Hosai Mojaddidi – Lady Asiya (RA) The Faithful, Forbearing & Fearless
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Did Allah subhanaw taala when he introduces, you know, people to us
in the Quran, in this momentous way right to say that he's given
us certain examples, we really have to pay attention because
there's something coming basically right? So when he says to us, He
has given examples for the believers in front of his wife,
that's for all of us, but also for our male counterparts to learn
from to learn from her as an example for all of us, right. And,
of course, it's a much longer verse as was recited. But I wanted
to point that out, although the Prophet salallahu Salam also
mentioned, of course, as he has specifically. So he, in addition
to the other three perfect women, says her name and this also should
warrant for all of us to, you know, respond to I want to know
more about her. If he mentioned her, of course, Allah mentioned
her, who is she? I want to know, right? So he says here the best of
women among the people of paradise already given paradise, or Felicia
ventilated fatwa, Mohamed. Maria means Imran and as Ebenezer him
the wife of Pharaoh, and that distinguishing, you know,
mentioned here of who she is, is also really important, as we will
now find out. So the reality is we don't have that much biographical
information about her. But what we do know is still pretty
impressive. Subhanallah we know that she came from a very regal,
Royal, very prestigious, noble, wealthy family. So she came from
wealth before she was frowns wife, and she was also known for her
exceptional beauty. So she was known to be quite beautiful. And
of course, this was an arranged marriage. I mean, we're talking
about, you know, people who were in the world of, you know, ancient
politics. So she she's, this was not something that, you know, it
was a love marriage, certainly, it was an arranged marriage. She was
also known in as just in general have one of her beautiful defining
qualities was her generosity, so very generous woman. And something
that again, many of us here maybe relate to, she experienced
infertility, you know, let's just break it down in language that we
understand she was actually, she went through that she was, first
of all married to someone who she didn't. Allah knows, you know,
whether or not it was her choice, we don't know. But we know that it
was an arranged marriage. So maybe there's people in this room, just
this morning, by Allah, I got a message from someone in response
to my recent stories on Instagram, who, you know, she was just
letting you know, her heart in it, she found comfort in the post, but
she shared with me that she was forced into a marriage, and she is
miserable. So there are women amongst us, maybe in our own
family and our own friends groups, that this is their experience.
This was her experience where she was married to clearly not a very
good person, we know who that was, he was the worst of human beings.
But then on top of that, on top of that, she had the second trial and
tribulation of not having an escape, right, because for many
women, and again, those of us who work with women in our community,
we know that when you're married to someone you're incompatible
with, you don't click with the, the silver lining, or the
constellation is that you if you have children from that person,
that you can focus your love and your heart and your intentions
towards that child.
And subhanAllah. You know, that's some for many women, that's that's
what helps them It helps them to endure. So she didn't have that
she didn't even have children to help her to cope with her reality.
And we have to think about the level of, you know, just the, the
privacy the the, the the small circle that is afforded to people
who are of this, you know, stature, and she's a queen, so
like she has besties that she can go and hang out with. So she has a
limited circle. Who knows if she was even near closer, had her
family act acts, you know, accessible, she doesn't have a
child and is just to witness her husband, who is a horrible,
horrible tyrant, you know, persecute, torture, do horrific,
horrific crimes. And she doesn't have any means of escape. But
Subhan Allah, what did she have? Of course, she had her faith. And
her faith was a very private matter. It was always very private
for her. And so and this is also just to mention here there's great
wisdom and why she wasn't given children because, as our scholars
pointed out, Allah subhanaw taala did not want to give for our own a
child through this perfect woman. So it was really about her
Subhanallah even though she suffered that it was really she
was too good to have his children. So Pamela.
More about her that we know.
So one day she is with her maid servants at the Nile River. And
you just got to put yourself at the scene. This is why I like
visual sort of presentation. So I want you guys to read along that I
want you to
also to visualize when you visualize you're in this
predicament, you know, you're just alone, you're probably very
lonely, very isolated, but you have some moments of, you know,
maybe some relief, some escape, you're at denial, you're looking
at this vastness, I've never been to the Nile, May Allah take us all
there, if you've never been, if we've never been, but in sha
Allah, she's in this amazing place with her servants. And then
behold, she sees this Crate box, it's described in different ways.
With a baby floating.
Again, just think it's like the the one thing you've wanted,
perhaps your whole life or this thing that you kind for that
Alaska pilot is now giving to you and it's floating. So of course,
she gets the baby out of the water with her with the help of her
servants. And she wants this baby, she felt the scholars again
described as she fell in love with this infant she fell in love with.
And that's just again, the natural disposition of women, we, Allah
has created us with that we have the womb, right. And this is why
we are deeply connected with the attributes of Allah subhanaw taala
R Rahman r Rahim, because it's the same root word is that I have in
the womb, whether you have a child or not. Right, whether you are
whether you bear children or not, you are tied to Allah subhanaw
taala in a way that many people are not half of
the creation is not so think about that deeply. But here, she falls
in love with this baby. And she knows what she wants to she wants
to keep this baby, this baby is hers. So she goes and she
convinces for our to allow them to keep it at that point. This is the
history is also important to mention because for on of course,
he had visited a fortune teller who told him that someone from
amongst his nation or in Egypt, basically was going to overthrow
him. So he enacted the most horrific policy of murdering all
male baby boys, literally murdering them. All the biller
this, the descriptions are so hard to read, because you just can't
you're like how how? How are there people like this who could exist?
He had, you know?
What did you call them? Sorry, I'm losing my words. He had midwives
that were appointed by him. Who would, who would find out women
who are pregnant and they had to birth them. And then he had his
henchmen slay the boys right at the birth in front of the mother.
This is how horrific of a monster he was. But he also didn't want to
have, you know, he didn't want to not have a working class of men
because the women couldn't do all of the slave labor. So he came up
with this policy, which was every other year I'll slay the baby
boys. And it just so happened, that this baby was born in a year
when this policy was enacted. So his mother actually, in the story
really does we do need to include her she is incredibly, she's an
incredible person. And she's so important in this story, because
it is her faith, and the fact that she Allah subhanaw That inspired
her to maintain her pregnancy, secretly to birth, her baby
secretly. So again, there's another person involved here that
we have to introduce to the story, her private midwife.
This is why software matters. Because when you go through a
trial, you want to know that there's someone who can keep those
secrets for you. Who can be there for you when the whole world seems
like they're against you. She had an Allah brought her an amazing
soul who kept her secret when everybody else was ready to sell
people throw them under the bus, just to get into the you know, the
Kings court or just to get ingratiate themselves to him. She
kept her secret for nine months, 10 months, she birthed that baby
with her, Allahu Akbar. And then, as she's so terrified and mounted,
she's terrified to they because they would come in and look and
inspect the homes. And she had to nurse this baby. So she was
secretly nursing. And there are some stories that are, you know,
explanations that say that she would go and hide the baby, you
know, in a forest, put in a box, tie a rope to it and keep it on
the bank of the river because she lived by the bank. So this was her
daily thing. I want you again for the mothers here to just imagine
this is your reality with your infant, your newborn infant that
you have to you can't keep them on you. Right? How many of us have I
mean, I had separation anxiety for a few minutes. People wanted to
take my baby for me for a few minutes. I was like, no, no, give
it back, give him back. So just to imagine having to do this but she
had to do it. And Allah inspired in her to trust that she would, he
would reunite her. And the story is beautiful again as the verses
of our dear establish
She recited her daughter also is important. Subhanallah her
daughter, the mother of Musa is daughter. So this is most values
that I'm sister. She's also important because she's the one
who was sent to follow the baby up this path, right? And we know the
story, right? She's the one who convinced the court, you know,
osseous court to allow her mother to come and nurse the baby because
they were testing all these women, like they wanted a witness he
needs to eat. But Allah prevented him from suckling from all of the
women until his own mother came along, like but this is the
Promise of Allah. So all of these women are so important to note
that we can't just, you know, they're not just in the backdrop,
like, you know, you have the starring role and then supporting
people. No, no, these are all Allah's, you know, clearly showing
us how each one of them is so essential to her story. So she
finds this baby, she plays in she, she's allowed to shoot, he agrees
to let her keep Musa I mean, she doesn't know it's most at a time
at that time. All right, that he's a prophet, but she keeps him she
loves him as if he's her own. She takes care of him, she, you know,
he has access to everything, he lives a very good life, right.
SubhanAllah. And so then what happens? So this is a really
important part of the story. Now we're gonna segue a little bit
because as he's growing up, and you know, he becomes the prophet
and he starts to teach and he comes with his brother head on
again, follow the story. He is now I mean, this is his is, you know,
he's a prophet, he has to call people to Allah, people to, you
know, our hearing of, of his message, and some people secretly
believed, you know, and those who there were very few brave souls
who had openly mentioned it, but there was a woman, another woman
essential to the story, who is known as the hairdresser or the
beautician. Now she is the beautician from a previous
marriage that owns daughter's beautician, right? So it's his
daughter from a previous marriage had this beautician and one day
she was combing for daughter's hair, and the comb fell to the
ground. And she had, you know, become accustomed to calling on
the name of law. So it's, you know, sometimes it's reflexive,
you know, just Smilla Hamdulillah we say these things. She said,
Bismillah.
So his daughter, and now we have to see the other side, right? So
his daughter who's, of course,
suspicious of this, she inquires, do you mean my father? Because
what would fit on do he claimed to be God? So she's this is how he
had the power that he had, he would force people to accept that
he was all the billet a God or not, oh, God, the God stuff that
Allah, so she's just trying to push you know a little bit more to
find out who she means. And she asks her directly.
Do you mean my father? And then the hairdresser boldly says, No,
my lord, and you're in the Lord have your father are the same
Allah.
So imagine the strength of this hairdresser. I mean, just think
you know, anybody. I mean, just think about the faith and the
conviction, and the courage it takes to the daughter of the Most
tyrannical human being on the planet, that you're going to tell
her that I don't believe that your father is anything you know, I
believe in another gods. So she was clearly someone. And so the
daughter, his daughter, infuriated, she goes, and she
tells her father that this is what this woman said, now he's a
monster, we have to just accept he's a monster, he's not going to
accept this. This is a slight it's an insult to him. He has to make
an example out of her. So he basically threatened her and he
orders again his henchmen to go and to fill a pit with boiling
copper. Okay, so it's like a flame of copper. Just imagine the scene.
And she threatens that he is going to not only torture her and kill
her, but before that, just to add some more torture to it. He's
going to torture or kill her children. And one by one, make her
watch.
And you have to see the story from all these sides. She just boldly
confronted this tyrant and she's still she has the column she's
still standing straight. She's not bowing down.
So she all she says is one request.
Can I just can't even fathom this type of courage. One request, just
please collect my bones and my children's bones. Saw I want
miraculously he agreed to her one condition.
So one by one, they were thrown in front of her.
The last one was her nursing infant
So she actually had a nursing infant.
And she just imagine she, she wavered for a moment. Like I can't
do this. You know, just that whisper. So whisper. This is an
infant.
And subhanAllah I, there's four babies who spoke, he was one of
them. He says to her, right, he says, Mother, throw me and it's
okay. Because the other the punishment of the next world is
far worse than anything in this life. The baby spoke a lot inspire
this baby to give his mother that courage and Subhanallah both of
them perished.
Their bodies, their physical bodies, of course, we know the
reality. Now this story was, I mean, people watched it, this was,
you know, something that they gathered to watch, and icea. But
on the other hand, her she also saw this, deeply affected her,
really affected her to see this. I mean, it would affect anyone,
anyone with decency and humanity, while others are cheering and
applauding here. She was moved by the reality that she's done,
pretending she's done, masking her true beliefs. She realized up
until that point that he as his wife, what would he do to her he
raped women, he torture children, he killed people without with
impunity with no thought, what would he do to her but in that
moment, seeing the face of this hairdresser and her children
perish in front of her, she realized she's done. So she goes
up to him. And she says to him, right?
Refer to become right. I do not believe in you. Right. Well,
barely, and I don't care what you do to me.
You I don't I don't believe in you anymore. You're nothing I don't
believe in you. And I don't care what you do to me. Men to rugby
moves our beheren Rabbil Alameen I believe in the Lord of Musa and
the Lord of Haroon, the Lord of All the Worlds. So she, with so
much bravery faced him she confronted him. And when she said
this to him,
right?
What happened for all and of course, he wasn't, you know, going
to try to save her there was no decency no humanity in this man.
So he
basically, we needed to make another example of her. But this
time it was going to be much worse because this was personal. This
was deep, right? This was a real affront to him. So he basically
again told his henchmen to take her to the desert. Right? Take her
into the desert and do what? Strip her. It's a you know, it's a very
horrific story in these details, but we need to understand why she
is who she is. So we have to honor every detail of her story. She was
starved she was in the sun, be it with this intense heat beating
down on her naked body, her arms and legs tied.
And they were whipping her and torturing her. And then
they would take breaks between you know, they're tired of all that
torture, they need to take a break. And Allah out of his Rama
sent the angels to cover her. So she will be covered in those
breaks. And at a certain point, she called out to Allah, like your
Allah save me from our own.
I want to be close to you.
Show me my place and Jenna, right? Give me my place in Jannah. And
Allah subhanaw taala answered her, he answered her, and he opened up
the skies for her in the middle of this torturous, horrific
experience. When she cries out to Allah subhanaw taala. He opens the
skies and she can see her place in Jannah. And she starts out of
sheer ecstasy and joy at the vision of what is to come. She is
smiling.
Because she knows that this is temporary.
And he sees her blind as ever
laughing and he goes, Look at her. She's crazy. And he feels even
more, you know, emboldened to continue to torture her. And,
again,
no humanity. This is a diabolical human, not even a human monster.
He orders his men. He's
Oh sick of her in her celebration. He wants to pulverize her,
basically. So he orders that they throw a boulder on to her body as
if what she has been through wasn't enough. He wants to end it,
and he doesn't want to give her the satisfaction anymore.
So Subhanallah in her
high of seeing her place in Jannah, Allah subhanaw taala took
her soul. She was gone, the boulder came, didn't matter, she
was gone.
This is
the mother of Musa alayhis salam, one of the four perfect women, so
many lessons that we can take from her story.
Here's just a quote about her martyrdom that uploaded or
reported right he again describing what we just did summarizing that
he pinned her down. And the angel shaded her and she made this door
asking for her home and Paradise. And the verse is from sort of at
the helm, I believe chapter 66 Verse 11.
Now the lessons why the story again, there's so many lessons
Yola, so many lessons. But first, I wanted to focus on the examples
of the women that I mentioned, because we should know these
women. You know, sometimes when we hear these stories, we only again
focus on the main characters but the women who are the supporting
people who made these things happen are also very key. Very key
and Allah soprano placed them exactly where they were. So
Prophet Musa isms mother is essential to her story, his sister
is essential to the story, the midwife who delivered him, right?
The hairdresser herself. Sierra Leone, ohana, no all of them, see
examples. And all of them take lessons from all of their
strength. They all had a man that was not moved, it would didn't
waver. And they followed exactly the commands that the inspiration
Allah gave them or the direct command, but they had a deep
connection, they had a secret, they knew something. And that and
the beauty of that is that we can all know that thing. We can all
know that thing. And I'll get to that in a moment. But know that
know this about them. And then the examples of the weak and the
cowardly women, we should also think about right, the daughter of
Iran. So when we're in positions of power, if we're not mindful of
Allah subhanaw taala, we give, you know, we take power from false
gods false anybody, there's a lot of characters who assume power,
and we don't take our power from Allah's power that we should take
heed from that, because you abused power. And that's exactly what she
did. She could have kept the secret, but she didn't use the
coward. The same with the other wives of the, in the concubines if
they're on who stood and watched as you're being tortured. So they
were watching, and we know this is women, even today, how many of us
have heard that sometimes women are our own worst enemies, right?
So like, you don't get a lot of night. I mean, it's the sense of
loyalty that you would expect from your own. Sometimes you don't feel
that. So just think about that. And she experienced that in the
worst situation possible. And then also, what we need to take from
the story in general, right have from faith, look at what firm
faith gives you. Allah subhanaw taala granted, she is Subhanallah,
a perfect woman mentioned again, directly by him referenced in the
Quran, by our Prophet, so I said I'm here we are in 2021, speaking
about her, she is not an insignificant person, just because
she's not on some, you know, website or or you know, or popular
or fake, famous or has followers. It was all these ideas of what we
think are significant today. But those are all false. She is
significant, because Allah Subhana Allah and His Prophet gave her
significance. And because of her faith more, you know, the fact
that she had that fate, and she was able to stand up to him. So
having firm faith,
in regardless of what you're going through, will never end you will
never suffer, you will never end up short on the short side of
anything. If you have firm faith, you may you may go through
difficulty, but we're talking about true suffering, which is in
the next life, write and listen to that inner voice. Right, we all
have the inner voice all of us, we wouldn't be here if we didn't have
the inner voice and we didn't respond to the inner voice. And
that inner voice was, know who you are, know what your purpose is,
you know, get your prayers straight, where he jab. Know that
that inner voice isn't just from you, that inner voice was given to
you to dial up and listen to before it's too late. Don't just
ignore it. Don't get, you know, put the volume down on that and
listen to all the nonsense outside of you, outside of us. Listen to
that inner voice because it could be the very inspiration that
inspired her and all of the other women that we take our lessons
from in this story and know that your strength and power is only
with Allah Subhana Allah, no one else, no other human being
Not your father, not your mother, not your husband, not your
children, not your teacher, nobody your power and strength is with
Allah subhana wa Tada He created you out of nothing, he gave you
existence, he could not he could have chosen not to give you
existence. So, know that, and then what not to do never doubt Allah
subhanaw taala never for a moment think that if you do something
that you obey, that you follow Allah subhanaw taala that he will
not fulfill your doors that He will not answer your call, never
let that shut that delta comes from the bliss it's from him,
enter your heart have the highest opinion of Allah Subhan that some
of us have more expectation and more confidence in human human
beings around us. It's tragic. If we have more confidence in our
parents or our you know, siblings, or our spouses, our children, and
then we doubt all those parts that we need to rectify that within our
hearts. Why human beings make mistakes, our our Lord is perfect.
And he doesn't fail in his promises. So if you're going to
accept the promises of someone else, and then you wonder to don't
don't listen to my daughter, is he going to answer me that is Chuck
from shaitan reject that don't fit it have have doubt because as a
prophet ListItem said right now, Firefly Loma Tierra del Fuego,
clean, I fear, but one thing for my own the weakness of certainty,
so we have to strengthen our Yaqeen with Allah and never be
drawn or seduced by power. Well, fear, this is a demonic message
that is permeating all around our world that calls people to put,
you know, to draw to be seduced by power, in a worldly sense, right.
So that's wealth, its money, its beauty. Right? How many women are
just caught up in this, this message of, of, you know, focusing
so much on the external spend hours 1000s of dollars, I mean, I
don't have all the statistics you can read them, the beauty industry
and how much millions of dollars are wasted on women thinking that
that's power of their beauty of their physical body is what they
need to rely on to get ahead to get up in the work position that
they want to get a husband and have a marriage know, your power
is with Allah subhana, WA, tada, all of that is gonna go and it can
be taken away from you like that. But if you have Allah subhanaw
taala, he will let the issue occur to him as he then you will show
gratitude, I will increase you, He will give you more. But if you
give it to other people are falsely attributed to other
things. You're losing constantly. And that's why we have a crisis of
misery. Read and I've referenced this paper again, read the paradox
of declining female happiness. Read it right now you can do a
Google search. Read this paper, Yale just posted on their website.
recently. I didn't see it on Yelp before. But it is an incredible
research paper shows over 40 years what is happening with the fact
that women have all these opportunities now. We have so much
that we can do but the happiness reporting across every section is
pivoting. I mean, it's going down. It's a paradox. Researchers are
puzzled why? Because they were told a lie. You have money, you
have marriage, you have children, you have education, you're gonna
have it all. No, if you have all that you don't have Allah, you
have nothing. You have nothing. That's the truth. That's the
message that we believe. So don't be seduced by false gods and false
claims of power and never trust yourself to yourself. Because the
neffs is the greatest enemy of the human being. That's why we need
software that's why we need to turn to teachers and people who
know who are on the path ahead of us from the love for organizations
like Rama Foundation, like Jenner Institute, like our amazing
teachers are amazing. You know, scholars who you will inshallah
hear from
Alhamdulillah.
And just briefly on this idea of power, because I really affects
me, I think you cannot have a conversation on womanhood without
addressing this because it is always a subject of everything
related to women, it's always about comes down to power. This is
a quote, We should know this quotes from Lord Acton power tends
to corrupt and absolute power corrupts absolutely. But Alan is a
perfect example. And we're seeing how corrupt corrupt when people
have too much power. What it does. We've seen in politics, we see it
in homes, there are big tyrants and little times we see it
everywhere, power without divine assistance without that connection
to Allah subhanaw taala is corruptive.
This is a quote I read from a psychology I think, today article
on women and why women are drawn to power.
And I thought it was important to mention here because we need to
address this within ourselves. If we owned our own power, we would
no longer be attracted to powerful persons. We would know that they
are just people just like us who have the same complexes psycho
spiritual issues and the same biological mental emotional needs
as the rest of us. This is this
is truth talk. So any of the younger sisters here, please
again, if you're getting that message from any member of
society, any member of your family, any member of your friends
group, that tells you that you are basically until you become married
you, you're really, you don't have anything to offer this world,
right? This is a message so many of us got, until you become a wife
and a mother, you're irrelevant. That's when your life really
starts. reject that, right? Because those are beautiful
aspects of life if Allah wills that for you, but that is not the
purpose of our creation, we were not created just to be someone's
wife, and have you know, children and have a home and sit and shop
all day, that's not the purpose of our creation, or to go work even.
So whatever you're calling you have and hamdulillah it's from
Allah that he put that in you, but that is not the purpose of why you
were created, or why I was created, we were all created for
one purpose and one purpose only, which was to worship Allah
subhanaw taala. And that is essential. So all of this, you
know, again, appeal to try to define yourself according to what
you have, the the titles you have, the wealth you have, the
possessions you have is false, it's a lie. And that's why you
need to know what power truly is, and how do we own our power. You
may ask how do you do that? How do you get to that point,
fairly among the best of faith is that you know, Allah subhanaw
taala is with you, wherever you are, this is power. If you have
constant awareness and vigilance, that almost panic is always with
you. You are never alone. So when you walk out of this building, you
go into your car, you wake up every movement that you have
during the day, if you realize, Allah is with me, in this moment,
he's closer to me than my jugular vein, he is always with me, he's
never not with me, then you don't give power to others, you don't
lose that sight, you always have that presence of mine. And just to
further this point, this is a beautiful story that was related
to us from Lebanon, bass, and he was around 13 at the time. So
again, imagine being a 13 year old, and the Prophet sallallahu
Sallam tells you this message, he says, One day I was riding a horse
right behind the prophesy centum when he said, Young man, I will
teach you some words,
be mindful of God, and He will take care of you.
If you think of Allah subhanaw taala, he will think of you to be
a thought, in our Creator's mind, right? Just to think of that idea
that he's thinking of us. Of course, he's always He has full
knowledge. So that's not the same thing. When we talk about this
right? Be mindful of God and He will take care of you. There is
that law of reciprocity, right? Be mindful of him, and you shall find
him at your side.
If you ask, ask of God, don't turn to just anyone always think my
first protocol, the protocol I have, and I have a need is to turn
to Allah subhanaw taala. Because he's with me, he knows my plight,
he knows my condition, he knows the solution, why would I go to
anyone else. So ask Allah subhanaw, that if you need help,
seek help from him. Know that if the whole world were to gather
together in order to help you with that, they would not be able to
help you, except if God had written so. And if the whole world
were to gather together in order to harm you, they would not harm
you, except if God had written so the pens have been lifted, and the
pages are dry. This is how we define our power, being mindful of
our Lord, the strong believer is more beloved to Allah subhanaw
taala than the weak believer. So we need to strengthen and fortify
our faith, but there is goodness Alhamdulillah and both of them.
Be eager for what benefits you what benefits you, Allah, become
free. That's it, that's all you need. If you have a loss of heart
that is more than enough, has been alone without money, we don't need
anyone outside of ALLAH SubhanA to seek help from Allah and do not
become frustrated, don't become impatient, right? Because shaytaan
This is how he destroys faith. It's how we weaken faith. As as
another Hadith says, and I don't have it here. But the summary of
it is that the believers guys are answered until they start to look
at the time basically and say, you know, oh, it's been I've been
praying for this for a month, a week, a few days, a few hours,
then you call us. As soon as you start putting time constraints on
Allah, you're presuming to know what's best for you. Where did
reliance on Allah Where did Tawakkol Where did surrendering,
submitting to Allah as well? Where did that go? So we don't appoint
timeframes on Allah subhanaw taala we submit, right? So we submit and
don't become impatient or become frustrated and it's something
befalls you which it will life is hard. Life is not meant to be
easy. Okay, life is difficult, but that is the design of it. But with
Allah He can give you as they say the storm the storm can be going
he'll help you to find the eye of the storm, that safe refuge so
that even though the storm is going you won't feel the effect of
it right? And don't ever let that word what if this is also a huge
part of what I see in the suffering of so many of our
sisters. What if right low, low minute shade on
This concept of if I could go back in time and rewrite things, things
would be better. And I'll tell you briefly, as I close out, and I
know I'm going a little over because of the delay, forgive me,
I'll finish up in just a moment. Just briefly, for those who don't
know, some of you know me, and you've heard me speak about my
story. I've lived so many things that I see in ICS story. But in
particular, this idea of, you know, not having things go as
planned, right? I got married very young with the full intention of
having children, I wanted many children. That was my plan for
myself. I love of course, we plan and he plans and he's the best of
planners, he will did that I married someone who could not give
me children. And it was the worst form of infertility where nothing,
not even in vitro could work. So there was no way that I was having
children with that person. Alhamdulillah Allah colohan, but I
did not expect that four years into the marriage, and I'm
thinking, Okay, I think I'm ready for children. Boom, nope, no
children, another four years in that marriage. I had to come to
grips with this, that I plan something it didn't go the way I
planned. But Allah knows best for me. And Alhamdulillah when you
have teachers who remind you of these things, and you have Sahaba
that remind you of these things, you can endure an Hamdulillah
shockula. Immediately after I left that marriage, Allah subhanaw
taala opened up, just like the skies for us. Yeah, I could see
hope again. And everything changed for me, within a year of that
divorce I was, I had my child within a year or a month or so.
My first child, I was remarried, obviously,
I forgot to mention that but
but Allah knows best And Alhamdulillah I can't even
remember my previous life. I know I had one. But I really don't
remember. And I'm so grateful for that. Because my life in so many
ways, right? When we again, look back in our trajectory, we can
sometimes remember the painful moments, but that's one of the
mercies of God is that he'll take those memories from you. So it
hamdulillah but with that said, the last and final message, I just
want to finish these slides because I put a lot of work into
this. That's why I was like, I gotta get this up here. You decide
your path, you decide your priorities, the power that you
have is in your choices, all of us have choices to make in our
decision. That's where we reflect our power. You decide the lens,
you see this, you choose to see this world, right, your
perspective, your worldview, your framing, that's your decision. You
decide your choices, your words, your actions, behaviors, your
attitudes, reactions, we have to remember we are moral agents, we
are responsible for ourselves, you decide the narrative that you live
according to you want to adopt the narrative that's going on in the
world that just reduces women to nothing but physical beings that
are there for to please everyone else except for themselves. Okay,
or you can choose what our fate teaches us which is you have the
highest aspirations to Allah subhanaw taala that's the
narrative that we should all be living according to and you decide
the value of your life your life means something you are important,
you are meant to be here, every single one of you Allah loves you.
Allah loves you remember that. And then the final and last message
here is another beautiful example the believer is what that of a
fresh tender plants from whatever direction the wind comes, it
bends, but then the wind, when the wind becomes quiet, it becomes
straight again. This is how we our life is going to hit you. It's
going to come at you this way and that way, you bend with it, you go
with it, you don't resist the decree of Allah subhanaw taala and
then when all of it settles your firm, that's faith Inshallah, just
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