Balance Your Life

Assalamu alaikum My name is Ahmad and I am a junior in high school right now.

Today I stand before you and have the honor to present to you a great and esteemed scholar. I was actually told this about an hour ago, so I don't really have a fancy speech prepared for you. But I will try to do my best to present the scholar with the honor that he should be presented with both even sanctimony was born in Elizabethtown, Kentucky, so he is an American race scholar with the blessings and diwas and supplications of his parents moved to Santa Monica underwent a journey of a lifetime, in which he pursued the sacred Islamic knowledge. No, this pursuit led him to the sonic Sciences at a very young age and he began this at the age of six by memorizing the entire Quran at

the acclaimed battle by the NEA and Buffalo, New York. Now, by the blessings of Allah subhanaw taala, he was able to complete this momentous task in 1999. Having the growing thirst to quench even more knowledge of the same commodity then traveled across the world to the UK, where he to attain an even more advanced knowledge of the field of Islamic theology. He studied at Daro in Barbary and the renowned seminary of the great revivalist and scholar for these shapeabilities Zakaria kandawgyi Rahmatullah like Mufti Kalani completed the traditional six year course covering the Arabic language Arabic more photography traditional Islamic jurisprudence of CRF, the Holy Quran, he under and this

was all done under the guidance of some of the pioneering scholars in England, which include shapes uses mattala shape, hashing shape, and shape Abdur Rahim Binda amongst others. Now upon graduation, Mufti Kimani was, the spirit was specially selected to enter a postgraduate level course in Islamic law and law verdicts otherwise known as fatwa. And he completed this course in just two years and received formal authorization and in it as well. Following his graduation with top honors, mostly Kimani went to earn his postgraduate degrees in business and management and strategy at the University of Coventry or the RDI. Currently, most of your money is the amount of the Islamic center

of Chicago and with the help of a law he is constantly working on projects in these projects and programs that cater not only to the needs of the Muslim youth, but also to the general art and Greater Chicago Community. This includes conducting numerous weekly lectures holding after school karate classes, counseling youth, couples and adults in general, teaching new Muslims giving Dawa to the non Muslims and being a senior advocate for the halaal awareness and integrity.

Move to sanctimonious also an instructor in the sacred learning program headed by Shea Hussein of the sitar and is the very end of the favorite adaro enigmas

weekend Islamic sciences Academy. He's also a part of the Sharia boards footwear department. And he's one of the scholars that has accompanied a hunch group that accompanies a hushed group by sacred Hodge. He's a well renowned scholar known throughout the nation. I have had the honor and the privilege to actually sit through multiple of his lectures and listen to his words of wisdom. So today it is actually a great honor to present to you Morpheus and Columbia.

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When we study the life of the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu, it was sort of

it is extremely important

that we don't study it just as a story.

We don't view the life of the messenger as superficial, something beyond our reach. When we study the life of the messenger sallallahu alayhi wasallam. It is important that we study it with the intention to bring it into our lives and so that we can act upon it. Otherwise, there is no benefit in studying this knowledge. Whenever we study the life of the Prophet, and this is extremely important, right? And the people that live during the life of the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, this is one of the issues they had with the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. They saw him as an ordinary person. They didn't see him as a role model someone unique and that's why they

said

Madhava Rasool yaku, Tom Schieffer as well. Why are we going to follow this person right here? He's a normal man. He walks in the streets, he eats food like we do. He's nothing special. Why should we follow him? Why not? Why didn't Allah subhanho wa Taala send an angel? The reason why Allah subhana wa tada did not send an angel with this message was because then we will claim that he is superficial. Right? He is, you know, super spiritual. And as an angel, it's possible and easy for him to act upon the deen. And I don't have a human being as a role model to follow. And that's why the purpose of allamani was sort of his unique message was this that anything that he taught he

acted upon it to. That's why we don't only have a written tradition of the deen, but we have an oral tradition of the deen and Allah Subhana, WA that have taught this to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam that anything you teach, make sure you act it out for them. Therefore, we're told not only to listen to the messenger, not only to read his words, but to do it. And it is a common word that's using the Quran, which is loosely translated as you know, to follow someone. The root letters of this word, are da,

W.

And w Ron is actually a small baby animal. And the reason why this word to follow is derived from this other word, which means a small baby animal, is because when an animal is born, it does exactly what a mother does. Kind of like monkey see monkey do. Whatever the animal does, whatever the mother does, the baby will do exactly that. That's why the mother has to be careful that she doesn't run too quickly. That's why the mother has to be careful that she doesn't jump over a lake because that baby will do that. It won't think twice. It's going to do exactly what his mother did. And if the mother did a large jump, right, a long jump, which a baby can do, the baby will make the jump and

where is it going to land? right inside that water. The mother must be very careful of what it does. That's why we're told to do it. They bout follow the messenger sallallahu alayhi wasallam. Right. Our Deen is not only a written tradition, or something, you pick it up from a book and you just read it and you smile and you say Wow, that was an amazing story. Let's put this away. Our Deen is an oral tradition that we see what our messenger did. We read what our messenger did. That's what their companions very few of them narrowed, Hadid saying that I read this in the book of the prophet sallallahu wasallam or I read this and I read that their account of the life of the Prophet

sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was right, semiotic Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam your fool I heard him saying this, or he Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, you know, you saw Licata or tokara that I saw the Prophet said a lot of them praying in this matter, or doing Lulu in this manner, because this was very important to them, that our Deen doesn't only remain at it's not only an academic faith, we just read it in. That's it. Our DNA is a faith that you implement. That's why when you look at the first verse revealed in the Quran, what's the first word revealed? It's your oral tradition is right there. This is all about the oral tradition. This is an only late nation we

don't read or write the nations of the past without an Kitab. They used to read and write they were the richer nation. We are an oral nation we don't read or write We are an unlettered nation. And yet we do use writing for our text but only to preserve it not as the actual source so for those young men and women who love sitting behind their computers and sit on their keyboards and their Mashallah Mr. Hadean of Google and wish that he didn't have YouTube who are doing a lot of he has done a lot of, you know, online and going on and bashing everyone. What do they call them? The? The web, the web Crusaders, right? The web Crusaders right out there and battling with everyone. We want to tell

you something that this deal is not something that's learned only through books. This Dean has learned through being in the company of a teacher hadn't been learned through books that will allow him our messenger was smart to read a book. But Allah subhana wa tada even sent him a teacher DVD.

And not only did he learn from DVD, 97 but not he said, I'm squeezed him three times very, very carefully. And each time, the purpose of allowing it sort of felt that he was going to die. Transferring that knowledge from Heart to Heart, heart to heart, a loss of hydrotherapy didn't prevent us from reading. He gave us the option to read. But our primary source of learning the dean is to observation. That's what Allah subhanho wa Taala tells us, young guys, they call all the time tonight. So when I was at home 1130 I was about to go to sleep, and I got a phone call. And I answered the call that said, Yes, brother said, I'm calling from Canada. I said, Okay, how can I

help you? So he said, shift? How do you gain a son Salah? How do you get a son in your solo? So I said to him, brother, you're very sincere in your question, but there are times to call with particular questions and there are times to call with particular questions. If you ask me, how do you get a son in sleeping? I'll show you right now.

And I'm about to lie down in my bed, right anyway. So we started this conversation and we started going on this. And I explained to him that Assad has a high level of spirituality. And this high level of spirituality which can other words also be referred to as taqwa, right the high level of consciousness of Allah, which then manifests itself in the

form of sun. This is gained through companionship. This is gained through being in the company of someone who has it. That's why Allah subhana wa tada says yeah, you will live in our Allah. Hakuna Matata, right. All those who believe, be God conscious and be with the righteous and the pious people because this Deen is gained from Sabah, the companions of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. They didn't just read books, they are called companions. We don't call them the scholars. We don't call them the students. We don't call them this Mufti is we don't call them the Mujahideen and the Mujahideen. When we call the people who live during the life of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa

sallam, what do we refer to them as? Sahaba? What is the what's the definition of a Sahabi? Someone who has companionship. Today in America, the biggest tragedy that we have, is that everyone wants to be a scholar without companionship. That's the big problem. The problem is everyone wants to be a scholar, they say, Where can I go and get a one year Crash Course and become a scholar? recommend going to a two year Crash Course and become big time real quick. What can I do an online course and really hit it quick. I want to become the next. I want to get the next of sheer class. I want that shift to be out of there because I'm going to outstrip everyone's planning to become big scholars,

but no one knows the pathway of getting that knowledge. that knowledge is gained through Saba is gained through being with your teacher, because you don't only learn the deen through its written tradition. The written tradition is only a part of our Deen strictly for the sake of preservation strictly for preservation. During the life of the Prophet sallallahu it was sort of none of the sciences are written down nothing at Guardiola when he initially he initiated the formal copy to be written down during his telephone, and then later on what would have been optimized he's ordered that the heights should be written down and later on in Babylon. Even after that a student Mohammed

Rama tolani he wrote down and then the scholars of Kufa wrote down, they begin to run it down only as a fear of preservation and Abubakar Siddique rhodiola one the only reason why he actually even compiled the Quran in original form what was the reason? Because the Battle of yamamah took place. And after the Battle of Yama against maceda Mikasa, many Sahaba were killed who had memorized the Quran and abubaker. Viola one feared that maybe the preservation maybe someone will make a false allegation against the preservation of the Quran. So we will not write it down. It was strictly for preservation purposes. That's why Allah subhana wa tada when he brings a rich and tradition in the

Quran. He brings it the fourth verse, Allah The Allah mobile column that came forth, the first verse that came with it. But don't only read because when you read when you go to read, you have to understand you can easily be misguided. When you read you don't only read if Tara bismi Arabic you learn the deen in the name of the Lord. You don't just learn the deen to feed your own desires and feed your own whims. Because many of us when we learn the deen we learn it with hidden agendas. Just listen for Italian Rahim Allah Tada. He said something very profound. He said that there are four types of people who follow the deen, how many types of people, four types of people. He goes, the

first type of deal that people follow is what we call Dena messaggi. The second is what we call dnmt waje. The third is what we call Dena shadowy, and the fourth is what we call Dina hochiki. He says there are four types of people who follow the deen. The first person, his Dean is what we call Dena massage, Dena massage. You know that is whatever I want. The DNA is going to be what I want it to be. Right. I want this Okay, please, this trillion dollar note, can you please tailor me? I thought well, right. It's kind of like we're going to the tailor to get a cortisone or something right. I want this Um, can you please give me a photo here they call the fatwa shopping. They'll go fatwa

shopping, find exactly what they need for their Deen to make them happy because their Deen is actually based off their whims and their desires. The second type of people, they act upon their Deen not based only off their desires, but they act upon it based off their culture. And we talked about this earlier on in the university where the lecture was where I was talking about how today Dean has been hijacked by culture. As long as our Dean matches our culture and humble, everyone's happy. But the second Dean contradicts our culture, which side of the line are real? That's the question. Are we on the side of culture? Or are we on the side of Dean? That's not one young man was

sitting with me? And he said to me,

I'm getting married next year. And I'm having a very tough time right now. I said, What's the tough time you're having? He said, finally, I found someone to marry and she's a beautiful girl, amazing sister. I'm very happy with her. But the issue is that she refuses to hold a divider in the marriage. I want the men to be on one side. The sisters should be on another side. But she refuses No, it's going to be a mixed gathering.

I said okay, is there any other issue? He says that she is insisting that music will be played. So then I said, Okay, look, music being played or not mix gathering or not? Does she acknowledge these things are halal, or haram? Or does she consider them Hello? Because know, she knows.

She knows her. Um, everyone knows her. Um, it's kind of like, you know, saying the sun is gonna rise tomorrow morning. Everyone knows these things. Right? But the reason why I said Why are you saying that?

She wants these things that he said because culturally her family and my family will never accept this marriage that it's an eye opener for us. And maybe most of us sitting here right now, you know, we fall into this category. You know, the theme didn't come so we can boss and bully the dean around. Well lucky that wasn't the purpose of the dean. The Dean came to subdue our intellect to humble us as creation in front of the Creator. That's the mux of the voice. The purpose of what he isn't a twist the way he and twist his arm the way we want it to be. The purpose of what he is that we twist ourselves down in front of Allah subhanho wa tada and whatever Allah subhanho wa Taala

says, we say in return seminar, no altana but Oh Allah, we have heard this, you know a lot, we will be obedient and we will act upon what you say. This is a very important introduction right here. It's very important. And then Okay, let me finish off these four things. And I'll start off from where we need to go on. The third type of the shift, shift shift for the time you know, him Allah tada says, is what to call what he calls Dena. shuddering. So the first type of people to act upon their Deen based off their knifes, the second type of people act upon their Deen based off their culture, the third type of people they act upon the deen based off halal and haram. What's haram

will do? What's haram? They'll stay away from the go to the chef and say, is it halal? He'll say, yes, they'll do it. Is it something that he'll say, brother, is this permissible? You'll say it's not fun, but it's fun. Okay, I don't need to do that. Right. They'll act upon the holla and stay away from harm. So for them, the dean is just like a law book. You do what you're told to do. You stay away from what you're told to stay away from. Then he says, however, the real Dean is what he calls dinner, at dinner parties. He is where you don't play the long game against Allah subhana wa Tada. Rather, your life is an exact copy of that of that along with every single thing he did every

single thing he said, the way he ate, the way he sat down the way he dealt with people, you literally mimic every action of his until the point where the hollow are such so great at this there were so perfect at doing this, that a visitor would come and said the gathering of the prophets of Allah while he was Mohammed said a lot while he was cinema sitting in that gathering and the Sahaba are sitting in that gathering. And you know what question this person asks if someone comes to this gathering and says who's the shift right due to this beautiful code and nice big turban and beautiful beard and Mashallah, you know, put another 5060 pounds and there's no problem everyone

know, that's the shift right there. Right? The shift is the guy that's sitting on the front he looks very Mashallah proper. It's very easy to spot your scholars honestly, it's not hard at all right? Now this person comes to the gathering of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. If you walked inside a room where the puffer settle on instead of sitting, honestly, how long do you think it would take you to spot him out?

You know, it'd be buddy filled with data, you know that that's the messenger there. So a lot while he was there, but the Sahaba copy the messengers that allowed him to such a degree that the visitor would come in the machine and what would he ask you, Mohammed? That was this question. And you can Mohammed Which one of you is Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and they would say, homicidal Addis Ababa Casa de Guardiola. One when he completed the migration with the province that allow him to sort of and when they arrived in Madina, munawwara they arrived with Cuba, they stay there for a few days, they paid the first Jew masala on the way to Madina, munawwara and after that, then when

they arrived in Madina, munawwara the people of Medina when I when I came to receive them, right, and what happened was that they were waiting for the Prophet sallallahu it was to them, and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam arrived a little late because the people the Medina monado, they were waiting for the purpose of allowing his son to arrive. And every morning after feitosa law, they would sit there all the way until overtime, and when law her time would come in, he would be too hot, so they would return back home a lot and the next day, they would come up to feitosa. Again, to wait for the purpose of the La Jolla with some of the purpose of the La Jolla ceremony

arrived with Abu Bakr Siddiq de la one, they arrived at a time where everyone just left it was afternoon time and everyone just went back home and no one was there to greet them. Right. And the purpose of the long audio book was to do the alone on the arrived. There was one Jewish man he was sitting in a tree of the love and set up later on to become Muslim or the other one, he began to scream all the men who were waiting for just came so everyone came running back to meet the purpose of allowing Islam. Now when they arrived there Meanwhile, the purpose that along with a was sort of an Abu Bakr Siddiq idea when they sat down, and when everyone came, they're like, who is the

Prophet?

Which was a prophet? Is it a worker or is it Muhammad Sallallahu sallam, because they copied him to such a degree, they literally became mirror images of the progress of the law of audio setup. And when he got the law, one saw this, that people were confused. He immediately stood up, he took his upper garment and he began to shave the profits of the law isn't from the sun, to show who is the Hardiman, who has the Muslim who was a servant and who was the one being serviced. And then people saw Oh, that's awesome. That's the nation that we need. That's the people that's the type of people we need. People who submit themselves to the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. Now,

when we study the life of the Prophet sallallahu, alayhi wasallam, we have to understand that he is the perfect role model. So keeping in the context, all the stuff I said, We you and I can't sit here and dictate what the dean is, you know, the most status thing that I have seen in my life, and that I see happen again and again, is when we're sitting together at a dinner table at someone's house, and we're discussing the issue or the

Matter of the deen and random people start saying this is my opinion. It really upsets me. The reason why it upsets me is because it feels like you will never have the audacity to make such a statement and the gathering of lawyers. And you would say, this is my opinion, this is what the state law should be. Right? You will sound like a fool. You're sitting in front of guys who fight the UFC to say, you know what my opinion is that the headlock should be this way. You guys need to get out of here, man. What are you talking about? What do you know about this? What do you know about fighting you go and you know, you go cook, you know to home. And now we have people in our

community who want to share their opinion regarding the deen. If you've studied the deen, if you have qualifications in the man haven't become Of course, then what more are we waiting for? We should have discussion discussion is very healthy. It's a great part of our Deen. We don't just, you know, hijack the member and say, This is my opinion, we always have discussion. This is a part of our rich tradition or legacy. But we only accept we only accept discussion. We only accept input from those people who have some sort of expertise in the field. Right? So most of us we want to sit down and say this is what the dean is. For some people, we've defined Dean as whatever happens in

the machine outside the machine. It's nothing to do with the dean. Whatever happens in the machine is Dean for certain people. The Dean is just having a good heart. What do they say? You have a good heart. I'll take care of everything else. Don't worry about it. Whether you want to drink some shut up is drinking you only drink eat is to love you want to enjoy your life, right? You just have make sure you have a good heart and then make sure that every group has their support from the laminata Lab Kelvin setting. Everyone brings it everyone does you know the you know the hot edge.

They hit it earlier with your loved one. The reason why they hated it that your loved one was because I needed the alarm when we were talking about this earlier on today. They hate it on either the alone one the reason why they hated him was because the law one gave a verdict that they didn't like he decided to postpone the revenge of the murderer of horsemen of the alarm on the hardest didn't like that they got very mad. So they said that audio The other one is giving a verdict against the Koran. And and if he's giving a verdict against the Quran, that means there's a cafe which means he's watching cotton so we have to go kill a little yellow one.

Look at this logic it's so foolish right? And then when they were called to discussion they actually supported their view from Iran.

And which I have the Fernanda they use in an open way learning that there is no judgment but that which belongs to Allah and not to the law. One is giving judgment against allows word that's where we're going to kill him. And only allow one when you heard this, what did he say? He said Kadima to have been revealed that their statement is right, the verse of the Quran is quoting is authentic hadith Mashallah second authentic verse of the Quran. No one's gonna doubt that at all. But the meaning you're taking from this verse of the Quran is completely false. And then these people they made the plan, three of them gathered together on the 17th of Ramadan and said hello, and they made

a plan to kill three great people I'm gonna pronounce the last one Fabiola. Juan, I don't even have a thought about the last one. And the one who was assigned to kill earlier the last one, his name is in the museum. In the museum. He then arrived in Medina MANOVA on each of these people went their own ways in Syria in different places, wherever these three men were, because they were going to do a triple assassination. At the same time. They admitted that this day will be the assassination day, it will happen while the person leaves his house in the morning on the way to fund your setup. And in the museum, he stood outside the house of your loved one. And as soon as the yellow one came up,

he whacked on your loved one right on the head. And he split his head into pieces. And later on that day, the earlier the last one he passed away from this, you know, within a few hours that they earlier the other one passed away, so everyone has their support from the dean, Mashallah we're very good at that. We're very good at quoting things out of context and supporting ourselves and making our way strong, you know, so we can have a good presentation in front of people. But that shouldn't be the point. The point should be that when you study that the understand it through the tradition of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. So some people they like, defining the deen as whatever

it takes place in the mush. Some people like defining the deen that the deen is whatever it takes place in the heart. That's it.

But we don't realize that the dean is beyond that. The data is very wide. And the dean doesn't only want us to be good inside the machine, but it also wants us to be good outside the machine. That Dean isn't only one has to be good inside the market that Dean wants to be wants us to be good as teachers, the prophets of Allah who it was from not only taught us how to be good outside the house, he taught us how to be perfect role models inside the house. And this was the beautiful thing about the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam usually these things are taught by the parents, who teaches the child to be so perfect in every aspect.

whose responsibility is that usually the parents, but for the purpose of the law, while he was sort of he grew up without parents, and his therapy or his upbringing was done directly by Allah subhana wa tada individualism. And that's what the purpose of the law while he was sitting there, BIA was the most excellent his idea was perfect. his upbringing was perfect. And Allah subhanho wa Taala then praised the prophets of Allah Almighty was set on my same well in Canada Hello Canadian, the indeed you are on the sublime character. You have the perfect character

The people will come to it shall have the Allahu taala. Right? The purpose of the law Why do something told us that if you want to gauge a person's character, don't look at them outside the house, look at them

inside the house, find out how they are inside the house. Because outside the house is very easy to put on a smile, wave at everyone put on nice garments put on good perfume, everyone you meet, give them a big smile, hug them, you can be seen as an amazing person outside of the house. But as soon as that person enters inside the house, then what happens to that person is a secret within itself. This Mashallah Sufi pious person turns into this big volume Jabbar, you know, maybe the the mentor of

eternity into this great oppressor. That's how bad we turn. As soon as we enter inside the houses, you want to find out the real value of a person, you ask their family, and not only their children, only the family because in the family, you have children, as their wife, the people they've taken for granted as their mother as their father and then ask them, What do you think of your son? What do you think of your daughter? What How is your husband? How is your wife? How is your child? How is your father, and then these people will tell you the real side of things, then you'll find out who a person really is. The Companions want her to know about the prophets that allamani was sort of, and

those people who are deprived of seeing the prophets that allamani was sitting with their eyes, they wanted to hear about him, they would come to me and I shadow the Allahu taala. And they would ask her that tell us about the profits of the La Jolla Center. This is the wife of the Prophet sallallahu sallam, and they're asking her after the Prophet sallallahu Sallam has passed away that speak to us about him. And I shut the alarm and starts crying. She cries and cries and cries just by hearing his name. She's in tears. That's what you call a husband. That's what you call love. That just the word that's the name of your husband enters into your ears, and you're in tears. And it was

the vice versa. The purpose of a loved one it was an equivalent love for his wives to his wife Khadija de la junta. She was so dear and so close to him. She was the only wife who he lost during his lifetime. Otherwise, they live till he passed away. The one life we lost lost in his life was cut out of your loved one. And it was so hard on him so hard on him because he was a prophet, but he was attached to his family. Right? He was attached to his wife's The purpose of the law while he was in the first revelation comes he's worried he shook it up. He's shaking his trembling. It's such a big day on him right the

phenomena, no other creation can hold the weight of this barrier, right that can hold the weight of this way. Allah subhanaw taala says no.

Allah Jalla ATIA Hashimoto Satya Nadella a mountain couldn't hold the weight of Revelation. And here the soft and tender heart of Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam takes the first verses of Revelation. And as the mountain would shake, he's also shaking.

He arrives home and who did you go to first? Does he go to his boys and chat with them? Did you go to some other route family members or relatives? Where's the first place the purpose that allowed if something goes after the first revelation?

He comes right home because the person who he loved the most, and the person who he knew that their hug and their sheet would calm him down, was his wife Khadija.

That's what kind of family man he was. And my teacher used to say, Revelation started in the arms of Khadija and ended in the lap of eyeshadow, the Allahu taala. It started in one wife's arms, and ended in one wife's lap. That was how the Prophet said a lot of Hollywood films with wives, and just by hearing what they mean he would start crying, just by seeing some resemblance of her he would have been curious to his eyes. The Prophet said along what he was said he had anyone know how many sons the Prophet sallallahu Sallam had? Three very good Mashallah.

How many solders did he have for this is a good crowd Mashallah, yeah, three daughters, and three sons and four daughters. Right?

The oldest son of the Prophet said a lot of sun What was her name? Mashallah, very good. Xena. Very good. And she was married to

a waiting for you guys.

I will ask Who is she married to us? And I will ask was the son of Khadija delana sister. So these are the olana sister. her son's name was a badass and zenobia Alanna married her so they end up with Yolanda Who does she marry her?

Her cousin, her mother and her husband's mother actually, sisters. Okay, so she married her. Her cousin. Her cousin I would ask didn't accept Islam. And he came to fight against the Muslims in the Battle of button. And he was captured by the Muslims and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam after the Battle of Baba. He sat down with his companions and he asked them that what should we do with these captives? And one of your loved one said slay them all abubaker syndicate the other one said, let them free in return of ransom. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam took the opinion of Abacus to decode the Alon one. And he announced that anyone who's relative we've captured at the

Battle of Baba, you may take them back home in return of a ransom. Right and those who had skill were

Back in mocha mocha market, Madina munawwara to teach that skill to the people of Medina when our everyone came one by one to give the ransom to free their family members. And zenobia la Hannah also came

she came to free her husband about us. And when it came time for her to give the ransom the story, give her something give us something that's hobbies that you have to give something in order to take your husband. And she took off her necklace and she gave

and when that necklace was bought in front of the Office of a lot of someone who was going through all the things when he saw that necklace, he picked it up and he started crying. And he cried and cried and cried and once the hobbyists are lessened Rolo, what makes you cry. The problem is that a lot of them said that this necklace Khadija used to wear, and she gave it to my daughter Zane about the time of her marriage. And I know sanem just gave this right now to free her husband I will ask he started crying just by seeing a resemblance of Khadija to the olana as some leftover artifact of Yolanda makes the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam cry, that's what kind of husband he was. He

was the perfect man inside the house.

That says that when he was inside the house, it was as if he had nothing else to worry about him like he was in the family. And then when it was time for Salah, he would just get up, leave, get up and leave and go Priscilla and come back and he would sit with us. So when he was at home, it was like he was imposing himself. So I'm a big shift. I'm big Mufti, you come here to this for me, you come here to that, for me. He was just a normal husband. We love being in his company. The purpose of the law while he was sitting, he had a great time with his wives. As I showed Yolanda, she says that before the conference that a lot while he was cinema leave the house many times before he would

leave, he would kiss me on the cheek and then he would leave. And the Hanafi scholars they use this as the need to say that the touching of a lady with a man's skin does not break the will they use this as a proof. They say that the purpose of a lot of somewhat kiss. I showed her a lot on the cheek before going to lead salon. Or you look at this. Where do you find the husband? Like it's? Where do you find a man who's so complete? Who has such good recommendation from everyone in the community where everyone's saying this man was amazing. You want to learn the life of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, let's not be let's not nitpick and choose what we're going to we're

going to take from his life. Let's take the whole picture. Everyone wants to talk about the purpose of 10 wives and 11 wives. And he had this and he had that the critics only use this as a target to attack Islam. But they don't talk about how he treated those 10 wives. Does anyone ever talk about that? Does anyone ever talk about how each of those 10 wives never married again after he sort of passed away because of his love. And whenever talk about that anyone ever talks about when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam used to sit next to her eyeshadow, the Allahu talana. And he would eat from the same plate as her were an Arab society that was considered as something bad for a

husband, a man she doesn't eat on the same plate as a lady. He would sit down and eat with his wife and not only eat with them, he would sit next to them and eat and he was on a morsel in their mouth and they would have put a muzzle on his mouth. And I shadowed the aligner says that one day I was eating with the purpose of the long run he was set up. And while I was eating with him, the purpose that Allahu alayhi wa sallam, he gave me a cup of water and I drink from there. And after I drink from that, I put the cup down the process that allowed us and pick up that very same cup and begin to spin it. He was looking for my lip marks. And then he drank from the exact same place where I

drank from you went to Rome, you'll you will love look at Mohammed Salah, and he was he was a perfect well rounded man. And the purpose of the lesson wasn't harsh and Mito this women, the purpose of a lot of times having a dinner with his two of his wives, right? Muslims divide

the purpose of the law while he was Selim is having this reference. The problem is that a lot of Hollywood cinema is having a meal with two of his wives. And they're both eating and one says to the other, you eat first. The second says no, you eat first. She says to her you eat first. She says I don't care. No, you're gonna eat first. So this one's if you don't eat first, I'm gonna put food on your face. And the puffs laughs I'm sitting right where he's sitting in the middle. And they're going off and you're like firing each other down. Typical women.

So one of them picks up some food and puts it on her face.

She did it for the purpose.

And the purpose of the long one, he was so dumb. Now this lady says she just did a standard health. She didn't put food on my face right now. And the purpose of a lot of stuff. What did he do? He just moved his chest back.

That's it. He just moved his chest back and she took food and put it back on her face.

What does that say? He didn't say to

someone that's wrong to you. You have the right to do it back to them. Right. But that was the humor of the purpose of the lohani was that's how he was with his family. He was always smiling. At the bustle. He was always smiling and laughing and joking. He's racing with eyesight with your loved one. Hmm. What? How old is he at that time? He's over 55 years old, almost. Right. And some marriages. 53 years old. Right? He's returning back from a battle. He could have been 53 because that battle took place after the other. right he will over 55 years old and he's racing, which 55 year old man today can raise his wife.

Right without falling over with a heart attack. When we have that class. Who can do that today? No one can

Allow it was I was so humbled that he lets her win. And then after a few years later he says to her, I shot this race again and the race again. And the purpose of the loudest beats is empty Ilana. And then he says to her the first time I let you in, I don't think you beat me. He was so humble. His wife I shout the loudest is the Messenger of Allah. There's, there's a sheet, they're playing sports in the streets, I want to go watch it. I want to watch the game. The purpose of him he stands at the door, and I try to get him on as she gets on her tippy toes, and she's peeking over the shoulder of the province that allowed me imagine how beautiful that seamless what a husband he was. She standing

there and the purpose of the Hadid says the purpose of awesome says that I had no interest in that game at all, what they were watching. It was like watching cricket, I had no interest. What are these guys doing? Right? I'm watching these guys do this crazy thing here. And my his wife is, you know, she but he's only standing there because his wife wants to watch it. Right. As I shut it down. I was watching the purpose of allowing this understanding, we can give so many examples. So many examples of how the Prophet said along while he was and dealt with his wife, and how he was a perfect husband, the wives of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam, were amazed by him. They were

amazed by his sublime character. And it wasn't only his wives, the prophets that a lot of it was said, um, gave that equal attention to his children to follow him out of the Allahu taala was the perfect role model. Anytime she had an issue. You know, you want to find out how good of a parent a person was, you see who they go to at the time of difficulty.

When your son is facing a problem, when your daughter is facing a problem, check who they go to first. And trust me, if your child doesn't come to you with a problem for the past three months, they're not coming to you.

They're going to someone else, because children face a lot of problems. They're emotionally going through a lot. And if they haven't come to you in the past six, seven months with a big issue they're facing, they're probably not coming to you, they're probably going to someone else, some friend of theirs, and their advisor probably has no better wisdom than that child has himself and that's where you see our children making these crazy, you know, mistakes they make in their lives out of the Allahu taala and on the other hand, any any issue she had, who would she come to first?

The Prophet said

she wouldn't go there directly. Once she got married, the prophet said a lot of some Astra fathima we will preserve we will get ready for you the house where do you want to say where do you wish to stay in Medina manana because we will have a house ready for you. And where to find them out of the Atlanta SEO mess? Oh, my father, I want to live right next year. Where do you find a daughter like this today? That says to her father that I want to live next door to you in a daddy's girl. She was so close to the officer lobbyism. And she was that close to him throughout his entire life. And the purpose that allowed he was someone he's passing away, he knows that his daughter won't be able to

bear the separation. So that's why he tells his daughter Fatima that after I pass away, you will be the first person to come and join me you're going to pass away soon too. We're going to be together agenda. Say that the nisei Fatima right. See the genocide agenda. Fatima pseudonymisation Fatima will be the leader of the women in gender. And the purpose of a lot of times that's him being a father. That's him being a husband. And then that's him there being a father. And then the purpose of a lot one incident because other daughters

nomikos children sobre la Anima they had passed away. The three sons Abdullah pass him and Ibrahim had also passed away. Right so far, they've added a lot of shoes by the side of the Prophet said a lot of them throughout the entire life. And then after this the grandchildren of the purpose of the love it was them who were infants. How did the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam deal with the province of a lot while he was sitting whenever he had his grandchildren around him. He couldn't stop kissing them. He couldn't stop. And in the head he doesn't remember

that one companion saw the process that allows him kissing the child on his forehead. And he sort of mentioned them a lot. I have 10 kids, I've never kissed them. Why are you kissing your child? And the purpose of the lesson said it's not my fault. You don't have Rahaman mercy in your heart. It's my fault. You don't have Rahaman mercy. I love my children and he kissed me on the forehead again. The purpose of the loving system is giving the hook and these two young children the anger inside the inside the machine. And by the way, the Prophet sallallahu Sallam was the best karate. He was an amazing speaker. And he was the most prestigious speaker to ever stand on the member. And in the

history of mankind. He's giving this amazing quote about and while he's giving this clip, but these two young children come inside and they're falling. And the prophet SAW someone who sees them falling, he stops.

He goes over there he picks them up, he sits down again. And then he recites the verse of the Quran, in an article fitting Allah in the ledger noting that indeed your wealth and children are a test from Allah and Allah will reward you abundantly. I can honestly go on with example after example after example. The point I want to make is that were the prophets of Allah while he was someone was an amazing worship. He was an amazing worshiper, we can have a whole seminar just on his worship books were written on the body of the Prophet salallahu audios

where the purpose of a loved one it was cinemas only worshiping with his outer actions, but also with his sincerity. You know, we always talk about the difference of opinion within fifth. Someone says tie their hands here, someone says tie their hands here. Someone says tie the hands here. Someone says tie their hands you everyone's different, you know, fighting over where to tie the hands. I went to be Chuck and he's a scholar in Oxford. Very, very, very knowledgeable scholar. Right. He's a doctor and he

And Oxford.

He's written a book actually right now, which is waiting to publish. It's on the female scholars of Hadith. What's it called? The Mahabharata, the female scholars of Hadith. You know how many volumes that book is?

Female scholars? Oh, how do you have any think around? How many volumes you think the book is? take a wild guess.

three volumes, five volumes, the sheer flows, it's 52 volumes.

How big is the book 52 volumes.

I said what the message is? How did you read 52 volumes. He goes even that I cut the book short. Otherwise, I could have written a lot more than 52 volumes. But if I said, Where's the book? He said, Yeah, we'll see. But that's the big problem. No one wants to publish 52 volumes.

Literally, he said, I've been traveling the world and no one wants to publish my book. He said this to me. He said now so I said, What's the plan? She said, Now my plan is that inshallah Allah gives me the trophy. I finally found a publisher in Beirut, is willing to publish the book. But even he's told me to cut the book down to 40 volumes. So he said, I'm gonna have to scrap 12 volumes altogether, he's gonna have to get rid of 12 volumes, bring the book down to 40 volumes and publish that book, extremely knowledgeable man, so knowledgeable, we're lucky, I can't even tell you. I was sitting with him. And he said this point. And I want to relate it to you guys. Everyone talks about

where the hands should be installed. You have to understand the Sahaba they saw the purpose of the lesson placing their hands in different places, and so on. That's why the narrative is that way. But one thing that that no one different opinion is, right. We like engaging in the things that where there's difference of opinion, where there's just stuff everyone likes talking about that. Everyone likes talking about where to put the hand, I mean, not only do you raise your hands, do you not raise your hands. Those are the nice discussions that you have fun, because there's a good debate in there. You really don't have to do much to debate that. But no one wants to study and act upon the

thing that was mother* amongst us harbor something that was had a consensus amongst us ABA, which was that wherever you put your hand and set up the profits that a lot of money was almost always crying in a salon.

Those tears there is a consensus on them. There is an enigma on the tears of the Prophet ceremony. But no one wants to act upon that intercept because that requires a heart that requires software that requires being in the companionship that requires following the real role model of the profits of the audience. And who wants to do that today? Right? The Prophet sallallahu Sallam was not only a great worshiper, but he was a great warrior, not only a great warrior, the best teacher, I was in Madina, munawwara this year, and right while I was walking past the front part of the measures of the Prophet sallallahu, wasallam, you know, when you go, some of you may have been before, and when

you go to see Salaam to the road, the grave of the Prophet said a lot. So you walk past the front part of the machine. And then on the left side, there is the actual machine that the purpose of the law, and there's also the member there where the purpose of the law, Why do you suddenly stand and lead salah and where his where he used to give the multiple, robbing the member. So as I was walking past this thought came to my mind, I was thinking Well, once upon a time, this was a local budget of some local people. And there was a local Imam in here. It was a normal guy who's not here, there was some normal Sundays.

But the thing was that that local Imam was normal. He was one of the people. But he was so spiritually strong, so spiritually strong, and the local moves, suddenly those who followed him were so spiritually strong. And now my teacher used to always say, he says, in order to translate for your English, he's just it was the monument must be the key to

our magic book yoga, look at yoga. This was a statement, right? He used to say in that time, the structure was weak, but the men was strong. Today, we've made the structure strong, but the men inside the muscles have gone weak, you flip the model over, right? So the purpose of Watson was an amazing, amazing teacher. But remember, he was as amazing as a family man. There was no part of the family of the purpose of a long one, it was something that was lifted prior. Today, every parent is making a complaint that my child doesn't listen to me. My child doesn't want to listen to me. I told my child, you can't marry that person, you have to marry this person. But we don't understand that

when these children were growing up, we weren't there for them. For the greater part of it. We were not there for our children. Right when these children were growing up, and when they had issues and when they wanted to talk to us when they came back home. We were in the store and these children didn't know where to go to this show never felt that their father was anything more than a dictator in their life. That's what they never had that relationship. And today when we sit with these kids, honestly, with any kid comes to me with an issue. The first thing I asked him is that Do your parents know? When lady came on girl came to me. And she was brought to the budget by a priest. She

actually first went to the church. Right? She first went to the church in her case, and the priests asked me that I need to consult you on her matter. So I said come on in. So the priest and that girl came together and she was a Muslim girl, by the way, okay. She came to the matches, and I was sitting there.

And I said, What's the case? And the girl said, I have I want to go through an abortion.

I want to go through an abortion. And the reason why she was afraid to come to the budget was because she felt that the Muslims wouldn't

except her

Muslims weren't accepted. So she went there. And then he asked me from an Islamic perspective, what's the ruling on abortion? So one thing I asked her, I said, Do your parents know about this? And she said, If I told my parents forget aborting, forget aborting the child that abort me.

Forget the childhood. We had me though my life will come to an end forget the child's life. Right? So this is the state that our parents are at today. Right? Because we're busy working and working, working and working. We've become Workaholics. We think that the responsibility of the father is to only pay for the child's fees. It's a lie, man. The purpose of the law of money was didn't only pay for his children, he took care for them. He was there everything for them. And you guys know that the profits that allow to set him for a great part of his life as a single father, you know that right? Yes or no?

You guys establish right? All of the children of the purpose that allowed us and who lived. Who are they born through?

These are the Allahu Allah.

Allahu taala, who passed away. And after she passed away the prophets that allowed us to continue to follow them all alone. Fatima, the Allahu taala got married in Madina munawwara in the third year Hindi. And until then, the purpose of allowing it was to them kept her by his sight and was a single father, for he had other wives, but he never burden them with a responsibility. He took care of her alone, which fathers sitting here right now actually has the confidence to say that I have such an attachment with my child that I could take care of them alone as a father, I could take care of them alone as a mother, the prophets of Allah Juan, he will send the most well rounded, he never had big

issues with his families. And if the partners that allow one incident did have marriage issues, he easily dealt with them very easily. We were talking about this earlier on today, a lot of these things that we said earlier coming back right now,

let's say for the gathering will repeat them. If you look at the life of the prophets that allowed him to them, did you ever have marital issues? Yes or no?

Yes or no? Of course you did. But having a marital issue is that is that something bad?

Is that something bad? It's not. There's nothing bad with having marital problems. As human beings, we will make mistakes. But the real C'mon or the real beauty is how you deal with the problem. You guys understand that? What's the real beauty in life? how you deal with issues in life. So here the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and his entire marriage for life.

He had small things up and down. But there were two incidents in his life, which actually were major marriage issues that he had two times in his life where he had major marriage issues. Two major issues that the most of them had in his life with his marriage. There were two major incidents.

What were the causes of these incidents? Okay. You know, young men, they come and ask all the time. Sure. I want to get married, what should I look for in a wife?

common question, right? A Mom always gets this one. When I'm getting married, what should I What should I get? You know, my teacher used to always say that you will meet the mom three times in your life, at your birth, at your marriage at your death.

And I was actually amazed because I went, I went the other day with my father to a lawyer to send us below. And he said the same thing to one of the lawyers say, he's that people come to us at two to three times in his life. When someone's born, and someone's getting married, when someone's dying, rather than marriage. He said, divorce actually,

at least from the marriage site.

Right. So people ask, you know, what, what is there that I should look for in a wife, I always tell them two things, you must have an A wife, because if you don't have these two things, your life is going to be misery with that person. What are the two things The first thing is loyalty? The second thing is

loyalty and cannot, you know, you know, loyalty is right, that you are content that your spouse is not going to look towards anyone else. Your spouse will be devoted to you. And that's it. And what does that mean? Anyone who wants to know?

content, you are content with what you're given? Yesterday, I was in Indiana, and one brother came with a situation to me it's a very interesting situation, where his wife started doubting him for some reason. She was doubting him, she thought that he was up to some sort of machine, right? For the lack of a better word, that this guy says to me shift. I have a daughter and some that are married. I'm past that age. And my wife is doubting me. So what happened? So he said one day we were at the office, they work together, and she left early. When she left early, she wouldn't have the car. But she was gone. Okay. So he said after I was in a closed up office, and I went to my car,

when I sat in the car, it was like Close the door. And I felt like someone in the backseat, said I checked the rearview mirror and I pointed it down and my wife was there. She was kneel down with us and she was sitting there. So he said, I feel bad that how am I going to call it off? So he said, I put the mirror back up, and I just started driving. So I called home and I asked my daughter in law answered I asked her what's for dinner? She said that whatever we've cooked this this, he said, has my wife arrived yet? No, not yet.

Now she's listening at the back.

He said I got

home, I parked far away from the house, make her walk.

He said, I got up, I locked the car and set the alarm.

I won't say what happened after that, okay? It gets too bad. Anyway. So imagine a wife like that, well, you're just not you're not you think your husband or your wife isn't loyal all your life, you just go here and oh, maybe this maybe this maybe that maybe this. And the second thing is what we call contentment, but not right? If you ever get married to someone who's not content with what you have to give them, they're gonna take you on a roller coaster, they're gonna take you on a very far roller coaster because the expectations are gonna drive you nuts. And trust me expectations never come to an end. And these were the two reasons why those two major issues took place during the life

of the Prophet said a lot of stuff in his marriage. The first one was, someone made accusations on the loyalty of Ayesha Yolanda.

And it really upset the Prophet said a lot. And it bothered him so much. It bothered him so much. It became such a serious issue that he actually spoke to Dave in Haifa and even ever thought about the Allahu Allah regarding what he should do.

He said, What should I do and I don't know what to do. And then the last one actually gave the advice or messenger of Allah, it may you have permission to marry as many as you whoever you wish to marry, marry, he, he was kind of implying that maybe you can marry someone else. And this was the reason why I used to love you a lot. I was always upset with your loved one. Because he gave this advice at that time. Women remember things right? And she Remember to

and then if it became such a serious marriage issue, that the Prophet that Allah subhana wa tada had to reveal 10, ayat and sudo to noon, for the contentment and purification of eyeshadow, the llama Tanana in the lineage, it will be difficult for two men come until they had all this is are there. And the second issue was rare. The women of the province of Alaska asked for increase in their What do you call this? There was significant call allowance for the increase in allowance. They said O Messenger of Allah, we want more money from you. And the lessons that I don't have anything they said no, we want more. And it became such a big issue that the Prophet said a lot of them had to

leave the house. He left the house and he didn't return back for some days. And it's a very long story of what happened. At the end of the story. A loss of final data revealed is there too. Yeah, you wouldn't be you? logica in continue to didn't hire to dunya was a Natasha fatale. Oh my

goodness Ron Jamila, when control Naruto la hora de La Hoya de la cara fin de la la Santa Monica nassima Yan is right till the end. These verses are the closing verses of the 21st verse of the Quran and the opening verses of the 20 seconds of the Quran. And in this verse is Allah subhana wa tada What did you say? Yeah, you had maybe a messenger as you consider your life in container dunya was enough. If you want this real life in its beauties, fatale and come to me, I will give it to you. But after I give it to you, when I have seen that you are not content with what I have to give to you will suddenly change me I will get rid of you too, you will be gone. But not just leave. I'm

gonna in the proper manner, Sarah and Jimmy does the most beautiful matter, but you will be out of the marriage. But however, in Colton that you didn't allow our pseudo if you decide to opt for a line that as soon we're done laughing in the hereafter in the La

la de matar, Allah has prepared for you a very grand and great reward in the hereafter. Right? The Prophet said a lot of them did have issues sometimes with his family, but he knew how to deal with them with patience without screaming without getting angry without throwing a flowerpot without getting into you know punching and swinging in abusive. The profits of awesome knew how to do all of this. And if we as Muslims want to claim to be the followers of the prophets that allow it so it's important that we follow his example holistically. We don't pick and choose what we will do from the life of the Prophet that allow it to them. Because we cannot make this Deen into one based off our

whims and desires. This Deen cannot be one based of our culture, this Deen just can't be based off Hassan Hassan this deal must be based off exactly what the purpose of the law is. If we can become good parents, if we can become good brothers, if we can be the best wives, if we can be the best husbands, that our children will also be the best to. But if the machinery inside is faulty, how do you expect a good product to come out? Is that possible? If the machinery inside the factory is faulty, can you get a good product coming out of there? No, you can't. You have to make sure the machinery is solid. It's a quality if we become the best parents, then watch our children come up.

If we become parents who are role models for our children, where our children don't have to see us fighting and arguing with each other every time we step into the house, our children's marriages will also be safe and secure. And if we can give a nice strong family to the oma, if we can teach people how to establish real families that the purpose of the law is established, then we will revive within our society something that it's losing today. Because today it's very hard to find a family which can serve as a role model. With that I in my gut, I had my discussion I pray that Allah subhanaw taala allows us all to understand this role model

This, this model of the Prophet sallallaahu. It was sort of and that also kind of allowed us all to follow his footsteps allows us It allows us all to be the best fathers, the best mothers, the best brothers and sisters, the best husbands the best wives, and Allah subhanaw taala keep our families in the shade of his throne on the Day of Judgment had Allah Subhana Allah homovanillic should have Allah Allah Allah and the sulfuric acid awana and hamdu Lillahi Rabbil aalameen Samaniego