The Guide To Wisdoms #1

Ammar Alshukry


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Hi, I'm the last last time I saw you law. This is a poem that was written 1000 years ago by a scholar from boost Avani Stan Abu al busty, so he's, he's attributed to boost a vine of Stein, which is southwest of limestone. He died in the year 401 After the Hedgehog, so were in the, in the 1400s so we're 1000 years later, and this poem is a 60 some odd poem 60 some odd line poem that's filled with wisdoms does aka love it. And it is called unwanted hiccup. It's called on one means the guide. In Arabic You call your what do you call your own one?

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Your address, right because your address does what it guides to your house without an address. How do I know how to get to your house? So the address guides to your house? So no one is the guide to wisdoms. And it's important for a person to study wisdoms.

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We're going to see here that in actuality there have been lots of

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poems ran about wisdoms. There's been lots of of books written about wisdom and wisdom is better than silver and gold. And how does a person gain wisdom? Allah Subhana Allah Tada says util sigma Tamiya. Sha. Allah says He gives wisdom to whoever he wishes, and whoever is given wisdom from an OTF Ayran cathedra. They've been given incredible goodness. So wisdom is incredible goodness, but the question then becomes how do you gain wisdom?

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You guys told me y'all are wise. How do you gain wisdom?

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life experience so experience is one of the best greatest teachers. Yes. And that's what you got. Oh.

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Okay, Mercy.

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Okay, opens the brain reading, right? Learning from the experience of other people. Yes.

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Being around people who have wisdom, absolutely. Right. So sitting in the company of the wise, you sit with idiots. You're going to be foolish. If you sit with people who are wise that wisdom is going to rub off on you hear us? Yes.

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Okay, go to an educational institution. And hopefully they will teach you wisdom. Absolutely. Yes.

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Absolutely. You ask Allah subhanaw taala. For wisdom, always one of the great the greatest tool in trying to seek something is to ask it from Allah. subhanaw taala? Yes. Just combing your hair.

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Oh, you're reflecting?

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Oh, through reflection. Absolutely. So reflection, absolutely. Journaling sitting down with your thoughts.

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Reflection. Absolutely. You know, unfortunately, we live in a time when people try to mute out any moment in time, where they could be introspective and reflective. So we walk around with our hair, our headphones, all the time. Anytime we're not engaged in something where we're listening to something, you know, people, even when they enter into the shower, they're listening to whatever it is that they're listening to. Right, every moment is filled. So you never actually get the chance to sit with yourself. And I once heard a person comment and say how can you get people to like you and you don't even like sitting with yourself? You don't like yourself, right? So sitting with you're

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sitting here with your own thoughts, sitting with your with yourself becomes an a great opportunity for wisdom.

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And here we're going to be studying poetry that is filled with wisdom. And this, you know, brings me to right from the get go. I think one of the things that we in the English language don't get to experience a lot is literature that teaches wisdom, specifically poetry books, there are a lot of books that teach wisdom, poetry. Do you guys have any poems that you you read growing up? That like spoke wisdom to you?

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Anything that comes to mind?

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Poetry for us? Yes. Were you are you going to say something? Poetry for us is? Yes.

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Fire, fire, fire and ice. Okay, very good.

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Khalil Gibran the prophet by Kahlil Gibran is that that's a novel isn't it? Is it a ball?

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So book a poem? Okay. Very good. Honey Gibran did he write in English or Arabic? Translated? The translation. Okay. Very good. Anything else that comes to mind?

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So amongst all of us, there's nothing right? But that speaks to something it speaks to the lack of of experience that we've had with things that are beautiful metered rhythmic that teach you wisdom. Unfortunately for us, we actually receive the opposite. We receive through mostly

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As you know, poetry for us is consumed in the form of music, whether it's popular music or other forms. And a lot of times, it's actually not wisdom. A lot of times it's ignorance. I read an article, or I saw a statement really recently, of someone who's considered to be one of the greatest hip hop artists of all time, he's in people's top 10 lists.

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And I was so disappointed in the article because he talked about why he doesn't rap anymore. And he said, The reason why I don't rap anymore is because hip hop is supposed to be for young people. He said, You have to be hip. And to be hip, you have to be young. And so I thought that was such a disappointing answer, irrespective of the position on music. My point is, is that as a genre, something that is such a major cultural influence in the United States, never gets to benefit from the wisdom of those who have experience. So the guy who is rapping about foolishness in his 20s, and talking about nonsense in his 20s, when he gets his 30s, and 40s. And he realizes that now he

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actually the things that he was rapping about in his 20s is nonsense. And now he has that audience that he's built. And he can actually teach them that you know, what, what I taught you is not true. And there are things like family and there is things like building actual wealth, and there are things like community. Now he's like, I don't have anything to talk about anymore. Right. And I found that to be just such a disappointing approach. But in any case,

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wisdom is better than was. Wisdom is better than silver and gold. So we're going to begin with

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almost the yes, the poem

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it will help

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keep it away from

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multifeed Nanya. Song, why no one

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have been

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okay, right here, sorry, good luck, okay, we're gonna do a lot of stuff and go, I don't mean to mess up your flow. But

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the bars, right, that was just unexpected, unexpected.

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Hum, Hamdulillah. Now, but it was a lot of fun. I started translating this yesterday. And so for me, poetry has to be translated into poetry. So it goes like this. It goes, a person increasing in the dunya is decreased, and any profit other than pure goodnesses loss. And every existence that isn't permanent really means in reality, that it isn't worth the cost. So he speaks immediately about the issue of the dunya, we're going to see his introduction is going to be an introduction about the dunya even before he gets to his advice. He's telling you about the nature of the place that you're in. And so he says, yeah, the tamari feed dunya, who knows, son, that a person increasing in this

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dunya is loss.

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Now, is that absolute, that every time a person increases in the dunya, that you're losing? No, that's not absolute. But it is the case for a lot of people that the more invested they become in the dunya, the more they do it at the expense of their asset. And the person who is wise, the person who's intelligent, they know how to use the dunya as a stepping stone for the hereafter. They don't have to separate between the two. A lot of times you ask the question, how do I balance between my dunya? And my asset? How do I balance between my junior and Maya, the Sahaba didn't have to balance between the dunya and NASA, the Sahaba saw the dunya as their pathway to the axilla they weren't

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people who didn't have jobs. No, they weren't. They weren't people who didn't tend to their families. No, they believe that that was one of the greatest means for them to seek nearness to Allah subhana data being providers. But what they were able to do is number one, they didn't let the dunya distract them from their religious obligations. So they didn't let work distract them from the salah. They didn't let work distract them from the things that Allah Subhana Allah obligated them on. But at the same time,

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they saw the dunya and they were able to manipulate their intentions to make the dunya that the experience for the sake of Allah subhanaw taala. And that's a huge, huge chapter in the field of intentions. The wives are able to make their their basic actions, their routine actions, they're able to turn them into rituals. So the province that Elijah sent him says everything that you do is sadaqa even the morsel that you place in the in the mouth of your of your wife.

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I mean, that is a very, very non ritualist

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The gesture is a it's a romantic gesture, it's a husband and their wife, husband and his wife, but yet the province of the light is set up says Even that can be a charity. If a person is simply cognizant of the fact that this is pleasing to Allah subhanaw taala and that's the reason why they do it. And so, a person who is always thinking about pleasing Allah subhana wa Tada their routine becomes ritual their routine becomes worship, rather than the general the Allahu he has an amazing statement. He says, in the law, this evil nomadic people call me, he says, I expect reward for my sleep, like I expect reward for my, my family. Like when I go to sleep, I'm expecting to be rewarded

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for that sleep. Why is he expecting to be rewarded for that sleep because he doesn't just collapse on his bed at the end of a hard day's work. He is intentional about why he's sleeping, I am sleeping because I need to wake up tomorrow morning, he was a judge, I need to wake up and I need to be well rested, to be able to judge between people fairly. And so that sleep becomes an act of worship, right. And so that intentionality with regards to your routine makes it ritual. And so a person can use the dunya to increase in the dunya they can increase in the dunya and it can continue to benefit them in the hereafter. So the shift statement is not to be taken in absolute terms.

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So he then says,

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Well, who filleted him I have the fader for Serrano,

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he says every prophet that is not in pure goodness is at a loss. And everything that is not permanent, really is too expensive, a cost I eat that

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you take the greatest pleasures in this life.

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Are they permanent?

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The greatest pleasures, everything that we spend our lives chasing, one of the biggest problems that people have is that upon reaching their greatest goals in life,

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that that happiness is temporary. And now they have to go and find something else. And so he says everything in this dunya is transient everything. So if a person invest all of their eggs in this transient existence, then in reality, they're at a loss. Your life is so expensive, your life was created to only purchase Jannah that is the only exchange that is a fair exchange that this life be used to in exchange for agenda so anything that a person uses their life for for anything less than Jana becomes Pusan? It is a loss

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me prepare for

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Big Destiny more to

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be learned.

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So then he says, he says, Yeah, I'm Rhonda Karabi. Daddy, mujtahid, belie helpless. And I will say,

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I'm Ron, so he says us trying to fix a home that is ruined by Allah. Is there anyone who'd like to fix the ruined life as well? If there was anything broken in our house, it's a fence. It's broken. We got to fix it. If it's a door that's broken. We've got to fix that we spend our days and nights building out these houses of ours.

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He says, What about fixing a broken life? Right. I don't have a fence that's broken. But I have a faith that's broken. Or I have a period of my life where I was broke it shouldn't I work on fixing that?

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A man came to it has an old buddy and it hasn't been busted. He asked him and he said How old are you? He said I'm 60 years old. He said to him, you've been journeying to Allah for 60 years.

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You've been journeying to Allah for 60 years. You might meet him soon. And the man said in that Allah who are in a hurry Roger on to Allah, we belong to Him, we return and then he said to him, do you know what you're saying? Do you know what that means? He said, Yes. It means that I'm the slave of Allah, I'm Allah's property, and I'm gonna return to him. So he said, so if you know that you're a slave, the know that you're going to be held accountable. And if you're going to be held accountable,

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know that you're going to be asked, and if you're going to be asked and you better have an answer for

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Perry response,

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the man said, so what should I do?

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Male healer he says What should I do? He said to him,

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be righteous, be good in what remains of your life. What has preceded will be forgiven, as well as what remains.

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A person fixes their life by repenting to Allah Subhana Allah for what they've done, and being committed to Allah Subhana Allah that is in your journey, whatever your journey remains of your life to Allah subhana wa Tada. And the scholars have said

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that whoever enters into their 40s, they said, Men, Bella, Alabama and Florida as well as the law, whoever enters into their 40s they've entered into the marketplace of the hereafter. If you can imagine a person's life because the problem is someone might as Adam said that the lives of his own lies between their 60s and 70s. Okay, so 60s and 70s. So a person, if you divide up your person's life, let's say 60 years old into three, the first marketplace is the marketplace of, of simply learning about this world, you spend the first 20 years of your life getting educated, and the next 20 years of your life you spent getting established, getting married, getting jobs, buying homes,

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whatever it is that a person does. And then the last 40 years 20 years of that person's life, the scholar said, that person has entered into the marketplace of the Hereafter. This is the time for a person now so

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you guys are giving me morbid faces. But

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you know, we all know that death isn't promised anybody we had a show tell us about his cousin who passed away at 17 years old. May Allah Subhana Allah have mercy on him and those who are swimming with them. We all were shaken by the news of Shahab the look, Ahmed mo law passed away at the age of 39 years old last week, you know, worldwide renowned reciter of the Quran passes away in his sleep in the middle of the day. So that's the idea, right? The more a person, we don't remember that so much as Muslims because of a sense of morbidity, but because it gives our life urgency, you realize you're grateful for every day that you have. And you realize that if you repent to Allah Subhana

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Allah and if you're serious about your journey with him, then the good news is Allah subhanaw taala forgives what has preceded and Allah Subhana Allah forgives what remains

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be learned

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They're useful.

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First off

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so he basically continues saying,

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Oh, you who's covetous and trying to continue to gain wealth? Haven't you realized that seeking wealth brings sorrow and dread, seeking wealth, bring sorrow and dread. So the promise on the light itself, he gives this incredible example of people who are always seeking wealth and seeking status. And he says that there is no if you starve to wolves, and you unleashed them into a group of sheep, those wolves would not do more damage than a person's desire for money and status does for their deed. I want you to imagine ravenous wolves unleashed on a flock of sheep, what they would do, and the province of Allah said them gives this example for the person who's always seeking fame and

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fortune, these two things, because if a person does not fear Allah subhanho data with regards to this and if a person doesn't feel any sort of contentment, then that person will do incredible things for the purpose of these two items. And that's why the Romans hooked up when he was asked about a man, do you know this person?

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And the man said, Yes, I know comes to the mysteries all the time. Bla bla bla, and then he said to him, okay, hold on a second. Have you traveled with him? The man said, No. He said, have you done business with him? He said, No. He said, Have you lived with him? He said, No, he said, then you don't know.

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Why does he say do business with him? Because business and the desire for money makes people who are quote unquote, religious, turns them into oops.

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You can have that brother, he comes to Salah all the time, no problem comes to the message all the time. First row all the time, sisters very righteous, but when you start dealing with them with money, money is a completely different level. It is a game changer. And so

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when a person for the love of money sacrifices, their deed, there are a few things that are more disastrous.

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first thought

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warm up jam. Yes. So he says empty the heart of the dunya and it's adornments. Its purity is contaminated. And what it connects is this joints. And listen attentively to examples that are have filtered like rubies and pearls by the one who filters selects and appoints. He says empty your heart from the dunya. That's it, that a person empty their heart from the dunya the province of allied SLM was asked

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What is something I can do that will make people love me and Allah Subhana Allah, Allah loves me. He said, it's hard to be dunya your ebook Allah, He said have zoomed in the dunya, Allah Subhana Allah, Allah will love you. And so it is one of those really difficult to translate words Xerte ZUHD is a word that we're just going to have to bully into the English language, because asceticism isn't going to cut it. You've never used asceticism in a sentence,

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except when you're translating it. So zealot is when a person is not attached to the dunya.

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zealot is a person whose heart is empty of the dunya. It does not mean that a person does not have money in their hand. But it means that money is in their hands and it's not in their heart. The Promise of Allah they said to him was the greatest zakat when he had money in his hands. That's an item and I find was a great zakat. But he had money in his hands, it six of the 10 were promised paradise had money. We don't have a problem with money. Money is a magnifier of what is in a person's heart. So if a person's heart is filled with love of the dunya, then money is just going to magnify it. And if a person's heart is detached from the dunya, than the province of Elijah send

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them says How excellent is wealth in the hands of a righteous man. How excellent is wealth in the hands of a righteous man. It just magnifies the goodness that that person's heart wants to do. So he says, Be careful of the dunya for Safa, caddoan, because what is Sofie of the dunya? What is pure of the dunya is Kadar, it's murky, it's cloudy. The best experiences in the dunya.

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They are

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contaminated, they're corrupted. You're never completely happy people in their most happiest of moments. They're worried about asset don't take a picture of me in this moment right now. Right? We are always worried about something there's always something there to impinge on the purity of our happiness and the purity of that moment. And so he says the dunya

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I mean, that's the Astra. That's Jana, when as Anna Matthews will do to him in real one and Allah Suri Mohabbatein. Allah says We removed all negative energy from their hearts. They are brothers on cushions facing each other, the opposite. Gender is where all of that perfection comes to exist. Yes. And then he says, now he says, I'm going to begin giving you some, some wisdoms. This was all his introduction. He's like, No, I'm gonna give you some wisdoms that I filtered for you like pearls are filtered like ornaments are filtered.

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Very good. So, his first advice, would you we could spend the rest of the night on but inshallah we won't.

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Fasten alienness have a son to people.

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To stop it. You will make out you will enslave kotoba of their hearts. For fall. I'm a starboard and Santa. Paula starboard and inside Exxon. How long? Has it Sun excellence, enraptured people's hearts and insulate people's hearts like it has been? It's been happening for forever that Sun has been. Now he says that sin alienness. He says, have a salad. Well, first of all, what is your son?

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The province of Elijah Selim defined that sign in the hadith of Gibreel. He says that you worship Allah as if you see him and if you don't see him that you know that he sees you. And the province of Elijah send them tells us in the Hadith as reported by Muslim, he says, Allah Subhana Allah to Allah has prescribed Hassan upon everything, everything.

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Sir, this level of excellence is required.

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In everything that we do

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and when you show signs to people, they can't help but love you. They cannot believe you. If you show good to people all the time, even if they don't like you

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You ended up winning them over.

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Allah Subhana Allah Allah says whether it is still has an A to a let's say it bility acid. Allah subhanho wa Taala he says the good and the evil are not the same. Repel with what is greater. What happens when you show goodness with acid you always show people that which is better son. They insult you and you smile they insult you and they wronged you and you do right by them you do better by them

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for either lady Boehner Cobain who Odawa Allah says, Well, you would have been the one who between you and them is enmity the one who hates you. They will turn into a woody an active protector

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why not? Why am I Yoda? Ileana Sabo Allah says but the only people get to experience that transformation are people is a Latina, somebody you have to endure there has to be patience there. On day one, they might not like you on day two, they may not like you on day 10 They may not like you on day 100 They may not like you but you continue to show goodness eventually sha Allah to Allah they will turn around. When are you gonna die love Allah who have the Nadim, Allah says, and the only good ones who get to experience that transformation are those who and you know this verse. I've told you guys I'm sure this before but this verse, it always reminds me of one particular person.

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Who is that person?

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Can nobody knows good. I didn't tell you this before that. Muhammad Ali Rahim, Allah the champ. This verse always reminds me of him because he was hated. At one point in time, he was the most hated person in America, they stripped him of his championship. They you know, he was a black Muslim at a time when Black Muslims were hated and vilified and scared. People were scared up, and he was very braggadocious. And he was proud. My name not yours, my color, not yours, my religion, not yours. But guess what? He continued to show incredible charisma, kindness, generosity.

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Like he didn't turn into this person who met fire with fire, but he continued to show the beauty of his own character. And so, you know, even white, you go on white talk shows and he would talk to them, and he would be as endearing and as charismatic and as genuine as we all know him to be. And so eventually, over time, what ends up happening when finally, the Rumble in the Jungle, the jungle happens in Zaire. And he, you know, defeats George Foreman and he knocks George Foreman down. Howard Cosell, the announcer he says something that I've never heard said about any boxer, ever. You can watch the you can watch it yourself. He goes, he's done it. The great man has done it

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says the great man has done it. Not the boxers that are not the greatest fighter of all time. He says the great man has done it, son to start with kuruva home. Now here's an important point. The chef here is saying if you show SR to people, you will enslave your hearts. Now we don't show signs of people to enslave people's hearts. The person says okay, this is the formula for people to like me. So, right because these are intentions and intentions have to be done for the sake of Allah. So I shall assign to people because Allah Subhana Allah loves so

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whether it enraptures their heart or does it because guess what, there are going to be some people who you show a son to.

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And it doesn't capture their heart.

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Inside captures the hearts of a person who is noble, a person who is good, a person who has good qualities. But they say Alexa established they carried it in raptures, the heart of the kitty is the person who is noble, but a person who's a jerk, a loser, a person who has bad character, that person, you show them all of the sign in the world.

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And it only increases them in distance. They don't appreciate goodness when they experience it. And I think we've all experienced people who are like that, you show them goodness, they don't say thank you, you show them goodness, they don't appreciate it. It only makes them more entitled The Roli makes them more aggressive. It only makes them more rude. So this is also not absolute. But again, it is something that we seek because it Sun is something that Allah subhanaw taala loves. What are three spheres

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of sun, that the Muslim community in Houston

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should work on perfecting

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three spheres of SI. Now I want you to pay attention to this and maybe we'll do it after motive because it's going to be an intense discussion. But he says asked him in a nurse. He says have excited to who?

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The people not the young and not the old, not the Muslim and the non Muslim. He says to everybody now

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Not the rich and not the poor. He says acid Illa NAS, be good to all people show Ehsaan to all people and in doing that you will enrapture their hearts.

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Okay, so I want to just end with I mean, again, this sad thing can be a very long discussion, but I just want to mention a few points on sn this idea of excellence. Number one is that if someone is independent of a person's economic status, we see use of it is that um story in Surah Yusuf, he is approached by prisoners in jail and they say, Can you please interpret this dream for us in America, we see you to be off and martini, we see you to be able to people, and he's a prisoner like them. But they're like, You seem like a person of USA. Why because of the excellence that Youssef manifested and showed, even in prison. And then we fast forward, Yousef is you know, in charge of

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the agriculture of Egypt, and his brothers show up and they say, Can you please help us in America, we see you to be of the Massini same words are used. So use of it instead of a sign is independent of his circumstances, external circumstances do not affect his character, his integrity, his excellence, his Ehsaan you should be of the scene whether you're a student, whether you're a staff member, whether you're the manager, whether you're the CEO, whether you're the parent, whether you're the child, whether you're the sibling, no matter what that sign should be a constant aspect of your character. And then another manifestation of His son is to do your work well, to do your

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work well, in the province of Allah it is and then he says in the law, your Hebrew either I'm at home island and you Cana report by the Bay have to he says that Allah subhana, Allah loves that if one of you does something that they do it well.

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And it has nothing to do with the one who's receiving it. You're doing it because of who you are, not because of who they are. And Al Manawa, he mentioned the story.

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He says that there was a Muslim, he was a craftsman. And someone had asked him to make something. And so he made it. But he cut corners. Maybe the guy wasn't paying him that much. And so he cut corners, and he just kind of hurry it up, and he did it. And then he gave it to him. And the man was happy with it. But this guy who made it, he couldn't sleep.

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And so finally he remade it. And then he went to the guy found him and said, I've made you another one. Give me back the one that I made for you. He's like, why it's perfect. It's fine. He's like, No, it's not.

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And then he said,

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Anyone who does not perfect their work, has not shown gratitude to what Allah has taught them.

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Anyone who doesn't perfect their work has not shown gratitude to what ALLAH SubhanA data has taught them. If Allah Subhana Allah has given me the talent, the skills, the ability, the the

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the knowledge to be able to do something with Yesod and then I don't do it, then I haven't shown gratitude to Allah subhanaw taala and it is incredibly ugly when a person who has potential and ability falls short well model a trophy NASA even cannot sell Catarina idol Come on.

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I have not seen in people a deficiency, like the deficiency of the one who's able to be perfect.

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It's ugly. When you have a person whose potential is an eighth a student and they're getting C's, you're not going to talk to them, like the person who's getting C's. And you can tell C's is the best they're gonna do. Right? Like that's like amazing for them. Right? They're overachieving. The person who's underachieving at C's is not like the person who's overachieving SES. Okay, well model intravenous Eva. Anyway, so these are some manifestations of ESSA. Okay, so then the question becomes, what's the difference between Ehsaan and Taqwa Taqwa is that a person shields themselves from the punishment of Allah subhana data aside is that you worship Allah subhana data as if you see

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him Taqwa is an act when it comes to staying away from the prohibition prohibitions. Whereas Hassan has nothing to do with prohibitions aside has to do with the quality of the acts of worship that you do that you're always increasing it because you know that Allah subhanaw taala is watching you. Yeah, so Assad, the province of the lightest have said, it's that you worship Allah as if you see him and if you don't see him that you know that he sees you, so that's going to increase the quality of everything that you do. So she gave the example of eyeshadow the Alana she's giving sadaqa and Ayesha used to perfume her sadaqa their gold coins, she would perfume them and she would say it's

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it's falling in the hands of Allah before it falls in the hands of the person. So she's interacting with Allah subhanaw taala. I will read all of the law and who he used to make will vote and we don't copy over Herrera in this but he used to extend his window up until his the middle of his biceps and used to extend his window up until the middle of his shin and the reason why he did that is because

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As he said, the Prophet sallallahu sallam said that these parts of your body are going to be illuminated on the Day of Judgment. So Buddha said, Whoever of you has the ability to extend his illumination and let him do so. So the point here is that Abu Huraira, while he's making will do is not just making will do, like many of us make will do most of the time, which is just, you know, kind of getting through it. But he's connecting this act of well, due to the light that I'm going to have on the Day of Judgment. He's mindful of that. And so he's actually interacting with his will do, according to what he's expecting to experience on the Day of Judgment, it's a much higher level,

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it's a much higher quality of worship. And so the more a person is able to be mindful of who you're interacting with who you're worshiping. Absolutely. And increases your Si.

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Four. Okay. So

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and the reason why is because those two verses, Yeah, ha, the magician, the Oh, yeah, who's serving his,

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his body or describing the meta he, it's almost like,

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it's two verses, the other versions do not have and it doesn't really fit the context of what's being spoken about. He just spoke about this idea of it aside, and he's talking about your soul. So him to just all of a sudden be talking about your body doesn't really fit. The next line is better. And this is what

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should say that comedy mentions in his shot have this. So the point here is the next one is he says, we're in so if someone wrongs you, you're showing all of the sign in the world. You're showing all of the sign in the world to people. And then what happens if someone wrongs you?

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It's okay. He says failure could look a fear or does he let his soft horn with a frown? Which lines? Did you skip?

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No, no, don't worry, those. Those are the ones that I'll say, Yep. So he says, and if someone wrongs you, then let yourself be in the scope of their mistake over looking at forgiving.

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I'm showing all of this assigned to people and someone still wrongs me. He says when people wronged you, you know what you should do?

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Make an example of them.

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Cut off your relationship with them. Cancel that? No, he says forgive them.

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says forgive them.

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overlook their false.

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I had a friend for 15 years and then they wronged me. So I'm never going to talk to them again. Hello, OS, you're dead to me.

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Okay, so now you make a new friend, that new friend that you make, that you replace this friend with? Or they never gonna wrong, you

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they're gonna wrong you. So then what are you gonna do with that friend?

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cancel them too. And then what are you going to end up with no friends.

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Eventually, you're gonna end up with no friends.

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So he says when someone wrongs you, because that's the nature of human beings overlook their faults. The prophets of Allah they send them he says in a hadith he says that the believer and leather you highly to NASware spirit, Allah, the believer who mixes with people, and endures their harm, yes, but either home endures their harm, is better than the believer who doesn't mix with people and doesn't endure their harm. And I'm amazed that the province that Elijah is and then paired these two things together, mixes with people and endures their heart, as if to say for you to mix with people.

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necessary consequence,

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necessary consequences that you're going to endure harm.

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You are going to incur harm, whether you endure it or not, is up to you. When he says that the believer who mixes with people and endures their harm is better than the believer was like, I'm done with people, I, I want my peace of mind. I don't want to interact with I'm not coming to the message anymore. I'm not dealing with this community anymore. Endure people's harm. Human beings are imperfect, which means that some of that imperfection is going to be experienced by you. It's going to manifest in a slight it's going to manifest in an insult. It's going to manifest in a fight, it's going to manifest in a lot of different things. Being wronged financially being wronged in your

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honor being wronged and all of that that's gonna come from people and

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you are to forgive

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and have resilience have a little bit of a thick skin. We have to have it with each other. We have to be able to overlook each other's faults. We have to be able to forgive and move on. Otherwise, you're not going to have anybody around you. And in reality, you know, I remember somebody one time when he was here in Houston, he came

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and someone asked him a quick

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She was at Dallas center. And he asked him and said,

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I'm done with the Muslim community.

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Because and I don't even want to be Muslim anymore because I have only experienced harm from Muslim community.

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So he said to him, if you leave the Muslim community and you go hang around to the non Muslim community, you're not going to experience harm?

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Or is that just part and parcel of dealing with human beings so you'll find some aliens?

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Maybe they won't harm you.

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But anything else, or anyone else, you're going to experience harm for them. And so when you experience harm for them, what should you do? You should overlook and forgive? People always ask the question then and they say, Okay, do I forgive? Does that mean that you forget? No, it doesn't mean that you forget, it doesn't mean that you forget it doesn't mean that you get taken advantage of again and again and again. But it means that I it depends on what the mistake is. Right? And everything is to be dealt with accordingly. Someone has wronged me financially and someone's stolen from me, I'm not going to give them money again.

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But if it's something where a person is repented, and it's something where I am in control,

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that absolutely and one of the greatest examples of both forgiveness and the ESA

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in the seal of the province, Allah Allah Allah salah, is Mr. Han Abu Bakr.

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Mr. Has the cousin of Abu Bakr

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and overwork is spending money on Mr. He's supporting him financially.

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And when the slander happens against Russia, and people are speaking about what they have no knowledge of mr. is one of the people spreading that rumor, literally biting the hand that feeds you. And he's your family member, like Miss thought is the person who should be out of everybody going to war on behalf of bucketing his family he's literally spending money on you. And Mr. hunts that is spreading rumors about Aisha literally the honor and dignity of Abu Bakr, his daughter.

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And so when finally, the verses of salt and Nauru revealed, declaring ashes innocence.

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I will walk along the line who says I'm never going to help Mr. haggin.

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You could imagine the disappointment the hurt the betrayal of the anger of Ababa, Colombia.

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And Allah subhana data says,

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I let not those who are given

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SAF staff comfort wealth. Let them not avoid spending on their relatives Well, yeah for well yes for how

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long? And let them overlook and let them forgive. Do you not wish for ALLAH SubhanA data to forgive you?

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And so what can immediately when it's phrased like that, he's like, of course I would love for Allah Subhana Allah forgive me. So one equation that a person can always or what exercise the person could always practice when it comes to this issue of forgiveness, is that you ask yourself and say, if by forgiving this person, Allah would forgive me what I forgive them.

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And if the answer is yes, then forgive them.

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So he says an always be assistant, always be a tool of assistance for those who have hope, in your assistance for the noble are quick to assist for the noble are quick to assist. But let's keep going. He says, What could add a daddy marijuana be the Amylin?

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He says he says and be a marijuana. Marijuana in Arabic is cathedra own. It's someone who is incredibly helpful. This form this grammatical form is called Ms. And Ms. Il is is in Allah it is a word that is used for a tool. And so this form if Iran for example,

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the tool that is used to open things is called Mytho. The tool that is used

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for C work is called miswak. The tool that is used for weighing yourself or weighing something is called Mi Zahn. Okay, so that Greg grammatical form. So he says,

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he says be someone who is a tool of assistance

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for those who have hope in your assistance for a whole row, and who wrote marijuana, a person who is noble, for an Arabic means what it means free but it also means noble Kadeem, okay, so you say Fulani means like this person is generous, this person

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as noble this person is good. So he says, For the noble are helpful,

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I II, be as helpful as you can to people. That's what he's telling us to be, be as helpful as you can. Any help that you can provide people be that person,

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even above the law, and he has a beautiful statement, an amazing statement. He says there are four people that I'm not able to repay the cousin of the prophesies that he says there are four people, well, I'm never going to be able to replay. Number one, a person who precedes me and set up a person who says that they come to me before I said it, I said, I'm gonna go to them. That's number one. Number two, a person who made space for me in a gathering.

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We really belittle that until you go and you sit in a circle where nobody makes space for you.

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And then you get the value of a person just shifting a little bit to the side, I think that happened to me yesterday, or the day before. Or the day before that I don't remember

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what it was like it was like, like, just nobody made room.

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So that just that gentle gesture of you know, we're in a circle, there's somebody sitting outside the circle, let's make space for that person. Okay. And then he said, number three, a person whose feet got dusty, walking around to do something for me, somebody who went and did something for me, he's like, I'll never be able to repay this person. And then he said, number four, he said, This person can this fourth one can only be thanked by Allah, I have no idea. I have no ability to repay this person. They said, Who is this fourth person, he said someone who had an issue that kept them up all night.

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Something that they were worried about a problem.

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And then the next day, they came to me with it. They fought me worthy of their problem.

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That perspective of the person who comes to you seeking your assistance. It is a great testimony on their behalf of what they think of you that they came to you with their problem. Because people don't come normally people don't come to people who don't, they don't think they can solve their problems. Normally, they go to people who they think are qualified, able, competent, skillful, whatever it is, right. And so it's actually a praise, it is a testimony to you, when a person comes asking you for assistance. And so he says that person will never be able, I can't thank him. Only Allah subhanaw taala can thank that person. And so always trying as best as you can to be helpful

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and assist other people. A lot of the a lot who asked the Prophet Elijah send them and Hadith in Bukhari and Muslim, he says, A ulama, what action is best, and the prophets of Allah do send them he says,

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belief in Allah and jihad in his path. And then he says, And what, what?

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What slave is best to be freed?

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When you're emancipating people who's the best to emancipate, he said, The one who's the most expensive and most beloved to his master, the one that's going to cost you the most. And then he says,

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What if I can't do that? What if I can't free anybody? What if I can't do any of these actions? So he says, to me, you know, saw the ad, he says that you help somebody who's an artist, man, you help somebody create something. And then he said, and what if I can't do that?

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He said, The crucial blocker and Enos for inner sadaqa to Minka. He says, If you can't help people at any good, you can't free slaves, you can't assist in anything. You you have nothing positive to contribute. There's still something that you can contribute to people, you can still be helpful in some way, you know, that way to be helpful. Oh, and this is one that's so important. It's really one that we should all jot down, because you are going to come across somebody very soon who you're going to meet to share this with the province of Elijah, send them went up with that awesome, but what if I can't do this? What if I can't do this? What if I can do this, he said, keep your evil to

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That will be a sadhaka that you give on yourself. It is a certificate that you spend on yourself.

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Keep your negativity to yourself.

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Keep your lack of belief to yourself. Keep your criticism to yourself.

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Keep all of that to yourself.

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If you can't be somebody who is helping people do things, then at least don't be somebody who's stopping people from doing things. If you can't assist, then at the very least do not harm.

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And if you intentionally not harm people, keep silent, not criticize all of that type of stuff. It becomes a sadhaka that you give. It becomes a socket that you get

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what's truly going on.

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fun in

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TV, Wyatt Feeny show, man.

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So let me keep going here. He says and what to the data we have the customer and hold fast to the rope of Allah Kostina holy class to it. He says, In Karnataka outcome, because it is the needs of support when all means of support, fail to exist.

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holdfast for the rope of Allah that's the rope of Allah there Oh from Allah as the Quran, the rope of Allah subhana that is a sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi salam, the rope of Allah is the the messenger himself holding fast to the rope of Allah because that is what stays fast with every other means of support disappears. Everything else lets you down with the Quran doesn't so know the progress a little lightest and it doesn't. But not only that, it's going to continue and it's going to come back and then he says and have Taqwa of Allah. Because Tough luck the consequences of Taqwa. Artpace, working. The consequences of Taqwa are good, you know top one

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the prophets of Allah they have sent them was asked, what is the action that brings people most to paradise? And he said, tequila and good character.

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And what's beautiful about Islam is that the message of Islam is so consistent. The prophets in one verse or what any is asked what is the thing that brings the most people to paradise and he's a statement good character.

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Where does the Quran command Taqwa? Everywhere? Everywhere you hear it? And

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you hear it in the

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sorry, you shouldn't worry about. You hear it in the

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in the hope of every week, Allah Subhana Allah says yeah, oh, are you here? Yeah, you had Nice.

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Again, and again and again. They come after a tough one.

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What is the consequence of gumbo is that Allah Subhana Allah, God is with you. Allah subhana God is with you in the dunya always making for you a week of losses. We'll be talking later and

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we have zoom in every day. Whoever has stuck with me must have handled handles provide from never way up. And he will he will give them from where they didn't expect. That what was handled, I will deal with you in the grave, ALLAH SubhanA that will be with you on the Day of Judgment. Until finally Allah subhanaw taala is with you in Jeddah in Egypt, not in FEMA, the medic in Malta. Allah subhanaw taala says at the end of sorrows and mustard, Hannah says let the people of Taqwa will be in Gardens and Rivers in the company of a glorious King. medicae machteld in full of ability for the people of Taqwa Washington has been founded in the dunya

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with ALLAH SubhanA, Lygon and BAFO. And he's stuck love. Its consequences are always good. The prophets of Allah, they said, I'm gonna give you advice of Stark Law to my immediate well, when he asked him, he said, have stopped overlock wherever you're

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at stasis. And oh my god, we just came out of the great school of Taqwa. And so he says,

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it will protect you, it will protect you from the harm of everybody. And then let's do our last line. Now. He says, well, at least

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is me being

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single and

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he says, Whoever seeks help and other than Allah subhanaw taala that they're massive. Their supporter is simple humiliation and loss.

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The promise of a lot is in them. We saw a man once with a talisman. 1000 we had that lease, okay.

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And the province of Allah Islam, he says, Man, I'm not ashamed and walking and eating, whoever hags something, they will be left to that thing.

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A person who has something thinking that this will benefit them or harm them. He says, Whoever had something, it will be.

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You'll be left for that thing to take care of you. And you see this, unfortunately, in many places, even in the Muslim world, people hanging all sorts of amulets for protection. So now you've been left to that protection instead of Allah subhanaw taala protecting you that blue hat or that weird eye thing or whatever that thing is protecting you. And we all know that it doesn't protect. It doesn't present. People that asked the question they said hold on a second, but I have a Federalist

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Is that a lot for me to have? Well, there are two types. There are two types.

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Many people and I've seen this many times over my life, when they open up the database, they find that it is weird symbols and sorcery and magic.

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And they're shocked.

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And if you have one, feel free to open it, just don't read it out loud. And you won't be able to read it out loud anyway, because historically the languages that are

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not legible. So that's number one. And then number two.

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So that's definitely not a lot. That ship, it's not a lot.

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Then the second type of batteries is one in which it is Quranic verses. And if it is poetic verses then it can't be sure because it's the thought.

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And I would love the sun and how many minutes he used to hand verses on Koran or on his children. So not only is it not haram, it's something that the Senate used to do.

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So however, we're a small minority, it was our of course. But I would still tell you not to do

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you know what? Because if you make sure 100% You're sitting there, you're watching the guy, grab your tallies, and you told them just I had to go see and that's it and he writes it for you, and then you go and you hang it.

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You are that inspiring somebody else to go get it that leaves me

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at that person, are they going to be as diligent as you?

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A lot of times, they just go they get that reason.

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Right. And so the idea of it being something that's sponsored, supported, promoted, is not something that I wouldn't support at all. I would, in fact, warn people from hanging that wheezes on their bodies, make the thought that's what the Quran was there for. Recite the verses, so don't just hanging around is meant to be recited. It's not meant to be Loggins and Allah kind of values.

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He says, but not only that, whoever is seeking assistance that others have a look

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at, he says, it's going to be failure, that failure is that a person goes left and right, you're looking left and right. And they never look up. To ask ALLAH SubhanA that prophets of Allah Aeneas and and told them, I told to let them pass, he says, Give us the answers. And he met with the status that we love, we seek the help of anybody seeking help. Allah

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says, Allah did not pay if he makes the beautiful statements that are under this, he says that if you find yourself raising your hands in doing that, in that moment, you shouldn't be overjoyed. Because Allah subhanho data did not inspire you to ask instead of because he wanted to give you

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there are lots of people who are sick, they never raised their hands or lots of people who are poor, they never raised their hands, there are lots of people who are broken, they never raise their hands. So if ALLAH SubhanA data inspires you to ask, then it's all because he wanted to give ALLAH SubhanA diamonds verse was that we had this section on the show.

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If there are any questions, we'll take Michelle or otherwise.

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In the very beginning, we're talking about the vignette. So I know that, you know, sonically it's perfectly fine to have money, spend your money. But I also feel like sometimes there can be access as far as like, some of the parties, there's like piggyback desserts and that sort of thing. So I'm just wondering like, and then everybody always says, well, it's subjective, because your money to someone else seems excessive. So is there any kind of guideline? Is there a guideline to sort of what's in regard to what's called extravagance, this law? Is there a guideline? So let's say for example, a $500,000 wedding is that extravagant? Yeah. Okay. What if? What if

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we, just last year we watched the royal wedding, Prince

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Harry, and was that last year?

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We have two kids.

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So whenever that royal wedding was five years ago, let's say it was five years ago.

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COVID is automatically three years.

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If you found out that that British wedding cost $500,000. Would that sound extravagant to you?

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the British royal wedding was $500,000. No, that's right. And the reason why it's because exactly that it is relative to everybody. If if Warren Buffett you found out Warren Buffett was driving a $20,000 car would you think not 20,000 or $200,000 car you think that it's dropping it for a guy who's worth over a billion dollars

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but you might have another guy who has a

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Extra $20,000 car and it's incredibly extravagant because he can't afford it. Right? It's way over budget for him. You might have one guy who's wearing a watch, that's a $10,000. Watch. And for him, it's he's being stingy.

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And then you might have another person who's wearing a $10,000 watch. And it's incredibly extravagant. Because that is way beyond their ability. Right? So extravagance absolutely is something that's relative, depending on people's

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ability and resources.

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Be dependent, like more on the community versus like growing into

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something to buy versus someone? Yeah, of course, can it be dependent on a person's own community as well? Absolutely. So different cultures,

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consider different things to be acceptable. And it's not as sensitive to cultural behavior, we have a a principle that's called an eye that had come up. And I couldn't have done it means custom rules. So everything to the way that you dressed in the things that you do to the way that you carry yourself, all of that is to

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Islam says to take culture into consideration and all of these types of events. That's why you'll find people dressed in a particular way, all over the world. And what is considered to be acceptable dress shifts from one culture to another. And what's considered to be acceptable behavior is very cultural specific. And that's why

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I was reminded of when I went to Sweden, for the first time, it was my first time seeing if the job is in mass, or on mass riding bicycles.

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Never seen that before.

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And I remember asking the brothers there because many of them are coming from, especially when you're coming from, like, the Muslim world. I mean, do people ride bicycles throughout the streets of Islamabad and Cairo and stuff like that?

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You guys look terrified to answer the answer is no.

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The answer is no, people don't do that. Okay, you your own grandmothers, if you sent them photos, of you riding a bicycle, you might hear a lot, a lot from them. But the point here is that I remember sitting with the brothers there, because in Sweden, in Scandinavia, it's like 80%, or 70% of people ride bicycles there. It's just, it's like, the most popular form of transportation. So I remember sitting with the brothers there, and I was like, so is it weird for y'all that your sisters are riding bicycles? And they're like, Why? Why would it be weird?

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They were like, really curious. So like, why would it be? Meanwhile, in other places, it might actually be held up like, literally, you might have people saying, This is how long it's not allowed for women to ride bicycles, this insanity.

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So culture has a very, very, very big influence on what is considered to be appropriate. And you can even have once was considered to be,

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Alright, so hopefully, you're gonna go shout out to the groups that are taking a class in which we discussed this. And was there not a super high level in two days time where either shirt or coat equivalent of $4,000 or something like this, like their wealth wishes that, but then they also spent that as well? Yeah, there were many, many companions. And again, lots of he says, Well, I've never been able to deliver because it proclaimed the Blessings of your Lord and the promise of a lot instead of one time he saw a man who was really disheveled. He looked really homely, and the promise of the lightest sets and do you have wealth? And he said, Yes. He said, Allah loves when you have

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well, for him to see the effects on your person. He loves for him to see the effects of wealth long game. So

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the idea of, of a person showing what a loss kind of that has given from a place of gratitude. There's nothing wrong with that.

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Yes, although the back

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of people around.

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But that's the point is that that person is not trying to be extravagant.

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Like when you buy $100, watch, right? Or $50. Watch. You're not like, oh, man, I'm really going to start on these poor people today. Like you're not a ticket that you're thinking this is a nice watch. I went and I bought it, I can afford it. That's it. But is there going to be somebody who will look at your watch and be like, Wow, I wish I could have that watch? Yes. But you're not you're not it's it's so you cannot be held accountable for something that is so natural. You're not trying to be extravagant at all. That's the point is that for different people, it's really different levels. If you're with people who are very, very wealthy things that might seem extravagant to you

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might be absolutely so normal to them that they don't even clock

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and that's just human nature.

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Yes. On that gift giving life crow somebody that whole

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thing started to get

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to somebody who's not in my tax bracket or can't afford, you know, how you go about extravagant gifts. It's like mostly disadvantages or anything. Are you talking about giving them gifts? Yeah. What's wrong with giving them an education? If you can afford it, even if they can't afford it?

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I will always been

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told that that's not okay or whatever. So many athletes asking is it okay for you to give somebody who's not in your tax bracket, a gift that is nice. I don't people like nice things. I don't see why. I wouldn't give a person a nice gift. If I can afford to give them a nice gift. Even if they can't afford the equipment gift. That's why it's a gift. But I'm not asking them to pay for it.