Visitation & Being a Classy Guest 11.10.2017
Channel: Mohammad Elshinawy
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All Praise and Glory be to Allah, we thank him and we seek His help and his guidance and his pleasure and his forgiveness and His protection from the evil whispers within us and from the awful consequences of our misdeeds. For whoever Allah guides, no one can lead astray we went through our lives without guidance then can guide them. And we testify that none is worthy of our worship and our devotion, and our absolute love and obedience but Allah, the Creator of the heavens and the earth and everything in them, and everything between them and everything we know and everything we don't And we bear witness, the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was in truth, His
Prophet and his servant, that His messenger and the best of his creation and the seal of his revelation, the most beloved of the slaves of Allah to Allah. Oh, people have emailed me, oh, you have believed Allah says Oh, you have believed. Repeat mindful of Allah, remain conscious of him. Keep your duty to Him in the manner to the extent that he deserves. Give him his due regard in every aspect of your life as best as you can, and do not die except in a state of complete and total willing, loving surrender to Allah meaning a state of Islam.
To be in Africa, welcome our brothers and sisters to the house of Allah Azza Jeddah. We spent last Friday during the chutzpah speaking about the incredible personality of Ibrahim Ali, he said out of Abraham peace be upon him, the hadith of Allah, the friend of God, who serve God in every dimension of his life, as some of the scholars put it can I've gotten go hula rush man, he's harder belong to a rock man. What what to do who later for Ben and his son was used for poor band as a means of coming nearer to a Ramana means of devotion, he was willing to give up his son.
He said, What man Will you believe?
And his well was when it gets there is dedicated. He was done with the greatest host ever 20 guests, he was the exemplar of how to host your guests. And we spent the week speaking of the football last week speaking about them. They said what whether it will in the Iran and his and his body itself was expendable. He didn't mind getting thrown into the knee, Iran getting thrown into the fire, and not turning away from his religion, not turning away from worshipping the one true God without idols without partners without intermediaries, though his people had done. And so it's hard to belong to Allah, his wealth was serving the guests for the sake of God to please God, his son was for a means
of getting closer to God, even if that meant slaughtering him, right. And even his body was for the sake of Allah, even if it meant it would be burned in a fire at the hands of those prosecutors. And now we wish to speak about this aspect of worship of hosting the guests. But from the opposite side, being hosted as a guest. So you being a host is an act of worship in Islam. But likewise, you being the visitor, you being the guest is also an act of worship in Islam, meaning, this is something that Allah loves for you to do. And huge part of you being a Muslim surrendering to Allah's lifestyle, his way of life is that he wants people to exchange visits. He wants people to visit one another
because of the benefit in that for them for their own good God loves to see people strengthening their social bonds, breathing loved one with another. And so as you can imagine, from the Lavon, for example, sort of necessity he says, Canada leaves from Allah while you're sitting down there. Zulu Ansara people UTM. The Prophet SAW Salem used to visit the unsavoury you know, the Muslims when they were persecuted, they fled back and came to Medina, those who fled Mecca are called the mohajir in the migrants, and those who took them in graciously worthy unsolved, the supporters in Medina and so these unsolved
prophets of Allah Robinson was one of the migrants he wouldn't just stay in his own corner in Medina. And yes, we were friends are all Muslims, that's fine, but I'm with them. I'm not with you. So he would go out of his way to visit them in their homes, not even more isolated homes
would visit the onslaught. He says febrile, you'll see him.
He's, he enters the narrator says, and he would go up to their children, whatever Sahara Lucia malaria and wipe their heads, you pet the heads of the children were too low level, and he would make dua for them as well. And so think of how busy the province of Allah
was. He saw that visiting people in their homes was indispensable. This is a part of the lifestyle that must exist among the Muslims. Because this is what builds the social fabric. He added salatu salam was busier than we are today in the busy life. And so the reality is, is we're not so much busier the Brahmin saucer numbers Yes, we are busy in ages past. It's true. But certain aspects of our busyness can be trimmed but there's back to be trimmed from our lifestyle. There is also lots of movie watching and lots of time wasted and lots of social media being draining four or five hours of our days. He Allen salatu salam despite his busyness would make time for this to go to their houses,
visit them see their children and the lights.
And on the Prophet SAW, Selim died, the Khalifa of the Muslims, the next leader and then the busiest man on the planet and I will welcome somebody if it's late at night. He says, he went to Ramallah, his right hand man and he said impalad Vinaya Rama in Abu Dhabi, amen. The Zulu hat camera canon abuse Allah Galindo, Salama Zulu, come O'Meara let us go visit on a man a man is an elderly woman
no politician that isn't on TV would visit it if it's not public relations. There is no one showing it on TV how nice you are, no one would visit here are the hola and we will learn from the Prophet SAW Selim would go and visit her the way the Prophet SAW Selim. He's the visitor.
I shall get my mind how the wife of the Prophet SAW Selim and Villa became very old, she used to go and visit beloved in his house, and mention to him like she will lift his spirits mentioned to him basically, this is how much the problems are still in love. Do you remember when he said this about you remember what he said that about you. And this is key because certain parts of your society feel alienated of your community will feel alienated, especially the younger half with the promised land right on their heads. And the elders.
And I this just a quick talking point, after the whole bombing we can return to there used to be easiest thing in the world. It takes a few emails and about an hour a month, we used to set up groups in New York called virtues, visitations, just like righteous visits, where a group of people would pull together one day a month to go visit the elderly, in the hospitals in their homes, and just tell them you remember you and we may drive for you. And we enjoy your company, as we like to listen to your stories that we've heard 10 times we like to be with you. This is extremely important.
Because it means that once to them, you know something so I had to fit in my little filing entitled an entire chapter called Xiao to Gibreel Vietnamese or sell them how to zip Gibreel the angel Gabriel used to visit the province I'll sell them. And he mentioned that the Messenger of Allah Alayhi Salatu was set up, as inquiring about you read that? Why doesn't he visit him as much like it was I want to see you more, it's the greatest gift you can give to me is to actually come to some people think I'm not going to go visit someone because I don't have a gift or it's too costly. The gift doesn't have to be costly. It could cost you two $3 Make some brownies in your home and carry
them over. Right? But even if you can't bring anything at all, what's more costly as you're not visiting altogether, even if you're empty headed to just go. And so the Prophet SAW Selim when he was used to visiting being visited by Jubilee, he said to Jimmy, and that Azula Africa, why don't you Why don't you visit us more. And so Allah the Most High sent down the verses and sort of money in the chapter on Mary, the mother of Jesus, He sent down in that sutra, wanna let unnecessary we love the MBR we are the angels were the servants of God, we only come down when God commands us to come in. I'd love to see you more. Right? But Allah has explained to him it's a matter of I can only
come and he sends me. But the point being is the Prophet SAW Selim when he stopped receiving what he was used to receiving. He felt he was upset by this he was saddened by this.
Also, I'll be one of the most rude when he became the grand when he became the
In the most knowledgeable manual Kufa, when he left Medina, as he promised, I'll send him died, they all move to different many of them moved to different cities to teach people Islam and he went to school for that city in Iraq and Iraq. He sat with his companions. And what he said was that he said to them, how did the desert what would the you visit each other at home? Meaning do you try to meet an investor? You don't meet outside ministry? You tell them that's a problem. You can't do that.
He said, Do you visit one another at home or not? They said yes. Even if someone's at the end of unfulfilled sale, go to them all.
Doom tomorrow and tomorrow, don't do Tamala Dalit you will remain being good people you will be upon good your situation will be well off so long as you keep this up. I know sometimes it can seem like a high maintenance project to go out of your way to visit someone for the sake of God. But you need to keep doing. You know, some people may say,
I don't need to be told that visiting people as an act of worship for me to do it. In other words, I don't need religion to be a good person. Many people give the sentiment in our time and our age. But you know, the statistics say otherwise. Research modern research proves that people who attend maps like communal congregations like Gemma either on Sunday in church on Friday in the masjid, people that are exposing themselves to reminders about God once a month. We do it as Muslims once a week, Christians do it for if they're consistent once a week as well. People that do it once a month, are much more likely to visit their family members than others. Because that's what it's about
consistency. I'm not doing it for any reason. There's no business investment involved. There's no selfish interests involved. I'm doing it because this pleases God. You know, as a matter of fact, one of the reasons why visiting is high maintenance is because sometimes there's hard feelings between family members. So these people are not just able to go visit others, these people who attend religious services are not able to visit others. Even though they don't get better. They're able to visit others despite there being some sort of harm involved, they'll still do it. Even though my cousin hasn't talked to me, I'm still going to talk to them. Even though this is a bit of
an annoyance for me or complication. I'm still going to do it. Where did they get that consistency from? Because it's not for them. I'm not doing it for to make money out of this. I'm not doing this for any sort of appreciation from them. And so if there's no appreciation, I'm going to stop doing it. I'm doing it for appreciation from above from the heavens. So that's how I'll be consistent. This is the benefit of it being an act of worship. Yes, this is troublesome. But Allah the Most High has said to me, as the Prophet SAW said and reported to us, whatever it might have been to the moon there had been a video and with a jealousy Nephi what motivated the lead every year? What do they
say we Nephi definitely fill out
the province ourselves and that Allah has said My love has been guaranteed for those that love each other for my sake for the sake of God, and sit with one another for my sake
and spend on each other for my sake, and visit each other for my sake. So they visit and they spend and they say all of that comes in visitation.
Also the province of Allah Azza wa sallam said
Menza on a real one, I will often let him feel that he never had immediate surgery. Lipitor what Baba remember Shaka whatever whatever the agenda team and Xena when someone visits a sick person, or visits their brother for the sake of Allah
it is said to him it may you be blessing and may every step you take be a reason to be blessing and may you secure a seat in paradise. Because of that reason the angels prayed for you. And the Prophet SAW said in another video who just has an unacceptable chain of transmission that he sent to the Sahaba head it was Bill committee jadie culminated in Jana Shall I inform you which meant amongst you will wind down in paradise. Instead of course missing from Allah tell us call them Nabil for gender to the prophets or inferiors the prophet will be in paradise. What's the deal and the firmest conviction people firmness conviction will be in Paradise was Shaheed of engender, look at this high
company, and the Shaheed the martyr is agenda? Well, no allude to that he moved to slavery,
and the new Bowerman who dies in infancy are the eyes before puberty and the newborn is Angelina is in paradise as well. One Rosewood Yasu Alfonso fina
relatedness learners who in their gender think chelina, and a man that visits his brother,
on the other end of town, not visited him except for God, this person has an agenda as well, this person is in paradise as well. You can imagine the value of this in the sight of God when social reward is is
generated by it.
And of course, this reward before we added, save the importance of doing this religiously, so that you can be consistent. Be sure that this reward is compounded, it's a block off when the person you're visiting or the people you're visiting.
are given special priority Nardin. So when you're visiting your parents, that's an obligation to visit your parents check up on them whenever you can. If they're locals at least once a week, some scholars say you have to visit them, and you have to check up on them and how many because you know why? Because how many times you ask your family on the phone, whenever you remember to call. How are you doing is just cordial regular conversation. Then when you finally show up, you see,
we didn't want to bother you and make you come the whole way to find out what's going on when you're actually there. That's why it's obligatory to visit your parents in Islam. Visiting your relatives as well. Is a lesser priority but also not a form of an obligation Islam.
Also, visiting people who are sick is from the difference communal obligation Islam. Passing your condolences to families of people that are married people that have died is an obligation Islam, Islam even obligated that when someone
invites you to their wedding, the wedding of their family, you must go unless you have a legitimate reason to be excused. You must go. And the province also let me say whomever is invited to a wedding or a wedding banquet, and he does not respond, he does not oblige from the outside person. He has disobeyed Mohamed he has this will be the Prophet alayhi salatu salam. Why? Because you can imagine when someone invites you to something that means a lot to them, right you showing up means the world to them, and you don't do it. What that does to the bonds between people.
So the reward is compounded when it's an obligation. But before we compound I want to spend the last 10 minutes in the football speaking about how not to drop below the minimum reward. Some of these are orange we mentioned. Instead of getting more reward, let's just talk about how you secure the bare minimum reward. Security that reward is by following the educates the teachings that classiness how to be a classy guest. When you visit somebody, which are often sallallahu alayhi wa sallam taught these combatants
after the break up later I will try to list nine for you remember of them what you can apply if you can this next holiday or winter season that's coming up with Chavo terracotta Holly has ever stepped foot but anyway
and hamdu lillah wa salatu salam ala Mala V Avada are all Praise and Glory be to Allah alone in his finest peace and blessings be upon the one afternoon there is no prophet or messenger of Allah.
So your award is secure when you observe certain etiquettes that were taught by the Prophet SAW said that I want you to reflect even if you're not going to memorize these, just appreciate how our Islam gave us a timeless lifestyle addresses every aspect, even the nuanced the mind mache, the tiny details of visitation. So the first of them, the problem is all self taught lessons when you visit someone you visit sparingly, like you just you take it easy, yes, visiting is good. And there's a reward involved. And it's such a great act of worship. But as the Arabs used to say, zoom, better does that help? Like, visit after you've been absent for a while you'll be it'll increase the love
there is for you. Meaning if you're there every single day, for many hours each day, there's two different ways to you know, to be a burden in your visit, you visit too much. Or you visit you prolong the visit.
And so some of those will happen because they just wanted to be with the Prophet SAW Sal and they enjoyed his company so much. They used to come to his home at times that were not convenient, and then remain in his home before the phone came and stay in his home after the food was finished. And this is you being a burden, right? Because number one, as long as you're there a good host we spoke about has to keep serving you. That's very good. So also if you come I mean if your kids don't know the Edit cuts that lead them somewhere else until the early 80s. Right. But some people they just bring their children to the home and his kid just oh look
Walmart, TV and all this stuff, right? Islamically you have to replace all these things when your kid breaks them. But just being a burden, sometimes a parent just sits there for hours on edge. And even if his kid is well mannered is going to be well mannered for how long an hour, two hours, and then he just runs loose. And we just sit there sometimes the women are talking to each other. The men are talking to each other jobs. Kids are crazy. Kids are crazy. They have to do something, right. And so some of the Sahaba though, while intending they were oblivious to what's happening around them, even if it wasn't children, there was still some sort of burden. And so Allah azza wa
jal used to say,
Yeah, even if you have no less than who you tend to be in LA, you could meet up around and raised enough money.
What are you going to do return for the Hulu?
For environmental filters, you know, what have you seen any Hadith? He says, When you enter the prophets home, you don't enter the home waiting for the food to be prepared. You're waiting until they come you don't really learn. But when you're invited in, then come in. And then once you eat, don't just sit there and join the conversation. He says Why is in a valley Concannon? Are you within a BFS that he Minka Wallace the human and how this bothers the Prophet alayhi salatu salam but he was too shy to mention it to you and Allah is not too shy to mention to you right from wrong. Allah is gonna point it out. He's not gonna let this slide and why did why people can just get exhausted
from people a shattering Allah one of the good scholars used to say in that Fair Debt care or cocktail, hour content and ascension feather it flew by that when you missed the two archives and feci Kersey means make the rod against blame the people that are just
so caught up interest heavy, rather overbearing, they come in is 910 11 and 12. And let's let them finish at 3am sometimes blame them and it's all their fault. This is the first thing when you visit visit, visit graciously, sparingly and when you arrive. That's the second one that Islam taught us that when you arrive, arrive and be liked and your arrival. Yeah Even Latina America is the fun to use and viral beauty group that full mute and right I will decomp had that accidentally Sue Salim Allah Allah when you answer all believers when you answer Can you imagine Allah actually addresses this in the Quran? Is that important? When you enter homes that are not your homes? Don't do so
until you seek permission for this that's necessary unless
you seek permission first and then go in and then after permission is granted and then make sure you agreed you say Osama Abram announced your entrance after permission has been given. The province also lives in us at least in Alaska, you seek permission three times and whatnot means I'm here.
I'm here. The second that means I'm gonna leave. Right? The third it means I'm gone. I'm leaving now. And you're supposed to leave because maybe he invited you. Maybe you had permission right from you arrive in the door. Him and his wife got into World War Three, or some kid got hurt, or he just caught some diarrhea or any sort of emergency. Is it possible. Don't feel like you have to be received even though you're inviting things change.
The Sahara said, the products are selling them his door used to be knocked on with the fingertips.
And this is just amazing. Look how classy the Soho the Allah honorable in the middle of a desert 1400 years ago became like how do you transform an entire generation to be this educate oriented? If this is not a mirror, what is the very the Prophet SAW Selim transformed this generation, you know, knocking with their fingertips out of respect me imagine the people that bang the door or they allow their kids to just drink ring the bell over and over and over and over again. And he went back in and once a guy came and pounded on his door and he came out and saw that he knows who that person got a lot to be sure of that. Like, is this a race a police raid? Like are you are you the cops and
Why are you begging for unless you know there's a fire in the house where he told you keep bending until I wake up prevention or something? Right? It's if we live close enough to each other but why they used to not put their fingertips despite in the beginning of Islam. On the Quran is still being revealed early Medina Allah says inland Medina, Yuna do Nakamura Rottie at federal law afternoon, these people who call out to you from behind the walls are not sensible people. So you have people who their culture is Mohammed come out, that is their culture
to move all the way on the other end of the spectrum and start doing this.
That degree of politeness consideration. That's what the Prophet SAW Selim brought to the world develop that so the second one is when you arrive you you arrive also gracious. And then you see the rose often told us to see where you are told, and you don't separate between two things.
So there's two people on the couch, you don't sit in the middle. Even that degree of Muslim is above right? He doesn't separate between any two people.
Nor does he keep it make the place tight either.
My dad is upset.
When you're told makes space in the gathering makes space, Allah will make space for you in your life will make your life comfortable. As opposed to someone who walks in and there's no seat and you don't just you're just on your phone or you're just busy in your conversation, and you have one knee up on the couch, and you're taking the whole loveseat. Right? Make room for people be considerate of that. And also a part of sit where you are told it's because I believe our in Palutena booth are vulnerable, right? You can answer someone tells you please please, since he is just fine. But what if he doesn't want you sitting there? What if you're going to see something in his house? Right?
It's a bad angle,
where the poor woman who has been standing on 200 degree heat for the past four hours, is going to have to put on her hijab now because of you. Or you may see something of her right, which is unacceptable. And so when you enter you sit where you are told and you don't separate between people. And then when you answer this is a little bit difficult for us so fly with our children and visit our children follow instructions no matter who you are.
The problems are Salim said no bodies to be led in prayer in his house peaceful body in his domain, except with his permission. So if he's the one that is to lead you in religion, indeed in prayer, then he can definitely lead the gathering, right. And so when grandparents come over, and the parents had certain roles, really kids and you just destroyed all of that. Not even your own children, just let them be in their domain, let them run the show.
The fifth and I only have about two minutes left to run through some of them quickly. Make sure to be inclusive in your discussions. Our province of Allah is telling us the same night and I just plan on doing a 30 Min entry and a dedicated zero for in the valley they will say no. He says Let no two people have a conversation and leave out the third person. So they're whispering to each other are they speaking in a language and third person can understand because this saddens him sad into that third person.
And of course, we can extend this to people sitting together and you pull out a third on your screen right? You're just having a conversation with someone and ignoring the guy who just spent the feed you took out from his time or during the day off from work or did all of this stuff. This is unacceptable. Sadly, that's not how a visitor acts in Islam.
Also harder this is to maintain the privacy of the conversation right you don't walk out of the house and telling people what was took place in the hours of the conversation. You don't walk out and say oh this person what I saw and then you leave sometimes people pick at people's privacy like you enter the home is oh man that block this TV. How much did you get that for? Are you like an estimator? Like, are you a seller? And what are you asking for? What do you care Mark don't probe into people's privacy and whatever they give you willingly don't share it with others.
And there's so many examples of the Prophet SAW suddenly visited people he was alerted. There's no sensitivities. He never ever ever criticized any food. Madam visit people for their weddings. The next day, everybody's talking about how bad the food was, right? Everyone's criticizing the food. That's what we said last week, don't force someone to eat to force them to give you a reason why they're not eating maybe they don't like it. The problem salsa even when he had when he was sitting with people in the gathering, and one of them passed ghacks So the people began to laugh.
And so he said he stopped the gathering. He said I don't have 100 miles now. There's one of you laugh at something that they themselves do. Like who doesn't pass that maybe there's a medical condition maybe has a gas problem. Do not allow that to be sensitive to people in these gatherings. And of course they have the greatest sensitivities need to have is regarding the elders as well. When two of them came to argue in front of the province all sudden, he said he stopped one of them he said can you do can you respect the elders respect no matter who you are, what station you are, how tall you get in life, you respect your elders, and we ate finally are close with it is it is
absolutely important for us to remember that this is an act of worship.
If this is done for the sake of Allah, then it must uphold the rules of Allah subhanho wa Taala if you're going to attend a wedding and there's violations happening, you don't participate. If it's going to be a huge disaster for you to leave, then step out. Give your regards and step out if you absolutely must attend there also is going to be like a family meltdown. If you're sitting in a gathering and someone pulls out shisha and there's no scholar in his right mind who believes that this pipe right, the water pipe is Halon you stop them someone speaking about something haram people are delaying the prayer beyond the fire.
They cannot know your place. Know your place. Do not flip the table on anyone get them to pray on your own.
Do not participate yourself. Know your place though when you're observing Allah the rules. You know, I read one I did preparing for this whole fun with it I will close that the prophets of Allah
a bunch of hypothesis and it's highly controversial regarding authenticity when just imagine yourself in the prophet's shoes, right. He was visited by someone, and that someone was doing something inappropriate. This happens both both ways is fine, whether you're the host or the guests. And this person when they came, they had eaten so much, that when they arrived, they ate before they came. He burped out loud.
And so the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam said Kufa Anna Trisha again.
Keep your burps from here from our gatherings for in the Axolotl come shebang feed. duniya out one of whom do annual multi ama the one who fills his stomach the most in this world will have the longest hunger on the Day of Judgment.
The narrator says Alan says a blue heifer never ate his field until he left this world but he never filled his stomach again. What's the point here? What if you what if it was you? What if you said this to your host or said this your guests with the story and when he never made that mistake again? That's not your place. You're not that person. You need to understand that it will be a much more ugly end right? And so we see find words that are genuine or don't address it at all and night. And finally, you may derive for everyone you said to look when you come to someone's house, you make dua for them before you eat Allah multiterminal commented what's going on somebody and all these derived
promises alone would make make them in English, make them in Arabic, it doesn't matter. show people your gratitude show people your gratefulness for the environment. This is the Muslim guest the Muslim visitor may Allah azza wa jal improve our manners in yours and help us implement at least some of the upcoming vacation times and visitations that will be exchanged Allah Muhammad Ali had a lot of similarities.
That Islam also used to mean extreme I mean, I
mean, some of that was sent over over AnnaLena machine in the VTX for common father and he was it was a bit