DONATION APPEAL!

ALL our Projects are FREE and with no advertisements.

We serve millions of downloads a month... Now! Imagine earning on-going rewards of every lecture and quran audio and so on.

As well as helping us cover our running costs and future projects!

mufti menk image

"I really think this is one of the greatest causes one could support"

    Become a Patron
    Donate via PayPal

More Information and Options

Listening and communicating with excellence

share this pageShare Page
Hamza Tzortzis

Channel: Hamza Tzortzis

Episode Notes

Episode Transcript

© No part of this transcript may be copied or referenced or transmitted in any way whatsoever. Transcripts are auto-generated and thus will be be inaccurate. We are working on a system to allow volunteers to edit transcripts in a controlled system.


00:00:00--> 00:00:21

Salam Alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh brothers and sisters and friends apologies for my state, I just came back from the gym, I want to talk about listening and communication. If we sincerely and genuinely want to communicate with people in a profound way, we have to listen with the intention to understand.

00:00:22--> 00:01:11

This means we have to turn off our internal radio. Because usually we are manufacturing responses, while we're listening to people. And this is not a genuine, it's not an authentic or sincere way of engaging with someone else, because you just basically create your own story. And we shouldn't impose our stories. on other people, we should become a blank canvas for people. So we must listen with the intention to understand them. This means that we're not going to look at the words, we're going to try to look out for their meaning and their context. Because words are vehicles to meaning, don't attach your meaning to their words, don't attach your story to their words, don't attach your

00:01:11--> 00:01:42

drama, which is based on your past unlimited ideas and experiences, on to the words, try and seek out and look for their context and their meaning because words are vehicles to meaning. And once you do this, you'll be able to connect with people in a profound way, we must become more intellectually and spiritually mature, to be able to listen with the intention to understand to turn off internal radio, to not attach our own meaning to the words. And this is why after they speak, we should usually say, what did you mean by that?

00:01:43--> 00:01:46

I've understood what you said in this way.

00:01:48--> 00:02:29

Am I correct? If not, can you clarify? Can you give me your context? This is a very powerful way of engaging with other people. And in this way, you are sincerely true to yourself and you true to them, because you should, you should want to sincerely engage with him. If not, then what you're doing. You're just having a monologue, not a real dialogue. Even though there is another person there. You're really engaging with your own ego. Right? It's like you're just speaking at your own self, right? a projection of your own ego. And this is something that is not in line with the prophetic way, the prophetic Sunnah of the Prophet salallahu. It he was saying, because we know a

00:02:29--> 00:03:01

fundamental principle in the Islamic tradition is a son, which means excellence that we are people of excellence, sincere, excellence, people of goodness. And the excellent way of communicating with people is to become a blank canvas, to engage with them to listen out for their meaning, to listen out for the context, not just the words, because words are vehicles to meaning. And once you do this, everything changes in your engagement with other human beings.

00:03:03--> 00:03:13

Another thing I want to talk about is powerfully creating the best human being, in your conversation in your communication. What do I mean by this?

00:03:15--> 00:03:19

When you communicate with other people, you need to look out for

00:03:20--> 00:03:45

their potential, because human beings are almost an infinite number of possibilities, okay? And we know from the Islamic tradition, every human being is born with innate goodness, because we have this concept of the fifth of the fitrah means the innate disposition, every human being has this fifth one in this fifth row, there is there are forms of primary knowledge or proton knowledge, you could call this, you know,

00:03:46--> 00:04:28

innate knowledge, right. And this includes that a lot of God is a reality He's worthy of praise or worship, extensive praise and worship. And we have an understanding of a basic level of objective goodness. This is the human being but the human beings fit for the human beings, innate disposition gets corrupted or locked or clouded. And it's our job to help unlock their innate disposition to awaken the truth within. One way of doing that in your communication is communicating powerfully by looking out for their potential. So what does this mean? It means that when you're speaking to someone, even if they don't like you, even if they disagree with you, right, even if you consider

00:04:28--> 00:05:00

them a so called enemy when you're communicating with them, you should look out for the best human being, you should listen out for the most wise human being, you must listen out for the most sincere human being, you must listen out for the great human being. And in your listening and communicating and looking out for that type of human being. You should now use words and communicate with them as if they are that great human being and once you do that you will create from the conversation and that's an amazing and powerful way of engaging with other human beings, especially in the context of

00:05:00--> 00:05:45

Sharing Islam. Now, there are some traditions there is a story that is related about Khalid bin Walid, one of the famous companions of the Prophet Mohammed upon him the peace. Now, before Khalid bin woody became Muslim, he was basically the butcher of Muslims, right? And yet the Prophet Mohammed upon him VPS, according to this tradition, he said, and I'm paraphrasing that how can such a wise person not accept the truth not accept Islam, and accordingly, Molly's actually became a Muslim as a result. Now, what is this, this is a powerful way of communicating this is the prophetic way of communicating with people, you look out for people's greatness. In this case, this person is

00:05:45--> 00:06:22

very wise. And you look out for that wisdom, and you communicate with them as if they are wise. And when you do that you create from the communication from the discussion from the dialog. And this is a powerful way of communicating with other human beings. So when you're interacting with other human beings, look out for their greatness, look out for their excellence, look up for the that they're that they are the most ethical human being that the most righteous human being that the most truthful human being, that they are the most amazing human being, and use words and communicate with them as if they are that and once you do, that, you create that person, through your communication

00:06:22--> 00:07:05

and your discussion, your dialogue and your interaction, and everything changes. And this is the way that we must be. And in the context of sharing Islam. This is how you respond to things this is how you should respond to things with the in the best way, right, we must respond by that which is better as the court answers which means responding with what is more virtuous, and what is more beautiful. For example, in chapter 41, verses 33 and 34. God says, Allah says in the Quran, and who is better in spirits in the one who calls to Allah calls to God does righteousness and says, I am indeed one of those who submit, and the following verse says good and evil are not the same, repel,

00:07:05--> 00:07:42

but that which is better, and between two people, there was hatred, to attend to intimate friendship. And this is very powerful, because the Arabic use of the word repel is not followed by a direct object. So it could also mean repel anything by that which is better. And what does by that which, which is better mean, according to the lemma, according to the scholars by that which is better means respond by that which is more beautiful, and that which is more virtuous. So when we speak to people, we must be the people of virtue and beauty. And isn't it the most beautiful and virtuous way to listen with the intention to understand to become a blank canvas for people to look

00:07:42--> 00:08:02

out for people's meaning and not just for the words isn't the most beautiful and virtuous thing to do? By powerfully creating from your communication by looking out for the best human being and communicating with them in a way that that as if they are that amazing human being? Isn't that the most virtuous and beautiful thing to do? Of course it is, and it's a prophetic way. So

00:08:03--> 00:08:08

those people that have bt and B people have said I want to live better cattle.