The Prophet’s SAWS Family Life

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The Prophet’s SAWS Family Life – Delivered by Shaykh Riyadh ul Haq on 4th March 2016 at Al Kawthar Academy, Leicester (UK)

Many of our cultural norms affect the way we behave with our family members. These often conflict with the way our noble Prophet SAWS behaved within his home. Being a role model and inspiration to Muslims around the world, the Prophet SAWS lived a simple life and was the best towards his family. But what exactly would he do at home?

This lecture will detail some of the routines the Prophet SAWS would have. The simplicity in his life and the way he would help family members is an example which, unfortunately, many of us have forgotten today. This lecture will also mention what the Prophet SAWS wanted for his family and how he worked together with them to ensure their success in the hereafter.

Find out more on how Rasulullah SAWS conducted himself with his wives, highlighting his tolerance and patience, with many examples taken from the Quran and Hadith.

Below are some of the timecodes and topics relating to this talk:

5:20 – Why would Rasulullah sleep early?
19:38 – Being diverted from our true purpose in life
24:39 – The Tasbih of Fatimah
33:54 – The purity of the wealth of the father of Imam Bukhari
48:15 – The diet of the Prophet
56:32 – The testimony of the wives of the Prophet about him.
1:05:58 – Balance in trying to please the wife
1:11:54 – The jealousy between the wives of the Messenger
1:23:42 – The strong women of the Ansar
1:30:39 – What did Rasulullah do at home

Episode Transcript

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Bismillah

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soleimani

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salatu salam O Allah so you didn't really know how to intervene

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Morocco, was built in a shape on a regime spelled out

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in the law, a woman who is alone

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a lot in the scenario

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and later on in the Ebrahim in

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La baddeck Adam

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Mohammed

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Ibrahim Ibrahim

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spectrum listeners.

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Last week I spoke in some detail

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about the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam his relationship with children,

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not just the children of his family, not just his own children.

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But

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his love, affection

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and compassion

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and friendliness and in fact even playfulness with all children.

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Today inshallah I hope to share a few thoughts about the prophets and the law while he was in a relationship with his family.

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And also, in general about his life inside his house.

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The topic isn't as focused or I can't make the topic today is focused on

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as focused as it was last week, last week, the topic was very specific, his relationship with children.

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When we speak about his family life in general, that could include so many different things, his relationship with children, his relationship with his wives, his behavior at home, in the privacy of his four walls, his timings at home, his personal habits.

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So I'll try to say as much as I can, which would enable us to gain some insights or to be reminded of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam private life and how we can learn from

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Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was a very balanced individual.

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And this balance showed in his private life to

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one of the remarkable things of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

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was

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how much he was in tune with nature.

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And that reflected in his timing was throughout the pay.

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profits of the law it was some would rise early,

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spend the day in activity

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and then by nightfall It was his noble habit

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to retire sleep.

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staying awake late at night, has always been the habits of human beings, especially when people get together. So in festivities celebration, in family gatherings, or just as a group of people spending time together

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they would wile away the early hours of the night in discussion and dialogue and conversation, often just idle talk, the province little alarm early. This is referred to as summer in Arabic. And in the Hadith, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam has specifically warned against this.

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He's forbidden it so this How about the Allahu anhu relate that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would forbid summer

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which means conversing late into the night

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and he forbade others from doing so.

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And

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he practiced it perfectly himself.

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So, if the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, eight in the evening, it would normally be after Madame Salah.

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And then

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immediately after Isha immediately the wives of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam saying that, when he would return from Isha Sunnah, if he needed to discuss something with a member of the family, he would do so.

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That's only if it was a pressing matter, otherwise, without speak without conversation, the province of the law really will send them would immediately retire Tibet, and he would fall asleep.

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And one of the reasons for doing so, apart from the fact that he was very much in tune with nature,

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is that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would sleep

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and then he would rise in the middle of the night

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for the hedge.

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Those are the most serene moments

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of the 24 hours.

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And in those special hours, Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would rise and spend a very long time in prostration in prayer, in standing for last panel with

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me and Ernie shadow, the law says that he was told

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she said to him, that will messenger of Allah

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Why do you burden yourself in this manner because the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam would remain standing in the hijab for so long

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that his feet would swell.

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It would swell and crack.

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So the woman woman in a Chateau de la Marina says that all messenger of Allah, why do you burden yourself in such a manner? When Allah has indeed forgiven all your sins past and future? So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam his reply was a fella akuna abin shockula should I then not be a grateful servant of law?

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So without being in need of it, the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would spend every single night without fail in the hundreds Allah for a very long

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standing, praying, weeping

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and mini and Chateau de la hora, and

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as well as the other ones would often be asleep, but on occasions a prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would wake up the wives too, and members of his family

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see them earlier Lila and relates that is

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that once Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam came to our house to his daughter's house, in the middle of the mountains, this is what the hedge

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so he rose for the legend himself. And then he went to his daughter's house, to wake up both his daughter finally model the alarm and his son in law, the law firm.

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And speaking of family, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam married his cousin, brother in law horn to his daughter.

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So but he wasn't just a son in law, and he wasn't just the cousin brother.

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The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam actually grew up with him. One

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another thing of course, he was much, much, much younger. But the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam spent a lot of time with him. And then eventually, when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam married

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for the Jehovah your loved one, and a lot enriched him through her, the province of the lover, it was seldom, then in order to lighten the burden of his unkillable body, he actually took it, it'll be a lot more and into his care and custody.

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So he, he would care for him maintain him, and he would provide for him and he would live with him. So I think it'll be your loved one was like her was a cousin, brother, a son in law, a brother, and like a son to the prophets in law it was and that's why they will buy

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Very much devoted teach. So the province in the love it was sent them went to their house

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at the time.

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And the loved one says that he woke us up

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then the prophets of Allah and equals elementum.

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And he began his Salah himself.

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And then realizing that there was total silence, because we were very close. There was total silence from his daughter's house. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam came back and what again, so it would be a lot more and this is additional wording from other narrations, not from Mojave, but from others, including among, let's say, ronix, etc. So at the viola who says that I sat up and lost, I was rubbing my eyes. I said, I remonstrated with the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam because he had woken up twice and he probably repeat them the second time mildly. And you know, the lover emphasized that our souls are in the control of Allah. Our souls are in the hands of Allah. If Allah

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wishes, he lets us leave allow wishes he allows us to wake up.

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But the prophets of Allah highly are synonyms, humility, his calmness, his composure, his forbearance was such that even though I already have the Allah and said this to him, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam remain silent. He didn't say anything to him in reply, and he began walking away. And as he was walking away, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam slapped his noble fat and loudly exclaimed, he recited the verse of the Quran. What kind of sound or extra sheet in juggler, that man is argumentative?

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In most things,

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or of all things, man is the most argumentative. So even a European law firm, he actually employed an argument from the court. What a law refers to allow me to often emphasize in mot, how will it be lumped in with female famous equality on a motorway absolutely, utterly muslimah the law he is the one who seizes the souls at the time of their death.

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And he also sees as those who have not yet died in their sleep.

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Then in sleep, he withholds he holds on to those souls,

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upon whom he has decreed death, and the other souls he releases them, till a fixed time. So sleep

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is less than death. Sleep is a lesser death

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and death is a great sleep.

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And our whole life is a dream, it really is.

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When we, when we are dreaming.

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There is no one apart apart from some occasions, when some people can experience lucid dreaming, but

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apart from a few people, again, on some occasions, who realize that they are actually dreaming because they are drifting in and out of sleep. For most people on most occasions, or when you are in deep sleep, when you are actually dreaming properly.

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You really think that that's, that's all there is. That is life. That's reality. And sometimes in our dreams, we actually question ourselves, am I dreaming

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and in dreams,

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we experience going to sleep and dreaming within a dream.

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So when we are dreaming, we think there is nothing else this is reality. This is all there is when we wake up.

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It's something else altogether. In fact, most people can't remember their dreams as soon as you wake up.

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Scientifically, they explained that most often you can only gain on most occasions, you can only remember the dreams that you saw in the last few minutes before waking up.

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Otherwise a person can dream for hours intermittently, and not remember anything.

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So Life is but a dream. And when we will wake up from this tree

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that will be the real

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Nothing will matter of this dream,

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how rich we were, how poor we were what we suffered,

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nothing will matter.

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And it may all just seem like a

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horrible dream, an unpleasant dream.

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So sleep is the lesser death and death is a great sleep. So any of your loved one was referring to that, when he says that our hand our souls are in the hands of Allah. If Allah wishes,

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he may hold on to them, he may hold on to them. If a law wishes you may release them, allowing us to wake up and pray. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam left turned and walked away and slapping his thigh. He said, he recited the verse of the arm that, indeed men is in most things, the most arguments, or the most arguments, of all things.

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And that's man's nature to debate to discuss. But the prophets the libretti, who send them said that for as the moral of the story is, see the relationship with the prop of the Prophet sallallahu send them with his family. He loved them, he cared for them. But his primary concern for his family was not food and drink

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was not the comfort and the luxuries of this world.

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It was

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a law tells him that in the Quran was more like a dishonor there was studied I learned this I look at his

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book. When I acutally taqwa Allah says, and command your family.

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To pray, instruct your parents family about prayer,

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and be firm and perseverant and steadfast upon Salam upon prayer. Then Allah immediately says,

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Lana silica risca

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we do not ask you for provisions. We do not ask you for any assistance, not another support, we will sustain

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and this is similar to the other verse of the Quran in which Allah has the model says

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McCulloch, Virginia will insert in Larry Ouma re the man who marries a woman to a moon in the la hora de COVID-19 I have not created managin except that they serve me.

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I do not see any provision or any systems from

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nor do I seek that they feed me

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indeed law He is the

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Supreme sustain

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the one of minds the Almighty. So here are two versus twos very separate verses of the Quran

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which both begin with

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Riba

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in the case of one, and Eva shouldn't be restricted to the narrow meaning of ritual worship, but rather the all encompassing meaning of serving a law. That's what it means. So the one verse begins with a bad IE serving Allah. And the other verse begins with summer with prayer. And although both verses begin with this, they immediately switch

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to the message by Allah,

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that Allah does not want his creation, or even the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam to provide for him to feed him to sustain him. Rather, he is a supreme sustainer. He is the one who feeds and provides what's the connection between the first part of the verse and the second, in both cases, why specifically mentioned that law does not depend on the creation and the Lord does not seek any risk any sustenance or provision or even feeding from the creation. Rather, he is the one who looks after them provides for them and feeds them. The reason for both verses, beginning in that manner and immediately switching to this message is that last panel with their honor, even though

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simplistic, though, it may seem to us is reminding us,

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that we we live our lives, we we earn, we work and we strive and we make the goal and the purpose of our life.

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The accumulation of wealth, and in such a manner, as though it suggests that we are trying to

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Gather and accumulate to wealth in order to provide for and feed, not just ourselves, and not just our families, and not just the rest of creation but love the Creator Himself.

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And this diverses from our true purpose of the Bible have a loss

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of serving a loss.

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If one parent

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or if an employer, if an employer tells his employee

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that I'd like you to

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carry out this particular task.

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The employee then goes off acting on his or her own initiative

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to do something else in order to curry favor with the employer

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and fails to fulfill clear instructions. Even though ultimately the employee may protest that I did it for your sake out of interest for you for your welfare,

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the employer will immediately dismiss such an employee. If a parent

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instructs a child to do something which the parent feels is vital for the child's well being their health and for the family. The child then goes off and repeatedly does something else. Well intention though it may be

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a thing which ultimately harms not just the child but the rest of the family, what will be the reaction of the parents, despite the sincerity and the well intention, just the sincerity and the noble intentions of the child. Similarly, Allah subhanho wa Taala He is our Creator, he knows as he has molded as he has fashioned.

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Allah subhanho wa Taala Allah has commanded us that I have created you to serve.

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That is your purpose. That's your duty, that's your golden objective.

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Do not be distracted from that. Do not let anything divert you from

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and then when last panel with the Allah sees his creation, running off

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and in in order to provide for themselves and earning in such a manner as though they need to provide not just for themselves and their families and the whole and the rest of creation, but even for the Creator Himself. That's how they live. That's how they work. It's endless. It's never ending. Sort of last panel with Anna reminds the creation repeatedly in the poor. Don't forget your purpose. Don't forget your objective. Your true purpose is to serve me and part of that is Salah. Do not let your earning and your livelihood distracts you from

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I will sustain I will provide

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and don't act as though you have to provide for me. I don't want you to feed me. So a last round of water Anna says up to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam specifically what more of the address is to him individually? What is sold out it was literally the Messenger of Allah instruct your family to prayer and remain firm and steadfast and perseverance on it. So this is what the prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam used to do with his children with his family. And that's what he did. On that occasion. He went to fart him out of the library in his house, what he returned for the hedge. He continued to pray his 200 Salah when he sensed total silence, he went back woke them up again.

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When you have the law and set up rubbing his eyes and remonstrated with him not to passionately but just argue that his case that our messenger of Allah our souls are in the hands of Allah, Allah let's asleep as he wishes and ally let's awake as he wishes, prophets Allah Allah already wasn't turned around. And without saying another word to earlier the alarm, just stacking this time loudly, explaining that indeed men is in most things argumentative. But the moral of the story for us is that this was the prophets of the love. It was his relationship with his family. He was more concerned about their prayer, about their worship, about their eba and their relationship with Allah

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rather than their worldly affairs. fact the model the alarm, went to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

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because

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any of the law who worked extremely hard, they were the royal family.

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But Has there ever been a royal family life

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Were Fatima rhodiola and how the princess

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were rough out of excessive work

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where she suffered and labored in order to feed herself and her friend. And she lived in an humble abode. I needed the alarm and carried water on his shoulders.

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He did all sorts of manual work and he hit the alarm and used to carry water. And you know the alarm used to gather bundles of straw

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on his back to the Allaha and he used to do all kinds of different work all of it just to feed the family. And you know, the loved one will tell Fatima de la

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familia love and I will tell the loved one, speak to

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your father in law speak to my father

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so that he provides us with a main or some help so that our burden can be lightened and it'll be a lot more and had burden to his back. Farm out of the law, hand through extensive labor made her hands coarse and rough.

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And they were both suffering event a leader of the Allahu Allah would refrain from speaking to the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam eventually forced him out of the alarm. How went Fatima rhodiola spoke to the Father and said I will father This is our condition at home. This is our livelihood.

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These are my hands. This is how I labor This is how my husband your cousin brother, labor's

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give us a made from the wealth that the Muslims have received. Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam heard her petition, heard everything that she had to say. And then this was the ruler of Arabia. Same to his daughter, the Princess of the royal family, if we can call it that, I'm just saying it's for explanatory reasons. What did the father say? What did resort have lots of lumber it was some of them say, oh China thing I give you something far better. And what did he give her? The speed somehow on that and who that Allahu Allahu Akbar.

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That was his relationship with Israel. Not wealth.

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He did not want wealth at home. He did. He lived a simple life. That's what he wanted for his entire family. He went to the house of his daughter party model the alarm on her historic pattern.

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He saw patterns on the blanket that served as a door.

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Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam turned around the

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idea of the Allahu anhu returned Fatima out of the alarm informed earlier the alarm that the prophets alarm it was in them came but he turned back right from the door and it will be alarming became fearful. That was the sound of displeasure. He went to the sort of loss and the love it so then he inquired or messenger of Allah you came, you turn back at the door.

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profits in the love it was seldom said I saw a pacsun

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which distracted me and reminded me of the dunya

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So I turned back on either the alarm went home informed faulty model the alarm of what the prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam had just said, and the reasons he had given for turning back from the door,

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instantly found the model the alarm.

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She decided to dispose of that blanket. Then the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam encouraged her to get to a certain factory.

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Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam acted on that verse that instruct your family to pray and be perseverance and patience on it. We do not seek any systems or provision from rather we shall sustain.

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That's what he did with fancy model the alarm. That's what he did with his grandchildren. One of the Hassanein either hasn't seen that the alarm

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was playing by

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the heat have dates when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam receives

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that wealth of zaca who even Harare

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that would be deposited in the masjid, but only for a short while, before he was sent.

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On this occasion, or sometimes even in the house of the messenger, some of them lahardee some small amounts so

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dates were the dates of southern part of charity were placed in the house of a sort of laughs a little alarm, it was them in a huge pile.

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One of the grandchildren has an upper saint of the alarm.

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cane, and like a child, he picked up one of the dates and puts it in his mouth.

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larva,

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although I spoke about children last week and the properties of the love it have some relationship with them, and never mentioned this story.

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So

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he picked up the date and put it in his mouth. I saw the loss of the lover and he was sending them left a lifelong lesson for us about how to teach our children

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and how to strike the balance when it comes to halal and haram. When it comes to

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a child's relationship with the dunya. And with Allah, his origin,

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the perfect balance, Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam called

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and said to him

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that this, these dates are from Southern

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and southern is her arm for our family. The blue hash

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and the reason for that are his her own passion.

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Not just the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam his immediate family but going back to three generations.

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So Mohammed the son of Abdullah the son of Abu Talib, the son of harsh, his great grandfather, the reason is that Southern hoodman, unworthy him so the cotton hirosaki him behind him. Now messenger of a lot take from there well, such charities such as that which purifies them, and through which you purify them, you nurture them. So when we give zeca hum sada when we give Sokka xhaka purifies our wealth, it's a cleanser. So the amount of wealth that we extract from ours, aka, it cleanses and purifies the rest of the wealth. So it's in a way, it's a cleansing, it's a financial cleansing agent.

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That thing, that portion of wealth, which cleans and purifies other people's wealth, is not befitting the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and his period, or his family.

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And so, for the Boo Hashem, there is no consumption of Zakah or subaqua is not permissible.

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So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said to him, these are the dates of service, and such wealth is held on for us. So he taught him that. And then what did the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam do? Did he simply Well,

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we may think it's just a child.

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It's okay. But the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was explaining this to him. He held his nut he held the grandchild's face.

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And then he opened his mouth gently. And while it's talking to him, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam removed as much of the date with his noble fingers from the child's mouth as he could.

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So he explained to him lovingly, but at the same time, he did his utmost to ensure that no harm enters his grandchild's

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body

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Hello, Adam haraam, a very important not just food,

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especially income, especially wealth.

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And there are countless stories of Harlem Harlem. Mr. Mohan de la de la is some

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nice Well, sorry, remember hard to love. His father. His name was smart, he

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and he man smart. He was a narrator of the youth himself.

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And this was a respect that people had for Roma.

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Proudly remember how he would say, and he would tell people he would recall who my father was. He wouldn't say my father was this and my father was that rather, your man will have to learn he would tell people that my father, he heard these from Malik.

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Meaning my father had the privilege and the honor of hearing heavy from Mr. Malik. And then he went further and he would say

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My father, he shook hands with Eman Abdullah hibbeler Mubarak with both hands.

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For him that was a thing of our.

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So imagine this mareel the father in law, he had a, he left his two sons Mohammed and it was the old one. When he passed away before he passed away when he was on his deathbed, he said, I have left so much wealth for these two sons of mine, by law, in my entire collection of wealth, I do not know of a single theorem, which is of a doubtful nature. Forget her own, he said, which is of a doubtful nature. It's pure wealth, which breeds pure people. Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam told his grandchild this wealth is haram for us, but at the same time, he very lovingly and affectionately, he removed every trace of that date from the child's mouth. That's what he was concerned about. He

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did not want wealth, even Hallo wealth inside his hat. One day after Salah after I saw Salah How about the love relate that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam suddenly stood up

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like a boat he stood up

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and he rapidly made his way from the front of the machine to his house late

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we asked him our messenger of Allah was everything. Well, was everything okay? You did this you suddenly rose after I saw salah and you went home. This is something we're not accustomed to is unprecedented. Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam replied, Yes, everything's fine. All that it was that during Salah, I remembered a gold nugget that was inside my house that off some of the wealth of sub. So it wasn't gold belonging to him.

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Again, remember I said earlier that when zurka would come or southern, the wealth would sometimes be placed in the masjid. Or you would be placed in the

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house of the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.

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When the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he sent someone to collect the Zika of Bahrain. And today we know behind me and allowed to be an island. But in those days, whenever we read Bahrain, in the Hadeeth, or in classical Islamic literature, Bahrain refers to not just the island which was a small part of that region, but it refers to the whole eastern part of Arabia, inland. So when it says Bahrain, that's what's being referred to the eastern most parts of the Arabian Peninsula. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam sent someone to collect these occur, and the taxes of Bahrain. So when they were brought in, he was a fertile wealthy region, the wealth was collected and

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again placed in the machine. So this harbottle the law

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and

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many of them attended phidgets Allah,

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the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam,

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Rosa after fetch, turned around

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and was about to return home when he saw the congregation.

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And the wealth of Bahrain was there to one side of the machine, glittery

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profits of the law, Allahu alayhi wa sallam smiled, and remember, they were many of them were in need, despite their poverty and their need. Imagine, imagine the scene the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says to them, or law him and fucker ashara Aiko, what are the tips of the dunya

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dominicana publikum fatahna suhag Amata nafsa have liquid

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that by a light it is not poverty. He smiled and he said this

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by a light is not poverty, the Thai fear for you, rather than what I do fear for you, that the world shall be opened up and spread out before you as it was opened up to those who came before you.

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Then the world will destroy you just as it destroyed.

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Sorry, the world will be opened up for you as it was opened up for those who came before you for an hour for suhag amantha naffaa saw her meaning you will then vibe with each other and compete with one another in acquiring the world just as they competed and vied with one another and then the world will destroy you just as it destroyed them.

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So sometimes it's another place in the masjid sometimes in the house. So again, there was a golden nuggets of the wealth.

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Southern. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam rose immediately after Salah rushed home. Later he explained to the Sahaba that there was no other reason, except that during Salah I remembered that I had a golden nugget, a very small one of the wealth of Southern Africa, inside the house, not of his wealth. And he said, I did not want the night to fall on the family of the Messenger of Allah in his home, or Once there was a piece of gold in the house, even though it didn't belong to Him. So I went and I immediately instructed for its distribution. That's how he lived that's how he wanted his family to live. What concerned him was a bother him their prayer, just as he did the season

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early in part, the model the a lot, and with his wives as

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it relates to the one night suddenly the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam woke up, and it's a common law.

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What

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trials have been sent down this land.

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And he mentioned a few other things that he said.

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Wake up,

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the inhabitants of the chambers referring to his wives, wake up the inhabitants of the chambers, meaning the wives, or you wake them up for the

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fruit Bakassi in Jr.

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Era. He said, There is many clothes woman in the world who shall be unclothed in the hereafter.

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And he said that in relation to his wives that wake them up, ie for 200 Salah for prayer.

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For there are men for there is many

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a closed woman in the dunya who shall be unclothed in the Hara.

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So he would an opening shot of the laquan Hi relates that when the final 10 days of Ramadan would arrive, Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would fasten his girdle tighten his belt, he would wake up sorry he would

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give life to his whole night meaning and vigil and in prayer and

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shut them in Zahra Laila.

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And he would awaken his whole family. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would spend as much time in the vicar and a bottle of Allah and that's what he would do with his smile. That was his life. I began the whole data space speaking about how the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was in tune with nature. And this is just the first part, he would fall asleep immediately after issue. That was his noble son. He wouldn't spend time discussing and talking with his family now. He would fall asleep.

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And then he would rise

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and delight my bathtub, the Allahumma he specifically sought permission to stay overnight with the messenger sallallahu wasallam in order to observe what he did in his privacy. And we learn of how he would pray.

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So I'm delighted I burst the alarm or enter his arms he may monitor the alarm.

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I mentioned last week how the prophets the love it or some of them will see to that Abdullah have now burst of the left.

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And to the to his right. And to the left with the show you have the courage. The senior ones both middle aged as well as much older and one of the show you was and the live novices cousin brother cardinally, the huge age gap between them because I'm delighted numbers of the lover and mouse 14 when the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam passed away. And Holly didn't believe that or the law was much much older. But they were cousin brothers, their mothers were sisters. So I'm delighted. ibises mother Allman father and maimunah how the law her and her were sisters, and the third sister was harder than the leads mother. So these were three sisters. So how did you lead armed he was

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maimunah Javi Allah as well but I'm delighted to get

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his arms he was made to hold the loved one and he sought permission from her that can you ask the messenger some of the love it was and in fact can stay with you overnight. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam granted permission. So I'm delighted nobis delightedly relates, how he slept at night. profits in the love it was seldom he said there was a long pillar, so the province of the love it will send them in my arm team a morning huddle the alarm. They both slept

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In such a way that the pillow was behind. So here's a pillow, profits a little love it has someone removed out of the alarm and the narrow part of the pillow at the end of the line Ambassador the lover in whom I slept like that. So he shared the pillow with his arms he with us with the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam awoke, Abdullah lambasted the Allahu Allah, this young man, who at such a young age, was filled with zeal for their

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soul and so that there was no inhibition. He respectfully asked his Auntie, can I stay with you at home? Why, just so that he could observe the profits of the law it was and follow his example, and a low reward him immensely. Indeed, because of him, we learn of the private moments of the prophets and the love equals cinema.

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So he was alert as soon as a prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam awoke, he awoke, but with some delay, because prophets of the love Islam gossip and delight in our basket.

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He listened to the verses that the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam read, he looked towards the heavens, and then began reading in the few 100% to a lot of people that have lain till the end of the verse, then he got up did will do from a skin wat skin that was hung from the wall, and then he went and stood in Salah Abdullah did the same. And then he went and stood next to the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam, Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam places noble hands on his head, turned disease, and brought him around so that he could stand to his right. And then he prayed with the Messenger of Allah Subhan Allah it suddenly, whilst a family slept. So indeed, on occasions, he

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would wake his family, but often, the family would be asleep, the world would be asleep, for sort of luxurious amount or Salam would be engaged in Salah in the early hours.

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That was his timing,

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very shallow Viola and her essays, and they lived simply he had a small hut, small homes,

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no many rooms, each wife had one chain.

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And the chambers were so short, in hand, so small.

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There is an estimation that approximately approximately the whole chamber we're not talking about one room, but the entire quarter for each wife was about 15 square feet.

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Sorry,

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yes, 15 square feet. So five meters, five minutes.

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That was a whole chain.

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The entire court

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and that contained everything.

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And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam lived his life in that he lived the life of simplicity. That famous story but will dull Harlan sorry, it'll the alarm. Woman woman in a shuttle the alarm says never for two days in a row. Never for two consecutive days, that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam ever eat barley.

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So they would mainly eat bar.

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If he

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if you want to be healthy, and live healthy, follow the diet and the sleeping pattern of muscle mass and the law.

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true

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prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

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if he if he would eat

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all this talk about carbs and protein so if any carbs he would eat he would be barley. But even then, on occasions, he loved me.

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But that's no reason for excessive consumption. Because he shall be alive when he relates at the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam as well as they the family would only occasionally in rarely receive me in what she says, for two whole months. for two whole months, the fire in the hirth of the home of the Messenger of Allah would not be lit because there was no solid food took two whole months. All our food was dates and water for two months. And

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occasionally we would receive a gift of milk.

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That's why when they would have means Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam loved needs but aren't sure of the love on herself explains in one ad that you would only occasionally come

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This is why he left me. So in this Hadeeth are moving in shadow the Allahu Allah says that for two consecutive days, never what the Prophet salallahu alaihe never did the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam eat his fill from barley for two consecutive days until the day he left as well.

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And he really deflated by others. So how about Have you?

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Never did the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam fill his stomach? Never did he eat his fill from Bali or for me from me,

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unless he was a guest with other people, so he was eating with other people as a guest. There, maybe he would eat a bit more. But normally, he would never eat to his film.

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So he lives simply that famous story about what happened in Saudi Arabia, Lahore, and this was his family law.

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So the law one relates a heading. And the guest was a warrior himself, although it's not mentioned. But we learn from other narrations. So he's saying, I'm sorry that the alarm?

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Probably prophet Sall Allahu alayhi wa sallam one night after Isha Salah he stood up, and

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he called one of the attendants. And he said, Go and ask

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the wives of the Messenger of Allah, if there is any food in any of the homes for the guests of the Messenger of Allah. So the attendant went, he went to each house of the Prophet sallallahu, alayhi wasallam, all of these wives.

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And each wife said, Please convey our Salaam to the Messenger of Allah, and inform him that there is nothing in the home except water.

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And that was all the wives.

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Then the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam made an announcement, that who is there who will entertain the guests of the Messenger of Allah this night, so it will not Harlan sorry, it'll be a lot more understood. And He then took the guest who was able to hold the alarm to his house. And that's another famous story in itself. So this is how simply the family left.

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And this was his life at home.

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And at home, of course, he had a special relationship with his worms, which I may touch upon them. But this did this. This requires many sessions, Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam his marriages, his behavior with his wives, how he lived with them, how he treated them. That's another topic in itself. But at home, how is the Prophet son lahardee.

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He was at home as he was outside, there was no difference. Balance I spoke earlier, the province of the law, it was said there was a very balanced individual. And that balance meant that the way the Messenger of Allah lived and behaved outside that's how he lived and behaved. There was no difference.

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There are many mice at home who are lines outside and there are many lines at home while mice outside. That's human nature. We put on a show, we put on a cloak and a mass,

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we put on a persona. In fact, the very word person means a mass, the word not persona, but the word person.

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Person means a mass.

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That's why in traditional plays, the actors are known as persona a

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because that's what it means. persona. A means the actors a person means a mask because they are the actors. So

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when we're outside,

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we put on a persona we put on a mask a cloak, we change our speech, our behavior, our mannerisms,

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our demeanor, everything, unconsciously and sometimes subconsciously. As soon as we return home, the cloak falls off. The mask falls off. And we reveal ourselves to our closest members of the family. This is why

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and we're not even talking about spouses, sometimes spouses, yes, but immediate members of the family, the parents, the children, the brothers, for how long can a person keep up their act? They have to let go sometime and that's when we normally let go in the privacy of our homes.

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We are different people. And this is true for everybody. Sometimes,

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if you speak to a family member,

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and they relate how a person behaves at home, you can never connect the two. You can never believe that this is the same individual.

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And this is the unique nature of the prophets of Allah alayhi wa Salatu was Salam.

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And especially the prophets in the long run equals

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what they treated him not only as a husband, but as a messenger of Allah.

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Indeed, they treated him as a messenger.

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And that reveals something.

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Because they saw him throughout the day, they saw him all the time.

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And yet, they will never disillusion they will never in doubt.

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They will never

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disenchanted with the Messenger of Allah, his glory, his miraculous nature, His Majesty remained consistent with them for them throughout their lives. Never did they suffer or waver in that.

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And that is one of the miracles of the messenger, some love it was in his marriages, where miracles they truly were.

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When we look at ourselves, our spouses, our wives know everything about us.

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No man can claim to be a saint, as far as his wife is concerned,

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should remind you of all your saintliness if you ever make such a bold claim,

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she will demolish all claims to your saintliness.

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She really will,

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with the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, not one wife, not two wives, not three, at one and the same time nine wives, not a single one of them dissented, or ever revealed, or ever conveyed or related, a single thing of his private life, which contradicted his public life. Never once

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just as the Sahaba de la hora, who honored him and revered him, they honored him and Murphy

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Habiba de la

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whose name was Rama, the daughter of Abu Sofia.

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Imagine Abu Sufyan his own daughter, again, this was another miraculous thing about the messenger sallallahu alayhi wasallam his bitterest enemies, their daughters married him.

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He

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was the leader of buena V,

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in Medina,

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one of the earlier tribes to be expelled from Medina.

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And he was a bitter opponent of the Messenger of Allah. He was the one who actually he went to live in haber. And he was the one who instigated the arrange and tried to arouse them

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especially in the later bathrooms, and especially in

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the fifth of July, when he also tried to instigate when are you going to betray the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam from inside the city of Medina. So how you eventually his daughter Sophia will be alive and her she married the Messenger of Allah Heidi was

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Sophia and the leader of Medina, his daughter, Ramallah, she embraced Islam 200 and the senior publisher.

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And there, she, she lived, she was married to the brother of Zenith international the law and obey the law

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of the law.

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And he then they both did his publisher, and then they resigned it.

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And he passed away. Some of you may be surprised that I said, I'll be delighted and it'll be a lot of fun. Because it's reported that will they do live no Joshua the alarm

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became, he renounced his faith

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and he became an apostate.

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But these reports about obey the law national the law.

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A number of olema have cast serious doubt.

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When you look at all the evidence, there are single reports

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of him passing away as a non Muslim. And yet everything else about him that we know of authentic reports suggests otherwise. His hedger His sacrifice is being married to Zayn have been his mate is being married to Ramallah min, Toby Sophia, is being the brother of Zane have been to Jackson Abdullah on the alarm. And

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all of this suggests that that singular reports about him

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because the

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it's not just that he died as a non Muslim, but there he took to drink,

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and that he became an apostate that report, many orlimar have cast doubt on it. So when you contrast that singular, unreliable report, with everything else that we know about him, it doesn't stand scrutiny. So she was married to obey the law, legal law and but he passed away and then the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam.

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proposed to her from Medina, she accepted the proposal,

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the joshy who was the Abyssinian ruler, he actually performed Anika and he gave the Prophet some of the love it was he gave her dowry on behalf of the messenger salallahu alayhi wasallam. So, and that her dowry was 400, Dina

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along with other gifts, and that was a huge battery. The other wives, she would boast that she had the most expensive dairy, the otherwise we're all given 500 dirhams, or you know, the love and gave 482 factor model the law. And although often it's

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people like to give Matter of fact, the model the law,

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the matter of fact, the amount of the law. At the time of the nica was what I needed the law gave farty model the law, so in a way that sooner have led to the alarm, but the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he had a murder which he would give to all of his wives. And that was the Son of Man of the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and it's slightly more than the matter of fact, the model the law, but the other ones were given 500 that was, which is 12 and a half or a year. But the the model, the diary of the law, was 400, the na 400 dinars, gold sovereigns, and that was given by Anna joshy. In any case, she married the messenger Salalah. It was sentimental and upsetting, and

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I've sent here and then when she came to Medina, she lived with him later, but she she had never seen her father for all those years, since the time she emigrated to Abyssinia. Then in the seventh year of Hitler, he came to Medina in order to ratify the treaty, after

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the allies of the Quraysh attacked the allies of the Muslims.

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The Blue Book, they attack the bundle cozaar.

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And all Sofia was now fearful that the treaty or the VA would now be rendered null and void.

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And he was in a fearful state so he came to Medina to ratify the treaty. When it came to Medina, he decided to visit his daughter, Rama. This was the first time after so many years.

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And when he went to visit her,

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I relate this because I said earlier, how did the wives view the messenger of law, some of the law, everything they saw about him from him.

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When he went to see her This is now the father visiting his daughter for the first time, after many, many years,

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approximately,

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approximately 15 years. He's now seeing his daughter for the first time, after 15 years. He enters the house.

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They greet one another.

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He then goes to sit down.

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As he is lowering himself. She suddenly pulled the bedding from underneath.

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And he stopped midway.

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And he was eloquent. So he said to her,

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oh, my daughter, I don't understand. He didn't say I don't understand. That's my paraphrasing in English. But he said to her Oh, my daughter

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did you remove the bedding from under me?

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Because the bedding is too good for me or I am too good for the bedding.

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So this is a daughter speaking to the Father.

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I won't repeat the entire sentence. But she said, or father, this is the bedding of the Messenger of Allah, some of the law honey

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and you are in pure

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should refuse to allow her own father to sit on the couch and the bedding of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam wasn't. So he then stood up again.

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And he looked at her and he said, Look, I saw Bucky Sharon Bergen Islam, but after embracing Islam, some evil has touched and then he left.

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But that was how the wives view the Messenger of Allah imagine how balanced and perfect and individual he must have been at home.

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He was patient with them he respected the way

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he tried to please them

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Allah says that in the hora but in with banks with bands

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a lot easier you're gonna be limited remember

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that the metadata as well.

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That will profit Why do you make hella? upon what Why do you make her arm upon yourself? That's which Allah has made Hello, why the metadata as well as chick seeking the pleasure of your work. That's how the messengers of the love it was something was was very soft, very compassionate, very understanding. You would hardly get angry with his wives heart

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is very tolerant, very patient, lover, extremely patient, and like said this deserves another topic in its entirety. He would respect them.

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Again, this is something I mentioned last week. That's something unique about the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and his relationship with children. He respect to children. Not only did he show them love, compassion, mercy, affection. Remarkably, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam showed respect to children. See how he respected and delighted not a boss of the alarm. See how he respected under the moniker of the alarm, even though they were young children.

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Similarly, Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam showed love and affection towards his wives. But remark, he showed great respect, the respect he had for all

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the respect he had for all of his

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remark.

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Many men today would balk

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at such things, we think it's madness, to speak down to our to hold them in contempt, to put them in in their place, to

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be harsh towards them, to treat them harshly.

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In order to get things done in order to achieve things, to speak to them boldly,

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and irreverence.

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Rasulullah sallallahu wasallam along with his love along with his affection, the remarkable and unique thing you will discover in his relationship with his own wives was respect. They revered him but he respected them to

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Sophia Viola and how the daughter of

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about him have just said a few words. Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in order to help her climb the camel. He actually knelt on the ground with one knee

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and raise the other Nene so that Sophia or the Ella and her could use his thigh as a stepping stone as a stepping stone in order to climb onto the camel. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam knelt down.

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And

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me and Sophia de la Han Han, climbed on his thigh and then on to the capital.

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That was chivalrous.

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Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam respected the general the law immensely. They were in a position to console him when he received one

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Who did he go to for consolation? for advice for help?

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for guidance as to what he should do, who did he go to for support? He didn't go to any family member he did not go to a friend. He was fearful. He was filled with friends, yet the only person we went to was on the job.

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And Khadija harrowby in LA, because of their relationship with him was in a position to comfort him to console him. You rushed home he said, throw cold water on me. The federalism Maloney

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covered me with a cloak, wrapped me in a blanket, throw cold water on me.

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Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was uncomfortable and consulted by none other than all Khadija on the line her and she said some remarkable words to him. And those words, were not just factory they were not just fill up empty praise. Woman woman in Khadija huddled the alarm on her in very succinctly and eloquently described the whole character of the Messenger of Allah to reassure him, the wife, or the God, Allah Allah, we assured the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, at the critical moment when he first met Djibouti lilies.

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That was a position changer. And he always remembered her position.

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To the extent that when he would

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slaughter an animal, he would actually cut cuts up the means, and he would send it to the friends of mine in Khadija howdy Aloha. Long after her death long after

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much to the eye and to the suddenness of the alarm around her she would always protest. She herself relates that he remembered herself that she would mention herself such

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that even when he slaughtered animals who would distribute meat to her friends, not just her family, but her friends.

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And then at shadow, the Allah and I would say things about the job of the

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prophets sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in his balance was so balanced, he wouldn't just remain silent. He would defend meaning of the alarm, without saying anything to actually shut off the alarm. And he did that with all of his wives. They lived a normal life they were women, they will ladies Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was their husband. They fought they bicker, they argue. They,

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in the wording of one heavy, they threw dust at one another in their arguments they share so that each

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they raise their they did not just raise their voices at one another. They shouted at each other they argued with one another. They

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broke one another's utensils and cups and bowls.

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They did all sorts of things.

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That was there that was the nature of jealousy. But at the same time they were full of

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the chief rival of motley and shadow Viola and he was in a bit the trash. She was a chief rival, eloquent, beautiful,

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noble,

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a woman of great standing and intelligence and piety.

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And despite their bickering despite and they would argue to such a degree.

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That speaking of the family life of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam we learned from

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Buhari that, that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, Allah and Nene of His love and affection for each other, the Allahu Akbar and the otherwise we're jealous of that. So they would

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in order to win the hearts of the Messenger of Allah, they would reserve their gifts.

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For that day, when the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam would be without a shadow of the embargo, and so they will give him a gift on the other days give it when he was with the army shuttle the alarm, huh? So the other ones would argue and say, we are his wives too. Why does he get why do they send gifts only on her day? We We demand that the Messenger of Allah established justice between us and that he instructs the companions to send gifts equally to all the wives and to all the homes of the wives whenever the message

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Cinderella Cinderella love it her son was with them wherever he may be.

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So there were two groups amongst them.

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And one group was he had been to jash and almost cinema hora de la one Houma. So the wives nominated almost cinema while the alarm or the alarm or she, you speak to the Messenger of Allah

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because the prophets Allah Allah Allah she was older she was why she was very intelligent as we learned from her they were.

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So she spoke to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam little messenger of Allah, the wives of your wives. They demand justice in In fact, they wouldn't even call her Arusha. They would say pinto bean, who have the daughter of even what have you.

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So

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they seek justice. In relation to Arusha prophets, Allah has been kept quiet, he wouldn't scold them for telling him anything, he wouldn't reply to them. You remain silent, or send them out on the lower end his faults him again and again repeatedly you remain silent.

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So the wives

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then the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam told her, almost on the model the alarm her that do not hurt me in relation to Arusha. She said, I repent to Allah and His Messenger, I seek His forgiveness. She told the rest of the wives of the wife said you haven't done anything for us. So they then nominated Fatima out of the Allaha and her his daughter, Fatima out of the alarm,

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went to the house of Allah salallahu alayhi wa sallam. Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was actually lying in bed with a Chateau de la hora and her covered in a blanket. Fatima out of the alarm her walked in. He she sought permission. He gave her permission to enter the shows that it's entirely permissible for husband and wife to be in bed covered blankets and for family members to enter the bedroom. It doesn't matter. So far the model the alarm on her and she spoke to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said to her Fatima

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if you love me love her

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father model the law. The wife said she hasn't done anything.

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They then sent their chief advocates, the leader, well, not the lead and possibly the leader of the group of the chief rival, Zayn had been to Joshua the law when she came.

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She came to the chain.

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And she then spoke to the Messenger of Allah or messenger of Allah, we demand justice in relation to the internet via kochava. And then she turned to a shadow of the alarm around her. And she began saying whatever she said she abused.

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She said whatever she wants to the law, it was in them never said anything.

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And he shouted the alarm around her continue to listen. And then

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she says herself that I continue to wait for some signal from the Messenger of Allah.

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That he would grant me permission to reply and say something my defense, eventually the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam signal to her so I shuttle the alarm and I began replying and anti shuttle the alarm. His own words were that I answered back in such a way that her saliva dried up in her throat.

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Her saliva dried up in her mouth, and she fell silent. Then the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam the most he said was in the hand, I've been to the back. But after all, she is a daughter of rollback, meaning she's as eloquent as far as Rebecca Lee alive, despite their rivalry, a lot, which was natural and to be expected.

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A shadow The law says when she was falsely accused

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of a great sin.

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Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in his

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desperate desire to seek

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solace and comfort and reassurance. The Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam spoke to family members.

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He spoke to

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add to the alarm. He spoke to other family members. And then he also spoke to Zane about the law.

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zaner been to jash and Chateau de la mer and her say is

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that she Xena was my chief rival. She could have said anything on that occasion, just as idea of the Allah and said to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he in his desire not to see the messenger sallallahu alayhi wasallam undergo any further pain and torment. He suggested to the Messenger of Allah, Allah it was on them, or messenger of Allah. There are many other women apart from action, ie he told her, he told him, why don't you

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divorce and marry again, and in this way, you will be relieved of this torture and torment.

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So, and he said, it's for his own reasons. In order to spare the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam any further torment. They never have the alarm How could have said anything on that occasion? absolutely anything.

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And yet, and even though she was a chief rival, what did she say in reply? She said, O Messenger of Allah, by Allah, I know nothing of Arusha except Allah.

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And Allah Chateau de la Han Han says about Xena been to Joshua the alarm her that she was my chief rival

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who would compete with me with the Messenger of Allah. But her duck was saved. She actually saves that her duck was saved. she testified she didn't just say, Oh, this time she kept quiet. She prays a number of the alarm on her and said of her that she had duck where her water had failed law on her taqwa protect. When Habiba Viola and her daughter, Sophia and Ramallah, when she died, she called all the remaining family members of the messenger son of the law, and he was the meaning the wives on her deathbed, she called them all her co wives, and she said to them,

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we were all wives of the messenger. And as is the norm, we had our differences. We had our disagreements and our conflicts. So.

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But now that I am about to depart, I wish to depart from this world in such a state that I am Hello, have you meaning I do not wish to be anything. I do not wish for anything to remain outstanding between us. That I forgive you all that has passed between us and that you forgive me all that has passed between us. And all the remaining wives she called them she requested them to come to her. They all came to her deathbed. This was a conversation she had with every single one of them individually, and they all forgave each other before Adam lab interview, Sophia have he battled the alarm on her departure from this way. So yes, they had their rivalries, they had their arguments,

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they had bitter arguments, but it was all understood to be expected, given the circumstances, but that duck was never left. Their fear of Allah reigned supreme.

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And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in all of this, his behavior was one of tolerance, absolute tolerance, no matter what they did, or what kind of the alarm was harsher than the Prophet sallallahu it was the alarm and was harsher than the Prophet solimar. It was

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with it with the prophets wives. He was

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one of the alarm to say is that

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we were a people from Makkah, who would dominate their wives. We the Mahajan, we came from McCann in Makkah, we dominated our lives.

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Because in Morocco, it's well known historically, it was a patriarchal culture. in Medina, it was a matriarchal culture. The women were found far more powerful.

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So

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but when we came when we did hedger, we came to a people mainly unsolved that also has an edge

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whose women dominated them.

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So our women began learning from the women of the unsolved

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so the unsightly women were well, the so according to Mr. de la vida, Mahajan dominated their women and the umsaw when they came to Medina, and they found the people whose women dominated them often humorously asked my students how you are a Mahajan, Roman society.

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So

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although no one's ever given me a reply, but

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If I ask you are you an Saudi or a mirage or maybe humorously you can give me a reply neither, I'm sorry ora Mahajan. I follow the Sunnah of the Messenger of Allah. But by that any of us can do that.

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So I love the love and Who says that? So our women began learning from their women. So one day I was engrossed in thought and I said something so my wife and said back, so he scolded our day. You speak back to me.

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So his wife said, Oh,

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you, you find it strange that I am savetti. When the wise of the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam speak back to him, in fact, some of them, they give him the silent treatment, they refuse to speak to him for the whole day. Just a truly they have lost and perish if that is the case. Then he went to see the alarm warmed, he went to almost send him out of the alarm. And the reason he went to him was send him out of the alarm, is that almost send him out of the alarm and how was related to him so you could speak to her. So he went on, we'll send him out of the alarm. We'll send them out of the alarm. Her being almost Sonoma, she said to him over

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isn't enough that you interfere in everybody else's lives that you even begin interfering in the marriages of the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he felt silence he went away. So a lot of the alarm was harsh. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in relation to his wife, even Abubakar the alarm. Once Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was with a shadow the alarm? The alarm will pass. And he heard his daughter raising her voice to the Prophet salallahu it see.

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The alarm came in and he went for his daughter he lunged that

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is it How dare you raise your voice to the Messenger of Allah.

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So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam intervened and came in between them, and he shielded. He shielded Chateau de la from her from her far.

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Abubakar Lila left in anger.

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I shadow the lover and have feared her father more than he she feared her husband.

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She truly did.

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On one occasion, I'll conclude this video in a moment but on one occasion, when they were gathered in one of the homes

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they were

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they were gathered in the home and shadow the alarm. So the Prophet sallallahu the otherwise were there the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam extended his hand and

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now you shadow the loved one towards Xena been to jash shadow the chief rival, she suddenly exclaimed that Xena prophets of Allah and Islam withdrew the hand. So then Xena and anti shadow the alarm had began arguing and they argued and argued this was just before each Asana and once they were arguing in one iteration, this is what I said in one the wording of one narration of this headin they argued to the extent that they picked up dust and began throwing it at one another. So what could be Allah the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was sad. And we're not going to be a lover and walk past when he saw all of this he accompany the messenger of a lance and a messenger of

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love, leave them and let's go for Salah. So he took her, took her took him to sauna with your lover and as soon as she saw her father come and take the Messenger of Allah to Salah, she began fearing and she actually said to the other wives, that now you watch, my father will come abubaker will come after salah and he'll say this to me and him say that to me and he will say this to me and he'll say that to me. And true to her word. straight after Salah will buckle the alarm and came back alone. And he scolded her How dare you Is this what you do? Is this what you do? So she feared her father more than the prophets of the law it was. So on that occasion she was raising her voice and the

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alarm came he lunged at her prophets alarm It was no shielded her and then walk out of the alarm are left in anger. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam remarkably, he said to her, see how I saved you from your father. So they they then began laughing and joking with one another. So we walk out of the locker and came back later and he heard them laughing and joking. So he came in. He said, O Messenger of Allah. Why don't both of you include me in your piece, just as you included me in your wall.

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So, messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was very forbearing and patient, Abubakar of the law, one member of the law and we're harsher than he was.

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But that should be no

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Reason for anyone to take advantage never the wives of the Messenger of Allah.

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These were on summit. This was on some occasions otherwise they revered him not as a husband, but as a messenger of Allah.

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They would collect his perspiration,

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his sweat and use it as perfume. They would drink his leftover water for Baraka for Baraka.

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And there are countless other examples. There's so much to say, as far as as managers are concerned, and shall speak about that on another occasion, speaking about his family life and but just one thing.

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He shot all the alarms and the rates and had the fleet management and ramblings mustered a number of generations but on what we need, out of the alarm and how I was asked, What would the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam do at home?

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What did he used to do at home?

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So Arnie shadow the lover in her replied by saying, Gunner fee mitten.

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Fake that habit of dishonor.

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This, isn't it. But the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would be preoccupied in the manner of his family, and the meaning of mithuna is

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not men with men with a

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gun a few minutes early, and the meaning of men is.

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So this means Anisha it'll be a lot more on her essays when she was asked, What would the Messenger of Allah do in the privacy of his home? She says he would be preoccupied in the head of Israel.

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He would serve his family, he would do household chores, he would help. He would look after himself.

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And in one narration, related by my humble, she says, he would do what men do at home.

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what men do,

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he would do what he meant.

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I mean, it's true.

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Men like the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and this How about all the love?

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And what would he do at home? Like?

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She says, and I say this from a number of generations. He used to milk the goats himself

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is the milk the goat. He used to repair his own shoes and sandals. He's the de Lys his clothes,

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remove lice from his clothes.

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He would patch and stitch his own clans.

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Who do all of this and in general, she says Ghana yes them enough, sir. You would serve himself. He wouldn't issue commands for others to do things for him. Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would do things for himself. Even at home, he wouldn't expect his family.

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And he would be preoccupied in the head of his family, helping them assist in carrying out chores. We think that this is unmanly. This is very cultural,

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very cultural.

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It's our culture where we expect the men to do remarkable you look at different cultures.

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And in some cultures,

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it's considered an insult for the men to do absolutely anything. Even shopping.

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And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would shop he was a messenger of Allah, he would shop in the marketplace, he would go out to shop

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as normal, the Sahaba love and would do the same. In fact, the Quraysh This is one of the things they picked up. This is what kind of messenger is is they want to the angels come down from the heavens. So they said in Makkah, Marley Hagia Sophia kutamo him she feel as well. What kind of messenger is this? Who eats food, and who walks in the marketplace?

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So if you ever see me in the shires don't complain.

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So they said, Manny has a rosaria kutamo am she philosophical kind of messenger is this that he eats food and he walks in the marketplace.

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He would go out for shopping, he'd work at home and carry out his chores. He'd serve himself and serve his family.

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When it was set our time then he'd leave.

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There is nothing unmanly about any of this.

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And when people complain of Islamic behavior, by looking at certain cultures and seeing the men doing nothing and the women doing everything

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thing. In some cultures, the women do the shopping, the cooking, the cleaning, the raising the upbringing, the nurturing, the teaching, the educating, the driving the shopping, everything. So what does the man do? Nothing, sits all day eating and drink.

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And I've had so many experiences. Sometimes I've actually laughed out loud when people have contacted me because it's just unbelievable. I remember one conversation where this young lady raised me. And this is on occasion when I was much younger than and I couldn't contain myself. And I laughed, not because it was funny, but it was tragic. And

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she was explaining about her life a lot. But this young woman, this young lady, here in this country, she was holding down two jobs, looking after her parents, cooking, cleaning, earning, doing everything.

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And when she went through the list of all that she did, I then actually asked her

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incredulously What does he do that, because she was speaking about him the problem that she was having, and she laughed as well. I burst out laughing. And she said, lightsheer, he does nothing. He eats, he drinks, he sleeps. And all day long, he sits watching TV.

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So in some cultures, that's all mental. I remember once, on one occasion, I went to someone's house for food. I was invited for a meal. So everybody was there. We sat down for a meal.

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So the son in law, son in law.

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So the Father, and the elder members of the family and his sons and others have all sat down for food, I was a guest, and

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the son in law was sitting there, and your earrings on.

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And he sat there, and

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I

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wouldn't eat.

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So I knew that I know the family well. So I said to them that

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I said to the Father, so I get on very humorously with him. I said, Why won't he sit down?

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I thought maybe out of respect to inhibition, I don't know. So I said to the Father,

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tell him to sit on this. Alright, he'll eat afterwards.

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Afterwards, the father told me. He laughed in private, he told me he says my son in law.

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Imagine how tragic This is. The father has to relate this about his own daughter.

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Because that was a son in law. He said, the reason he doesn't he have apps is because he never eats with anyone he eats alone. And the way he eats is that he lie. This isn't in a village somewhere else. This is here in this country. So he says he lies down. And the only picture I can imagine is one of these Roman emperors, where they lie down on a couch with one knee with one outlet leaning on one elbow, and he actually does that. So he lies down on a couch, leaning on one elbow, and his wife sits in front of them and feeds him every morsel in his mouth.

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And he doesn't work, he doesn't work. He doesn't earn he doesn't do anything. Well, he never used to them. And he couldn't even feed himself.

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So she would sit down on the floor while he's reclining on this couch leaning on one elbow, and she's actually feeding him. And this this is, this is a father's testimony.

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This is a father's testimony. And remarkably, he doesn't even have his own place. He lives with his father.

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So it's considered a manly for a man to do any chores. In some cultures. Remember, that's cultural. As far as a sort of lust

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is concerned. There was no more no one more valient more courageous, more manly, stronger, more balanced than the messenger.

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And yet, he would stitch his clothes. Dylan's his clothes, patches, sandals, patches, clothes, repairs, sandals, he would milk the goat it would serve himself he would service

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I ended this I pray that Allah subhanho wa Taala enable us all to understand there's so much more that can be said about the family and household life of the Messenger of Allah have taken apart of Thomas suffice but this was in the locker send them out after he was sworn in to be you know, more humid. While he was saying he had Marines panic alarm option Nick. Mashallah will alert you that hey, learn from us.