Hosai Mojaddidi – Ramadan Sorority Halaqa
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So again, thank you for joining SubhanAllah. You know, I thought a
few minutes ago, I was ready to cancel this. Yeah, hola. I'm
sorry. And it wasn't for any other reason. But I made the mistake of
not broadcasting. So I was sitting with my co host saying, Oh, it
looks like it's gonna be just you and me. And then she's the one who
really made me realize I needed to broadcast the webinar Hello, and
then we could get people joining. So anyhow, that shows you how
little how much I know about the zoom. Even though I've been doing
it pretty much every day of my life. In the past two months, I'm
still not very well at it. But anyway, I just like to fit in for
being here. The talk that I wanted to present today, actually, I
just, I've been thinking a lot about many things lately,
especially in the as we entered this last 10 days of Ramadan. You
we all know that it's a little bit more serious. You know, I don't
know how many of you were on last night's Rama Foundation, PM, but I
spoke about just, you know, the theme that we're all entering
these last 10 nights with it, it's heavier. And I was just remarking
or in my comments last night saying that I was thinking about
the wisdom behind while also had that a organize the month in the
way that he did you know, the first 10 is mercy. And then we
have the middle of forgiveness. And then the last time we have
suddenly this very intense theme, it's like, whoa, you know, if you
look at the trajectory, it makes sense. If you're thinking and
reflecting about, you know, the wisdom of the human being we're
very forgetful, right, we're very forgetful, but we're also we're
weak, we're created weak. So you know, in His mercy Allah spot that
as we enter this beautiful month, he receives us with mercy. And he,
you know, because we have to get used to the drastic changes sort
of shock to our physical bodies. And even spiritually, a lot of
people have to hold themselves back from so many things that
they've, you know, negative things and behaviors that they've
acquired over the years. And they do that humbly, that may Allah
bless them and reward them and increase them. Because they make a
concerted effort, maybe more so in Ramadan than any other time where
they're trying to refrain from maybe using foul language or doing
other things that are just you know, really bad or haram. So
they're, it's an effort that is difficult for some people. So
there's the Mujahidin, right, that's happening for all of us.
And then the physical, you know, the hunger, the sleep deprivation,
the thirst, the coffee withdraws. I mean, I certainly feel the
coffee withdraws even now,
you know, stumbling over words, it just it's like we're not very
lucid, you know, because of all of those things. So there's that
weakness, that when we enter the month, we naturally have no spot
that it makes it easy for us by helping us to just ease into it
with mercy and messages of mercy. And so you see all of the talks
around that time of the month, I watched several ever all the, you
know, fatigues or the chef has or the emails or the speakers, we're
talking about the Mercy of Allah because this is the theme, right?
And then Subhanallah, we go into that forgiveness phase, and it's a
little bit more serious now. Because now we're you know, we've
by 10 days, we should now be in some bit of a rhythm. And things
are getting easier by just facilitation and from our love.
So, as we're getting a little bit more, you know, used to things but
I love the fact that all splatter immediately puts this theme of
forgiveness on us is to, in my estimation, or my what my
reflections anyhow, are, again to just humble us because we're so
forgetful. So if we, if we ride that wave of ease and mercy too
much, it's very natural, that we'll just kind of maybe start
taking things lightly in terms of our prayers, maybe not reading the
book of Allah as much or we start to get a little lacks in terms of
the time usage, right, where we're going to maybe watch a little bit
of TV here, instead of especially in this quarantine, where we're
not able to move about freely and maybe do other things that we
normally would do. So I think the knifes would would, you know,
inclines to kind of just take looking for those little loopholes
and, and moments where you can, you know, be be your neffs again,
but Subhanallah that kind of stops us in our tracks in a way and
says, Wait a second, you've had the Mercy now you need to think
about all the stuff you've done that, that you need to ask for
forgiveness for. So we get into a very humbled state, right, we're
returned as soon as we get a little bit of confidence or maybe
some wind were returned back or were told to no but keep your head
low. Because now you need to kind of sit with some shame and guilt
and shame is a powerful it's a word that evokes a lot of emotion
depending on how you use it. If it's between people, obviously,
that never goes right. Because human beings shouldn't shame one
another but oftentimes we do and it's it's a it's weaponized to
really destroy people's souls and spirits and in lives and you see a
lot of people Oh, the villa
They've, they've, you know, then people have killed themselves
because of an onslaught of shame. You know, living in a household
with a toxic person that just constantly reminds you, of all of
your negativity and all your problems can definitely throw
someone into a state of absolute despair that eventually puts them,
what's the meaning of life, you know, and then they just all the
bluster inevitability, so shame is very powerful. And a lot of human
beings, we use it in the worst ways with each other. And that's
not part of our tradition, we don't shame people.
But when you have self shame before Allah subhanaw taala,
that's a much healthier version of shame. Because we make so many
mistakes, we're constantly careless, and we're heedless. And
it's important to recognize and own that, you know, part of the
maturation process, the natural maturation process of a human
being is that we have a lot of, you know, leeway in the early
years, right childhood, you allow for a lot of mistakes, there's no
accountability, because you don't, you're not able to discern right
from wrong and Allah subhanaw taala, of course, again, in His
mercy, He is lifting the parents as they say, and, and there's no
accountability for the child. But once the child matures, and they
have the ability to know right from wrong, and then they enter
that next phase of life of adolescence, then, yes, you're now
held accountable. And we can't extend the childhood mindset,
which is, unfortunately, what you're seeing in the world around
us, you know, they want to extend childhood, the mindset of
childhood, where everybody's kind of nobody holds up themselves to
account anymore. You know, it's kind of like, oh, well, I did it.
And they just move on the way a child would, you know, toddler, if
you've ever been around a toddler, they could break something, they
could drop something, but they don't have the ability or the
maturity to realize the consequences of their actions. And
so they just carry on, they're not really affected, right. And that's
what we see in our world today, where a lot of people they are
making egregious, I mean, horrific, their behavior, just so
all the blood sinful, and hedonistic, and just all the
things that are again, not part of our tradition, but they will make
excuses for themselves all the time. And it's not even a big
deal. They don't even have remorse. This is what we call a
flower. It's a disease of the heart when you are so far gone in.
And I'm not just talking about non Muslims, or I'm talking about our
own community, people, maybe in our own family, who are very well
aware of the Haram and the halal, who know who that Allah is real
and insha. Allah, they have Eman, but they've adopted this, c'est la
vie, carefree attitude that says, You know what, I'm just gonna do
whatever I want to do. And I'm not really worried about the
consequences. And that's, again, part of the collective sort of, as
we call it, the, the zeitgeist of our time. And Zeitgeist is like
the the spirit of the time. And the spirit of the time that we're
living in is godlessness. It's awful. It's heedlessness, it's
just not really caring and living 100% For your own shadow your own
desires and winds. And that's how we live. And so you see a lot of
that in our world today out of the blue. So you know, it's important
to again,
center back and say, Well, how can we control this? Because we don't
want to be obviously afflicted by these things. And how can we
prevent this from happening in our own way? Right? Well, that's why
this month of Ramadan is such a blessing, because almost father
recognizes that we're so forgetful. If we don't have
something to reorient us to our purpose, then we'll lose
ourselves. So again, he reminds us to, you know, good, think back on
all the things you've done, take account for everything and ask me
for my forgiveness. And then it's not even guaranteed, right? It's
just we're supposed to just actively be asking. And then
Subhanallah when that phase is done, the last 10 days is also
human nature. So I don't know how many of you people are seeing it,
but I'm already seeing a lot of II sort of talk, you know, we're not
even fully done with the month yet. But Eid starts popping up
because we are eager to move beyond the discomfort of fasting.
And we're eager to kind of just get back to our normal routines.
And yes, you know, people recognize the immense botica of
the month, but there is that other Nuptse poll, you know, like oh, I
can go out again, I can have my coffee in the morning, I can eat
breakfast. These are all thoughts that people have right so the mind
starts to drift away again. And we start to look at that finish line
and that's what you know, every everybody's like, yeah, yeah, but
somehow look at what Allah does. It's so wisdom is incredible. No,
we're not even going to think about anything in this world. Like
forget, you know,
Oh, no, I mean, like the lens has just shifted completely to
something that is so beyond maybe our imagination, but also real,
that we're forced to look at it, which is you need to not move just
from forgiveness, but now asked me for protection from the hellfire.
So it's like this gradual intensity that's happening and you
would think the opposite, right? I mean, naturally, you would think
the more you do something that it would get easier as you do it, the
longer you do it, but Subhanallah it's actually getting more
intense. And there's incredible wisdom in that. And the wisdom and
my again, this is my thoughts is that, you know, we know because it
happens every year back to our forgetful nature, we fall into a
false sense of security that because we've done amassed all of
this you know, these blessings and these rewards inshallah we're we
have hope in our Lord, that he's rewarding us and that we've done a
lot and I we look at, we're doing our prayers on time, we're
fasting, we're reading, and we're giving more charity. So the mind
over the next I should say, deludes us to think that Well,
you've done so much. Now, give yourself a pat on the back. And
now, you can coast it for the next year, right. And so this is what
subconsciously happens to many people, which is why we see that
dip of, you know, spirituality and practice immediately after the
month. Because it's the nature of human beings, we vacillate
constantly in these two sorts of places. So the fact that Allah
again, is letting our last moments or telling us that our last
moments in this month, are so intense, that we're to be focusing
on asking actively for protection from the hellfire, I think we
really have to, you know, take that seriously as a way to, again,
keep us centered and focused and humbled in the month as we're, you
know, continuing to let it you know, experiencing it as, as
everyday comes. But even beyond that, so that we have those
memories with us when we leave this month that you know, I
because I don't know how many of us again, I was speaking to
someone yesterday, a friend. And I was telling her, when I long time
ago, when I first came to the dean or practice the dean, I threw
myself into certain topics, like a lot, I loved to look at anything
related to stories of the jinn or angels, all the supernatural
stuff, really. But I also did a lot of reading into the signs of
the end of time, a lot of, you know, reading into death and the
process of death like all of the soul, the travels of the soul, the
borders of I read everything I could find on what happens when
the soul is extracted and the questioning, and just the scene
unfolding in front of, you know,
the believer or the non believer because there's a difference, you
know, experiences and then the afterlife. And so I did so much of
that. But in my I'll be honest with you. It's been a while since
I visited a lot of that those themes because I think just
generally speaking, our community has maybe picked up
some of the political correctness that we see around us where we're
very we're always talking on a you know, and it's it makes sense that
we have the last part of our tradition you know, when we do our
or we teach, we invite with Rama, we invite with ease, we invite
with gentleness, that's definitely part of our deen. But I think if
it monopolizes if that message is monopolizing, then we may
inadvertently be causing some imbalance there because the
problems I sent him was, but she didn't want to do it. He came with
good news. But He also warned the Quran has good news, but it's also
has warnings in it. So the one sided messaging that we've kind of
adopted where it's all good, and we don't really even talk about
men when's the last time you've heard any scholar? Talk about the
signs of the end of time? I honestly can't remember it.
Schrems. I know a few years ago, sort of did stuff but I don't
really know many other scholars were talking about the signs of
Android time. The Gen. You know, when that Messiah show came out on
Netflix cause a little bit of a buzz and I was hopeful that maybe
we'd see more content. But when I was in the 90s, I don't know how
many of you remember it was that was it? That was like all we were
hearing we were hearing about the Masonic temples, right? How many
of you remember those talks, hug buzz right on the conspiracy
theories and all of the, you know, secret societies, and then the JAD
and there were so much in a theme and I'm not saying that we should
return necessarily to having just that, but I feel like the balance
is kind of lost, where we don't talk about these very serious
realities. And then the further and further that are the you know,
the fact that we don't talk about it, the further and further it
goes away from us so that it's not really real. You know what I mean?
It's not really real to
us but this is part of our Arpita you know, six articles of faith
you have to believe in heaven and * that it is a reality. And it
is it's, it's a, it's something that is in existence, right. And
so even though we don't, we're not aware of it, or we can't see it
because it's part of the unseen realm. It is in existence and so
to, for our sponsor to have us concentrate a third of this
melodic month on thinking about something that is painful to think
about, you know, a lot of people, for example, you know, death
itself. You know, one of the diseases of the heart is antipathy
to death, where you are repulsed, there's a revulsion to death. It's
actually a disease of the heart because death by in our tradition
is not something we're we revolted by, we actually are probably the
most healthiest in terms of our attitude about death. And really,
the reason why is again, at the mercy of Allah spot that he gave
us such a great amount of detail about it, you look to other
traditions, they don't have anywhere near the level of detail
that we have about the process of death, you know, the butter stuff.
And what happens, the unfold, like the events that unfold on the Day
of Judgment, there's so much in our, you know, in our sacred texts
that describe these things, whereas other traditions have very
little to no content. And I've heard from converts who have
converted to Islam. That was also one of the reasons that
contributed to their Eman is that they saw that there were, there
was just so much information, I gave them some peace of mind.
Because I mean, if you think about it, you know, if you don't have a
belief in the afterlife, you're Allah, I don't know how people
really, it's kind of shocking to me, how people are in existence
walking around, and they don't believe they believe that this
world is like, there's a finality to it, and that sit and then
you're just dust and warm food. And I think that takes a great
degree of, I don't know, if they're just, I mean, it's clearly
delusion. But I think maybe that creates this, you know, sort of
ability to be impervious to all the stuff going on around you and,
or even just the fact that you're not going to see your loved ones
at a later time. You know, what if you have a tragic loss, like I
don't know how they're processing that, I really don't know how
they're doing it reconciling the belief that there's no nothing
beyond this world with their pain, because we are humans, Allah
created us with emotions. So grief is very real. And it's just it's
mind boggling. But alhamdulillah our, we have a belief that this
story, there's more to the story. And just because, you know, this
world is it is temporal and you know, things are event, you know,
they're, it's unpredictable, we don't know who's gonna go when and
how things are gonna happen, that there's a much bigger and greater
story. This is like, you know, the foreword of like a long, beautiful
novel that's going to unfold afterwards. And not to get wrapped
up in the forward because there's so much more to come. But that
gives us solace, it gives me peace, when I think of the people
that I've lost in my life, right? Hamdulillah, I believe firmly with
your pain and show that I'm going to see my father again. And that's
why when I was when he was slipping, you know, and he passed
in front of all of his children, and his nieces and nephews and his
in laws. When he was passing away, I had peace in my heart. And that
was from Allah, because I knew that his body is just a shell. But
the eternal part that lasts forever is that sol, sol, and
Hamdulillah, you know, that we have a deen that is complete. And
I think again, there's there's so much great wisdom, in the fact
that Allah subhanaw taala is telling us to concentrate our mind
and heart on protection from the fire in these last 10 days,
because we need all of that intensity, to make sure we don't
stray for the next, you know, 11 months until we're back at this
month. Because that's really what it is. Ramadan is like, you know,
when you it's the the tether, that that keeps our hearts connected to
the last part that is also the filtration, you know, month of
filtration where we get to come back and filter and detox. And
then we go right back out into the messy dunya until we swing back
the next year if we're lucky, right. But that process requires a
referrer to really be effective so that we don't go too far, I think
makes the most sense that almost like I said, is giving us this
deep, you know, this very intense, I should say theme that we're
supposed to think about everyday. So in these last 10 days, you
know, this is what we're taught to do we have to confront these
realities and confront our sinfulness and and that we have no
guarantees. Now with that said, because I want to stick to what we
talked about, or what I you know, the theme. We also don't want to
fall into despair because, yes, Jahannam is real. So as Jana
And when we talk about, you know, think asking for protection of the
fire, it's not to fall into a state of despair and belief that
you're doomed, and you have no hope. Because that's, you know,
shaitan wants that. So there's a fine line of being very humble to
know that, you know, you need to continuously and actively seek
Allah's forgiveness and repentance, because nobody has
safe Nobody's safe, right? Until He decrees Nobody's safe, but have
a man's hope. And, you know, keep yourself motivated every day. So
how do we find that balance? And not let those negative thoughts
worries, anxieties, concerns? Overwhelmed, because I know a lot
of people have reached out to me, especially in this pandemic, just
stressed by all of it, it's very stressful. It's and there's, it's
anxiety inducing, if you're not, if you don't know what's going to
come tomorrow, you know, let alone the year ahead, right. Because
sometimes, if something is temporary, we can we can manage
our emotions, right. But if there's no end in sight, then the
anxiety increases 10 fold, 100 fold. So that's why you see a lot
of people really crippled by anxiety, because there's no
answers, like, Please, someone tell me that this is going to be
end over by, you know, this month or this and then I'll cope. But
when we don't have any answers that can induce that. And so
there's that anxiety of that. And then, you know, obviously, just in
general, whatever state that you find yourself in, again, when
you're doing this enter sort of work, you might start feeling just
not good about yourself, and you have to be careful that you don't
fall into the traps of shaitan. So what I wanted to do today, just
kind of talk a little bit about what specifically about women?
Because
women we have, it's just it's yeah, the black is I, you know, I
see, when I think of things I see see kind of like the matrix,
right, in my mind, certain things I see in the matrix. So when I
read a research that says women are twice as likely to suffer from
depression, these are global statistics, right? That, you know,
that.
So, so it's not just depression, but like self, you know, image
problem self. What is the word
self esteem, think you can think of the word self esteem issues,
self image issues, also suicidal ideation, you're seeing the
statistics kind of, you know, center around women more than men.
And to me, that's just tragic, because there's so much potential
and so much power in, in what women do. We're just Allah has
enriched us and given us so much. So it's tragic to me, because
what's happening is, it's a bliss, it's all a bliss, he's, he has
very effectively and as you know, I gave a talk a short while ago,
but I came up with this analogy, so that we can understand what I
think is happening, you know,
our psyche is connected to our spiritual center, right. And this
is the most coveted thing that he believes wants, he wants to
destroy us from within. So his mission is very clear, he's going
to work tirelessly, and he doesn't sleep, by the way, the shot the
and don't sleep, they have no rest. Okay, so we're talking a 24
hours, relentless campaign, of how can I destroy as many people as
possible, right. And it's amazing, because, you know,
the connectivity that we all have with the internet, and all the
stuff that modern technologies afforded us, are also really
powerful tools for him to do this work even more so. Right? Because
he has direct access to us in a way that we're not that previous
generations didn't really have, you know, that it was a much
harder job for him to do what he had to do previously, but now it's
like, he's, we're literally inviting him into our lives into
our homes every single day by by the these means, right. And so I'm
gonna use this analogy because it works. You want to look at it,
like, if you know, your psyche, or your spiritual center, kind of the
same way, like a, again, a computer system that has been
hacked into, okay. shaytaan is the ultimate the, you know, the hacker
that nobody ever wants to know, right? The one who can do it all
he's got tricks up his sleeves, and nobody can really trace him.
He's like untraceable, right? There's hackers in there like
that. On the dark web, they're very hard to you know, they're,
they're elusive, they can't FBI and all these, you know, agencies
cannot track them down because they know they're ahead of the
game, right? That's the bliss. So he knows how to hack into each of
us individually. And him and his minions and the way that they do
it, you know, some of the attacks are very clear. So when you're
talking to some people, they're their spiritual attacks, you can
tell right away, this is a total Westeros you have to reject those
thoughts. But other ways that he gets in or what we call you know,
there's, for again, amusing computer terminology, but like,
you know, man
malware, right? There's malware spyware, there's all these
different ways, right? But um, one of the things that is very
powerful is what they call the Trojan horse, right? Which is
sneaky, it comes in undetected, you don't know that it's even
there. And then it destroys everything, it wreaks havoc. So
this is how he has, I think, effectively gone gotten through to
a lot of us, specifically women, and I'll explain why I think that
but he's basically dispatched his minions to attack us, and to embed
himself into that spiritual center, where slowly it's like a
slow release poison, you know, that he is releasing to destroy
our entire beings. And I see so many sisters in law, well, I It
breaks my heart, because they will talk about how they're having a
psychosomatic response to whatever they're feeling. They're feeling
bad about themselves, maybe they're single, and they're not
married yet. So now shaitan has found a way to cripple their self
esteem, you have nothing to offer, you're unlovable, you've got this
problem. So that happens to a lot of our single sisters, then you
have married sisters who are in relationships, and they are just
full of self doubt, you know? Is he going to leave me? Or is it
going to take another wife, I'm not pretty enough, I have to lose
weight, I can't eat around him, because he'll think this and you
see this total, again, crippling, of sisters that's happening, they
just don't have any cell value, anything that they're holding on
to because they're consumed by these thoughts. And then you have
mothers who enter motherhood, who just on every decision, beat
themselves up, question themselves constantly, what's wrong with me,
my kids are going to turn out this way, I suck, look at all these
other you know, I'm sorry for the Frank language. But you know,
that's the kind of language and the thoughts that they get. I'm a
terrible mother, in a look at so and so she seems to have it all.
And there's all this compare and contrast. And so you start to just
chip away at every single, you know, phase of a woman's life,
he's found a way to, again, send those viruses in and destroy us
from within chip away at our self confidence and our value. And then
we're just reduced to this kind of, you know, free, sort of an
leashing of these, you know, I get I'm visualizing, I'm visually
visualizing a lot when I talk, but like, I just look at it, like, you
know, when you have, what's the word, there's a term, I apologize,
this is this is an effective lack of coffee. But when things are
just, you know, streaming, you know, thoughts that are
uncontrollable, and they're just coming from every angle. And she's
not aware that these are all what these are all West VESA, those
negative thoughts that make you feel so terrible about every part
of yourself. They're not they don't originate from you, they
originate from him. And it's all part of the design, you know, that
what he's he knows he's been watching us, right? He knows how
to do this. And so if you're not aware of his tools, and his, you
know, modus operandi, how he operates, you're susceptible to
his attacks. So it's very important to, to be able to pay
attention to your thoughts. And just on the topic of thoughts, you
know, according to the research, we have anywhere from 50,000 to
80,000 thoughts a day. I mean, that's a huge amount of thoughts.
If you're, if you're like spinal from the start of your day until
you go to sleep. Is it any wonder why we have anxiety? Really? I
mean, is it any wonder why we're all kind of panicking and not
feeling any peace? Because we don't have quietude of the mind.
It's like this bombardment of thoughts, right. And so first and
foremost, that's important, right? That to know the number, but then
to the quality, right? Because that translates to 2100 to between
2100 to 3500. Thoughts and our Okay, so at 50 to 80,000. Again,
everybody's different, but in that range, then you're looking at the
quality of the thoughts 80% of the thoughts that we have 80% are
actually repetitive, they're, excuse me negative, they're
negative, and then 90% 95% are the same. So we have 80%, negative
thoughts and 95% repetitive thoughts. So that's a huge portion
of your thoughts are exactly the way that we should depict shaytaan
he is the whisper and when you think of whispers, it's like, one
after the other after the other after the other. So it's just
this, you know, boom, boom, boom, like this onslaught of the same
repeated thought, right? So he knows what he's doing. And it's
and that's what we're all walking around with with that reality. So
it's like how do you free yourself from that so that you can build
yourself up again, and become an actual your actual, you know,
actualized self, you're the best potential and best version of
yourself. How can you do that when you
remind is, again, been hacked into this way your spiritual center has
been hacked into, you cannot do that unless you know again how he
works. So we'll have the law we have. And I'm going to read
quickly, because if there's questions, I'll take them
Inshallah, and I don't want to keep you guys too long. But I'll
read from some of what our scholars have left us to give us
some clarity. First and foremost, you need to be able to identify
the types of thoughts you have, because all thoughts are, first of
all sourced from four different sources, which we'll get to in a
moment. But they're also you know, there's different types of
thoughts. So we have descriptions that I'll read. The first is
hedges, and this is a fleeting thought, it's something that
enters the mind, and then leaves quickly. So it's not really
something that you're holding on to for very long, but it may be
just a, you know, pop up, you know, kind of like, think of,
again, another computer term, a pop up that comes in your mind,
and then boom, it's gone. So that's all hedges, then you have a
hotter and hotter is a thought that enters the mind. And you and
we actually hold on to it a little bit longer. So you might think
about it, you know, for a few minutes, maybe 30 minutes, maybe
an hour, but it's something that sits with you and you're dwelling
on. Okay, and that specific, one more, we'll expand on in a minute.
Have you ever been EFS is now you're taking that thought and
it's going to develop into an internal conversation. And so
you're going to deliberate much more over this thought, maybe over
a longer period of time or revisited over a span of a couple
of days. But it's just something that, again, could be anything, it
could be a memory, it could be a plant an idea. So we're again,
giving you just the breakdown of the different types or degrees of
thoughts, then you have a hum, so once you've processed or
deliberated, then there might be an impulse to act or like some
motivational, you know, state it inspires you to be an estate,
right?
I'm sorry? Did I read that wrong? No, no, it's correct. So yeah, you
have this motivation, right. And then that motivation turns into
what we call awesome, which is now you are resolved to do to execute
the action. So whatever motivation you had to act, the item is now
you're going to develop that into an actual plan of action. So those
are the different types of thoughts we have, right, fleeting,
sort of temporary, but you know, you recognize them that's like hot
that and then that that conversation, internal dialogue
that you have, which may span over some time, then there's an impulse
to act and then there's the actual plan of action. So those are the
five different types of thoughts that come to us. Now, the sources
are also important to know because the hot the reflected are four,
that every inspiration that you have is sourced from four sources.
The first is called Rabbani, or many then Molokini, NFC and
shaytani. And so inspired thoughts from illustrata are sort of
commands to do good. They can come from, you know, responses from
doing a slice of the Sahara. So there's very clearly some, you
know, the connection that because you're directly asking Allah
right, for, for answers, right. That's what the why is hot, so
powerful. So that would be an inspiration that always panda is
giving you. Medication is more suggestive, good works, right?
Whenever you have a sort of suggestive thought that you should
do this, maybe you should do this. And it's good, it's a good work,
it's a good effort. There's blessing in it, that would be an
inspiration by from the angels, right? Medicare are the angels. So
they because we have angels that are around us, and they inspire us
to do good work, but that's kind of like a nudge, then you have the
Neff Sani, which are your own thoughts, and this is accumulated
over the years and all of your experiences and memories and all
of the things that you've been conditioned to think and your
beliefs and your personal sort of ideologies, all of that can inform
your Nevski thoughts, right. And then the last is shaytani. And
this is where this is the one we have to pay the most attention to
because it is the most intrusive and the most corrosive of all the
thoughts. It's the thoughts that really destroy our spiritual
momentum, our spiritual belief in ourselves are all those things
that we talked about our self confidence, he chipped away at
that through his vice versa and so important to know how to
differentiate also between the NFC and the shaytani because a lot of
people they falsely attribute their knifes inspirations or
actions to shake hands was versa if you're doing the same things
for years on end, you do not cannot scapegoat the police and
say oh please, inspired me to do this sin. You've habituated
yourself to it, you you're doing it. So that is your enough's has
is weak and your enough's needs to be conditioned to come out of that
weakness, but you cannot scapegoat and say oh, it was a bliss and he
made me do it. It doesn't work that way.
So that's very important to know, your bliss is original, because
he, you know, he wants to incrementally destroy us, right?
So once he gets us into those bad habits, the next phase is how can
we push her or him to the worst or thing. So his inspirations are
always worth a degree above, and they're new, they're novel. And so
that's how you differentiate if you fall into a sin you've never
done before, or your sin has gotten worse. You I mean, you're
maybe you're doing a deed, a bad deed, but it's incrementally
getting worse. I'll just use an example. Because it's the first
thing that comes to mind. You know, if you're single, let's say,
and you're talking to a brother, right? When you're talking to a
brother, and you are having conversations privately, right?
That's not we know that this is not permissible, because it opens
the door for shaytaan. We do a lot of people do this, right? We do
it, we think it's not a big deal. But then we feel the effects of it
later. Some people, you know, unfortunately, take it to the next
level as well. So it's not just that you're talking to them on
privately, whether it's on the phone or text message, or what
have you, there's this intimate sort of setting. But then, if
police will come to you and say, you know, what, what's the big
deal, like, you guys have talked now for two or three weeks, you
know, maybe it's time to take it to the next level, just talk on
the phone. And so, you know, the least thought of a phone or a text
thread or whatever, there's some distance, right? It's some, it's
somewhat safe, safer than actually having a more real interaction,
which is, you know, over the phone, or now we can do FaceTime
and video messaging. And so you see all of this behavior. You
know, it's everywhere. Now, how many teens and young adults youth,
not even young adults, youth, we're talking adolescence, pre
adolescents have been caught, or wrapped up in this horrific
reality of our world right now, where young children are
sexualized so early, that they are sexting and they're sending lewd
pictures of themselves to people. This is all because again, shaitan
is normalized it and it's no big deal. But a lot of people fall
into this behavior. But how does he do it, he starts to do attache
thought or their footsteps. So it's like, let's start with a
small thing first, and then get them habituated to it, and then
we'll keep making them get worse. So that's how you know if it's a
bliss or not. But if you're already doing it, it's you right?
So important to know that. So then
all of this again, I know, it's a lot of content, but just for us to
reflect on how or what is his what is the objective of bliss. So as I
said, he wants to destroy spiritually, but also I like to
visualize and I think it's effective, is you want to think of
a bliss, his name comes from a bliss, right, which is to despair.
When a person is in despair, they're in a low state, right?
They're low, they're low. And so shutdowns ultimate goal is to
bring us all down with him, he would want nothing more than to
just make us all feel low about ourselves. So that's where those
thoughts of despair and self confidence come from is because
that's his station, he's in the, he's in that realm of despair over
over his state. And so he wants to drag all of us down with him. So
for women, a lot of times this is the feeling that we get when we're
stuck in these negative thought patterns, is, it's like a sinking
feeling. It's like a feeling of and I liken it to, like, you know,
quicksand where you're trapped in this just sinking feeling. And
there's you don't know how to get out, you want to write a lot of
sisters that nobody wants to feel that right. But it's just you
can't move, you're immobilized because the quicksand is sinking
you further down, this is the danger of letting these thoughts
take root and not rooting them out, filtering them out, is it
that's what happens is that, you know, and this is why depression,
it's something that, you know, it kind of just buries people into
this, you know, state of just, you know, again,
almost like disappearing in front of you, they, you know, one of the
silent telltale signs of depression is completely being,
you know, reclusive and, and not wanting any engagement with
anybody and just sleeping a lot. So it's like, you're hot, you
almost just go inward and inward to such a degree that you're not
seeing anymore. Well, that's what you want. It's like, you know, way
of making you disappear, basically, which is another way
of, you know, destroying you. So, he wants that. But a lot of
sisters, I mean, nobody wants to be in that state, but they don't
know how to come out. Right. And so we this is why it's so
important to study his trappings and to study how he gets into our
mind and one of the very clear ways again, this is my estimation,
and all the years that I've worked with women is to chip away and our
cell value and our self confidence and make us constantly feel as you
know, the impact
Oster syndrome, these are all syndromes where it's like you
don't have, you know, you're always thinking you're, you're
fake, that you're not really good enough and that you don't deserve
whatever compliment or praise you get, you're just never, you're
always overwhelmed by inadequacy. And I see this just the other day,
actually, a sister messaged me about this very same topic. But
um, you know, that women are always held to impossible
standards, or compared to every buddy else, and you know, made to
feel inadequate, because those comparisons are, it's like, from
every source, you know, you can get it from your mom, your
sisters, your friends may say something in passing, coworkers
might say something, but there's a lot of compare and contrast with
the women and women behave a woman's behavior. And especially
in social media. Now, you see it all over the place, right? Where
women are pitted against each other, even if it's not direct,
there is that element, you know, of, of, you know, posting
something, and you know, whether it's it's inviting hesed, right,
it's inviting, whoever the onlookers are, to feel not good
about themselves. And that's why I have a big problem with a lot of
the social media stuff that we see is it's superficial, it's fake.
It's, we're and I'm not talking about just filtered stuff, because
a lot of stuff is filtered. That's a fact. But I'm even I'm talking
about presentation is so inauthentic, you know, it's
inauthentic. You have a lot of influencers, and they you know,
it's amazing, because I don't know if it's Ramadan, but, you know,
there's a couple of influencers, who this month who have kind of
come out with some really devastating news about their own
personal lives, and what they're dealing with. But they're, they
say, and one of them specifically said, I never want to present
anything negative on my social media. So I've been holding on to
this for years. But this is my reality. And it's like, wow, if
that's not, you know, I mean, that I think is just, you know, really
what, what's what we're seeing on a large level, everybody's doing
that, whether even whether or not they're whether they're influenced
or not, everybody's only presenting what they want you to
the story they want you to believe. And so it's hard when
you're, you know, sitting at home all day, and you have young
children, let's say you're a stay at home mom, and you are, you
know, between googoo, Gaga and diapers and bottles, and you know,
just Mommy, why? You know, an endless cycle of questions about
everything in existence, you take a break to just go check out and
have some level of adult interaction, and you turn to
Instagram, or Snapchat or Facebook. And all of a sudden,
you're looking at these picture perfect Pinterest lives of people
that look like you, they talk like you, maybe they're from the same
background as you. But their lives look so much like more polished
and clean, and there's no stains, and their face is poreless. And oh
my gosh, I am the biggest loser ever look at me, I can't even
handle, you know, my two children or three children. And my hair's
like, gray and I have this problem or that problem. And it's like, we
just sit there and but where are those thoughts coming from?
Right? Who's the one who's going to come when you're looking at
that and tell you, you're such a loser? Oh, my God, look at her.
She has the perfect life. You're so pathetic, and it's not coming
from you. That's coming from a bliss. That's a fact. Because at
the end of the day, you know, it's amazing how, think about for
example, endorsements, you know, we as human beings, by nature,
we're not quick to give away our endorsements to just anybody,
right? Like, you don't endorse people that you don't really know,
you don't go write a review about something that you haven't
experienced, you know, or at least you don't know the person,
sometimes people do it for friends and family. But you know what I
mean? We're very selective about where we give our endorsements,
because it's an extension of us, right? So you don't want to
compromise your reputation by endorsing a human being or
something or that doesn't pan out for you, because why your
credibility goes down the drain. When you do that, nobody will
believe you. Nobody will hold your word, you know, with any weight if
you don't have credibility. And so we are very selective about what
we do when it comes to that. But ironically, we don't vet
the credibility of the source of the thoughts that we entertain.
The credibility of a bliss is Wes wasa is, he has no credibility.
He's the ultimate loser. He has nothing going for him. You know,
and yet we give him credibility. It's a GM it's
So ajeeb that we actually empower someone who is the most
disempowered of all of God's creation, He is nothing.
And that's his fate. But we empower him by letting that
thought that he injects in our psyche, take root. And then, you
know, as those, the greater you know, the the list that I set up,
it goes from a fleeting thought which all of his was, was should
be fleeting, like, boom, get out of here, it's worthless. It's
pointless, right? We don't do that. We pick it up, we hold it,
we stare at it, we look at it, and we consider it, we unpack it. And
we consider it and we think about it, oh, maybe I maybe because I
didn't, you know, do this when I was younger. This is why I'm in
this state now.
Such a loser. Why didn't I do that? Maybe if I was smarter, like
so and so I would have a better life. So now you see the layers.
He just adds on the layers, and what's happening to you. Whatever
momentum you had in that day, in that hour in that moment has
disappeared. Your feet are in that quicksand, because that's where he
wants you. You're not going to pick up and carry about your day
when he's just basically destroyed you and told you that you're the
ultimate loser ever and connected it with something that happened
510 years ago. This is insane. That's why it's so important to
know. Any time you have you question the decree of Allah
subhanaw taala it's worse versa. Whatever happened in the past
happened a loss you have to move away from it. The past is done.
And you don't We don't know why Oh, I wish I wish and lament over
the past. Because it's the decree of Allah that you're you're
lamenting, and it's a disease of the heart to do that you cannot go
back and wish the things didn't happen the way they happened. Even
if it's painful, even if it was difficult experience for you
personally, you can't do that because you're going against the
decree of Allah. So when it comes to things in the past, if you have
a thought about that event, and then link it to where you are now,
this is 100% a spiritual attack because he's trying to destroy
your trust in Allah subhana does plan and getting you lost in again
this soup this toxic soup of of despair that he wants you to just
sink in. So you have to see it before it comes. And as soon as
it's a fight about past events, you have to check it out and go
nope. Oh, Allah, Masha. Allah decreed it and i You're accepting
of it. And that's it. And then, so the past you stay in the past,
right? So that's some sisters or brothers, you know, that's where
they're at. Their past is crippling them from moving
forward. It's like the ball and chain that they cannot separate
from in order to do anything good and lead a positive life, they
have no hope. They have no cell value. They just are sinking and
sitting in that marinating and all that despair. He's happy. He's
clapping. He's cheerful. He's excited. He's One Watershed on one
use zero, right? This is how he operates. For other people. Yeah,
it could be again, what what has been decreed for you in terms of
your self, you know, body image is a very serious issue for a lot of
women. A lot of women are crippled in terms of their life
satisfaction, because they're focusing and hyper focusing on
their physicality when asked by that repeatedly tells us none of
this matters. And you know, none of this is important. It's
important socially, maybe to for some people, but in the higher
grander scheme of things. If you're basing your value as a, as
a person as a someone that is in existence, on how you look how
your skin color is your hair, your nose, your eye color. And that's
all you think of when you think of yourself. It's a state of
ingratitude are the biller. And that's what he wants checked on
wants you to do. He wants you to be so hyper focused on what you
don't have, or what you are not happy with what you have, that you
become completely
in, you become completely oblivious to the good that he's
given you, where you can't even see it. And this is also a disease
of the heart, right to be oblivious to God's blessings. So
all of these you see, these are all his attacks. Let me get you
hyperfocal focused on again, your physicality, maybe or maybe
financially. You wish you had more financial security. I wish I lived
a different lifestyle. Maybe you're not happy with your
relationship. So whatever you have, you know that Allah has
decreed for you. You're just not happy with it because you're
comparing and contrasting it to again, all these false you know,
Take things that are happening around you, or you know people's
presentations around you. But what has he done, he's now chipped away
at your trust in God, and made you put you in a state of ingratitude
as well as despair. So it's not just to be sad about your
situation, we're going to also help you to be blind to all of the
other good around you, and just sink you into a state of
ingratitude. And that's what's happening everywhere. So many
people totally oblivious to God's blessings. And then that, you
know, if he's really working on you, and this is amazing, if he's
really working on you that he takes it to the next level, which
is you're not only in denial of God's blessings, but now you're
resentful. Now you're in a state of just total, you know, all the
cynical people that are around, they're just very negative people.
Because, you know, once you're allowing gratitude to take over
your heart, that's just what's gonna happen. You're entitled, you
are, you know, arrogant, because you think that you deserve better
than what God decrees for you. So you're boastful, right? You're
questioning God's decree. And this is what shaitan did. Right? He
questioned the last part of his decree. And he said, What a
hiraman when I was panthella told him to bow down. He was Why are
you You know, like, he challenged? Why did you create this creation?
I'm better than him. So when you read, you know, in any way object
to the other of Allah, and then we question that we deserve more, or
we're better. We're also can you see his psyches injected into
ours, like, that's what he thinks, right? He thinks he's better. So
we have to be careful of these thoughts. That's why it's so
important to pay attention to your thought pattern. Because when you
can source the thoughts, and you realize, this is not me, I've just
been hacked, you know, my mind has been hacked by these thoughts, and
I need to root them out. And I need to start seeing them for what
they are. Because his ultimate goal is to destroy me and make me
feel make me a sad, you know, shell of a person that is only
just again, sinking, it's just sinking. And that part of me that
almost product created that is supposed to rise and two are
supposed to move forward is immobilized. And that's that's who
we're supposed to be as muscle. They're supposed to be people of
action. Right? We're supposed to be people of purpose. We look to
our the prophesy setup. I mean, he was from, you know, childhood, I
mean, even before prophecy, but certainly after prophecy, he never
stopped, he never stopped teaching. He's not he never
stopped, you know, spreading the word, he never stopped, even in
his own practice. I mean, when you imagine the prophets I sent him
who was promised Jenner waking up in the middle of the night, and
worshiping Allah subhanaw taala, to the point where his legs were
swollen, where his wife, Aisha was so overcome, because she felt sad
for him. And she was like, you know, basically, what are you? Why
are you doing this? Like, you deserve a break, too. And he told
her, you know, why are you doing this? And he said to her, what am
I should I not be a grateful servant, you know, slave. But that
was his attitude, right? He never stopped. He allowed that to
happen. You know, I mean, he pushed himself to that level, what
are we doing, right? And so, whenever you're immobilized, and
you're not busy, and you're not keeping yourself busy, you're
opening yourself up for shaitan, to tell you what to do. So you're
just going to sit around today? Hmm. Okay, we'll have a u turn on,
you know, Netflix, and let's watch something. You know what, let's
watch. You know, the show or now, I'm not in the mood for that.
Let's watch the show. And then you pick up pick something that, you
know, is probably going to have inappropriate things. You know,
there's really no benefit, because likely and how many of us now, we
all have collective add, right? Even five minutes. I mean, there's
very few people, I think, in the world that can sit through an
entire film without being distracted by their device. I
mean, I just I don't know, you see movie theaters with signs that
even warn people, please turn off your phones. Because that we're so
tied to this thing, that the impulse to check it every two
seconds is really hard for people to resist. So it's like, what's
the point you're going to sit there and waste two to three hours
of your time watching something that you're probably not going to
remember very much. And then even within a few minutes of it, what
are you going to do? You're going to check your phone message, maybe
browse? I mean, I've caught I mean, you know, it's, we all do it
myself, but even it is my husband and like, you just made a big deal
about watching this, whatever it is. And now you're browsing on
Amazon, like really was there no other time. But we all do this
because again, that's just the mind. We're we're all hacked some
way right, but that distractibility is also part of
it. So, you know, this is what he'll do, he'll fill the void
with his own ideas, right? And so it's like, suggestions are going
to be everything to distract you from a lot and so you sit through
that movie and guess what happens? You didn't even pay
intention to the time to realize, oh my god, I forgot to pray for
her awesome.
He won. He just took you away from the one of five things that you
are literally designed to do. He made you not do it. And sometimes
it's not even one prayer, you miss two, three prayers, because
especially if you're going out, you see people and I said this
last night, too. If you're at the point where you're, when you make
a schedule or a plan with people, and the thought about your
prayers, how am I going to do them? What if I don't have will do
doesn't enter your mind, that's a problem. That's a serious problem.
Because your existence is to worship a lot. It's not to go out
and have coffee, or go to the mall and shop for five hours or go to
the city and go to the beach. And, you know, go have lunch with your
friends or whatever people do. That's not your purpose. Your
purpose is to pray. So before you finalize a plan with anybody, and
even if you're spontaneous, and you're like, Oh, it's so fun. You
know, those natures are normal. But before you do that, that's
sort of the check is, wait a second, when does Lucha calm? When
does offset come? What if I don't have will do work? And I make will
do you know, do I have a prayer mat in the car? Do I have you know
this and that you do that process? And then you say, okay, I can meet
you. But how many of us schedule our prayers or factor our prayers
after we make plans or not even at all, you just bolt out the door.
And then oops, I forgot to make we'll do It's okay, I'll just do
other
stuff, blah, blah.
Who did that? You know, and I'm not saying it taking away moral
agency, because we all have it. We're all responsible for our
decisions, but the distractions and the constant feed of ideas,
what to do with your time, if you're not already thinking about
it, and planning and scheduling, then he will come and give you a
whole host of ideas. But each of those ideas is to take you away
from Allah. So this is why you have to know his tricks and pay
attention and start to live, you know, a more purposeful scheduled
life, like the prayers are part of that, right? We as I just said,
We've scheduled our lives around our prayers, but also there's
other ways to also be regimented. And to keep yourself in check.
Someone asked how do you condition your knifes, you got to know the
diseases of the heart. So if you don't have this book, purification
of the heart,
you should definitely get this book. And if you've heard me ever
speaking, I'm surprised if you don't know about this book, as I
talk about all the time, I'm teaching classes right now for the
youth tomorrow will be our last one on this book. But so important
that we know this book and we work on rooting out the disease's,
that's part of it but it's also habituating your knifes which is
weak and which only wants to you know, again pull you away from
Allah habituating you to do what to have the remembrance of Allah
not just five times a day, but periodically throughout the day.
By adopting the practices of the provinces. I'm sticking to the
Sunnah, we have to stick to the Sunnah. There's no way that we can
possibly think that we're going to have a fast track or a faster way
or whatever, to Allah subhanaw taala if we bypass the Sunnah,
it's just illogical and it's totally shaitan ik to think that
way, it's the worst worse or that idea. So people who are who now
come around with all these progressive ideas of you can skip
this and oh, I don't know about that tonight. I'm not going to do
this. Like you're just delusional, you are shutdowns all over you.
Because if you stray from the sun of the prophesy centum there's I
don't I mean, you know, ultimately all outcomes are to Allah. But
you're not in a good you're not in a good place at all. Let's just
say that. So the Sunnah we look, we have to learn about the Sunnah.
So you got to start somewhere, if you don't even know, his
daughters, when he woke up in the morning, or how he kind of carried
himself through the day, the things that he did, and you're not
even thinking to adopt some of those things. Or maybe you do here
and there. That's where you start. You work on the disease of the
heart in conjunction with adopting more of his sunnah. So for
example, you know, when you get dressed, being cognizant of your
right hand, right, everything on the right first, you're just
trying your best to, to adopt whatever he did say, Bismillah, we
eat with our right hand, we enter the bathroom, we go with, you
know, say the DA and then we enter in our with our left foot, we
leave with our right foot. These are all practical things that we
have learned by Mark, you know from his sin, Syrah. And so we
have to adopt those things, right? But we have to learn them. So you
got to commit to reading about the Sierra knowing about, you know,
again, how he spoke, how he walked, how he engaged with
people, his habit of, of smiling, for example. I mean, how many of
us walk around with just stone faces, and we're not, you know, we
ignore people because we're socially, just weed
don't realize the the immense amount of focus on keeping good
relations and it's always from the Sunnah of the prophesy, some
people become so inward and so insular again, because of the
internet and all the, you know, we're just behind screens all day
long that we don't we're not even comfortable interacting with each
other. But we can't even do the simplest thing, which is look at
someone and smile and smile, even though we know it's said. And, you
know, the process and tells us don't diminish the value of small
actions, even the, the smiling face in front of your brother is,
you know, is a is is a setup as a charity, right. But we don't, we
don't look at those things as as important. So we just cut people
off, we wear sunglasses, we have our air pods in, and we're just in
our own world all by ourselves, well, stuff, right? I mean, if
you're not going to kind of your comfort zone and be willing to
just give someone a smile, a friendly face, then you're far
from the Sunnah, because that was the sort of the process. And if
there was anybody who was busier in the world, I mean, think about
it, think about his mission. Think about the weight on his shoulders.
He said, If you knew what I knew he would laugh a little and weep
much. He had so much heaviness, he carried he had grief, he had lost
every so many souls, dear souls, so many beloved people in his
life, but he was still able to give a cheerful disposition. And
yet we think that we don't need to do that because I don't like
people. I have time for people. You see all these really negative
annoying comments, all the villa May Allah forgive us because we're
so far from his sunnah, that we can even utter those things.
People are, you know, part of a wealth creation muscle, not
Muslim, it doesn't matter. But that's not the point. The point
is, is if you are feeling the spiritual benefits of this Deen,
that it's should just exude out of you. Like, it's like a scent that
just touches whoever you walk, you know, in their path. Because the
dean is so sweet to you. And it's so beautiful to you that it just
comes in, right, whether you like it or not. And that's what why he
was so effective is because he had that that experience, he was
completely immersed in it. He is, you know, so everybody who was
impacted by that light, whoever came into his vicinity, they
didn't even have to even speak Subhanallah and he would people
would be, you know, come into tears and tremble, because they
were so moved by his presence. But why? Because that was all from
Allah, it was who he was. So when we think that, you know, are we
don't have any obligations to, to do those types of things, because
we just don't have time for people. You know, okay, so you're
busier than the prophesy centum. Okay. Anyway, so it's just a
matter of training, you're not you're knifes, as weak. Shaitan
wants to bring you down and it's they work together, they're their
allies to bring you down the road. That part of you that longs for
Allah is like this poor little child desperate to go back to its
source, you know, right, Allah is the source of, we're all going to
return to Him. That rule who wants to be back with Allah with its
creator. And it's always longing for him, but we suppress it, we
suppress it, like we do a young child shut it down. And we just,
you know, increase this knifes and feed it and feed it and feed it
and empower it so that the voice of that rule has like the voice of
us faint, faint whisper of a child. And then somehow out of
Allah's generosity and wisdom, he forces us to imprison that knifes
during this month of Ramadan. So that child can speak up a little
bit that a rule can come up and and and that's why, you know, you
hear the book of Allah, and all of a sudden your heart is moved.
Why now and not a month ago? Why were you quick to turn it off,
because you wanted to play that song instead? How many people do
that you get in the car and it's an eye of the Quran. They don't
have the patience to let the eye of finish because they can't wait
to play their song.
Because that's enough since shaytaan. Anything that has to do
with Allah's remembrance now, it's not fun enough, it's not exciting
enough, and then smile on this month. Why do we have the other
experience where we're here, we'll read an idea and all of a sudden
your heart is trembling, because a child is finally able to speak.
So.
Are there any questions?
I'm sorry, I kept you guys on here for a long time. But thank you for
staying with me. Are there any questions about there's there's a
lot of content on this, about how to control our thoughts but I
think ultimately comes down to recognizing the source of our
thoughts and being able to again what I said earlier
credibility, don't give IBLEES credibility, he has zero
credibility. He's nothing. He's useless. He is, as I said, the
ultimate loser. So none of his whispering should hold any weight
look to your Lord, for to base your value. And I'll support that
for the moms out there if you're listening.
We're
This is why it breaks my heart because you think of Allah's
generosity, right? He's told us on
our team, these two names of all the 99 names are probably after
the name of Allah, the most
repeated, and the most recognizable, the ones that are
probably evoked more so than any of the other attributes. Why
because
we learn these names in childhood. Before we even know a lot.
Sometimes we know Bismillah Bismillah Bismillah, our parents
are feeding us our mothers, may Allah bless all of you mothers in
your hands, for feeding your children.
But that word,
crush Ma, what an honor, that Our Lord gave us women.
Because the womb
that all of us possess, whether we're mothers or not, it doesn't
matter. You don't have to be an actual mother, the womb is within
you.
And that immediately connects you to other Ruffman and other Rahim,
what an honor from our Lord,
that He gave us that special, you know, station to know His intimate
attributes in a way that men cannot know. They don't know how
to rough men and in the way we do, and that's why how many of us as
mothers,
um, I remember when my first son was born Subhanallah I marveled at
obviously the miracle, the birth, but one of the things that really
struck me was the ability to how in sync we were, he would, I would
co sleep with him, but just a whimper from his voice. And my
heart would wake up, whimper
my eyes would open.
Because the thought that something could happen to him. I know all of
us experience that, that comes from that. Because we will forsake
sleep, you know, for our, for our children. How many of us do that?
How many of us have done that for multiple children, where you have
no sleep, no rest, no peace, because you're willing to give all
of that up to take care of this infant, this beautiful gift that
Allah has given you. But how many of us have seen and I saw I swear
I saw it. It was amazing to me. Because as this is proof, my
husband, you know, he had to go to work. And so, so many times, my
the baby would be crying, like crying. And he would sleep right
through it. I'm like, wow, look at the difference. I wake up on a
whimper and you can sleep through a cry of an infant that just was
shocking to me. I never understood but I know many women have had
very similar experiences where their husbands are just like, I
didn't even hear it. Oh, Was everything okay? And you're like,
Yeah, I had a really tough night last night. Thanks for helping
out. And they have no clue, right? Because this is from Amanda Rahim.
The incredible amount of mercy that we possess as women as
mothers, it just that nurturing quality that you're always tending
to and caring for. And you see women who not only feed their
children and take care of their families, their in laws, their
mothers, their neighbors, always thinking about someone else other
than themselves. So that's why it's so hard to imagine the attack
is so effective on on this on half of us you know, we're half of our
creation of Allah's creation such a large number of women are
affected by this is because the police has gotten through, and
we're the winner, how can we fend him off if we don't band together
and work you know, I mean, and just push him out. And the only
way we can do that, again, is if we band together, we have to work
with each other and uplift each other remind each other of how
special we are. Women are incredible. You know, like
oxytocin to me. I mean, there's so much to say about women's hormones
and what have you. But I remember when I read the research I just
said that's just Allahu Akbar, that when you come into a
gathering of other women, and even if
No words are exchanged your oxytocin levels which bring in all
these really feel good anxiety suppressing, calming, you know
mood hormones, it increases just because you're with other women
inshallah good woman right? Allahu Akbar. So we know we have
incredible power. But we again, you know,
we've been hacked into so we don't believe in any of these things
we've, we're listening to, you know
all the the West Vasa from a bliss but from where from, you know,
beauty influencers and stylists and men who are you know, I mean
that just always gets me to that so many of the standards of beauty
that are throughout the world are come from men, and they're not
even heterosexual men, how many people who are in the beauty
industry, whether it's makeup, whether it's clothing, whatever it
is, if you look at women's fashion, women's beauty, how many
men are in that industry that are not even heterosexual. And yet,
they get to dictate to us what is worthy and what's not what's
beautiful, and what's not. It's unbelievable the amount of like,
you know, just to think about how
his his tricks are so effective. Because if you think about our
logical level, it's like, wow, that's pretty pathetic and sad,
yet we're, we're still affected by it, because he's managed to again,
Cripple us in so many ways, and to break away our confidence. And
then you have all those pilot data, you know, look at our
province slicer. And first thing he did, one of the first things he
did was he renewed the value of the life of a female infant. And
then full circle, his last sermon solo, how to set him, he warned,
he warned everybody more than the men about the treatment of women.
He elevated us constantly, throughout his entire mission,
women were elevated, he would ask for our advice. He would, you
know, take counsel, but he would speak to women, there's a
beautiful story that we just heard recently of the woman who
interrupted him when he was talking to his companions. And in
the it's in the Shamaya. And in the Tafseer, she was actually not
just an ordinary woman, she had mental health issues. So she was
known to be unwell and unstable. But he you have to read this
hadith, how we honored her, it hit my heart like
because
he's honoring women, if he's also ordering people who are, you know,
considered the throw aways as Chef Hashem Muhammad said
that we consider people who are not well the throwaways of
society.
And so that hadith is so powerful, because you see him inviting her,
he says to her pick, he says, I want to talk to you. And he says
to her, pick any street in Medina, and I'll come and I'll sit with
you. Who does that? This is our proposal is set him
so he knew our worth,
but we don't give him in his words, enough credibility, to, to,
you know, internalize those messages. We look to
fashion person, so and so. Or celebrity so and so. And then we,
you know,
stuff a lot. It's just everything's flipped flopped,
everything's inverted. And that's, you know, signs at the end of
time. Nothing makes sense. But that's why, you know, this is what
we have to do. We have to take this stuff seriously, when we're
told to
think about ourselves, you know, almost pilot commands us over 750
times in the Quran, He tells us to think ponder, deliberate. So all
those thoughts that we were talking about 80,000 thoughts?
Well, yeah, if you're not controlling them, and you're not
actively, you know, trying to, you know, take control of the
narrative of what those thoughts are telling you, then you're going
to be affected by all of this. Just toxicity and negativity and
lies, it's a campaign of lies, but we're all eating it up. The truth,
the hub is with philosophy and improvisation. So that's all you
need to you know, dial this noise down. It's just it's noise. And
it's harmful and it's meaningless and it's empty, and dial this up
and you know, then you'll see your your heart is just in a better
state because you realize that why am I letting this stuff in? Turn
off your televisions? You know, I I have no
flex, you know, I'm not on your soapbox against all of you know,
technology and whatever. But if you what I mean to say about turn
off your televisions is be more aware of what you're consuming. If
you're going to consume garbage,
then don't be, you know, don't complain about the stench because
you consumed it. So make sure whatever you let into your mind's
eye that you watch and hear
that you realize it's going to impact your heart, everything
because those 80,000 thoughts a day are coming from sources. And
certainly, the media is also a huge source, right? The media and
other people. So whether it's social media, or print media, or
whatever media it is, you know, be careful. Don't let everything in
guard your heart, it's the most precious thing you possess.
Nothing is more important than the spiritual heart nothing. And if
you don't, you know, protect it with everything you have, then,
you know, the what happens, the hacking system is so easy. It's
like you know, a computer with all the security features is a lot
harder to get into right? Then a computer with nothing on it, no
software, no password, nothing. That's what we've become. We have
nowhere there's no safeguarding the heart. And then we wonder why
we're in this horrible state that we're in what are we doing, we
have to actively be doing things to safeguard the heart. So it's
really is in our hands. And that's why
that handler or Dean is the dean that empowers people, it's not a
dean of victimization, and woe is you and poor you, and Oh, so sorry
that this happened to you, no matter what happens, we're told to
get up and move, get up, be in a state of gratitude, this role is
temporary, it's part and parcel of this world that you're gonna have
tribulation, but pick it up, because it's not the end this
there's a final, you know, enter this world. And the next one is
where you want to have your eyes set on. So you know, dust yourself
off, pick yourself up, dust yourself off, but move forward.
And that's, that's the message of our DNA. So we have to just,
again, go back to the basics, learn about who Allah subhanaw
What that is, learn about the son of his of this world, learn RFP,
the look to the Sunnah of the prophesy seven, adopt his way over
ourselves, prefer his way you do that, and you'll see the
difference in your mental health, your relationships, everything
just starts to fall into place, because you're actually taking the
medicine or the elixir that's going to offset the poison that
you've been feeding on your whole life, you're finally going to get
the remedy. That's it. But if you don't get the remedy, then you can
expect healing. So may Allah increase all of you and protect
you, thank you for being here. My goodness, I'm sorry. And this is
one of those days where the heart is full. And it's brimming. And so
thank you for being with me in this moment. And I hope you find
benefit in this. My initial intention was to just sort of
speak on these matters. But I'm really happy that so many of you
joined so that we could benefit further Munira and his family and
Shala with hopefully are all of our collective recitation of Saudi
Sen. So please keep him and his family and your guys.
If there are any other questions, let me know now because
yeah, we'll go ahead and end it if there's no questions. I don't see.
I just see the chat open, but there's a question box. Okay. So
yeah, if there's no questions, and we can go ahead and end in Doha
Inshallah, but thank you for your time.
All right. Oh, wait, there are some questions. Hello, I'm sorry.
I have a question or somebody had a daughter
so someone's asking about having daughters versus sons, you know,
don't let those things affect you when you raise children actually,
I'm glad you mentioned that. So Subhanallah I hope you're still
here. Sister. Are you still here? Because I want you to hear this
Galaxy Note nine.
I hope you're still here. But I'm going to share something with you
that will give you some peace hopefully this hadith
Where did it go?
Sorry, just give me a minute so I can find it.
So the prophesize
said Okay, so this is
related by a savvy named Uthman Ibn Mattoon. Okay. And he says he
was passing by the prophesy set on Monday, and he was carrying a baby
on his shoulder and in the prophesy some asked if the baby
was his son, okay. So he said yes. And then
The President asked him, Do you love your son? And he said, Of
course, yes, very much so. And then the prophesy ism said, Should
I tell you something that would increase your love for your son
even more? And if men said, yes, please make my mother and father
be ransomed for you. And then the prophesy son said, remember, this
is for him and his son who said, Whoever tries to please a child,
until the child is pleased with him or her, Allah subhanaw That
will disavow upon them his generosity. So I'm a mother of two
boys. And this, you know, hadith is hopefully bring some comfort to
your heart that not all of you know, the things that we've been
told about children are centered necessarily around, you know, are
the benefits and the rewards are only for daughters. It's really
about raising your children on Dean and giving them Inshallah,
you know, Hidayah, that's what you want to look at. And honestly, you
know, I've heard it too. I know, a lot of people, my own family
members have pushed me over the years, you should have more, you
should have a daughter, you should have a daughter. But I always say
from the law, I am grateful for whatever Allah decrees for me,
because he knows what's better for me, and he knows what's better for
that child that's going to come into this world, I may think that
I want a girl or you know, some people think that I don't, I'm not
saying that for myself. But someone might think that, but only
Allah knows what's truly best. And that's why you know, the story of
her that most autism is important because we don't really know the
outcomes of anything. But when Allah decrees something, you have
to be content with it and just put your trust that he knows better.
And not to hold on to a message that is intended really more to
honor.
You know, girls, because the society around them at that time.
Remember, female infanticide was something that was in practice. So
the prophesy centum is trying to, you know, educate people that that
that's totally haram and unacceptable, but not only that,
incentivize and give people glad tidings that when you have a
daughter or you know, two or three, that this is the reward for
you. So, I think there was a lot of intention and why that was
revealed. But not to take that to mean that suffer a lot. If you
don't have a girl that was somehow you're missing out. The gift of
motherhood is a gift whether it's a boy or a girl or not, doesn't
matter. It's a child. It's a soul. It's a believer, it's a servant,
inshallah Allah subhanaw taala, who will continue your lineage of
believers until the Day of Judgment, that's what you want to
focus on in Shama
under the law,
how can we condition are enough so I I did address that. I'm bringing
I talked about, you know, following or studying the diseases
of the heart and then also habituating yourself to follow the
Sunnah as much as possible. You'd have to follow the Sunnah. If you
abandon the sunnah or you don't follow the Sunnah as much, then
you're enough just kind of floating around trying to figure
things out for itself. And it's always going to lean to the lazy
thing, but if you know that the process and did something, adopt
it as best as possible, you know, as much as you can incorporate
that into your life, even if it's not something comfortable for you,
you know, you that's what it is, is disciplining the nafs to get
used to a new normal a better normal?
No problem.
We should we should we should we should take action on the issue at
hand are dismissing ineffective actions helps us reduce overhead
or just remain in a neutral until you're able to move forward. I'm
sorry, sister, and I'm not clear on when you asked that question
what it was related to so I if you're still here, if you want to
clarify I can answer that question. But I'm not Yeah, I
don't know what I was saying when you ask that question.
So I'll wait if anyone to answer. I'm just going to quickly sorry,
I'm getting a lot of messages. I hope there's nothing wrong with
the recording.
Okay
Okay. Could you give some tips on how to overcome procrastination
that's a very good one. Procrastination is one of the
telltale signs to have spiritual because the total Amel is false
hopes right.
And I don't want to get the Hadith wrong but there's a hadith that
again, in summary, the messages are not you know, the one who
wakes up in the morning isn't promised the evening and the one
who's, you know, evening or is alive in the evening isn't
promised the morning. And so we have to remember nothing is
guaranteed for you and false hopes or this idea that you have all the
time in the world to get something done or you think a week or two
weeks. I'll just do it, do it. Do it then later.
This is all false hopes. And it's, you know, it's basically inspired
by shaitan. Because he wants to deprive you of getting those
rewards and he knows that your, your natural sort of Nuptse nature
might kick in and prevent you later from doing it. Right. Like,
right now you might have that energy for it and the drive, but
give it, you know, a week, and maybe you're just going to change
your mind and go, no, what was I thinking? Let's say like, for
example, you want to go take a class, you know, you see a class
being advertised and it's on, put on, you know, to see it, and
you're like, Oh, my God, I should totally sign up for this. Right?
It sounds so great. And so then, then he'll come and say, you know,
why don't you do it later, when all you know, the kids are asleep,
and everything's totally, you know, calm down. Now, all those
hours in between, you might forget, first of all, okay, you
might not even do it later, because it's just not in your
mind. But let's say you do do it comes to again, maybe you had an
event that day that just discouraged you, and you don't
feel good about yourself, you had a fight with your husband, or your
mom or something went wrong at work. Now, if that, you know, tab
was still open on your computer, and you see it, you're just gonna
go and exit out, you're gonna go Forget it. What was I thinking? I
don't have the time and energy to take on this. I can't even you
know, sustain my household. Do you see how shaytaan works? You had
you signed up and committed in the moment?
Even because you were that was an inspiration and you felt it, then
that commitment would have maybe taken you out of the state that
you found yourself in later. Because now it's like, Well, hey,
at least I have this class I can look forward to and maybe it'll
wake me up and you have a little bit more pep, you know, because
you have something to look forward to. But he didn't allow for that,
because he convinced you that you could just put it off until later.
So if you have the inclination to do good, do good. And I'll
actually give you a quick story. Was it yesterday, and I just said
Subhan Allah. So I've been attending. I have family members
in Iran. And I've been attending to send a little bit from South
Africa to them.
But the person that I go, I forgot I was just in everything. So then
I read a hadith and I wish I had it, but I don't know where it is
right now. Oh, my internet's unstable. So I think I froze, but
I read this hadith.
And in the Hadith that said something about if you know,
shaitan one of his tactics is he will divert your focus so that if
you want to do something good, especially with charity, with
charitable giving, he'll tell you to do it later. So then when I
read that hadith, I was like, oh my god, I never did that. And I
rushed to my phone. I got onto PayPal and I was gonna do it right
then and there and Subhanallah PayPal was completely not working.
I don't know what happened. Every time I signed in, it wouldn't take
my password and or it took my password and then it redirected me
and I was like, oh my god and then I came on the browser and I tried
it wasn't working it locked me out because I've tried so many
attempts with the password even though it's weird because I face
it anyway. But I was like wow, and then I couldn't do because I had
to prepare for a live and so I haven't done it yet.
And so I'll try to get today but this is how you know what happens
when we procrastinate is that he'll find other ways possibly to
thwart our good so British Allah we keep our intentions good. So
try to just when you have that inspiration to do something do it
then in there be a person of action inshallah
All right sisters, we've been talking for two hours I certainly
did not intend that but I am very grateful to all of you for
spending so much time with me so it is like well hidden mela again
increase you all of you reward you May he accept all of your faster
prayers with was all of your good deeds this month inshallah. And
your family may help protect you and your family from all harm and
Shahla and hopefully we'll come out of this whole situation wiser
and more connected and show that to him and to our loved ones. So
does that come with all credit please again, remember brother
Munir and his family and your daughters so what ended launch
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