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Riad Ouarzazi

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Bismillah Ar Rahman

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buka, Allah

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Kereama Lord has decreed that he worship nuns save him, and that you show kindness to parents, if one of them or both of them attain to old age with the say not fine unto them, nor repulse them, but speak unto them a gracious word

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and lower onto them the wing of submission through mercy and say, My Lord, have mercy on them as they did care for me when I was little

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salatu salam ala rasulillah. While he was so happy

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with the lower cut,

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hottie, just yesterday, I received a phone call from my brother, so he called me and I was having a chat with him yesterday. But how his mother had just passed away

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and his mother had suffered septic shock basically in kidney infection that infection became systemic in the body and then she went to the ICU and had to chat with ICU doctors about whether we can pull the plug or not and so panelist, so very, very distressing thing for our son to have to discuss. And then by Allah's mercy, Allah took us all away, rather than us having to make a decision that we would regret.

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I remember had to throw solace SLM in

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in front of Al Bukhari Rahim Allah, yeah. mazing Hadeeth. It's a Hadeeth. It's a thought Actually, it's a narration authentic narration from even a bus that a man came to me in a bus and said, You have in a bus?

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I killed somebody. So can I repent to Allah is any repentance for me?

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So even abus obviously said, I kill somebody mistake, you know, by mistake and there is no repentance for me. So the man said, You know, I, I didn't intend it. I want to repent to Allah azza wa jal, so even a bus for a little while. And then he looked at the guy, look at the person and said, also and so have you got Have you got a mother? The man said, No, you're the boss. I don't.

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I don't have a mother.

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So even the best look down the ground and said, okay, Allah, holy hell. repent to Allah. make us look far and pay the blood money, and malice and Allah forgive you.

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So at that point, one of the students or even a best stood up after the man had left and said he even Amma rasulillah salam, O, the son of the uncle of Rasulullah. Salah, why did you ask whether this man had a mother or not? And at that point, he said, I do not know of any deed that is more pleasing to Allah than being good to the mother.

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Yeah.

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And so the scholars mentioned in the explanation of this, in other words, they said that, here, even a bass was suggesting to us goodness to the mother as a means to overcome the sin of killing someone.

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And ladies and gentlemen, as you know, in Islam,

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the obedience of the mother supersedes that of the Father precedes that of the Father in Islam.

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As the Prophet issm says to this man, as reported by Bukhari Muslim when he came to Him, who should be my best companion, yellow Salalah, my best friend, my closest companion, and then the Prophet says,

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Your mother, who's next your mother, who's next your father, and then the Prophet says your father. You know what this kid did? He wrote a letter to his mom.

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Mom

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I clean my room today. $10

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I took the garbage out $5

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I shoveled the snow $15

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I did the dishes $20

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I clean my room, so much so and then at the end, total total, whatever the total was, the mother took the same piece of paper, flipped it aside. And then she wrote

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I carried you in my womb for nine months.

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burying all the pain,

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free of charge.

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When I gave birth to you,

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I felt so much pain,

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terrible pain.

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I was screaming, giving birth to you,

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free of charge.

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When you were a baby,

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I used to feed you first before feeding anybody else even before feeding myself.

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free of charge.

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Used to get sick

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or used to nurse you stayed the whole night with you cry before making her for life to give you Shiva

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free of charge.

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And at the end she says total love

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your mother.

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Mother.

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And we know how important it is to worship Allah azza wa jal and not as Sasha in one also the loss of head on with Allah. But he Allah azzawajal mentions

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the importance of obedience to parents, the importance of parents in Islam, after what Allah subhanaw taala speaks about the importance of worshiping Him. waka Dora buka Allah tabuteau ella Yahuwah bhilwara Dinah Sana, the laudato si not to worship no one but him and to be dutiful, towards your parents and to be kind to your parents. In another verse, Allah subhana wa tada says, wobbu la hawala,

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wobble Valley, Dinah, Santa and worship a lot alone and do not wait and do not worship anyone else with him and be kind to your parents. So again, Ally's origin,

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speaks about the importance of worshiping Him and only him subhanho wa Taala. And not Sasha, you know, and also the lies the origin and then he mentioned to be conned to the parents, to be dutiful to the parents, to be respectful to the parents, to be obedient to the parents. And another first, a third verse, Allah Subhana, WA tada he says,

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multilotto Mahatma Mara boo Kamala Kamala Chico,

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Allah Allah, Allah. Allah says, Come and let me mention to you what your Lord had forbidden, what your Lord had forbidden upon you, is not to worship anyone besides Allah subhanho wa Taala and to be dutiful to the parents, Allah subhanho wa Taala has mentioned had mentioned in many verses the importance of worshiping Him alone, we know that the greatest, the greatest sin of all is to associate someone with Allah. And he Allah, Allah tala mentions not as such as someone with him, and then mentioned the importance of parents and being dutiful to the parents, being kind to the parents, being obedient to the parents.

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In return, how important it is to obey your parents, to be kind to your parents, to be dutiful, to your prayers, to be respectful to your parents to obey them, to listen to them, to care about them to be there for them. This obeying them, not caring about them, not looking after them is one of the major, major sins. It's an upset by the prophet muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he says that the one who disobeys his parents are killed every time someone who disobeys his parents. Someone who is disrespectful to his parents would not enter the paradise would not enter the paradise.

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The Salatu was Salam did not mention that. Other important issues that we're seeing is the way he mentioned that about someone disobeying his parents, or her parents or someone disrespecting them. Someone who disrespects their parents, someone who disobeys their parents would not enter the paradise. Surprise as much as you want to pray, and fast as much as you want to fast and pay the nation's as much as you want to pay donations. You will not enter the paradise if you disrespect your parents. You're not experienced the paradise if you do not take care of your parents. So your parents, your parents, your parents, your parents are so important, so important to you or your wife

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to enter the paradise die away to save yourself from the hell fire

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So sometimes we don't really think about how heavy this issue is or being good to parents. We sometimes you know really belittle it we think it's just like okay is this a good day all right it's easy to do phone call to a mom I'd make her happy but you know we're complacent with that. Even a small five to five ringgit gift to our parents because it does make them happy so sweetly bought on the way our calendar you know at this we could and CD you know something very simple sometimes make our parents happy but we don't bother doing it because I think you know what, it's a small d We glorify other things that are we you know we prepare for it make sure we're going there and ombre

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we're going to Makkah Medina former our had you know, we really prepare very hard before being good to parents. We don't realize how grave and how amazingly important and heavy the good data is of being good two parents.

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Allah subhana wa tada he says workato buka Allah tabuteau illa Yeah.

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Santa Luanda in Dhaka Kibera huduma Oklahoma Fela taco lahoma have a wallet on her Houma, La Paloma Colin Karima and your Lord had ordained not to worship no one by him, and to be respectful to them to your parents, if one of them if one of them or two of them referring to the parents, if one of your parents or two of them reached on old age, yes, when someone reaches an old age, when your father or your mother reaches an old age that needs to be taken care of the way you take care of a baby. So in other words, they're just a bigger baby, a bigger baby to be looked after. In a form of looking after a baby cleaning the baby feeding the baby being always around the baby. This is it.

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When your parents get old, they need the same care and attention if not more. So Allah azza wa jal says if one of them, or two of them reached out age,

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and are with you look after them. look after them. Take care of them.

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Often and then you ever say have an utter a word that will make them upset after a word that will show disrespect to them after a word that will make them feel bad after a word that will make them feel sad. After a word though displeased them from you. Vallarta Coloma off of is a word I word that shows being upset or what? You know. And this is the common word that we always use towards our parents when our mother or father calls us that cause just we reply. What? What? In other words, what are you calling me for? You are bothering me? How many times do we do that? How many times when your mother and your father call you? They call you for the summer for something simple and easy for

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something normal. And you reply is one in a manner that What are you calling me for? Leave me alone, is that how you speak to your parents? Well, Allah tells you not to even say

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nothing, even

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though we'll show them that you're upset or upset them with it. If your mother or your father call them, you should obey them. You should leave everything that you have. You should leave the business they are working, you should leave the computer they are on, you should leave the training they are in, you should leave the socializing environment that you're in and listen to your parents, your mother, your father, your way to the earth is an ally zona told you that David's

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your parents should be untouched and harmed in any way shape or form. This is what the prophet muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and he said that three people alone would not look at them in the hereafter would not even speak to them. And one of them is someone who used to disrespect his parents in the he after a low with Maven look at you and speak to you just straight to the Hellfire is that the path he wants to take? Is that the path that you want to follow to be from amongst those who alone would not even look at? Well, a lot of xojo would not even speak to just straight into the whole firewall as a biller. Then from amongst us, those who disrespect their parents. Do whatever

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you want to do.

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Worship Allah the way you want to worship Him. Pray as much as you want to pray to Allah, fast as much as you want to fast Allah. Then as much as you want to die for Allah, sacrifice whatever you want to sacrifice for Allah. You're not gonna see the pleasure of Allah only through your parents. Do whatever you want to do. Think as much as religious you might think you are. You're at the end of the day, have no value in the sight of Allah, Allah through your respect to your purse. I remember our chef rushydro Haley, Allah, one of the main students of Shashank at Allah and so you

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As a great teacher for me, Mashallah he taught me so many things other than just knowledge. I learned manners from him and many things, the good manners from him, Mashallah. And the chef. I remember when his father passed away.

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His father had a long battle with cancer and he passed away from Allah. When he passed away,

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the sheriff you know, cried and he called me on the phone. And he said, I read, intimacy, recovery, and duration, from the Israeli Earth, but authenticated, berberine and deceit instead of seed, that a man used to be good to his parents.

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And whilst he was good to his parents, Allah was good to him as well because he was good to his parents. And then when his parents passed away, Allah sent an angel down to him. And the angel told him also and so Allah was being good to you because of your goodness to your parents. Now that your parents have passed away, seek another means of being good and coming closer to Allah. When your mother when your father call you, you should run to them and say I'm here under your command. I'm here under your orders, whatever you want mother whatever you want father if I can do it, I'll do it. You are my mother You are my father. Bharata Paloma often Wollaton her mama than shy them any

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any displeasure. Then show them any upsetness Dasha them any form that will make them displaced from you. Hola, Hola. Hola, Karima. And say to them generous words. say to them nice words. Watford lahoma Jana how to live in a llama wakulla Burnham Houma Kamara Bayani Sameera lava wings, lower your prior to your parents, your mother and your father, as much as you lower yourself to them. As much as you humble yourself to them, as much as you lower you prior to them. That the end of the day you are either some or your mother and your father. Sometimes the shy person comes to us, and shaitan whispers in our ears and says don't lower yourself to your mother. Don't lower yourself to

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your father, but have this pride towards your mother have this pride towards your father having pride over her over your mother, the woman that carried you and looked after you and cleaned you and fed you having pride over the one that was working during the day and not spending on you. Having pride over whom your father, your mother? Doesn't make sense that someone has pride over their parents having pride over what what are you trying to prove? What are you trying to prove that you are better than them? Let you be the most richest, and let you be the most wealthiest and let you be the strongest. At the end of the day, you would not enter the paradise and literally the pleasure.

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Let you be the strongest and the most wealthiest and the most influential. He would never ever please Allah if you don't please your parents. Let you be whoever you are. At the end of the day they are your mother and your father. respect them. Never disrespect them. Walk with lahoma Jenna has

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lower your wings to your parents. So you equity when we actually have our parents we have the strongest way or one of the strongest way to seek forgiveness one law, we have one of the strongest way to make a law happy. We have one of the strongest way to earn our job nawala It is so easy when we have parents when they pass away. It gets difficult. What good deed can we actually do that can remove a massive sin that we did? What good deed because that's what you're meant to do after you do a bad deed you followed up with a good deed. So what good deed Can you do that can you can follow up? I mean, the guy had killed somebody. Imagine that. So what good deed can you do? That can

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overcome a massive sin that you've done? Well, like if you miss out on the chance of being good to your parents while you still have them with you?

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Well, that's a big loss. It's a massive loss. So don't do that. Ever since I learned that lesson myself. I made up my mind that I'm going to make my parents one of my most stable ways to make you happy. So every day I give them a phone call. That's all on my parents need just a phone call. They don't want money from me. They don't want food from me. They don't even want me to look after them as yet. Have the llama father still strong?

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All they want is just for me to be in touch with them. When's the last time you called your parents When's the last time you know you bought a gift to them? When's the last time you made them happy enough the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam when the companion came and asked him or messenger of Allah, or messenger of Allah Who should I pleased? Most

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Who shall are pleased? Must you say God to your mother, the pelvis under her fate, God to your mother the paradise under her fate? What does that mean? If your mother steps on you, that's only that's only a promotion for you to enter the paradise. And you could be one of those that a lot of xojo had written your way on your path to the paradise through the pleasure of your parents. Walk with lahoma Jana Halima Rama, Rama Kamara, biani, Sameera as I Oh, my Lord, have mercy on them the way that has mercy on me when I was young.

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I had mercy on me when I was young. And then when you grow up, and he become a man, a bit of hair on your chest, and a bit of money in your wallet, and a bit of a muscles, a bit of muscles in your shoulder and your arms. You look down at your mother. And if she comes, and she calls you when you are and your friend is screaming and say well, you call me embarrassing me. Leave me alone. And when she asked you to carry a bag, I've got that time

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when she asked you to do a little job for her. I'm too busy. Did you forget the mother say that to you when you are hungry?

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Did your mother say that to you when you're thirsty? Did your mother say that to you and you're crying. And now you grew up and he became a man. You neglect your mother you look down ahead don't even care about the animal. And you follow the one that spends work so hard under the sun and work so hard during the day and night to bring that money to a good close. Yeah, and feed you. When your father asks you for the smallest thing I'm too busy. Too busy. For your friends. Too busy for her for TV, fi movie, too busy for football. Too busy making money? Is that why your father said when you were young? Is that what your father did to you needs to take it to school and come back and

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pick you up from school and look after you Is that how it is now

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after that many years of striving and sacrificing is that the return and the payback to your parents. Were remember one thing, the prophet muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he says, amongst the punishments that Allah azza wa jal will hurry the his punishment upon His servants in this dunya is the punishment of disciplining your parents.

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When you disobey your parents in this world, Allahu punishing the Hereafter, but before that he after Allah will punish you in this world.

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Before the he after Allah subhanho wa Taala will perish in this world. So the way you treated your parents, Allah xojo make your children tree

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and the way you look down at your parents and lo Sanjay son to look down a

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little lesson lesson Sallam said

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very innovative Allah urdal holiday was sakata la vista hotel holiday is authentic. What did he say? Verily, Allah subhanho wa Taala gets happy when your parents are happy, and our luggage angry when your parents are angry. As simple as that, and that either a solo solo, as a hobby was passing away in the offices and said Sarah, c'est la la la. He couldn't say La la la la. Why not? Because his mom was angry with him.

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Mom was angry with him. It was authentically reported that the profitsystem was very afraid at that point, he went, he said this habit to look out for Halloween everywhere looking out. And they found the parent, the mom of this particular hobby, and she was angry was she angry. The only fact is that that man needs to prefer his wife over his mom. That's it. That's all it was. And that was enough for her to get angry. And there's enough a lot to get angry at him.

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So please don't make your parents angry. You cannot add to them. The way you treat others allometry. And a lot of xojo bring someone the way you treat others allow someone to treat you the same camera to Dino to them the way you treat others. Allah who send someone to treat you the same. The way you treat your prince, Allah Subhana Allah will send you a son and daughter treat you that way. And that's when you start remembering the suffering that your mother and your father used to suffer from you, from your attitude, from your language, from your reaction from your behavior, Allah who send someone the same. Remember, it's Allah subhanho wa Taala that you're dealing with Allah.

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Allah subhanho wa Taala is the one Allah subhanho wa Taala is the one the retailer for your parents. Allah azzawajal is the one that will pay back for your parents. I love them. I know it's the one that will punish you over your disrespect to your parents. If you want the pleasure of Allah subhanho wa Taala Allah pleasure is connected to your mother and your father's pledges. Respect your parents and then you ever disrespect them. Many of our young youth motivated I know when I got a jihad. Well, you first you had this with your parents.

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If you're not fit to respect your parents, I guarantee

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You're not fit to be a major hit.

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If you're not fit to be dutiful towards your parents, then I guarantee you will not be accepted but a lot of Zoda to be amongst those who fight please take

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the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam mentioned that made it so clearly it berries of the parents is more beloved to Allah azza wa jal than the Jihad fissure between them 14 in the path of Allah subhanho wa Taala have either a solar system states that Allah subhana wa Taala will not look at three people on the day of judgment that is authentic and Bukhari. One of them is that they use the one who's not jealous over his women. The second is the one who a man who dresses like a woman, a woman who behaves the command or dresses like a man. Right? And number three, is actually the the one who disobeys his parents. Yeah. And in one authentic hadith, a man came to the prophet of Islam

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from Yemen and said, Dr. Sorrell, I've come to join battle with you said, How have you left your parents? So he said, I left them crying. So he told them go back and make them laugh, just like you made them cry, and even a battle. Jihad was not more stronger than the right of the parent on you. I asked my chef, a chef, I've got three brothers. I've got two brothers. So I don't think I'm required and hamdullah my two brothers are required. So my chef reminded me saying, What if you are the use of your father?

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What if you're like Yusuf was to yaku it didn't matter that he had 11 other children doesn't matter. You have other brothers and sisters. You are the one. You need to look after your parents. You need to be good to them. It doesn't matter that there are other brothers and sisters. Yeah, it's your responsibility to look after them and be kind and merciful to them.

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Because it didn't matter that you had other brothers when you were young. They looked after you just like as if you were the only child. So that is a case you look after your parents just like do you like just like you are the only support that you that they have. And he says sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.

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Allah is Allah Azza wa sallam, he says, a little while.

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The pleasure of Allah subhanho wa Taala is from the pleasure of the parents.

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And the displeasure of Allah, the angle of our lives origin is from the displeasure and the anger of parents. The God knows not worrying that your mother is not pleased from you. Your father is not pleased from you. Because that Mother You got to sleep. Knowing that your mother and your father not pleased from you then go to sleep knowing that a lot of Xhosa is not pleased from you.

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And that either is done the problem lies our job. Knowing that your mother and your father are not pleased from you, then you know he'll be standing with you'll be standing with those who Allah is not pleased from your mother, your father, respect them and obey them.

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One of the things that the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam had mentioned that if you want Allah subhanho, wa Taala, to increase in your provision, if you want Allah subhanaw taala to increase from your sustenance or risk. One of those forms and ways for Allah to increase your list is your is your obedience to your parents. So if you see sometimes that life is difficult, and you're financially not fit, and for some reason or another, your finances are not going the best way. Then maybe there's one thing you need to look at, look at your parents, are they happy from you or not? Are they pleased from you or not? Because one of the forms of Allah opening that is his

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provisions and sustenance these servants is through the pleasure of your parents. At the time of the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, one of the companions was was on his deathbed. And while he was dying, and it was through going through the agony of death, the companions were reminding him to say the Shahada, and he was struggling to say the Shahada, and they turned to him say I shadow Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah, Muhammad Rasul Allah. And this man is struggling to say the Shahada said I went to the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.

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And I mentioned to him about this man is struggling to say the Shahada, and he's a believer. So the prophet SAW Selim said is his mother life. So the totem is, so the La salaatu wa Salaam went to the mother? And he asked her, Are you pleased from him? So she said, No, I'm not pleased from you. So the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam asked her, the police from him. So she said, I am not pleased from him. So the Prophet alayhi salatu wa sallam said, then if that's the case, get the timber and get the wood a little spin him and let him die that way. So straightaway, that emotional mother that was probably so angry for my son said no, no, no, no No messenger of Allah don't do

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that. Are you am pleased from him. The moment she said I'm pleased from him. The pleasure of Allah came down on dismiss the man and his llama. And this man said, a shadow Allah Allah Allah, Allah will actually

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The Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he said from amongst their rights upon us, their rights in this dunya they have full rights over us. They have rights. They have full rights over us. And when they grow, they still have rights over us. They have financial rights over everything. They have more rights over. If equal rights over us, they have all rights. And when they die, the prophet alayhi salaatu wa sallam said amongst their rights upon is to make up for them. constantly make that for your parents.

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Allah subhanho wa Taala make us with those who are good to have parents who are unless fever and mercy by being good to them. And Allah subhanho wa Taala make our children make our children merciful to us, just like our parents were merciful to us inshallah Sakamoto here.