Taimiyyah Zubair – Fahm Al-Quran – 28F At Talaq At Tahrim

Taimiyyah Zubair
AI: Summary © The speakers discuss the limits Allah has set on women, including divorce and waiting periods, and stress the importance of not fearing and not being afraid of one's emotions. They also discuss the danger of bullying and the responsibility of men to care for their children. The speakers emphasize the need for people to be mindful of their actions and share their experiences in order to be more patient. They stress the importance of protecting oneself from a fire hose fuel and not sharing secret with anyone.
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Bismillah al Rahman al Rahim, O Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, when you Muslims, divorce women, divorce them for the commencement of their waiting period, meaning give them the divorce at a time when they can actually begin they're at the end keep count of the waiting period. And fear Allah, your Lord, do not turn them out of their husbands houses do not kick them out, nor should they leave, meaning they should not leave the house of their husband in rage. No, they should stay there unless they're committing a clear immorality. And those are the limits set by Allah And whoever transgresses the limits of Allah has certainly wronged himself, you know, not perhaps Allah

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who will bring about after that a different matter. So be hopeful. And be careful about the waiting period and observed that properly. You never know, the couple might get back together, be hopeful. And when they have nearly fulfill their term, either retain them according to acceptable terms, or part with them according to acceptable terms. Meaning if you are serious about the marriage, then be serious about it, and bring to witness to justman from among you, and all witnesses establish the testimony for the acceptance of Allah that is instructed to whoever should believe in Allah and the Last Day, and whoever fears Allah will my tequila edger Allahu Maharajah, Allah will make a way out

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for him. Over here in these verses, the rulings concerning the waiting period after divorce are explained.

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When it comes to weddings, generally, we see that we know a lot about weddings, more than what our religion even asks us to do. Right? When it comes to the celebrations, when it comes to the dresses, and when it comes to the wedding parties and the wedding showers and then one wedding party after the other. Right? We know about it so well that we know exactly how to plan it, what to do, which music to play and everybody knows those songs, even when it comes to weddings, we are very well educated. But when it comes to the laws that Allah has revealed concerning nikka concerning follow up, then what is it that we follow? Generally when it comes to the law, we forget about what Allah

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has revealed, what is it that people follow their emotions, so in one sitting, give Pollock 100 times

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in one setting, give out three times that sacred bond that was formed, this dissolve it in one moment of anger. And then once the divorce has been pronounced, again, not taking care about the hurdles that Allah has set the limits that Allah has set. So one divorce is given and the couple gets back together after that, then another divorce. And the couple gets back after that. And this happens numerous times, forgetting that revocable divorces only two times not 34567 times. This is all what crossing the limits that Allah has set. And this is something very dangerous because Allah has sent this religion in order to be observed. Allah says woman at the Killa Hydra Allahu Maharajah

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divorce is difficult. It's very painful, very painful, but the one who fears Allah doesn't follow his emotions over here, but observes the limits that Allah has set, then Allah will make a way out for him. So at the time of this fitness and this dispute also whoever if you

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Allah, He will be guided by Allah. Whether it is the man or the woman. Both have to observe taqwa and their families also. Because sometimes the man and the woman the couple, they want to fix things, but the family their interference makes things impossible to everybody needs to fear Allah in order to find the best option. While Zukerman Hazel is the same, and Allah will provide for him from where he does not even expect meaning from where a person cannot even imagine Allah will give him who this is for who the one who fears Allah, and whoever relies upon Allah, that Allah is sufficient for him. Indeed, Allah will accomplish His purpose. Allah has already set for everything

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or decreed extent, we think our problems will never end until we violate the limits that Allah has said, No Be patient rely upon Allah fear Allah, for everything is a limit. And those who no longer expect menstruation among your women, if you doubt, then their period of ADA is three lunar months, and also for those who have not menstruated. And for those who are pregnant, their term is until they give birth. And whoever fears Allah He will make for him of his matter ease. When may yet delay La Jolla de la human Emery you saw look at the benefits of the core. What is the core, obeying the law basically,

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obeying the commands that Allah has given? But don't we leave them out of fear? Don't we leave them out of these fears? Or then it will be very difficult for me? What does Allah say you fear Allah, Allah will make things easy for you.

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It's the exact opposite. We leave Allah commands so that our life can be easy. Does it get easy, never. Allah tells us you fear Allah, Allah will create ease, that is a command of Allah, which he has sent down to you. And whoever fears Allah, He will remove for him his misdeeds will mean that they learn how you can fit around who say it, when you are women who are draw, sometimes a person has certain bad habits, sins that he keeps falling into, but he also fears Allah. Now this is so beautiful, that if a person continues to fear Allah and increases that dose, then what will happen Allah will remove those sins from him, eventually that person will get over those sins, He will

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leave them and when he will leave those sins, when you're away in law, who are the law, Allah will make great for him his reward. Subhana Allah, how appreciative is Allah that a person leaves a sin, and Allah will reward him for that, lodge them meaning the women in large den where you dwell out of your means, meaning, the standard of living should be what you can afford, and do not harm them in order to oppress them, meaning do not harass the woman so much, that she leaves everything, forfeiting her rights, just so that she can get out of this abusive marriage. And if they should be pregnant, then spend on them until they give birth. And if they breastfeed for you, then give them

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their payment, meaning of their breastfeed your child for you after the divorce, then give them their payment and confer among yourselves in the acceptable way. But if you are in discord, then there may breastfeed for the father, another woman reading this is also an option after the divorce. Then remember the woman, the mother, she has the right to nurse her child, and if she's nursing the child, the father of the child, even though she's no longer married to him, he has to compensate her because it's his child, she would not have had that child had he not been with her All right. So this is why he is responsible financially. And this should be decided with mutual discussion. And if

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this is leading to too many problems, then Okay, forget it. The man the father, that he has to find some other woman, some other way of nursing the child of feeding the baby, meaning the rights of the baby should not be compromised just because of the divorce. let a man of wealth spend from his wealth, and he whose provision is restricted, let him spend from what Allah has given him. A law does not charge a soul except according to what he has given it. A lot will bring about after hardship ease, remember this also, say a Gerardo la who bought the resort in Utah, there's ease with difficulty. And then there's ease after difficulty also, no difficulty is permanent and absolute.

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And how many his city was incident toward the commander of its Lord and His messengers. So we took it to severe account and punished it with a terrible punishment, and it tasted the bad consequence of its affair and the outcome of its affair was loss. Allah has prepared for them a severe punishment. So fear Allah oh you have understanding who have believed, take less than Allah has sent down to your mind or a message and instruction and that is the Quran. So look at the previous people when they did not listen to Allah What happened? What do you think?

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yourself, Allah has revealed this law and you will leave it you will neglect it. Then what do you expect in your life? Allah has sent a messenger Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam reciting to you the distinct verses of Allah, that he may bring out those who believe and do righteous deeds from darkness into light. And we follow the commands of Allah were taken out of darkness into light. And whoever believes in a lion does righteousness, he will admit him into gardens beneath which rivers flow to abide there and forever. Allah will have perfected for him a provision called arson Allahu la Buddhists call it is Allah who has created seven heavens and of the earth, the like of them.

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Meaning just as there are seven skies, there are seven Earths also, his command descends among them. So you may know that Allah is over all things competent, and that Allah has encompassed all things in knowledge. Yes, there are seven Earths also. Where are they? How are they what exactly they are? Allah knows, the creator knows, the owner knows. But what we need to realize from this is the greatness of the Creator, the greatness of Allah, how do we realize that by the greatness of his creation, by the greatness of his knowledge, and so trust what he has commanded? believe in Him and OBEY Him do not take his commands lightly.

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sudo to to him Bismillahirrahmanirrahim

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Yeah, you hanabi all Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, why do you prohibit yourself from what Allah has made lawful for you seeking the approval of your wives, and Allah is Forgiving and Merciful. indication over years to the honey that the Prophet sallallahu Sallam swore not to ever drink again. Why? Because some of his wives said to him, that honey had left a bad smell on him. So the Prophet sallallahu Sallam for the purpose of pleasing his wives, he swore an oath that he would never ever drink that honey, again, he would leave it

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and he did not declare it unlawful. But he just wanted his wives to be happy. Look at how careful the profits of a loss in him was. He didn't even want smell from him because of food that he liked. All right, why? Just to make his wives happy. But since the prophets of Allah Islam is a role model, if he left something, what would the rest of the oma do? They would also leave it and honey is something that should not be left, right? How many times is it that you find out the profits of a loss of them ate a particular food? And then you also eat it?

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Or that you find out like for example, when it comes to f4? Why is it the dates are so necessary? Does it say in the Quran anyway? That you have to break your fast with dates. Even people who don't generally like dates, what will they do? They will eat dates in Ramadan to break their fast Why? The prophets of Allah said him did it. Right. So if the prophets of laws that have left Honey, what do you think the rest of the people will do? They will also leave it and besides this illustrates the profits or losses personal preference was not to dictate what is lawful and what is unlawful. Allah has already ordained for you Muslims, the dissolution of your oaths and Allah is your protector, and

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he is the knowing the why so the province of the Lawson was told over here, break your oath and give the kafala What is that?

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What is that? Three fasts? If that is not possible than feeding 10 miskeen or clothing now. And remember, when the Prophet can find it to one of his wives a statement, he shared a secret with her. And since it was a secret, let it be a secret. And when she informed another of it, Allah informed him about it, meaning when she disclosed the secret of the prophets of the laws of Allah told the Prophet that she has disclosed your secret, and the Prophet sallallahu Sallam made known part of it to her and ignored apart meaning he let her know that I know that you did not keep my secret. And when he informed her about it, she said, Who told you this? He said, I was informed by the knowing

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the acquainted. If you two wives repent to Allah, Allah says it is best This was basically I should have the lower hand. But the long run, it is best for your hearts have deviated the whys of the profits or loss of them are addressed over here. Imagine if you repent, then that is something that you should do, because you did something wrong. Your heart made a mistake. What was that mistake that when the profits or the loss and share the secret with you, you should have kept it a secret, you should not have let it out. You should not have shared it with even one person.

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So you see, sometimes we say something, and that causes the heart to be deviated. So it's very important that we check our words and also the state of our heart. But if you cooperate against the Prophet than Indeed Allah is his protector and Jubilee and the writers of the believers and the angels, moreover, are his assistance, perhaps his Lord if the Prophet divorced you all, so

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the wives of the Prophet sallahu wa sallam are being warned over here that never do this again, that if the Prophet divorced you, Allah would substitute for him wives better than you. Others can take your place. Don't think that you are irreplaceable. And what are the qualities of good women, though submitting to Allah believing, devoutly obedient, repentant, worshiping and traveling, or fasting women, once previously married, and also virgins, meaning that doesn't matter? What matters is the man and the one normal sauna.

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Allah addresses the believers. Yeah, you are Latina, amanu or you have believed protect yourselves and your families from a fire hose fuel is people and stones or believers, save yourselves and your families from fire. You should not be cooperating in sin, you should be protecting each other from sin. Why? Because otherwise the consequence will be fire. And what is this fire? What is fueling it? People and stones with stones, even Massoud said they are off complete sulfur, which were created the day the heavens and the earth were created. And do you know how flammable sulfur is

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how flammable It is, it is so flammable, over which are appointed angels harsh and severe. They do not disobey Allah in what He commands them, but do what they are commanded. Who are these people who are being warned.

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And lilina Ave, then you better do something to save yourself because if you don't, even though you have Eman, you might end up in the fire.

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You might end up in the fire. The Prophet sallallahu Sallam said the religion will become dominant it will prevail and it will spread across the seas until horses are heavily used in the way of Allah. Meaning one event will lead to another one battle to another until Muslim lands will spread meaning they will increase they will grow then people will come who will read the Quran and when they will have read it. They will say Coronel Quran from an Accra Amina. They will say we've read the Quran, who's read more than us, man or a woman who knows more than us? Meaning they will constantly compare themselves with others and say, I know the most. I've read it or she hasn't read

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it. Or she doesn't do the course she hasn't taken the course she hasn't memorized I've memorized he doesn't know he doesn't know he doesn't know I know.

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being proud about this, the Prophet sallallahu Sallam asked the Sahaba Do you see any good in these people? The Sahaba said, No. The Prophet sallallahu Sallam said they will be from you from this oma and they will be the fuel of the fire. They will be the fuel of the fire. So we should always be afraid, never ever feeling proud about the fact that we have read the Quran, or that we have memorized it, or that we have known its meanings that we know better. And we know more than other people, and thus, we're always pointing fingers at other people. No, never, ever be proud of your knowledge that I know the most. This is extremely dangerous because this is something that will lead

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a person to hellfire. Or you have disbelieved. Make no excuses that day, you will only be recompense for what you used to do.

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Yeah, you are Latina, amanu or you have believed repent to Allah with sincere repentance. Believers are being addressed. Every single believer, every single person, every single one of us needs to think of ourselves right now. Think of yourself, I need to repent to Allah sincerely, because I do have faults in me. Perhaps your Lord will remove from you your misdeeds and admit you into gardens beneath which rivers flow on the day when Allah will not disgrace the prophet and those who believed with him, their light will proceed before them and on their right. Light before them and light on their right. They will say Our Lord, perfect for us our light and forgive us. Indeed you are over

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all things competent. Were the excuses of some people will not be accepted. Others will be forgiven and rewarded for their deeds. Who are they those who have pure EMA and those who repent to Allah with sincerity, being honest with themselves being true to Allah and such people will be saved. When will they be saved? When is it that they will be given light on the slot where everyone has to go? On the slit off? Allah will give them light in front of them and light on their right. This is where the prophets of Allah will be saying Allahumma Selim Selim Allah save, save and save

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us and Allah will save them. And Allah will also save some other people. But who are those people? those who repent to Allah, or prophet strive against the disbelievers and the hypocrites and be harsh upon them, and their refuge is *, and wretched is the destination. The prophets are the laws that have never really waged war against the hypocrites with swords and arrows. Rather, he was harsh with them through him through teaching. Allah presents an example of those who disbelieved the wife of new and the wife of loot, they were under two of our righteous servants, but they betrayed them. So those profits did not avail them from Allah at all. And it was said, enter the fire with

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those who enter. These are women whose husbands were were prophets,

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righteous men, pious men, and this shows that the husband's piety does not benefit the wife, if she herself is not bias. The piety of the parents is not helpful. Because sometimes we think, yeah, my husband, yeah, he gives up.

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I need to give sadaqa to my husband goes to the machine, he prays Pamela's and I need to do it to

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each and every one of us, we need to do it too.

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Because look over here, the wives did not benefit from the man of their husbands, even though their husbands were prophets of Allah. This is something very frightening. We have to think about our own armor. And Allah presents an example of those who believed the wife of her own when she said a baby earlier in the debate and Phil Jackson, oh my lord, built for me near you a house in Paradise and save me from your own and his deeds and save me from the wrongdoing people. And also the example of money. I'm the daughter of Milan who guarded her chastity. So we blew into her Garmin through our Angel, and she believed in the words of her Lord and His scriptures and was of the devoutly

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obedient. Asya was a lady who was extremely patient, extremely patient. We learned the hadith of Buddha below our new he said, that filler all nailed his wife in both her hands, and both her feet with spikes with spikes with huge nails. So basically pinned her to the ground or to the wall however this was so that she would not be able to move, didn't tie her, nailed her in her hands and her feet. And when they would leave her meaning his people would leave her because he had guards constantly making sure nobody would come and give anything to ask you. Not even a sip of water, nothing at all. Nobody helps her. So when they would go for their own break, the angels would shade

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And she said of divinity or in the cabeza and Phil Jenna, when a demon fit around our family when a demon and COVID Wally mean, so Allah, Allah remove the veil of the unseen from her and showed her her house in general.

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Alarm showed her her house engine. This is an example for who a woman whose husband is abusive, abusive because of what because of her Dean, Should she compromise? Should she give up her Dean? Look at the length that SEO went to. Allah showed her her house in general. Then the other example is of Madame who was also the best of women. What did she do? She guarded her chest at her modesty. She did not commit any Zina any how long. And for any young woman, this is really a victory, that she keeps herself chaste. This is really a victory. This is an accomplishment not just today. But in all times. This has been the case we think today the fitness a lot. Fitness was always a lot.

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Because men have always liked women and women have always liked men. This is something that has existed from the beginning.

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So a woman who manages to stay away from how long relationships then really this is a victory. And secondly, we see that Maria, she was educated, learned of the words of Allah and she was devoutly consistently worshipping of her Lord. So May Allah subhanaw taala make us like these women also patient, steadfast, firm, learned, knowledgeable, chaste, and ultimately devout. To who Allah our master, devoutly obedient, continuously obedient to Allah azza wa jal because this is the example that has been given for us.

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All right, I would like you all to stand up. Please.

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Share a good word with the person standing next to you.

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And if you do not know what to say, then do this.

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So anything you'd like to share with everybody else?

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That Allah is giving us the example of Miriam that she was knowledgeable

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She knew that the

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because for the cuts, she confirmed the words of her Lord. The words are what the words which Allah has revealed. Right? And how is that possible if she didn't know them? So she was knowledgeable. And this shows to us that as women, yes, of course we need to guard our chastity that is extremely important. And in addition to that, as a woman, our priority should also be to learn the deen and then also learn to be patient.

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Women have to have that sub. It's essential, these three things that we can learn because all of this essentially this is being obedient to Allah subhana wa Tada. So May Allah, Allah make us amongst such women. So panicle long will be handed a Chateau La ilaha illa Anta, a stuffy loco a to LA Assalamu alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh

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