Channel: Fatima Barkatulla
Bismillah Alhamdulillah wa Salatu was Salam ala Rasulillah the sisters a Salam alaykum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh. And welcome to our class,
the 70 major sins based on Kitab al CarBuyer, by Imam verbi.
Those of you who,
you know, maybe you didn't join us at the beginning of this series, I just want to tell you that you can get a copy of GitHub CarBuyer. In the translation in English,
I wouldn't say it's an excellent translation, you know, with all due respect to the author to the translator, because there are some bits that are a bit confusing, and I think they could have been translated better. Okay. But, you know, if you don't know Arabic, then this is a good, it's a good option, at least, if you want to, for example, see some of the other things that Mama Bobby said,
although, if you can get it in English, in Arabic, if you do understand Arabic, double CarBuyer is one of those books. But it was one of the first books that we studied in Egypt when we learned Arabic, because it's so easy to read, it's actually very, very easy in Arabic to read. And you learn a lot of Arabic through reading it. Because there's so such a range of Hadith that come up, but also, in our hobby is actually quite conversational. Like, he goes off on these little tangents.
Like, he has these sections
in between the buyer, in which he'll like, just go a bit deeper into a topic that's related, but it's not to do it's not 100% about the major sins. But if you if you get a copy, it's actually very thin, it's like so so it's a really good book, if you're like an intermediate Arabic student, okay. And say you finished either No, book one, and maybe two of the medina books, if you're going by the medina book, series, or if you're on, I would say, the second book of GitHub, src, if you're studying Arabic through Kitab, Allah sassy, those are the only two ones that I have experienced, I know has been a headache. Not really sure. Which, which level, the second book is, but when you get
to that stage, where you can actually read paragraphs of Arabic, and they start making their make sense to you.
It's a really good book to sort of, just get a teacher and say, let me read it from beginning to end, you know, just start reading it from beginning to end.
So anyway, that's just some advice I wanted to give. Because yeah, sometimes, you know, when we're studying Arabic, we read really boring texts, you know, that have absolutely no meaning for our lives, especially in these Arabic books, you know, the Arabic the books to teach you how to
learn Arabic, they often have these, like meaningless conversations between teachers and students, and, you know, a mother and a child. And I mean, the very kind of repetitive, boring sort of things to read. So for me, I always liked to get something that actually has some meaning. You know,
for example, a small book of Hadith, or
the classic one is assassin, the being of
Abu Hassan Ali Nadeau, he, he made a series personally, especially for a non Arab students who are learning Arabic, that's a really good one to start with. And then I think a double A battery is a very good one as well.
You learn a lot. So let me share my screen with you. Now, this one, when I read this, I thought, what's the what's the difference between this and some of the other competitors that have gone past? You know, unfortunately, the English translation, the book that I was suggesting, or I said is a translation. It doesn't really differentiate between different words, you know, so here, for example, it says, harming a battle the servants of Allah, yeah.
What the toll will allow him harming the servants of Allah and being overbearing towards them.
In this book, it just says,
harming people or something, you know, and being overbearing. Now.
If you think about it, we've had major sins that we've talked about previously that were very similar. So as a student, you you would think
Well, what's the difference?
Well, the difference is here, I think the emphasis is on the words.
Are you Bertola? Right? Via to a bar dilla Watoto la him, the A bar dilla is the emphasis that too hard harm or to cause injury or to,
you know, be negative towards
the servants of Allah, the early people to come to Islam? were
poor people, the slaves, the lower classes, you know, there were some people from the upper classes, of course, the prophets of Salaam, himself,
were backer of man. They were upper class, Muslims, upper class Quraysh, right people from the correct right, which are, which was the upper class or the most noble type. But the majority of the people initially in Makkah, were from the poor.
And from slaves, you know.
So some of the most Shakeel, what they would do is, of course, they would mock the Prophet Salah Salem,
about this. And also, they would sometimes put these conditions on him, they would say, Okay, if you want us to, if you want to talk to us, you have to get rid of these people. Right? Subhanallah they were so arrogant, like that, that whole society was so class ridden, right?
That they didn't even want to sit with a slave. They didn't want to sit with somebody who was of a lower class. And they thought it was like dishonorable or some kind of insult.
If they were to sit with the likes of Bilal, and, you know, some of the other Sahaba, who were considered ex slaves or who, you know, were from the poorer classes, they thought this was this was an insult. So they would say to the prophets, Allah salaam, if you get rid of these lot, these people, these poor people and these slaves, then we'll talk to you, right? Or, you know, they would they would do things that
And subhanAllah, you know, even in our times, it's very easy, isn't it?
When you're doing data, for example, okay, and you're talking to a certain type of person, you, you're so desperate to give them a good impression of Islam, that sometimes you
without really thinking, you
want to show them that Islam is somehow you know,
a religion for wealthy people, it is compatible with being wealthy, it's compatible with being this that and the other, you know, whatever will appeal to that
And in doing so, what can sometimes happen is you
you get your priorities wrong, right. So we know the famous story of when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was talking to one of the what, ah, and
even on Maktoum, the sahabi, who is a blind Sahabi came to talk to him.
And he was asking him about something.
And because he kind of interrupted the Prophet service on him, and because of the prophets, Allah Salam was so
eager for this upper class person to
listen to his message, you know,
he frowned. And he turned away from it been mocked, all right. And then of course, the verses of Quran came down by Soweto, Allah. Right.
He frowned and he turned away and Joe Lama when a blind man came to him, and then Allah goes on to say to the Prophet SAW Allah, you know.
He is emphasizing to the prophets of Salaam, but you know this, these are the people who are sincere. They're the sincere ones who come to you who asked you questions sincerely to become closer to Allah. This other person who's might be very rich might be very upper class, whatever. But he doesn't even want to listen to you. Okay. So, yes, do your effort. But don't
don't do it to the detriment of anyone else, you know?
or don't in any way neglect
your real followers, you know, because they're the ones who are sincere. They're the ones who when Islam wasn't popular, they came to Islam and Subhanallah This is one of the signs of the truthfulness of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam as a prophet.
You know, if the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was not a true prophet,
then the Quran would only be full of praise, only be full of things that you know, would make him look good, right? Any other person if they were making up something, right and making up that they are a prophet, they would make themselves look so good. Like a Superman right? But here we have the Quran, of course the word of Allah, correcting the messenger of allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Subhan Allah, right? I mean, it's just such a clear sign of the truthfulness of the Prophet sallallahu sallam. Right? And, and, you know, that's why you can see sometimes, of course, I'm not equating this with, with the prophets. But you know, sometimes you see Muslims who they used to be
practicing, and then they completely distanced themselves from Islam. And they become so cushy with Islamophobes. Right, and, and for some reason, they go all the way to like,
embracing the western lifestyle and completely rejecting anything Islamic and they sort of looked down on being a Muslim, they look down on
you know, sometimes I think to myself this, they have this, obviously, they're very impressed, aren't they? They're very impressed by the West, they're very impressed by you know, I mean, obviously, like the way the culture and the Western culture, right, they're very impressed by this society. And so, you know, they've obviously got some kind of inferiority complex.
And here, Allah subhanaw taala is telling
us not to have an inferiority complex,
don't have an inferiority complex about the believers. It doesn't matter if the believers are poor, doesn't matter if the believers are suffering. It doesn't matter if people spit out the believers. The believers in Allah's eyes are greater, they're greater. So don't be impressed. Don't be impressed by the glamour of people who look good, and who seem like they're having the time of their life. And you ally, no sisters, that, you know, even today, when you go and Instagram and these things,
people have literally curated a very perfect looking version of their lives. Sometimes those very same people are miserable. But
it's almost like it's their persona that they have to put out there, of being constantly high happy, in perfect shape in perfect, you know, perfectly polished, living like a lavish lifestyle. Actually, that's not the reality. They've just had to sort of, it's like window dressing, you know, it's like a shop window, they have to make it look good. So sorry, the point I was making, is some of these people, you know, eventually then leave Islam and then they, you can think of prominent ones who then go completely against Muslims, and then they start i lying with Islamophobes, right? against Muslims. Sometimes I think to myself, Where did this start?
It must have started in their mind somewhere because they were, they were religious before, right.
And I believe that sometimes it's probably it probably start somewhere where they feel extremely impressed. And extremely inferior to non Muslims.
that's easy to happen if you think about it. Because when you grew up in a society where everyone you see on television, everyone you see around you all the ideals and images of success, perfection. Excellence, don't look like you. Right? If you think they don't look like me, and not like me, you can internalize this narrative con, you can internalize this idea that actually, you know,
they're better than me. They're more sophisticated. I'm, I'm a nobody. And to start looking negatively towards yourself, your community, your people, your culture.
You know, your Islam even right? It can lead to that if it's left unchecked. But if a Muslim talks to themselves as Wait a minute,
this world is dazzling. Of course it is shaped and makes the world look dazzling. Right? You know, when when kids are watching TV, they see a particular football or celebrity, they get impressed by what they've got and what they're saying and how happy they seem. And when you have to sometimes, you know, you have to draw their attention to the fact that look, this is just a program. You know, they a lot of these people they're suffering inside, a lot of them. They don't know what the purpose of their life is. They don't know what to do, they just acting out what they've been told, they should do to be successful. But so many of them are in therapy, so many of them, you know, are
suffering because they don't have
the meaning of life. They don't have a meaning to their lives. Right. They don't have a lot in their life. And anyone who does not have a lot in their life, it's impossible for them to be truly happy. It's impossible for them to have true peace of mind.
They may seem like they do. But
no, it's impossible. Allah designed us to yearn for him and to need him. So in this if Allah subhanaw taala is saying,
those who harm believing men and believing women
are something other than what they have earned. In other words, something when they don't deserve to be harmed, they don't deserve a punishment, for example, have certainly born upon themselves a slander and manifest sin. So this is an AI are really censoring.
Arming believers, harming fellow Muslims.
And in this ayah last had access to the prophets of salaam that restrain yourself patiently with those who call on their Lord morning and evening, desiring his face. You know, it's very enticing to spend time with
people who aren't believers, you know, if you're getting a lot of, for example, a lot of attention a lot of accolades, you might start going away from the believers, and you might start spending more time with disbelievers. Of course, there's nothing wrong with spending time with disbelievers. If you're doing that, where you have to work, you have to do things, right. That's
obviously you know, as human beings we interact with human beings, we collaborate with human beings, there's no problem with that. However, when you start preferring to be with disbelievers when you
are with the wrong sorts of disbelievers, people who are going to turn you away from Allah eventually, right? And if you start
not feeling satisfied being with the believers, then there's something wrong. There's something wrong. And you could go down a negative path. So and this, you probably experienced this yourself, right?
When you're in a Muslim country, or when you're in a certain gathering full of sisters, suddenly your mind goes up, right? Just being around Muslims. Your mind goes up.
Before I went to university I was at in Assam I was in seminaries or Islamic colleges, well, years. And
you don't realize how much fitna you're safe from, you know, until you're removed from that environment. And you go into,
like a Western Western University, for example, a mainstream University and you suddenly you're in a completely different environment, people aren't learning the gays, you're expected to be very
cordial and interact with men. You're, you know, all these kinds of things, right.
And people are doing all sorts of things around you, right?
You don't realize how safe you are when you're in the company of the believers.
And so make sure that you have a core group of friends, and that you have you spend most of your time with the sorts of people that you want to be like Islamically, right.
We know that person is upon the religion of their friend, their companion, whoever you spend time with. Their way of looking at the world rubs off on you. And this goes for our kids as well. Most of the time when they're going through issues
Use when young people are going through issues and when they start having doubts or whatever things that they, some of them have,
you can put it down to the fact that they're spending a lot of time with other than believers, you know, with other peer, their peer group or on the internet, you know, looking at, and in a way, you know, when, when children when young people, they're addicted to these, or they're watching these YouTubers, that's the companion right? If you think about it, they've made that person their companion.
So we need to make our business see who what kind of YouTuber is this? You know, what kind of thing is, is this person conveying?
Because, in a way, this is the new type of companionship, right? And Imam of the hubby mentioned this hadith.
The messenger of allah sallallahu sallam said, Verily, Allah, Allah has said, whoever shows enmity to a colleague of mine, then I have declared war against him. So this is really important. We've got to be really careful when it comes to the scholars of Islam. You know, when it comes to pious people, especially, and people who even if they don't look very, very pious, right, like to us, in a stereotypical way, but they privately are very pious, you know, they have that strong relationship with Allah, if they are in Allah's eyes, or worldly,
not harming them, or causing them pain, or arguing with them, annoying them
much, graver much worse than if it's an ordinary person. So that's why you should be very, very careful. You know, sometimes, especially brothers, I've noticed, will very casually,
these scholars, you know, they'll very casually say something negative about a scholar,
you know, won't even accept that that person is a scholar, for example.
And they'll say things like, Oh, he's just this or he's of that and just dismiss somebody, when actually that person has done so much for Islam. That person has done so much.
In bringing people's hearts closer to Allah, he may not have done anything for you. But you can see that they've done so much for other people, right? bringing them closer to Allah. Just because they didn't bring them closer to Allah, according to your understanding of Islam. Right, your exact understanding of Islam doesn't mean that you should dismiss them. I think we have to be humble, we have to be humble. It's not right to dismiss a believer, you don't know which of that believers do. Allah loves so much that that believer has a higher status with Allah, then whoever you think, is so pious, we need to be really, really careful. And unfortunately, there's this culture that I noticed
anyway, amongst brothers, where they'll,
I don't know, maybe it's amongst them as well. Not any sisters I know.
Where they literally just miss scholars and dismiss
people of other groups, okay, who you might not agree with everything with right? But that person loves Allah. You can see that that person loves Allah. That person loves Rasul allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, they might differ with you on certain details. Right? But do they believe in the broad aspects of Islam? Do they do good? Do they love Allah? Are they close to Allah? Are they keep staying away from, you know, from sharing and that kind of thing? Of course. So then, who are you to say something against them? Be careful, because if you backbite a scholar, it's like poison. If you backed by any If you harm somebody who is a friend of Allah's, then Allah says he has declared war
And one little point I wanted to make here is, you know,
one thing I noticed that people often cost, the Sahaba and the Prophet SAW Salem,
in their own image, and I just want you to reflect on this and notice this, about people, you know, people who have a bit of a
strict personality, you know, they love
Like orderliness, they like everything to be really black and white in their Islam, right? And the understanding of Islam, they, they just are very, very rigid. You'll notice they, when they talk about the prophets of Salaam, when they talk about the Sahaba, they will highlight all those aspects of how the prophets of Salaam and Sahaba that almost show that that the Sahaba and the promises are like them.
And people who are more relaxed about things, maybe the bit wishy washy, right? And a little bit sort of
take it easy. Yeah, type of Islam, you'll notice that they will, when they talking about the prophets of salamanders, Hubbard, they will describe them almost like them as well. Hi, they'll make them sound really relaxed, really. So it's really important that we don't do that, you know, we don't cast the Sahaba we don't cast the Prophet sallallahu wasallam in our own images.
Instead, read about them, learn about them properly. And look at the spectrum of their lives. There were times when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was angry. Yes, there were times when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam fought battles.
There were times when the Prophet sallallahu sallam was extremely forgiving, and he completely forgave people with no retribution. There were times when he was very, very lenient. Okay. There were some things that he was very strict about with himself. You know, they said when he was going for the sunlight, when it was time for Salah, it's like, he didn't even know us, right? Didn't even know his family members, you had to go for the salah.
And there's other times and he's relaxing. So
it's really important that we don't try to make out that the Sahaba and the Prophet SAW Salem was somehow like us.
No, we it's for us to discover what they were like. And to try to be like them
in their full spectrum,
right in their full spectrum of humanity
rather than trying to
a version of them that appeals to us, right. So another major sin is this one, which is
allowing your, the bottom half of your clothing so time or the prophets of salaam they would wear like his armor, which is like Indian Pakistani stroke. I think even in Indonesia, Malaysia, you know, they were this Langi type thing right? Which is like a long,
long piece of cloth which is wrapped around the waist and folded over. And it's like a it looks like a skirt. It's not a skirt men wear it as well. So but it's like a lower garment right, a lower garment. And
anything that is a lower garment so it can be even Sarah will Salah will is basically like shallwe are what we would call Chihuahua, right? In Urdu, which is trousers and thing you were on the bottom half but with with two
like legs right for two legs
allowing it to drag on the floor on the ground or to be too long
out of arrogance, pride and boastfulness. So the majority of the scholars said it's only haram if it is out of arrogance, pride, boastfulness
if it's not out of those out of that, so it's just the custom of your country. You know, like for example, in the UK
when you wear a suit men when they wear a suit,
the trousers do go right down to the bottom, right.
But that's not
you don't do that out of pride, you know?
But I don't know if you're the queen and you're, you're wearing one of those massive coronation capes things right, and it's dragging with a long train behind you. That is a clothing of pride, isn't it? Like that's the whole reason why wealthy people do that, right? Oh, queens and kings do that. It's like to show look at me look at what I have, right? So I'm just going to mention one handy thing about this
Whoever trailed his garment on the ground out of pride. Allah will not look at him on the day of resurrection. And Booker said to him sorry to do Rasul Allah salAllahu Alaihe Salam O Messenger of Allah, my is our slips down if I do not pay attention to it, he said, You are not one of those who do it out of pride. So, you know, the Arabs, it was their custom at that time to allow your clothes to drag a bit, you know, because it shows doesn't it that you're
that you're really wealthy, shows that you've got the money to have more cloth, right? And obviously, the slaves and the poor people, what do you think they used to wear, hey, they might not even have a top one.
You know, they might even have a full garment. They'll just wear like up to their knees, right? So
it was a sign of wealth
for you to have long clothing. And that's what the Prophet SAW Selim is saying, you know, don't do it out of pride. So just some points
that Muslims should not drag their clothes out of pride showing off or boastfulness, some scholars, they actually say that, regardless of whether it's out of pride or not, that for men, they should have whatever they're wearing, the bottom half of their body should be a little bit high. Right? It shouldn't be completely down to the bottom.
Okay, but like I said, the majority of scholars say no, it depends on the intention, it's all about the intention.
And also, the scholar say that women are permitted to make their clothing longer, even if it drags a bit in order to cover their legs and feet properly. And another point to remember is clothing is for covering and adornment. It should not be for pride, to show off your wealth, your beauty, your status, I saw this practice amongst some Asians, where especially wealthy ones,
where they will be when they're getting married,
the bride's side of the family will bring all these gifts or, or vice versa, the groom's side will bring all these gifts, very lavish, expensive gifts for the the other side. And then they will display all of the gifts in a room and allow us to come in and just have a look.
Right? So Pamela, I attended her like a pre wedding event like that. And I was thinking,
like, what's the point of that? Why are people doing that? With people who are not their family even right? They can only be one reason. They can literally only be one reason why you're showing all these expensive designer suits and designer this and design of that and lavish jewelry and gifts that have been given to you, you're just showing off. Like, there's literally no other reason why you would invite people who are not even your family, just guests to come and look at all of that. And you know, she'd be embarrassed by those kinds of things. I remember in this one that I went to, I didn't even know they were going to do that.
There was even like some very poor sisters there, you know, sisters who are cleaners, who
I know are having financial difficulties. And they were invited to have a look at all these lavish gifts and Subhanallah I was thinking, you know, people, sometimes people don't have shame. You know, that's, that's not a classy thing to do. That is not a classy thing to do.
Artsy thing to do is when you have net ama from Allah, when Allah has made you wealthy, when Allah has given you a lot, keep that to yourself. You don't need to show everyone use your money for good things. You know, but you don't need to show off to people. You don't need to show them and prove to them it kind of shows the type of insecurity even maybe, when you feel like you have to let everyone know how wealthy you are and what car you've got and what this you've bought. And
you know, so let me just send number 56.
Wearing silk and gold for men. Allah Subhana Allah says in the Quran surah Lockman. He says, well out of your heart the Kaleena see what items you fill out the Mara? In Allah Allah you Hibou coulomb of Tallinn for hole and swell, not your cheek, out of pride at men. No walk in insolence through the earth. For Allah does not love any arrogant boast
So Allah tells us in the Quran, you know, this is the advice of Look, man, his son, right? Don't walk around striking proudly, as like you own the earth, right? These are the things we should be teaching our kids. By the way, even the way we walk should be humble. Regarding silver and gold, the messenger of allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, Verily, Allah Almighty has made lawful silk and gold for the women of my Oma. But he has forbidden them for the men. And there's lots of had these, you know, about this kind of thing about men not
being allowed to use silk.
In this hadith, the Prophet sallallahu wasallam said, silk is only worn in this world by the one who will have no share of the pleasure of the hereafter.
Of course, he was talking to the men, right? He was addressing the men.
And that's sort of the lion who reported that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, whoever wears silk in this world, will not wear it in the hereafter.
So some of the scholars discussed like, why, you know why?
I don't think it's very clear why, you know, it's not very clear, why could be a loss credit, I just made it that he wants, you know, just like other things that have had their losses not to indulge in our desire, you know, desires for other things, right? That he restricted the men from gold and so.
And in the Hereafter, of course, in Jannah, there won't be any restriction on any of the things right of this world. So
that's one explanation that we don't actually know the exact reason. But other scholars, they tried to kind of think of reasons. They said,
it could be because
it's a sign of arrogance, those kinds of things.
But actually, some of them said it's because still
is a very feminine fabric.
I read some scholars saying that men who wear silk become effeminate, right?
And I'm, I'm chuckling because
I don't know, I just, I can't I can't see exactly how okay.
But I guess, you know, if silk is known as a material, especially in the past for women, right, very soft, very, you know,
luxurious in that way, then, I guess then linking that to, you know,
increasing, like making men more effeminate.
Allah, Allah, you know, we don't have a real there's no text that I know of that says, you know, none of the Quran and Sunnah that says,
blatantly the reason, you know,
but it seems that definitely silk and gold are luxuries seen as luxuries. And you know, anyone who thinks that in Islam, women have it easy, men don't have it. Men have it sorry, men have it easy. And women have got all these restrictions on them.
They don't realize that actually Subhan Allah, Allah, Allah is just he made specific rules for men specific rules for women.
And there are restrictions on men that are not on women, right? Like this.
So the scholar said, if there's a small amount of silk, a very small percentage, like a few fingers worth, then it's permitted for it to be on the men's clothes. Right. And because of that, some scholars say You know, if it's like
a mix silk mix, a garment that is made of mixed
threads, you know, material, then
as long as the percentage of silk is extremely low, it's okay. You know,
no. Men can own gold, you know, like as an investment, etc. Where they can't wear it.
What's been Malik reported that the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam granted a concession to as Uber and other a man to wear silk when they were suffering from a rash. Yes, I'll see you soon.
On fatawa you know, if a person has eczema, for person has certain illnesses, skin ailments, or skin conditions and silk will be the most suitable material for them to wear, and it will ease the kind of condition
then it would be permitted
major sin number 57
We don't need to spend much time on this one
basically a slave running away from his master.
So we said last time, or we said in the previous session that, you know, the system at that time was that they were slaves, people had slaves and a slave was kind of bound to their master, right? A slave could buy their own freedom, they could come to a deal with their master to free themselves.
Like I'll work for you X amount
while earn money for you, or whatever, you know, and are by my own freedom, right.
And there were lots of rules, you know, treating slaves Well, etc.
But the system that was in place, what was not allowed was for there to be chaos, you know, for people to just run away
from their masters less there was a very strong reason, you know, but just the general idea of just running away from
this hadith explains it, when the slave runs away from his master, his prayer is not accepted. Prophet sallallahu sallam said
so, you know, if a slave wants their freedom, they need to negotiate it
basically, yes, that was the idea
mistake number 58 of the Blue
Lady lawyer, he has urged, slaughtering, so sacrificing an animal, or slaughtering an animal
and pronouncing other than the Name of Allah, the name of someone else, some other
god right, felt good
the time of slaughter
so the, you know, this idea that we shouldn't eat, you not eat of that upon which the name of Allah has not been mentioned. But indeed it is grave disobedience. And indeed do the devils inspire their allies amongst men to dispute with you? And if you were to obey them, indeed you would be
associated of others
with him so
in explanation of this idea, the scholars said it's not just that Allah's Name hasn't been mentioned, but also if some other
you know beings name has been mentioned
at the time of slaughter and that also makes that animal now that is also haram. Right?
We don't slaughter things in the name of anything other than Allah.
okay, we can begin talking about this and we can continue next time.
So major sin number 59 is
knowingly ascribing yourself to other than your father, your real father, right. So in other words, taking a name.
Taking a name, that implies that you're the child of other than your father,
your real FOB,
shallow we'll go into it next time in more detail. But I think you get the picture. This is you know, one of the Mikasa of the Sharia. One of the
intents and purposes of the Sharia is to preserve
Maybe next time, I'll bring all five of the lock acid. One of them is to preserve lineage, which is that a human being who is your father
has a right for you to recognize that they are your father. And you, as a human being, have a right to know who your parents are,
what your lineage is.
And it's almost like a deep, deeply embedded human
yearning and need.
And that's why you see, you know, a lot of the time when people are adopted, or when they didn't know who their father was, or, you know, they grew up in a situation where they thought their father was somebody, and then they grow up, and then they realize it's somebody else. These things cause massive trauma in people's lives.
They can cause massive trauma in people's lives.
You know, there's so many stories of adopted children who become obsessed with knowing who their real parents were, and being able to find them. And
it's almost like a deeply embedded yearning, that exists, right. But Inshallah, we will go into this one properly next time, and continue. So let me see if there are any questions.
I'm going through these a bit quickly. Now. I mean, to be honest, like, obviously, I could go into the Tafseer of each of the ayat in a lot more detail.
But I feel like the main aim of these sessions is not
is not to, like, go off on tangents they have to be, we have to understand why are these major sins, our sins, or which I add in a hadith make them major sins. And also, we have to understand that they are major sins, that's the main thing that we want to get right. So that inshallah we can avoid them ourselves. One thing I want to encourage you all with, and I've started doing this myself, I do this class, but I thought to myself, subhanAllah, my own kids don't know what the major sins are, right? My own kids, they don't know what the major sins are. And they're quite big now, like the adults, at least three of them are adults. So what I've started to do is I have a little mini Halacha, okay.
Have a little mini Halaqa for them every week, where I just go through the major sense
with them in a different way, to the way I would do it, like here on the squat. So I would really encourage you all, especially if you have teenage and older kids
and it's not meant to be a halacha that's like doom and gloom, right? You're not trying to just like scare them. It's about teaching them about repentance as well, right? Teaching them that look, if you can, if you can stay away from these major sins all your life,
you know, that's going to be a great thing.
In sha Allah, Allah give you your smaller sense,
Inshallah, but these major sins stay away from them. And subhanAllah, I was actually quite surprised my, like, my sons actually are really enjoying it in the sense that
it's bringing up discussions, you know, okay, what could lead to this major sin, you know, making it more kind of conversational.
And obviously, with older kids, because some of the major sins are quite
explicit and on unsuitable to discuss with young children. But with the older ones, subhanAllah we should be telling them this stuff, you know, we should be telling them what the major sins are, they should know. Because how many young people do we do we hear of, you know, sometimes moms will call me desperate, because their daughter has fallen into X, Y, or Zed or their son has, right.
And you think to yourself, subhanAllah like,
it's really obvious that they never ever had that conversation. They that child maybe never even knew that there was a major sin. Or they started doing smaller things that then led to that major sin. But imagine if in our children's minds they all
really knew, Okay, these are the major things that if I stay away from those, and also it's not just a bunch of rules, these things are harmful. They're harmful to me.
And why are they harmful?
You know, I really got to share this with you sisters, last week's sister contacted me.
Desperate, she has a religious family, from a religious family and everything, right? But her daughter came home and basically said to her daughter, stop praying, her daughter used to wear hijab, she stopped praying, she stopped wearing hijab. And she told her mom that I think I'm gay, basically, right? I'm attracted to women. And
if your child starts expressing that they have attraction,
be very careful not to label it, not to allow your child to label themselves.
Because society encourages that society is encouraging them to say, Okay, I am this now, you know, this is my identity.
When Subhanallah as a teenager, you don't know who you are.
You know, you're just figuring it out yourself. So if inshallah we can encourage our children, if any child, may Allah protect us or goes through that kind of fitna.
You encourage them not to label themselves. You say to them, Look, you're just having some feelings.
Right? Everyone has feelings. When we were teenagers, we had feelings, confusing feelings sometimes, right? But that doesn't mean
that we need to label ourselves. You know, it's just feelings. Even when you get married, and you're an adult,
you know, you can still feel attraction towards somebody.
Right? And that's haram.
So, I mean, acting upon that is haram, right? So again, even as adults, we have to control our desires. So the message to be given to a young person like that is listen,
whatever you're feeling right now, and you know, you can think to yourself, you're probably going through some kind of phase.
Hold on, you know,
give yourself time. You need to, like, allow them, to not label themselves, not to construct an identity around that thing. And to start thinking about what were you as a parent became neglectful? I'm not saying it's always because of the parents. Okay. But, you know, for example, in the situation that I was speaking, the lady I was speaking to,
you know, they hadn't really spent a lot of attention in to their children's Islamic education.
You know, sometimes we assume our children know a lot about Islam. No, they don't know, just because they're wearing hijab. And they're just doing the motions, it doesn't mean we've given them knowledge,
deep connection with Allah.
The Salah was not being
established in the house.
Come on, you know, there has to be a rule of the house. Salah has to be a rule of the house.
Just like you have other rules, how come you can have a rule that everyone has to brush their teeth, how come you can have rules that people have to do their chores, but when it comes to Salah parents think, oh, I don't want to force them. I don't want to push them. Just make it a rule of the house. It's one of the rules of our house, established Salah and Gemma, if possible, that way everyone prays together.
I Halaqa have a weekly Halaqa think is really important. Even if it's just a fun Halaqaat like 20 minutes, 30 minutes with ice cream, you know with a milkshake, I don't know. But just do something fun. And you make them just sit down and just hear some good things. Maybe hear them out as well see where their mind is. That's why we lose our kids because we don't have these discussions with them. If they can have those discussions with us before they face them in the outside world, where their friends are now try teaching them how they should think about these things.
In sha Allah, our children will be more resilient. Well they but yeah, very important. Your kids company who are their friends, if they're in a non Muslim school, you need to make provision for other places for them to meet Muslims hang out with Muslims and have Muslim peers makes a huge difference. Either go to some, you know Islamic family retreat with them.
You know how
have a separate Islamic school or Halacha, or after school club or something, or just have dinners at your house with, you know, religious families
have somewhere where your children are socializing and mixing and having a peer group that are believers.
All of these things are important.
I just really wanted to share that with you because of how desperate
that mother was, you know.
And I just thought Subhanallah how many people are,
how many people's children are heading in that direction?
So please, the sisters make dua for your own children. You know, ultimately, Allah is the one who guides we can't guarantee anyone's guidance. But even if a child goes astray, remember,
always keep the door open. Always keep the door open, because
it's when we shut the door. Then they go into the arms of people who are very happy to welcome them
into their ideology into their culture into their
lifestyle. Okay, so we can't shut that door. We have to still allow them to come back.
If Allah is so forgiving, that if a person repents that they come back.
What about us? Can't we be forgiving towards our kids? Can't we allow them to repent and come back?
Shala with that I'm gonna leave you just like I'm low Ferran.
Subhanak alone. Morbihan big shadow Illa Illa illa Anta esta filco want to be like Salaam Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh. I can see somebody asked, is it haram to take archery as GCSE? No, it's not. The answer is no. You know, just make sure that your whoever's taking it also has good Islamic
teaching as well, you know, separately, but there's nothing wrong with taking every shot Allah
is not coming off here.