Women In Islam And The Rights Of A Wife

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And 111 in alameen wa Salatu was Salam.

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ala Amanda from Long Island de Allahumma salli wa sallim wa barik ala Sayyidina Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi etchmiadzin All praise is due to a man who made the Peace and blessings of Allah be upon our beloved prophet muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and upon all those who follow His guidance who follow his way he's methodology his swing net until the last day, respected brothers and sisters in Islam ladies and gentlemen salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.

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Today's lecture, presentation is entitled, women in Islam and the rights of the wife,

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Islam and come to level up with it has an exclusive chapter,

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an exclusive area which addresses the rights of women

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and the rights of a wife and the rights of daughters and sisters. Actually, in the end, we have an entire chapter, I saw rod, which is entitled Surah Nisa, Surah 27. And Annalisa means the women, the women and it's the fourth chapter of the Quran Surah Nisa.

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Now, in Surah Nisa, we have an instruction by allies,

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to treat and to live with women in kindness.

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In the 19th, verse of the surah, Allah subhanho wa Taala says, Why aren't you

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and treat women with my

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four eyeshadow?

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Marsha? Marsha, means to live and to treat women with kindness.

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Mmm, no, we're a hymn of love will die that he has dedicated a chapter in his book Kriya silence which he entitles and we'll see.

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We'll see how to bring the set that he in titles recommendations with regards to women.

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So we have both support and, and the Sunnah of Prophet Mohammed Salah long while he was setting them, dealing with matters and issues related to the female gender.

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Now socially, Islam gives women four different statuses. Whether that woman or female is your daughter, your wife, your mother, or your sister.

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What's interesting to note is that in the pre Islamic

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Arabia, during a period that is known as a Jay Z, and Gen Z, is referred to as the days of ignorance. We find that the killing of female infants was very common and was very often killing young girls.

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The moment a female was born,

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she was buried alive. They would bury her alive.

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However, we find the country level up in Ireland mean that after the spread of Islam in Arabia, we find that this evil practice

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was discontinued and has been discontinued for the past over 1400 years.

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And there are many incidences. one incident that I recall reading about is whereby a

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a father takes his daughter takes his daughter to bury her alive and she's a young young girl and she thinks she's just going out with daddy.

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And he's digging her grave

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and the sand is going into his bead and clothing and she's wiping it off him.

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And yet, after that he buries her life.

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This was the cruelty that we find in the evil that we find in the days

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gen ed in

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the pre splendid period, and then Islam comes along and honors the female

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and honors women and gives them rights and protects their rights.

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And in sort of attack wave, which is the 81st chapter of the Quran in verses eight and nine, Allah Subhana Allah talks about this very incident, when he then will know who that was. So, he let big

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booty let what is the ooda and when the female infant This is the ooda what is the mo ooda to suit a lot on the Day of Judgment. She is questioned

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as to or she questions even electric she is questioned as to for what crime was she killed. And the only crime we know or in their eyes in during those days was that she was a female.

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Now, Islam has not only prohibited female infanticide,

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but also rebukes the the thought of rejoicing and being happy on the news of a birth of a male child and not rejoicing and being happy on the news of having a female child.

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Insert a narrative

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of

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the 16th chapter for and in verses 58 and 59. Allah Subhana Allah says, What is the Bush era how to whom bill unfair, was the one who swept and what can wane. And when one of them is informed of the birth of the female, his face, his face becomes done. And he suppresses grief. So whenever they would be given the news that the wife has given birth to a female, that will become enraged and the face which the color of the face would change.

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And also panel, what Tyler says gets her Amina comi, Minsu, in Abu Dhabi, I am sick of who I am, who I am yet to Sufi Torah. Allah says

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he hides himself from the people because of the ill, of which he has been informed. Should he keep eating in humiliation? Should he keep the daughter in humiliation, or bury it in the ground? Allah says unquestionably evil is what they decide.

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So we find that whenever they were given the use of a female have a daughter, the faces will turn black and then they will need to make a decision. So either the decision is we keep her and will be humiliated or we're going to have to bury and bury her life.

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Now regarding daughters, Islam

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has it taught us that daughters are entitled to support an upbringing and good treatment?

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In the mystery of an email I've met the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he said anyone who brings up two daughters properly.

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Two daughters at minimum, his two daughters properly, they will be very close to me on the Day of Judgment. So those individuals would be in close proximity to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam

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in another generation, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he says, that who ever brings up to two daughters properly, and treats them kindly and justly shall enter gentlemen, who shall be they should be over shall be a shield for him from the hellfire.

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What does Islam have to say about the treatment of wives? The treatment of a one

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now, in one Hadith, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he said, none honors, meaning women.

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None honors them, except an honorable one. Except the person who is honorable a khadeem la creme de la creme,

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and none demeans them. Except for a mean person. Only a mean person with the mean a woman with the main

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One.

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Islam, my dear brothers and sisters in Islam does not consider women as an instrument of the devil.

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Because we read this in the Bible.

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In the Bible, it states that women are a woman

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is an instrument of the devil.

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A woman in Islam is considered to be a homemaker.

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A woman in Islam is considered to be a homemaker and not a housewife, because she is not married to the house.

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When a woman is married to a man, it does not mean that she's married to a master.

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She's not married to a master, so that she should be treated like a slave. But she's married to her equal

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and should be treated like a partner with love, with no editor, with a watchman with tranquility and mercy and compassion.

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And this is what Islam teaches us. In the Hadith that is found in Mr. Berryman Ahmed, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he said, hydrocodone, hydrocodone

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what is

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the best of you is the one who is best to his family. And the aim here, the family here is in reference to the life cycle compiler.

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We're under hydrocone and I am the best to my family, I am the best of my wife.

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So,

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we find that the rights of the husband and wife are equal in all respects, except

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except in the aspect of leadership.

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In the family, the leader of the home

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is the father is the husband.

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So, men and women are equal in all respects except when it comes to a woman. When it comes to leadership, the leadership role is given to the husband.

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Just as we have any Institute or any business, as there is a director,

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a manager, CEO, supervisor, Team Leader, there has to be a leader. Likewise in the family unit alive So Jen has dictated that the role that the leadership role is given to the husband

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in Surah, Al Baqarah, which is the second chapter of the four and in verse 228, Allah subhanahu Wata, Allah says, what happened to la de la hidden at the mouth a little bit earlier Allah.

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Allah says, and women shall have rights similar to the rights against them, according to what is equitable, but men have a degree of advantage over them a degree of advantage over them. So here a degree higher, does not mean in superiority. It's all about males being superior to females.

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But it actually refers to a responsibility at this degree here that is in reference to his interest is in respect to the responsibility that a husband has over his wife and over his dependence in the family unit.

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As soon as we set the women, chapter four of the code and in verse 34, Allah subhanho wa Taala says, our return will come where Muna Allen Nisa Bhima de la la wa barakato

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will be met Bhima Taku means

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that men, men are the protectors and maintainers of women because Allah has given one more strength than the other because they support them from the means from the financial means.

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The Arabic word here is called a moon,

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moon

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and

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the Arabic word

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which means a time in which many a time is mistaken for superiority.

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Some people think that oh well more nylund is

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Said means that men are superior to women. But it actually is derived from a partner. A farmer means what a comma means to stand up.

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And hence, when we have, we think about a solid, we have a word, which is a fire metal solid, we have the event, and then we have the economy, the economy, when the economy is made, that is to signal to stand up in order, it's time to stand up for the solid.

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So,

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in the same fashion as a Python, so calama should be looked at, in the same fashion as a foreigner is given before the prayer and that is standing up for the priests. Therefore, men are not one degree higher in superiority, or dictatorship,

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but one degree higher in standing up for responsibility

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that men are responsible for the one

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and one commentator of the poor and the famous commentator of poverty to him of a level dialer. According to his commentary, the word power Wham means a degree higher in responsibility, and service and not superiority.

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Therefore, it is the duty of the man to see that he provides security and maintenance to women, and this should be carried out with mutual consent in a sled. It is the husband that provides for his wife in terms of food, drink, clothing, and shelter. Bill Morrow, in accordance with the customs and the traditions of the people, Bill mouth.

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And so in a snap, a woman's or a wife's money and income, remains her income and her money exclusively. She does not have to give a cent of her money to her husband. So in Islam,

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our wives money is her money, and the husband is required to be spending on her

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house. However, if for example, a wife wants to spend and make it easy on her husband, because the husband is going through a financial difficulty. We're not able to keep up with the bills and

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other financial maintenance that is required. There's no harm in her spending from her wealth. But it's not obligated upon Islam once for the wife and for the mother to maintain her domain to maintain her home. And the best place for a woman is her home.

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Allison kind of one tire that says we're gonna feed you to

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stay in your homes.

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Stay in your homes in the process of writing he was sending them also indicated another Heidi.

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He said that a woman's prayer in her home is better than pray in the masjid in the mosque. It is better for a woman to fulfill her prayer inside her home in her room even.

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He even narrows it down to her room.

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That's how important it is.

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However, the Prophet Solomon while he was setting them, he also indicated that it's best not to disallow a woman from attending the masjid. And he says, Let him know he may have bought him a surgical love Allah do not prevent the female servants of Allah from attending the houses are the message messages of love the messages of our lives our agenda, don't prevent them. So the only time that a woman should be prevented from attending the masjid would be for example, if you sort of fitness if you saw some sort of harm that could take place by her attending the message.

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A harm that's going to come about EMA is the plural of Emma. And Emma means a female slave image means the female slaves of Allah Latin now he said let him know about my surgical work.

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So this is in regards to a woman should always strive to maintain her family home and and family unit and be at home. But Islam does not disallow her from going out and earning an income if her husband allows me to because

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The husband may say to his wife that I would like for you to stay at home, I am the breadwinner, I am the one who was responsible for you.

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So if a wife, for example, or if a woman is about to get married, and she wants to maintain her carry, if she wants to work, that she shouldn't negotiate this before the marriage, and maybe even stipulate that in the marriage contract, if it is something very important to her. Otherwise, she shouldn't be surprised. After she gets married. If he says to her, I want you to stay at home. And I don't want you to work outside of the home. Because this is the right of the husband

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that a woman does not leave her home. So remembering this inshallah to Allah. Another thing that our brothers need to remember with regards to women is that that they are very fragile, and they break very easy, very emotionally driven.

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And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he once said regarding women, he said, he said, Bill acaba de

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risk and Bill kawari, he said, Take it easy on the fragile vessels, he compared her to a, a vessel or a class,

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a vessel made out of glass, that they can break very easily. And we see this in also the Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. It's very important brothers and sisters, to understand that males and females are different. It's not about who is better, or who is who is more superior than the album. But it's about understanding that we as males, and females, should be

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completing one another, and not competing against one another. It's about completing and not competing. Allah subhanho wa Taala. In the Quran, he says, When I said the Kuru cocoon, at the male is not like the female, the male is not like a female. Hence, we are different, different psychologically different neurologically different physiologically

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different,

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many ways in the way we perceive and the way we do things. So it's not about who is better or who is worse. But one has to always remember that there are differences when they send records.

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And even in more recent times, we have research, people who have done research and written books, and basically saying that men and women are different. And as dr. john gray, he said, Men are from Mars and women are from Venus. It's like some times that we are from two different planets,

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males and females, as if they're from two separate planets.

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And again, this is all supported, in the words of the prophets of Allah and he was sending,

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I wanted to touch upon divorce,

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because this is also something which is very misunderstood.

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There is in Islam, a system of divorce,

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which is applied only in extreme cases, where the problem between the husband and the wife is too grave to be solved, and the continuation of married life would be counterproductive. Now, in talking about divorce, it's very important for our sisters and women to remember the Hadith of the Prophet of Allah and he was saying,

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the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he said, Any woman who seeks a divorce, or who asked for a divorce, without a valid reason, will not smell the fragrance of gentlemen, that any woman who asks for a divorce without a valid reason, will not smell the scent of gentlemen.

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So this is a very serious warning to every woman who is going to ask for a divorce without a valid reason.

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Now, the method of divorce we find and we read about in the poor and we have an actual chapter in the Paradis called sort of

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a chapter of divorce of politics and also

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insert Al Baqarah. We also read about Pollock and rulings related to divorce between verses 227 and 242. Now, what I do want to mention here is that

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There is a great deal of misconception and myths about the system of divorce in Islam, not only amongst non Muslims, but amongst Muslims themselves having misconceptions regarding political regarding divorce, especially thinking that men have the exclusive right to divorce and that a woman cannot divorce, that a woman cannot leave the marital union.

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Now, when it comes to dissolving a marriage or dissolution of a marriage in Islam, it can be done primarily one of three ways. Divorce can take place one of three ways in Islam. The first one is whereby it is done by the will of the husband. So, by the unilateral will of the husband to the wife, the husband consent to his wife, or divorce. This is one of the ways of the most.

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And when it comes to this, it is from the sooner to only pronounce a divorce once to only pronounce further once, if a husband wants to divorce. His wife, he says

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are you are divorced once, no need to say it three times.

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Now, if it is said three times in one transaction in one sitting in one matchless as Matt said, Some scholars they said that would be counted as three divorces. While other scholars they said if it is done in one gathering in one city, that it is only counted as one. Now according to the four schools of thought,

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being the Hanafi school of thought, the Maliki school of thought the Hanbury school of thought the Shafi school of thought, according to those four opinions, they stated that

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three divorces in one sitting in one place at one given time is three divorces. That means you cannot take back your spouse during that period. That that is a polar bear in Barracuda Cobra, that that is a irrevocable divorce. That's it.

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The woman would have to get remarried and there has to be a legitimate marriage and then there needs to be a divorce for you to read marry that woman for you to for you to marry your wife again.

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Even taymiyah Rahim Allah Allah is of the opinion that and other scholars that three divorces in one gathering in one city is only counted as one as one. Why? Because at the time of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam if a person divorced his wife three times in one sitting, it was only counted as once as it when I first talked about one above states in Sahih Muslim he says that three divorces in one city is only was only counted as one during the time of Prophet Mohammed sighs and then during the finances of our back

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and during the beginning of the month of Ramadan.

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So who changed?

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He saw that people were becoming very complacent with followup with divorce divorcing three times in one city in one in one go. So then he gave the ruling that three divorces in one go is three divorces. So three strikes and you're out?

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But what seems to be the more correct opinion and the soundest opinion is that three divorces in one go is only one divorce as per the hadith of Ibn at best for the above.

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And this is the the opinion favored by the maintainer of him on Long Island and other scholars and it is also supported in the for an whereby Allah subhanahu wa tada says Allah Kumar

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Allah, that divorce is twice

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so you have two chances. Whereas if you divorced in that one girl, it's only once.

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So I thought I would mention this with regards to divorce when the husband is divorcing his wife. The second way that divorce can happen is by way of a judge. So a woman could actually go to a judge a RV. I thought he

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And in the absence of a calling, as we have in the Western world, we have to use we have machetes, and preferably senior machine.

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whereby

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the woman would come complaining about her husband.

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And it could be for reasons, for example, that he's not spending on her treats her in a very real way, doesn't support her financially or other legitimate reasons. And so the husband is not willing to cooperate, and he's not willing to give her a divorce.

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And so what happens in this case, is that the judge, or the sheriff or a man or woman, or thority, has the right to announce that marriage. And this announcement in Islam, according to Phil, is called person.

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So there is an element of the marriage.

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Another way that a marriage can be dissolved, is by way of cooler and cooler is another element of the marriage, whereby the wife seeks a divorce from the husband because she can no longer give him his rights.

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And she has a legitimate reason for it, which is she believes because she knows the hobby, which is not going to enter agenda if she asked for a divorce without a valid reason. So therefore, she asks for a divorce, and on the condition that she's willing to forfeit what is ailing to her or to give back to give back. The Mahara the Dow the dow dow theory or part of it back to the husband's. And this happened in the time of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. As we read and so hateful fighting, the incidence of the wife of fabrics, even ice in this Heidi, we read that she came to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, his wife. And she said yasunaga I do not complain

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that fabrics are regarding fabric regarding his religion or his morals, yet he has a good deal, he has put a flag, but I feel this honoring his rights.

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And there are different durations about what she was referring to some said that he wasn't very attractive, and she wasn't attracted to him and she couldn't give him his rights.

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So the promise of love money was setting them. He said to her, will you give him back his fortune.

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He had given her an orchard as a mother, I sat down.

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So she replied, Yes. And she returned it back to him. And the prophet SAW above it, it was selling he instructed it to divorce.

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And so this is what we call Miss lever holder. And a wife is entitled to follow if there is a legitimate reason, sometimes the husband won't cooperate. And that's where she has to take the case, to the judge or to the men. So in Islam, there are two ways for a marriage to be

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dissolved. After looking at the three different ways, we can now sum them up in two ways. We have divorce, the husband gives a divorce and that is counted as one of the three divorces. Or we have a fest which is an annulment by way of the judge or by way of or by way of the Hello, which is considered an element and an element of the marriage is not to be considered as one of the three divorces. And an element of the marriage is not considered one of the three divorces. It's an anomaly. It's a first, and there's a distinction of fuqaha the scholars have have made between a divorce and between and a nominee or

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another sticky topic that we often hear related to women is the

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concept of polygyny, polygyny. And that is the correct word when it comes to clue marriages. In Islam, not polygamy because the word polygamy entails that a husband can be married to more than one wife, or a wife to be married to more than one husband. And the word for this is polygamy. But the correct word to use when talking about the Islamic concept of a man being allowed to have more than one wife and up to four wives is known as polygyny. And that is the correct word to be used.

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Now many Westerners have the misconception that polygyny is compulsory in Islam that a husband

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must marry more than one one.

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And that Islam or Judaism, all Muslims should marry four wives.

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But let it be known brothers and sisters in Islam Ladies and gentlemen, let it be known that the Quran is the only book is the only scripture on the face of this earth, which has the following phrase in its directives to men, Allah subhanho wa Taala says, For in system and letter it loofa ada

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but if you see that you will not be just then marry only one. Islam is the only scripture that says marry only one.

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And there are of course, guidelines and instructions related to a husband who wants to marry

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more than one one.

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And this is something that would require a whole topic inshallah to Allah that I will be addressing in the near future inshallah we'll Thailand regarding the topic of polygyny and the rights of a woman and some misconceptions related to polygyny and how, in many cases, many of our sisters unfortunately, being oppressed or entering into something which they have may be fulfilling some of their rights. So in shalom Thailand in an upcoming lecture, we will talk about the topic of polygyny, and what is learned in Arabic as a subject.

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I wanted to talk about the obligations of the husband to what is what are the rights of the wife. Now, first of all, no, my dear brother in Islam,

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that when you are given a wife, you are given a gift from Allah so

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that you need to look after her. And then you need to maintain her and protect her and offer security and support.

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That you have to remember that this young woman that you are taking from her parents, maybe she spent 20 years with her parents, her parents fit, nurtured her protected who stayed up the late nights for her, took her spin on her. And you Abdullah, servant of Allah, he come and you take her away just like that.

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So, what have you given back in return for this gift.

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If you do not take care of his trust and fulfill your duties that she has over you, then know that sooner or later this blessing gift is pleasant gift will be taken away from

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the blessing the power of the tranquility of the Sakina.

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And the love

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and the Rachmat and the mercy will be snatched from you as a punishment from a lot of Zoo agenda for not handling this gift in the correct manner. And Allah subhanho wa Taala says whether we need to let the lie hidden at the mouth, that women possess rights similar to those who have over them to be honored with fairness

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of the best of your loved one who about whatever so habit, he used to put eyeliner.

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This is something that is allowed for men Cohan

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and then asked him, Why do you do this? He said I beautify myself from my wife. Because Allah subhana wa I said because Allah subhanho wa Taala says whether Mr. Levy is a hidden gem, that women possess rights, similar to those held over them to be honest with famous and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he said that the hajipur is found in Ohara mystery. He said in Elisa Chica alayka hubco, that your wife has rights upon you. So let us visit some of these rights. The first right that a wife has is the right that the husband offers protection, security, and ensuring the well being through through the leadership role that we spoke about earlier.

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The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in the Hadith that is found

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in the Hadoop variscan.

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He saw what he was saying that said could look on Raw in Baku, Moscow and Anwar. It was though during the beta he was

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homeschooling under it. All of you are shepherds, and all of you are responsible for your flock. In other words, we all have a duty of care. He's comparing the duty and the leadership role of the father or the husband. To that a bishop who looks after his flock.

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Well could you look homeschooled under it and all of you are responsible for those under under the cake was so much and the husband is a caretaker is our IE is, he is a caretaker was xojo. Right at at Levy, and he's IRA in the in the family unit in the in his family's home and he is responsible for those under his care. So this is responsibility. So with marriage, and with fatherhood, they comes responsibility and a duty of care.

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Also, from a monster rights of a wife, is that she is treated with kindness. Allah subhanahu wa Tyler says

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and treat women with kindness.

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It Cassie Rahim Allah which is when he commented on this verse, as you will know, he says a

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Clara macoun were hired to come Lagoon, that it is about beautifying your canal, your words, beautifying your words by evil, by it means good, using good words by evil

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to come, and your appearance says to them.

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This is what this verse entails.

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The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said as we said earlier, hydrocodone hydrocone actually, were under hydrocone only at the best of you is the one who is best to his family, and I am the best in my family.

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So this is something to always keep in mind. And he also saw a lot while he was setting up said, let me know Mina in Korea has been

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the Amina alpha, he said that the leaving man does not hate a believing woman. If he dislikes one of the characteristics, he should be pleased with the other characteristics. Hence, Islam is teaching us to focus on the good. And this hadith is found in Sahih Muslim.

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So let us remember these injunctions of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.

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And part of that is always you know, using good words, and complimenting. So kinda how many of us, we'd love to receive compliments, but we don't compliment. And we find, for example, in the family unit, or wife, or a mother, she makes so many contributions towards the family home. And she does this many a times out of her own yummy kindness and goodness, and she does probably many things that she's not obligated to do. I remember, I just remembered a story that I've heard recently

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whereby a husband is sitting at the dinner table, and he's enjoying the food that has been served. And at the end of the meal, he sits back and he says Masha Allah, that was a great meal. And so his wife turns to him. And she says to him in 50 years, you haven't complimented

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any one of my dishes, and now that I serve you a dish that the neighbor sent over,

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you complimented.

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So we have to,

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you know, be careful compliment consistently just in case that ever happens to you. And then you're going to find yourself in deep waters.

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So, complimenting very powerful when you compliment this, this creates my word. This creates this love within a relationship. So Pamela, you know, recently one brother, he complimented, he complimented, how beautiful his wife was, you know, had dressed up for him and the clothing that she was wearing and, you know, some kind of love. And he thought he did a good job. But little did he know he forgot to compliment her handbag.

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And she actually said he couldn't compliment my handbag. You didn't compliment this accessory. So So Pamela sometimes it could be even going into the details and show up with Diana

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This is how sisters, this is how the wife likes it, that you are taking notice of the finer detail, to show love.

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And not looking at, you know, your wife as a burden.

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And this other man, he comes home one day,

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and he sweeps his wife, he sweeps his wife up the ground, and he carries her. And she's feel so happy.

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And she says to him, you know, you haven't done that, you know, since the days, maybe just the first day of our marriage, you get that you never did that again. What has made you now carry me and do this? He said to her, the chef, he just heard it come back from the machine. And the chef said, Go home today brothers in a stem and carry your burdens.

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And he said, I'm carrying my burden.

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Is this the way this is not the way it should be? My dear brothers in Islam.

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Your wife is not a burden.

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Your wife is an Amanda. She's a trust ally. So that has given to her to you through her father, who is her Wali who says to you, xo watch to cabin tea, I offer you in marriage, my daughter, look after

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look after your wife. And as the saying goes, happy wife, happy life. Look after your wife might be brothers in Islam.

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Part of looking after her is providing the financial support. As I said earlier, and besides being an obligation, spending on a wife can be counted as a charitable act. Listen to this hobby. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam had to hire a Muslim. He said in the commandment and factor Allah. Erica Mena faculty for in Mecca to have Luke matter, tell Pharaoh he left fibrotic he said, Indeed, whatever you spend on your family, you will be rewarded for it. Even for a morsel of food that you raise to your wife's mouth. It's a subject

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even by just giving her that the only morsel of food

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from amongst your responsibilities My dear brother in Australia for months, the rights of the wife

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is that you teach her matters that are related to her religion to her Deen that you support her in Acts of obedience. Because Allah subhanho wa Taala he says, Yeah, you have Latina M and o qu and pusaka will actually come now and waku to Hana. So when

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he said, a user, believe protect yourselves and your families from a fire, who's few nice people and rocks, protect yourself who are to succumb and your family. So there is instructions there to protect your family from the fire. Making sure that the people in your family, in your family unit are praying, are performing their duties towards supplies of a job, that you are empowering them with the resources that are going to make them upstanding Muslims in Shelter Island.

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commented, commentating or commenting, commenting on this verse.

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Even Kathy rahima loved it, the great commentator, and he mentioned the aliaga laquan, who he said regarding this verse, he said, teach them the good manners and educate them, teach them good manners, and educating. And he also spent at Eben our best or a loved one who taught tremendum for me, he said regarding his first act in obedience to Allah. Avoid disobedience to Allah, and command your families to act in remembrance of Allah.

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So this verse whereby Allah says protect yourselves and your families from a fire whose fuel these people in rough it's about acting in obedience to Allah, and avoiding disobedience to Allah and commanding your family to act in the remembrance of Allah subhana wa Island, and in return, you will be saved from the hellfire. Now at humbly let slim has left no stone unturned, and from amongst the teachings of Islam, that Islam has also taught us how to deal with marital Discord. When there is a problem between the husband and the wife, and we find brothers and sisters in Islam, that hardly any marriage

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he spared from the occasional and sometimes frequent disagreements and derailments within the relationship.

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But Hamdulillah, Islam provides a solution and a roadmap to save the relationship from crumbling. So what are the steps that a man should take when

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a woman or a wife becomes rebellious, and disobedient. So if there is a rebellious one, or disobedient wife, Islam has given us the formula has taught us the actions to take, and we read about them. And he said, chapter four, verse 34, across the panel with Thailand, he says, I'll read the translation, and those meaning wives from whom you speak arrogance, first advise them, if they persist, if they persist, forsake them in bed. And finally, striking three, there is three ways three ways number one, as management, so you admonish your wife, you advise her in a wise manner, you try and make her see things, you know, from the teaching of the end, and the sooner giving her

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examples. This is how you start to try and rectify the situation.

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Secondly, if this doesn't work, then comes the abandonment. And what this means is that leaving a woman to sleep alone in her bed and cutting off all physical relations with her.

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And this action actually shakes the woman's being and makes her realize that her husband is willing to forsake her bed and charms as a result of a rebellious action. And we find that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam practice this form of discipline on some occasions.

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The third and final way if this doesn't work, so you've tried advising, you've tried the abandonment, then comes the striking for the heating. Now, this is again, an area misunderstood by many Muslims, and it's something that non Muslims use to discredit Islamic legislation.

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Firstly, let it be known brothers and sisters in Islam, ladies and gentlemen, that Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam never hit any one of his wives. As we read in Sahih Muslim the hadith of Ayesha, one of his wives, stated the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam never hit any one of his wives.

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Although a man is allowed to hit his wife in son was certain situations after steps one and two as we mentioned, it should be noted that is this light. According to the Shetty on the Prophet sal Allahu Allah He was sending in the Hadith pallisa a Muslim, he said lacob boo boo Emma, Allah Do not hit the female servants of Allah.

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After saying this, later on, but Allah, Allah, He came to the prophet SAW Allah while he was selling, and he said, the women have rebelled against their husbands. So the prophet SAW Selim gave permission for men to hit them. Then the next day, approximately 70 women came complaining to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. So he said, what a Mullah? What

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lethargy Do not lie to him. He said, By Allah, you will not find that those who hit their wives are among the best of you and the habits of strategies to hit Muslim.

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When it comes to hitting What does Islam have to say there are guidelines. Islam says Islam teaches us that it should not be painful, that it should not leave marks on the body,

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that the face the head and abdomen must be avoided. And in part of a hadith the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said was reborn

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in the Spanish women at Sydney the prophet SAW Selim said and beat them or strike them in a non aggressive manner, even adverse for their loved one who was asked what is light, what is light heating, what is meant by this Howdy. And his response was, it is to hit with a C whack and a C, what is a thin, short stick or something like it as opposed to be safe? So then what is the benefit of hitting women normally have a stand

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sensitive nature. And the slightest show of this courtesy to her affects to her affects her tremendously and causes her to rethink her actions. So that objective

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the purpose of hitting is to remind and to intimidate the woman regarding her disobedience and her rebellious actions, and the purpose is not to avenge or to harm them. So therefore in light of this if light hitting does not work, then brutal hitting 100% not not work. So this is the Islamic stance regarding this situation that I wanted to shed some light on. Mmm No, we Rahim Allah with Thailand. In his chapter of recommendations regarding women. He mentioned a number of Hadith or quickly mentioned some of the beautiful Hadith that he mentioned. He mentioned the hadith of Abu huraira, a loved one who is a Muslim, whereby the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, a believing man

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must not hate his wife, who was a believing woman, if he dislikes one of the characteristics, he should be pleased with the other characteristics. He also mentioned the Hadith, of morality or

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even highlighting a loved one who, who reported I asked the Messenger of Allah Azza wa sallam, what rights can any wife demand of her husband, he replied, You should give her food when you eat, quote her when you close yourself and not strike her on the face, and do not revile her or separate from her except in the house. So if you want to separate from it, don't leave the house, go to another room, you know, or if you're in the same page, you know, you can have your back towards. That's what this is what this is saying. Also, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in the Hadith.

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He mentioned in the sooner

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that the believers who showed the most perfect faith, or those who have the best behavior, and the best of you, or those who are best today, once he also

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mentioned the Hadith, where the prophet SAW Selim, he said, and

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Muslim, he said

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atonium attack was hygroma, Terry had a two sided his world is a place of joy.

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For this world is a quick passing enjoyment. And the best enjoyment of the world is a pious and the virtuous wife. And so every woman should strive to be a righteous wife and a pious wife. And so when a husband, or when a man is looking for a woman, with a marriage, looking for a wife, you should be looking for a mother for his children, a woman that will have his back, a woman that is going to be loyal to him, a woman that is going to help him to get two gentlemen in Chicago to Ireland. And so faith is always very, very important, and something to be taken into consideration of all other considerations when choosing when choosing a wife.

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And when choosing a mother. So, remember this My dear brothers and my sister, mother, sisters in Islam. These are the words I want to share with you. And the loss of Hannah mortara knows best amid the Peace and blessings of Allah be upon prophet muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam on April

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