Abu Hafsa – Lessons from the life of Maryam

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Weather keeps you guys in the house on

the weather here. I mean, I'm from Canada. So this is still a nice fall day for us. When you guys are here

the quality crowd that came out to hire for that.

It's funny sometimes because I do these events for sisters in almost every city that I go to. And the brothers, they lead me to the sister section and it's if they're leading me, like, you know, somewhere away from them, like, I'll be right there. I'll just be right outside that door. Don't worry, don't worry if I'm gonna

be kidnapped by the system.

And then one time I was in England, and I did a sister's lecture and I walked in wasn't assistance when actually it was just University lecture. And I walked in and the brother, he opened the door, and you just turn for me when outside the door. So what happened? I said, there's our sisters there.

So they contagious like why did you? Why did you run out like that? Why did you run out? So having done that I like doing these events. There are a lot of fun. And I think that for those who don't know, in 1996, a sister took my Shahada

just just just local sister was in the city that I was in at the time, prays at the masjid and you know, Mashallah, she just took my Shahada, so kind of, oh, the sisters a little bit.

And my wife took Shahada for me, so I married a sister. I got three daughters. So now I've like, I'm surrounded by sisters all the time in my house. So that's probably why it's easy for me to do these events.

Plus, the gaze is turned off as well. And I wanted to talk about an amazing personality.

And many of you all of you probably know her.

And she's probably not probably definitely the most famous single mom that ever lived.

It's not Oprah, by the way, actually open and even a single mom, you know what his guess is?

most famous single mom that ever lived.

Maria, Mashallah.

She's the most famous single mom that ever lived. So I wanted to go through some of the lessons from her life and allow it to be of benefit to all of us, Mashallah. Miriam's the lessons from her

started, actually before she was born,

her mom had found out that she was going to have a baby she prayed to a lot she wanted a boy because she wanted the baby to the boy to grow up to be a man and serving the temple because they were the Venice royalty when they were children of Israel at the time. So she was dedicating her son so she thought to serve a line to worship in the in the temple.

But we plan and of course a lot of plans but it's very important for you to know that when you are expecting to make a lot of to offer your kid

a lot of law you're expecting coming kid when you get married or if you already married or whatever the case may be make the offer them when they're coming when they're alive even if they should pass before you continue to make the offer them because that offer the mother from the mother to the child is very very very strong.

So Allah gave the mother of Miriam a daughter

and she was kind of

you know not not upset by it because you can't really be upset with the father of a law but she said the girl is not like the boy was what she said. The girl is not like the boy so protect her from trademark protect her from the curse devil

somebody had grown up and little did the mother Miriam know what she was actually getting or what a personality she was actually getting from the last panel.

So time goes by and of course we're going to take the story from the sorts of medium where law says what the chlorophyll keytab Imodium?

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when she when she traveled away from her people to a

mechanic shop to like a place that was that was Western place to get her just basically a private place for her.

And sometimes it's kind of cool to do that you have to get away from people for a minute and just kind of relax right? The day's crazy and you just want to be alone and Roomba law and just relax a little bit away from everyone. We should really sometimes we should do that. Hi, Mr. seller. I'm used to do it. And many of the other people of the past you should do that. Just be alone. just disconnect from everything. All the Twitter's and all the Facebook's and all the other madness. Just get disconnect from that. Just be alone and just remember a lot that's what she did basically. But then

Man came to a photographer that's been doing hijab for our Selma la her ohana factor masala Mashallah. So yeah, that this man came to her jabril la salatu salam

ala Gabriel a la sent him to marry him in the form of a map.

So what does Miriam do?

She didn't you know, she didn't you know? Oh my god OMG jabril

is that your real hair? OMG let me tweet my girls

jabril is here hashtag Angel, right retweeted view, you know, all the all the girls would retweeting it and getting some of the brothers imagery. So what did she say? Got any I mean, can I seek refuge from Allah with from you? Meaning like, kick this guy out of here? He's supposed to be here in Quinta. Takia if you're a God fearing person,

but she didn't you know, she said she spoke to him. But she didn't go all over the board with him. Like sometimes what do you see now?

OMG is that your real hair? You're amazing jabril that thing you did with Musa Wow, Mashallah.

Mani Mika nkwanta taqiyya and jabril even he did the same thing Allah in honor of surah bt The Ahava lucky gulaman zakia. He didn't talk to her the same weight. Well, sister, your job is very nice.

How are you today?

He said, I am a messenger from your Lord. directly. You just told her who he was right away.

And I came here to announce to you

the birth of a perfect son while I'm in zakia perfect boy.

So he didn't even carry on a long conversation with her he did speak to her. But he said what was necessary?

In a Kunal ulam while I'm young sesame Basha. How can I have a kid? She says back to him, How am I supposed to have a boy I mean, I've been pure. I no one touched me.

I never and I never was unchaste I was never like, you know, out there. That's what she basically said to him. I was I was always pure.

And he said to her, Carla kaliki

Allah when I attended NASA, well, I

said, it's gonna be that way. A lot can make it that way. Even though, you know, she was virtuous, she was righteous, even then, she was a good girl. She was, you know, Mashallah. She was obeying a line, she was being her parents and she was good, what kinda I'ma do, but this, this will happen, this will be a thing ordained, he will be a mercy that sign will be a sign and a mercy from Allah. That is, I think ordained.

So

sometimes Allah will do something that you may or may think it's kind of like, How am I supposed to do that?

How is that supposed to happen? How is it that I'm supposed to do such and such so and so you can come up with any part of the Sharia that may seem difficult to you, but a lot revealed this. This is somebody I mean, in a sense that she's gonna have a son as a mercy to her from Allah, and a mercy to all of us. But of course, Miriam didn't know that at the time.

But homiletical found that to be he mccannon also, yes, so she conceived him. She went away from her people again.

I had my horrible, you know, just didn't bother

me. So when she was having him, giving birth to him, was very difficult for

me to apply for continence cmmc I wish that I would have been dead.

That's how difficult it was for her at the time. And sometimes you face difficulties, is that right?

sisters, especially face difficulties. I mean, brothers Can I mean, brothers can walk the streets and they can do whatever they want. Pretty much they shouldn't but they you know, they can hide a little bit right? sisters are walking, talking down posters. everywhere they go. Why do you wear that?

Why don't you go back to your country.

And then the sister goes, like I was born here.

That's the thing. That's just us get that all the time. Well, mme had a much more difficult situation than any of us would have.

Find out that I'm in Tanzania, and a caller came from below are allowed to harass me or the jala booty tactic. He said he that Allah made these

rivers flow underneath Mario was the LA key gentlemen. None and the tree the day

palmtree gave her date to sacrifice a Kyoto engineer, Polly wasabi whakaari

eautiful verse option he said, So eat and drink and dry your eyes. Like be

you know, just be comfortable, dry your eyes and just relax.

So whenever we're faced with something like these people telling you to go back to your country, even though you're born here, and even though you have every right to be here, even though you weren't born here,

Allah will eventually alleviate that from you.

Eventually, he's going to take that away, just like he took medium difficulty away.

So maybe in the agenda, you'll be told a coolie or shalabi

to eat and drink and dry your eyes because there is not going to be anyone going to tell you go back to your country because that is actually your country, gender belongs to us.

And not just us, humans in general. That's where we came from.

And we were sent here we weren't created here. We were sent here. Allah created us in the gender right?

So gender is home.

So when they tell you go back to your country, tell them I'm trying to that's why I'm wearing this I want to worship Allah. So you can send me back to my country which is gender you want to come

you're gonna be surprised that the answer to that

because that's why you were this you were you were that to please a lot. In order for you to go back to your country which is genuine. Sometimes it can be difficult and Allah knows that. A lot didn't just leave you here to suffer can be difficult. That's why we have stories like the story of money. I'm an asset I'm like the story of a valcea another the wife of Pharaoh who became Muslim in secret and there are so many stories of so many ladies over the years that we have because our sisters need role models.

This is not a male religion. Islam is not a male religion. Do you know what the first Muslim was?

A teacher I know that brothers don't know that sometimes right? abubaker

close out he not quite though he was the first man Okay, fair enough. But the first Muslim was Khadija after Mohammed salah and the first one.

She was the wife of the Prophet Solomon she, she helped him and she consoled him and she took care of him and she comforted him. She was she was his favorite.

She was his favorite.

And used to always talk about her long after she had passed away. May Allah be pleased with her.

So whenever you're faced with these difficulties, just remember these verses remember the story of money and money I'm wanting to die.

MIT to Kabbalah had ever come to know Him and see I wish I was dead. forgotten.

That's how she felt it was such a difficult time for her. It's such a big test for her. But she ended up having a PSA. And then time goes by.

And she has to bring him home.

What would you think sister?

When he when he or girls goes away for a couple months, comes back with a kid.

Imagine like, Oh my god, do you know Miriam?

She has a baby now. Can you imagine? OMG? lol. Where did she get that from? You don't buy babies at Target. Where did she get it from? People gossip like crazy, right?

And our people did the same thing. They can't he can't she came back with him carrying him. Oh yeah. Maria Monica the GTA and Faria. You? You've done something amazing. Incredible. What? What happened? What did you get this? What happened to you? And even they didn't call her money. Um, after that, they said what do you say? Yeah. Oh, how do

you lose your name when they start to doubt you? Right? Oh, sister of Aaron. Makana eyeball camera itself. Or my Canon tomoki Berea Your father was a good man.

And your mother was righteous like what happened to you? What's your problem? Why do you have a kid?

All of a sudden and no man no father, no husband.

A shout out to LA. So she just points at him.

Imagine this point. Oh, do k for new Kelly moment. Can I feel Maggie's lobby? How can we speak to a young boy who's in the cradle? How's that possible?

This is the amazing part because sometimes when you see things and this would say for the brothers and the sisters as well, when you see things it's not always as it is

you don't really know the backstory sometimes it's alright.

Because we like to be broadcasting stations. For things we spread that and we just look at things on the surface. Now as Muslims we should try to remove as much doubt as possible. So Madame is a different case though because this is a miracle birth. This is a complete miracle.

So in her case is different. But for us, we should try our best to remove all doubt in Sharla. And then let the people talk whatever they want to talk. The Arabs have a saying and I like it.

Anyway,

I'm going to translate it for you. You

know, raise your hand I can see, you know,

I realize you raise your head to a blind person, I realized that

the Arabs is a liar to a thorough sahab in a penalty lab.

If you're doing the right thing,

the high clouds will never be disturbed by the barking of dogs. So, if you're doing the right thing, and people are talking about you, just count you,

because you'll take it from them. They gossiped about medium. And look how Allah

gave money and victory. Allah in the Abdullah said Jesus from the cradle.

I am without doubt, the servant of Allah, Tawny kitaen with Gianni nebia and he gave me the Scripture and he made me a prophet. Can you imagine a little kid in the cradle?

By the permission of Allah is speaking

to these people who like to talk a lot and gossip about money and some of them still do it today. They still say that she that he says not a prophet, and so on and so forth. Well, Johnny MOBA can aina moku and he has made me blessed Wherever I am, when I was lying to you beside I was married him to hire and he has given he has ordained for me to pray and be and give the charity as long as I am alive. Now this is a beautiful part, well buttered on BYD that he Well, me and Johnny Jabbar on shafia he made me do the food to my mom, my mother

right away.

Allah is ordering this profit this amazing net. This Acer is allowed to sit on

two religions at least one one even called him the son of Allah, which we don't believe that but a man who really changed history

a lot ordered a lot for him, that calf for him and ordered him to be dutiful to

his mom, his mother.

That amazing woman and he didn't make me tired, tyrannical. jabatan chutiya What's up? Yo, yo, yo ma ba to higher and peace be upon me the day that I was born, the day that I will die in the day that I'll be raised in life.

So whenever you feel like things are real

and you can feel like that everyone has those days everyone some people have weeks and years like that where you really feel like the end is really coming close and you're just feeling really down and really bad. Look at that story of money look at that story because a lot can and will give you victory if you trusted him It's a promise. It may not be in such a amazing fashion as as he did with with Mario, okay, you're not gonna give birth to a profit that's not gonna happen anymore. What he will give you victory in other ways.

in other ways, because you are the the women have

always needed your support. We may not always know how to say it and we may not even want to say it sometimes. But we need your support more than you will ever know.

And Allah has made you strong for that. Elias bless you for that. It's given you so many role models, people like so many people like Khadija people like I show people like hafsa the one who Allah gave the Quran to or who I'm sorry, who the companions trusted the Koran to in its book form. And you say but who knows what to say but

you say but you know the same.

The same was a soldier she fought against men.

Like physically fought with a sword against men.

She came to bring water for the soldiers. And she saw that they were running away. So she started to fight, physically fight.

So Mohammed Salim said give her like to somebody to give her a sword and a shield. So he gave her a sword and a shield. And she battled against the the for the time. And Mohammed Salim said everywhere I looked I saw her fighting

to save up into camp she was amazing, amazing woman.

She didn't go well there's a site

go somewhere. Oh my god, the fighting the fighting Khadija. She started to fight

me to say but was an amazing personality. So Mia was the first Shaheed in Islam.

I was talking to sister yesterday. Please don't ask her the question system. When asked him a question. Even Tamia

was telling you

I mean, to me it was a scholar was Tamia

was Timmy is that?

To me? It was his grandmother.

He took the name of his grandmother. That was his first teacher. Remember body? Do you know that? It was born blind.

His mom used to pray for him.

Pray for him, pray for him. And eventually a lot of restored his sight.

That's why you have all this I

had this little kid. And she was in he was blind, completely blind. And she was praying for him that Allah would restore his eyesight. And eventually a lot did just that. And now look what it became

Amazing, amazing person. But a lot of people don't know these stories. Because we're too busy on other on other things. And sisters really, I mean, you guys have so many role models. There's there was a course that I took

a while back and it focused on on those amazing role models and personalities that the sisters have. And many of them, many of them. I didn't know Hindi. Hindi No. Hindi.

Hindi was the wife.

She wasn't devil. My goodness. She was just wicked person. It's Pamela.

She said that after her, her brother and her father, I believe her uncle were killed.

And she said,

I'm not going to shower. And I'm not going to wash my hair until Mohammed Salim has been defeated.

Now, that's the desert place. And it's hot there.

If you're not gonna shower, people are going to note

real quick, like in a matter of days, someone's gonna go

What's up head.

She was a strong personality. And even then, even when the Battle of word came, she wouldn't allow her husband to come near her.

Not to have been defeated.

A strong strong personality strong.

And of course you know what it was she did to what it's narrated that she did to Hamza after Hamza was killed. Yeah, she paid for Hamza to be killed. She paid washy the spirit to kill him. She was the one who hired him.

And she, according to the narration, she chewed on the liver of Hamza and the heart of Hamza and she actually cut off his ears.

And his lips, cut off his lips to she was crazy. What?

What?

When the companions came into Mecca,

she saw them worshiping a lot. And she said, she swears by a law she has never, ever seen a law of worship like that.

And there was a like, even there was a narration that said, If Hindi, is to come, even if she's holding the cloth of the Kaaba, she shall be killed.

So she came to Mohammed's element, she covered her head, covering her face.

And she said, I want to join you, I want to be Muslim.

And she she said, Who are you?

And he never said like, he or she is guys. Get rid of her. She's right here. Oh, hold her.

never said that. What did he say? Welcome, welcome.

And she became Muslim and she used to encourage the men to fight she would make poetry for the Mujahideen after that, so she went from one extreme into Islam.

So when you see this lady sometimes talking badly about you and really giving you a hard time to think of him because they're not as bad as her

and she became Muslim. May Allah be pleased for her she became she became one of the champions of Islam and other

sisters learn about these role models. Because these are your role models. Charla you will be there as well, but the agenda is not just for the men. It's not

it's for the ladies to

go on to the questions.

Just shout them out.

I'm not gonna point to you

Yeah, I mean

she, I don't know a whole lot about her either sister I know that she became this was asking about the story of the wife of Pharaoh, she became Muslim in secret at the time. And um, she, she, she had to hide her Islam. And she used to pray to Allah, that Allah would not place her among the Pharaoh. And she actually got mentioned in the Quran. She was one of the women that had achieved perfection.

The perfect woman was Miriam and her. And of course we know about

them, as well. So I don't know much about her, but she did become Muslim. And sometimes we'll have we'll have young sisters who become Muslim in families that hate Islam. You know about them become Muslim, and they have to be kind of secretive about that. Well, as he was one of those people, she became Muslim. She was part of the power structure at the time she was she was the wife of the leader.

She was the wife of the leader and he he can't compare Pharaoh to the leaders of today. You can't he was he was he was evil. Expand a lot. He said that I am God.

I mean, some presidents might have said a lot of things over the years. President Bush comes to mind.

Even he never said that.

He never said that. A lot still gave him a lot of chances.

And a lot of chances but his wife believed in Moosa, who's actually her kind of adopted son, you know the story of Moosa. She's the one who found herself. And she's the one who became kind of like Mrs. Mom, even though his mother is another example of an amazing strong woman because she put her son in the in the Nile River.

And she was she was really torn up about that she almost actually went and reported to Pharaoh that that's what she did. What happened to her, she ended up being hired by Pharaoh to breastfeed her son because she wouldn't feed from nobody else.

And so not only was she doing what she would normally do anyway, she's being paid to do it. And the woman of course, who found

Moosa was the daughter of Pharaoh and of course, he was the one who said we should adopt him he's going to become a joy to us. And he did become a joy to her but with the permission of a lot he ended up destroying the pharaoh so this these people are incredible. We really need your right we really need to learn more about her

Well, I didn't know that

Michelle, I did not know that

I did not know that this is such

a horrible death no she wasn't she was boiling boiling

boiling oil and a lot like she just kept hearing a voice for to look up and she got a glimpse of Paradise from that lobby pleased with I did not know that. There was another one even speaking of people who are in the story of the boy in the king. Do you know that story

boy in the king was out. It's a long it's usually a lecture by itself. But there was a part where these Muslims were being killed by their ruler, this is towards the end.

And they were being thrown into a huge fire. There was a woman there and she had her little son

she's walking up and she kind of hesitated for a minute. And her son spoke to and this is another one of the children who spoke from the cradle said yummy hospital for indicate that Oh, my mom, have patience. Be very patient because you're on the truth. And she went ahead and her and her son died and ally mentioned them in the sort of

they were the people of the trench. And they were killed by their

because they became Muslim because of that.

The story goes on, but it's a long one an hour usually takes me to tell it. I'm going to tell her properly. I butchered it just there. So forgive me for that. There's so many different role models that we don't look at. And of course, how could I forget how old I am?

Woman of Paradise, you know about them, right? But just keep mentioning you.

Brother, you'll get

interesting they keep mentioning that and that's Tommy, Mashallah. What

There are women who are more beautiful than

you know that.

Did you know that? Okay, Mashallah. Sarah knows?

She knows.

That's good. That's very good. One brother said he was given advice to the young people when he said flip pages, so you ain't got to flip burgers. So.

So let's talk about the whole ain't all the time the most beautiful women actually in paradise are the women who worship the law and Miss life in the hoorah angle be jealous of them.

They'll be more beautiful than these women of paradise.

So next time someone tells you about the whole range, just say yep.

You don't need no cover girl to be more beautiful than that. You just need to be a covered girl.

So do your best inshallah to do that, because this is this generous for you, too. Don't let Don't ever let anyone tell you. It's not. Don't ever let anyone tell you that it's not.

Well, that's Yeah. But what people don't realize, too, there's, there's a verse and I guess you just came across this the other day,

to give glad tidings to those who believe it's in sort of Baccarat, I think is verse number 25. And it said, as well, that they will have righteous wife, but as wide in Arabic doesn't necessarily mean wife, it means spouse.

It refers to the spouses. So some of the some of the scholars used to say that he's to say that the women also will have spouses.

Like they will have spouses too, it's not gonna be like, you're gonna be all alone.

You're gonna have spouses to the diversity as what it says spouse doesn't say, like, just just women. Because for the for the men, that's a lie. No, because you'll get to see a lot.

And what's I mean, you could have all the spouses you want, and there's gonna be that anyway.

So the women will get to see all of their

agenda, which go on and on about that.

Until you get there.

still won't be able to describe it.

Yeah, let's figure it out. When we reach this, even.

I couldn't before a lady asked me that, too. She's like, well, what did the women get gender? What he was taught, like, same kind of question that they asked you, right? So I'm like, Well, I'll tell you what, let's get there. And then I'm sure you won't be disappointed. So let's get to it, shall I then we can figure out who gets what and where and how and when. Because gender is is not going to, you're not going to go. I wish I had what he got.

The poorest person in the agenda is going to have 10 times as Jr. And you'll look up or if you'll look up and they'll see the people in the higher levels of genda. Like they'll see them. And they'll think that they were put there to decorate their agenda. They'll see them like stars, like you'd see like stars, like a decoration. There's no jealousy was a lot like the sisters who go there. You're not going to be unhappy.

That's the

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