Wasim Kempson – The Hot Topic – Q and A

Wasim Kempson
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Smilla Rahmanir Rahim Bismillah Alhamdulillah wa salatu salam ala Rasulillah while earlier sappiamo Bala Salaam Alaikum wa Rahmatullahi wa barakato

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welcome on behalf of Mr. Khan to our second part, a part two of the hot topics and we ask Allah azza wa jal to bless our guest this week and our guests for the last week and all of the attendees and all of those who are watching Inshallah, before we start, I wanted to make a note that these these hot topics, the questions are chosen from the questions submitted online, and we are going to tell the machines beforehand and these questions are going to be taken as to avoid repetition and to avoid the these topics or these answers becoming just a yes or no answer. The point behind this is that the machinery and our guests have time beforehand to answer the questions as our listeners

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would love to hear the answers in detail, and a comprehensive answer Hamdulillah. Today, we have a guest that is one of Jani, the new ones that Furqan and it's our pleasure and honor to have him it's none other than Cher was in cancer hospital Allah, the share who was born and raised in London in the UK, and he accepted Islam in the year 1994 Shortly after three years after he travelled to the Islamic University of Medina where he studied Arabic and studied his Bachelor's in colleage Sharia and then upon returning to the UK he completed his master's in Islamic in Islamic law, as our university has been involved since his return to the UK many institutes schools and Islamic TV

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channels such as UCLA TV, Islam channel Hooda. TV and previously producing a number of Islamic theories. He currently works with mercy to humanity charity, discover Islam, and najem sports chef and author Olympic

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salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato. I said,

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mashallah, Chef, as mentioned you you've been involved in the Dow for a long time mashallah you graduate from the Islamic University of Medina in the year 2004. And before we only start into the question stuff, I want wanted to ask you, What lessons do you have from this long time in Tao what lessons can you share with us here at this Masjid?

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Smilla Rahmanir Rahim Al hamdu lillah wa salatu salam ala Rasulillah wa the early he was Javier Moreno tres belongs to Allah Amida piecing blessings of Allah Jalla wa Allah be upon His final messenger Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.

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with regards to lessons, over any period of time and our

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there are so many lessons that can be I personally have taken personally read and listen to.

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I think the more you are involved in trying to educate yourself first and foremost, and then imparting that, whatever you see as beneficial knowledge on to others, you get the the smallest of experience and taste

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for what it was like and following the way of the prophets and messengers, Allah salatu salam, because this is why a lot about the Quran or send them to teach the people. And if you engage in such a noble

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path, then you're following the way of the prophets doesn't mean that you have to be leading the prayer in the masjid, or have gone to an Islamic University. But each and every single one of you can follow and tread the path of the prophets.

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It is not exclusive to any one group of people. In fact, it is a mobile app, it is requested for life from all Muslims, to follow in the way of the prophets I am Salam in that how you're going to teach and benefit one another. So I guess that's one of the greatest things that I

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you know, you can claim that you are following the way of our beloved Nabi SallAllahu, alayhi wa sallam, you also come across the, the struggles and the trials and the patience that's necessary and that is needed to be involved in, in such an endeavor. And no doubt that it is not easy. There are times when

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it requires you to, you know, be alone and study to read and to benefit and, and then also, to share that with others. Sometimes you get responses from people who don't like what you have to say, at times there are people they react in a way which maybe he's not

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full of wisdom, but always, you know, you look back to the way that the Prophet alayhi salatu salam that he would deal with so many different types of people

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And you try to follow that. And I think that

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this is one of the the best lessons or the great lessons that I can take from is that there is no better way that you can spend your time in learning the deen of Allah subhanaw taala and then trying to share that benefit with others. And if you're able to

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give that knowledge to other people, then you have fulfilled a great responsibility in your life. Well over to Adam, circle here share.

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One of the questions we received, it says when and just sticking to the theme of Dhawan, given the hour says, when given the hour, should we call to hate always if we don't know the condition of the people? Or is it better to speak about things such as o'clock on character morals instead?

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So this is, I think,

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a very important question to ask.

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And I think the one who's asking the question has maybe noticed that there are a number of currently, if you like, a number of different approaches, in how to educate people and how people bring people to, to Islam or closer to Islam.

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Bearing in mind, now, we live in a time where there are so many different ways and means to, to engage with people, whether it's through devices or through whatever means, like technology you have in this day, not to say that you cannot benefit from them. But yes, of course you can. So, different types of people, there are atheists there, agnostics, there are people who follow all different types of religion, or living in one place. Maybe once upon a time, you find, although atheists really didn't pretty much exist, not so long ago, they were very, very few. But you found Christians in one place, you found Hindus in one place, Buddhists in one place, and Muslim in another place.

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But now the world is all mixed up. You find all different religions, especially here in the UK, everybody's living together. So maybe the person thinks that I have to address different people in or from a different perspective. Now, if I'm talking to people of Deanne, or Christians or Jews or people who believe in Allah, in a creator, then we can focus on the tau heat somewhat, we can focus on the Oneness of Allah subhanaw taala. And if people are not adhering to a religion, maybe we can talk about things, when it's to do with technology, or medicine, or miracles, or maybe the importance of Tawheed. For some, they seem as well, they're not a theist.

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They're an anti theist, they're not a religious person. So what am I talking about the to hate of Allah azza wa jal, in the first place, I need to come from a different perspective. Now, this may be the case, but I think it is, it is cool. It is an absolute centerpiece, that whenever we are speaking to any person, regardless of their background, even if they identify as a person who says, I don't believe in a creator,

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which one might want to call an atheist, if you actually go on a journey with that person who have a conversation with that person, and the breakdown, actually what they believe. And it comes back to that nothing made nothing, which is completely illogical, makes utterly no sense. Every single one of them will be forced to say, if they're honest with themselves, maybe there's something but I don't want to call it God, or I don't want to call it a creator. I don't want to give a name.

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So there's an element of arrogance. But the point being, that every single one of them, you will come to a time in the conversation that they will have to admit, but nothing concrete, nothing is impossible. You can't believe that. It's not sensical at all. And you believe yourself to be an intellectual and academic, basing whatever you believe on logic, but that's the most illogical thing that you can, as a conclusion come to. So everyone believes in something.

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Therefore, this being the case,

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this, whatever you want to call it, that whether they call themselves

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to Hades central to all of the calls that you will make, and the way that you deliver their messages can differ, can absolutely differ. And you can see the different ways that the Prophet alayhi wa sallam that they spoke to the tyrannical leaders or whoever they were at the time where there's Ibrahim alayhis salam, or Musala Sara Manohara Salam where the stories are mentioned in detail, and the the disbelief of those different Acoma differ, they're not the same.

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So therefore, our approach Yes, can be different. But ultimately, we're calling them back to recognize that there is an Isla Hula, hula, Huck, there is a true deity that is Allah subhanaw taala and for them to remove whatever arrogance that they have

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to be humble in

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The one who made everything. So I think a toe heat is essential to all of the calls that we make, regardless of the audience. And I think is a mistake with some who are just focusing maybe

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with the hour with and focusing on one aspect alone, whether it has to do with

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the veracity of the, you know, the Bible itself, as an example, they're focusing on that it is

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being made up, tampered with and so on and so forth. Which they couldn't come to a conclusion in 1001 different ways, but never delivered the message of tau hate the Oneness of Allah subhanaw taala yes, there may be messages that the Quran has never been tampered with your books tampered with and ours isn't tampered with. Okay, what are we convincing the person with? There is no Nabhi no prophet that was sent by Allah subhanaw taala except that they called their people to the Oneness of Allah subhanaw taala this is the way of Allah Allahu Allah. And I think that that is key for us to whatever discussion you have with somebody to find where that you can make this to go back to point.

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One longtown Isla metaphilosophy Chef,

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with an aspiring student of knowledge, asking and saying, when someone's looking and seeking knowledge through these multiple avenues and massage the mache, how do you deal with certain massage? They don't show you warning against others, and telling you don't take from this machine don't take from that person. How do you deal with us tuna?

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So this is

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an ongoing issue, not just maybe, you know, over the past six months, couple of years, this is an ongoing issue for

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I guess I can talk back from my own personal experience maybe for nearly 30 years, it's not a new experience. And I'm sure that those are more for knowledgeable and have more experienced than I that they will have similar experience to some extent.

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That's with regards to this these issues is if we remember certain things, that there is a time and a place to make in Karanka to reject and to call out something that's wrong. There are times for that and that there are ways to do that. Absolutely. Okay. And there are times where you have to weigh up musalia And mythos it the pros and cons of whatever action that you are going to do. Now these are important principles for us to remember because these principles in our deen Okay, the Prophet alayhi wa sallam told us that if anyone sees you or sees a monkey the value of a euro will be added. If you see something that is wrong, then you physically change it change it for LM Foster

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prostrata phobia they have really Cerny if you're able to do that with your tongue verbally for 11 plus 44, because with your heart with alcohol by volume and and that is the maybe the lowest level of Eman. So, there are larger levels of cooling are wrong. There are also ways of calling out a wrong meaning that as I mentioned weighing up the pros and cons

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applying this now to specific issues that are ongoing and continuing whether or who you are listening to a particular Scala particular shake,

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I as far as I can see, as far as I can extract

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that all of this are these issues of

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calling out people in different ways. A tip here saying people are from innovation or there be there, the professor warned us of beta so it does exist. And we have to call it out those that are clear and apparent. But this is kind of

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unguided way of dealing with one another. Over the past however, I can see many years has only led has only led to weaknesses within our communities.

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Don't misunderstand me when I say that, but our deen represents calling out on standing up for the truth. No Muslim will disagree with that.

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But there are so many things to look at. You know, they were mentioned liaison over time in Almighty Allah Akbar here in El haka, they will always remain a small group of my own upon the HAC, they would call it an operations, monetary fee. We don't want to disagree with these things.

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But a lot of our code tells us well aterna zero and you don't differ with yourselves why FATF Shodo because you will fail. What everybody welcome and your whatever,

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whatever strength that you have will disappear.

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So you can look out over the past 25 years. 30 years

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Well, we've had many students of knowledge graduate from Islamic universities, Medina, Jim Eslami, Oman, Cora and Riyadh, and Al Azhar and previously in places in Syria as well, and he will tell them what they have learned.

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But if you think about on the ground, and maybe you're to count maybe into the hundreds to label

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to label and you know, students of knowledge, come back to the UK,

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the amount of people who have studied with Kibera or lemma major scholars, what is the third era?

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What is the fruit? And what has what positive impact has that had on us and we have a year here now, in the year 2022, you're gonna go back to this the 1990. Okay, how many years we're looking at 32 years?

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How our communities with our students of knowledge with our Messiah, or do we still find splinter groups, Splinter masajid people bickering, people arguing,

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we find ourselves where we're chopping any progress we have.

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So, we may have to relook at what we are doing. Not to say we are not being not principled regarding calling out what is hot and what is right.

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But there is definitely some things that need to be re looked at as communities how we support one another, how we advise one another,

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how we advise one another and the intention behind the knows the intention behind the advice that is given to one another. And I think on another level, there has been great progress, because there are mashallah many more students of knowledge than they were maybe 25 years ago, there are many, many more Masha Allah, many more people learning Arabic and learning Quran and so on, which is a beautiful thing. But also we have to make sure that that benefits our communities, and those things which are splitting our communities,

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and weakening our communities, we have to look at that and try to remedy that remedy that Willow Adam,

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circle Hersha.

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May Allah reward you for that many of the questions we actually receive are related to family relationships and family sort of ties of kinship, and relationship with parents and so on. So we received a few questions related to that, I wanted to ask you, the first of them was a 17 year olds asking, where is sort of the limit of obedience to your parents. And when your parents come to you and tell you things that shave your beard, you know, we don't want you to have the sideburns, they don't look nice.

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And then you get told when you're 18, you can sort of make your own life decisions. Do you have to obey your parents in that? Or is there a line?

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So when you receive a question, the answers will differ. Sometimes there is an answer, which gives you the solution straight away.

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So when I made my window, I made my window and I left out my right arm.

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I'm not gonna go pray now. So is that okay? The answer very, very quickly, is that you need to go back and make you will do it again. Why? Because you left out a fob, you left out something that requires to be washed, you can't do half of the world or missing. So the answer is very quick. The solution is very, very simple. There are questions that are like this.

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There are other questions that come that require yes or no answer. But sometimes that the answer doesn't come immediately, meaning that you're going to need to wait a little while or you're going to need to work on a situation to get the desired effect or to find the necessary solution.

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At times, we will all questions that are posed to a person that they're in the first category that ever I've got a son who's not listening to me, or I've got a problem my family, my wife or husband that they want a solution, like the model, but not always you can find an answer like this. And at times the answer that is given to be honest.

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I don't have the answer to give you the solution. I can give you some maybe guidance to resolve the situation. But the onus really is upon you to work on the situation seeking knowledge validate doing the best you can to turn the ship around. You know, sometimes another example The speedboat turns around really quickly. A ship sometimes takes a long time to turn around. Sometimes situations are like this. So if you have a parents, they're saying

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we don't want you to have a beard that maybe you don't look nice and Islam encourages you to look nice. So you should remove it.

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But when you're 18, then okay, you're you're a man. No, you're a man. No, and you can do as you wish. No doubt, no doubt the parents have

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a very wrong understanding concerning when you become a man or a woman for that matter in Islam, when that starts, it's not when you're 18. Okay? Could be another country could you're an adult when you're 21.

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So it's not the state, if you like that defines when you're an adult with regards to what is due to Allah subhanaw taala is when you become obese age of puberty, these things become

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Farber wajib, upon you.

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If your parents have this view, regarding the beard,

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I would say to try and find always the middle ground, where you are not causing a greater fitna a greater harm in the home. But to sit them down, maybe. And so you know what Islam does encourage you to look smart.

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I agree with you 100%. And the way that you approach your parents is not condescending, is not in a way that you look like you're making fun of it. No, and you don't know. You can say, well, you know, I didn't know that, in that way that you're seeing it, maybe we can ask, you know, a personal knowledge to advise us. Or we can find, you know, some ruling or some guidance or something which is on the social media to give advice about what the beard is, and who should have a beard and how you should have a beard, okay? Sometimes the answer is coming from you directly as a son on this matter, may not be taken the best way. So you can deliver the answer, some from somebody else that they may

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listen to, and they may respect. So you can deliver the answer this way. Okay. But always looking to make sure that you preserve the relationship between you and your parents. That's an absolute must. Even though they may call you to something which is wrong for naughty Houma. As Allah subhanaw taala tells us that if the command you do do something which is against the law of Allah, Allah, Allah, then you have the right to say, respectfully, that I cannot disobey Allah subhanaw taala in that.

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So my dedication and my worship and love for my Lord is shown and in my salah, and following the way of the Prophet alayhi salatu salam, and I want to emulate the prophet Elijah the best I can. And I know that he had a beard sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, so therefore, I want to be like him. And it saddens me and I feel bad that you would ask me not to be like the Prophet alayhi salatu salam in something like this.

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If when I reach ating, I can do it well.

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If it is the fact that that you in Islam to look good, why would you then say you can look as you like after you're 18, that doesn't make any sense.

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So if you look at preserving and protecting the relationship you have with your parents, and see yourself as an educator,

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and trying to teach your parents, whether it's to do with the beard, or you wearing the hijab, try to deliver the message to them in a way that is full of wisdom. And maybe at times, it doesn't have to come from you. It can come in an indirect way that you can go to a source online that you will respect and you listen to, and then maybe the it could be the lecture that doesn't directly talk about it. But you know, you've pre seen the video, and you know, that that this particular point may be mentioned in the video might get away with this once or twice, I don't know.

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And then you watch the video together as a family and then that point is mentioned. And then of course the the message is delivered.

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Well, okay.

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Medical Luffy

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one of the questions we receive someone saying that I know the rights of the parents and I have made a made my father upset numerous times before. So now that I know the rights of the parents, I have apologized to my father, I've done so far to Allah azza wa jal. But will I still be held accountable for this? And what tips do you have to remedy that relationship?

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So as I kind of was mentioned previously, that the rights of parents, the mother and the father,

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have the greatest right over you, from I'll hug from who's you know, the relationship you have with any human being, no one has a greater weight over you than your mother and your father.

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If you've done things in the past, that upset or involved in disobeying your parents, and then you realize your mistake, you realize that you've done wrong

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and the number one thing that you do is what is to repent and to ask Allah Allah, Allah to forgive you.

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But because it has to do also to do with their Huck of the right of somebody else, that you have gone unspoken to your father or could be your mother, and that you've asked them to forgive you for the wrong mistakes that you have done. And if they forgive you

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Then you do whatever you can to make up for the shortcomings and the time that you did not serve your parents. Because the time that you have in serving your parents is limited. Meaning the time how many years you have none of us we know when how, what duration that is. But Allah Allah, Allah decreed the length of your life and the length of your parents lives. And that you will have a number of years to serve your parents.

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If you didn't serve your parents for four years,

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then you have four years worth of you catching up of serving your parents.

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If you were disobeying whatever time

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you have double the amount in that time to make up whatever you fell short in your parents.

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As for your sin, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said table, commanded them by level that the one who repents to Allah subhanaw taala is the one who has not sinned.

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So Allah subhanaw taala yet could have the noble Jamia Allah Allah Allah forgives all sins. Some of their sins are conditioned with events to do with the rights of others, but you return the rights of those others.

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But if you fell short with regards to your parents,

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the talk I'm sure you've heard many lectures, how the Prophet alayhi salatu salam advised the companions in being good in general to one's parents. Some of them wanted to sacrifice their lives a companion, he comes to him but the messenger of allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he wants to leave and give his rule is soul for the sake of Allah diabolical to Allah.

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The Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam says to him and asks him or your parents alive?

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He says yes, he said Buffy haemophilia hit your jihad, your sacrifices with your parents, before you want to attempt to fight and give for the sake of Allah gelada. Your jihad is there with your parents.

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So we cannot emphasize the importance of

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serving one's parents. They did for you what you can never ever pay back.

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Regardless of what you have ever done,

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you could never give back to your parents is a debt you can never pay back. You continue to pay any metaphorically you continue to give to your parents and give and give and give. But you can never give back to them what they are do. Moreover, we can never worship Allah subhanaw taala enough.

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You can never complete and say I've completed my a bad to Allah, Allah Allah. You can never reach that level. That is, of course the greatest with regards to the creation. Similarly, you can never pay the debt with regards to your parents. So whatever time even if it is, you said, have

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you look back on your time you seek a larger forgiveness and do double

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from the missed misgivings and the shortcomings you did with regards to your parents? Well, Levana Zach mohair, speaking about parents, and I think one of the other topics that comes up regularly is marriage.

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So questions come in about parents not understanding the struggle that we have today when it comes to marriage. And people are saying they find it difficult to find people that are practicing. And then the parents set the conditions that they have to be practicing from the same tribe from the same area back home, just so that they accept it. How do you kind of get your parents to understand the current climate that we live in, and maybe open up to the idea of marrying from other cultures?

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When were you Greek? What made you think that this is more difficult time than times before?

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Did we think that our parents just Masha Allah just came together and it was Masha Allah so easy.

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Why is this Zemon suddenly is Zemon fitna is Zemon Suruga is a time of fitna is a time of difficulty. I can't find somebody to marry my Shahada. I can't control myself. What happened to the people? You don't think that people before you had such trials tribulations and difficulties in getting married?

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Yes, they did. They did. There was

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difficulties in you know people finding

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you know, a partner.

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It could be argued that okay, maybe there is more of a trial maybe because they are more fearful for you. Is their love for you their protection for you?

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Because maybe the person is thinking that oh, they just want to restrict me. They don't want me to do this. They don't want me to do that. They did you ever think? Did you ever think that because maybe if you're not aware

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obviously not a parent.

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What's it like to have children,

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the love and protection, and what you want to do for your children to make sure that they're safe to make that they have the very best. Okay? And so therefore, as a parent, you kind of want to guide them best you can to the best situation.

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But we're living in a time where it's about freedom. It's about I can make my choices and I'm so well informed. And if I find something, then I don't need your advice.

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Though, even though you've been on this earth, for 3040 50 years, Masha, Allah, your experience is not valid. Your experience is not valid to the times that I'm living in now. I was just thinking about this, that those people who are living in a time now, if you like,

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maybe, let's say you were born around, I don't know, around 2000, give or take five years before after you kind of lived in a very similar ish time.

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I was having a conversation with,

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like a chat between somebody, some people on Facebook. And they, you know, they put this thing and they said, if you remember this, you're really old. Have you seen this before? Okay. They said, they put a picture of something you said, if you can remember this, you're really old. And it was something like some game system that came out like 10 years ago,

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10 years ago, and I said, yeah, if you can remember this, you're really old. Thought really, you think you're all this was only out 10 years ago, I said, imagine a time when there was no such games in the first place. This is when you can talk about maybe you're old. So sometimes we can restrict our understanding to our time only. And the thing, it's it's a completely unique experience that nobody has ever had such a system. And Oman girl in the house is answering the question. But I'm just trying to give the context to the mindset people that I found this person, I'm 17, I'm 18, they don't understand me, I want to marry my culture, I want to marry somebody who doesn't speak my

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language, I want to go to another country. Really, you don't think your parents have some love and protection and want the very best for you?

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You have to fundamentally understand that with marriage.

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From an Islamic perspective, it is a joint venture. Sorry to say it's a joint venture, you're an individual, nobody is allowed to be pressured or forced, absolutely not. But your parents are part of your life.

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And part of your decision making as well. Believe it or not, that you can make decisions which at times are not good for you, and be completely oblivious to what you're doing.

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So is extremely important. And it says of course, you have to have balance that the parents are aware of the needs of the youth in this modern day, not to prevent them from things which are good for them. Because again, we to live in some different times as well.

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So the parents on the one hand are appreciative to what's happening. And also to understand the new generation understands the older generation and the older understands the new you kind of educate each other and then inshallah Tada, you can come to a good understanding and you're both on the same page with regards to what you think is best for everybody we're allowed to add other

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following up not sure. question came in about what's the best way for two young people to get to know each other. And I think saying if you don't have a suitable Muharram I people have falling have fallen out with their family members, their brothers their parents is okay for them to kind of get get around that.

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what you find in the Sharia is the everything is geared towards

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protecting us from fitna and protecting us from falling into things which are harmful to us, that Alma facet. Okay. So when anything in the Quran, or anything that shouldn't know, which tells us don't do that is because there's a harm in it, even he may not see as a parent, or you might not see that the harm is even immediate. But somewhere down the line, there is some harm in that. This is a given for us.

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Now, with regards to individuals wanting to or interested in marrying, it's important to do things correct from the start to ensure that things take the correct way. Don't do things broken, and then try to fix it later. Don't do that. Have it fixed from the start and do things properly and do you find that Allah subhanaw taala will bless the whole situation. So the girl she wants to find and fish the right person once he's the right guy.

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Then I can bring into the family. Fitna, fitna, because maybe the girl she finds maybe a good person, maybe she sees him a good guy. He's interested in something else, her hearts gone, even though she had maybe a pure intention about finding the right person, because they can't just bring somebody, some unknown person, or is willing to meet an unknown person. She wants to do some groundwork first. Or for him, for that matter. He wants to do the groundwork first. And then maybe his heart has gone as well. So these things, my advice to you is don't do that. Don't have these like secret meetings to find out who's the right person. And then you want to bring it to your

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family. Maybe you get one highlight one in 100, maybe works out 99

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You fall into fitna, so

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the sister has a really, sister has her father. He interested find out his number

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and do it the correct way. There's not as though you see somebody mashallah on the street, sister, mashallah, I think you're, you don't know anything about how you just saw what she looks like, can I get that number? Maybe she's married. And this has happened. Don't do things like that as well. There are many ways to do you know, the thing correctly, even modern ways of doing things, whether it's online, and modern applications, which Alhamdulillah have luxury, ways of doing things. If there's a contacting assist that has a profile, then if maybe you notice a beginning, contact this early immediately involved.

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So you're protecting every and all of the parties. Okay, so avoid fitna and don't think that your heart is somehow protected from falling into you know, these Fitton. You know, we are very weak. We are very weak human beings. And the Prophet RSM told us that there was no greater fitna, they left behind a bar Allah Allah JAL, Mina, Nisa, there's no severe fitna that was left behind, then the test of women

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under the Oh will fit under for B'nai Israel was in women. So we have to be very careful in dealing with the opposite

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* with regards to finding a spouse, do it correctly, do it respectfully. And then you will find our last round to Allah if to ALEC, Allah azza wa jal will open the way for you. But you do things wrong. And this is how you find that there are many situations where a lot of mistakes if it was done correctly, in the first place, we wouldn't be in this place. Now. Zach Lakeisha.

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Moving on to friends, if you're on a friendship group, that's misguiding you making it difficult for you to stay up on steadfastness. What do you do? Do you kind of stay in the friendship group and try to guide them with you? Or do you abandon your friends and let them be?

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So friendship in Islam, the companions that you have is, do we have guidance on that? Absolutely, we do. Absolutely, we do. So the Prophet sallallahu Sallam told us our motto Aladeen kalila is what the person has upon the religion and the way of his friends. So be careful whom you mix with.

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Not the examples that the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam gave an example of the one who mixes with good people is like who mixes with a perfume seller, you know, the Hadith. And the one who has bad company is like the one who is has a friend is a blacksmith places dirty, smelly, and he ruins your clothes. So having good companions who remind you of Allah subhanaw taala that if you were to say foul about word, they, they'd pull you up.

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These are the kinds of friends that were kind of espousing what you should be having. If you're in a group where language is not looked at, people are using swear words and foul language that you on the one hand, may fall into saying it. And if it said, maybe you don't say anything, so maybe okay, I'm not saying anything. I don't say bad words.

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But you're not saying anything against it either.

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So one way or the other. You're in a situation.

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But let's say the companions and friends that I have, you know, we're Muslims. were Muslims, but they're not the most practicing Muslims. Do I just say callous? Malema gone? Not interested in you, you hurl people? Is this an approach?

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Well, first of all, I wouldn't speak like this. But if you're in a situation where and places that you're going to

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the places you're going to are absolute haram. My advice to you is not to have the intention. I'm going to go to the Haram places. And I'm going to stay there and give them no see.

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This is you're putting yourself in a very, very dangerous situation.

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Maybe the going to a club or a pub or places of absolute haram but your intention is to go there.

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And to advise them, my advice, don't go to these places and try to advise them from afar is a general advices. Of course, if you can advise them from afar, then better so that you don't expose yourself to such and such dangerous.

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And I think maybe two of the questions I've mentioned maybe three, I've mentioned frequently about protecting yourself from Phaeton not to expose yourself to something which you may fall into. Unknowingly, you don't intend at the store, you're Shania soffia you had a pure intention, but then you ended up falling into it.

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So many a time is the preservation of your deen, which is paramount, the most important thing.

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So do I forsake people it really depends, maybe the Shabaab that you are with maybe they're not going to haram places maybe just at the park playing football but you don't pray. They're not praying for example, well, maybe stay with them play football them or whatever you're going to do with them. But you are going to make Salah

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you when it's time for Salah you come out of the game, and it's time for Salah they're down in numbers

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nothing muscular you can be down in a number I have to offer my salah

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and then you go back to the whatever you're doing with them. So the area that you're in is not haram as such, it's okay it's no problem. But now you can have a positive impact on them by upholding the deen so really should I forsake them really depends on the type of friends you have the places that you go to and you think Can I have a positive effect in on them in a good area? If so, then you go ahead and do that. If it is in a place which is you know very very lots of haram then you fear for yourself, then maybe you can do it from afar. Well love Adam

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Balclutha ik as we come closer to sort of the winter timing, follow time start to kind of get closer and closer. Many of us have work or maybe in university

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and just sort of taking a break every hour or so to offer the solid special or ASAN mother it might be difficult. So is it permissible to combine without a sickness without any valid reasons if it's not raining as well just because obviously to try to accommodate for my work or my education.

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so with regards to timings of the press

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here in the UK, last week, the hour changed. We're praying Zahara What 1215 1230 Something like this, maybe also two to 230 Maghrib 434 40 and then your shell half past five you're done. And another month's time you'll find the Salawat Masha Allah for maybe for Salah within about four hours, like this maybe.

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And we have of course we have very busy lives. All of us are very busy lives, we've got families to feed,

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we have responsibilities at work, because because we are working and if I'm late, my my boss may take money from me.

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And if I am not doing what I'm doing, then I can't get in my desk.

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Now, this is looking at an individual looking at what happens just in front of their eyes. I that I am doing this and I am doing that. And i i i Mimi This is why I'm doing

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then you ask this individual

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Where does Allah terracotta Allah fall within this equation?

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Man heartless duck.

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Who is the provider? Allah okay. So what you are mentioning that what you are doing and this and where does Allah Tabata kata Allah fit within that

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your Salah

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is set specific times Fajr has its time versus time, also Makarov in Asia all have their times in na sala Turkana to Allah meaning thermo Kuta the prayers were established that specific times for the believers.

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The hadith of Gibreel was not called Heads up, but Gibreel Ali Salam taught the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam the Salawat on one day, the beginning time and on the next day toward the Prophet SAW Selim the ending time of the Salawat Okay, the the Prophet Addison was taught this by Gibreel SLM. So time is a clear. So the Prophet sallallahu Sallam when he was a traveler, and in terms of rain, permitted a German permitted the joining of press. So when there were exceptions, there was a joining of the prayer matakauri Up until now everybody's moving in the right direction and everybody's agree

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Going Solo, I have the specific times, Montez. When there are certain exceptions, the prayers or can be joined together and maybe shortened. Montez. Okay. Then the person says, Ibn Abbas Rhodiola and Houma said, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam joined his prayer. In Medina, he was not a traveler,

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no sickness, no rain. But he did that. To make it easy for his Alma.

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This the Hadith person says, to make it easy. Now, what makes it easy for me is because I'm a very busy individual, busy man, busy woman, I'm at college, I'm at uni, you know, to make it easy for me. To make it easy for me, I need to join, I need to join. Okay.

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This is where we come to the crux of the matter, all before everybody agreed. Now, we have an aeration, where the even Abbas rhodiola, and Hama, who is the cousin of the Prophet alayhi salam said that the analysis that I'm joined Chris, with no accept no apparent exception, you could go ahead and do it. Why to make it easy for people.

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If you were to ask

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any person who takes this hadith, and you find them that they're joining Laura Nasser and mocking them day in, day out.

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And just do it once, because it doesn't happen once. It becomes one. So I'm busy again tomorrow. Because usually your routine on a weekly basis is at the same. So if you're busy on Monday, you're going to be busy next Monday. If you're busy on Tuesday, you'll be busy next Tuesday. Okay? And because I was so busy from Monday to Friday, I'm tired as well. So I need to join my presence at again Sunday as well. So you find the person ends up praying what three times a day

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three times a day. Take it from me, take it from me 99% who take this approach, fall into this

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990 9.9% fall into this.

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This is a practical, because you can give the ruling but then you look at how does it impact people.

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So when you ask them

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who explained this hadith to you? Where did you get this shot? How this explanation of this is how you're going to join your prayers like this. The person will say Well, it's my understanding of the Hadith.

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You You made your own shot of the Hadith

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was it right or wrong?

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Well, you know what now you've asked me I don't know. Really. You made your own shot have the Hadith and you're not sure if your shot

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your explanation is correct or not. Meaning if we went to the aroma of the past who explained to these great, the great audible explain these ahaadeeth Whether you go to a Malika Shafi Oh, Ahmed Abu Hanifa Rahim Allah I'll never we have any Hajer How did they explain these narrations

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the person might become a little bit worried.

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For this reason, on all of these matters, don't take things how you just interpret them. Because you know it's there to make Dean's the dean of your dean is easy. Dean is easy, but it's not okay for because now you want to do it. I'm going to just move the Dean how I like it is important that you understand these things correctly. And it was not the practice of the Prophet Allison, day after day joining Salawat just like this.

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This was not the practice of the Prophet Allah Salam and nor the Sahaba or the Orion or more or those who followed them with with the SN, to join your Salawat like this.

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If there was a genuine difficulty, a genuine Masako, which has to be qualified,

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then there may be okay, that can be a German on one of you even as another view, which is called German authority. Where there is an apparent there's an apparent joining of the press whether the person delayed the VOR until its last time and then soon as they finished the her answer time came in, and then they pride ourselves. So it appeared as though that there's a joining of the press. However, Vorinostat were prayed in their times. So this is one of you.

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So the issue is not just simple. I've got difficulty assignments to fill I got a job here and then you end up joining your prayers like this. Take your prayer very seriously. And yes, of course in the winter time, there is an added pressure because the Salawat

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much much closer together. However, do what is necessary for you to

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I pray your prayers on time when the Prophet Ellison was asked about the best of actions, or Salah to allow Actaea to pray the prayer in its time. Meaning was in its time in its earliest time, in its earliest time without

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bulk of

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the question for one of the sisters asking what is the proper Sharia hijab for a woman is wearing and obey a compulsory and what about the niqab and what could be worn inside the house with non Muslims present?

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So, the niqab issue, I can deal with it fairly quickly in that there was a well known healer between the Allameh to valid opinions whether wearing the niqab, the face veil is wajib or not.

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There's differences of opinion icon attempting to come here. And just to say kill off is over this opinions Correct? No, of course not. So there's a genuine and valid killer over that matter.

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So not really,

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to repeat, you know, these issues, I won't talk about too much about that

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as for the hijab, then if you

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go around the Muslim world,

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you will find the Alhamdulillah short, miniature Elazar from the east to the west.

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Human beings wear different types of clothing and different colors. Islam did not come until fifth la cama la Bahia to soda.

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Islam did not come to make words upon you the black

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is the Avaya in this fashion fashion the way it is from head all the way to the feet far to where that no, nobody says that. So, what you find is there I mentioned like shoe route or some principles guiding principles that if these are fulfilled, then this qualifies satisfactory hijab satisfactory hijab, if these conditions are fulfilled, whether you will say seven conditions or eight conditions, okay? So for example, that the garment covers the woman,

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does it have to be one piece? Can it be two pieces, no problem. If it comes in three pieces, no problem. But the garment covers meaning that there's no part of the body which is exposed

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other than of course, the difference of opinion with regards to hands and face other than that, it should be covered.

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And it also should not be see through

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now, I'm jumping like from one to the next. I mean, the evidence is for this of course there's evidence is not from my Jeep or somebody some island picked up from his pocket to say that let's put the shirt let's make it a little bit tricky for them. No. These of course she wrote are mentioned with Adela with evidences.

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So to cover all the body, not to be thin not to be see through.

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Because if it sees who was the point wearing it, so it's not see through.

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It should not be for example,

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showing or displaying the shape of the woman. It does not show her shape.

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Okay, so it's worse here. So it's white.

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It should not be for example, Albus Shura, it shouldn't be like the clothes of the rich and famous that you stand out from others,

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that it smooths out another, they cause you to look at it.

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It's not, if you like resembling the Libous, of wrongdoers and evildoers.

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So with regards to hijab, there are a number of short number of feel like guidelines for you to be put in place if it fulfills that

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the orphan cultural amongst the Muslims within these principles, it's acceptable, it's fine.

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So you may go to certain places where the about the color is yellow, it's yellow, and you go to another places, black, gray and brown, very dark colors. And another place is very light colors is their problem. Murphy butts, Murphy butts, this is what the people were here. And this is what the people were here, these conditions are fulfilled.

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These conditions are fulfilled, that is a labasa salary. This is a you know it can fulfills the conditions of what is required of her. And that is enough.

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So many a time I'm wearing it like this, this this this this, is that allowed. And then another question case by case. And I don't have to go

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Case by case, if you read the conditions, you read the conditions and you can answer yourself.

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Okay? Because maybe you ask the question and you may miss out one little bit? Well, it's kind of, you know, like this.

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Does it fulfill the conditions that look at the conditions that my answer really is already answered? Is there?

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This is answering in general,

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you have to take into consideration sometimes where people are coming from

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this is a reality. There are brothers, their sisters, that may be a one time, maybe the weekend that Islam

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this answer if you like, or those who are down the line, they're willing to do what is correct, if you like, are willing to take on that responsibility will alone hunt, okay, this is how it is. But then you have to realize that people can't always jump to that level. They take a bit of time. So yesterday, they were wearing you know,

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short skirt and a blouse. And then tomorrow. They're wearing you know, long trousers, and this kind of like tunic, for example, comes down to their knees. Anyway, ot haram ra Ke is haram, you can't wear this. Do you know what she was wearing last week? Do you know where she's coming from?

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No, you don't. But then you say such a statement to her. And then maybe she goes, it was this and she goes back in the wrong direction. So it's very important when addressing these issues of just like this Islamic issue, this is how it is Islamically but then there are a number of if you like, different situations which we need to engage with, to make sure to bring people to the deen of Allah subhanaw taala.

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So when the Prophet sallallahu sallam, he sends the Companions all around the world, Arabia, South North, what did he say to them? Yes, 01 to zero.

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When you're meeting new people new aquarium with different cultures, make it easy for the people.

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No dilute Islam does not the meaning.

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Be easy on the people respect and have wisdom from where they're coming from.

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Okay, and don't make things difficult for people.

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It's very important to understand these principles when we're dealing with whether it's hijab, or other kind of open signs of Islam with people. Not to be harsh, not to be cold and brash with people, but to respect and understand where people are coming from. And the entire mashallah to either on their journey, that they can reach their level, which is pleasing to Allah subhanaw taala. Let her know if you don't turn people away.

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While Avara sock Lohan Just a follow up to that question, I think I just asked what's the when it comes to Namaha roms in the house and the relatives and cousins Jade sorry. So that last part a question with regards to non Muslims in the home.

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Whether they're related to you via you know,

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family, or not an outcome Salah that the ruling is the same that the woman has to cover in front of those whom it is permitted to marry. The person might say, never marry him. Maybe, maybe maybe you live in certain cultures where if you know, like a certain wearing your cousin or second cousin has maybe that's not their culture, they would never do that in other cultures. Maybe it's acceptable, and there's no problem in that.

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Nonetheless, if it's Islamic Lee is permitted for you to marry them, then you have to cover yourself.

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And even in the home, you have an etiquette in the home, again, to preserve everybody's Earth to preserve everybody's honor.

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Islam, Allah Allah Allah gave us a salam from one of the many reasons is to protect our honor

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than to protect you from fitna and things that may harm you.

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So therefore, you behave in a correct way you dress in a particular way. So at home, as you would outside, you have preferably if you'd like, maybe on old is kind of tradition. This is how Islam is the women see with the women so they feel comfortable. And the men, they sit with the men as they're comfortable, okay.

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And they can dress as they are with the women with the women that dress appropriately as they are they don't have to wear hijab in front of one another, they can take it off.

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However, there may be times when there's people leaving the home, or you need to move from one room to the next and things like that. Okay. Again, like I say you have to dress appropriately. Well, according to the as I mentioned, with regards to hijab, Zach Lucha

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brothers asking similar to this topic, same their sisters are not dressing modestly. They've tried

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advise them to try to speak to them. But the sisters are not taking this advice on board. How responsible? Are they for their actions? If they go out dressed in a modest way? And what should they do? What's the best way to advise? Well,

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we may have members of our family who are not adhering to the deen of Allah subhanaw taala in a way that we would like them to

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that they have

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openly a level of practicing, which

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is a sin, for example. So how do we rectify this?

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I mentioned a little bit earlier, that if you see something is wrong, you try to physically change it. If you can't do that meaning is going to lead to a bigger, bigger problem, then do it with your tongue verbally. If you can't do that, meaning that it may or may lead to a bigger problem, we just physically can't say anything, then at least in your heart, with those that are closest to you, your flesh and blood, your siblings.

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My advice to you is to be an end have a rift

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softness, humbleness, mercy and compassion in your Dawa and to be patient. This my advice, it is very easy to have a harsh approach.

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And then there's very little hope Allahu Allah, of remedying the situation.

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So my advice is to look how the Prophet alayhi salatu salam would deal with and also with those who may be doing things that are wrong.

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If a person is not adhering to the hijab, it doesn't necessarily mean they hate Islam, don't jump to that conclusion. Who knows what's going on in their mind.

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But what is going on in their mind? That's what you want to get to find to get to the root of and that's what you're in to find out what has led them to not wanting to wear the hijab which is pleasing to Allah Zittel which is commanded in the Quran, which is the labors of Omaha, meaning the Mothers of the Believers and the Sahaba yet, and throughout his Islamic history, wearing hijab is known, what has caused her to leave that and to West Other than that,

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what is within her to choose that over that? This is what you need to find out so that you can address these issues. And the ESU is easier to say, wear hijab and if you don't wear hijab, you're sinfulness. Haram.

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Okay, you stated your case. You stated your case and I guess when Islamic point of view that you've you've delivered How come Sharia which is here within the city is correct. But what what what outcome Do you want? What the outcome? Do you want her? And the question of course is is from my brother talking about his sister or his womenfolk. But it could be other way around. It could be you know, one of your male members who's you know, is being disobedient or doing something which Islamically is haram. So therefore, I would say is to have compassion, mercy, wisdom and patience in your Dawa and to make dua to Allah subhanaw taala that He guides them and to guide you. And to

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mention the beautiful things about in the in the question here, about Hijab is there to Subhanallah free the woman

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and of course that has its own explanation doesn't mean to free the woman means it frees her from having to follow the ways of wearing this style and that style.

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She is wearing what Allah commanded not by any other person.

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So when advising one another, be sincere in your Diva and in your advice. And bear in mind that

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a navy Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was was informed was we were told by Allah subhanaw taala that he was merciful in giving Dawa and that if he was harsh with the people they would have run away.

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So it's about calling people back to the deen of Allah subhanaw taala in showing them the beauty of Islam, showing them the beauty of Islam. It's not you compromising and avoiding what's important.

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You have to be if you'd like practical in your Dawa and not just jumping to the camera Sharia haram Halal okay Masha Allah Baraka you know, the article you know the answer but is that calling people to the deen of Allah subhanaw taala

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you know, there are many examples you know,

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the hadith of abou mama Raja line was Hadith in book idea that a man who comes to the Prophet sallallahu Sallam is the household Allah, I've done something which requires a head requires a head

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So the professor some ignores him

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under the poverty says the other sort of I've done something which requires the head for our family, establish that head on me.

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Until we they went to the salah. They established this the man went to his house, they prayed. And then after the Salah that he comes to the messenger of allah sallallahu Sallam say, oh, shoot Allah. I've done something which requires the head. The Prophet said, you went to your home, you performed your window, and you prayed in the gym with us? He said, Yes, yes, yes, yes. He said, Allah Subhan has forgiven you.

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So there's ways when you see something, the person didn't ask, What did you do? We can establish the head, don't you? There's a way of wanting to correct the person and looking at the situation best you can to find the best outcome.

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And this is what we shall have to either need to find according to the path of Allah subhanaw taala. Bill Hekmati. Well, murottal Hassan, wala hotelera cyclohexyl. I know we've taken a lot of your time here, but just two more questions sha Allah

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was asking how do you have? Or how do you get a new slot in your marriage when you've argued for a long time, but want to make a stop and start? Sorry, we want to make your work and stop arguing.

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marriage requires work. Marriage requires work from both sides. And Allah subhanaw taala gave guidance to the man to the woman in the Quran. Similarly, the living example of the Prophet Ira such Saddam and his wives, whom had many in the Mothers of the Believers are the Alon. Everybody has their role. Okay? Once those roles or responsibilities become unclear, ie that if they don't know what to do in the man's doing the woman's role, and that the woman's doing the man's role, and he's not happy doing this, and she's not happy doing that. There's little communication, and they arguing, it's not going to work out.

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You know, you can see the kids on the weekend. Or maybe you can't see the kids at all these things like this happen. Does it need to reach that? No, it doesn't need to reach that. If there is such a situation. It might mean you need to vote stop and realize what is causing the issue. There's 1,000,001 examples of why you're unhappy, okay, I know you're unhappy. He said this. And he said that and he did this and he didn't do that. And she responded to me and there's millions of examples.

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But then you try to joy yourselves back as to why is this happening? One of the root problems is that you have, you're not fulfilling the responsibilities and roles as a husband and wife. That's why you're arguing.

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So no problem to get an advice from one side of the family and the other side as Allah's pantallas told us or if that isn't working, then you go to maybe somebody who is able to advise you about to look at your roles and responsibilities. And remember for intent as I turn fishy if you ever differ,

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husband and wife or two workers together in all affairs of your life if internet there are two fishy if you ever differ in any matter, Voodoo, who in Allah? What advice would

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you take it back to Allah and His messenger? What is Quran and Sunnah say that we should be doing. In Kuntum tominaga Allah he will young Allah if you believe in Allah, and the Last Day summit of Eman to go back to the guidance that Allah Allah Allah gave to us. It's not about who is the loudest who is the strongest and who's paying the bills.

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It's about doing what Allah subhanaw taala commanded us to do. And to find out why are we arguing? If you can't find out yourself, get somebody else to identify that to you. Humble yourself, and work on that. Maybe you have an element or part of your character, which is wrong is not you have a trait in you is not good. It's not a good trait within you, you need to work on yourself.

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Don't see yourself as I'm always right. If you're always right, know that you are part of the problem.

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If you think you're always right, you are part of the problem.

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So therefore, the relationship between husband and wife is something which is always ongoing and it requires time and effort and patience. Not everything needs. You need to say something all the time. Why did you do that? Why did you look at me like that?

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This is you know some? What do you mean at the local unit? No, no, no, you gave me a funny look. You gave me a funny look. What does that mean?

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To this level, and then they start arguing.

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It's completely unavoidable. It's completely avoidable. Little things like this.

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So therefore, ask Allah subhanaw taala to join your hearts remove any

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arrogance, best you can if you're able to identify or to be told, You're arrogant, no, you're arrogant? Well, somebody is both of you will maybe I don't know. But to get advice, and don't be shy about getting advice from others, and don't always think that oh, we had one argument, that's Hollis, I'm getting married again. We'll also why I didn't want you in the first place. Doesn't have to go endgame straight away. You don't have to go straight to the end this process, you know, it might take a month for three months of trying to, you know, sort the situation out. And then you realize that, yeah, maybe it's better for you not to be with one another. And for that reason, there

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is there is talk, there is divorce within Islam, you know, forced to be with one another. But don't think because we had an argument about

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food or something like that we need to jump to

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shaitan will whisper to you, try to separate you

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as quick as you can.

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So I would say to you is that become become become don't think you have to give a response to everything. I don't mean to be rude and ignore people. But sometimes people say things and they don't want an answer from you. Sometimes your wife that she speaks to you, she says this and then the other. She just wants for you to listen to her.

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Okay, she wants you to listen to her. She doesn't require an answer from you. And then as Mrs. Really didn't do that, I thought I had the answer. No, you don't always have the answer. And times when he comes home from work, he's got a lot going on. And he needs you know, 1015 minutes in his room just to chill out if you'd like.

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And if she comes in, we haven't seen your day and then you want to disappear for another 15 minutes what's going on? If she just understood if you leave him for 1015 minutes

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you've got an mashallah nice calm husband for the next six hours.

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Just a 1015 minute break, you let him calm down. And then he comes out plays with the kids he's happy you eat food and everything is good, small little things. You just have the very small things if you just aware of these things. Because once you've had to calm down for 15 minutes, and then you go out you're calm and then maybe wife just wants to just explain everything that happened in the day because you're calm you can listen

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but because you weren't given the 15 minute break stop me is too much. I've only just come in from work I've been out the whole day and you're telling me what's going on. So that little thing Subhanallah Believe it or not

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implement it and you'll see implemented inshallah if you're not already implement and implement it. And you'll see a difference in sha Allah Allah, Allah Allah circle here. I want to ask like a common thing and Lil Amanda just to be honest, this question wasn't part of the questions that came in. I wanted to ask it because it's a common thing I see quite a lot

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and even sometimes sadly outside the issue there's vape pens and vaping what is Islamic ruling on that

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so these e cigarettes and vaping pens

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don't have cigarette doesn't not no, no nicotine in it. It's not harmful.

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It's not gonna make me addicted like I'm smoking cigarettes, of course had some shape on

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the chemicals.

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And all the substances that are used in these vape things are a bottle are harmful to us.

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And fact is just maybe a couple of months ago is reading on this. They have so many different symptoms that can they call it something called popcorn lungs. Have you heard of this before? Popcorn lungs,

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that the person who is using the vape the pressure and the smoke that goes into their lungs, the lungs get all these little bubbles and they call it popcorn lung and it's very harmful has no nicotine

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so this vape vaping e cigarette not the fact that looks awful.

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But is actually a harmful to you.

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So this is one of the things we can jump to quickly Halal haram What do you think micro

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is haram because it's harmful to you. And the source or evidence is regarding things that are harmful to you harmful to you. You have to stay away from it. You have to stay away from it even to the extent

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when the aerosol was asked about the water from the sea the water coming us make will look from the sea

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he said at least I thought that the

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waterhole that it is pure water. And then he said I'll help tomato

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Under the dead of the sea, the dead of the sea is also halal.

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However, if you found like a dead fish or something like that, and it gone off,

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is allowed to eat or no.

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Beach man is haram. Because there's a borrower as a harm to you, as a fish, or anything that you're going to eat from the sea. If it's to cause you to make you sick, It's haram to consume that. So anything that causes you a harm.

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It is majors is not allowed for you to consume that and don't be deceived by researchers to say that until now we have no we have no no known, fixed certain evidence to say it is harmful.

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There are many researches that are done to show you can see in the hospitals

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about the harm that these things that they do due to the Shabaab as really being a waste of money. Well,

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particularly the last question which we received, and I wanted to end on this note, Inshallah, is, although Yan is hundreds, 20 years ago, you accepted Islam. But someone's asking the same that when do you know or what sort of they're ready to accept Islam? But what's sort of the last push the last motivation that any words you have for someone that is considering accepted Islam, just words of advice that they can kind of find and make that decision for themselves?

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Soon, difficult to quantify or kind of visualized where that line or point is, I mean, in simple terms, we can say, if a person recognizes and accepts

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that there is no one worthy of worship, except Allah subhanaw taala. And that Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is the messenger of Allah. That is the Shahada. That's the testimony for a person to say and to believe, to enter into an Islam. That is what's required of them. Okay? There's no no no need for us to pick up, for example, a book on arcade and to go through 50 questions with them do believe this, this, this, this, this, this, this, this, and then we can say you're Muslim law, no need for that. Now.

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The Tipping or the straw that

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breaks the situation or enters you into Islam, is that you simply believe that there is no one worthy of worship except Allah. And that Muhammad sallallahu alayhi. Salam is the messenger of Allah. Now, I personally know that they accept that. But at times, they don't say they're not ready for it. And I've had a number of occasions and seen situations where Islam has been explained as simple as you can imagine, and that the person has said yes, yes, yes to every single thing that has been explained regarding Islam. Do you want to become Muslim? Not ready.

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Because a man hasn't fallen into the heart

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of Allah subhanaw taala has not put that seed of Eman in their heart yet, when he died human Allah and guidance is from Allah subhanaw taala. We convey the message best we can not to overcomplicate it, and to look how the Prophet alayhi salatu salam would

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show and teach people Islam what it meant to enter into Islam and keep it that simple. No need to complicate it. Don't complicate. It's not from the sunnah to do that.

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Keep it very simple.

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And then leave the rest to Allah subhanaw taala. That person who's thinking about which is pretty much what you're talking about. All I can say is that if a person is true to themselves, what does that mean? Meaning that they're sincere. So I mean, they're sincere in wanting to find the truth. Be is in Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah will guide that person.

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Charlotte, Allah azza wa jal will guide that person.

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So we look at from both sides of the fence, our responsibility only goes so far, we deliver the message as best we can leave the rest to Allah subhanaw taala. What I would say is that the other person is on the other side is thinking about Islam, is that if you believe it to be the truth,

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then follow the truth.

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When, like myself and many others is like

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what's, what made you or why you became Muslim? I mean, ultimately,

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did I choose Islam? I mean, you can put it here I chose this for them. Because I could have, like another another person who embraced in embraced Islam could have chose to stay on what they were upon. But the truth is, that when you see the truth, you really don't have a choice. You feel you don't have a choice. When you see Islam

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for what it is, really, this is the only way of living really, under if I want to honor myself and have a happy life and have a good life, and if I see that I have to feel this way, I would be punishing myself I would be dishonouring myself if I chose another way, I'd be cheating myself.

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So if the truth comes to you, is like do you really choose it?

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Yeah, you do. But it's like you know what the truth is the truth and you can never reject the truth. So if you are sincere,

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that you will be guided insha Allah Tala by Elijah. And if whenever you receive Islam, whether you entered into Islam, or you were born into Islam, never feel that you are saved. Never feel this is Hollis from the people of Jana, the Prophet alayhi salatu salam would constantly in frequently say Yeah, more comfortable Kuru with a bit collegiality in it. Or the one who turns the hearts

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make my heart firm upon the deen.

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And if that wasn't enough, if that wasn't enough, there we have the Hadith ownership nomadic. He said, Yara surah Allah, I hear you saying this hadith so many times.

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How to half who Elena.

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He's worried now he says, Do you fear for us? And us who served the Messenger of Allah Azza wa sallam for 10 years. He said you fear for us and who is the US? Who is he referring to Sahaba Abu Bakr. Omar Osman Ali does not have an Earth will either norba Sahaba Do you fear for us? What did the professor say? Yes.

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In Nakuru, belaboured been spraying them in Asaba ramen, you can label her key for your shirt,

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that the hearts of people the servants are between the two fingers of Rahman, he turns them as he wishes.

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So if you embrace Islam, you're in the masjid today. You don't know where you're going to be next week or next month or next year. If you are living even.

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So, the Nirma that you have, if you were born into Islam, Allah gave you the greatest blessing. And you never made the dua to Allah, Allah, Allah gives me the greatest blessing. It was given to you without even asking Subhanallah or your Rama? What mercy is that? That you were born into Islam given the greatest Nam and you never asked for it?

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For that reason, you have to be forever thankful and grateful to Allah subhanaw taala for what he gave you and continues to give you and if you are grateful and thankful and sincere to Him, follow His guidance and follow the way of unabIe Elisa to Salam. But isn't Allah you know that Allah subhanaw taala will not be oppressive or wrong anybody

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that you have the very best chance of being from the people of gender May Allah Allah Allah make us from them. I mean,

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Zack Lakeisha Salah just before I extend our gratitude tell shareholders remind everyone that tomorrow we have a very busy day of classes of Salah to door we have zero class by OSHA chef Muhammad Ali Malik have a lot and we have Arabic reminder after also my chef trophy laughter salad mother if after two weeks break Saturday champions back in sha Allah and tomorrow we are going to continue with the names and attributes of Allah azza wa jal and as a solid Lakeisha tomorrow we're going to start a new series holding on to hot coal. And the first of the four talks in shallow will be about the story of the great companion cabin nomadic mashallah after site leisure, so we invite

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