Life Of Aisha RA #03 – Marriage Of Aisha With The Prophet ﷺ

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Bismillah Alhamdulillah wa salatu salam ala rasulillah the brothers and sisters As salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato. And welcome to another episode of the life of Aisha, mother of the believers with me your sister Fatima barkatullah. In the last episode, we saw how our Isha or the Allah on her and her sister a smart and brother, Abdullah, helped Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and Abu Bakar on the historic hedra to Medina. Ayesha was literally a witness to history, and the great thing for us is that she paid such close attention to the details, and she had such a strong memory that all of these stories have been conveyed to us in vivid detail.

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We also saw how she traveled with her mother, her sister and the household of our soul, Allah salallahu alayhi wasallam for her own hijra, we saw how her camel ran off, and everyone was panicking and chasing after the camel and then eventually

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regained control. And then she arrived in October, where her daughter her sister asthma gave birth to Abdullah bin Zubair, her nephew.

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Then we witnessed that Aisha Dylan had entered Medina and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam his Masjid was still being built.

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Well, when they arrived in Medina, it was a completely new environment for many of them. Oh Haji rune.

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It was a different climate and a different city and so abubaker rhodiola and who and some of them are Haji rune, they became very ill. They had a severe fever.

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I should Atlanta as well was home sick, and she became ill as well for about a month when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam saw his companions suffering. He was very moved and he made dua for Medina. He said, My Lord, make us love Medina as much or more than we love Makkah. He also said,

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Oh Allah make the city a land of health and abundance. Bless. It's sad, and it's mud. These were measurements for weighing food in Medina. And he said, Oh Allah remove its fever.

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When our Isha or the land had recovered, a mother began preparing her for moving in with her husband Rasulullah salallahu alayhi wasallam. She began to take great care in feeding her properly, as was the custom in order to help her to grow stronger and mature.

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Our Isha or the lion heart tells us in a hadith that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam married me when I was six years old, and he consummated our marriage when I was nine years old.

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And then I remained with him for nine years, meaning until he passed away.

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The Battle of brother took place on the 17th of Ramadan in the second year of hijra, it was a great victory for the Muslims. And immediately afterwards in the month of Shawwal. Asia or the Langham moved into the little heart that Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam had prepared for her right next to the masjid.

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There were two or three huts with a small courtyard each built next to the masjid. And those would be the houses of Arusha. So that and also of Ali and Fatima, or the Langham

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little walls were made of mud, and the roof was date leaves and branches. The roof was very low, it was so low, you could touch it if you stood up. And there was a door or some kind of curtain between the masjid that entered straight into the house or the courtyard of Ayesha medela Anna.

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It was a simple bed in the house in the hut, and some water skins.

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Over time, more huts were built for each of the other wives of Rasulullah sallallahu wasallam. Of course, today, the place where those hearts were has been incorporated into the masjid. But you should know that when you see that green dome, that underneath it was the area where all of the huts of the wives of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would have been

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and it was because I ishara Diana got married in a world that she used to consider her world to be a very blessed month.

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She used to say the Prophet married me in Cherwell and began living with me in Sha one a few years later. So which of the Messenger of Allah 's wives has been more fortunate in the month of shawal than me?

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a ceremony took place where I shared on the land her was beautified and the unsavoury women gathered and chanted and prayed for the bride and groom.

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The Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam borrowed 500 Durham's from aboubaker and gave it to a Chateau de Rana as her dour

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and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam came into the house and was offered a bowl of milk, which he in turn offered to Ayesha for the Lana. It was a simple but blessing wedding.

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And we learned from this, that if the most blessing man or salt Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and his most beloved wife had a simple, yet placid wedding. We too, should make marriage easy, we too, should make our weddings simple, in order to increase the blessing in those weddings. And thus, I should have done has life began as wife, student, friend and confidant of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.

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In modern times, some people have made an issue out of the age of Aisha Dylan, when she got married.

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She was six years old, when Rasulullah Salallahu alaihe salam contracted the marriage with her. But she only began to live with Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam when she was nine.

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Now, what we have to understand is that when we look at history, it's unfair to use the lens of our context to judge the context of others. Until relatively recently, it was perfectly normal all over the world, for girls and boys to get married young. In fact, even today, it's perfectly normal. I know from my own grandparents that they got married when they were like 13 years old.

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Girls and boys would often marry in their teens or even earlier. And it is for that reason that the age of Asia or the LAN ha, was really not seen as controversial at the time of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. And even after his time, even by those who opposed Islam. Some of the factors to bear in mind when we think about their context, is the life expectancy of women around that time, was about the age of 38. People had shorter lives, they didn't really live beyond the age of 40. And if they did, it was considered having a long life, because people died of illnesses and diseases that couldn't be cured.

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And this is in the third to eight centuries, which is known as the late and antiquity, childhood was shorter children matured very quickly and experienced the various stages of life more quickly to puberty or physical and mental maturity were considered the signs of adulthood, not age as it is today.

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marriage was the norm. So what would normally happen is that in a typical marriage, the marriage contract would be drawn up. But consummation would take place when the parties were considered physically and psychologically mature enough. having lots of children was seen as a blessing, and good for security and wealth. And since children died, young child mortality was high. They felt that the younger you got married, the more children you would likely have. So the bottom line regarding our T shirt, or the lion has age, when she married Rasulullah, sallallahu alayhi wasallam is that she was mature enough. She was in a loving, caring marriage, and she was very happy. She

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wasn't an oppressed child. She was actually very feisty and outspoken with a strong personality. She was not suppressed in any way. In fact, she would often express her anger as well as her joy openly to Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. So in short, although in our times in our context, it might not be considered suitable for people to get married at such a young age. For her times and her context, it was perfectly normal and a normal thing to do. And it was a perfectly healthy, happy marriage. Now, that doesn't mean that in our times, now that you know, we have an under

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standing for our times that children don't mature at such a young age, and it's illegal in many countries, and many countries have got together and decided that it would be better for for children to get married at it at an older age or for people to get married when they're older. If that's something that is the case in our times, then of course, that's something that we respect and that we should live by.

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But what we are trying to highlight here is what was right for her context in her times. And that's not necessarily what's right for our times.

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So there's no need for us to get nervous when we talk about the age of a shirt or the line. Hmm. It's something that we just have to contextualize and understand that, you know, it was the right thing for that time and it was absolutely normal for that time as well. In sha Allah after the break, we will look at the marriage of Ayesha or Dylan ha with the prophet SAW salam, what their married, married life was like, and what the household was like. So join me after the break. Salaam Alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh.

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Welcome back to brothers and sisters. We were talking about eyeshadow the line has married and life with Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.

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The first thing that we noticed when we look at her relationship with Rasul Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is that it was a relationship full of love. The Prophet was a loving husband. I share talks about enjoying meals with Rasul Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and the way he would interact with her sometimes he would put a morsel of food into her mouth. He would drink from the same cup as her and even from the exact same place where she had placed her lips. He at sometimes from a bone that she had been eating from, and he would place his mouth where she had eaten. In other words, he had that sense of intimacy and closeness to her.

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When she was asked, What did the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam used to do in the house? She replied, he used to keep himself busy serving his family. In another Hadith, she was asked, What did Rasulullah salallahu alayhi wa sallam used to do at home?

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And she replied, he would do chores for his family. And when it was time for the prayer, he would go out. So this really tells you the kind of attitude that a Muslim man should have in that, when he's at home. Yes, he will be busy with his family, serving his family and being involved in whatever the affairs of the family are. But at the same time, when it comes to Salah when it comes to the time for the seller, Allah Subhana Allah comes first. Right? So his family life did not distract us all Allah salallahu alayhi wa sallam from Allah subhanho wa Taala. And in that is a message for all of us, right? Sometimes we get so busy with our families, sometimes we get so engrossed that our

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obligations suffer. And that shouldn't be the case. And on the other hand, sometimes people get so engrossed with their obligations and with work outside of the home, that they don't give enough time to helping out within the home. So what we see in the example of Rasulullah, sallAllahu, alayhi wasallam is the perfect balance, the perfect balance, the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam used to divide his time equally between his wives. So obviously, later on, he had even more wives. And he would try you do his best to divide his time equally between them in terms of the number of nights that he would spend in each of them.

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And yet, he had a special love for Ayesha or delana. He used to say, Oh Allah, this is my division concerning that which I control. So do not blame me concerning that which you control and that I do not, in other words, his heart, right rasulillah sallallahu Sallam used to race with Aisha, she said, the prophet raced with me and I beat him. And later on, she said, when she had gained a little bit of weight,

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she raced with Rasul Allah Salallahu alaihe salam again, and he beat her. And he said, This day is for that day. So you can see Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam had a sense of humor. He kept things light when it came to his relationship with his wives.

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Also Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam used to keep himself very clean.

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One of the Sahaba asked Ayesha, what was the first thing Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam used to do when he entered his house, she replied he would use his see work. So he was constantly keeping himself clean, making sure that he smelled nice. Used to apply perfume as we know, he should have done he used to comb his hair and his beard. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam used to lean on our ashara Golan has lap and recite for an and she said he used to do this even while she was on her menses so panela so it shows you that Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam did not regard a woman in menses as being something in pupils someone who you cannot have contact with and relations with

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something else which shows us the intimacy and the closeness with which are sort of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam regarded Aisha is that she said he used to bathe from the same vessel as her.

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She said I and the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam took a bath from the same vessel, and our hands alternated into it. Even though we were in the set in a state of Jenna, but in a state of, you know, major ritual impurity.

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The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam she said, was screening me with his garment. While I was looking at the Ethiopians who were playing, or doing a display of some sort in the courtyard of the masjid. I continued watching until I was satisfied.

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So panela and I should have done her comments on this and she says you can see from this how you should treat a girl in order to allow her to enjoy amusements in this way.

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Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam gave Ayesha certain pet names or nicknames he used to call her home arr used to call her morph aka the one who has been given tau fib, who has been given guidance and success.

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And he used to call her Irish so he shortened her name. So these are all little signs that show you the kind of loving relationship he had with her. And you know, he used to overlook some of her sometimes her feisty personality, right? So at times Aisha or Dylan her, she would get jealous. You know, and she even expressed this she said, I did not feel jealous of any of the wives of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam as much as I did of Khadija,

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though I did not see her. But the Prophet used to mention her very often. And whenever he slaughtered a sheep, he would cut its parts and send them to the Friends of hog IJA of the Allah Subhana Allah and this hadith we see that it shattered the LAN ha knew herself, you know, she understood her own feelings. And she observed that she felt the sense of jealousy of especially her deja or the Lana, even though she had not met her. But at the same time, she is telling us something very special and important about the way Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam treated another wife of his Khadija in that. First of all, he's to mention her very often. So Khadija was somebody he

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never forgot, especially, you know, everything that she'd done for him. And he honored his wife so much that when he slaughtered a sheep, he would remember the Friends of Khadija or the Lana. So even in this incident, we see Subhana Allah that Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam is showing his loving nature towards another one of his wives. Another incident that really shows you the closeness of eyeshadow and how with Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is a story she tells about one day she was she had her head on the lap of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam.

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And he had a very cheerful face. So she said to him, O Messenger of Allah, supplicate to Allah for me. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, Oh ALLAH forgive our Isha for her past and future sins, in secret and in public. So in other words, he made a very comprehensive deal for her right? I mean, who amongst us wouldn't want our past and future sins, to be for

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Given the sins that we've done in secret and the sins that we've done in public In other words, all of us since

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I shudder the line have began to laugh out of happiness when she heard his due to such an extent that her head fell from his lap. And then assume Allah sallallahu Sallam said to her, does my supplication my da does it make you happy? I just said, why would you do or not make me happy? Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam then told her something that we are very blessed to know about. He said, by Allah. This is my dua for my nation for my oma and every single prayer.

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Subhana Allah.

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From this narration, we learned so much about I shudder delana First of all, we learn about her loving nature and how even even in marriage even in the playful way, she would ask for good from Rasulullah sallallahu wasallam. She wanted his to us. She understood his status. She understood that if he makes the offer you it comes true. Right? She also understood that this was the best thing that the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasallam could have gifted her right. In other words, it would could be her ticket to Jenna. If all of her past future secret and public sins were forgiven. So it really shows you the fit of Ayesha, it also shows you her sincerity. Because it's a do I like this

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that makes her happy. You know, in our times, what are the things that make us as women happy, we we get happy if our husband buys us some jewelry, right? Or he gives us some money or he takes us out or he buys us some flowers. It's all these kinds of material things. And of course, gifts and material things are important and they have their place. But look at how our ishara Dylan has priorities are different. For her. This is the greatest gift Rasulullah could have given her

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and we also learn from this, how blessed we are that he married Asha. Why? Because these types of incidents if you were to reflect on this type of incident, it's a very intimate private incident that must have taken place. There would be no witnesses to this and to have the prophets Allah Salam. There'll be no witnesses to tell us that he made such an amazing offer for his oma if it wasn't for a mother Ayesha Abdullah and her.

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In the next episode, we will be looking at it Shana Dylan has a student of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. We will also look at the verses of Taya mum the dry ablution that were revealed due to an incident that took place with our mother. Ayesha, join me then. Salaam Alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh subhanak Allah home Mohammed, a shadow Allah ilaha illa, anta as the heruka wa to be like