How to Become a Confident Muslim
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Go ahead and do a brief introduction of Dr. Haifa units. She is the founder and chairman of jinma Institute. She teaches seminars on the thematic commentary of the various chapters of the Holy Quran, and their practical relevance in our day to day living. She is passionate about spreading the word of Allah subhanaw taala and igniting the love of Islam and the Quran through her teachings. Today, Dr. Haifa will be discussing discussing crucial topics of navigating life as a confident Muslim. Welcome Dr. Haifa Unisphere ICS Visiting Scholar does that page Sam Alikum
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knowledge and more important than knowledge, as most of you, if not all of you know is that we walk the talk, as I always say one of their first statements I learned from my teachers is walk the talk, because we attend a lot of lectures, a lot of programs you live in a city, you don't know because you live in Dallas, but I live in California. It's called the mecca of knowledge of the states.
That's how it is everybody talks about Dallas when there was a debate whether I moving to Dallas or staying in back in Irvine, and Irvine one of the and the question was Why do you want to move to Dallas, they have everybody there.
Which is true.
But that's also bring with it a lot of responsibility. Because what are you doing with all this knowledge you have with all these Institute's was with all these visiting scholars, let's add on your resident scholars. So let's first all of us put this as my daily theme. As a person who lives in Dallas, a man younger man, we young woman or woman
know the new hammer that Allah gave you.
If you don't know what Allah gave you, and you take it, granted for granted, sooner or later, you know what will happen? What will happen? Anybody can answer me both sides. Allah will take it away. Because he will say you know what, they don't know the value. Fine. I'll take it away and I'll give it to somebody else. So when I come to this masjid and I travel almost every weekend to everywhere including in the world, my expectation here is way higher. So I've definitely I'm raising the bar in this specially in VR I see the bar has to be much higher, not only in knowledge, which mean when I asked he will answer me but in practice
so exactly when we entered the masjid again brothers and sisters, we enter the Masjid. What do we feel? What is this place? How do I behave? How do I sit? How do I talk? I don't need someone to remind me no food or drink. I'm not going to do it. It's the house of Allah. I have heard so many lectures I have this and that. So the bar is already raised for you people of Dallas. Specially the Ric
be up to it.
Be up to it. And again when you travel somewhere else, more than welcome can come and visit us in Irvine. Then you will see where how much Allah gave you and how many people are trying to follow you everyone says and I'm again it's very nice to have an outsider. That is to massage it where it is the mecca that all the massages go and says go and see what they are doing. One of them is you
my president the president of the Islamic Center of Irvine where I am now the resident is called texted me and says When are you coming next time I want to come and see what is this VR I see.
And it is not about the beauty. This is way more beautiful. But there is a lot of beautiful massage it also the Beauty The place doesn't make things a special. It's the people inside
that people of Makkah were Quraysh but it is the believers who made Makkah special. So hopefully all of you, everybody, and especially the youth who are growing
go up in this Neoma you will be different and Allah will expect different from you. Did I raise the bar already? You are behind me 100 Allah. So I love the topic. I didn't choose it by the way, I am a guest. So I have to honor the host. What is a confident Muslim? Now you guys, some of you may use to lifestyle, and I gonna share it with the brothers too. We're going to talk. If I will talk on the 510 minutes you will be bored. And you say you know what? I'm gonna go home and listen to her on YouTube. What is a confident Muslim mean? One and if you don't mind, raise your hands. I'll take one from the sister one from the brother. What is a confident Muslim me?
So to live up a confident Muslim to live up your Islamic value? Anyone from the brothers? Anybody want to define it? Have you ever thought of this? Am I a confident Muslim? Are you a confident Muslim? Are you
so you need to look at what's confident and what a Muslim Muslim we all know. externally.
And Muslim we all know what is Islam the famous hadith of Satan as your brain and took me in below and
to shadow and let you know how long when Mohammed was Wallah. What to pee masala tea Sakata Sumrall along with that drill bit in satelli. So we don't you know the five pillars of Islam that everybody is
know what everybody should know, which is basically bear witness Allah who is one and then you perform Salah you do the QA if you are eligible. And you fast Ramadan, if you can, and you go to Hajj, is that what we mean by the confident Muslim?
There is way more.
And if I and you and we
do number two,
so I'm going to divide it in one and two, one is the confident two is the Muslim? If I am the true to
the confident is is taken is granted? Are you all with me? What the What What? What does this mean? Who is the real Muslim? I'm not talking about the external.
I'm not talking about the external. If all if it's only the external, then there is no need to discuss this topic because we are all the external or sitting in the masjid. That has to be more than that.
The real Muslim is and I highly recommend everybody here. Again, I'm raising the bar for you is just just google or Go and read. How did the rasa risotto Sudan in different Hadith define the Muslim for example, a Muslim that's the Hadith men Saleemul mostly more than men.
Yet the heat wali Sana the real Muslim is the Muslim who the Muslims feel safe from his or her tongue and hand meaning again, as I always remind myself and everybody, what does this mean for me leaving now meaning when I come to this masjid, whether I entered from that door or I entered from this door or from the back, when I see you and you are the true Muslim number two, I am not worried that she will hurt me or he will hurt me or I am going to hear something that is hurtful, whether directly to me or whether to another person, whether by saying whether by acting, whether by the way I pray with that I'm bringing my children with me to the masjid May Allah bless the children, but
I'm not going to hurt the other people.
Whether my children cries, and then I leave them whether I'm getting my phone with me and the phone is ringing, and I leave it. So number 1am i The real Muslim that Allah subhanaw taala wants me on I am going to be standing in front of him and all of us will. Am I going to see your OB This is me. This is what you wanted, and I worked on it and here I am.
So here you go. Woman Assa nodine And Allah describe the deen here as Islam but it is not the way I knew no woman so no dienen me men asked lemme watch her hula he will Watson
who is better or Muslim Dan who take Islam as his or her religion? Well, who am Watson to things? The real Islam my beautiful sisters and dear brothers, is you submit to the will of Allah.
You all know what this means, but it is not easy to understand and practice. Whatever Allah wants me to do.
i My answer is who can answer me? It's a verse in the Quran. Semi Aetna
Allah said, you're going to move to Dallas, Allah said you staying in California, Allah said, You're not going to have children. Allah said you will not get married. Allah said this. Allah said that to through his actions and other my answer is Samia now Altana
majority of us humanity, we are part of it. Living in this day and age of technology and everything is under my control, I think finding this very difficult.
So the confident before the confidence comes in, I need to be the real Muslim first. And again, I'm going deeper. I'm not getting externally externally Hamdulillah we are all that's there is no doubt about that. But the reality of a Muslim because if I am the real Muslim Samia and our Aparna confidence follow, like your baby follows you.
That's number one. Now come to the confidence. And then I'm going to share with you some examples from the real confident Muslims. So we can compare. Maybe we are and maybe we need some improvement, or we need a lot of improvement. So what is confidence? Who can define confidence for me? This is not Islamic. What is confidence? Anybody?
Yes? It's a simple question, right? Yeah, this is where we need we need simplicity. And just think of the word what is simple. What is confidence.
Being unapologetic. It's a very dangerous word hottie. I'm glad you said it. Yes. About what?
So unapologetic about being a Muslim.
There is a fine line between confidence and arrogance.
This is exactly what I wanted to get to. And that Hamdulillah you said it, very fine line. When I stand up in, let's say an interface. And I'm sure you have this fear. And I say Islam is the truth.
I come out as
arrogant. I'm confident
it's true inside me. But I came out as an arrogant when I if I'm practicing externally, the way we are as sisters, 100 other brothers, you come five times to the masjid to God specially and then you look down at somebody, poor whatever the reason, Allah not yet bless them with this, that I'm not confident, I'm arrogant.
It's a very fine line.
Very fine line. And this is sometimes us people of masajid. May Allah make us truly people of masajid that Allah will look at us on Day of Judgment and says In Nehemiah Morrow masajid Allah truly though those people who will flourish and build the masjid of Allah Subhana Allah, may Allah make us not build only by men money and donation by by presence. So be careful. Always ask yourself, Am I confident? Or am I arrogant? I'm giving you I'll give you a practical example of a confident Muslim. How many of you and analysis to the brothers, you travel? frequently? How many brothers who traveled frequently for business? Or do you live here in family lived somewhere else? Can I see
Not okay. Thank you. And how many sisters?
Fight Do you pray in in the in the airport?
Right, then you're confident
you're not worried about somebody is looking at you. A lot of people are or what they will say. That's confidence.
Did you get my point? Confidence is I know, two things. I know. I know what I am doing is right. Not because it's my opinion. And I studied and I have this degree in that degree. Because he said so. And who is he? I want to hear it with capital H
and number two, the most important that's why I asked about the prayer in the in the airport or in public places. I am 110% Sure. He will never let me down.
Never let me down. That's confidence. Confidence has nothing to do with other people what they are doing. It's absolutely related to me. To me,
I'll give you an example from the Quran not about a Muslim. Of course he's Muslim by the general name of Islam, but he came with
Before Nabi Ali saw to a sinner, that sadness will a man.
Right? shakiness with a man? What is the unique pneus about sadness with a man who can tell me, he's a prophet? I know. He's a prophet, what is special about him as a prophet? He was very,
he was very rich. He made the dua or be Hubley mill, or probably Vulcan Lamborghini, they had him embody in Akintola hub. He made the Doha for himself, anybody wants to be rich.
Don't go right or left or what kind of business I'm going to do what's investment, go to the source and make the dua of sadness Rhema Rob be humbly molcajete Allah give me
sovereignty, that nobody after me will have it. And then he didn't since I say, Well, maybe maybe not he said in Tel Wahab, you are the one who gives without asking and gives Wahab when you give without people asking and we are expecting back immediately after he said that. What is the next immediately for Sahana? Allahu Reha Treasury Bill Murray he or ha and Hato ASABE this is a sort of solid immediately Allah who's far, far is a letter in the Arabic language meaning it is happening immediately.
Summa yo, so those of you who know Arabi sunnah meanings. It happened but it's after a while. This one right away? What did that what happened? Sahana Allahu Ria, the wind follows him.
Why? It's not hurricane, no destruction. On the contrary, aroha and Hazel ASABE wherever he goes, the wind behind him. And then there is prosperity where he is when he made the dua to Allah subhanho wa taala. Was he confident? I want to hear it. In what?
In raise one one person? What was he confident about? Two things. Two things, nothing about him. I did it. I deserve it.
He knew Allah is Hearing him
is an Allah and to walk in Luna will a job, make the DUA and you are confident, have certainty that Allah will respond. So number one, he asked Allah something impossible.
But he knew Allah is hitting him.
And number two,
he knows Allah will do it. And number three and societal meaning because he used the name of Allah al Wahhab, he didn't put a result. And this is something you all have to learn when you read the Quran. Why this name your Allah? Because when you say well hubba when Allah subhanaw taala give something it's usually related to Allah doesn't mean you deserve it.
Could be you don't deserve it at all. But Allah can give it
the confident Muslim. Now back to this day and age. And I'm here to speaking to the youth. Anybody here? How many people are in college here? College students? Not too many. How about high school?
High school? How many in?
Yeah, okay, high school. You live in Texas. It's a plus, it's a plus. Me coming from California. We are way more challenges than you'll have
the confident Muslim, they stand up wherever they are.
Wherever Allah put them. And they know when they are in that choice between practicing Islam physically, or saying things pleasing to Allah in the best way
versus going with the flow.
That is the confident Muslim.
I had this last weekend I was in Minnesota. And first year college a student came to me
and says, share her the first day in school in class. Her professor looked at all the students and said the following. And she said he was looking at me. She was the only Muslim in that class. That's why I asked who's in college. And he said the following. I want every student in this class to use pronoun.
And you know what's pronoun? Yes, everybody. He his her she
And he was looking at her.
And he said it three times looking at her.
Now the confident Muslim is under
under the test,
and she came to me and she says, What should I do?
This is your confidence, your Yaqeen serenity and Allah has been tested.
And I said, the first thing you should turn to Allah al Wahhab.
The first thing the confident Muslim is not what you say and do, it's your relationship with him. He turned to him and says, You're Allah. I don't want to do or say anything that's not pleasing to show me how I'm going to handle this. With this opportunity. That's the serenity of sadness with a man, he's listening. He will do it. He'll show you, He'll guide you.
So that's number one. And number two, you go and explain it in a very nice, confident way. That this is not something we as Muslims say simply because there is when we don't need to do that, man I want in a lot of details, but that's not the point. The point is confident Muslim, is the Muslim who knows it's the truth, but don't say it but act by it.
sway you right and left.
So if everybody doing this and this is what Islam wants me Alhamdulillah that's great. But if everyone doing something in Islam says no, no, I need to find excuses
to do to be fitting,
confident Muslim, so sadness Sulaiman. The second test to sadness Amen eyebrow sadness Halima, because Allah subhanaw taala gave him all what we all want in this dunya
when they wanted to lure him, the queen of Saba Sheba, she wanted to sway him right quality or Johann Mala of Tunisia, Emery Mark Quinto Katya Hatton Ameren had that a shadow, she did consultation with her people says, Okay, people, my people tell me what should I do? He sent me this letter. And he wants us to be Muslims. And the people said, you decide you're, you're the leader. Now she used the trick that many of us get tested this day and age. She said, let me try this trick. I'm gonna send him a gift. And what kind of a gift?
Here's the Queen of Sheba. How did he respond?
You do this? That is not what Allah wants me to do. But I'm gonna get this. So it's okay, let's do it just one time. I'm not the confident Muslim. What did he respond to me dude, any be man?
You're trying to leave me with money?
This is exactly how you read it. What do you think I'm going to change my mind? Because you're going to give me money. From now the confident Muslim in the unseen for my end Allah what Allah has is way better than what you're giving me.
The Confident Muslim? Is the Muslim who knows or Muslim who knows. I you know, your pain.
As you are seeing it as you're seeing Jana. Not hearing or imagining seeing that Allah. And I want everyone if you're writing, right, this statement will never, ever let you down.
As long as you are pleasing Him and doing what he wants you to do.
And that's what he did.
Being confident doesn't mean I'm not going to take the means. That doesn't mean I'm not going to look and see how should I prove my point. And that's what sadness what a man did. Kalia Johan Mala Are you Camilla? Tony br she her cobbler a Tony musty mean? I want to do something. That's what he was thinking I want to do something to impress her and tell her I am better. Meaning we are better. And he looked at his people and start planning.
Confident was them when you are in that school? When you are in that job when you are in that company?
Don't be shy to say who you are.
Don't don't say. And I actually had that get that question last week. I just can't fast on Monday and Thursday. And I said well
They said literally this a question came to me. And the questioner said, because every Monday, we have a meeting in the company at lunchtime, and the managers bring lunch. And I said, and
should I feel uncomfortable telling people I'm fasting? And I said, Why?
And I said, I will. I will do biller from the word I but I had my office and finally, I worked in a hospital. And then every Monday I'm fasting. So this is usually very common on Monday meetings and things. So you go to the manager, she brings the food, and I said, Of course I want the food but I'm not eating with you. I'll take it home and I'll eat after sunset. First time everybody looking at me why
that's your opportunity to teach people about Islam. I said I fast Monday and Thursday. Why Dr. Yunus?
I said because we are we Muslim, believe that our deeds is presented to Allah Who weekly did presented to Allah on Monday and Thursday, and the most beloved de to Allah is fasting, and he will be happier when I present my deed and I am fasting
is that does that makes anybody uncomfortable? Did you not explain it the right way in the nice way and they accepted now every Monday the food is on the side
and says Dr. Yunus your food after sunset.
Why? As a question I'm throwing it to everybody. Especially the youth. Why do you want to be like everybody else?
Why not everybody else like me?
And this is what Sade no Omar asked her rasool Allah he saw two of Cena you all I'm sure know the story.
When they want, they called Sahil who they via the who they be a treaty. So basically story short, long story short, they decided they that they are going to Mecca for Ramadan. Everybody was wearing the the ramen they're going Rasul Allah is AutoSum say now Baba crusade, no Omar was with them. Right? And then then the negotiation and they prevented them from going to Ankara. And they reached the treaty. If you read the treaty, and I'm sure this was discussed in this message when you read when you read the rules that there are Swati salatu salam signed, externally. Why this is putting us down. Nobody could say anything because that's our Rasul Allah He saw to a seller who stood up and
asked, anybody knows.
I want to hear it. Say, you know, Omar,
and he said the following confident Muslim.
Pay attention. He said Yara so Allah, a less than a viola, aren't you the newbie.
And he was upset, not for himself. He was upset for the D. Because if you read it externally, it isn't an insult to them, but to the Muslims.
And Roswaal a saw to us and said yes. Our LS national health. Are we not on the right path? He said Yes. Didn't you promised us that you're taking us to Makkah?
And then I'll tell you what he said later on in his life, and the Roswaal he sought to set up. He didn't get upset. He didn't sell him How dare you ask me this question.
He said Did I say this year?
A call to her the alarm.
And say no more didn't say a word.
Later on, he used to make a lot of Istighfar. To Allah. Because of the way he asked her soiree, saw to have so many lessons from this incident.
Because you care about this, Dean.
Not because you are not confident, and you're not sure and why everybody else is not doing it because you care about this Dean. But when you are wrong, this is what I want to come now. When you are wrong, then you need to admit you're wrong.
Otherwise, I am arrogant.
The Confident Muslim, believe or Muslim, believe he or she are human beings and human beings makes
mistakes. There's a famous statement or a quote from the 1800s to Earth is a human to Earth is a human sign that your human is you make mistakes, even if I and you are the best Muslims we make mistakes are rasool Allah saw to sin and those of you who were in the second Jumuah May Allah reward the hottie. Kota dabba Soweto Allah right the person
The Quran where Allah rasool Allah is all to say I made a mistake. And Allah subhanaw taala represented him in the Quran that I and you reading it right now, there's nothing wrong with that. When you make a mistake, you say I did it and apologize, apologize, don't be defensive. Don't say this and that
because otherwise you are now moving to Africans. So if I am reading, let's say, the Imam is here, and he made a mistake in the Para, which is very common. Right. And someone corrected him.
The sign the Imam is confident, Muslim, accepted, corrected. Finish the Salah, and look at the brothers is JazakAllah here.
Then I'm confident because I know who I am and my ability did you all get me? The confident is not the arrogant, I'm always right. Who are you to teach me? Right? Say no, I'm not have no have that Aziz amagno Abdul Aziz, you all know, he is an NT Raj from Yemen came to visit him.
The leader of the intros was 10 years old.
And say now, Omar, was surprised. Yeah, I mean, they didn't find the older person.
So he asked him, the 10 year old, he said, You're the leader. There's a lot of men behind him. He said, Yes. The boy, the confident Muslim. Now he's in front of Satan, Omar Abdulaziz. So he felt the seed now Omar is asking him because he's too young. What is that?
And he said and say no, Omar was young, also relatively as a leader. So he said to him, is the leader I'm just paraphrasing is the leader by age or the leader? 10 year old is the leader by age or the leader by qualification?
Is that confidence? I want to hear it.
So you know, I'm not lazy, he's confident or arrogant. Hasha.
If a 10 year old, look at you or me and answer this way. How will I take it?
10 years of age
saved now Omar said by the meaning again, by qualification, you know what the 10 year old answered? He said that's why you are the leader of the believers and you're not the oldest one.
Is that confidence
that's what we need.
What we need. As I says Al hood gel Berry has Allah said that Padilla Hill Hoja total believer. We all all need to be proud without arrogance. Confident without arrogance. Believe in what we believe truly,
without being arrogance, and I'm fully focusing on or arrogance because I see it and may Allah protect me number one, and all of us
you are strong. They come together
and you live by this hadith of Rasul Allah salat wa salam al momento Kuwait we, how you don't what have worried Allah and then what may not by the strong believer, more beloved and more preferred to Allah, then the weak believer will equal in higher but both there is goodness and sign off. Strength is not being loud.
sign of strength, not being arrogant and dominant.
sign of strength is not you never apologize and you never make a mistake. It's on the country.
As of Rasul Allah, His Salatu was Sinha when they came to him and took his opinion about the tree in Medina and some of you may know the story. And then another man came to her and says, No yada, so Allah, then he said,
the people of Medina they know better than me.
Now the, I call it the million dollar question. Where does the confidence comes from? Who can answer me or basically how do I become confident Muslim?
faith in Allah. Absolutely. Before and after the faith of Allah, what do I need?
What do I need? No.
knowledge, knowledge in what?
Knowledge of Deen that's a huge word. Yanni, only the scholars who are here are the confident Muslim, Yanni doesn't apply to us.
Otherwise, why we are talking?
What kind of knowledge that every Muslim and Muslim need to know number one, before even salah and CRM and everything, the brothers are too quiet.
You need to know who is he?
Who is Allah? Who is Allah so when you turn to him and says your Allah protect me, your Allah give me your Allah make me stronger, you know, he hears and give, unable to do.
The Confident Muslim is not the Muslim or Muslim, that when they need something, they are going to try everything they know.
And then when nothing works, they turn to Allah and says, Yo, Allah, please do it.
I tried everything.
That's not you put him May Allah forgive me, put him the last resort. That's not the confident Muslim. The Confident Muslim is the better.
That's why everybody referred to before and after better, they say, or the sahabi shader burger. That companion wasn't better, that he's a different why there were 300 versus 1000. But they were confident with all the confidence is still a Roswaal risotto Sinha the night of the battle tomorrow is the battle, what was he doing all night, making dua you all know this, and what kind of a DUA, the DUA that is described one of the ways we learned what is the etiquettes of Doha, where it is your hand into ah is the refer to his dua during the night of budder. And what did he say,
if you will not say that this to Allah, if you will not give this small group victory, who will worship you on this earth?
Look, even at the Doha, if you will not give in langtons or had in fear in Lambton Surah did fear if you are not going to give victory to this small group 300, who will worship you?
So if every woman feels uncomfortable and uncut, not confident, to show herself as the tomb was the man outside who's going to do it?
And if every brother can say I'm a Muslim, I can do this, I can do that, because I'm almost done was going to do it.
We need to become and move and work on us becoming a confident Muslim. How many of you were here in during September 11?
Right, so majority you were not here. That's when the confident Muslim was tested.
You were not here. I was actually going to the I was in labor and delivery that day. And I remember I looked at the screen. And I was like and then the nurse looked at me and says Dr. Yunus Do you know what happened? And I was looking at the second plane, hit the tower.
Tell us and everybody remember this? What we went through?
And then Allah subhanaw taala tested us.
Be sure. And I will end up with this. So I can leave some time for question and answers. Be like say to her
woman, and brothers and men. When say Nick Brahim left her alone in the middle of nowhere, with a baby smile that they were waiting or is her not smiling this one when they were waiting for him for years?
And he couldn't even look back? Because he couldn't he was walking. He was moving because Allah told him leave. And and she says, You're leaving us here? Are you leaving us here?
No answer. Are you leaving us here? Basically death penalty.
And he didn't answer three times. Finally, the confidence Lima. She asked the famous question, Allahu America that a lot or that you that Allah ordered you. And he said yes. Allah, by Allah is Allah. He said yes. She said go.
Allah will never let us down.
confident Muslim, that's the confident Muslim.
I need this. The best way to get there. One is dua ask Allah we need to ask Allah for dunya but let's make akhira and Islam is also part of my dua Allah and tell Kuwait Kuwait Collini your hola you're the strong make me strong and keep me strong.
Your Allah teach me how to become strong. When you go first day in college as you are entering your Hola, teach me how to say that I think do the right thing at the right thing first day in your work. And your name is Muhammad. Don't change it and make it small. No,
it's Muhammad, Ali Salah to a sinner and be confident and teach them what was he without being arrogant. So Doha keep asking Allah to keep you going. And number two, learn about the Kawaii disease. Al Jabbar the one who is going to give you everything and anything you want. In the right time that he knows, to three don't give up. We all will fail, you will have the these moments when we will be afraid will be weak, that's fine. But get up and keep going and help each other that the last one help each other. Each one help each other. To be the confident Muslim is not impossible. We have many examples before us. But he simply even now among us, you will see this I'll end up with
this story. It's a true story. In San Diego, a nine year old, I think nine or 11 I think he loved him because she was in
middle school. And everybody was she wears hijab and everybody was making fun of her. You know how it is? Right? She was bullied right and left. And the last trick they wanted they said okay, you don't why you're covering because you don't have a hair.
If truly you actually said no I do. So if you told you have hair show us
11 year of age, you know what she did? She took all the girls to the bathroom, took off her hijab and showed them the hair.
That's the confident Muslim. May Allah Subhana Allah make us from those your OB me. May Allah shows the path. May Allah keep us going. May Allah forgive our shortcomings. May Allah help us to get up when we fail, and he knows the struggles we go through Subhan Allah humo behind the cast shadow Allah Allah Allah and stuff Hirokawa to booty, some Allahu Allah say now Mohammed, while he was hard, we test him and Kathira any questions? Yes, please. While he comes Sunday, do we have another mic? Okay, I'll hear her and then I can Yes.
What? Yeah, yes.
So a fine line. I'm repeating the question so everybody can hear a fine line between the confidence and the arrogance.
So how do I know very good question. How do I know I am not too arrogant?
What is you said? What is the litmus paper? The litmus paper two things. One, it is not you and your ability that made you who you are. It's Allah. And when you make a mistake, you acknowledge and apologize.
That's why then you are when Allah when somebody praise you publicly, the summary of it. Yeah, Allah make me better than what people think of me and forgive what they don't know about me. When you say forgive what they don't know about me, you're acknowledging that you make mistakes. And always, always ask Allah to save you from being arrogance out to become Alhaji well because you know, the Hadith that were and then one minute, so in Kibera, so it Kibber either Kibber arrogance, or certainly keeper being older. And this is one of the car we do in the morning and in the evening. Specially when Allah gives you are things we live in a day and age of social media and followers and
influencers and all this specialty when Allah test you with this, don't forget your human being, as the famous bomb in Arabic said while folk offer were called Luma Polka turabi terrazzo and everything above the dust is a dust.
So may Allah make it easy.
Any question from the brothers? Okay.
Any other question? Yes, please.
Can I can't hear you I'm sorry.
My question is nowadays there is a group of people that can go to camera together back in the days, I knew that you have to go with your brother, your husband. Okay. I'm not gonna take any question. The most common question I get is this one, as if we woman have no other issues. Other than this, honestly, put your priorities people. We have our children leaving Islam, we have our people struggling with with practicing. We have the children going to school and they are faced with right and left. We have drugs, pandemic in this country, fentanyl death.
Focus on the most important things. I'm not saying this is not important. This is not a priority.
This is not a priority. If you would sit down with the youth. I never got this question. I give class to the youth every Thursday. I never get this question. What do I get the commonest question from the youth?
How do I fit in?
How do I fit in? What do I do with bullying? How do I stay strong? Focus on this. That's what we need. Those the generation 20 years from now most of us will not be here. Those will be the leaders. Are they going to be like Q here?
Is she going to be like you here are the dunya and the others put them focus on that. Folk. I'm not saying it's not important, but it's not a priority, especially in a family night. It is not. Any other questions? Yes, please.
Can we actually I'm here. Oh, you can take them from the brother? Is that common law? It's okay. Just okay, just to be fair.
smella if our confidence we feel like is weak. What is a healthy way to grow it? Islamically I loved it.
I acknowledge that I don't have the confidence of the examples I shared with you. What do I need to do? Number one, as I said is ask Allah to make you strong. Insitute Yeah, this is what I always say. Yeah. Are we a weenie? I called Allah by His name. And are we the strong and I wanted this this character to be me. Yeah, are we are we one, there is no strength. And now taking practicality without the following. Without the five day salah.
Without it, I'm struggling. And now I am moving. I want really to be the examples. Without connection with the book of his I wouldn't I don't call Quran the book of Allah, of course is the book of Allah I call it his words. It has different impact on me when I say his words, to this is the three there is no strength, without knights Allah alone, you and him. Fifth, no strength without failure.
And acknowledging the failure and getting up and moving on. Six, they attain the certainty that you can be you tell yourself you can be if Allah said so it will happen. But I just need to be patient and it will happen be it Nila and may Allah make it happen your Obeah me?
Now back to
what time we have to stop. You're gonna tell me right? Yes. Okay. Bismillah Sr. I have I have two questions. Yes. So number one, if we have friends and family members very close, if we are together and somebody is indulged in some activities displeasing to Allah, how do we interact without sounding arrogant? Number two, how do we persuade our teenage children, our young boys and girls to be competent? Yes, to become confident and a Muslim to like both things together in this day and age. This is a whole lecture.
we will so let's start the first one.
Some of you may know we are every Tuesday I do the same but in Irvine, what should we call it? Let's understand the Quran. It's it's live streamed usually. And now we are covering Surah tulang carboot. And there is a reason why I chose this this surah right many sources in the Quran beautiful, but this one is the challenge saw. They call it the surah of tests, the surah of trials and a
Hmong, the priority of tests is family.
Everybody in this room, young and old, you know what I'm saying? When you start practicing Islam starts meaning I grew up as a Muslim, you know, I know, but I didn't really know what it is. And then Allah subhanaw taala opened my heart, and I start learning and I start changing. The number one challenge will be your immediate family. And they can be as harsh as possible.
And it's very painful. You know why? Because we love them. And because they love us. They are harsh. Is not because they are not. No, but they don't see what you and I are seeing. So here you go. And this is daily test. Friday night, let's go out wedding. Let's go. This is where you start putting Who are you number one in that family? What is your education? What's your Islamic education? Now, where is your red lines? Because remember in this Deen there is haram obvious there is halal obvious, and there's a lot of the doubtful. Many of us don't know. Don't make doubtful haram because it is not. We don't make haram Halal it is not. And don't make haram doubtful. So what are they
doing? Is it haram? Then that's a red line for me?
Is it doubtful? Where am I in my journey with Allah and where they are in their journey? If it is hard, you don't like it? Let them do it. give you example, this is the commonest question I get in this matter. My grandmother lives with me. Or I go and visit my grandmother or my mother. And the discussion is always backbiting that's That sounds familiar.
Talks about her daughter in law, their grandchildren all this? What do I do?
Right. And I know this is haram, there is no question about that. And applies also to the brothers by the way, your grant father, it's always the grandfather talking about his daughter in law or talking to the brother about his other son, and on and on and on. And it's all haram, there's no doubt three options.
Number one, can I change the subject?
No, you change the subject. She comes back and and let's continue. Honestly, right. Failed. I call a tactic one failed. Right? Tactic two? Can you praise that person? No, it's not exactly Oh, you didn't know what they did with me? It was amazing. And you start praising them failed.
Honest, it's challenging. This is usually when you get family together. You're a man. You really need to have the confidence, confidence actually put on your backpack and move third one. And this is, as we say in Arabic or Hebrew Dawa. Okay. The last medicine is actually you believe, well, I can't leave the house. So you gotta go to the bathroom, and you're going to do the longest we'll do of your life.
Honestly, because you can't Yanni you can't look arrogant. You cannot tell your mother this.
mother or grandmother or grandfather or father. This is haram. They will not listen. Oh, now remember when I raised you? This is what you're gonna hear. So we I don't like the word creative because Allah is the only one who creates but be smart. But there is a joins the red lines. I'm not going to sit with a family member if they're drinking alcohol. Even if this is my brother, this is my father. I'm going to move
can you need to put your blinds you're gonna get a lot of heat in the beginning. But then keep confident because that's obvious haram
don't get that I answered you. And it is this is the bit one of the biggest challenges coming to the teenagers this meeting the youth on Sunday. It's part of the program. If you are not confident your children will not be confident
don't ask your children to be something you are not it's not going to happen
because then the mentor owner monitor final Why do you say what you don't do? And as the poem said, it'll be enough seeker fun haha hunger year for you then dad fat into her chemo. Start with yourself and control yourself and prevent herself from injustice. If you can do it, then you're wise.
Who now can you smile? Mata? Kudo Dr. Beco and Fouta Remo at this point when you practice
This what you preach, people will listen to you, and teaching will bring fruits, I can change my teenagers, if I am not, that's one.
Don't start teaching them or practicing them at age 1415 Where were you?
Where were you when they were two and three and 10 and 12
once they become an I say this to all my friends, once they become these days 11 and 12 I hate to say this, but it's too late.
You need to engrave in them actually raising righteous children starts before marriage.
Who are you getting married to?
So this is a long topic, when you reach to the age of 16. And you have no control over them. You still have one weapon, huge one and what is that door?
And you are righteous? Because today's Friday, I mean, yesterday was Friday. Right? And what did Allah How did Allah saved the two orphans? Because what kind of a one sided how the father was righteous, you become the righteous couple, couple.
Allah pleasing, the children are not the end result is not in your hand. So you know her son was Kaffir say they brought him his father was skaffa but I don't give up on them. I keep making dua, Allah change the hearts and may Allah protect our youth. Really, and I'm not going to say youth only in this country, youth global because what happens here is all over the internet and everybody's exposed to and may Allah make it easy for all of us. And we're done. hamdulillah desert Mala Hirens panicle Lahoma will be handy. Ash I don't like that. Stuff. Hirokawa to booty some Allahu Allah say now Mohammed while early he was habitus demon cathedra