The Desease Of Denial

Mohammed Faqih

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What's up y'all go city Wild

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Wild

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West Should I

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do what I do

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what's

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up

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we'll see

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we'll see you

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soon

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yeah

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yeah

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in

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yeah

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one guru

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yeah

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Tacoma

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Tacoma

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Hello

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once again Mr.

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Lucey material

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what we have is noticing

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what he

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knows

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Hello.

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We had the seven

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the higher

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ed.

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Well

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where are we?

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Well

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hello

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Phil Juma

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have you

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as somebody

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affiliate

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with that see

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how

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at&t

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Do you have an open Allah

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Oh Allah

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Well

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hello

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what is

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still company

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Hello

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villamartin

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hollyfield

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yo, yo,

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yo, boo,

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boo.

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Well,

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wait a second.

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We agreed to do that

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police city, what do you

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do?

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What do you do?

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Hello

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alojamento

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who would like to think everything

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will be done to be completely paid

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this route hopefully

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I didn't have

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enough know ourselves

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even more

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men than

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women.

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And there are secrets to form.

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What's

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up

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what you think

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about

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the movie

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for the woman who

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will occur in Las

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Vegas, Nevada.

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We're approaching the end of the year. Many people arrive

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they come up with what they call

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What do they call

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resolutions,

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changes and revise that was taking place.

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Many people

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try to adopt

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new ways of doing things and dealing with matters in their lives.

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Some people

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consider

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improving

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their relationships.

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Others consider

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improving their health

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and watching their diet

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and losing weight.

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Others decided promise

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to have better management of their minds and their time and their finance.

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These are just some of the examples. So

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I don't think

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some might be reviewing their policies, their foreign policies

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to deal with their family

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at all

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From the role of the individual all the way to the President, everybody is reviewing their policies

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and their programs.

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However,

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there is one disease.

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To talk about today before I talk

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about changes

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and improving

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our lives and improving our behavior. There's one disease,

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a disease

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that you only find among human beings,

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a disease

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that almost every single one of us

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falls into, or is guilty of, or at least is susceptible to

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a disease that comes in the form

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of a defense mechanism

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is a disease

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that stands between you and change. positive change

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is a disease that stands before you

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and blocks you or stops you

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from adopting positive change and improving your life.

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There a change then of improvement,

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then we have progress.

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In almost every single one of us falls

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or falls victim to it.

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Across a heavy

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recommends

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a prayer simplification called the master of

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seeking forgiveness, the master of which you seek forgiveness, and forgiveness

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is a prayer and its application thought was wrong. So

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it is recommended that you decide every day that every night

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at least once during the day during the morning. It wasn't that

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many of us memorize. Aloma Don't be

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that.

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My Lord.

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You have there's no deity worthy to be worshipped. But you and you created me while you're sleep.

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While

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still,

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I'm still committed

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to companies.

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And I promise to the best of my ability.

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I admit it, I recognize and acknowledge your failure is upon me.

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Your frame is upon me.

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At the same time, I confess my sins.

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And I acknowledge

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I'm not deserving of those fingers.

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But you are deserving

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of generosity and kindness.

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That's what you're saying.

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When you confess the loss and handle that well without the facilities, so forgive me for in the lab

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for no one other than you forgives sins.

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Every day

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I came across this

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as I was preparing my thoughts, and my colleagues

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for my football to talk about how do we approach the end of the year and how we improve and change. And then I said you know what? This heading addresses that disease. So let me talk about it before I talk about anything else.

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The disease that this study

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addresses and talks about

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in addition to the diseases and other things

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is a disease of denial

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denial

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denial,

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which is a psychological process in which human beings

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try, they attempt by altering and distorting reality.

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They attempt

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to protect themselves

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and defend themselves from any threats or

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threats that come

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and make them

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lose control, advise,

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or throw them out of balance, or 13, one of their basic human needs, anytime they are confronted with one of those

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threatening events

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or behaviors,

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they immediately resort to denial.

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This, setting the ground

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and allow themselves to fall victims for many kinds of problems, including addiction.

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They become addicted to become obsessed.

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And they suffer miserable failures in their lives because of this problem, denial.

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You see, denial is the first

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of those event, defense mechanisms

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that human beings resorption.

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And you can only find this amongst human beings.

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Animals don't have to do

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maybe

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when you're burying your head in the sand,

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pretending or trying to convince yourself that your problems don't exist.

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Or

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when you blame your problems on other people, and other external factors, it has nothing to do with you, your shortcomings or

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your deficiencies. No.

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It is rather someone else or some other factors, circumstances.

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And people suffer of this

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at all.

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But in many cases, brothers and sisters, because they rely on not only do they suffer for those who are suffering.

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And sometimes nations

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suffer because of the denial that one person lives.

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So in this heading,

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the promise of the law is that teaches us

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dry English. The first thing that you do is you confess, you admit your knowledge and you get rid of your denial.

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You don't deny you recognize reality for what it is.

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You see people suffering

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when they for example, deny problems

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or blame their problems in their relationship to others.

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Or financially speaking,

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there's nothing wrong.

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It's not

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someone else's

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system.

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health wise, many people suffer for years before they are willing. Before they have the courage to confront themselves and say you know what, I need to put an end to it.

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Why

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would I have the solution

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within my reach?

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People do the same thing to us.

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Your children might be suffering, suffocating spiritual

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crisis.

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This is how it is.

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their spouses might be suffering.

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And they might be falling in a state of despair. They don't even talk about it anymore because they talk about it

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will just be a problem. So you know what? Say you don't even talk about it.

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They continue to suffer for years. And then at the end, under pressure, they slow

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it all at the same time.

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Everything comes crumbling for you at the same time. Why? Because you've been in denial for years.

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Imagine wise

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people

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who might be responsible for in charge of other people

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live in denial, causing suffering and pain to those who are under the leadership.

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So just have the

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teacher do that the first thing that you need to do

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is confess, get rid of

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recognize, have the courage. You see brothers and sisters, someone might ask, what are the causes? Many, as I said, it's a natural defense mechanism.

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But it has cognitive components.

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It has behavioral components to it.

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It's a character flaw for someone to continue

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living in denial.

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Despite the suffering that he feels, or the suffering of others.

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It is a character flaw.

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It might be because of arrogance is some people sometimes think that. How can I?

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How can I be so bad?

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It's not me, it's some other people.

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There's nothing wrong with me. And arrogance

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is a disease in itself. That requires

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a speech of its own.

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The interests that are aware,

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there are very easy on the side that they don't know.

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Good to be brothers and sisters,

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lack of

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lack of courage.

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People don't have the courage to confront

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their problems, their challenges, their deficiencies and their shortcomings. So as a lot of you have

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the power and the strength and the courage to confront the shortcomings

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and our problems and our deficiencies and help us overcome them

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as the loss of

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powers to inspire us and make us a little

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that alone some kind of guy that calls upon.

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He would be children of Adam,

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so long as you call upon me and asked of me.

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I shall forgive you for what you have done.

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And I shall not

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have a son

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or child.

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What are your sins to reach the clouds

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of the sky?

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And wherever you went to ask forgiveness of me.

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I will forgive you.

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This is a promise from the laws of habit.

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This is a deal. This is an opportunity for those people who recognize this as an opportunity

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to see

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senses head

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during the day, for the spirit of the night.

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And he extended his hands during the night for the center and the offender of the day to retention

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unite is

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to protect ourselves from citizens to the best of our capacity. However, no matter how much we try to fold into cities,

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without it tells us as people forgiveness,

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tried to stop sending, you won't be able to

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try your best don't commit sins.

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The most important part is that you recognize that you're a sinner.

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Are you a violator,

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don't deny,

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don't pretend,

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don't ignore,

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respond to the law.

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He's presenting you with an opportunity.

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And this opportunity continues to be available

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until the last minute.

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So don't wait until the last minute.

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Because you don't know who that is. You may be living your last minute as we speak.

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However, in order for you to repent,

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it will be for you to ask for forgiveness. In order for you to say I'm sorry, you must recognize that you're sorry that you did something that should make you smarter.

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And that's what

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a lot of medical people want. First thing that you're doing is you're recognizing a warrant, establishing the motion of the law on your mind.

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There is no one way to be worshipped, you have no partners in this lordship.

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No one else but you

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know, one was

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the value

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or if that significance, value of

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wealth is not as important, it is not my load.

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Relationships are not as important.

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People are not as important.

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status is not as important.

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Nothing is as important you and my

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wife took an eye on your sleep, and then got iPhone five.

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Because I tend to be happy and successful in this life.

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reason to be the slave of gold and a slate of silver.

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miserable.

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I'm not just thinking of fashion, because

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I'm only you

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manage yourself saying this every morning.

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While

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I'm still committed to the covenant.

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Yes, I do.

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I do pray my promise sometimes. But I'm still committed.

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Deep inside my heart said that was just my desires, my shortcomings in

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my last elucidation, but I am committed, I'm still committed.

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What I

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promise most of the

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week.

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I know I'm not as strong as I should be.

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But to the best of my ability, sincerely, and genuinely, I'm committed.

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I confess, I don't. I promise you failure is upon me.

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Let me also

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allow me more time giving me this chance to repent.

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guiding me to the truth

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of these blessings. And on top of that giving me this life, giving me

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Giving me family, wealth, everything, those things that I asked you all those things that I didn't ask you.

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And if you were to try to count the blessings and the fingers on the wall, you will not be able to,

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you will not be able to, I recognize all of them for a lot of

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work to be done be in at the same time, with the same tone, and letting you know that I recognize myself as a sinner, and I recognize my sins and my violations for me, so forgive me for no one. But

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if you have offended a boss,

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or if you have offended, or if you live the lifestyle, if you have a pattern.

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If your pattern of conduct or behavior is the time that

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involves

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violations that says that offending others you shouldn't recognize.

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And you should remember,

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he may have much

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left.

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Last last time,

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nobody was supposed to do that. We need to get rid of the aisle.

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And we need to sit with ourselves

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and those how much we have left home for

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nuclear

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constant change.

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But in order for you to do that you have to play

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and you have to go through your documents, your papers, your files, and make sure that there is nothing left that could be held against you

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as Elvis accomplishes

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how's it

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was listen to

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what I said. He said

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he heard it are back at

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our

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company.

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further assistance as you pray for yourself. Please remember our brothers and sisters who are distressed those who are sick those who passed away and those who are suffering as we speak. In the world, we asked a lot of pesos. Do not forget it.

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And you're welcome.

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Hello.

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Hopefully

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we'll go

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through the pain of

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the code.

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This rule of thumb

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that

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I have

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in

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the middle

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men and

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women

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and their secrets to form

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Welcome to

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Tommy

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because he

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was in

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a

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plan

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that will be adapted

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for the woman who I love

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the most

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you willing to be

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paid

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for

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the support.

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We're approaching them today, many people arrive,

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they come up with what they call,

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what do they call.

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And again we have resolutions,

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changes and revise that was taking place.

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Many people

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try to adopt

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new ways of doing things and dealing with managing their lives.

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Some people

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consider

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improving

00:37:02--> 00:37:03

their relationships.

00:37:04--> 00:37:05

Others consider

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improving their health

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and watching their diet

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and losing weight.

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Others decided promise

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to have better management of their minds and their time and their finance.

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These are just some of the examples. And some,

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some might be reviewing their policies, their foreign policies

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to deal with their failure

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at all levels,

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from the individual all the way to the President, everybody review their policies

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and their programs.

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However,

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there is one disease

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that I'll talk about today to talk

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about changes

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and improving

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our lives and improving our behavior. There's one disease

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today

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a disease

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that you only find among human beings.

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a disease

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that almost every single one of us

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falls into or is guilty of, or at least is susceptible to

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a disease comes in the form

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of a defense mechanism

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is a disease

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that stands between you and change. positive change

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is a disease that stands before you

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and blocks you or stops you

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from adopting positive change and improving your life.

00:39:10--> 00:39:14

It's that change when you have improvements improvement.

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Then we have progress.

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And almost every single one of us falls

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or falls victim to it.

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You know I came across a heavy

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recommends

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a prayer supplication called the master of

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seeking forgiveness, the master of ceremonies. You seek forgiveness. Forgiveness

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is a prayer and supplication part was by the grace of God

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It is recommended that you decided every day that every night,

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at least once during the day during

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the meeting was memorizing a lot of my therapy

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that it has,

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my Lord,

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you have there is no deity worthy to be worshipped. But you and you created me while you're sleep.

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While

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still,

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I'm still committed

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to companies.

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And I promise to the best of my ability.

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I admit, and I recognize and I acknowledge your failures upon me,

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your favorites upon me.

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At the same time, I confess my sins.

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And I acknowledge that simple.

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I'm not deserving of those fingers.

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But you are deserving

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of generosity and kindness.

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That's what you're saying.

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When you confess the last panel that well we then the jury, so forgive me for in the lab,

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and for no one other than you forgives sins.

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Every day,

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I came across this ad,

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as I was preparing my thoughts, and my colleagues,

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for my football, to talk about how do we approach the end of the year and how we improve and change. And then I said, you know, what, this actually addresses that disease. So, let me talk about it before I talk about anything else.

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The disease, that this country

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addresses and talks about

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in addition to the diseases and other things,

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is a disease like denial,

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denial,

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denial, which is a psychological process in which human beings

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try, they attempt by altering and distorting reality.

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They attempt

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to protect themselves

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and defend themselves from any threats or

00:43:05--> 00:43:06

threats that come

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and make them

00:43:11--> 00:43:13

lose control, advise

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or throw them out of balance, or 13, one of their basic human needs, anytime they are confronted with one of those

00:43:24--> 00:43:26

threatening events

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or behaviors,

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they immediately resort to deny,

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thus, setting the ground

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and allowing themselves to fall victims for many kinds of problems, including addiction.

00:43:48--> 00:43:51

They become addicted or to become obsessed.

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And they suffer miserable failures in their lives because of this problem, denial.

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You see, denial is the first

00:44:06--> 00:44:09

of those defense defense mechanisms

00:44:12--> 00:44:13

that human beings resorption.

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And you can only find this amongst human beings, maybe genes

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and not only have to do

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maybe aspirators.

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When you bury your head in the sand,

00:44:34--> 00:44:41

pretending or trying to convince yourself that your problems don't exist.

00:44:43--> 00:44:43

Or

00:44:45--> 00:44:55

when you blame your problems on other people and other external factors. It has nothing to do with you your shortcomings or

00:44:56--> 00:44:57

your deficiencies. No.

00:44:59--> 00:44:59

It is referred to

00:45:00--> 00:45:04

Someone else or some other factors, circumstances.

00:45:07--> 00:45:09

And people suffer this

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at all.

00:45:13--> 00:45:20

But in many cases, brothers and sisters, because of their denial, not only do they suffer, but those who are irrelevant suffer.

00:45:21--> 00:45:23

And sometimes nations

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suffer because of the denial that one person lives.

00:45:33--> 00:45:34

So in this heading,

00:45:36--> 00:45:38

the province of aloha teaches

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English, the first thing that you do is you confess, you admit your knowledge and you get rid of your denial.

00:45:52--> 00:45:56

You don't deny you recognize reality for what it is.

00:45:59--> 00:46:01

You see people suffering

00:46:04--> 00:46:08

when they, for example, deny problems

00:46:09--> 00:46:13

or blame their problems in their relationship dilemmas

00:46:14--> 00:46:16

or financial history.

00:46:17--> 00:46:18

There's nothing wrong.

00:46:20--> 00:46:22

It's not their style, it is someone else's

00:46:26--> 00:46:26

system.

00:46:29--> 00:46:41

health wise, many people suffer for years before they are willing, before they have the courage to confront themselves and say, You know what, I need to put an end to it.

00:46:42--> 00:46:42

Why

00:46:44--> 00:46:45

would I have the solution

00:46:47--> 00:46:48

within my reach?

00:46:53--> 00:46:55

People do the same thing toilets.

00:46:57--> 00:47:01

Their children might be suffering, suffocating spiritual

00:47:04--> 00:47:04

crisis.

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This is how it is

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when

00:47:15--> 00:47:18

their spouses might be suffering.

00:47:20--> 00:47:27

And they might be falling in a state of despair. They don't even talk about it anymore, because they talk about it

00:47:29--> 00:47:35

will just be a problem. So you know what, say you don't even talk about it.

00:47:37--> 00:47:38

So they don't talk.

00:47:39--> 00:47:44

And they continue to suffer for years. And then at the end, under pressure, they slow

00:47:45--> 00:47:47

it all at the same time.

00:47:48--> 00:47:53

Everything comes on you at the same time. Why? Because you've been in denial for years.

00:47:56--> 00:47:57

And legend wise.

00:48:01--> 00:48:01

People

00:48:03--> 00:48:06

who might be responsible or in charge of other people

00:48:08--> 00:48:13

live in denial, causing suffering and pain to those who are under the leadership.

00:48:16--> 00:48:16

So this

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teaches us that the first thing that you need to do

00:48:21--> 00:48:23

is confess, get rid of

00:48:24--> 00:48:34

recognize have the courage. You see brothers and sisters, someone might ask what are the causes of many things, as I said, it's a natural defense mechanism.

00:48:37--> 00:48:40

But it has cognitive components.

00:48:43--> 00:48:48

It has behavioral components to it.

00:48:50--> 00:48:52

It's a character flaw for someone to continue

00:48:54--> 00:48:55

living in denial.

00:48:58--> 00:49:03

Despite the suffering that he feels or the suffering of others.

00:49:05--> 00:49:06

It is a character flaw.

00:49:07--> 00:49:12

It might be because of arrogance is some people sometimes think that how can I

00:49:14--> 00:49:15

How can I be so bad?

00:49:16--> 00:49:18

It's not me it's some other people.

00:49:20--> 00:49:24

There's nothing wrong with me. And arrogance

00:49:25--> 00:49:28

is a disease in itself. Very wise.

00:49:31--> 00:49:33

speech of its sole

00:49:34--> 00:49:36

interest they're not aware.

00:49:40--> 00:49:43

They're aware of all they see on the side that they don't know.

00:49:46--> 00:49:48

To be brothers and sisters.

00:49:49--> 00:49:54

Lack of character is put badly lack of courage.

00:49:55--> 00:49:57

People don't have the courage to confront

00:49:58--> 00:49:59

their

00:50:00--> 00:50:05

problems, their challenges, their deficiencies and their shortcomings. So as a lot of you have

00:50:07--> 00:50:11

the power, the strength and the courage to confront the shortcomings

00:50:12--> 00:50:16

and our problems and our deficiencies and help us overcome them

00:50:17--> 00:50:18

as a loss of

00:50:19--> 00:50:21

power powers, to inspire.

00:50:56--> 00:50:57

The purpose of the law is

00:50:59--> 00:51:01

that Allah subhanho data calls upon

00:51:05--> 00:51:07

human beings, children of Adam,

00:51:12--> 00:51:17

so long as you call upon me, and asked of me,

00:51:18--> 00:51:21

I shall forgive you for what you have done.

00:51:23--> 00:51:25

And I shall not

00:51:28--> 00:51:28

have a son,

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or child.

00:51:32--> 00:51:35

What are you since to reach the clouds

00:51:36--> 00:51:37

of the sky?

00:51:38--> 00:51:43

And where do you then to ask forgiveness of me?

00:51:44--> 00:51:45

I will forgive you.

00:51:46--> 00:51:48

This is a promise from philosophy.

00:51:50--> 00:51:59

This is a deal. This is an opportunity for those people who recognize this as an opportunity.

00:52:07--> 00:52:08

Your

00:52:12--> 00:52:13

senses head

00:52:16--> 00:52:19

during the day, for the spirit of the night.

00:52:22--> 00:52:32

And he said his hands during the life for the sinner and the offender of the day to retention

00:52:38--> 00:52:40

is asking you is

00:52:41--> 00:52:49

to protect themselves from citizens to the best of our capacity. However, no matter how much we try to fold into cities,

00:52:52--> 00:52:55

without it tells us asking for forgiveness.

00:52:58--> 00:53:01

You tried to stop sending you won't be able to

00:53:03--> 00:53:04

try your best or

00:53:08--> 00:53:12

the most important part is that you recognize that you're a sinner.

00:53:17--> 00:53:18

Don't be naive.

00:53:19--> 00:53:20

Don't pretend,

00:53:21--> 00:53:23

don't ignore,

00:53:24--> 00:53:26

respond to the law.

00:53:28--> 00:53:30

He's presenting you with an opportunity.

00:53:31--> 00:53:36

And this opportunity continues to be available

00:53:37--> 00:53:38

until the last minute.

00:53:40--> 00:53:42

So don't wait until the last minute.

00:53:43--> 00:53:50

Because you don't know who that last minute is. You may be last minute as we speak.

00:53:57--> 00:53:59

However, in order for you to repent,

00:54:01--> 00:54:13

it will be for you to ask for forgiveness. In order for you to say I'm sorry. You must recognize that you're sorry that you did something that should make you smarter.

00:54:14--> 00:54:15

That's what the

00:54:19--> 00:54:26

first thing that you're doing is you're recognizing a warrant establishing the motion of the law on your mind.

00:54:30--> 00:54:34

There's no need to be worshipped God no partners in this lordship.

00:54:36--> 00:54:39

I recognize no one else but you

00:54:40--> 00:54:42

know, one was

00:54:44--> 00:54:45

the value

00:54:46--> 00:54:50

or significance value of nursing homes.

00:54:53--> 00:54:54

And newborn

00:54:55--> 00:54:58

wealth is not as important. It is not my Lord.

00:55:01--> 00:55:03

Relationships are not as important.

00:55:07--> 00:55:09

People are not as important.

00:55:11--> 00:55:13

status is not as important.

00:55:14--> 00:55:16

Nothing is as important you

00:55:19--> 00:55:24

took an eye on your sleeve. And in that iPhone five

00:55:31--> 00:55:36

because I tend to be happy and successful in this life, and a profitable plus

00:55:39--> 00:55:39

there is our

00:55:42--> 00:55:48

mission to be the slave of gold and the slave of silver.

00:55:50--> 00:55:51

miserable.

00:56:01--> 00:56:02

I'm not just thinking of fashion, because

00:56:10--> 00:56:11

I'm only you

00:56:13--> 00:56:17

message yourself saying this every morning.

00:56:19--> 00:56:19

While

00:56:21--> 00:56:24

I'm still committed to the covenant,

00:56:27--> 00:56:29

yes, I do violate

00:56:30--> 00:56:33

my father sometimes. But I'm still committed.

00:56:34--> 00:56:40

Deep inside. My mindset is just my desires, my shortcomings in

00:56:41--> 00:56:46

my last elucidation, but I am committed, I'm still committed.

00:56:50--> 00:56:52

Did I promise last

00:56:55--> 00:56:55

week.

00:56:58--> 00:57:00

I know I'm not as strong as I should be.

00:57:02--> 00:57:03

But to the best of my ability I

00:57:05--> 00:57:08

genuinely am committed.

00:57:15--> 00:57:21

I confess, I don't, I promise you failure is upon me.

00:57:23--> 00:57:24

Let me also

00:57:26--> 00:57:30

allow me more time, giving me this chance to repent.

00:57:32--> 00:57:33

guiding me to the truth

00:57:34--> 00:57:47

of these blessings. And on top of that, giving me this life giving me help giving me family, wealth, everything, those things that I asked you all those things that I didn't ask you.

00:57:49--> 00:57:55

And if you were to try to count the blessings, and the fingers of luck, you will not be able to,

00:57:56--> 00:57:59

you will not be able to recognize all of them.

00:58:02--> 00:58:19

work will be done in at the same time, with the same time and letting you know that I recognize myself as a sinner, and I recognize my sins and my violations for me, so forgive me for Nolan with you for peace.

00:58:23--> 00:58:25

If you have offended a boss,

00:58:26--> 00:58:32

or if you have offended, or if you live the lifestyle, if you have a pattern.

00:58:34--> 00:58:39

If your pattern of conduct and behavior is the time that

00:58:41--> 00:58:42

involves

00:58:43--> 00:58:48

violations and sins that offending others you shouldn't recognize.

00:58:50--> 00:58:51

And you should remember

00:58:53--> 00:58:54

that you may not have much

00:58:57--> 00:58:58

left.

00:58:59--> 00:59:00

Last last time.

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Nobody was supposed to do that. We need to get rid of denial.

00:59:06--> 00:59:12

And we need to sit with ourselves take agility of those days and those habits a lot of how much should we

00:59:14--> 00:59:14

hold for

00:59:19--> 00:59:19

nuclear

00:59:22--> 00:59:23

constant change.

00:59:26--> 00:59:29

But in order for you to do that, you have to plan for it.

00:59:30--> 00:59:38

And you have to go through your documents, your papers, your files, and make sure that there is nothing left that could be held against you.

00:59:40--> 00:59:40

As

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accomplished this

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was in 2008 American one has a global

00:59:55--> 00:59:56

problem.

01:00:09--> 01:00:10

Hello

01:00:20--> 01:00:20

via

01:00:32--> 01:00:32

email

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Okay, we'll get to that go for the sisters attitude pray for yourselves please remember our brothers and sisters who are distressed those who are sick those who passed away died and those who are suffering as we speak in the world we asked a lot.

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Do not forget that in your

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in your situation doing work