Tom Facchine – Riyadh al-Saliheen and Women’s Q&A #40

Tom Facchine
AI: Summary © The speakers discuss the importance of setting expectations and avoiding accountability in the afterlife of the dams. They emphasize the need for a strong support system in the family and the importance of taking advice when dealing with situations, including relationships and wealth. They also emphasize the importance of understanding one's own rights and not just giving advice. The segment touches on the negative impact of anger on one's personal and professional lives, including negative reactions to actions and behavior.
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Al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen wa salatu salam, ala Ashraf and MBM were Sunni maybe you know for the Latina Muhammad Ali he offered the salah skip this thing along the island and we may in fact know in fact that we Mount Olympus and it was in the element of Ramadan Amin. So don't worry come after lucky but occur to everybody welcome. Thursday evening, the women's class we are the salah him and any questions and answers that come up.

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We are in a chapter of patients to have a sub

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last time we were discussing the famous Hadith of the prophesy son, I'm allowed to talk about

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Abu Hurayrah report that the man that a man came to the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam, and asked repeatedly for advice. And the Prophet sallallahu Sallam responded multiple times, talk about Do not get angry, do not become angry. And we talked previously about the difference between righteous anger, right? Or the law. Right?

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The type of anger that is the engine of justice, because being just requires a certain amount of anger and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa salam, when injustice

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was in front of him, he would get angry. And even his we have many a hadith where his face would turn red. And he would get up and give people stern words from the minbar. Yes. So we can't understand. You know, we say these things, because

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you can't.

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The interpretation of the pneus is just as important as the authenticity of the revelation. Right, you have to understand how it applies and how it does not apply.

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We used to have fun along the way or Medina. We used to joke because there were some students who would

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that were very poorly behaved and they were poor students.

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And they would often have a an eye from the Koran or a hadith to justify what they were doing.

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And so we used to joke that they had a they must have had a little book that they count they carried around with them.

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That was called a deleted sock. Right? Like the the evidence for the

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evidence of the rebels or the senators or something like that. Because yes, you can take anything and you can miss apply it. That's why we have that. That's why we have all these other groups because they might use the same Quran and Sunnah. But they have gone off the deep end when it comes to how to interpret things, right feminists. And so

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you could imagine a scenario where somebody is angry for a righteous purpose, right, and maybe someone is being oppressed. And then the oppressor, they want to wag wave this hadith in the face of the oppressed, that talks about

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this doesn't apply to this sort of situation.

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Right? If a wife is angry that her husband isn't praying, for example, or angry that he is, I don't know, he left

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for months without a word, no financial assistance or anything like that. And the wife is angry. And she finally gets a hold of him on the phone. Right? He can't use this hadith as evidence for himself. He can't say to her let's talk about because this hadith is cos, right. It's not on even though the love is on the Mariner the meaning is cos.

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And there's a saying among earlier, Matt, la Illa. Lahoma has right that there's no

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there's no statement that appears to be a general statement, except that it is governed and actually limited and specified by something. Whether it's taxis bidness, being specified by another text, either out elsewhere in the Koran or elsewhere in the Hadith, or taxis. Blackall, right, by what's the, you know, understood, implied meaning of something, et cetera, et cetera. So nobody and this these sorts of rules stop things from being misinterpreted and wielded

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you know, in problematic ways. So when the Prophet Muhammad sigh So said let's talk about he was not saying this for any type of anger. He wasn't saying this for righteous anger, anger that is generated by

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By the violation of rights

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and things that are lost count to Allah despises this instruction or this prohibition from the Prophet Mohammed slay Salam is regarding anger that arises as

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from the neffs. Right? That the neffs that it's trying to defend the ego.

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Somebody lets you know that you've done something wrong, and that really you should apologize to this person and what you said was not correct. And then you get angry with that person. Yes, that's right. That's the situation that this sort of thing applies to because you're not angry for the sake of Allah subhanaw taala you are angry for your own sake. And that is not a noble

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reason to be to be angry. And this is a sunnah of the Prophet Muhammad Salah is on him that he would not be angry for his own sake, people would insult him. Yes, they would people would handle him roughly. Right, like, bad. Yeah, right. The people from you know, the the yokels or whatever we want to translate a better week, as the people that lived out in the, you know, the rough people, they would grab his camel, they would grab him by the collar and, you know, speak to him very, very abruptly and directly and the Prophet SAW he said, I've never got angry for himself. But if the hurdle law, if the limits of Allah subhanaw taala were transgressed, then he would get angry, as we

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So this was also as the last point against turning a sin into an identity. And that is something that we see rife. In our society today. You don't ever turn a sin into an identity, that's a way of avoiding accountability, that say that, Oh, I just have a short temper, or I just I get angry. Or when I'm angry, I break things or when I'm angry, I say hurtful things, you're still responsible. Even if that's your Baba, if that's your sort of

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what comes easy to you, you have a responsibility to Yanni to Jaya had an upset, you have a responsibility to fight against yourself. This is why we're here. We're not here so that we can just allow ourselves to just continue on with whatever comes our way or occurs to us to behave or to say or to do. Now the whole purpose of being here is to discipline ourselves. And so this hadith is an antidote. It's medicine, for those who would be inclined to this kind of

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satanic trick of using your own inclination or your own sin and saying, Well, this is me. Right, this is who I am, right? I do this or I am this, which is not sad. It's not an acceptable line of reasoning and it doesn't hold up to scrutiny. The next Hadith number 49, and we are nearing the end of the chapter.

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The Prophet will have a slight sudden

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said, this is by on the authority of the writer, believers, both men and women will continue to be afflicted

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in respect to themselves that means like personal afflictions, their children and their property until they meet Allah subhanaw taala, without any wrong actions at all.

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And the Arabic is May as unknown but that will build meaning. While mmunity he says both VFC one or the one ally, he had to yell Allah to Allah wa alayhi wa now Allah He man mafia, one that I like he called the atom. So I had to remedy

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this hadith.

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It builds upon many of the themes that have already been established in the chapter and they are fundamental to Islam. So the first thing it does is that it sets our expectations, right, in the corporate world, in the hospitality industry, in management, they have this concept of

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setting expectations. Right? You would rather I'll tell you a funny story. I used to lead groups for Hajj and Umrah when I was a student in Medina, and over there, you never know what can happen like things can go horribly, horribly wrong.

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So for example, if you're taking a bus, even from Jeddah to Mecca, which is maybe 45 minutes, if the guy in front of you the bus in front of you, there's something wrong with their paperwork or etc, etc. You could end up being there for hours and hours and hours. And there might be road closures and they might put it in

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blockades and say no one's allowed until tomorrow, anything can happen. And so I used to tell the judge that were with me, I used to exaggerate how long things would take. Right. So, usually and how much time the what's normally a 45 minute ride from Jeddah to Mecca usually would take four or five hours, I would tell them 10 hours.

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And then when we got there on four or five, it was everybody, it was just Alhamdulillah wa, Allahu Akbar, a lot of people were making TextView. And they're stepping out of the bus, right? Because they were expecting something far worse. Right? And the opposite is true, I made the mistake, my very first time when I was a rookie, right? I didn't know any better. I told them for hours, maybe five hours. And there was of course, there was construction, there was a delay, we didn't get there for six hours, just an hour after I had kind of maybe

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built their expectation of when they would arrive. And everyone was very upset. And people were stressed and angry, and they were restless, or like how is this taking so long like that? Right? So I learned that you have to build people's expectations and set people's expectations. And then when if they have the right expectation, then they're going to be very, very surprised and happy. If the result is better than what they expected. Well, there, there's an iota of that sort of thing going on here. The problem honestly, Saddam is telling us that listen, if you're a believer, you got to get ready for hardship.

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This is the way of it. You know.

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And that hardship can touch any area or segments of your life. It can touch yourself, that means your health, your wealth,

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your friends, your family.

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Right, specifically, it mentions

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your offspring, right? Your children, how many times do we see a scholar?

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And their children

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are not religious? Maybe they don't pray? Maybe they even end up leaving Islam. We don't have like a complete meritocracy. Right? These things are part of it. I don't know why you but right. It's not if it were so easy. Raising a child. For example, if it were so easy, that all you had to do was XY and Z and you were going to get a pious child of a God fearing child a righteous child, then everyone would do it. And everyone's children would be righteous, but it doesn't work like that. Right? You're responsible for doing your best job. But at the end of the day, it's something that Allah has power to Allah has decreed, right? And the province has said, I'm just trying to build our

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expectations, like you're going to be tried when it comes to you and your property and money and your children. Yes. As we know, dealing with children, especially in our community, the intergenerational divide is very, very difficult. For those of us who are born in a different part of the world.

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And then come here, the way that the children are raised, and the American way is a challenging, right? There's very particular challenges to it. I have if I had a nickel, for every single time a parent came up to me and said, they just don't listen to me.

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I would be a very rich person, because yeah, they don't.

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If they go to public school, and they, and this isn't, this isn't blaming public school, particularly, but just realize that if your child is

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kind of being shaped by the forces of media and public education and everything else in the society, then they're going to be culture alized into American culture. And part of that American culture is not really having a ton of automatic respect for parents. Right. So then, things we don't think about, they crop up when they are teenagers, all of a sudden, they start defying, they argue, they want to know why for everything. He's very American traits. That's how, that's how I was, right.

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And so, you know, this is something that a lot of people get surprised by. And I'm here to tell you that this is normal, within a certain extent, or to a certain extent or within a certain

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degree. However, you have to be careful how you react to it, the best thing that you can do is to pair your child surround your child with a good atmosphere, a good atmosphere of friends, a good atmosphere of other adult mentors, that aren't you that they will listen to, and that they can confide in, and to try to take seriously their concerns and their questions. This is one of the mistakes

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Have some of our cultures, we don't like questions. Right? Back home, the transmission of cultural knowledge and religious knowledge was so automatic that, yes, you were discouraged from asking questions, guess what the cat's out of the bag here in the United States, your kids are going to question everything. Why do I have to pray? Why do I have to wear hijab? Why can't we eat pork? Why can't I have a boyfriend? Why can't et cetera, et cetera, et cetera? And if you don't, if you can't answer those questions, then you better find someone for your child that can, because kids in America need to know. That's how we're raised are raised to think critically, were raised to ask

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questions were raised to question authority. And

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it's something that

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you have to be ready for. So all of that can be yes, in the definition of trials for a believer. So all of that was to say, don't take it personally don't think that you screwed up, or that it's your fault. If you're undergoing these sorts of trials and tests and tribulations that American society will tell you, Yes, you screwed up. It's complete meritocracy, you get what you deserve. But this hadith tells us something else. It tells us that even if you do all the right things, Allah Allah, Allah is going to test you, right in any of these three areas, or all of them. And not just once, not just a little token test, but know constantly, until you meet your Creator. And this is the

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application of the Hadith of the Prophet sly Saddam, that the dunya is a prison for the believer.

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And its agenda for the Catholic. Whereas in the afterlife, things are opposite. Right? The afterlife of Africa is a prison for the Catholic and its gender for the believer. This is why, right because for us, for believers, people of faith that try to be good, try to be righteous, we're just getting test after test after test just thrown at us left and right and center.

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It's like, and it can be overwhelming. But what is happening there is that it is making our he sad. That much easier. Just like the prophesy, Saddam said that the poor person will enter Jannah, 500 years before the rich people. And another Hadith, he said that he saw, or he was shown rich people being stopped at the gate of Jannah, to be asked about everything that they had. Right? That's also Luna, Yama, alien and in their aim,

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whereas the poor people were just, it's almost like if you've ever had the unpleasant experience of getting pulled out of line for a flight, right by TSA, thing that many Muslims, including myself experience, they pull you out of line and everybody else is getting on the plane, and you're standing there getting questioned about this and that and the other. Yeah, it happens. Right? This is kind of the scene that Jenner, people who have wealth means et cetera, et cetera, they're going to be pulled aside and questioned, what do you do with this? What did you do with that? Were you grateful for this? Were you grateful for that, and the poor people are just going to be streaming

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and ahead of you because they don't have anything to be asked about. Right? This is the same idea here. That people the more that you suffer, the more things that are thrown your way, the easier your Hey, Saba is going to be, the easier your account is going to be. And so this is building our expectations for the dunya. First and foremost, with this hadith, we should we should not be have our faith shaken by the constant trials and tribulations. Now, this is what we signed up for. Right? It's actually the mechanism to test the sincerity of our faith in the afterlife. It's like, okay, you believe that this life is temporary, and the nest next life is eternal? Well, the only type of

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person who's going to be able to be patient. And that's the chapter title, with this sort of these sorts of tests, is the person who really believes that if you don't really believe in the afterlife, you don't really believe that it's eternal, and that that's the abode of the righteous, you're not going to be able to stand it. You're going to lose heart, you're going to lose faith. And you're going to want to

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prioritize your pleasure in the dunya. And that's the second thing that this hadith kind of

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imparts to us the difference between the dunya and the AFCA. Right, the dunya what are we here for? We are not here for ease. We're not here for fun, even though we, you know, a natural, I love fun, I love having fun. I love you know, doing things and laughing and et cetera, et cetera. But at the end of the day, I know that I have to just have it in moderation, and that this dunya is a proving ground. It's a test. Everything that comes my way, whether it's good, whether it's ease, and whether it's hardship and whether it's

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Difficulty. It's all just going to show up on the report card. Right? That's the nature of this dunya. And the Astra the afterlife is the repose is the restfulness is the relaxation, right? So we work hard in this life, and we try to be patient so that we can enjoy it fully in the afterlife.

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And the third thing that this hadith does

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is that and I referenced this in a couple weeks ago, around the time I think the clip but before he.

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So we don't let our trials and tribulations get in the way of our righteousness.

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How many people delay thought they delay or a bad day delay, obedience and worship because of what they're going through. Right? Now, don't get me wrong, there is a certain degree of this, which is acceptable, right? There's nothing wrong with taking time to square away certain things when you're really going through it. But I think we all can recognize that there's a there's another extreme there were some people, they always have something going on. And it always serves as an excuse to not be doing what they should be doing. Right. So when it comes to Hajj, that's a very popular one. It's like, oh, I just got this job, I'm just settling into my new job. Or I'm really working hard

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towards this promotion, or we just had, you know, a child or the child has all these extracurricular activities, there's always an excuse to not go on Hajj, always, it's never going to end. Right. Or, you know, the when it comes to things with money, you don't feel like you have enough money, or you don't feel like you have enough time or you don't feel like you're in the right mindset, all these sorts of things. There's no end to them. There's always going to be excuses. For the person who doesn't pray, there's always going to be excuses to not pray for the person who's addicted to alcohol or something else. There's always going to be excuses to not quit that behavior. Right? And

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so if we allow the Prophet Mohammed slay Saddam to set our expectations, then those things aren't as intimidating to us. It's like, yes, money's tight, but I have to go to Hajj. Yes, you know, the kids are really plugged in and they're enjoying their school and everything, but we need to do this. We need to prioritize the prayer more or we need to do etc, etc. Right? So this is charity, another big one, right? Like, oh, I'll give charity.

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When I have more money, once I get the promotion, once I get the whatever, how many people say that? And then they never end up making good on their promise, right? Don't delay. If it's something that you can do. Don't be

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dissuaded by these sorts of excuses which keep on cropping up because you'll always be tested. If you're tested today, you'll be tested tomorrow.

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The next Hadith on the authority of an ibis Radovan hula, he said that a man named arena it hasn't came to Medina and stayed with his nephew hope even face, who was among those whom Mr. Radi Allahu Anhu showed favor to the knowledgeable people of raw, whether they were old or young had the privilege of joining Omar's Council and he used to consult them Shura. We'll talk about that in a second. Marina said to her, Hey, my nephew,

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Ahmad, the leader of the faithful shows favor to you. Will you obtain permission for me to sit with him?

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Harder than asked

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Oman and he was granted permission. Okay, so we have this little intercession that's going on at Wall Street. All right. Are we as we used to say when we were in Medina, vitamin W. Right? It's everything.

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At least, you know, in Saudi Arabia worked, if not works, present tense on Wall CIPA. On who, you know, we used to say we used to joke said no, never means no.

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It's always there's always somebody who said yes, if somebody tells you no, you go ask somebody else until ask however many people you can ask until they say yes.

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So this kind of intercession happened. And then

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arena because of Hope, who was one of the earlier that he gets to sit with armor. Alright, so what's gonna happen now?

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When arena came into the presence of armor, he said to armor.

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You have a bomb, Oh, son of hubbub. You neither bestow much on us nor deal with us justly. Oh man. How would you like to be hope? You interceded with the

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Commander of the Faithful remote in order to get this guy into His presence and now he's just totally like confronting Omar. He's saying harsh words to him.

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Oh, son of caught up. You don't bestow very much on us. And you also are unjust to us. What was his response? Omar got angry and he was about to beat this guy up.

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But her stepped in. And he said, Yeah, I mean, oh leader of the believers, a law said to His Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam show forgiveness, enjoin what is good, and turn away from the foolish meaning don't punish him. Pull that off. What? What motivated Bill? Bill of? Yes, Bill, well added on to the jail, healing and sorted out off. So he said these three things, he quotes the Koran, trying to calm her down. He said, Show forgiveness and join what is good and turn away from the foolish. This is what this one is from the ignorant, right this person, this guy or Aina, who I asked you to let into your presence. This guy is ignorant, basically, I'm sorry. Romana, when he

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heard this from her, he became motionless in his seat. Okay, he was struck.

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A moment ago, he was about to pound the sky. Right. And then the Koran was quoted to him and he froze. Literally, he froze. That was how strictly he followed and adhered to the book of Allah. This is in Sahih al Bukhari. So we have a lot of things going on this hadith, and this is a really nice story.

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One of the things that we benefit from this hadith is the importance of taking advice, the importance of taking advice, okay? It said that I'm not used to take counsel with people. Sure. And this is part of the Sunnah of the Prophet Mohammed slicer.

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I will hold Ira said that no one used to take consultation or use to consult other people more than the Prophet Mohammed sois.

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Even though he was the Prophet SAW, and he received revelation, but alignment, he received commands from Allah subhanaw taala. If he wanted to, he could have been very authoritarian about everything he could have said, Allah said this, and will also that, and I'm the prophet, and you have to listen to me.

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Despite his station, he was asking for council more than the other people who are his followers. That is leadership that is leading by example. And the province lies on him. It wasn't just a Like, it wasn't just a trick of HR, the HR department, it wasn't just for show, right? He wasn't just working on the optics. No, he really meant it. Remember the Battle of God, the prophesy, Saddam had a dream. And the dreams of prophets are why they're Revelation, he had a dream that indicated that the believers should stay inside of Medina and fight a kind of defensive guerrilla fight when the kofod of Qureshi came to them.

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Despite this clear dream, he asked the companions and they wanted to go out with outside of the city and meet the Army, Army to Army fight with honor and bravery.

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And he listened to them.

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lives were at stake, the Prophet sallallahu sallam, he didn't necessarily know that they would all survive. Islam could have been ended, it could have been wiped out. Everybody knows who knows the story of the battle.

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They know how close it came to the Prophet Muhammad said, he said, I'm being killed.

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And never once after the Battle of a hood, did he come back to his companions and say, well see what happens when you all don't listen to me? And you shouldn't listen to me in the first place and et cetera, et cetera? No, he kept on asking their opinion. Are you the approach is as important as the advice Yes.

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Because what happens when you ask other people, and as any one of us in a marriage realizes this? When you ask someone else's opinion, it makes the other person feel honored. It makes the other person feel respected. And what's one of the biggest complaints of wives and husbands mostly wives

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across the world, and in the Muslim community, is that he doesn't ask my opinion. He doesn't ask what I think. He just goes in

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Does it right and the man might think well I have the authority what Rijeka what Munna on the set? And this is all Allah subhanaw taala few Kitabi cetera et cetera. Wow. And that's technically true. But is that the Sunnah of the Prophet Muhammad said? That's the words that Allah said yes. But is that the interpretation of the Prophet Mohammed salah is the Prophet Muhammad Ali Salam would ask advice. He'd asked advice from his wives. Yes, all the time. When it came to the ombre, right? He was commanded to go make ombre. They went and the Quraysh Mineiro home, they prevented them from making pilgrimage. And the Prophet Muhammad say Saddam and everybody else is super bummed out and

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they're sad. And the Prophet Mohammed slave Saddam has his catch. He has his animal that he brought for the other year for aid. And now he doesn't have anything to do with it. And he asks his wife, it escapes my mind at this moment, which wife was with him during that travel. But he asks her

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I think it might have been on selama or Maimunah. He asks her Woody, what do you think, what should I do? And she said, Listen, why don't you go out and sacrifice your animal shave your head and people are going to follow you and that's exactly what he did. So the law while he was

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right, so again, we come back to the point of the last Hadith interpretation, right feminists, we need to understand how to apply

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the keytab in the Sunnah, right and not just be able to quote it because if you're just able to quote it then ah, yes, but Angelica Munna Allah Nisa. Yeah, I'm the big guy on the Big Shot, you have to listen to what I say. I say sit in the corner, you have to sit in the corner, right? No, no, that's not how the Prophet Muhammad SAW I said I'm lived.

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And that's not how we should be either.

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So it's a so shorter is extremely important. Within a family, even with children, you know, subhanAllah, I was with some people one time, okay, I don't want to get any more specific than that. And I was with the parents, and I was with their children, their teenage children.

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I asked the teenagers, their opinions about some things, you know, what you want from the message either, et cetera, et cetera. And I could see the lack of regard that the older generation the parents had for the opinions and, and concerns of the teenagers.

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They were just they were ready to say why that can't work. Right? No, we can't do that. No, we can't do that. No, we can't do that. Okay.

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Even if they're right, even if it's a crummy idea.

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You have to

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make people feel valued.

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If you don't let your teenagers or the teenagers of this community or any other Muslim community, feel valued, feel like they have a say, feel like they have a voice, then don't expect them to come to the masjid. Because they're not going to don't expect them to donate to the masjid when they get their first job.

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Don't expect them to sign their kids right up for court and school or Sunday school. As soon as they have their first child comes of age, right? That's where it starts. It starts by talking to people and caring about them and seeing what they think about things. This is something that Prophet Mohammed say Saddam was an expert at an expert at even little children. Remember the

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wasn't new life, right? The name of the bird, the one the one boy. He had a pet bird and a prophet Muhammad Slade said on one day he saw that the boy was sad. The bird wasn't there and he asked him about it. He said, Hey, what's going on? To care about other people to care about their lives to care about their opinions and to make them feel heard and to make them feel valued? That's the Sunnah of the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu sallam. So Ahmad is also good at this. He studied in the school of the Prophet Mohammed place at him. He knows how to listen to people, and or Amar knows how to take advice. Okay? He is humble towards taking advice. And even though he was the Emir remote

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meaning might listen to the how they keep on addressing him, you're the Commander of the Faithful, you're the Commander of the Faithful. If it were you, were i, right? Ah, we got this nice title, you know, it might feel a little bit too proud to take advice, if someone's going to tell us what to do or what not to do. But Irma was not that type of person. He understood the importance of taking advice and when he heard it, he took it lacking very important point. The the, I wrote here in my notes, the shoe has to fit. Okay, and what I mean by that is that the advice has to be appropriate

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and sound, it's a two way street. Because we also have the other scenario in the community where there's some people who give advice and they have no idea what they're talking about. They're not qualified to be giving that advice in the first place. Or they're just plain wrong or short sighted. So it's not a defect to not take that sort of advice, right? Notice in this hadith, that what's his name? Hold?

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Yes, hold is close to Mr. Hurd is an island. He's a scholar. They described him as one of the Corolla.

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Well, Kevin, yeah, well, kinda curato has hobby. Yeah, I'll have emergency armor. As I said, he was one of the scholars. And so he was trusted for his perspective. He was trusted for his guidance.

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And so that made the advice stick, it wasn't just someone misquoting something, just like we talked about with the last Hadith. Talk about Don't be angry. Okay, if you have your if you're in a marriage and you're having your rights trampled, right, that same scenario we were talking about a little bit ago, and you ask your friend for advice, and she says, You know, I remember there's a hadith prophets. I said, I'm salah, talk about Don't get angry.

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The shoe doesn't fit. This does not sound advice, right? Because as everything that we said before the anger refers to anger that is only for yourself and not for Allah's rights being or allows limits being transgressed. So the shoe has to fit, right, it has to be somebody who understands the situation has to be somebody who is giving good advice, not just anybody who says anything and calls it advice. And this is a huge mistake, huge mistake that we have in the Muslim community. Lots of people saying I've been in the sea. Hmm, that the religion is what they translate as advice. And so they will any little thing that they see whether they know it or not, they're going to correct you.

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Don't wave your finger, keep your finger straight or keep it down and then poke it or hold your hands like this and not like this and put your knees down first. No, your hands down first. This is not Nestle. This is not Misia. Okay, that stuff. Leave that to the mat. Leave that to the IMA. Right. Now. See, huh? What is the actual translation on the sea high fidelity, fidelity, Dino Naziha Lehman Caudalie men call it Lila? First of all, let's see her Lilla How do you make if not see her as advice? How do you give advice to Allah subhanaw taala

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it's impossible. You can't give advice to Allah subhanaw taala the meaning of the sea. Hmm. And we see this in the usage of the term nesu or Rosalind ASUW is that he is Fidelis. He has fidelity, he's loyal. That's a good translation, loyal to the person loyal to their best interests. And so if you're loyal to your brother or your sister in Islam, you will give them advice when it's appropriate, and you will

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keep it quiet, when it's appropriate.

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And loyalty to Allah and loyalty to the messenger and loyalty to the revelation.

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We also see the importance in this hadith of having good friends and advisers. This is a corollary or a consequence of what we're talking about. If you surround yourself with people who are

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not qualified or not good advisors, people who are lost in sin

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and look to you to help vindicate and justify their sin. Right? I don't know about you, but I've met a lot of types of people in my life. And I have seen firsthand that there are some people who are only your friend, if you're drinking or only your friend, if you're gambling, only your friend if you're doing sin. Why? Because deep down they feel guilty. And you also doing this sin makes them feel like it's okay. The second you stop, that's the end of the friendship, they're very upset. They're upset that you're not doing the same thing that they're doing. This is not a good friend, right? This person is not your friend, they're actually using you to justify their own bad habits

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and behaviors.

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We see real leadership in this hadith. Leadership is serving service service service. If you want to be the leader of the nation, you have to serve the nation. You want to be the leader of the Masjid. You have to serve the message and serve its people. You want to be the leader of your household, the leader of your children, you have to serve them. That implies nnessee Ha meaning loyalty, and it implies concern and keeping their best interest at heart

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And then the last thing I had written down here is that some people just aren't worth it. Right? What are the words that other than the Quran

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that helped quotes to

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Alma or the alojado? He quotes the Koran. And then he says, listen this guy's jacket, this guy is like just ignorant. He's not even worth your

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your time.

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Right? And that is

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something to keep in mind. Not everybody is worth your time. There are some people that it's worth it to oppose and say, Hey, what are you doing? You got to stop that and there's other people there's just you know what, and we see this especially with social media, with the different types of interactions that happen there. So that's takes us almost to the end of class. Does anyone have any questions about stuff we talked about today? Anything else that's going on in your lives?

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Okay, well, that's it then I bid you all good night and good weekend and inshallah we will meet again soon. I'm off to library

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