bad way that sometimes the matter is not even true. And they have only helped us What did they do to harm you? What did the man do to harm you? You are talking bad about

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him today say something good, he did not harm you. Same applies when we meet people and they are glad to meet us they know that only goodness will come from this person and we we will be saved from any harm, they will never harm us. In that particular case. We have become the best. Then the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says and this is a very powerful narration, I'm sure we all know it by heart. So you can Cairo calmly Lee to words repeated. And the last word is connected to your spouse, the best from amongst you, is the best from amongst you to his spouse. Subhana Allah.

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You know the term here, it refers yes to your wife, but by extension, it refers to your family. How many of us are best to our family, my beloved brothers, I want to take a moment to address you. And I know the sisters also would benefit from it. But my beloved brothers how many of us are guilty of being nice to the women of the world to show them what we have to reach out to them without reaching out to the women whom Allah has blessed us with in our own home. So we turn around and we don't even appreciate our wives. We look at them. We look at our children, our wives our family members, we don't commend them or pass a good comment or at least say You know what? I think you look gorgeous.

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I think you're good Mashallah, you're dressed so well Mashallah. you're smelling good. What's this Pamela?

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Or smile at them? But for the others what do we do Subhanallah you go to work first thing who You look lovely, who's that? Someone who doesn't perhaps even look that lovely? But it gave you a kick because chiffon was there spoiling you from being a locum if you did it at home you became a locum and if you did it where you will not suppose to do it, you might just become a locum it might become the worst.

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So go out of your way to appreciate the people you live with your family members, they need reassurance. I remember once there was a brother who told me you know, I cannot commend my wife on her smell because every time I go home, she's smelling of onions and food and that which is cooked and all and so on. So how do you want me to tell her you are smelling good?

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Do you know what happened? I told him brother in that case you tell her

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I'm sure you have cooked such a delicious meal because you are a brilliant cook

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Subhanallah you need to appreciate why she may be smelling of food she's been in the kitchen preparing food for

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for the neighbor know for you somehow Allah so if you really want to admire that, get a cook or get food from outside and tell her listen my love here I've got you the best perfume from wherever and you may apply this we are not going to be cooking From this day on in this kitchen seal it we are buying food from outside we're getting a cook and he will come or she will come and cook so that I can actually praise you every day regarding the smell. So panela we need to understand the balance.

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Obviously my beloved sisters you cannot use my statement in order to oppress your with your men. So Pamela I need to balance this

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Because we have to be kind to one another, it's a balance. So what I am saying is, yes, we acknowledge one another. And we must know that the roles being fulfilled are extremely important. Sometimes and I always like to preach this. You know, my, my family tells me

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that yes, you have said it, we want to see you do it. You know what I say once in a while you need to cook.

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In Ghana, the men will say, What are you crazy? Cookie? Allah He my brother, even if the only thing you know how to make his eggs, make it some Anima. Once in a while cook, I promise you show an interest in it no matter who you are. I've tried to do it myself. And guess what? My eggs are not that bad. hamdulillah.

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My brothers and sisters, it's important we're talking about the best of you being the best character being the best to your spouse. Think of what to do to make your family happy.

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Think of it. And that is when you will be successful when the family is happy community will be happy. Why should we fall in the trap of the devil making us praise the people who Subhanallah are not deserving of our own praise more than our spouse, you might want to commend someone else after you have commended those whose you made to begin with Subhanallah what's happening in society, I commend someone else's wife and someone is commending my wife. So nothing is going right. Then I want to blame people for having an affair when she's not getting any attention from anyone besides a stranger. But my brothers and sisters, be careful. Be careful. Be careful of

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technology, use it correctly. Use it to educate yourself. Don't use it to break your homes. Don't use it in a way that you know you have fallen prey to the devil and his plan for then we cannot be calling ourselves the best. Your relationships online are very, very serious. Remember, a lot of those who might pretend to be a female may actually be a male. A lot of those who pretend to be someone. They are just people to trap you. I recall one day, a certain brother told me how much money he has donated to me online.

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And I told him I didn't collect any money online. He says but I've been chatting with you on Facebook. I says I don't chat on Facebook. But who is it? I said Hang on, you need to know who you are dealing with. If you search my name, they might be 100 profiles with the same name. But if you see the one that is verified, it has a blue tick next to it. Yes, you know, you are talking to me. And in that case, perhaps you won't even find the response because of the time I will be speaking to the people of Ghana rather than spending my time you know chatting to say hello and how are you to so many people on the globe. Personally one on one it is impossible.

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So you need to be intelligent. People have lost their money online. People have lost their marriages online. People have lost their lives online. May Allah subhanho wa Taala Forgive us, strengthen yourself, develop your character, your conduct, and like I said you'd rather spend that time at home One more thing I want to mention regarding this point, before we move to the next brothers and sisters, when you are at home and you have a meal you are having a meal, put your phone away. Put your phone away. I challenge you. I challenge all of you and the challenge is for myself. When you are at home having a meal with your family. Put the phone away if it means for 10 1520 minutes how

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many of us were on the table next to us? Is the phone fair enough if it is turned off or silent, but every little while we are speaking on the phone? It is an anticlimax, trust me, your children, they are maltreated you are usurping from their time and their rights. It is the right of the children that you spend time with them. You teach them table manners. How is that going to happen when you yourself have spoken on the phone throughout the meal every meal, if at all. You've had the meal with them. A lot of us are delayed. We are busy on our phones. They're waiting for us for the meal, please come to eat. Whether it's dad or mom or whoever. We don't go. They call us again. Then they

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all are sitting and eating and we are still not gone. And then they finish eating and after that. We decide hey, what happened food. You guys didn't wait for me. We called you 30 times and 30 times you just sit Yes, yes. Yes. We don't know whether you were saying yes to what? One of the times we told you you're stupid. You said yes. Allah subhanho wa Taala forgive us.

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See, we don't even know what's being said sometimes. So my

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Brothers and sisters let's remember the best from amongst those who are best to their family.

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Is there a contradiction between all of these? The answer is no. When you've learned that you have the best character you will have the best character you will be the best to your family members, etc. Let's move to another one.

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Yo come on up ama ama, what are the Salama? The best form amongst you? And all this is part of good character. Those who feed food and those who respond to the salon, someone says Assalamu alaikum when you just look away gone.

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When you are greeted with a greeting, respond with a better greeting or at least reply it equally someone says a Salam aleikum, you should be saying why don't you come As salam o Allah to Allah

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Subhana Allah many of us people greet us Salam Alaikum and you look at them like, What do you want? What do you want? No, just feedback. You get 30 rewards when you get back the full greeting. So Pamela, it's amazing. And people take this for granted. It is such a powerful gift from Allah subhanho wa Taala. The Hadith says Allah do lucam Allah

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should I not show you that which if you will, to fulfill it, it will increase the love among you.

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simple, spread the salon, among you and between you. I greet you Assalamu alaikum it means peace be upon you. It also means I will not harm you. If you don't harm someone, you will increase the love. It all goes back to the same thing you see Subhana Allah. So when we greet people, let us be genuine.

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And this is why the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says, feed the people feed the poor, take out from what you have been given the voluntary and give in the cause of Allah feed people reach out to the poor, reach out to your neighbors, reach out to those who don't have what you have. And you will find that you become the best person look at the unsolved. Those of Madina, munawwara Allah,

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Allah subhanho wa Taala speaks about one of the qualities he says, while you

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they used to give preference to others over themselves, even if they needed desperately that which they were giving away. That was a quality that Allah love. How many of us, we love something? We want it we need it. And then we give it away? How many do that? Very few of us, very few of us. Well, I tell you if you can do that, then you have arrived at another level. You have arrived at a beautiful level of faith and conviction and purity and goodness. May Allah subhanho wa Taala keep a steadfast so remember to share and when I spoke about responding the Salaam Salaam when you are greeted reply, but I want to tell you how you come. Oh, man, yep, that will be Salah. The best from

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amongst the people is He who starts with the setup. You know, there are two people you're working. And you're telling yourself well, I'll get back if he greets. And you know what I agreed that if she greets Well, the winner is He Who greets first so you are in a competition. You need to make sure you greet first salaam aleikum. Mashallah I said it before you such that sometimes maybe the two of you might see a ceremony come together. And as a result, you might both say well, a comma Salam also together, well, that shows that you will grow. And sometimes in the competition, there are two people who ran 100 meters in eight seconds.

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Well, I don't know of eight seconds because even Usain Bolt did not do that. But say for example, one delete in eight seconds and the other one exactly the same. Both of them will have the metal SubhanAllah. The same applies this alarm and the Salaam is far more important than the Olympic gold medal. Trust me. Allah is not going to ask you, you ran 100 meters how quickly the urine? No, no, that's for your own joy and happiness maybe in the dunya. But Allah will ask you you greeted first Well, you deserve a greater reward. This one greeted you. You did not reply. Why? May Allah subhanho wa Taala help us and guide us. Then we have

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a beautiful Hadith where the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says

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uh ya know, comaneci Allah, the best from amongst you

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Those who have the softest shoulders in Salah. What does that mean? It means an explanation right? Okay let me explain to you when we stand in the masjid especially the men, when we stand in the masjid, you know what happens? We come early, we find the nice place and we are sitting near the front and we have our space designed out for us and there is a lot of place Mashallah. Suddenly the mustard starts becoming full. And then people start coming and they want to sit next to you. This happens in the Haram in Makkah, it happens in the Haram in Medina, it happens in the Maasai Donna Juma, it happens in so many different houses of Allah subhanho wa Taala, where we come early, we

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feel entitled to the place that we are sitting in, and we feel so bad when someone comes late, and they want to push him between ourselves and the one who was seated next to us not realizing that the Hadith says the best from amongst you are those who have soft shoulders, they make space for the others will come later in Salah make space for them. You make space because Subhana Allah I tell you something interesting. You know, the first sub in the front is such that the reward of being in that stuff for the men is so so great. The Hadith says wonder we

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that he was suffering.

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If the people knew the reward that was in calling the other end will be in the first stuff. If they had no other way of doing that. Besides drawing lots, they would have grown a lot to say right let's put all our names in the hat. Let's see who is going to call out the advance from amongst us we all want to do it. Let's see who is going to be in the first stuff. So Pamela, such a great reward. So if you are to help others to come then you will be a person who gets a double reward One for you and one for facilitating for someone else did you see now because in Islam, when you help someone to do a good deed, you get the reward of the good deed right? At that no other Hadith about me, the one

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who shows someone the good deed gets a reward equal to the dual of the deed.

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Similarly, if you have had someone do good, you will definitely get that reward when the first stuff is so rewarding, you will get the double reward by the will of Allah subhanho wa Taala so this is the meaning from today on from today on inshallah, every time someone wants to push into the center, we will make space but do not be from amongst those who push others and create such a disaster in the so forth, you must come early to get the full reward by the word of Allah subhanho wa Taala remember that may Allah make it easy for us the same applies if you are sitting in a lecture or you are courteous. I'd like to take it further to being courteous even on the roads and that would fall

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under the narration good character good conduct of the road many of us are selfish we want to go we don't want anyone else to go let him go as well once in a while and don't be so so kind that you turn off your engine and the people behind you now there right of movie is now you serve no you let one or two vehicles go and then you carry on with someone else let another one or two vehicles go and then you carry on apply common sense and inshallah you will end the pleasure of Allah subhanho wa Taala then and I'd like to perhaps end by two of the hadith of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam one says Pharaoh nursey and found leanness I can never ever script this idea. The best time

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amongst you are those who are most beneficial to the rest of mankind. The Hadith says haleness not even from amongst you, the best of people are those who benefit the rest of the people in the biggest way. Notice this includes Muslims, non Muslims, those who agree with those who you do not agree with your friends, your enemies, if you are the most beneficial to them, you are the best. So the best of mankind, those who are the best to the rest of mankind, that simple. So, again, ask yourself, Am I really beneficial to everyone if you are good news to you?

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This includes like I said, the non Muslims, because definitely when they see the character and conduct of a Muslim, the minimum is they will recognize the value of this beautiful heavenly religion. It's not be from among those who cheat and deceive bad mouth we say bad words, vulgar words, a swear word is never meant to be uttered by the mouth of he or she who reads the Shahada.

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You say a shadow Allah ilaha illa Allah and the same tongue wants to swear a bad word vulgar words.

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Whoa, in our homes with our own spouses and children, how can that be with those who work for us? Those who are employed by us we think because we are paying them a salary, we are entitled to abuse them. No, you will be the best if you actually help those whom you haven't played to do the job that you have tasked them to do, that's when you become the best. May Allah subhanho wa Taala guide us in the right direction. The final duration I'd like to make mention of although there are several other narrations, but I see that perhaps we are running out of time. The reason why I'm overshooting the time, remember, last year we cut it, so this year, we will lengthen it inshallah.

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So we are doing Kabbalah in October of last year inshallah. So the Hadith says, crayon as hobby in the line is a complete sahibi Waheguru

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Giovanni de la de two types of people, the best companion is He who is most beneficial to his companion, two of you are traveling together, which one of you benefits the other more is the better person, a group of you are traveling together? Who is the one who benefits the most. That is the one who is the best. You are studying together, you are working together, you're going to the ministry together, you have a friend, the companion, who is the most beneficial

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to that particular friendship is the best time amongst them. Remember that? So ask yourself, from my group of friends from my group of people from those I interact with, who is the most beneficial, who benefits everyone the most? Let it be mean and imagine if everyone is competing to be the best? What type of allies would you leave? So beautiful so good, Mashallah. And the best neighbor? So,

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the best neighbor? is he who is most beneficial to his neighbor from all the neighbors, you ask yourself, How am I treating my neighbors? You know, it is reported in one of the narrations that one of the neighbors of Lima Campbell, who was not even a Muslim. When he put his house for sale. The general going price was a certain amount and I forget the amount he decided to put the house for sale for double the price. And the people asked him how come you are charging double the price he says you know what? Half of it is for the house and the other half is actually for the neighborhood. The neighbor is this man such a great man. So you need to pay double the price of Allah. All I'm

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showing you is the value of a good neighbor. Because those of you who have bad neighbors, I'm sure you know how detrimental it is. And you know how dangerous it is and you know how bad it feels. So be the best of neighbors and Allah subhanho wa Taala will indeed open your doors. My brothers and sisters, we've spoken about brilliant character conduct we've spoken about others and reaching out to others notice all these are howdy of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, they are connected to others. Starting with the one where it says the best from amongst you those who learn the Quran. It didn't stop there. It says it teaches it to others if you stop there, you don't qualify.

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Any region you teach it to others in the most beautiful way. May Allah subhanho wa Taala bless us all. And may Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us goodness May Allah bless your nation May Allah subhanho wa Taala Bless you, your families and May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us ease in the dunya and the AFA. I look forward inshallah to the next few days. Tomorrow inshallah, in this in Kumasi and the following day in tamale Have I got the right time Allah Masha Allah, may Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us genital Fritos. And Allah subhanho wa Taala forgive our shortcomings. I end by reminding you with one small reminder

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what we heard today, I will be asked about it on the Day of Judgment. And so will you. You will be asked you heard the message or you deliver the message.

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How did you react to that message? Did you just say Wow, it was a good talk. You know, we had some brilliant things and that's it and you continue to lead your life as you wished or didn't change you. Did you promise I'm going to become a better person.

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Do we promise that inshallah we will improve ourselves? inshallah

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was not loud enough we can try again do we promise that inshallah we will change ourselves for the better

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Mashallah, we heard that and I hope that that is definitely for the sake of Allah subhanho wa Taala fulfill that promise? Don't be from among those who say inshallah, but they don't mean yes. You know, when some people say inshallah they mean No, you say brother, will you come to my house?

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Initial. When you hear that it means no I won't.

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But if they say inshallah, that means yes, I will come and they give you a time two o'clock tomorrow I see you, that means that inshallah is legitimate. So we change not from tomorrow morning from now, as we get up be considerate of the others while you are driving out while you're walking out it will take some time to do things don't worry take that time the night is young. The weather is absolutely beautiful Mashallah. It says though we have some free air conditioning, we thank Allah subhanho wa Taala for this and we ask Allah to bless us all aku Cody hada Allahu wa salam wa barik ala nabina Muhammad Subhana Allah Allah.

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Allah Allah, Allah

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Public lecture delivered in Accra, Ghana during the Points to Ponder Tour. Do you wish to know whom Allah loves? Why does He love such persons? Do you want to know if you are in that elite group? Or do you require some special impossible to obtain ‘passcard’ to enter this group or could it really be simpler than pulling all the strings attached to all your networks?

The answers to these questions and more are within this talk of  Mufti Menk wherein with references to sahih hadiths, the mufti  identifies 8 steps to become the best, a state every Muslim desires.

Listen to this talk to discover how you and your loved ones can seek and be the Best in Allah’s sight. And pay close attention to the Mufti’s closing statement. It is conveys an important message to all of us.

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