Avoiding Laghw – Frivolous Gatherings & Conversations

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Yasir Qadhi

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hamdulillah we praise Allah subhanho wa Taala the most majestic and the Most High. In Him we put our trust and on him do we rely? He is our Rob and our Mola, our only ally. It isn't turning to him that the souls beautify. And it is by remembering him that the hearts purify, we ask Allah subhana wa Taala that our good deeds multiply, and that he causes our sins and evil to nullify. May Salatu Salam be upon the one to his prophethood we all testify as to what follows Allah subhana wa tada has reminded us to be conscious of him when he says in the Quran, you Hello Dina multiple law helper to potty while otter mutanda illa one two Muslim on dear Muslims now that Ramadan has come to an end,

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all too often, we fall into our previous habits and of the most destructive of those habits is something that the Quran has explicitly warned against in multiple verses in the beginning of surah Tell me known as the Hellmuth Menon. We all know that the first characteristic is a lady known csrt him harsher on those that have who shorten their Salah. But what is the second characteristic mentioned in this series of verses? It is that characteristic that we have to be especially vigilant of now that Ramadan has come to an end and the hustle and bustle of our ibadat and our rituals and our routine and our coming to the masjid have come to an end and we have so much free time. What is

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the second characteristic that Allah xojo describes the people have fitted those as well ladina whom I didn't know we more or didn't. Even before Allah talks about zecca and Allah talks about being honest and upholding your promises. The second characteristic of the people of for those those who turn away from idle useless low one Lavina whom Angela who is more ideal don't. In fact, this reality of turning away from law who have turning away from useless things, it is a constant theme throughout the Quran. Allah subhana wa tada describes it as being of the essential characteristics of the movement. in multiple occasions. Allah xojo describes the believers for example, in Surah

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costs what he does Samir Allah, Allahu anhu, when they hear useless stuff, wasting time, they turn away from it, we'll call it Lou, Lana ahmadu. Now what a kung fu come, and they say we have our ways our lifestyle, our deeds, and you have your deeds. Salaam Alaikum, peace be unto you learn up to Hill Jaya healing, we don't have time to be with the giant Hill, the righteous don't waste their time, and they don't participate in gatherings that waste their time. In yet another verse, Allah subhanho wa Taala mentions in the conclusion of certain four con and by the way, the beginning of certain won't be known and the ending of circle four on please read them after the hotbar these are

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checklists of how to get to fit those literally, point 1.2 point three, both of them Allah concludes by describing the believers and then saying those are the people that are going to enter for those. Those are the people that are going to be the highest guardians the hoerauf. And in both of them of the essential characteristics. Allah azza wa jal says what either Maru below him or Rukia Rama surah Furqan. One day pass by law who they pass by with dignity, they don't get involved in the time wasting when they pass by other people gathering together to waste their time to backbite. to slander to just as we send English shoot the breeze, they have better things to do Maru kirana they

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go by with dignity. And therefore in these verses and others, Allah azza wa jal emphasizes that of the characteristic of the believer is that he does not get involved in law. Whoa. Now what exactly is law? What's the technical definition of level? Our scholars say? That every type of speech that is of no benefit, every type of speech that doesn't have any wisdom, no wise purpose, and especially speech that is not thought out? It is just gossip and vain talk, it constitutes level. And in fact, to give you an idea of what is the whole another verse will make us under

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Stand. Allah says, Now you are who do como la who Billa with a mannequin while I can my apartment a man, Allah is not going to call you to task for the law who have your oats in a law, but rather what you say with firmness, what you say with intent? In other words, you know when we speak to our friends, we might just say, Oh Allah He that places the best will lie that food was the best food I've ever had. And everybody knows when you say well law he you're not given like a solemn oath like a, like a court of law. Like you're saying, well law here I'm going to honor the contract. Everybody knows this, that when you say it as a figure of speech, well law he it's not the same as when you

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say it in a serious gathering. Allah calls this No, you didn't think about it. Even though it's not wrong. It's not bountiful. But when you didn't think about it, and it wasn't done wisely. Even when you use the name of Allah, Allah says, I shall overlook this No. In other words, anything that doesn't have a wisdom or benefit, anything that is not of use to you, either worldly sense, or of an art hero sense, it actually constitutes a type of level and SubhanAllah. Brothers and sisters will law IE all of us are guilty of law who all of us are guilty of spending too much time in useless or idle matters. And in going to gatherings that are of absolutely no benefit to us. On the contrary,

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many of those gatherings are going to harm us or hurt us or regret on the Day of Judgment. Our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, never does a person attend to gathering in which Allah is not mentioned, and Vicar is not done, except that on the Day of Judgment, that gathering will be a source of regret. Notice he didn't say punishment, not every gathering you go to is going to get punished. But if you wasted your time, nothing was accomplished. On the day of judgment, you're going to be pinching yourself, I wasted three hours on that day, five hours, I didn't do anything, I could have done something of use. So there's certain types of know who that are actual sin. And

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that's gatherings of backbiting gatherings of slander gatherings where people do bad things, and then there's other level which might not be a sin, but you didn't get gain anything, you didn't benefit anything. And the believer is wiser than that. The believer does not waste his most precious commodity, that commodity that cannot be purchased with money and that is the commodity of time. The believer spends his time wisely. And that is why Allah azza wa jal says, Wait there, Maru been lovely Maru. kerama, one day pass by lagu they are dignified. And Allah says what they say is lenna are maluna welcome to come. And they're saying this to themselves. You don't have to say this

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verbally. But you say to yourself, I have my deeds. I have to think about what I'm doing with my life, and you have yours. That's your business. I'm not responsible for you. But I am responsible for myself, Lana, Mr. Luna, welcome, Malcolm, brothers and sisters, now that Ramadan is over, and many of us we are slipping back into our previous lifestyles, I remind myself in all of you that this is the ideal time the opportune time to think critically about how much time we're actually not even spending doing that, which is wise, how much time we waste in that which is no, and as I said, not all law who is Boulton, not Allah who is sinful, but all law who is a waste of time and all law

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who is not going to benefit us. So the believer chooses wisely and only gets involved with that which will be of benefit. How do we go about practically avoiding such things? First and foremost, don't put yourself in situations where you're going to waste your time, you yourself, be wise, you don't have to accept every single invitation, choose wisely. You don't have to walk into every single gathering our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam said, of the perfection of one's Eman is that you leave that which is of no concern to you choose wisely, where you go and what you spend your time with. And one of the ironic terms which is very beautiful, Allah says is within what we're

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doing that they are more real boon to the whole, they turn their backs to the whole look at the profundity. They don't even tempt themselves. They don't even lend an ear and then see what's going on with the gossip and then sit down know when they pass by the gatherings of love who they pass by with dignity. You don't have to be nasty to the people but why should you spend time with doing nothing? So notice the ironic term out all do I know who more ideal doing they turn their backs away from Lego so you'll be wise about where you go and how you spend your time of the ways as well is that we should be conscious that Lego involves the tongue so we make up any negatives with the

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tongue by positives of the tongue in a beautiful Hadith narrated in the sooner the better. Sorry, I've done the ofa one of the Sahaba he described the Prophet salallahu idea he was set up somebody asked him Tell me how the Prophet system was, he said gonna yoke through Vicar. He would also

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Always be doing Vicar and he would minimize level he would minimize level now when we're talking about the Prophet system level doesn't mean anything vaulted but it just means you know conversation that is of no value that would be minimal, and Vicar would be maximum. So, in order to counteract level we need to develop a lifestyle of Vicar, constantly remembering Allah and to spirit and to Hamid also have the ways to counter the who, which is explicit in the Hadith is by giving charity in fact, we just gave the cattle fitter two three days ago and you know what the prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said in an authentic hadith he said that the cattle fitter is to make a cafaro for

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the low of the one who has fasting literally does the car is going to be a cofounder for the time wasted while fasting. And so of the ways we get rid of low hope is by charity. And when Hadeeth is well then unnecessary. Our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam passed by the marketplace and he said these bazaars, these souks, there's a lot of level going on here and so purify it by giving charity and therefore we should realize that time wasting and doing Lahu one of the ways to overcome that is that we give some charity for the sake of Allah subhana wa tada and of the ways as well we counteract level is to choose friends with wisdom, and this is something we should constantly do.

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Brothers and sisters, Allah who we go through our fridge and our pantries we throw away that which is not benefit to us might harmless. I'm telling you honestly, we need to do the same with our acquaintances who exactly do you socialize with? Is that person a positive influence? Or is that person dragging you down? A person follows the religion of his friends, a person follows the deen and a flap of his friends. If you're with a group of people who constantly backbite slander, or in the latest latest gossip, then why are you a part of that group withdraw from that and find another group that is a group of a group of Vicar, a group of righteousness a group that is going to benefit

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you a person follows the flock of your friends of his friends, so be careful who your friends are brothers and sisters one of the most amazing things about the the concept of level is that Allah subhana wa Taala actually describes Jenna as being a place where there is no level whatsoever in multiple verses in the Quran. Allah azza wa jal says that the place of Jenna Lala one fee her one theme, there is no idle talk nor is there any evil there and Allah azza wa jal says in the Koran that that

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nice Murphy Hello one Illa Salama, they will not hear any level they're only going to hear Salaam in Jana lifesmart. no fee Hello, one one. FEMA, they're not going to hear lebeau nor any evil speech in five verses Allah describes Jana as a place that is absent of law. Therefore, what this indicates is that if we want to get to Jenna, we should strive that in this world we minimize our gatherings of Lucha brothers and sisters time is now open for us after the month of Ramadan, let us fill that time with that which is wise with that which is beneficial for us and to conclude this issue of level please understand that level is not good talk in which you comfort a person or you find out what

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they're doing or you have Brotherhood in a hole. This is the essence of a man to have positive conversations Lahu means vain talk idle talk talk that is of no benefit and generally involves other people or involves backbiting or liba or it involves gossip and slander or it involves complete wastage of time of course gatherings where our Brotherhood is increased and we find out the situation and how of others and our who is for the sake of Allah. This is the essence of the man and it is not a part of who we ask Allah azza wa jal to make us of those who when they see the who they turn and they walk away May Allah subhana wa tada bless me and you within through the Quran and may

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make us of those who is versus they understand and apply is held on and held on throughout their lifespan. ask Allah for forgiveness, he was will ask him for his liver for under a human