Strong Family, Stronger Ummah
Channel: Karim Abuzaid
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Allah subhana wa Taala broke down the religion in order to make us happy in this world and of course successful in the hereafter
and in order to expel any harm that we may cause or inflict upon ourselves. By abandoning this Deen will have this meaning for the Koran woman out of a decrease in Allahumma Isha Tom banca whoever turns away from my
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He will have a good life in this world.
One of the area's brothers and sisters in Islam, which their religion
or given us so much details, or so much importance is the formation of the Muslim family.
You read a lot of Quran.
You read a lot of sunon about the family about marriage. Who should you marry? And why should you marry this one? And the characteristics and the qualities of the husband the qualities of the wife? The encouragement to get married to begin with?
To establish the family to initiate the process,
speaking bad about those who as you know, take the path of celibacy Ravana.
Defining the rights of the husbands and the wives and the command for us to interact as spouses with one another in a good manner in a good way. You cannot imagine the amount of text in the Quran and the Sunnah in this regard. A lot of it? Will Allah use a Muna the scholars they call this Phil Hello Sora the understanding of the Muslim family the question why brothers and sisters in Islam? Why Islam? given so much significance, so much importance to the Muslim family?
I'll answer this question through the following theory.
You know, when you want to build a skyscraper, you know what a skyscraper is? Right? Like this high rise building in New York. What do you have to do?
What do you have to do?
You dig the
the higher you wanna go, the deeper you gotta go down.
If you want to add more floors, you got to add more Foundation, more Foundation, more Foundation, more foundation.
And amazing By the way, normally, when people are constructing such buildings, when they are digging Earth, when people pass by them, they really don't pay attention to them. They ask what these guys are doing, they are messing around with Earth. What is this? These guys are messing around with? doesn't look good at all. But when the building starts coming up, first floor, second floor, third floor, fourth floor.
You know who I'm talking about now?
one of our breeding sessions as one of the people ask our assessors this question.
He said instruct me how to bring up my child in a way that pleases Allah subhanho wa Taala.
He asked him how old is your child? He said three years old. He said it's too late.
It's not much he can do
bringing up children who are in Islam begins before marriage.
We have a scholar by the name I will I will ask what to do le water l Mona, Alina Vitaly Ravi Allah Juan
actually instructed him to come up with the Arabic grammars when the Arab started mixing with the other languages and their tongue started messing around the settler No, let's put some fat how Castro dama so we got we structured this. He called upon his children one day.
And he said to them, yeah, baniya my children.
Son Tula problema will leave you come.
I was good to you before your birth. And after your birth.
The children said yeah earner? Our Father, we know quite well how you treated us after we were born. We understand what do you mean by after our birth? What do you mean before we were born?
if 32 law Come on, man.
I chose a mother for you, whom you will be proud of.
That's what he meant.
When a young man goes and proposes to The Guardian of a woman,
the guardian of one of the sisters.
He is choosing a mother for his children before choosing a life for himself. This is why the religion interferes with your choice. Karla salovaara usnm The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says to
a woman is seeked in marriage because of for incentives for things that would normally invite you to get interested in marriage.
A woman number one gemelli her, her beauty, physical beauty. And listen, this is important.
This is important. You should choose our life you're attracted to physically. Allah Mohammed Abu Saba Ravi, Allah, one can say essay. He came to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he said, You're rasulillah messenger of Allah, caught up to Moroccan mineral answer. I propose to a woman from an answer. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said to him, he will never lie.
Did you look at her? el fondo ilaha inaho ahora de nada en Akuma
go and look at her and we know we're supposed to lower our gaze. He's not married to her. He's still thinking about marrying her. What have you and you're not looking here becomes permissible even though it's Haram.
Set delivery at the center. It is haram. But looking to find that you're attracted to your wife to this woman is permissible, generally her to marry her.
Her wealth, her education,
that she will work. She will provide whatever her lineage?
And yes, well, we we don't say this for you to laugh. But it's a very sad story that we hear every now and then lineage now is a green card. A brother comes from overseas just to get the table. He goes on he marries a woman. And as soon as he gets the paper, the green card, he will divorce her he will run away multiple stories we hear not necessarily her her lineage, you should choose a woman with a lineage good lineage. Good family. Why? Because your kids later on are gonna call her father. Whatever your culture is, Grandpa,
get to do whatever you want, whatever.
The sisters and brothers, aunts and uncles, and they will interact with your boy with your daughter. So choose a family. One.
But look at the fourth one. Look at the fourth one. Look at the fourth one. For the four be there the beam you should win for the four here means when it's an indication brothers and sisters in Islam that they are not available
that there is not many of them. And we're lucky there are brothers who are very careful about choosing a spouse alive. They travel all over the all over the world they find that religious women to find that women with Dean sisters normally complain about not having people interested in them. Imagine sisters that in is one of the qualities. A lot of the brothers as we speak are looking for in this world. And they have a hard time finding sisters was such a quality. But the Shahadat brothers and sisters in Islam Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is telling you don't compromise the deen you may compromise the physical beauty. You may compromise the lineage if you're able to
somehow Buddha stop or interaction if you're able to. But the dean No, no, no.
Look at if you
are a viola one. fee Sunil inami tirmidhi para la sallallahu alayhi wa sallam for qualities here. Four qualities pertaining to the women. Look at the brothers. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam is addressing the guardians of the women. Yeah, yeah. Brothers and sisters in Islam. No women in Islam is allowed to give her souls in marriage without the consent of her family.
without the consent of her guardian, whether he is the father, the brother, he has to be consented.
But this does not mean that he could force her into marriage. No, she has to be consented as well. It's a mutual decision between them. We understand that we get some scenarios where actually the father is trying to make a choice for his daughter, which is not Islamic. Because he's a doctor. He's an engineer with all due respect to the doctors and engineers. No offense here.
But that's how he's a doctor shape. But he doesn't play shape and shape. Now does he play now shape? No, he does not. He drinks inshallah we'll make Toba shape. No. Does he drink now. So you base your decision on now. So, if the father of that type, if the father of that type, it is permissible then for the Imam or the one in whose hand is the authority where you live, to transfer that guardianship to the next births. A woman cannot give herself in marriage, whether she is well I tell you that Heidi is weak that she's married before previously married is weak. Whether she is or a virgin both she has to be consented. And her guardian has to be consented. irizar Rasul sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam is addressing the guardians either jaakko mantle Donna, look at those two.
If someone comes to you, you're contented, pleased with his holo characters. And his the religion both
that shows you whether there is a great connection between the character and the dean says I will do thou Will you give you give your daughters in marriage to him. Why a lotta follow if you do not do this couldn't fit to fill out the office. Adam, Kevin, you will expose your daughter to a lot of fitna brothers and sisters in Islam. Besides those two qualities, the character and the deen being strong and being honest and trustworthy. And we take this from the story of Masada salatu salam, when he went to madeon when his daughter said to him in Hira, Minister, jalta, I look away you will I mean, you need to give your daughter and marriage to a man, someone who can protect her, someone
who can stand for her, not this wishy washy,
halfway though, and then someone who can make a decision, because he is the head of the family, someone who can take the leadership of the family, and he is honest and trustworthy as well. Brothers and sisters in Islam. So behind Allah, we find some times the norm, the norm, the norm is disrupted just for the application of such a thing. Imagine, imagine a top row the yellow one, with his status with his might with his status in the community. He went around asking a man would you like to marry half saw
the regular course of action that the man proposes? But remember, he's asking who's
asking Who? Oh, man isn't a fan of your loved one.
Don't go and humiliate yourself or your daughter and asking a foolish who will go around LA. He's asking someone who has character not to boot him down or his daughter down. When off man said no, he will not. He went to our work. Our work Remember that? Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam mentioned hafsa in a way that he is interested in her in front of him. He said no. Later on Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Merritt hafsa Ravi Allah Juana again, I'm gonna tell you what the norm, the norm is broken. Right here. And the original Salah, the righteous man in Midian. He went to masa, he said in New Orleans.
I want you to get married to one of my daughters. Choose one of them. He saw two of them, choose one of them. Why? Because he saw the quality of Musa alayhis salam and his character. He saw that people such as the Holo the character, he possesses the deen and he possesses the strength and he also possesses the trustworthiness and honesty. This is why he proposed and behalf of his daughter to him, brothers and sisters in Islam.
One plus one equals to
Buddha to sleep. One law he put it to sleep. If you're wondering what is wrong with our children,
is this issue. When we started the process, we didn't initiate it right. Look at the marriages of them are
jority of Muslims, the marriages that took place already. And this answers the question, why the divorce rate is high? In some Muslim countries? Yeah, it was 60% 60%. Imagine every 100 marriages, there are 60, divorces,
every 100 marriages, 60 divorces, I in a country like Egypt 3.5 million cases of conflicts between spouses in the court that are not resolved yet. Why? Why? Because of the absence of that motive, that in the absence of this, and, you know, the problem here, and this is why I asked that question at the very beginning of my talk, why Islam, given so much emphasis on this on this subject, why? Because of the children, because, guess what, who pays the price when there is a divorce in the family, who, who the children, he will go and get married to another woman, she probably gonna choose another man after three months, if she is already not hunting for someone already, but who
will pay the price the children, they will be with the Father. Hmm. And what the Father is doing gossiping and backbiting about the mother. She's awful, she's terrible. She's given me a hard time. He will hear bits and pieces here and there. Then he is transferred to the mother. Of course, she's going to talk about the Father. So you end up with weaker generations coming into this world brothers and sisters in Islam. And this explains the wisdom why this is one of the daily tasks that Satan insists in accomplishing on daily basis. What we had ej written Abdullah
was a Muslim. In a foreigner yo shabalala colo.
Chaitanya knows he was brought down he saw the throat of Allah update. But our sunovion like the hood said, Our son Karim, but he wanted to have a throne. So he would normally have his throne in water. So every single day shaitan will put his throne and water
and the gin will present themselves to him. His helpers from the gin. Look what He will say to them. Men are leiomyoma Muslim and Albus to
whoever does the best job today in misguiding Muslims. I will crown you with my own hands. I will give you a prize at night at sunset.
The throne is booth back again. All these shayateen the change of shifts the Shelton who will disperse at night, you know they change shifts, the Malaika the change shifts, the veteran and us a shout engine shifts. Sunrise sunset.
Look at this. They will stand up. One of them will say shaitan today, I was after this Muslim whisper to him until I get him to kill this other Muslim.
Sit down. Great job. You did good shaitan I got him to smoke medical marijuana. I convinced him I got a shift to give him a fatwa.
He smoked and he got high and he didn't pray Good job. You name until this one stands up and he says I did not lemak xuejun was
I did not leave a husband and wife until I separated them.
You know He will say to him now.
You are my man you come out. You get the crown.
Because shaitan is very strategic. You know he is gonna live until the Day of Judgment iljin yamu tune in swell Jin mo tune his race. accept him. Like we have that gel. He's living someplace. We believe he's a human living someplace in an island or destiny with daddy. We believe that exception may shaitan. Like what is he was given that is fine until the day of judgment. So it's very strategic. You want to make sure brothers and sisters in Islam that he has weaker generations that he can work on because the natural course of action
for a child to be brought up in this world, is to be brought up in a family with this love, compassion.
Mercy between a man and a woman called husbands and wives, not boyfriends, not girlfriends, not people who happens to be together and they ended up with a baby. This is why Islam interfered with this. And this is why Islam focuses so much so much on this. Brothers and sisters in Islam. I do understand that the majority of you are married. But I'm talking to the brothers and the sisters who are not married yet. You still have a chance to initiate that relationship. On the right premise. On the right foundation, do it. But brothers and sisters in Islam, what happened if you get married? Hopefully you don't assume that I'm asking you to go and get trade and start over. That's not what
I'm asking you. What I'm asking you is let's reform ourselves. First. Let's fix ourselves. First. Let's fix our relationship with Allah subhanho wa Taala and this Bismillahi tala will lead our spouses to become better be Villa hidayatullah akuto kolyada
al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen
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brothers and sisters in Islam tarbiyah
for Muslims is totally different to Serbia.
Once it comes to non Muslims
and non Muslims Serbia is to bring up children who find harmony with the surroundings
in this world, that's the focus
go into the any dictionary, non Muslim dictionary and ask who what is the meaning of therapy?
They tell us about this world? bring up a child who is happy
even if you have to get some booze sometimes.
Even if you have to go and do some abnormal
Are you happy this way? Happy.
But look tarbiyah in Islam
tarbiyah in Islam, the scholars they say it goes around one verse,
one verse in Surah Karim you know what verse yeah levena menu
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Oh ye who believe protect yourselves and your
your wife, your children from the hellfire.
This is the objective of tarbiyah
your goal is not just to provide for them a nice housing, a nice car, nice meals, delicious meals, expensive clothes. No. Your goal is to build their spirituality to connect them with Allah subhanho wa Taala. You bring up generations who know who is who knows.
Who knows what Islam is. And they are proud of this. They are proud of this. Brothers and sisters in Islam. This oma specializes in this. In this in this making them a
10 of the next generation will lie this on mowing down
since we started failing this particular task, this particular test, and I'm telling you, we can cry over what is happening to the Muslims in Jerusalem, over what's happening to the Muslims in any part of the world. But for us to change the condition of the soma, we have to start from Dave, this is the forest area, we have to initiate the change. And this is what is meant in the law, her law you may be coming home, or you may be unforeseen, Allah subhanaw taala will never change the condition of an Ummah, until individuals change. And we understand that the family is the first brick in this oma, the Muslim family is the first brick in this oma now
tarbiyah in Islam is certainly to prepare your children to protect their hereafter, you prepare them to do so. And at the same time, this does not mean that we neglect their livelihood. Absolutely not. You're mistaken if you think that we want children who do not know the dounia do not know math, language arts, studies, whatever studies out there.
Brothers and sisters in Islam, we should not leave the resources in this world to the non Muslims, what they will do with it, they will use it to fight the religion and stop the deen of Allah from spreading. As we see, we see this unfolding before our eyes. So we should bring up generations who are able to process both. Now, the point I'm trying to make here in closing in Sharla, if the objective is different,
if Elvira is different,
if I'm going this way and they are going this way, can we use the same means like non Muslims
can we we can't you see the goal is that
they want donia kids, we want dunya and Ashura kids. So this is going to take you here. So we have to take two different paths, two different ways.
In closing to get to the point.
The scholars they say you must have three, functioning and underline that word functioning functioning institutions in order to develop children
who will protect their team and will protect the deen of Allah. The Deen will protect them and they will protect the deen of Allah subhana wa Taala brothers and sisters in Islam. The first one is the one that I already addressed the Muslim family and understanding between a husband and wife regarding the agenda. Just to give you a scenario that is very common now. A brother and sister who got married on a basis other than the religion
so by all the sudden the sister goes to Toronto, he
serious into the hotbed of this Imam who they say that he is so and so.
She goes home, she want to change now, her life
she hears the hotma Mashallah open her heart.
Now she want to become religious. This could also apply to the brother.
The scenario can go both ways. Any of the spouses. Now the sister wanna correct her life, rectify her deal. So now she starts praying, she wanna wear her hijab while Lloyd is happier. My husband doesn't want me to wear the hijab.
While law he will law he multiple times salovaara komachi. Chief, I married her she we never talked about hijab. That wasn't part of the deal.
That there is another there is another crisis here. You know what the crisis is? she wanna take the kids to the weekend school. Now, I'm not talking about the Christian view Academy. Full Time Islamic school. No, we're talking about what we can we can program or after school program checks. You want to bring up my kids to be terrorists.
While we hear this, all of this effect, that's why you have to choose the right spouse. So you have a common understanding about the agenda. What to come
What to follow brothers and sisters in Islam. Of course, the second institution is the machine where we are right now. But Alhamdulillah Allah has blessed us in Colorado, that we were able to come up with the ideal formula for machine. I'm telling you in America, from this time on
just a prayer is not enough. It's sad. So, you know, it's sad to say that because the incentive should be for anybody to come to the house of Allah, that any step that you take as soon as erased, and as soon as deleted. That's what review incentive. When you make in your house and you go to the house of Allah, every step that you take, a second is erased. And a Hashana is written, that should be the incentive, especially if you go out further in the
field messaggi binu return me Elmo piano give late glissading to those who walk to the massage at night, fetch on a piano, they will have light on the day after that's a big incentive. But I'm telling you unfortunately, that is not going to be the incentive for the next generation. You know, the incentive is gonna be a soccer game, martial arts, a karate game, basketball, and then you can drag them inside the masjid until they fall in love, gradually. And this is the concept that we have here Al Hamdulillah and though he may Allah bless you brothers, may Allah bless this community for making this happen. We have Mila hit our
brothers and sisters in Islam, it's very unfortunate that we find some of our elders get offended, or get disturbed by children running around in massages. And sometimes they actually yell at them. Sometimes they chase them out of the machine. I'm sorry, this is wrong. If we do not get them to like the massage it early in the lives, I'm telling you, they're not gonna come when they're old, they will not. Especially when a child is chased out beaten up sometimes by an elder. Yeah, there is etiquettes of coming to the masjid. And this is the responsibility of the parents, that you should keep your child next to you. Encourage them to be polite, give them incentive that I will give you a
lollipop shall take you to halaal McDonald's after the Juma if you sit next to me and don't make noise, any of that stuff. But at the end of the day, we have to work together to make our children love them. The third institution brothers and sisters in Islam is the school Islamic school. This is why I call upon you to support our school Islamic school here at Crescent view, give them the support, we need that school, we need to improve it, we need to make it better, we need to support it in sha Allah, these are the three institutions, we actually need to think about universities and all of this, these are the three institutions that we must have, as minority group living in overall
majority non Muslim community in order to have children who will protect their own Deen and that he will protect them by the law. I'm telling you brothers and sisters in Islam in closing, and I promise this is the last thing I'm gonna say. In closing, if you are not providing these three institutions for your child,
I'm telling you, or if the city is not providing these three
institutions for you, it's time to go.
Time to go somewhere else. Not necessarily out of the United States, another town, another city, while law allies may witness I know for brothers, who would make three figures in one town and they would move to another town and they would make maybe a third or half of what they used to make in the other town. Why? Because they have facilities for their kids because they want to protect the DNA of their wives and their children. There is a city that provides sure law they have to do Dean, Allah Allah Allah subhanho wa Taala says in the Medina TA.
O to FEMA kuntum Toluca mustafina follow the verses in saltiness. Indeed, those whom the angels come to see is the souls while they are in a state of disobedience. They are unable to protect the dean or the Dean of their children, the angel of death, or the angels will ask them to
die like this. Why are you doing this for yourself? Can mustafina fill up? We're outnumbered or unable to do it.
Look at lm talkin out
Boom Ah, he was here for two hydrophila Why didn't you go somewhere else?
Huh? You compromise the dean. You prefer that dunya over the dean. These are the things brothers and sisters in Islam. inshallah This message is to be continued with tomorrow, baby light Allah between Madrid Venetia, Baden Illa we'll talk more about the subject. A strong family will certainly lead to a stronger aroma. And this is what we should be after. Brothers and sisters in Islam, Allah McPhee, Leonard lubaina, Weiss, Rafi and Marina
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