Ramadan Motivations 18 – How to live longer and have more money

Ali Albarghouthi


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The importance of staying in touch with Jesus and being kind to people is emphasized, as it is essential for health and well-being. The speaker emphasizes the need to be aware of one's own body and do things that are beneficial for one's health and well-being. The importance of learning to eat healthy and avoiding harm is emphasized, as it is crucial for achieving goals and reaching a point in one's life. The book Ischia, designed to encourage people to love their book and discover the meaning behind their actions, is recommended for those interested in becoming members of the Islam community. The book is available in the future and is a book that focuses on the heart and its functions.

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Solomonic rahmatullah wa barakato

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smilla rahmanir rahim al hamdu Lillah wa Salatu was salam wa not assuming that he was early or second being or syndrome. So salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato. We begin by asking a lot of hammer I mean, to open our hearts and minds to the truth and enable us, to follow it, to love it, to desire it and make it dear to us make it a habit in our lives. Something that we ask Allah for, we invite into our lives and we keep and we asked him subhana wa to Allah, to protect us from the whispers of the shade plan to protect us from temptations, minor and major, to protect us from our own weaknesses and the whispers of the helpers of the shavon. around us, may Allah azzawajal keep us

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steadfast on the street path. And keep us close to him. subhana wa Diana, we asked him to panel with an honor to send Sundance an AMA on the messenger of civil law to your early whisler. Those of you who are still in Friday day, Yeoman July, this is a good time to make a lot of snap on the profits of the law, it was similar. Also, before I forget insha, Allah, it's also a good time to make your app in addition to the drought of Ramadan. So now why if you are in this time zone, and then you're waiting for Muslim insha, Allah or at another time zone, that you're still waiting for the mother of a Juma this time from after us. So tomorrow is a great time for you to make up. So when when we

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conclude insha Allah, and then you go on to do your own thing, whether you are cooking or taking care of your kids or getting ready for mother or walk into the midst of whatever it is that you're going to be doing in sha Allah, in certain that the time for the before method. So between us and mevlut closer to man live in sha Allah, it's sort of time for your job. So it works on to two ways, or four. And because of two things, one, because it is Ramadan, and also because it is jumat Friday, and there's that particular hour on a Friday, where a lot of do will answer the door app of any supplicated. So that perhaps would be the one hello and so just a thought to remind myself of you

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and you have all of that before I forget when we get into our topic and our topic today in sha Allah

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is at the messenger so a lot he was sitting them said in a heady

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and as the title right?

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suggests of this episode, do you want to live longer? And do you want to have more money?

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And as I know, it's in a sense, it's a could be a tantalizing title. It could be a puzzling title. Is it that we're supposed to desire this? Is it or are we supposed to run away from that? Is it good or is it bad?

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But let's listen to that Hadith are the messengers Salatu was send them on who he asks us to do in order to get this and then we'll try to understand this whole motive better inshallah. So he said, so a lot of you are sitting there hubber. And Yun said adelphia 30. While you saw the devil furiously, fairly so rahima reported by an Bukhari and Muslim, this is the one who loves that he would live longer. Yun selfie authority that, let's call it his trace, or his time or his age, right, the extended

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And then you've sorted over your display his provisions would be made abundant

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a lot, then let them do what Be kind to their relatives, be kind to their relatives do slither to him, a lot of us understand what sila Torah him is kinship, exactly. To be nice to your kin to your family. This is similar to rocking, to be connecting with them not to boycott them, to be nice to them, not to hurt them, not to neglect them. So we're talking about two things really to be close to connect to be in contact with them. So not to boycott your relatives. And the other thing is to be kind to them. So not to be closed meaning I mean, I'm in contact with them. But I heard them every time that I'm in touch with them. So these two things. So the prophets a lot he was sitting

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themselves in that had so many news speaking on behalf of Allah as they did in terms of he would not have known this unless Allah told him that if you do a you will get what B and C. So if you do sudo to Rahim, you do to these two

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things and we can say that this desire to live longer, and to have more money is a universal desire that if you inspect the heart of every human, we will have that in us. Do you want to live longer? We have this as a neediness. That's why you know, we medicate ourselves. That's why we eat healthy. That's why we exercise. And even if we don't do these things, because we're just simply too lazy or too busy, no judgement here it could be just simply that we're too busy. We're still one deep inside to live longer.

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Unless there's something in our life that is for that pushes us you know, just simply want to done I want to live, but essentially we want to live longer. And if somebody asks or inspects our hearts, do you want to have more money than what you have right now? Because you could do more with it? Yeah, deep inside we would say yes, we want to have more money because it simply will allow me to do a lot more will give me security and comfort and all of this. So the prophets a lot he was in them is using here, you know, directed by Allah azza wa jal Of course because the sooner is revelation from Allah. Otherwise, how would the prophets a lot he was hitting them know that if you do this, it

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will give you that it's not based on experimental speculation, it will not reveal any of these things. So he knows that if you want to get what you want, you have to do something that Allah as of Jun loves. So he's guiding a solo ad you're sending them towards what Allah loves, through what we love.

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So he's guiding us to what Allah loves through what we love. That is do you want to live longer play if we say here, here's the question.

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How would you then we can live longer isn't it already decided? Is that a question that comes up? So isn't it already decided I will live until such and such age? How is it that I can live longer? If I do sunako Rahim? There are two answers for this inshallah I want you to keep both in mind. One is that Allah azza wa jal blesses your life. So it's the same life 5060 100. But you see how we waste a lot of our lives. We just simply wasted doing things that are irrelevant, even harmful. So if you do say that to Rahim, Allah will bless your life so that it is used wisely. And you can do a lot of things in a little bit of time. There is what Baraka there is Baraka so that you can wake up in the

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morning, by the time you go to bed, you wouldn't say, although Time passes quickly, yes, you know, it seems to be universal. But you wouldn't say I didn't have the time to do anything today. But rather you would say, and Hamdulillah, I was able to accomplish, do some things. So more Baraka relative to what you had before you could do a lot more, taking care of your kids doing things for your spouse, you know, doing things outside the house inside the house. hamdulillah gives you energy, and a lot as it puts a lot of Wanaka Yes, you know, applies to the farm family members as well, applies to confer family members if you're nice to them. Because you understand that in the

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Hadees, it doesn't specify only Muslims. He says you're right. Your kin doesn't matter kin who are Muslim or non Muslim, you're commanded to be nice to them, even if they're non Muslims and prefer doesn't matter. So it hamdulillah applies, you'll get the benefit, even if even they are non Muslims. So you'll be able to do a lot in your day. And a lot puts Baraka in it gives you energy so panel, it seems that the hour lasts longer than previously. That's 111 interpretation of it. The other interpretation of it is that Allah zodion has destined meaning oh you so and so's son of a daughter of so and so. If you don't do Sugata Rahim, you will do a live until this age. If you do

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sin to silica Raheem, you'll extend your age by five years and 10 years. Just like we say, if you exercise you can extend your life. Well doesn't Allah know how long you're going to live? Yeah. And Allah knows that you will exercise and you will get what this extra but if you don't do it, your time will shorten your life will be shorter. The same thing. There are physical means to increase your life all known to Allah as soldiers, so don't worry about Allah and cudham so it doesn't need to perplex you, whatever. Whatever is with Allah is already known by Allah as his origin. But what you do affects your life.

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It doesn't affect Allah's knowledge he already knows. But it does affect your life. So if you exercise and eat healthy and another day you live longer, Allahu Allah. Right? And if you do sudo to Rahim, that is one of the ways and reasons for your life to extend

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hamdulillah so that's clear. I don't think it's problematic at all. So if you do silica raheny

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You can live longer. And this is what Hadeeth authentic imposable Hurry and Muslim hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen. Okay. The second thing, you have Sotelo fear this thing that your risk will be more abundant. How is this going to happen? Exactly like we interpreted the first one, how is this going to happen first more Baraka in your risk. So, maybe your paycheck is what $1,000 $2,000 $5,000 to get your paycheck, without Baraka, what happens, you find yourself spending it on useless things. You find yourself in other things that are breaking at home, you need to fix them, things that you buy, and they spoil, or you eat,

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and you don't get satisfied. You buy buy, and you would again, get satisfied. You don't like this, you hate this. This gets old in the fridge. Basically, like your income doesn't bring a lot of Baraka with it. You do say that to him, you bring your pay, same paycheck, by the end of the month and hamdulillah you still have extra and hamdulillah The fridge is full. Me Not exactly happening like this. But you will find that and hamdulillah I'm able to do a lot more with this money or what I can do with it versus other months, has a lot of benefit. I was able to help my relatives, I was able to buy things that are beneficial versus things that are harmful. This is Baraka, I assisted a

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neighbor, I bought something and it really was good. It helped me and my family. Allah guided me to it. All this is Baraka. Where did it come from Allah azza wa jal who guided your wealth towards more Baraka, although it's the same exact dollar amount as the previous month, but there's more Baraka in it. So that's one interpretation. The other interpretation just like the one the first one with living longer, instead Allah as the day will give you more money.

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How is this going to happen? And you shouldn't do this to try to test a lot xojo so that you say, Okay, I was good this month. Where's my extra? Where's my bonus?

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It could be the first one could be the second one. It could happen every after two or three months of Sugata Rahim six months of Silla dollar him so don't sit, testing Allah as it and saying Okay, I'm going to do this to see if Allah will give me You have to do it. Believing that Allah will give you a leave how Allah will bless and give more up to Allah xojo the when and how leave it to Allah but doing believing that Allah will do this. So the other possibility is Allah as it could give you more money, it could come as a bonus, as a race as an investment. Allah azza wa jal knows how and when, but for sure, it is true. And the scholars of Islam right they said that we used to notice

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that if there are households who are good to their relatives, Allah azza wa jal blesses them with a lot of Baraka Baraka in their kids Baraka in their families, but don't get in the, you know, their mood. They have better mood in general. So this households here, you look at it, it's a blessed household, you investigate why they're really good to their relatives, they assist them, they keep, stay in touch with them, they don't turn away from them and that is their habit.

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That is their habit. Allah blesses them like this. And we noticed the other way, a household that does the opposite Allah, Allah takes Baraka away from them. So again, why is it that Allah has it and more is motivating us to do this? Because Allah loves silica Rahim. So he wants me and you to move towards it with what we love. So you want to do this I'll give you something that you'd like to do what something that is greater than that. So signal to Rahim and the reward for Sen Rahim is better than living longer, as better than money, because it is pleasing to Allah as though that when you are close to your parents, let's say and you please them and you honor them and you take care of

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them and Allah looks at that. And Allah loves it. loves it. Yes, you're assisting another human being and loves it that you're assisting someone who needs you and he depends on you. And they have this great right on you. Allah loves that you do this so Allah rewards you and Jenna for it to reward you with what He rewards you with elevations in the earth era for it, right?

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So Allah loves that you're taking care of your siblings, you're taking care of your

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children, you're taking care of your cousins, aunts, uncles, extended family as well. So as long as you're doing this, Allah azza wa jal loves it and he drives us to Jenna. through what we love in this dunya so Allah xojo is driving us to Jenna is taking us to Jenna and doing what pleases him in the euro and in the dunya through what we love in the dunya. Just like if you tell a child who loves candy a lot, he says okay, do this for me. What study or clean your house clean your room or help your son

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siblings do this and you'll get candy or something. Why are you doing this because you want to guide them to what actually will help them and help them with their surroundings by something that they like from the dunya. So you give them this so that they will do something better with it. And this is what a lot of it is doing. You love to live longer, Allah will give you that you will love we want more money, especially money with Baraka, Allah will get will give you that but do something that Allah loves. And when you start doing Silikal Rahim

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you will see its benefits you will see why Allah loves that you will see the blessings of Allah and he will get closer to Allah. So the most important thing here is not living longer and having more money.

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The most important thing here is doing what pleases Allah zoji. And so when we are doing Scylla, to Rahim, let's have the following motivation. Let's not only do it because I want to live longer, and I want to be richer. Yes, if you just do it for that, Allah will give you these rules. If a cafe of non Muslim are is good for to their relative, Allah will give them this.

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You would me if a calf or non Muslim is good to their relative,

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Allah will give them an extended life and the laws of duty will give them what an abundance of wealth. This is justice, they're doing something good in this life, a law rewards them for it. But we shouldn't simply stop here. If you want to be good for your to your relatives do it for two reasons. One, Allah xuejun Allah commands it loves it, especially in a month, like the month of Ramadan where the hearts are softer. At least you try the outcomes with Allah. But the hearts are softer, we're closer to Allah. And usually this is the time when we come together visit each other. So if connections have been cut with other relatives, maybe this is an opportunity in sha Allah and

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a good easier opportunity compared to outside the month for me to say, let me knock on someone's door. Let me ring somebody up and say, how are you doing? It's had been a long time since we've taught, I hope that you're doing well, I hope the family is doing well. At least you'll feel that that tension that you had in your heart, I hate so and so I'm distant from someone so that won't go away. You'll be pleasing Allah zewde.

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And your benefit is not going to stop there. Your benefit won't show a lot as if you keep doing it will extend to this life. And you can expect Baraka in your own household, with your own spouse and family and you expect upon

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origin with the money that Allah has that will give to you. So this is the Hadith for today. And this is insha Allah, our motivation and our act, that is if there had been, and I know it's not always easy, but if there had been or if there is some tension between you and a relative. And that tension is a worldly tension, not a religious tension, but a worldly tension, simply a disagreement. We stop talking.

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Whatever right? Maybe this is an opportunity in sha Allah for me to reach out and just say a Salaam Aleykum simply tried to mend whatever I can meant. Not because the other person

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necessarily is better than me not because if there is conflict, this is an admission of guilt on my heart, none of that it is simply to please Allah So Jen, and follow the Hadith of the messenger sallallahu wasallam and get all of this reward, right? If it's hard. Well let me get this rewarded please, that it makes it easy. Yes, I'm doing this thing that it may not be so pleasant, but it's going to make it easier in sha Allah when they say I'm getting something Allah will give me something for it. So let's make it for the sake of Allah and then make it on sha Allah for where the Prophet sallallahu sinnamon mentioned in that Heidi, and then you'll see its benefit in sha Allah.

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Now um, insha Allah so there's a question here that they have just finished reading the heart therapy in their resume had upon hamdulillah Navara can lo faecal enemy Allah reward you back? It's a it's an achievement. Yeah, they may Allah azzawajal bless you for this, it to do to finish the entire book and to finish it in a group and to finish it.

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Over zoom halaqa hamdulillah it's an achievement. So I applaud you may Allah azzawajal. Bless that effort and make it for his sake and help you retain what you have learned. Now, you asked me here, how do you retain the knowledge that you have studied from this book.

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And this applies of handling that to any book that you read, especially if the book is dense and has a lot of things that are in it? First of all, insha Allah

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you took a year to finish it that humbly I would expect that it would take that but it That's what I'm talking about the patience to be able to finish it at $100 Bill and I mean, I may Allah bless you for that and motivate you to do the next book and the next book and so on and so on. As a group as well.

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The first thing in sha Allah is notes

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If you have taken notes on the site, to be able to, to go back to those notes or to your highlights in the book, to your site notes, and be able to read that, and retain kind of the gist of each Hadeeth and the gist of every explanation. So your notes will help you a lot in sha Allah to be able to retain that. So maybe what you can do, and this is up to you in sha Allah, when you want to do this, to go over the whole thing again, but over what over the notes over the highlights over the summary of each chapter. And you can try to do that.

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That is go over that. Look at your notes, look at what you've highlighted and try if you're if you have the time in sha Allah and I think it will be beneficial. Summarize each chapter.

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And if the summary is up to you summarize it in point summarize it in sha Allah in in one paragraph, summarize it in terms of the benefits and the lessons from each chapter, but summarize it when you do that, you'll be able inshallah, to retain more from it, then you can leave this book in sha Allah for a period of months, six months or a year, depending on what else you're reading, then you go back to it again and you review it, okay?

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How long that would take in sha Allah we all really greatly depend on you, your ability to devote time to it to summarize the chapter write it down and then look at it again and say I think I have the summary and the gist of what this chapter wanted me to say it's up to you. If you do it in a group inshallah you'll be even more motivated to finish right but if not, even as an individual it could take you it will not take you a year to do this, right? Hello Anna, but it just depends on how much time you could be able to give to it six months, maybe Allah Allah, I don't know.

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We'll see inshallah, inshallah, just contact me inshallah, just contact me and maybe inshallah we can arrange something. So beyond that, I think if you can be able to do this, and then you can go back to the book in sha Allah later. And then that book and your summary remains as a

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as your quick notes to refresh your memory, whenever you were thinking about something that you've encountered in the book, you can always go back to the summary first to be able to locate it. And then you'll be able to go back to the book in sha Allah and reconnect with where you found that information and its default connection to the Hadeeth. And what the book is trying to argue in Sharla.

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So one of the sisters asked, Is it permissible for her to take birth control pill to delay her period so that she can fast and pretty and for the last 10 nights, what is the Islamic ruling regarding this matter, that's taking birth control pill to delay periods for a burden? Now, there was the scholars have addressed this, I think more when it came to hedge general MRA. And they said that this is allowed if there is no harm in it. Right? So the the harm part that is something that you need to assess, assess with someone who's around you,

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who has knowledge with this, right a doctor or a family doctor will be able to tell you this will harm you, this will not harm you. So this is something that you need to discuss with them. So the physical, medical harm, this is something that needs to be ascertained first, before we can say yes or no. So if there is no harm,

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the scholars allowed it. They said if you want to, yes, you can. At the same time, they said but you don't really need to.

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There's a why are we doing all of this, because Allah said it had already ready written that on all of us. Right? The whatever, whatever is going to delay is for me particularly bad or whether we you know, we get ill or you know, we are on something that prevents us from Salah prevents us from fasting, or we travel or we get old, all these things Allah had written on us they are going to happen. So if Allah has written on the daughters of Adam, then they're going to have this and it's going to stop them from Sadat is going to stop them from fasting. This is something that is already written on them. So why do you want to put your body through all of this, it's not haram if there's

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no harm in it. On the other hand, if you don't feel comfortable, wanting to do this, don't feel that you are missing out because alasa already had decided everybody's going to experience that experience this. So you don't really need to take these pills. Simply what what happens is that if you can pray, there's time there's there's there are other things that you can do if you cannot, fast there are other things that you can do. And a lot of certain rights for you. You'll reward insha Allah for all of this so you can do what

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you can do the core of Allah azza wa jal, you can do sadaqa you can do again back to the core of Allah you can do sudo to Rahim, you can assist other people you can do to offer a lot of people in a panel if a suddenly by that closes, it makes you eager to worship Allah because you feel that

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I am unable to do this. So it makes me really eager to do a lot more when it comes to other events. So you find that you may be motivated to a lot more with other a better seek so Pamela you you go further in da much than before. Further Maya in thicker Allah than before further in reading of the Quran Allah more than before or add to it inshallah there's something you can add reading Islamic books,

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Book of Hadith, maybe you got tired Japan a lot got tired of

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or you know, you just you know, you you've read a lot of Quran you just want to change so a book of heavy that's also a read only read it for the sake of Allah. So you may find that

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some of the better that is unavailable at the time being, he opens the door for other any better Allah surgeons. So that's why I'm saying go with whatever Allah decides. But at the same time, if there is no harm in this particular

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in taking that pill, Yanni, it's insha. Allah, it's not how long as the scholars have said,

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if a person is terminally ill can we regard that as like a fodder for our sins that we had committed? Absolutely.

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Absolutely. If someone is terminally ill any illness. But we say especially terminal illness, because you don't expect that you're going to have a cure. It's nothing is coming. So every night and every day, you're dealing with this fact. And it's a heavy fact. It's heavy on the heart on the body to feel that it just there is no law. I mean, ultimately, right, the cure is in the hands of Allah as it could happen. But in terms of science adopted around you, they just we've given up, there's nothing else that we can do. And all of us are going to reach that point where one point in our life, there is nothing else that's it. So when you reach that point when you're I am sick, and

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that's the that's it for me. The illness plus the expectation plus the

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the burden that comes with that knowledge and facing the afterlife that unfortunately could follow for everything can follow for you all your sins. And so in that way, it turns out to be what an AMA in itself. When Allah sort of gives that illness for someone, you may ask is why is it that Allah is giving me this, there are two options. And I'm saying this for the sake of I don't know who's asking the brother or the sister was asking this or on behalf of somebody else, is that a lot. So you could take your life immediately, boom, and you're gone, you don't have the time to repent, ask for forgiveness, make make is to find nothing, you just there, boom, and you're dead.

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And if you die like that, all of a sudden, if it's on a good day doing good deed, it's an error of a lawsuit. If it's done before you are ready.

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It's difficult, right? Because you haven't done anything to be ready for meeting a lawsuit. But when you get diagnosed, as difficult as it is, but when you get diagnosed, this is it in one month, two months, six months, Allah is that it is giving you all this time to go back to him all of time to expiate all of time, what to make good things instead of the bad things that we have done for Allah before your heart to be purified for your body to turn to Allah xuejun. So that in itself, though, it looks like hardship, it is actually what surrounding an atom of Allah that is giving to you, here is a six months for you to get ready for meeting Allah to get your affairs in order to say goodbye,

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but also ask for forgiveness and you get closer and closer to Allah. So that's why I say yes, it is really difficult. But at the same time, there is nothing in it that maybe as as the time approaches, you're a lot more ready a lot more ready than other people who did not get that chance. So yeah, even in that count yourself Subhana Allah as being blessed with allies or just

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which relatives are the kids that we have have more rice upon us, for those with many distant cousins? How can we reach out to them all?

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So of course, right? I mean, the closest, closest relatives to you are the ones that you need to be most in contact with distant relatives don't need as much as much attention from you as much contact. So that closest relatives who are they your parents, and the ones that are above them, meaning grandparents, so parents and grandparents, and the ones that they're seeing on my cell phone and below you, your children or grandchildren. Right. So these are the most essential of relatives that you have, that you need to be most in contact with who need most from you. Then the ones who come next two are what the aunts and uncles

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father side and mother's side because they're like what fathers and mothers. So the aunts and uncles now this depends on what depends on how close they are and their expectations and what societal or social expectations

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For some cultures, and some countries,

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you're expected to be often in contact with them every month, maybe, because they are like mothers and fathers, and some other cultures in some other countries, right. And societies know, to contact them every month or every six months or every year is sufficient. They don't need more than more than that from you. They're fine without that intimate, close contact, and you are fine without that so suited to reach out to a large degree is also determined by what custom what is expected the need. So distant cousins, you don't need to be in touch with them every month, they're living in a different country, that really, you really not that close, they're not expecting you to be in touch.

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They're not harmed by that extent of absence of contact, and you also the same, so every eight for some distant cousins, every read is enough, every six months is enough, that's fine. inshallah, as long as what I'm still in touch with them,

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the relations are good. It's still if they want something from me, they still can contact me. And if they if I want something from them, they still contact them. I know what's going on with them. And they know what's going on with me. And this is more so during the same country close to you, let's say that they're in really distant countries that everybody has their own lives. So society custom determines this a lot. But then those who are really close to you and expect from you and they need you. This is the greatest of Santa Rosa. Okay, this is so that arrived, right?

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Which, so this is the one Okay, so he has a question here, I go back and read as much of it as possible. If a message is being built, and the mother pays

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a Morrison of amount with the intent to have a portion of each of her kids, will they get the reward if they paid? Okay, so I think I understand. So it says you have the intention that you're assisting.

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You're assisting, you're helping build domestic and your intention is that part of that

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reward is going to go to my kids, does that help them? Yes. Because you're donating on somebody else's behalf sadaqa you can donate this on somebody else's behalf, you don't need their permission, whether they're dead or alive. So you can of course give sadaqa and it's yours. I want the whole reward for myself, you can give sadaqa and it could be completely somebody else's, or sadaqa. And you'll be partnering partners with it. So like the sister was asking, I'm giving sadaqa and this sort of ties to help build the masjid. I want that to be for my kids exclusively. Or for me and my kids. Like we be partners in it. does it benefit them? Yes. It benefits the main show. hamdulillah

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So, okay, so recommendation. Okay, so this is gonna be selfish. Insha Allah, so selfish music, I'm gonna recommend my other book, right? Okay. And inshallah so could you please recommend a suggest another book for a group of sisters, young mothers to study together and this this gear based book, so a book other than heart therapy, so I'm imagining, so it's not just simply being selfish here. It's just simply because I've written the other book, right, which is, this is love,

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kind of to follow heart therapy.

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So heart therapy is what 40 hadiths into skia. So 40 Hadith is in how we can purify our souls and

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purify our hearts, cleanse them of disease and get closer to Allah zildjian. So it's a book designed, this is what therapy progressively to do what to study First, the nature of the heart. Talk about what are the diseases of the heart, then inshallah we'll talk about the cures and medication of the heart, how is it that we can treat our hearts so it signals the centrality of the heart in our existence and our ibadah how we should look at it, how we clean it, what gets it diseased, and weak and how we strengthen the heart. So that's a book of Ischia based on 40 holidays of the messenger so the law how do you how do you send them? This is love the book that just came

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out? The same publisher does the same thing. 40 Hadeeth about loving Allah xojo which is the first second stage in Ischia. This key of knowing a lot more and loving Allah zodion more. So here that headaches 40 headaches in What is it? What does it mean to love Allah?

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Why is it that we love Allah, and we need it in our lives? How is that that all of our Eva is based on loving Allah, and Allah loving us that the aim of all of our Eva is to reach the level of Allah azza wa jal. So 40 Hadees about loving Allah, and discovering love in Islam and why loving Islam is important than how it is the ultimate pursuit in Islam that

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Loving Allah is the ultimate pursuit in Islam and then loving the messengers of Allah Allah who it will send them what that means how we can get it and why it is beneficial and how we can love him a lot he was sitting there more and then loving people loving Muslims and why we should love Muslims and that our Eman is based on loving Muslims and loving each other. So that had that is the book that I can recommend inshallah

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if you want other books to recommend I would say it's seeking cha because I don't have a top of my head a specific book that I could say go for this book but I would say in general and Charlotte the books have ignored pay okay the translated books have been paid into English the translated books of ignore Roger and ham belly into English insha Allah these are wonderful books to to attain you need just to go online to see which of those books have been translated down the corner may have some of them i don't know if i iph may have some of them I don't know which publisher has which book or portion of a book but if you get a hold of the books have ignored claim or ignore Raja insha Allah

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just by that see if it fits a hell apart had a discussion a group

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ignore kind of exactly so a book love if it fits that and you can shall adopt that book and read it I think you'll find it highly beneficial in sha Allah but I mean also any books by evening Josie it will Josie also is a great

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scholar also for books.

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Captured thoughts I think, but you just have a think one of his books that have been translated is called captured thoughts. I hope I remembered that right? I think it's by suing a publisher or something like that, you just need to get a hold of the book insha Allah and see if the translation and the style of the book by even Josie just fits the understanding of the group's members, the halaqaat and then have a kind of format. So inshallah just go through those books 1234 and pick one of them and I think inshallah you will find your objective in one of them in Dallas. David handled our bill alameen. Tomorrow in sha Allah, we'll be talking about the last 10 days and nights of

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Ramadan. So if you have questions about them, or if you want to know more about them or you just simply want to be reminded and motivated again in sha Allah, join us tomorrow in sha Allah at the same time and we will

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we will talk about yes captured thoughts. I think that's what it's called the challenge just google it I think you'll find the publisher

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says here perhaps you can continue the halaqa with your new book like you did with the previous book, perhaps in Sharla perhaps it's going to take some time because we need the book to reach as many people as possible and to be in their hands. And once that happens that will take months for that to happen for it to come to saturate the market and to be available. So when that's happens us Canada and other countries and then we know that and hamdulillah it's in everybody's hands, maybe inshallah we can do this. So it will take a bit of time before we can do this in sha Allah Baraka law of Yukon.

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Okay, so this one says, For example, I don't know if that in relation to any question.

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Consistently abusive husband or sexual molester, the abused is not seeking any worldly remedies, revenge and has exited the situation but has suffered long term damage, psychological trauma, etc. As a result, will the lack of ability to forgive such abuse close the doors of Allah's forgiveness? To the one unable to forgive? No, no, that doesn't. If somebody has wronged you, okay.

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hamdulillah okay. hamdulillah So you said that sent it from England, and shall was the loop progressively in sha Allah, I hope it will be available in sha Allah. But if it's not, you mean, the heart therapy is not available? Just let me know in sha Allah through email, what is not available and show?

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They even show us so if somebody has wronged you, it's not an obligation on you to forgive them. Right? It's not an obligation on you to forgive them. The lack of forgiveness that the

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a lot of talks about or the profits or maybe send them had talked about which kids stop loss forgiveness is when there is no cause for that boy cut. no cause for your anger. And you simply have decided to be angry with so and so and not to forgive them is simply only worldly, matters. trivial matters. That's the case. And then if you decide not to forgive so and so and to stay away from forgiveness, yeah, that could affect a loss forgiveness, because Allah wants you to forgive wants you to mend relations, and fix what is between you and your brother. If you're talking to you about something as serious as what you're talking about, somebody had killed somebody in your family,

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let's say somebody's stolen your money, and he decided not to forgive because there's this

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As you're right, this is your right not to forgive, it doesn't stop unless forgiveness.

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But, you know, the what we're talking about here is you know, there's a minor disagreement between you and your brother, your sister, your parents, and you decide not to forgive them just being stubborn. You just simply don't want to forgive. We say no, it's you ought to forgive because you're closer to Allah forgiveness when you forgive them. But we're not talking about serious crimes. Okay, we're not talking about serious crimes. And inshallah so I've answered that question. Let me just address the sisters comments related to what is there on Facebook, that if your any of these books is not available in your country, insha Allah you can always order directly from our corner and they

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will ship to you. Okay, so our corner is based in Malaysia so if you're in India, let's say and the Book is not Available, no publisher has bought it. You can always go online order it directly from our corner they will ship directly to your home in Sharla handed up without me so you bought a lot of them as I said in Charlotte tomorrow we're talking about the last 10 days and nights of Ramadan in sha Allah if you have questions or you want to join us in sha Allah to learn more about them inshallah, I hope it will be a informative sex session botica low FICO. May Allah bless us May Allah azza wa jal give us the energy for the last third of Ramadan, to give it our most and to dare to be

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closest to Allah azza wa jal in it may Allah has opened the gates of genda for us in the last third of Ramadan and close the gates of hell fire. May Allah enable us to do more to accept that from us. Do more of the Quran and enlighten our hearts and minds with the Quran and make it the spring of our hearts May Allah azzawajal allow us to do better fasting in the last third of Ramadan better pm in the last third of Ramadan we Allah has an opinion even closest to him in the last third of Ramadan and further away from what displeases him May Allah azzawajal grant us gender to feel those I mean all of us and our loved ones in the month of Ramadan and protect us absolutely from ever seeing

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Hellfire or having any entry into Hellfire me and all of our loved loved ones in the month of Ramadan Allah grant is stuck why grant his sincerity grant us an answer to our grant us conviction and the opinion in our hearts eliminate doubts from them yada but Allah means eliminate weakness from our hearts and minds Allah but I don't mean mean i mean i mean we hope to see you in sha Allah all tomorrow at the same time but a lot of vehicle so panic a lot no will be handy. I still feel a shadow and stuff will go out to you they haven't been in that have been alameen wa Salaam Alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh