The Prophet Muhammad – The Teacher #03

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Swing. Further Rahim hamdulillah

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Al Hamdulillah he Okafor was phenomenal. I bet he Mostafa Susannah Allah say he did a sleeve of Hatha Milan via or early in Ischia was forbidden at the AMA bad.

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We continue with the book of Shahab the Fatah avoider hammer Allah Who Tada rasool Allah Allah, in which she examines the life of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam for lessons on seeking knowledge and conveying it. And how every sort Allahu alayhi wa sallam

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taught us to be

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influential and practicing teachers carriers of this light that convey it from one generation to the next. Yes.

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We covered the first ad, in the last class of no matter in which also the last Allahu alayhi wa sallam entered into the masjid and there were two groups of people. And he sat with those who are seeking knowledge and said in the Muslim flagella, Sama omnibus Lawson's that I will send as a teacher and then he sat down with them, honoring that group and

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conveying to us a lesson of the MACOM in the lofty position of people of knowledge

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is working

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okay, but

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Smilo Henry love Assata salam ala Rasulillah Allah Allah us have

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indeed Allah to Allah sent Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam as a teacher. Many nations are indebted to his teachings and guidance. As an unlettered guide. He was not only an insightful and great tutor, but he was in fact the greatest and most influential teacher in the world. As a messenger he was a powerful conveyor Allah's message hundreds of millions of individuals from many nations and societies in various corners of the inhabited world, respect Him, OBEY His words, seek direction through his guidance, and seek the pleasure of Allah to Allah by following and emulating the stern nature of the Arabs, their extreme crudeness and detestable temperaments did not faze

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them. Indeed, he tolerated their crudeness and endured their tons and patients until they submitted to him. They rallied around him defended him at his command fought the most revered people in their sight, namely, their fathers and their relatives. They gave up their loved ones their homeland, their families and brothers in obedience to Him, despite the fact that he did not know how to read and write. Neither did he study the books of the past nations or previous reformers. This fact alone will suffice to convince any reasonable man that also lost the love it was wa sallam alone was the primary teacher, messenger of Allah Tada, and mercy to all the world's Carlisle has the following to

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say about the condition of the Arabs. They were a nation which inhabited the deserts they were totally insignificant for several centuries. But when the Prophet Sall Allahu alayhi wa sallam came to them, they became they became the focus of attention in sciences and knowledge. They increase in numbers after they were a minority, they gain honor after their despicable illness. In less than a century, all corners of the world were, were illuminated by their intellects and senses. So here you see that what are sort of lost in Allahu alayhi wa sallam empowered the Arabs. And they came to this great prominence that they now had influence over the Roman and Persian empires in the world now

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recognized if people that were unknown.

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What was it that maybe said Allahu Allahu wa salam gave these people?

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What was it that Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam offered these people

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in the midst of Allahu Allah was said and didn't have a training camp where everyone that's a Muslim has to do 20 pushups a day. Or if he said a lot of time didn't have some sort of a camp where everyone in Madina Munawwara was enlisted in the Army and they would practice their drills and even though they did do this, people still did practice their drills and they were always sharpen their skills because they were in the habit of being prepared for at any time. These were tribes who face reality. But Islam in itself didn't necessarily necessarily institutionalize any such formal organization

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that all Muslims will need to go through this specific routine of training because Islam in itself and its faith, as a faith is not a militant faith. Islam has a military, Islam encourages jihad. Right. Islam talks about the virtue of his Shaheed, but in its essence Islam is not a militant faith where things are

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Some sort of a sophisticated army, right, as we see in other other religions, that their faiths are very militant, right? It's all about war and dominance. In Islam Jihad plays a very important role.

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One that can never be forgotten. Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said Jihad milden Illa Yama PM, that Jihad will not be abrogated. The ruling of jihad will remain until the Day of Judgment. Nabi SallAllahu, alayhi wa sallam referred to jihad as the hump of the camel. Right? And that's where the reserves are. And that's where the fat of the camel is. So when needed that what the tsunami and Jihad that the peak of its of its hump is you had something that Muslims will refer back to what did sort of lost a lot of money was sort of offered these people which was primary fundamental from day one, that a lot of these human beings to grow and then become not just any

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warriors. These people were warriors prior to Islam. Islam didn't teach them to fight, they already knew how to fight. There was no special weapon that Muslims used, there was no special striking technique Muslims use, they continued using what they were using prior to Islam. What differentiated the Muslims was there?

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There their knowledge. It was the message of economic being the first revelation that maybe so long it was seldom embedded this in people edify Latina women come one Latina Oh, today Mr. Raja, Allah subhanho wa Taala raises those who believe from you. If I love looking at AMRAAM income, when Lavina and people have knowledge that our job many levels, many ranks Allah subhanho wa Taala elevates them. The Sahaba not only did they grow in their knowledge of the world, but they grew in their knowledge of the Ohana. So when they were on the battlefield, they weren't fighting for the riches that their opposition held. They were fighting for Shahada.

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They were willing to face the oppressor and even face death, if that's what was required taste death if that's what was required, because they were looking for the pleasure of Allah subhanho wa taala. So you find the Romans and Persians saying there are these historical documents, letters and correspondence between the Muslim armies and their opposition, where they would say that, that it's very difficult to beat an army that has nothing to live for, that they don't desire anything from the world. Our armies are drinking the night before the battles and they're partying and they're there, they have these very expensive stipends. And everyone's getting paid left, right and center

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and they have all these care packages for them and their families. These guys they spend their night in the head the night before the battle.

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Before the battle starts there making dua to Allah subhanahu wa Tada. These people are doing vicar of Allah. Yeah, you want to screw law Vikram cathedra is Allah Phaeton Felton festival do what guru la cathedra La La

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Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam gave these people knowledge, that knowledge gave them perspective. And when the human being has knowledge in the right perspective, they now take control over their own life.

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The sad unfortunate reality is today in the Muslim community, there is no real knowledge being offered out there. The average Muslim does not have knowledge of Islam. So when they grow into young adults and when they're in college,

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they believe that Islam is a religion that is just based on tradition and obedience, and doesn't have any true intellectual thought behind it. It's not doesn't offer any framework that impacts human beings outside the four walls of the Masjid.

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There isn't really Islamic knowledge being transferred within our institutions. I personally believe that one of the greatest calamities that Muslims in the west face, at least in America is the Sunday school.

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And I'm not throwing teachers under the bus. I appreciate them for working very hard and for putting their lives into it and being volunteers and giving them morning every week to come and teach our young men and women, Islam. I am indebted to them. And so are we all we make dua for them. I'm not talking about any one specific teacher, I'm talking about the model itself. Somehow we believed that we can preserve Islam by teaching someone to stop once a week for three hours.

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And if we think this has been a work somehow tell me why didn't it work for the Christian community? And how was it going to work for the Muslim community?

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It clearly didn't work for the Christian community. One hour a week, one, one time a week, three hours a once you know in a week about your religion is not going to teach you Islam. Whatever facts you jam into that person's mind. You know, by lunch, they forgotten it. They're not doing their homework before they come to the class because it's the last thing that they have on their list. They have other classes that they have to do every day. Sunday school is not an important one.

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One young man he approached me recently and he said to me what

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My students and said, You know, I work with a mesh of than the mesh that has requested that I put together an Arabic curriculum for Sunday school. I said, What a joke? Yeah.

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You're going to teach 11 year old kids Arabic through a Sunday school curriculum.

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Are you going to do so I said, What do you have in your mind? So he said, I'm going to teach them grammar. And he had this very sophisticated idea that we're going to start with this and then go to something harder, and then work our way through there and then do this. I said, Bala stop all of this. You're killing time. You want to teach Arabic at Sunday school level, teach them how to read while looking inside. Maybe get them familiar with some platonic vocab. Maybe on top of that, do some deceit of Quran where you commented on verses or passages just to get them spiritually connected to it. As for all this every very super technical content? It's not realistic, right? That

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you offer it to someone once a week and then a week later without opening their books or

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without referencing the class that they're going to retain it. Yeah, but what should have happened, and what should happen now? What should happen now is that massage it slowly walk away from making that the main source of education for the youth in our community, and push the community, it's not going to be easy.

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To a weekly evening, put on class, that every week, every weekday, at least Monday to Thursday, four days a week, children come to the masjid and they study Quran for one hour, they study the deen for one and a half hour, two hours. This is the real model. This is when your children know that this is serious that this is a central part of my life. The ajeeb element is that they study Hold on, or study Islam three hours a week while they're playing soccer for six hours a week, and then coupon for nine hours a week. That doesn't make any sense. What kind of messaging are we giving to our young folks? What kind of education are we really going to impart to them. And then, at some point,

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as a community, we need to transition from volunteer teachers who are very much appreciated and elevate them to the highest mcbomb and give the Buttercup all the sacrifices they made in their children in their families and got them immense, better kinda risk. They made big sacrifices. But a point comes where transition needs to occur. And that transition is that we now need people who are educated in Islam that are teaching Islam.

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This could be as simple as taking online classes. We live in a world where there are so many opportunities available. But every person who teaches Islam who is a representative of this Deen, whether they're representing the dean to a four year old child, or 40 year old adult, needs to have grounding in the deep, some grounding in the theme. I kid you not? How many people told me that I lost confidence in my Deen when I was in my Sunday school class. Because I was asking questions, and I was scolded for asking the question. Not too long back, I was speaking to a young person who said these exact words to me. The parents requested that I had a meeting with a young person, I sat with

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this young person. And the first thing the individual said to me was that are you going to really answer my questions? Are you going to turn me around like my previous teachers? I kid you not. These are the opening words. We hadn't even gotten anywhere. Like the conversation didn't even start. We didn't even say Alhamdulillah wa salatu salam ala Rasulillah?

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Are you going to turn you around like other teachers? Are you actually going to address my issues? And then I said to the individual that I will try my best to answer your questions as to the best of my ability.

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But I need you to be sincere, too. And then we had a conversation that went down that went on for multiple hours. And one thing that she said was that, in my previous experiences, the people that were teaching this now, whether it was at my Islamic school or my Sunday school, they were sincere people who understood the curriculum properly, but weren't capable of answering questions related to the curriculum. And I had tough questions I needed answered. I didn't understand Islam's position on apostasy. And the answers that were being given to me were clearly regurgitation of articles from the first Google search that they had access to and I had access to

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we both had access to the same content.

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So that means I have knowledge to Islam that's the same as you so why am I coming to this classroom? This is a 14 year old by the way. This is a 14 year old I'm talking to you. I have the same access to this time that you do so I my bother bothering with coming to the classroom are Islam is based on a very rich tradition of knowledge and education. The problem is that we have strayed away from that knowledge. So now when it comes for us to teach the deen or engage regarding the deen we fall short of words.

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As a result of that

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Muslims are now losing faith in their own faith.

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That we don't know if this is actually worth it. Is this all this who has stories? Is this all just folklore

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Whereas there's something here and may Allah subhanho wa Taala reward the scholars of the past of the Messiah who sacrificed their lives to convey this Deen when you sit down and you actually start reading, your mind opens and you begin to appreciate the deen. And the more it opens, the more you understand how valuable is the and actually is in the eye of the Quran where Allah subhanaw taala says Alia McNulty, Allah convenor come, it really becomes clear when Allah subhanaw taala says that we have completed revelation with this theme. Today the deen is complete. This is a way of life for you. And all those years that I've lived previously without Islamic knowledge, without being

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mentored or taught properly, those were years that I could have used so much more effectively and productively. How do I know and then what I know today? That's the beauty of it. That's the beauty of that it changes a person. So here he brings this point up, that the knowledge that Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam delivered to these people and empowered them, it lifted them. It made them into great leaders who are so intellectual and so, so smart, no matter what the situation was, they had their solutions and answers ready. Yes.

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Muslim narrates in the book of divorce in Asahi, the incident wherein Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam gave his noble wife the choice of remaining in marriage to him, or in separating from him. He began without a shadow love Tara and have who chose to remain with him. She also requested him not to inform the other wives that she chose to remain with him. So Sula SallAllahu Sallam replied to her, Allah Tada did not send me as one who has difficulty to others, nor as one who desires hardship and difficulty for others. Rather, he sent me as a teacher and as one who makes things easy for others. Yes. So here the second narration, he makes reference to an incident that occurred

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during the life of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.

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This happened in the ninth year after migration.

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At the time, were sort of lost Allahu Allahu wa sallam was married to nine of his wives.

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And there was a grave dispute that occurred.

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It had to do with finances were some of the wives and abusive along it he was sent on became persistent, that they wanted

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to increase the finances that Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was providing for them.

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The resort along while he was Saddam was not comfortable with this request of theirs. Because the policy of Rasulullah sallallahu sallam was that he would provide for his family at the bare minimum, and then would give the rest of it to the people. Give it give it a sacrifice and give it to the people and distributed among them. So no one can ever say that Rasulullah sallallahu it within this family was living it up. They weren't right. Today's world leaders are millionaires. They're all wealthy, super wealthy people enjoy the luxuries of life. Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was the one who was as the other poet says salaam Sparky just nearby the Shah he made for PD Ke.

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Mei Salam be on the one by the Shah he made for PDQ even though he was on the rank of the greatest kings of the world. But he still remained a popper he still remained a poor person by the SHA haemophilia he that he remained humble simple servant of Allah and nothing changed about assuta loss of a lot. So let me start Allahu Allahu wa sallam refused the request and things became very intense and there was some back and forth ultimately it'll sort of last a long while he was separated from all of his wives. This separation lasted for nine sorry for one month.

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This separation lasted for one full complete month.

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And it was towards the end of the separation that verses 28 and 29 of suitable Aza very good yeah you and your family as well as you can continue to didn't hire to dunya was you know to have metallic material color. Well some of the coolness around Jamila. When continuity did Nala Havasu da da da. So in these i In this ayah Allah subhanaw taala said to the Messenger of Allah, that say to your wives, they have one or two options. If they persist on being compensated with more expenses, but Eileen are mature enough they come to me I will give you the money that you want. Well subject goodness Ron Jamila, but you will need to then exit the marriage of the Prophet of Allah. You can no

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longer be married in this relationship. Messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam will not be providing his family with, you know, exorbitant or even extra amounts of wealth while the people are in

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The Prophets first and foremost responsibility is his people. And those that are in his family will need to be patient like he is patient. This is why for every time we say Allah Subhana Allah Muhammad what are we saying?

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Allah Allah Muhammad, because his sacrifice was their sacrifice. However, when could not win continue to the la hora Sula, who Adara but if you want Allah and His messenger in the Hereafter, to know that Allah has prepared a great reward for you may young men can also do Hema Thomas Salia not the Hydra murderer i think these verses of Surah has up you can read them yourself. Allah subhana wa Tada praises them and also mentions great virtue for their patients.

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So when this verse was revealed, Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam now called each of his wives one by one, to present the idea to them, they had one of two choices and they had to choose now, either they would take their money and leave the marriage

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So they had two options. Either they could

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take the money they demanded and leave the marriage or they can continue with what had existed in the past the same financial agreement and remain in the marriage and be rewarded by Allah subhanho wa taala. So now Imam Muhammad Ali narrates a hadith. He says for Adam, model this Omar Runa Laila, that 129 nights passed by

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the salah Ali Ali and visa Allahu alayhi wa sallam, Oba Abby Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam entered into my home and the first person that he gave the choice to the first person that he offered these options, this opportunity to to either remain in the marriage or exit. He said it was me,

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footballer, so the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said yeah Isha in the vacuum like a shake, fella jelly had to stop maybe Abba wakey that I am going to present something to you. Do not hasten and answering me until you consult your father, or your parents of awake until you consult your parents. He said, I'm going to offer you what the Quran says. But don't answer until you speak to your parents first.

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For my thought, Ah hilarya, then Allah and then the B cells in a red eye to feed the ayah that I just started before you it's called

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the IRA where they were given the choice, he read the I

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Fauja but

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I shadow the ALLAH, so I shall the Allah and she responded to the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and she said, I Neva Walla, he ain't a away yella. Mucuna yet morani Before Rafi that Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said to me to seek consultation from my parents before responding, because he knew that if I asked my father aboubaker, whether I should stay in the marriage or leave, my father would say 100% stake. And the recent Aloha day was something really loved me and he wanted me to stay but he didn't want to tell me. He wanted me to stay anyway. So his way of telling me to stay was don't respond until you ask your parents because every worker Siddiqa your loved one was

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always in the corner ever sort of lost.

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So she says Alima Allah He and other way yep, lemme Akuna morani Before Rafi right? This was the love of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.

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So then I show the love and sorrow of smile it's a beautiful conversation. So Menominee Nation of the Allahu Ana she said a few hadda a step middle away

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you're telling me to consult my parents and something so simple that I do I really need to go and consult them whether I'm going to choose to stay with you or not

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How can someone ever think of choosing someone other than your sort of loss and a lot

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Oh, what happened to the OMA?

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I showed the Allah one has said you want me to consult someone if I should choose you or not.

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And today the OMA we're begging them choosing a sort of law and they're not listening.

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How far the Apple has fallen from the tree how

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law more narrowly Mahabharata

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fall to associate and said

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in the UI de la hora, Sula, Houma Darla.

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I want Allah, His Messenger, and I want to hear after

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So after she said this and then you said a lot of cinema was very pleased with her answer. He was very happy.

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She said O Messenger of Allah, my request is Yasuda La La bit as logic and started that don't tell the other wives that I chose you. Because she was thinking that if they think that if they think that she didn't choose them, maybe someone else would not choose them and then she'd get more time with us.

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I love this.

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I love reading this because it shows us like the internal family dynamics and the human the human nature of these people and the love they have for us a little louder.

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Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.

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He said to her

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lettuce le imra to me when I'm 32

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that if any one of them asks me what you chose, I will tell them

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and then he said as the UI is said here.

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He said

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in Allah Allah may have asked me more uneaten. Voila Mata uneaten? Well, I can borrow money while Lehman work well, yes.

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He then said the statement are here to be so low and he sort of said that Allah subhanho wa Taala did not send me to create difficulty for people for people. Also, Allah Allah subhanaw taala didn't send me to make people's life difficult. My net means to make someone else's life difficult. What that means to make someone slip

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to make someone tripped over that make it difficult for them kind of fool them in the moment, lead them the wrong way. Maybe sell some stuff. That's not what Allah said. He has sent me as a teacher and as one that will make people's affairs easy. So this right here also shows us that how Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.

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The primary essence to his education was to facilitate the lives of people do provide solutions for people and this is one of the greatest

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lessons from the teaching methodology of Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam that he didn't just tell people what they couldn't do. Maybe Slauson didn't make people's lives difficult by just telling them haram haram haram, rather Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would generally not always provide solutions for people. And that's the Quranic methodology that provides solutions for people that this is haram but this is how to write

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a halal law will be

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haram River. Allah tells us what's halal. And then also tells us what's going on then avoid the haram. The Halal is halal. So now use the halal but avoid the haram. So for every Haram The Haram Haram has mentioned the Quran tells us the things that we can't eat. But it also tells us a Yamo Halal tomato You bet. All the great things that you can eat. It's all there. The Quran tells us the women that we can't marry. Right?

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magical Malachi avana comme la to Camino Radha our Maha Tony sai kumara Ibaka midlatitude jewelry company cycle melotti The Hulten been right until the end. But then the Quran also tells us all the women that you can refer to everyone else.

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This is the methodology

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Sahaba you know, nobody saw sort of recognize that they were struggling because they're young, and they have testosterone and people have libido and they get really excited and they have all this pumped up pent up pressure in them. So maybe it's all sort of offers them solutions. Yeah, my shadow Shabaab, Minnesota, I'm in coolibah

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failure zone, which those of you who have the capability to get married, then go get married. Well, my name is Satya, and then falling. So Fenella comfy, he is awesome. Sadly, if you can't get married, then fast, because that will help you adapt means it'll help you control your sexual appetite. It'll help you control your carnal passion, providing solutions for people. So we see here another thing that's very interesting about the statement and he said a lot isn't he didn't just say no dice online.

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He didn't just say no to her. She said, don't tell the other people that I've chosen you. She wanted to keep her vote. You have to do what did they call it like private buildings, or they call it where you secretly bid and no one else can know how much you bid for the product. Right? So she's like, I don't want anyone to know what I've chosen. Nobody said a lot of someone who didn't say no to this. Not only did he not say no, but he also explained why he wouldn't do it.

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He said I'm not I haven't been sent to make people's lives difficult.

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By me not answering them, imagine how miserable they're going to feel how difficult they're going to feel how compromised you're going to feel that maybe someone dies at first that you have planned that out and what about us? They're keeping a secret from us they're gonna feel like the outgroup I'm not doing all this stuff. If they asked me I will clearly tell them what's going on. And then it's up to them to choose as they wish. So law

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yes continue.

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Number one law said vital service and the love it was synonyms, vague response by do not explicitly indirectly, reprimanding harsher law, there is no there's an indication that it is desirable for a teacher to be as subtle as possible. And so this is another point that Imam Ghazali mentions here. That Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam didn't tell her to her face that you're being sneaky right now.

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He didn't tell her that you're being extremely sly by even asking me to do that.

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Rather what may be said Allahu alayhi wa sallam does is he tells her he won't do it. And why he won't do it. Not putting the spotlight on her. Not making her feel guilty. Say Manzanita. Hula Yachty says, well, fee Bahama he said a lot more it was cinema.

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Masada hace mawatha Hatena Ayesha Bizet is Sharon Vietnam in the taka Sonata Lima Yes. duramo alum, and Mata alum unsual of luck. We look forward to the man

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that when the teacher is reprimanding the student on something they've said or done, it is the teacher's responsibility to be as gentle as soft and kind that they can do. All right. I mean, if I did the study, without being too direct, because if you're to direct them what happens?

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The student takes offense. They go into defensive mode. As I looked at how do you know I said, Honey, now she gets worried because she knows the statements directed at her. And she's not sure what's going to come out. And as soon as they start speaking, rather than listening, she's thinking of a rebuttal.

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You guys want that vibe when your parents call you out on something? And they're kind of lecturing you in two minutes into it. You're like, Okay, this is what I'm going to say I'm gonna kill it. I got it all lined up. 123 arguments ready. This is gonna be awesome. It's gonna be fireworks tonight.

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No mean latency. Numbers it says without any clear mentioned while but there will be three karate men ready to be and that you use compassion when you're correcting someone members any minute any Tobia without any harshness without being too blunt to that person. Then he says in chapter three how yeah Tiku he Jabel haber

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in three Hi, yah, Tiku Jabel Haber,

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which basically means that when you when you call someone out directly, you have to have to minister

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to rip to tear Hey Jabal haber that you know that that sort of respect and that that existed all that existed between the two people gets blown out when you call someone out by face by name. So now, she may respect me and I may respect her but the moment I call her by her name in a public gathering, or even privately and I direct criticism directly towards her, she goes into survival mode, which means there is a big possibility that this person is going to jump back at you. So have you said a long while he was some avoids all of that. So he says thing that the city huh? Yeah, he javal Haber. Well, you refer Jura Allah Who drew mill idle who drew me

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and it almost empowers that person

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to rebel.

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And you call them on their face and they'll say I'll show you two you can call me by my name. You think you're tough? I'll show you what I'll do. Well, you hate you do.

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What you hate you hate us. And it almost makes other persons stubborn. You call me up. I meant my name. Right? Want to play that game? Okay, watch this. I'm going to get stubborn to make me do it. Don't tell them what I can and cannot do.

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So this is he says all of this is learned from the this one rely on Rasulullah sallallahu. How many of you said a long while he was sitting? He says in the Lucha

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lamb Yeah, but Anthony more uneaten wala matar Nathan Larkin bath anymore. Alleman? Well, Melissa, this is how we do it. This is the big lesson for parenting and teachers. For any mentor that tried to use a shot or one correcting other person. If the student that you have has half a brain and is half worth your mentorship and you've actually achieved anything in them, they'll understand through your shadow. So sometimes someone will come and say Schiff you mentioned so and so thing and thoughts. Are you directing it at me? I don't respond to those questions.

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If you're half as

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intelligent as I think you are, then they say

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After Lew feely shadow, what does our chef say? Aki Luthor clearly Shala.

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In the previous days, they would say an absolute the clearly shadow. What does that mean? An intelligent person understands just through silent soft gestures. You make a small gesture like if you were to, there's an if you have intelligent child and you look at the cup, what have you even asked for the water, they'll get up and go get it. That person looked at a cup, which means that this person desires water, and athletic field shadow.

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People who aren't too intelligent, you have to spell everything out for them.

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Ever been in a managerial position like this? At corporate in your workplace, it gets a little difficult to manage employees like that, but you have to tell them everything. What else do I need to do? Yeah, do you take a cup and wash it? After I washed the cup ready to do Baba, you have to dry it. After I write what I need to do. You have to put it on the shelf right there. And then what? When it comes when the next customer comes in, they order coffee and then you have to plug the machine in. But then he says if you're talking to a three year old, then you have to do this and then you have to do that then you have to do this. And I think that the feeling shot.

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That intelligent person learns just through gestures. Our chef has a joke he would say Oculus VR, but I mean this kind of radically Shara coffee, you know people who like food, you just give them a shout out a little bit of a gesture that this food and they'll come running.

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You don't need any to sneak for them. You don't need any clarification. They know where to show up.

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This is the reflection that you want to line issues okay, you can read that again.

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numbers as I said, Love Island was vague response by not explicitly and directly reprimanding hardshell lawn, there is an indication that it is desirable for a teacher to be as subtle as possible. When reprimanding a student in respect of any weakness in his character. He should display as much kindness as possible, if only because in an explicit reprimand, destroys the veil off and causes the student to become audacious in rebellion against the teacher who will also lead the student to continue to be in support.

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That's an intense stuff right there. That's telling you how to avoid a nuclear situation when dealing with your own kids and students. Write us a shot ishara Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam when he would reprimand people, he would come in they say my bank account

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he would use language like that my bolo. acquirement what that means is kind of like what has happened to the people and then he would talk if you look at the Quran, how many of the people who really made maybe said Allahu Allah was Sam's life extremely difficult. In Mecca and Medina I mentioned my name in the Quran.

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One person who is the one person

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Ebola other than Ebola, anyone else Abidjan, his name mentioned there. First of all the Quran did the OMA saw that by saving us from reading that person's name.

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like reading a puja labs name isn't too fun as it is reading Abu Joe's name and Walid name and all these people would have been like it's heavier heart because you read these people hurt Rasulullah sallallahu sallam, and it makes your heart hurt when we read. So you remember this man? Crush the dreams of Novi Sad. Manisa. That's what I see in the name of love. The flame that burned down the house of hopes and he said a lot of you saw someone thought, I'm going to go to people and tell them and they're going to accept it. And Abdullah was that flame? Who burnt down that hope and maybe Similan isn't.

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But the Quran does So nonetheless, why? I mean, there's so many why the why Abu Lahab is mentioned in the Quran. So many, first and foremost. So we know that the people who stood against every sun a lot of somewhere not just he's made up figures, these were real people. And Allah subhanaw taala names one of them. The second thing is Allah subhanahu wa Tada very clearly tells us what will happen to these enemies. Right. And I will not help was one of the first people that come to enemies and abuse a lot of them. So he was mentioned my name and a lesson for everyone that comes after

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that this is this, this will be this person's outcome. And it's not that Islam is a religion of the flesh, or the religion of Banu Hashim or been robbed and looked at it. It's the religion of the Olia of Allah and the motto

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that you could be an uncle in the long run he was sitting in this dean will call you out on the punishment of Allah is waiting for you enough. This is not a family faith.

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This faith is for the friends of Allah. It's for people that are conscious. It's for those who are willing to sacrifice for the pleasure of Allah subhanho wa Tada.

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So here, man was it I'm delighted he shares this beautiful reflection on teaching Allah Subhana Allah grant us stuff without will conclude here. The prayer

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Allah subhanho wa Taala accepts and grants his wisdom, calmness softness, and allows us to be those who teach in the method of the teaching style of Rasulullah sallallahu sallam was set along with Mohammed Saramonic when working with him rahmatullah wa Taala