Yaser Birjas – Halaqa 2012 11 7

Yaser Birjas
AI: Summary © The speakers discuss the importance of avoiding mistakes and acknowledging advice in public, as well as avoiding wasting time and effort. They emphasize the need for support and guidance from outside the classroom, as well as the danger of "backbiting." They also mention a woman who was accused of leaving the Prophet sallama sallam in a school and how she talks about her actions. The speakers stress the importance of accepting advice and not giving them the wrong way, as well as respect for women and women’s position in society.
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100 a lot of blood I mean Salallahu Salam Baraka Nabina Muhammad, wa ala alihi wa sahbihi wa seldom at the Sleeman kathira.

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It is it seems that some people they think that you cannot, you cannot fix a problem or fix someone's mistake, unless you make it public. So they believe that one of the one of the ways of doing that is just bringing everything out to the public, and try perhaps to disgrace them or maybe make everybody know about them. And it happened in many, many massages that have been asked the same question. Some people have issues with specific individuals, they say, I know this brother, he does this, he says that and so on, should I keep quiet? Or can I talk to the manager about him? Should I bring it up to the board and so on? I said, Why do you want to bring his name up to the public? Is

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it is it really that serious, that dangerous that you have to bring it to that level? To some people it could be and to others, it's maybe there's some personal issues, so you need to be careful with that. What is the sooner what is the sooner when it comes to deal with some of what some of these mistakes that you think that you need to bring him out? Well, Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam is one of the principles of collecting other people's mistakes according to the son of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasallam Ali is not to assess the shape of the shape upon I guess all brothers and sisters, the shaitaan is very clever. If you start attacking people, they start taking personal position from

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you and they become more vulnerable perhaps they start you know fighting back by all means in that case a lot of fitna in the community in this had it said because remember Pablo de la Ron he said cada una cara Rajan menace have an abuse of Allah Allah wa sallam is more Abdullah, there was a man in the in the among the community. His name was Abdullah. However, people they used to call him or he was known for a very negative basically any name or title. They used to call them Mr. Meaning donkey. So he was known in the community as the donkey. Now perhaps for for a reason is that because he was just like the court gesture, meaning he was the funny guy, he was just basically for fun and

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making jokes and so on. What can I do? How can I be a sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he was always about that always laughing, always making pranks and jokes and so on. They mentioned even that some of his pranks are the Allahu anhu

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is that the prophet SAW what the law said and one time he was about to mount his horse. So he untied the saddle from underneath. So when the prophet SAW son was about to go on his horse, the proverb fell down. And he started laughing the purpose of laughing with him basically, you got me there, like some of these jokes, and the Prophet sola salon, again, enjoyed his company. So I thought, What can I usually do fish Shut up. I'm gonna hop commenting on this man. He says, What can he do to shut up, they used to bring him he used to bring them all was to be punished for drinking. So basically, he was

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an alcoholic, always drinks. Perhaps this habit came with him from before Islam. Before he became a Muslim, he always drunk. He always enjoyed it. Now he became Muslim, he was already an addict. He could not get rid of that habit easily. And it's not that simple for those people who live in this culture in America where you guys know what does that mean, when people get addicted to alcohol? It takes a lot of effort to get these people out of that. This man

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he used to be around the process of loving is still

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in moments of weakness, your father has dissolved, he will drink and when he is caught drunk, they bring him to justice. Eventually he'll be punished. What can you shop for?

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One of these times when he was brought, you know, the punishment

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so he charged because the alpha is how many times are they gonna keep?

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Which means when is it gonna stop, you know, as Muslim

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You seem to be very dedicated. You can

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see someone who's not following the beautiful tradition of what we think is the best way of doing that. So this man when he kept seeing him coming in for the same, the same sin, He got very, very upset and it says, Allahu Allah cursed. He said this about this man, mark that maybe we had, how long are they going to keep bringing him for this means Why does he just quit Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was there. And he heard what this man said. So he immediately turned to the man, quadrilateral I know he's don't Kherson Don't say that. Lateral. I know. For la he malim to in who have Bella Sula. She's what I know about this man.

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He loves Allah and His messenger.

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The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he said about this man who drinks regularly, and he's being punished for committing what we consider Kabira one of these major sins drinking alcohol, still, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam already testified for this man that he loves Allah and His messenger will lie in some of the comments on this hadith. In some of the comments in this Hadith, some would say that they wish to be in the position of this man, for what, because the Prophet testified, justified for this man, that he indeed loves Allah and His Messenger, even though he commits a sin, but he still loves the land is messenger. And there are so many Muslims, so many

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Muslims today, who are weak in their email, they follow their desires, maybe they are under pressure or under specific circumstances, they might not be the ideal Muslim that you think of in your own mind. But there is no doubt they love Allah and His Messenger, sallAllahu wasallam. We know them. We know many of these people. Some of them they work for in some specific jobs that they hate what they're doing because they know it's wrong. Still, the regular in their salon de la vida, when you talk to them, they feel guilty, they wish that they can get out of that business as soon as possible. Some of the sisters might not be wearing hijab. But when you talk to her, she is very,

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very enthusiastic about her Deen. She's very active, when will I dealt with some of these ladies as well, in Dawa, and they're very active, some harmless still, they have that that weakness that they are not to have strong enough to put the hijab on doesn't mean that they don't have the men in their hearts. And we don't go and we just these people will we try our best to deliver the message of Allah subhanho wa Taala to them in one occasion, and a person actually experience when I used to live in Bosnia after the war was over. So I went there and I spent four years in that area. One of these occasions when I first barely arrived, I was actually few weeks in that in that location. In

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one city in the central area of Bosnia. I was at the entrance of the masjid. I was at the entrance of the masjid and I realized I got to know that that was Mashallah was the only method in the area that used to host women's class, there was a lady who used to come a lady who used to come and she used to give a class for the for the for the women in the masjid. Now, of course many women will come from different villages in every neighborhood, different neighborhoods and so on. So Marcia, the mother was always full at that time. So I remember one of those occasions, I was standing with the husband of this lady who was given the class. And Marsha is very enthusiastic about the deen.

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And he's very strong, you know about his practice and so on. So as we were standing by the door of the masjid, a lady who came in, she came to attend the class. She wasn't wearing a hijab, she wasn't wearing basically, according to that standard properly, she was wearing tight jeans and the T shirt, basically short sleeves, and she was coming to the masjid no head covered nothing. But I assumed because I knew from that culture over there that many of these ladies who came basically after the war was over, they've been living under non Muslim rule for so long. And they believe in also under communism and all these different different traditional different ideologies. And now Mashallah

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they're open to Islam, she was coming to learn. And as we were standing talking to each other, about different aspects of Dharma, suddenly and I was shocked. I was shocked this brother, he immediately started yelling at this woman. He started yelling at her, get out, you this and that answer and he starts basically cursing and saying things. I'm as a guy standing in front of him while I was so shocked when I was looking at him. So what's wrong with this guy? He was so nice, Mashallah, I was so sweet. I've been dealing with him for the past few weeks. And I was really shocked when I saw that from him. And the lady Myskina the lady she got freaked out. She was about to take her hijab or

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his her head cover from her purse. But then she ran away immediately. And she left. And when she left, I just there is no you could bring her back. And even if you try, she will just forget about it. So I when when this guy basically called him and said, What did you do? So what have you done?

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He immediately start attacking me when he's done anything. You don't know these people. I know them. They come here to ruin our day, our daughters, our sisters, and do this and that, as I said, Jackie Ashoka and Matthew calvia. Did you really? Did you open her heart to see what's in there? says Why don't you see her? I said, Where is she coming? What was she coming? You see her coming into a bar coming into a club. She was coming to the message I said, this is your target audience that you should be dealing with and looking forward to come and listen to why when she speaks those who Mashallah already doing the Salah regularly wearing their hijab and our guys and some Allah reward

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them for that. That's amazing. But these are the ladies

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Whom we are looking at? Are we looking for them to guide them and bring them to these kind of programs and activities. And I said perhaps she was invited by someone other sister. So how that conversation went so wrong. The the brother, he immediately starts becoming too personal. And I just, I feel so disappointed, so disappointed. And I finally left the conversation with him. And I said, Follow him along, run out of Macedonia. misma, Allah have mercy on someone who knows his limit. I mean, I just want you to understand that regardless how much you try to convince me that what you have done was right, one day, you will realize that was absolutely wrong. So holla, I had

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no conversation with his brother for almost three years after that. That's it, he disappeared. I saw him afterwards, of course, in the client, and he coming to escort his wife and so on. But he never initiated a conversation with me. He was so strict, so strict, until it was three years later, when one day I met him at one, one brother's house for dinner. And I was really surprised and shocked how much he changed.

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He changed so much he came after three years to the realization that what he what he has done, or what he was doing basically was wrong. And he realized he cannot just be so closed minded, and dealing in that fashion. alarm, Stan, this example this brother, he assisted the shaitaan against this lady, that lady was coming to the masjid, with good intention, perhaps malice power down and Rewarder am Allah guided Allah, Allah, Allah knows what's in her heart, but at least what we saw from her that she was coming to the masjid, to learn and listen to a talk a good talk inshallah xojo. So we assume we should assume that those people will come to come with good intention. Now,

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you might say, they might just come in to learn our secrets, how we talk so we can refute us and so on. Why should we be afraid of that, then?

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They're more than welcome. They can prove us wrong. Why not? Come on in. If you're so confident that your data is right, and you have the help, and you have the evidence, and you're already preaching this out to the public, because you're a speaker right now, why should we be afraid? Let them come. And I also have

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just to learn what you say, so they could refute that. I said, they're more than welcome to do that.

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If they can prove us wrong, all of a sudden,

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we do our best negotiate that and we debate these issues. The point here is that going to solar his solar cell and he said to them, too, that's the Javi latoken. Out Alicia Tony adhikam, don't be an assistant to the shaitan I guess you own brother and sister. And it says a lot of salons in LA Sula, that he loves alone His Messenger, even though he was brought to be punished for a major sin such as drinking alcohol or being alcoholic, regularly he was beaten around the alarm on water. But the prophet testified that this man, he loved Allah and His messenger. Therefore, regardless how much you see in these people, you might see some wonders from them. When it comes to bringing them to our

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last panel attend his messenger, many people, they don't look like religious or spiritual.

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Collect, they come and they fill in the Listen, because they really want to change. But unfortunately, they're not strong enough to get to that level. They need your help. Don't assess the straight time against your brothers and your sisters.

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Also, when it comes to trying to fix people's mistakes, it's not about humiliating the person or bringing them down from whatever position they are at in the community. You know, sometimes it's just some people they go after others, simply because they want to humiliate them and bring them completely down. Let's say she's someone who's successful in the community is given what bottle Juma for instance, he made a mistake. That doesn't mean you just gonna have to bring it up all the way to the entire Metroplex, just in order to tarnish his name, and tarnish his reputation. So he would never come up on the member again, that's not the purpose. It shouldn't be the reason for us. When

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we talk and we give our data. You need to bring the heck to the rightful person. But at the same time, you need to keep and preserve the dignity of the one or the wrongdoer. preserve the dignity of the wrongdoer, you know, sort of lie is that a lot of asylum Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa salam Ali, he even mentioned in in whenever you see someone who's engaging in a sin, or a mistake, even when you see someone who's engaging in committing a sin, such as committing Zina, he says that a lot of Selim, if you can cover him with your thoughts, then do so. Which means it's not about punishing people going after them as much as just covering their sins and just bring them to Allah subhana wa

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By giving them down. If you could do that, that's the best way of dealing with the mistakes of people as well. So if you see someone again, that keep their dignity and their integrity, these people don't want to be exposed. They don't want to be exposed. So you shouldn't be the person to expose them to the public. If you can fix the mistake and bring them back to Charlotte to Allah to Allah azza wa jal and give the hug to the rightful person. And the story, alphabet medical, the law of the land who wha

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he basically, he in the in the course of discussing with hardenable is not allowed that I'm about taking the word booties from someone that they someone kills someone on the battlefield. So hard when we're literally alone was the I mean, he was a middle of the of the expedition. So alphabet Malik was arguing with me in this regard. So Rasulullah, his sallallahu wasallam Rasulullah sallallahu wasallam. Finally, he ruled for alphabet Malik against Khalid abnormally alpha Malik took advantage of that. So he told her that he says, you see the university I'm going to I'm going to take you to the sort of law and you shall see that sort of law is also moral for me, sort of sort of

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like got upset with that. He got very upset. This is this is not the purpose of what we're doing here for. He said, salatu wa salam ra lattakia Khalid Khalid, do give it back to him. Don't give it back to him. Then. Basically, if all what you've done is just so that you tarnish the reputation of your image, and to make some sin out of it in front of the public. You don't deserve that. And you're not going after your help. Right now. You're going after the Emir himself personally. He says then in this case, Khalid don't give it to him. Then he said sallallahu wasallam Helen Tim tariku, Lee O'Meara, I don't want he said, I want you to live my Amara. My leaders for me, means don't take

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it personal against them. In my method okuma method on your example, under example, can methodological evidence our government for some matter, Haryana superhalfs, Raja Holden, for Sharad v fischeri, but Safa terra cotta, who, for Sofia, Hola, como como la him, he says your example under example, the example of a shepherd who takes his flock to a source of water, that source of water, some of it is clean, some of his bad is not clean is contaminated. Perhaps they take the clean part, and they leave the contaminated part. He says this is the leaders, they give you that which is good for you. And whatever is Qatar, they are responsible for they will take it. So they prefer the U

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over themselves. Therefore, don't go after the Amara and the leaders in that sense. Of course, if they made a mistake, then it also to be any advice. But what what alphabet medical dilaton has done, the prophets Allah has and disapproved because it was just like, you know, bringing this to the public when there was no need for that.

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Another technique of the process that allow us to Ramallah and how to deal with people's mistakes, that if you know, two individuals are mistaken, you need to be fair, you need to be fair, and bringing this to their attention, both of them, many don't side with one of them. Don't do that. And when you speak to speak to both parties Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam as a Hadith, Abdullah of Khalid Sheikh Abdullah bin of Cardinal Walid radi Allahu Allah, Allahu Allah, Allah Rasulullah sallallahu wasallam Khalid rhodiola Han, he had some issues under amount of analysis. Now the difference between Abdullah and Hardiman really, under American alpha was one of the early people who embraced

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Islam, one of the first 10 people ever to become Muslims, Abdul Rahman now, so he had a long history with Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam Khalid he became Muslim on the seventh Nigerian that means 20 years later. So you can talk you talking about 20 years difference between Andhra man becoming Muslim and herbivory. So Romani had to go through a lot of that struggle. And even he never fought against the Prophet sallallahu Sallam unlike Cardinal elite, who fought against him in better or hurdle handed, and even closer Arabia, then he became Muslim. And so an issue happened between Abdullah Amanda and Alan Khalid, so after American health, he complained to Rasulullah sallallahu

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alayhi wa sallam. So under a man, the professor Lawson came to him and he says, you're headed to the Roger Linn liberal college. He says, Don't you ever hurt anyone from the people of better under a man without words from the people who voted you wonder, he said, and the law testified people have better work with the most righteous and most sincere you can never imagine what that's what he's saying. Carla follow on fuck them his little

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lamb to the camera says he says even if you spend the amount of 100 in gold, you will never catch up with his good deeds. You will never reach the level of Abdullah man. They've been out. Since then Harvard, he said Kala jasola Yaga una de foto de la. They keep harassing me, and they keep basically attacking me. So I have to respond. It seems that people

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They took advantage of being late comer to Islam, some people that took advantage of that, that he fought against the Prophet sallallahu wasallam. So it seems that you know,

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we are still human beings and the Sahaba were human beings as well. This sense of partisanship sometimes, you know, comes into play as well. So some of them they would kind of talk about hibernate in a way that really hurts them. Colorado silica on a VFR data and they keep harassing me sometimes I have to defend myself. So the Prophet sallallahu Sallam immediately he also cited would call it and disregard call Allah to do Haldane says Don't you ever harass or her college friends who say fun means you feel as though Virgil salata hola sabella Alka for he says, Don't you hurt call it anymore? Don't you ever hurt call it fair, no settlements, you filler. He's one of those sword the

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sword of Allah xojo that Allah subhanho wa Taala is keeping it over the machine under Kufa. So here's Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam he said without going up against harden manually. But still he also gave her this hap says yeah, he been becoming late in Islam. That doesn't mean you completely deny his virtues. As a matter of fact, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Ali, he acknowledged the virtues of credit when Waleed radi Allahu Allahu Akbar Khalid was a very clever General, he was very clever army man, a soldier. So the moment he became Muslim, the Prophet sallallahu Sallam he would assign him for some of these expeditions around Medina him and American answer the Allahu

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terranova and Khalid rhodiola. One was the was the man and the soldier who rescued the Muslim army after they lost their three leaders. After they lost their three leaders they lost they they've inherited Jaffa, Otto the long run, and then Abdullah Abdullah, then they selected Khalid to lead the expedition. He was dro he tactically Of course he withdrew from the battlefield to safety until he came to Medina when the people were coming with going after this army and also harassing them and and calling them Al Quran means you guys escaped you're running away the prophets Allah loves him defending them and it says Corolla Ola equal kura. These are curar which means they come into safety

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so they could go on next to the next expedition in shallow dialogue on that they are Sorolla is sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he named Khalid, safer monsoon Villa, Khalid rhodiola. And knowing that this this advantage he had in regard to his achievements, so for during the early years of Islam, what he did, he swore by Allah azza wa jal, he vowed to Allah subhanho wa Taala that he will never let any opportunity to, to support Islam and fight for the sake of Allah azza wa jal, and he did not allow Rwanda until he died in a sham, his grave right now is enhance. I don't know if you guys know if you know that, but his grave is enhanced. There's an entire neighborhood called al khalidiya.

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where his his journey his grave is located after him caught it rallied around the Allahu tonawanda, the same house that we heard about is being bombarded and attacked and being you know, destroyed. Even his message, the message where he's actually

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in that neighborhood was also attacked, so called the law of the land, he did his best afterward, he did his best afterwards, but the prophets Allah wa sallam was fair and just with him. So I'm bringing this issue up, because sometimes you will have some situations problems between.

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And if you're not one of them is wrong. And you stand with the stand for the rights, that doesn't mean they take advantage against their brothers or sisters. Now you have to be fair with the solution, you took your help right now that's it, keep quiet. It's over, because it deserves something else. Perhaps if you speak in line, this same thing, it could be between

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between your wife and your mother, your mother. So in this case, you have to also be fair, and just Yes, she's my mother. But at the same time, I have to stand with the Hulk and with the truth, she's gonna get upset, you know, still in a nice way, you could still remind them that we should really always be fair, and just with one another. The point is that you have to bring you have to be fair.

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With the two conflicting parties, you cannot just side with one person altogether against them, regardless of how close they are to you. One of the one of the techniques or the manners of dealing with someone who makes a mistake, Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he used to remind, he used to remind the person who makes the mistake, the wrongdoer about the virtue of the person against whom you committed that sin or for that mistake, let's say you you spoke something bad about someone else.

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Then you remind him, you know, you know whom you're talking about here. Do you know who this person is in the community? This brother has been in this community for the past 35 years. And this brother he has done so and so this party has done so and so it is all right, to remind that people have the virtue of this individual specifically, if that individual is absent.

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You remind them

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That this man or this woman, they deserve the respect the ultimate respect from you, you don't don't talk about them like this, it could be at work could be in their family. So the person who should always remind others about their manners and their and their, their virtues, and one of the occasion that was mentioned said Buhari,

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la casa de again they were best friends, but even among best friends, you have some issues sometimes

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azada Abu Bakr Siddiq Amaro de la and so I'm gonna have another hot tub I know because they had some issues. Alba could get upset with Robocop top of the line. So

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when he got upset eventually, as a matter of fact, it was over close a deal when he when he met, upset and angry.

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He went and he apologized. He went and he apologized to Omar Omar louder and he did not accept that apology.

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I mean, I know in our own ideal, ideally, any perception of the life of the Sahaba or the allotted item, you would say how come some Hannover Crusaders and Armada get upset with each other. They're still somehow they're still human beings. It just happens between two humans in this case, and Bobby insisted on his position. He didn't want to accept the apology. Maybe not now at least, but soon he will just accept that apology but just give me some time. Over cross so they gave his apology Takata Omar did not accept the apology Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam he got upset himself for how the Burnaby sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.

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He got upset for his friend overgrowth. And he mentioned that drama ricotta Kala in Allahabad en la come for Colton kidnapped. He said listen to me. Because when Allah subhanho wa Taala send me to you, the people of Mecca. You all said You lied. And the workers said you told the truth. You're right. From the first day, no question asked, because I'm on compared to the workers. So this was a little bit later, when he became Muslim. Are they allowed to Qatar time for him before he became Muslim, and overcrowded from day one? So the Prophet told him in the Leviathan Aleikum, Allah sent me to you. And you said, You lie. But because they've caught us up, they said you're telling the

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truth. While we're sunny? BNF See, he he supported me. He supported me support emotionally, personally and with his worth as well. pile of antem tariku Lisa heavy. Well, antem tariku Lisa heavy, the proper repeat that twice. He says he says Aren't you going to leave my friend for me? Which means don't hurt me with my friend. Leave my friend. Don't do that to him. He mentioned that twice. I want to live with Sarah Marie Kondo cama para de la firma Ooh, the bad adeleke avida. No one dared after that hurt, okay, so do

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you know sometimes people they have specific again, status in the community, in your family, and whatever actually organization that you deal with, we should we should recognize them for the good doing. Imagine people who would just spend 30 years 35 years of their lifetime just doing everything for the sake of our last panel that if you submit a large budget, but then there's still human beings, I know that some of them at that age, perhaps they would love to now keep their legacy. So they might make some mistakes and leadership,

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decisions and so on. That might might instigate, let's say, hatred creating fitna among the younger generations, those who would like to take over and so on. That doesn't mean we go and we neglect all their virtues, we have to recognize that they have purchase overs, same thing, you might have, let's say a committee woman committee, for example, one of the sisters, she's been teaching for the past five years, six years, 10 years on them as a new generation come doesn't mean to stop all their activities and programs, just because now we need to have a new era, you still need to recognize those people, making sure that we give them again, the position and the status that they deserve in

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the society and in the community.

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One of the techniques of the Prophet sallallahu wasallam, in correcting people's mistakes as well. So what Allah has said Imani is specifically if you have a position of leadership and you have authority that you personally interfere as much as possible to defuse the problems. You just cannot just be just watching it and let everything you know happen and until it fades out until it just dies out. You have a position of leadership. If you have any authority, you are responsible to interfere as much as you can one of these occasions the profits are what allow us that our money in one of those most difficult times of the profit in his commission, his mission, as a as a messenger

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of Allah, the habit of when they accused I should not be allowed to run human woman in the accuser of committing a sin. The sense of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam was was stressed out for so long. Some of the Sahaba of the Lord in Arnhem unfortunately they fell into that mistake and they also spoke. Ill

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Via Chateau de la talana. After almost a month, the profits are about the lower soleimani. overheating these these words and these statements from some of those people, he got very upset sallallahu sallam. So he was very stressed out and very sad and grieved by those vital statements. So he came on the member, he come on remember salatu wa ceremony, and he talked to the community. And he mentioned to them his position that Listen, I've heard some people speak and so on. So about my wife Hola, Madame de la Ilaha. I haven't seen anything but good for my family. So is there anyone who can help me out and make these people be quiet and stop talking about my family? So one of those

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I have already learned from the answer God Allah, so Allah, if he was from us, meaning from our tribes and so on, we will definitely will take care of him. And if he was from our of our burdens, of the other branch of the answer is, we will also take care of him for you. So one of the Sahaba who is from the other branch can get Danny, the feeling of Hermia the tribalism in you kicked in eventually, and you can call la la, you would never be you will never we'd never even allow you to touch any one of us. So there's a habit from the other side of the circle in the community to continue to know everything. Now they start labeling each other with words you couldn't even imagine

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would come out from the model. So what are they allowed? And I know, he said, You are a munafo can you defend there's another one I feel like you and that's one photographer.

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They almost are now fighting intimacy.

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Sounds familiar, right?

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Many communities unfortunately go through these these things aren't sometimes. So eventually Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam he proved himself interfered himself. He started trying his best to make to to separate between the two parties, reminding them again until they start until the start wasn't easy, of course, but he interfered personally Salawat the law was that amaray to stop this fitna from taking you know to the next level. Another example when one of the uncertain the Mahajan this time. There are at a water source for Gasol and L. Mahajan. I'm sorry. So they had some another issue between one of them Mahajan, one of the answer? So they got upset with each other, again

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tribalism at a different level now, so that muhajir starts calling the almajiri. I'm calling my dear brothers the mohajirs. Well answer, it starts calling the answer. The answer such a such calling is on is on federal Ansari. And they almost fought over this whatever personal issues these two individual had. Rasulullah is sort of blossom, overhearing the conversation and they heard the Lord the loud voices. He came out checking what's going on. And he realized what was happening. Carla was Jay Haley, oh anabaena What is this, you're going back again to the jelly, the time of the jelly or the time of ignorance, when I'm still alive amongst you. Then he said sallallahu wasallam do have an

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montina leave it It stinks. It stinks. Which means it's not worth it to fight over these causes. We also have some of these issues and our massages how many massages you guys you know in some communities, whenever you whenever they talk about the massages, what do they say even though the measure is called measure the Raman measure the side of hand measure it's on so but among the community, what do they call this message in the call measure the little Pakistani in and the measure of the Somalis and the measure of the Arab and all that stuff and so on. They call them again the tribal lines, even when in the same messages, you will have sometimes activities based on

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racial lines. And sometimes just like the muhajir and dansa you have the born Muslims versus the converts. All these things happen in some Muslim communities. And if they do happen in our community, and inshallah they will not happen here. If they do happen, they need to be brought to the attention of the leadership in sha Allah, Allah to make sure that we don't have these issues ever will ever come, you know, to create a fitna amongst ourselves, the prophets of Allah Allah We call this montina is it's really stinks, which means it's really create fitna that stinks a lot. And he said Salah Salem This is Elijah Hillier, these are acts and a lot of the ignorant. So as Muslims

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we should avoid such and such matters such tribalism, regardless of the reason we should not be calling people based on these tribal, tribal tribal lines. And finally, whenever Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, whenever a sort of law history law salon here

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invites people to correct their mistakes. His men, his men principle or concerns about the law he was allamani is that he wants the people to come back willingly to the hack and the truth. I mean, we can use the authority to force people to follow the heart and the truth and that's when people don't comply. But the purpose of doing that is just to read to make the people realize their mistakes and willingly

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Come back and return back to Allah subhanho wa Taala onto the hub. And Rasulullah sallallahu wasallam. One day he came into the house one night, as a matter of fact, he came to the house of Fatima, his wife, his daughter, his daughter, and her husband. I live in La Jolla, and he came into the house of Allah and Fatima. They were in their bed already. So they're preparing to go to sleep. So Rasulullah has said the last time you saw them for Carlos Salatu, salam, Allah to saloon mnla he said, What's wrong with you? Why don't you stand up the nuclear family.

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So this is basically this is basically not just the cousin of olive oil, it is taken to him. He is the Messenger of Allah and his his father in law, his father in law acting in the house Valley like his being like my house because he is living in his house sallallahu wasallam as well. So these are like his children. So he's telling his kids and his children then to stand up and wake up and do family the preacher aka I live in a Torah the law of the land like another young man, and Mashallah we always kind of have our answers ready for these kind of discussions. So for tala, tala in NEMA and fusina via the law, it means our souls are in the hands of Allah subhana wa, Donna, French and

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Nirvana. If Allah was that we wake up Okay, I'm gonna work okay. Amani,

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isn't that what we usually say? I'll just put it in the hands of Allah. If Allah wants me to wake up or pm will inshallah will happen and you've been trying that for the past 25 years of your life.

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So I live in a bit of he said those words Rasulullah sallallahu taala. And he didn't want to argue with him. He didn't stop there says are you serious? What are you talking about? Wake up come on. He didn't say that. Photo la sala Ceylon. Toma Yoruba. He was striking on his thigh sallallahu Sallam just like and being disapproved of what is it, showing me that he was not happy with that response from Alibaba, we thought of Cora, when he started the iPhone sort of caught our candle in Santa Clara in Jeddah. His insan is indeed the most argumentative being or creature. And that's exactly what it is. He was parents, you have these experiences with your children, right? Regardless, today,

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Marshall, even the youngest now can be more argumentative. You talk to them about their homework, they can give you all these fancy excuses. They become national teenagers, they have all the reasons ready. And as they grow older, they have all that stuff. So they're ready to fight. They don't even know the scope of what they're talking about. But they're not they know enough at least to to fight for their own what they consider, right. And they're helpful, even though as an adult, you know better than them, perhaps because you have experienced in that, but they will not listen, just like in this in this story. The point is there a sort of law, his civil law, some he didn't want to force

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anything on Ali and Fatima instead, he just was reminding them, reminding him that this is wrong what you said, you better, you better realize that what you said was wrong and do the right thing. Of course Rasulullah has the lesson he had the authority if you want to sort of allow Samadhi but he rather the day, reflect and return back to the hub themselves are they allowed to animal down Finally, there are so many actually have the etiquette of the prophets of Allah Solomon how to handle people's mistakes on individual basis on community level, and actually, and then the entire oma altogether and but we didn't need to realize the three most important things. Number one is that

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correcting other people's mistakes or even trying to help people out and realizing their mistakes is considered watchable. nasiha is basically a person obligation in terms of delivering the naziha and advice to your brothers and sisters, as part of an honorable Morrow for Nana monka. So if you're in a position to correct someone's mistake, regardless of the magnitude of that mistake, then you should do that. But of course, when you do that, when you do that, which brings us to the second point, doing it has to be done in a proper way. Which means you need to learn the etiquette of Dawa, learning, the etiquette of Dawa and how to approach people you might be right in terms of

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correcting their mistakes, you might be right that you have the principle right. But you might be wrong in the way and the method you have chosen to correct the people mistake. So be careful with that. Learn the etiquette and the proper approach on how to fix people's mistakes. And finally, we need to realize from what we've learned the diversity of these methods and techniques, there isn't one way only to fix that problem. Some people they only know one thing, whenever there's a mistake, they just speak out loud and they leave

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the thing and the so astonishing about that technique is that they never stand or wait to hear the response.

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They just throw this one and they leave and that's it. That's not an etiquette. You need to realize that yes, you have the hook and logic to help people out. Then you need to know to do it in the proper way inshallah tada but you also need to realize there are more than one way of doing it. So if you know that someone else can do a better job, you

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Talk to them, if you talk to them at the moment might be difficult. So let it be sometime later. So try to learn these different techniques of the prophets are about to live with ceremony and diversify your method of approaching the person. You know, try to diversify as much as possible so that you can bring the best outcome shallow data for those people to fix their mistakes and shallow data acknowledge the hub and follow that. Well, Donna also line Amina Mohammed Another early or Samuelsson. Any question Gemma?

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By the way, I cannot see you guys. So if someone can turn the lights on, appreciate it.

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That's okay, Any question?

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Yes, sometimes.

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Sometimes there's a crowd of people that aren't.

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Like, I've faced this situation quite a bit with my older friends.

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And instead of like

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telling them what's right and wrong,

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you know,

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doing things the right way.

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So the question is, if people keep attacking you because you've been right, eventually, every time they do something wrong, you tell them by the way, this is wrong, we shouldn't be doing that. And then next time you see them again, you remind them they say basically they say after some time, they would realize that you're just after them and you're not gonna quit or stop keep harassing them with your right attitudes. So they start giving you these names like, you know, here's the halal haram guy, the Haram police and all that stuff and so on making all these things, should you stop and quit advising the people? The answer is no.

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Because your job is not guiding the people. Your job is delivering the message Allah subhanho wa Taala says about the Prophet sallallahu wasallam Allah wa rasuluh lol Bella movie that are assumed his responsibility was just to give the developer the delivery of the message. As for guidance, Allah subhanho wa Taala says, lay salako down, it's not for you to guide people what an ally diminisher garrison, Danna vilazodone, is the reason you're talking to them is because you love them, you care for them. And that's what they need to know. They need to know that you're coming to them, not just for the sake of ruining their sessions and their entertainment and so on. Instead,

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you just trying to save them trying to let them know that what they're doing is right or wrong. However, it also depends, just like we spoken in the previous sessions, it depends on what you consider a mistake or wrong. For you, it could be wrong, but for them, What's so wrong about it. So when they have the discussion, they don't really mean to fight against your statement as much as maybe they just want to have clarification. Again, that doesn't mean to stop giving the advice. Your job is to give the advice, accepting that that's not for you. They need to accept that if they want to. And that was with the last panel with an Alanna.

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Well, the people that will start talking about Sharia law, have done something wrong.

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Well, she was she was accused of basically of leaving the Prophet sallallahu sallam, you know, for some for another man. That's what they said. But that's of course was a lie. And Allah subhanho wa Taala mentioned that in the Quran, that these people were just trying to instigate hate and creating fitna in the community.

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about you or about someone else.

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So what do you do? How do you deal with students with your fellow basically students in school who keep saying things about other people that you don't like and so on? Just like we said, you usually talk to them in a nice way. If you know that they're doing wrong, what's they saying wrong? You talk to them in a nice way that you know, I don't want to hear that.

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Bushra. So basically, if someone comes to you and they start talking bad about someone else, what do you tell them? So you know what, honestly, I don't like to hear you know, bad things about other people. We are but she did so and so she said so and so. Honestly, I'd rather not to talk about them. I don't like that this is called backbiting and I don't like to get into backbiting.

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You don't have to support your friends basically, whenever they do something wrong, but you still can try to help them out to shala quit these kind of bad habits clear? Yes.

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How do you go about a Muslim friend who's going about in school, perhaps, you know, they're doing the bad things, and propagating among the people that they're Muslims. So everybody knows they're Muslims, and what they know about this Muslim that he or she is doing very bad stuff. So how do you go about it? Again, this person could be a good source of data for you, or good, basically a project of data, you talk to them, you remind them, maybe they need your help. Maybe they have some issues at home, maybe they don't know how to go about it, maybe they never had the exposure to the dean, and the right way. So in this case, you need to help them out, help them out, if you could not,

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maybe you need to bring some, some help from outside. If it's something that it's really, really dangerous and serious, that requires parents attention, it becomes a responsibility that you bring this to their attention, because it's very, very dangerous matters. So it depends on the circumstances.

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And the last question.

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So say,

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you have to meet a woman for work or whatnot, or you're doing a business transaction or something.

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And so, you know, the woman's like, Hi, my name. So

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one of the brothers

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awkward moment where she's like,

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Well, in this case, the scenario eventually, it's basically, you'll be, you'll be open about it, if they know themselves, and in their own culture, not everybody really follows the tradition, right? People, they know that this is wrong in their own in their own faith, and their own religion, and so on. But some people, they're still doing that. So Muslims are the same thing they have, you know, all these shades of the spectrum from far right to far left and in between, if you think your situation was awkward, imagine me giving a talk for non Muslims, basically. And some of them asked me the same question. They said, you know, we've seen that some Muslim don't shake hands and so on.

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So what is that I said, well, the Prophet sallallahu sallam, he never shook hands with a woman. And he basically that was his, his traditions are about the love of ceremony and the Muslims, those who would like to adhere to his tradition, his Sunnah, they would avoid that out of respect, not that there is an issue with the woman, or not that they're just basically the sharpness or they're trying to make a political statement against women. And so now it just simply is the tradition of the Prophet sallallahu sallam, which is also followed in other cultures and other religions. Even in the Orthodox Jewish tradition, they follow the same thing. And even in some ultra conservative Christian

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communities, they all followed also the follow the same thing. So I was mentioning that and so basically, therefore, if you come you don't, you know, any handshake if you don't have to start but if they do, that's the issue. When I finished the conversation, and the talk group of people came to me, one of them was the lady Actually, she also came to ask a question, one Muslim brother from the audience came, and he said, she works with him. I think she was she works with him in an office. So he goes in front of me even inform her said, Oh, how are you and he wants to shake hands with her. The lady she blushed, and she feels so awkward, and she stopped putting your hands back.

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She shake hands with him every day. Of course, that was at work, perhaps. But at that moment, she had she received the new knowledge. And she felt that maybe I'm not I'm not supposed to do that anymore. So eventually, he forced her to put her hand in his hand. And I was looking at him and is just shaking my head as Delilah and we just made the whole conversation I now hold talk and I'm answering a question you know that women they ask themselves and now look how the Muslims they do that. So what are you gonna do about again, I would say if you hold your ground for example, and you give your interpretation to people, they will respect that knowing that you you explain to them that

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it's really seriously it's it's about Yanni out of respect, respect for too many things respect for your own, do your own tradition, your own position, also respect to the woman and reflect on their manners. It's basically it's it's a tradition that we hold as the son of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. While louder and clearer and shorter next week when we come back with Milan we will have a new lecture series. So after santosha in the long run,

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