70 Major Sins #12 – Sin 17 Al-Kibr (Arrogance, Pride), Sin 18- Bearing false witness, Perjury

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smilla Hamlet in their or salat wa salam ala rasulillah.

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We are on two major sin number 17

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and keep

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on arrogance, arrogance, pride, conceit, validity and haughtiness, these are all valid translations of the word give.

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Okay, so here in a number of places in the Quran, Allah Subhana, Allah criticizes Cuba. And so here in the south, often he says, I'll call him Musa in order to be Rob be or become mean cooling what you mean will be omitted mill, he said

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morsani salam says, I seek refuge in my Lord and your Lord, from every arrogant person who does not believe in the day of reckoning.

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And so,

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you know, there is this mode motif that you see in the Quran and Sunnah, that the ultimate type of arrogance is to reject

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Allah right, it's to reject your own creator, and to be so arrogant that you wouldn't

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accept that you are a limited human being who was created.

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And yes, Pamela, one of the things you notice when you listen to the discourse, for example, from New atheists, and,

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you know, people who talk about

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who talk very proudly about why there's no God, why they believe there's no God, right? They write books, such as God is not great, or The God Delusion, you know, these types of books.

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One of the things you notice about them, when you hear them speak is how arrogant they are, you know, like, it's really obvious how arrogant they are, how big they think they are, how important they think they are, and how important they think human beings are in the big scheme of the world, you know, and how, and the arrogance is rooted in the fact that they believe that

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their rationality, right,

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the brain, the mind, can fathom and encompass

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the reality of creation, hey,

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which is kind of ridiculous. If you think about it, you know, we as human beings, we are limited creatures within this universe. So for us to think, or to claim that because for example, we can't see something, okay? Or because you know, we can't test something,

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that it's something exists or, etc, that that means that it definitively doesn't exist, for example, is the height of arrogance, you know, we only have a number of senses. And even those senses that we have, are very, very limited. We don't even get to experience the full spectrum of what's out there. You know, if you think about it, even the colors that you see in front of you, right now, you're probably looking at your laptop, maybe it's what color is it silver, or black, and, you know, you look at your hand, and it is a certain color, my hijab is a certain color.

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But actually, in reality, they don't, they're not that color. You know, if you think about it, it only appears to you as if it's those they are of those colors because of the light that reflects off of them and enters your eye. Right? Because it's the color blue

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that enters your eye, right?

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You perceive my job as being blue,

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etc, etc. Right? So

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the idea that we as human beings are we even know that the very colors that we see are a type of illusion, right?

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You know, they're a type of illusion. They're not real. They're kind of like, what? dependent on what kind of light? What's what part of the spectrum enters our eye?

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Subhanallah like, how could we as human beings think that we can perceive and encompass

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the vastness of this universe in our understanding

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They are in our knowledge. So you can see how human beings become deluded, right? And they become arrogant.

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We have a little bit of knowledge and we become very confident that we know everything.

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So the ultimate arrogance is, isn't it to reject your Creator, because your Creator is the one who gave you everything. And you think that you're so great, you can reject Him.

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And, you know, kibber was basically the first sin, wasn't it? It was like the biggest unfair sin. It's what got us

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our greatest enemy, right, which is shaved on the police. What was it that a police

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guilty of? Initially, you know, what was his major crime? It was that he said, I am better than him, right? I'm better than Adam. Why should I bow down to Adam?

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Like he didn't. He instead of seeing it as a,

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as obedience to Allah,

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he got he got hung up on the fact that he believed that he was better than Adam. And so why should he humbled himself in front of Adam. Right? And that was out of kyboot arrogant arrogance.

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If you look at hobbylink, rb, right, the Cain and Abel the first human being or the first,

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the children of Adam, who were the first will gobble was the first to kill, to kill another human being. Right?

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If you look at his story, you see that he had a type of resentment. He had a type of resentment, almost like anger with God.

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And this type of arrogance,

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arrogance that you know why? Why has Allah made my brother better than me? Why has Allah favored my brother more than me? Okay. And that's a motif that you see repeated throughout history, right throughout the stories of the prophets. Even at the time of the prophet SAW Selim, there are people who would say,

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why didn't a lot use someone better, you know, should have chosen somebody from one of the big cities should have chosen somebody of even more noble birth, etc, etc.

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This arrogance, is a trait that in human beings, leads them to reject Allah, reject Allah because ultimately,

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in order to accept

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the way Allah Subhana, Allah has decided things, you know, the fact that Allah subhanaw taala decided that you would be a certain way that your wealth would be a certain amount, and that maybe your brothers and sisters would have it differently right. Some people will have more, some people will have less, some people will have certain strengths some people would have will have others.

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arrogance leads a person to

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reject Allah's wisdom.

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So you can see can very easily lead a person to disbelief.

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And then Allah subhanaw taala also says, You level Camila Wahid, you will your Lord is one Lord your God is one God for Lavina let me know Nadella, filati, boo boo monkey rotten. Whatever Mr. could be wrong, that

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those who do not believe in the hereafter their hearts are

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disapproving, and they are arrogant.

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assuredly, Allah knows what they conceal and what they declare, indeed, he does not like the arrogant. Right? So even in rejecting our own mortality, and the fact that there's going to be a hereafter we're going to be asked, we're going to be questioned.

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And in rejecting that, there's a type of arrogance, you know, people think, I don't have to do this. I don't have to accept this. Even sometimes, people who know the truth, right, they know the truth of the deal.

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They will

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reject it because, you know, they think they're too good. They think that they don't have to follow the same laws that a lot of other law has given others.

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So this trait of keeper

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being arrogant, being deluded by your own

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exalted pneus. Right? vanity, how many times has vanity let the person astray, right? How many sisters, for example, refuse to wear the hijab or refuse to,

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you know, be modest, because their own beauty has deluded them.

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You know, like if you have a certain beauty, instead of thinking, well, Allah is the one who gave me that beauty. So I should obey Allah in how I use it. And in you know, how I display it, or how I appear in public, etc, I should obey a lot of since he's the one who has given me that beauty.

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What happens is human being stopped becoming arrogant and thinking that their beauty is almost like

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something that they created, right, something that they have that they should flaunt.

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so, you know, vanity is another translation of the word giver, you just so self absorbed, and you think you're so good, you're so beautiful, you're so amazing

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that you're above

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having to obey Allah. Right?

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Be very careful

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with these traits.

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Now, I don't know if you remember that there was this interview with Stephen, Stephen Fry, his name, the actor, and you know, the author.

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And the, one of the present of the presenter was asking him, Well, what if when you die there is a God? Because he's an atheist raised like a really famous atheist? What if there is a God?

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And the way he responded, I just thought Subhanallah, you know, look at the kibra look at the arrogance, you know, I don't want to accuse him of arrogance. But these are signs of arrogance, right? He said, Well, I'd ask him, you know, why, why did he create?

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And then he went through this list of illnesses, right, you know, and children dying, and you know, children being subject to disease, and some Why did he do that? You know, thinking suppiler if you're doing this thought exercise of, you know, what, if there is a God,

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you're even arrogant in the thought exercise that you're doing.

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If you think about it, right? Like,

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no, that's not how you what you would say, when you die, and you realize that there is a God, what would happen is that you'll be extremely sorry for the fact that you'd live lived your life, rejecting God, and insulting God. Right? And, you know, arrogantly telling everybody that there wasn't a god.

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You wouldn't be standing there questioning God, you don't get to question God. Right? But you can see like, the arrogance is so intrinsic. So like, embedded right? In this brand of atheism, and in this kind of,

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I would say, Western characteristic of thinking that, you know, we've reached the peak of civilization and the peak of,

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you know, progress and evolution, that even when an atheist is asked, What if when you die, there is a God? He will say, well, then I'm gonna ask God, why, why was he Why did he create such bad things? As if, as if he would dare?

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If he saw God, right?

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It's apparent Allah. As you can see, the arrogance runs deep.

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being humble is a sign of the believers. You know, Allah says in the Quran, why bother Ramadan? Levine? I'm sure Allah. Oh, the homeowner, that the

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servants of the masterful are those who walk upon the earth. Lightly walk on the earth lightly. I just love that kind of description. in the chat if you could just type What does that? What could what kinds of things could that denote walking on the earth? lately? Well, either har Baba hula Jahan on Alpine or selama. And when the ignorant address them harshly, they say, salam, they say words of peace.

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I just love the image that that conjures up right? The servants of the masculine are those who walk on the earth.

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Lightly, humbly it basically means humbly, but

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give me some examples of what you think

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denotes walking on the earth lightly.

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I'd love to hear what you have to say.

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Hmm, sister services to send us as trying not to attract too much attention. Yeah, that could be one way that we walk upon the earth lightly. Right? Because those who walk on the earth heavily they want everyone to notice, right? They want everyone to they want everyone they want the earth to move when they arrive, right?

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That's one way we could say, yes. And without harming anyone, if you think about it,

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the believers should be the ones. You know, at the moment, we have this conversation going on, in the in wider culture that

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that you know about global warming, and about how the earth is the Earth's resources are suffering and, you know, human beings have caused so much devastation on Earth and in nature. That's a type of walking upon the earth heavily, isn't it? If you think about it, right? exploiting the earth, damaging nature, damaging the environment. Why? Because for worldly gain, right? It's like you're walking on the earth heavily.

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But here, you know, as believers, we should we would be the ones who walk upon the earth, with respect, respect for the earth, respect for the resources that Allah gave us, knowing that they are that we are merely

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stewards on this earth right. Now, we don't get to use the earth and exploited in any which way we want, but that we will be asked about it. And so we should have a reverence and a respect for the environment that law has given us, right? I think all of those things kind of denote walk upon the earth lately.

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And one of the sisters is saying,

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when someone argues for nothing, just remain silent. Yeah, I guess you're talking about the second part, right? When the ignorant addressed them harshly, they say words of peace.

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Absolutely. And the you know, that's not seen as a

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strong characteristic in our times, right? To be strong is seen, as you know, answering people back. If someone swears that you swear back, if somebody says something to you answer back, stand up for your rights, and, you know, fight back. Now, there are times when you need to do that. Absolutely. But imagine if you could be so.

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So at peace with yourself, right? That when somebody behaves in an ignorant way towards you,

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you calm things down. Right? You are the peacemaker, you're the one who realizes that this person who's being insulting or is being Islamophobic, or who's being ignorant, they actually have some pain that they're feeling, right? There's some pain that they're feeling. And they're just directing that pain towards you, as an easy target.

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Right. So the fact that they're feeling pain is a cause for us to feel sorry for them, rather than to kind of be angry, because they're in a weaker position. Right? They don't have the peace of mind that we have as believers.

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And so how this works, you know,

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I've seen like my parents, for example, having really racist neighbors over the years.

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And you've probably experienced this yourselves, right. Especially with the previous generation. And sometimes we look at that and the way they've dealt with those neighbors with such hikma with wisdom, with gentleness, with patience, you know, like, just overlooking certain nastiness.

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Our generation tends to look at that as our parents were so weak, right? Our parents had, you know, like somebody. I remember when I was talking about this, they said, Oh, isn't that like being a doormat?

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No, it's not being a doormat. It's being above like you are to above their ignorance to

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go down in the mud with them.

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You know?

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It's a superior state of being, you know, I don't know where we got this idea of

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The superior state of being is to retaliate. Now, the superior state of being is to not allow anything to upset your equilibrium. Right? Don't let anything upset your peace.

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And it works. It really works. Like I've seen, the most racist of neighbors become really nice and really soft and just mellow and become very helpful towards my parents. Because over the years, my parents are just very patient with them and dealt with them in a nice way, even though they were ignorant, they acted in an ignorant way towards them. Another example I can give you is,

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once I wrote an article for the times, about,

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you know, it was after the Paris attacks, and how, you know, as a, as a Muslim mother, I was going to raise my children to be proud to be Muslims, you know, and not to hide that Islam, something like this. It wasn't, it was a long article. And a lady actually looked me up online, and she wrote me a long letter. She wasn't very long. It was another guy who wrote a very long letter that this this lady's note was not that long, but

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the tone of it, you know, that came across in the email, or in the DM that she sent me, was very harsh. Okay. And ignorant. There's a lot of ignorance in there. You know, can you appreciate that you, you know, your religion, and your type of people, you know, basically, she meant, like, people who dress like us, that, you know, when I see you, I feel like you don't want to talk to me, you don't want to have any interaction with me, because you're, you've got your face covered. Obviously, this was before COVID. Right. Now, after COVID nobody cares about faces being covered, right. But at that time, it was before COVID when everyone was getting there, you're getting into like, fits about

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nipah. Right? And she was like, you know, can you appreciate that my whole society has changed all around me. And, you know,

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and this religion that, and you know, she's basically expressing ignorance about what Islam says about women and how we've gone backwards. And, you know, British society has gone backwards, and this and that. Anyway, everything she said was very,

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you could see she was angry, she was, she didn't really know much about Islam. But you see, as a believer, if you read something like that, you've got to look through the words and see what's behind all of this. What are the feelings here? What are the experiences here? What's this person really trying to say? And so I resisted the temptation to reply in a harsh way. And I just thought to myself, you know what, this lady, she seems like an elderly lady. She was no, she said, No, she's like, 70s, or something.

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And she's basically witnessing her town change around her. And she feels left out. You know, probably Muslims haven't really made her film that I feel particularly welcome, you know, could be right. Sometimes we are quite

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unaware of, or, you know, not very self aware about how we are relating with the communities around us, right.

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So maybe she's seeing all these people, you know, people are dressing differently now, from what she grew up with. And she's feeling a sense of nostalgia, right towards the good old days, right? And she sees maybe some of the problems that she has, it's easy for her to look outward and think, well, this community around me, I can't really relate to them. Right, they do dress differently, they eat differently,

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they probably don't invite her round, you know, she probably feels kind of a bit left out, right. And sometimes it's those kinds of things that then trigger a person to start thinking, well, these people are very different to us, and they're very backward and whatever, right? And she hasn't read much, etc. So I wrote a nice email back to her. And I said, Look, I actually appreciate and can empathize with some of the sentiments and, you know, probably feels really hard that you, you know, you've seen the society around you change, and maybe it's been very sudden movies been a bit too quick. And I guess, you know, change is something that always makes us feel uncomfortable. Right.

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Right. So tell you, you know, there are some assumptions you've made

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about women in Islam, and, you know, and and so I clarified some of those, but the main crux of what I was saying to her is, like, you know, I think you know, you're right that Muslims could do more to reach out to you

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In a non Muslim communities, and not not be ghettoized, 100%. But at the same time, maybe we need to be willing to accept the change that's happening around us, right. And then I kind of tried to paint a picture of a future that she might not have thought about, you know, I said to her, Well, look, you know, my sister, she's married to an Amish man.

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Obviously, he's a convert, right? convert to Islam, and

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they now have a child who's,

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you know, of English and Indian heritage.

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Isn't that the future of Britain, that's going to be the future of Britain. And so

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maybe we should embrace that. And there's good in that. There's a lot of good that's come about by the changes, right. And also, I pointed out to her that Britain had been going around the world,

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colonizing different countries, and that's the main reason why a lot of the non white people were in this country anyway. Right. Um, so anyway, it was a very, I tried to be very positive. And so Pamela in immediately, her reply, showed me that she had completely mellowed, right, because my reply was a kind of a peace offering. Her subsequent reply was, she actually said, Thank you for to let you know, you've really put my heart at rest. She said, you put my heart at rest.

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And I'm going to read your message again. And again, because it's really, you know, made me feel

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as a panelist. So, you know, even I'm sure you've had experiences like that, where it'll be too easy for me to just reply and say, Oh, you, you know, your old,

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ignorant old hag, you know, stuff. I'm going to do that anyway. But do you know what I mean? Like, it'd be so easy for me to say to her to a woman who's probably hurting, you know, like, if you think about it, I was actually imagining her as an elderly lady who's probably got kids who never visit her. You know, it's probably really lonely. And that's like, typically what happens, right?

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So why should I add to her pain? Let me say something that will, Annie, soften her heart, right? Anyway, that was my long story, but

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it's just an example of how

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you can you can soften somebody's heart, right?

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I'm loving my old man who said that the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, no one who has an atom's weight of arrogance of Kibera in his heart will enter Paradise. A man said, O Messenger of Allah, what if a man likes his clothes and his shoes to look good?

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He said, Allah is beautiful and loves beauty. arrogance means

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rejecting the truth and looking down on people rejecting the truth and looking down on people. So in other words, this man is thinking, Well, you know, I've got this nice What? Like, no, he wasn't thinking I've got a nice watch at the time with the profit cells and they didn't have watches.

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In our times, we might look at all the things I think I've got a nice watch, I want to wear nice trainers on a wear a clean, nice hijab, right?

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And I want to present myself in a smart way.

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Or Brother, you know, when he's going to the masjid he might dress amazingly and have perfume and just, you know, take, you could say pride in the way he appears, right?

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Um, and so the saboteur getting worried like,

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is that what a keeper means? Because if that's the case, you know, all of us, there are times where we feel really good about ourselves, right about the way we look, for example, or

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we take pride in our appearance. And so the profits are sort of made it clear that

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a lot is beautiful, and loves beauty, there's nothing wrong with wanting to appear in a good way, obviously, for women. And in public. We don't mean to beautify yourself in public, we mean, you know, when you're at home, wanting to wear nice jewelry, wanting to wear things that might be seen as things that you know,

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vain, you know,

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but that's not what is meant here. Right? What is meant here as Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam clarified? Is that that arrogance or pride that causes you to reject the truth and look down on people.

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Subhan Allah could just think about that for ages, right? Like, what am I doing, that causes me to think I'm above the law and above, having to obey Allah in, you know, that can happen to you can't it like sometimes, especially with things that nobody knows about, it's very easy for a person to start thinking, smart, big deal, you know,

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and feeling arrogant.

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And the second part looking down on people, so if you feeling good about yourself makes you demean and look down on other people. That's keeper, that's giver.

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But also, when I saw the last, the last column highlighted that there was you could have Cooper in the way you dress as well. And the example he gave was

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good, he said to the Sahaba, whoever lets his garment drag along the ground out of pride, Allah will not look at him on the Day of Judgment.

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So typically, in the time of, you know, in the journey, and also at the time of the Prophet Sal solo, if a person wanted to kind of make a big show of themselves or hate, they would cause their government to drag shows you that they've got their rich, they've got a lot of material, you know, you know, they don't have any shortage of money, or have any shortage of material, right.

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And so, because in that culture, and that time, that was seen as a symbol of pride and arrogance,

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the Prophet salaallah silence, you know, warned against it. And so on the book or asked him, sometimes my garment slips down on one side, you know, maybe he has some loose.

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Any, if he's wearing shell wore, like, he's wearing a loose kind of trousers, or he's wearing lunghi, right, which is the type of thing that they would wear in those times. Obviously, they weren't called a lung yapping, as they call it is all right, Arabs call it and

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so, you know, it's easy for it to get a bit wonky, and, you know, slip down on one side and drag a little bit.

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So he said, Sometimes my garment slips down on one side, unless I pay attention to it. And the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, You're not doing that out of pride.

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So this shows you that it's about your intention, right?

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What do you intend when you are wearing that garment? Is it to, you know, make a big show of yourself and

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be conceit full, and,

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you know, look down on others, and make them look up to you in that sense.

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So some of the types of arrogance that the

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scholars mentioned, when a person does not accept the truth and produces false arguments against it.

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As mentioned in the head, the verbal openness with arrogance means rejecting the truth and looking down on people. So sometimes, and you have to watch yourself with this, you know, like human beings, we love winning arguments.

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Yeah, like, you can check yourself with this. When it comes to your spouse, for example, you love to win the argument, because we have, we can't like lose face, right? And,

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we have to be humble enough to accept, we've got it wrong.

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And that takes a lot of like consciousness. So you have to consciously think, is what I'm about to attend the truthful? Or is it like,

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you know, am I just using arguments just to bolster my point, even though I can see the truth in what that person is saying?

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You know, because it takes him humility to accept the truth from somebody else.

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But we've got to be willing to do it.

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Got to be willing to you can't grow. If you're the sort of person who always has to win arguments. You can't grow.

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And so to produce, like, all sorts of arguments, just to win, win an argument and not being be willing to accept the truth to just pause and think and yeah, maybe I've got it wrong.

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Or just when you know, the truth is staring you in the face.

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That is arrogant.

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And I'm going to give you example there because like, you see, there's a difference between knowing the truth. So say somebody comes to you and tells you something that you're doing this wrong. islamically wrong, right. Like for example, I don't know if you

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If you're uncovering your neck, for example, right in public,

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and somebody comes and says to you listen, you know, this is the neck is over, you can't uncover it in public is supposed to be covered as part of her job to cover that as well.

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there's a big difference between a person who says to themselves, yeah, that's true, you know,

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I feel a bit weak, I don't think I'm going to be able to do that straight away, but I'm going to work towards it that

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that person is accepting the truth. Okay, especially with if the person has given them evidence or, you know, to personal knowledge.

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Even though they're not acting on it.

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They don't have kibble, they're not arrogant, they recognize that I should be doing that. But I'm not doing it. And there are Muslims like that you meet all the time, right? They know they should be doing something. But they just feel like they're too weak or whatever, right?

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There's a big difference between that and a person who,

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when their advice, for example, or they hear the truth about something, they resist it to the extent that they will argue and try to make out that no, that that isn't true. No, I don't have to cover my neck that isn't part of Islam. Right, or the hijab isn't the way you think it is.

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I've even heard sister sit, you know, basically tried to say that the hijab is not even part of Islam, just a cultural thing. Right? So Pamela, there's a big difference between those two responses, even though in both responses, the person doesn't do an act upon the truth.

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The fact that one of them accepts it.

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And understand that Yeah, that's true. You know, even though I'm not doing that yet. I accept that that's true. I should be praying, for example, I shouldn't be fasting, I shouldn't be doing this. I shouldn't be doing that. I shouldn't do this

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big difference between that person and a person who then tries to resistances No, that isn't.

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He shows that the one has, doesn't have keeper, you know, they have certain softness in their heart as a more spiritually healthy heart than the other person.

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So we have to ask ourselves, if we if we do that in any situations, you know,

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the second example when a person admires himself for his beauty or handsomeness, or the fineness of his food or clothing, so he feels proud and arrogant and superior to other people. In other words, he looks down on others, right? Due to the superiority of the material things that he's got. He's been given by a lot, right?

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this hadith

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the Prophet sallallahu Sallam actually described a man who was walking, dragging his garment with pride, and His hair was nicely combed. So this person is looking down on other people, obviously, and was being very prideful, and Allah caused the earth to swallow him up.

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And the prophets, Allah Sallam said, He will go on sinking until the day of judgment. So Pamela,

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I didn't get a chance to look up that story. And if the scholars have said anything more in detail about that, you know, who was this person, but I will make a note of that. And I'm going to try and look that up for next time in more detail, because it will be interesting.

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You know,

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an example of this arrogance is also the story of the friend of the man, you know, in turtle calf, whose companion spoke to him arrogantly,

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you know, he had a garden and he had all this like, he had lots of children, more children than the other person and he said, so Allah says, Oh, can Allah who fell no room for Hall and he saw he be here? Who are you? Here we are, who and AXA roaming camelon was una Farah. He said, he had property

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or fruits, you had like, a lot of stuff, basically. And he said to his companion, when he was talking to him, I am greater than you in wealth and superior in manpower, any family, I think, I think it was the number of children he had. Right.

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So in other words, I know that this is an example of arrogance, when you see the things that Allah has given you, your car, your house, your number of children, you've got any anything you know, beauty, even your beauty, and that makes you conceit, for right, conceited, conceited as the right word, makes you full of conceit

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and causes you to look down on others and think

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You're superior to others.

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So Pamela, so this, this major scene is basically an action of the heart, isn't it?

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It's an action of the heart. It's not like when you think about Xena, or you just drinking alcohol or gambling, those are like, physical things that you do, right? Kippur is an action of the heart, and it's a major sin.

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But obviously, it manifests itself in different ways.

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And we know that a lot of Canada Allah,

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oh, by the way, another example of that could be race.

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Racial, right? I think about it.

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And this happens all over like in the Muslim world, there are certain people, certain tribes or certain cultures and races, they will consider themselves superior to others. Right, they will look down

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on others

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based on what based on their appearance or based on their cultural heritage or their background, etc. That's also a type of pride if you think about it. Racism is a type of pride

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because you're proud or you think that your

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the melanin in your skin makes you superior or lack thereof, makes you superior to somebody else.

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That's the ultimate, another type of arrogance.

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And we know that Allah Subhana Allah said, in Chroma Kuma in de la he at sparkle, that the most honorable of you were in Allah eyes is the one who has most taqwa. The one who is most God conscious.

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It's not about your beauty. It's not about your parents, not about your social status. None of that.

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If you want to know who is higher up the rank with Allah, it's the one who has most taqwa. So that's what we should be striving for. Right?

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And so it's Look man,

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look, man, when he's advising son, he's telling his son all these beautiful advices right, about things that like he should do and shouldn't do and how to live in the world. And I just love I love sort of like my I love that kind of

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interaction, you know, where like mine is talking to his son or giving him such important advice that we can all benefit from.

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One of the key things he says, Oh Allah to Sorry, I had the calanus he said, Don't turn your face away for men with with pride.

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While atom she fell out of the Mara, he says, Don't walk kind of comfortably and insolently through the earth, you know, it's a panel.

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In Malala, you have bucola Matalan for hood. Verily, Allah does not like the arrogant and boastful. Both these word doll and for whom they both mean, you know, to be arrogant, and conceited, and boastful.

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So he's telling his son, two signs of that of arrogance, which are one that you turn your cheek away from people, you tend to you turn your face away from people right, with, with, with pride, like, in other words, you don't you're not worthy of my attention, right?

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Or you walk in incidents through the earth. So the way you conduct yourself in the opposite if you're so important and so self absorbed.

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Very early, Allah likes not any arrogant boast. And then he says,

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look, see the famous shaker, he says be moderate in the way you walk panela any evil even the way we walk we have to be conscious of

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and he says waldmann soltec and lower your voice.

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You know, and then of course, he says in Kerala, Swati Hamid, that the worst of sounds, the sound that nobody likes is the sound of a donkey braying. Right?

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So Subhanallah he's telling him how to be the opposite, right? Lower your voice, you're not that important.

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not that important. Just Lower your voice and

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be monitoring your walking and that's amazing because one of the things that we used to joke about when we lived in Egypt

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students was

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You could always tell by the way people walked, which country they came from, you know, Skype money. So like, if we were watching a group of foreign students, you could tell

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the more

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kind of, I would say, humble

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people, we're always people from the east, you know, or people from Africa

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the students who are from Africa or from the east, so I mean, like Malaysia, and those kinds of countries.

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You know, the way they walk very humble very. And you could always tell people who are from Britain and America, especially because we have this kind of swagger in our walk. We don't even realize it you know, you realize it when you live amongst foreigners just from the way an American walks you know, our Latin American, just from the way a Brit walks, you know, that it's a Brit. I'm not saying that it's necessarily arrogant the way we walk. But

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it's very telling, you know, he tells you something about the culture, doesn't it? Like it's I believe, it's probably because we've grown up in a culture where

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if you're British, if you're American, you can go anywhere on Earth. Right? We think you can you've got this passport, I'll take you anywhere on earth and people will open doors for you. So the way we walk is very confident very you know, I'm talking about sisters as well

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because obviously as Muslims we absorb the culture around us you know, we're not separate to the culture around us we the way we walk the way we talk even our mannerisms are gonna be you know, affected by the culture we grew up in

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I don't know if you guys have noticed that have you noticed that you could tell from the way somebody walks which country they're from? I think I think you can especially like with in broad strokes like Americans British as opposed to people from the east from Africa

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I'm a

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little tangent my went on.

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So yeah, I think it's worth becoming very like conscious of ourselves, you know, and our man mannerisms.

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Mmm, of course, to be said

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about the phrase do not walk insolently through the earth. He said it's a prohibition of arrogance and his enjoining humility. Mara incidence is excessive joy. Or it was said that it means being arrogant in walking or thinking too highly of oneself. Right.

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And Qatada said, it means showing off in walking. Or it was said that it means vanity.

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So you know, the things that look man said don't do. That's what I meant.

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All of these suggestions are closing meaning but they may be divided into two categories, those which are blameworthy and those who shop praiseworthy, arrogance, vanity showing or thinking too highly of oneself are all blameworthy, joy and energy are praiseworthy. I like that. Maybe the Brits and Americans are just joyful and energetic.

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But basically, you know, again, it comes down to intention, right? If the way you're walking is out of just, you know, just the confidence that you have,

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or that you're energetic. You know, that's different. If the way you're walking

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you know, the way you have your hairstyle that where you have your whatever, you're basically trying to send off signals of how great you are.

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That's, that's the blameworthy type of walking, right.

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When we got four minutes left, we'll make a stop on childhood disorder, which is bearing false witness. One of the other 18th major sin mentioned by

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my mother hubby.

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So you can imagine, you know, false witnesses, right. Like, and this would typically be in a court, right. But it can even happen in everyday life.

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When some there's an incident, this is just one example. There's an incident or there's a court case and witnesses are brought.

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And the witness lies about what they saw, or what they know.

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Right. I think it's called perjury, and

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Yeah, bearing false witness is a major, major sin because obviously people are relying on you, right? They're relying on your truthfulness, to know

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the reality of the situation.

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Allah says we're living in Eliasch headworn as

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well either model will be lovely model ki Rama.

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When he's describing the by the rat man, the servants of the Merciful. He says they're the ones who do not testify to falsehood. They don't do shadow resort, false testimony and when they pass near ill speech, they pass with dignity. Right?

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You hear people talking, chatting rubbish, you.

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You know, you're still dignified and you just stay away from that.

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And Allah says, we're in Allah Allah. Yeah, the man who I must forget that. Indeed, Allah does not guide one who is a transgressor and a liar. And that's the essence of bearing false witness. Isn't it being a liar? You're basically lying.

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In this hubby's, the Messenger of Allah sallallahu Sallam said, shall I not tell you of the greatest of major sins? And we said yes, indeed a messenger of Allah, he said, share,

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shake with Allah,

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and disobedience towards parents.

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He was reclining. But then he sat up and said,

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and false speech and false witness, and false speech and false witness, now he lying and bearing false witness, and he kept on saying it until I thought he would never stop. So panela.

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So this is again, a great warning.

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We've come to the end. So I'm just going to look at any comments you've made. But you know, just as a thought, you know, lying.

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SubhanAllah is such a, like, people think that it's harmless. If they lie, as long as they get away with it, right? But actually, you know, psychologists even talk about how lying has actually affects you.

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You actually start hating yourself, if you become a compulsive liar, you will, your brain will tell you that you are immoral. And you ended up having this type of self loathing.

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So it's really important for us to

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talk to our kids about this as well, you know, because you can get used to lying, lying can become like a habit, you know, somebody asked you something, you just said something that's just not true. Just to say face just to look good, just to whatever right hides information.

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But so panela, when you make a decision to tell the truth,

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all the time.

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It really changes your life,

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you see that you become more courageous, you see that you become more.

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You start liking yourself more, you know. So Pamela.

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Anyway, I'm just going to go to your comments, by the way, a chapter that you should read, if you have a problem, or if you would like to more motivation about becoming a truthful person.

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This is not an Islamic book, but it's it's just a very interesting look at telling the truth. If you go to the 12, rules for life book, you know, by Professor Jordan Peterson, is a chapter in there.

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Tell the truth, or at least don't lie. Tell the truth, or at least don't rely one of the 12 rules for life from his

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in his opinion, it is really good to really good chapter, it will convince you that you know what, I'm going to start becoming bolder. And when he says don't lie, what he means is little things like for example, somebody asks your opinion on something, and you say the politically correct thing, rather than telling the truth, right? You hide your real opinions about things

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because you're afraid of public pressure right.

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as Muslims that should resonate with us really.

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Just to saying, I want a little clarity. The if you studied in the second point, I'm sorry if I'm distracting.

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Okay, I don't know which one that is.

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If you can tell me which I did that was, I'm not sure which one that was. So can you tell me the gist of it? What was it about?

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Oh, the ground sweat. Yeah. So in that Hadith, the prophet SAW, Selim was describing a man

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who was walking around arrogantly

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right in his clothes and,

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and then the earth swallowed him up. But he was basically saying that, you know, the person is walking around, arrogantly, and then

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the earth swallowed him up, and Allah will continue to make him descend into the earth until the day of judgment.

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To be honest, what I take from that Hadith,

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apart from the warning about kibra is

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have you noticed this happened to you as well? Whenever you're arrogant, you always fall

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something bad always happens, you know, like, it's as if it's a sign from Allah that Yeah, like you know,

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don't get too big headed. Don't get up get it right.

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You'll always end up making a mistake or slipping up walk

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along will

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hopefully using minimum necessary force. knock you down a bit, you know, so that you don't get too arrogant. That's if Allah loves you, right.

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inshallah, for the believers, Allah always give signs that you're getting a bit too. too big for your boots, you know?

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I will look that Hadith up in more detail because I even I'm curious like, as to what the alumni have said about it. I didn't get a chance this time but I will not Charlotte just like a Heron.

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Shallow with that I will finish

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my last habit Allah make us humble and make us from those. Avoid Kibera and those who tell the truth

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subhanak Allah homo behind the shadow and La ilaha illa Anta stuff you look to me like salaam aleikum, WA has a labor cattle I appreciate your hearts and flowers in the chat lokeren Lamont Aiko