Reda Bedeir – Young Muslim Show 3

Reda Bedeir
AI: Summary © The speakers discuss the importance of knowing the name of Allah and its attributes, particularly "by the way" and "by the way," in the century before Jesus Christ. They stress the need for forgiveness and following rules and good behavior. The importance of social media and music is emphasized, and the need for forgiveness and avoiding bad habits is emphasized. The importance of following the Prophet's teachings and setting realistic goals is also emphasized. The speakers also encourage parents to be productive and welcoming in the face of challenges and challenges.
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Assalamu alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh, the brothers and sisters and welcome to the young Muslim show. And as I told you, we have a new topic, we have a new guest speaker and that's the surprise, the topic today inshallah will be How can a young Muslim, be productive and Amada Of course applies to every Muslim are going to like play and like you know, an emphasis on the that age category inshallah of the simply because we have

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a very beautiful young man sitting next to me and he is going to be our guest speaker today. And his name is a seer, per se or a beautiful name, tayseer, simplifying things making things easy. So it's coming to us to arrange a lot to tell us how easy it is to be productive on Amazon but all what we need to is like open not only our ears, but our hearts has a lot to listen to the tips and the piece of advice that he's going to share with us in sha Allah as a Muslim so would like to welcome this year per se to altro inshallah today, and I would like you to kindly Introduce yourself as a lot a couple of minutes.

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Assalamu alaikum. Everyone. As you know, my name is tiser Hussein. I am 12 years old and study at the Saskatoon

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mizpah school. I'm in I study in grade seven. And my interests are on learning about various topics. And I'm currently working on business in learning about things like that. But yeah.

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Excellent. So can you see here, we're talking about how to be productive and Ramadan as a Muslim.

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And when we say part of law, like Ramadan, it's the best month of the year. And it comes only once after one week of 11 month. So if you can share with us, just as a reminder, what's the purpose of Ramadan?

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The purpose of Ramadan, I believe is to develop that block. Which means God conscious and

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fearful of Allah. Right. So it's

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I feel like what supports that is that we fast for 30 days, right? And the reason we fast is to please a lot, right? But we don't eat once.

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Our parents aren't around or once like when no one's looking, because we know Allah is watching us. Right? So that's being mindful of a lot, which is quite rare. So we not only fasting makes you like not only physically fast and water and food makes you fast, right? We can't be lying. We can't be singing with their eyes or ears. Right? So it's that how can someone send by their ears or their eyes by things like listening to music, watching movies and you know, things that you're not supposed to be doing right by Sonic terms? You know,

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just because you're fasting doesn't mean you can do whatever you want. Like you know social media is one thing for the youth right like apps like Tick Tock instagram snapchat, right? Keep it on the low end make sure you're not doing anything. Right.

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Like you know, developing tougher takes time right? And that's what we have that 30 day period for Ramadan is like a training period for us right. So once Ramadan and can have just like, be like the Ramadan right and only be French's for this Ramadan. You know, once Ramadan is over, put back on your headphones, watching movies and everything. Right. Michelle, like you mentioned, please hear the word taqwa. Right? And I know like we translate this into God consciousness, fear of Allah out of love and respect. You know, the Alon was asking what stuck while he said that was like if you are walking on a path, and that path is full of thorns, what do you do like you collect your

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environments, to make sure that you are not tricked by these tourists, so to set a barrier between you and the punishment of Allah subhanaw taala earlier on your level and also asked about law. He said four statements that should be written in gold. He said a Taekwondo from an injury is to be conscious of a lost continent the most glorified. Well, I'm a little bit Tansy. Actually

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Upon the revelation which is the Quran and the Sunnah, whatever will need to be pleased with whatever last part Allah has given you. What is there that only omega he and to be ready for the day you're going to leave this word delight, right? And you also mentioned here that you know, it has to do with being conscious of the attributes of Allah. You know, like, Can you just shed light like, you know, how can I be like in Ramadan, developing the taqwa relating to being conscious of the names or attributes of Allah, Allah is Samir Allah is impulsive, like how would you?

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Like I just said with attributes, right, it's important that we, like know Allah, first of all right? Because how will we be fearful? How will you be loving? First of all, if you don't know? Right? So we should know, there's lots of ways to do that, right? First of all, the Quran, right? It's literally all that talking to us. Right? It's like, our personal time to connect with All right, so we should read the ground and not just read the crowd, but we should understand and reflect and ponder over growth. Right? Because it's like for a lot of Muslims grown and young Muslims especially grown isn't there? I mean, Arabic isn't their first language, right? So we need

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to take the time to read, ponder and understand over the verses. Right?

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Another thing is all as names, right, like all of us here are up on our

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knowing 99 names is one of the best ways to get to heaven. Right? And it's, it's not easy, but it's you know, with time we could learn the names, the attributes,

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who, who Allah is right, you know, under like understanding so many things like there's so many ways to get close to Allah and its

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Quran and understanding its names. Mashallah, Mashallah. So, let me summarize the beautiful tips that Fisher is giving us. He mentioned like, interferon, I like the statement a lot talking to you.

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glasses. Yeah, I you levena men. When you read that, whenever you listen to that, do you feel that Allah is talking to you? Or you hopefully, and they say Allah, I wish I wish I would be one of the true believers, they are allowed to do that Allah is talking to you. Right? And then he said, not only to recite the Quran, but to ponder and that's the next step. So I'm not just reading the letters and the words, I need to understand what's the message contained in them. Why? Because Quran is my second way of life, you know, like, the next step would be to act upon that. And by acting upon that ama Koran moving on Earth, everybody sees me it's like, you know, why are you honest? Why

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don't you lie? Why did you cheat? The Quran tells me this, Allah told me this. Right? Another beautiful reminder, you also mentioned is

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you know, the names of Allah the attributes of Allah. Yes, the purpose of them sitting there in the Hadith, he said in that 11 disciples in his most of Sahaja halogen, and he beautifully said this in English, a lot sparkler has 99 names, but some said if you calculate them doesn't mean calculate. That's that's exactly the literal translation if you know them, you'll make a decision. But the scholars stop here and said, What do you mean by knowing them? Is it just like saying, Man,

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you know Allah for Allah do Allah Aziz al Jabbar element Jacqueline? No, it's not just like, you know, memorize them or you know them. It means a loss. Petra told us again the Quran was better than us. When you let him smell her snack for the room will be here to allow the lungs the Most Beautiful Names. You should use them when you make a loss of Hannah hautala. So for example, I say, yeah, Allah and the summit are a lot You are a summit meaning you are the one to whom all your creation resort to A times of needs. And he needs you need none of your creation. I need you now. Helped me I'm going through a lot of this pandemic. Yeah, Allah you are in 2011. He means the richest. You

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have everything you said in sort of magenta. You know, I told you one last month I said, Why? Me say in

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You know, we have the inexhaustible treasures of everything. But Allah said women who

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are very Malou we only give it to those who look at our door.

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So when I say yeah Allah I'm sick, yada Shafi is the meaning of to get through the attributes of Allah you know why because some people you know when you go to certain hedges if for

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some people they love I have 49 and they stop there they don't like to continue to Africa to is with you. Allah says it's not the

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sort of 15 and number 14 and a lot spatola says

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never be the knee and allow for Rafi Oh Mohamed say to my slaves, um the old forgiving the old merciful everybody's happy Yes, y'all. I need your forgiveness. I need your rock man I need your mercy. Hold on continue to hire well and either be who

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me and my punishment is severe.

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Because you are one of two. Either you are obedient when you deserve the forgiveness and the mercy of Allah or you're staying away from Allah and you need to develop taqwa and Ramadan then you should remember the last punishment is also severe. So you have to know all the names and attributes of all of them pick and choose well thank you so much for for you know, reminding us of this inshallah. So now that we talk to the people that the fruit of Ramadan as a lesser than a one, a three and certain Bukhara, lacunae, such a cool so that you may learn taqwa and we explained what taco is, okay. Now, how can we develop software? That's the next question. How can we develop? That's, it's not it's not

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hard, right? Because Allah explained in the ground, right? So

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like developing taqwa, it's takes time, right? But it's not hard. Like I said, so. I'm reading Chrome, again, because everything kind of relates to the crap, right? So reading gron, understanding the rules and everything about this, how are you going to, you know, be scared of below when you don't know. I mean, like, avoid, like, doing things like, you know, alcohol, like Snapchat, things like that, if you don't know.

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Right? It's so just understand what's wrong, right? understand what's good, because there's so many small things you can do in your life to gain pleasure, right? So things like following this winner, right, you know, to the common things like sitting down and drinking water right? saying to us before you do certain things like leaving the house like you know,

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you know,

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these are very good, very good tips. Mashallah. So again, you see, Ramadan is the month of the Quran, and that we can see now that tissue is telling us that, it's fine. It's all I put on because put on is the word of Allah loves talking to Allah guiding you are honest, it's meant to be guidance in every aspect of our life, right? And also, following the Sunnah of the Prophet salallahu alaihe salam, you can change your day habits into activity better. Like for example, as you mentioned, when you leave the house, this is if you say Bismillah, In the name of Allah, to occult Allah, I put my trust in Allah, whatever. However, whatever with a level there is no limit, there is no power except

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with the permission of Allah subhanaw taala, then Allah subhanaw taala assigns an agent who say, who feed will repeat or turn a handkerchief only delicately.

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You know, last month, Allah says, He will say, who feed Allah sufficient for you will pee and you are protected, and shaitan turns away from you the entire thing. And somebody might say, hey, she attracted a lot in Ramadan, they are fitter, you know, the promiseland said in the Hadith, Mara Shanti, like the big ones, but the small ones are hovering around, okay. And this is why sometimes in Ramadan as she was talking about those bad habits, and I'm gonna get back to him on that, inshallah, when you feel temptation, you want to go back to your phone, and snapshot or kicked off and, and let's pile up, sometimes you say, I'm just gonna have some fun for a few minutes, and ended

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up there for hours. Right? So, you also mentioned that, you know, we can change like bad habits for the sake of Allah, can you tell us, you know, in detail, what are some bad habits that they do? And, and, you know, what should they learn about? Bad habits, right? So media is very popular in our generation, right? So, like, social media, I'm not gonna say it's a bad thing. Because obviously, like, what you're watching on right now is the the data center Facebook, right? That's social media. Make sure it's your social media is full of good things. Right? You're not seeing or doing anything that you shouldn't be doing, according to Islamic standards, right?

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So nothing like vulgar, right? Nothing like, you know, immodest, right. But you know, make sure your social media is a tool of learning. And,

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you know, even connecting to friends, it's not a bad thing. Just make sure you're not gossiping, or saying anything rude. Right? So it's like, social media is one big thing, right? And then there's music and movies, which are very popular now. Right? So, during, like, I'm not gonna buy Iceland's music all the time. Right. And, like, I, I'm started to replace that habit and Ramadan. By first I started off with podcasts, which are like, they're not like music. They're just you can I've learned things throughout today. And then I switched over to prod. But it takes time, obviously. Right. But first, try lowering the non music you listen to, like, from two hours to 15 minutes, things like

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that. Right? And then replace it. So, right. And movies, another big thing, right. So, you know, the film industry isn't too modest nowadays, you know, you can go through a movie without hearing us were seeing someone in a modest clothing, right. So again, try switching that over lowering. Right? So switching from movies to like scholar, talks, documentaries, anything like that, you know, educational?

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And we have a lot of fun in Islam. Right.

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Okay, excellent. So, again, you notice it is giving us like, you know, very

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useful tips. And I like the way he treated somebody who's like, holding on to a bad habit. Like, like addiction, like, and that's what they do in the rehabilitation center, right? You know, if somebody is an addict, they give them a small dose, and then gradually until it gets out of their system, and then they replace to something better, right? So like, just

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we should have done this before Ramadan. So when Ramadan comes, we're already into the spirit of Ramadan. So you should remove all these, like the rights and, and like, you know, like, stop those social media. But he also mentioned something very important. The fact that

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all these things like social media, and the media itself is a double edged weapon. It's a mixed blessing. But it depends. Do you use it?

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Or do you abuse it? So for example, there are lots of good things on the internet, right? And it depends how you look at the Internet. Because you might ask somebody, what do you think of the interference? Or how

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we're gonna say we are on the internet now? Is this is this haram what we're doing now? It depends what you're going to be watching what are you going to be using? How would you spend your time? are you investing your time? Or are you wasting your time?

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So I like the analogy of like addiction, like, lower the dose, then replace this with something better? Excellent.

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And I like also the analogy you gave said like, Ramadan is like a training camp.

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You are developing so many good characters in Ramadan, patience of control, if you can abstain from something which is Hillel, the food and the drink, right? How can you stop Something wrong? And this is what you need to develop? Right? Like, you know, if you're trying is going to just start talking, think about if it's something good, go ahead and continue. It's something that hold your tongue, right. Excellent. So how can we also work towards being

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like, a productive Muslim? Like, give us like, some steps that we can take, instead, like, reciting the Quran is one of them.

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You know, getting to know the book of Allah subhanaw taala also mentioned in our discussion, like, implementing lessons in our life, we say implementing this isn't our life. What do you mean by that? implementing lessons in our life? Right? So the for profits, like, the biggest lesson we have, it's literally, like, it's not step by step, but it's how we should all have the Muslim men should be,

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you know,

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living our lives, right. So, it's important that we follow them not completely follow because I you know, we were not allowed to ride our camels to work, right. But, you know, implementing, like, he was a very honest man, right? He didn't tell lies, everyone trusted him, right. So honestly, something we can implement, right? He is a very kind man. He, he in South is very humble, right is homeless, small and abundant, right. So, you know, we should follow in his footsteps not have so many things not be proud, not like, you know, that's one big lesson and Kron two tells us

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Like, what almost like Twilight doesn't like, right? So take those lessons. Don't just read, you know, be honest and then go lie to someone.

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Read like Allah loves for, like being

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not being stingy. Right? And don't be stingy. Donate, do like,

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do implement all the lessons

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instead of just reading. Excellent, excellent. So again, another tip, that practical tip, you know, given to us by case here is study the seer of the Prophet sallallahu sallam, and you need to learn that when you started this year. It's not like an interesting story. No, it's like, you stop and derive lessons and implement them.

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Meaning that in depth training camp of Ramadan, invest on reading the Koran. And when you read the Quran, as you mentioned, here, like 15 to 30 minutes, at least every day, like you do your word, maybe like one to something, I want you to take some notes, make your own journal and say, Oh, this I particularly stopped me. And it moved my heart and it brought tears to my eyes because it really hit me. And it leads to something that I'm doing a lot smarter, as if I feel like it's it's it's like it's directed to me. Right? You know, alpha bla bla, like one of one of the people who was like a pirate, he was a highwayman. As probably he was specialized in something very weird. He used to

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rob only the pilgrims.

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But this is one of the best like predecessors Mashallah after he made Cobra but the amazing thing he was specialized in just like stopping ambushing if people to go to college and take everything from them.

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And one time he was hiding, he knew that there is a caravan coming. And people like back in the days they used to like either like walk on foot for six to nine months to travel to Hajj. Or they would use like the shape of the desert, the camel at the time. So he like he knew that some people are cramming so he was waiting behind a wall of a deserted area. And some kind of luck. Those pilgrims when they arrived and they saw that place they said you know what, like, we're so tired. Let's get some rest here and it was the night and one will seem to the other and imagine now, Maria was on the other side of the wall. And he can hear the conversation one of them said to the other. Listen, it's

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night and you know, you're in this area and it's dark now. Let's keep moving before this man comes and you know takes our things and let you know he's gonna deprive us from Hajj

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and at that point, we just hit him on the heart

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and He hurt somebody so Pinilla like the disciples would answer it hit him in the heart. Let's Pinilla. I am here to scare the people going to hatch.

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And even some other Malaysians said the story of his Toba it could be this one or like another one they say like he used to know a woman. And he has like a haram relationship with her. And while he was climbing the wall to go to her house, he heard somebody who's fighting this I and that's the power of the arm. Sometimes you hear the AI or you listen to the audio side many times but there's a specific time when you feel like Allah is talking to me now. As if this is revealed fresh to somebody who's reciting say a wall who's climbing the wall to the to the woman alchemia naini levena, Amano Daksha.

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Woman as de la mina

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Isn't it time for the believers, you know, an extra Apollo boom that their hearts will humble.

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The victory lap for the remembrance of Allah what my lesson I'm in a heart and of that which was sent of the truth, which is the Quran, he said, and it's fine. And he cried. He stopped all the horror. And he started seeking knowledge and he became one of the best, you know,

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sort of like, you know, for us predecessors. So part of us so again, like I'm just trying to relate to what you're saying about the idea of not reading the words of pondering and taking notes, and also following the example of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam because Allah says in the Quran alladhina amanu. that's step number one hamdulillah we have faith and one in Ramadan, but what's the next step? To the activity? act right? Well, I will solidify how many times in the for hundreds of bytes right. So I'm going to solve the heart will never come except when you put them on the air. And so the Sierra and stop the Godzilla was walking one day

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and he saw an old

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A woman.

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And that woman was carrying a heavy load. And the pop salon said,

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Can I help you? She said, Yes, please. So the pop salon carried, what she was carrying, and escorted her to her house. And once she arrived at all,

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she looked at him and she said, Young man, thank you so much.

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And I'm sorry, I have nothing to offer you in return for what you have, you know, done to me. But the only favor I can tell you is nothing but a piece of advice. He said, Go ahead. She said, there is a man in our community these days, who's causing this unity?

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He is, you know, dividing all houses. He's ripping the families apart. You know, look, when he talks, his talk is like magic. It changes the hearts of people be aware of him because he's causing lots of harm to this community. His name is Mohammed and the boxer lives.

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And she looked at him like no, Iris Why? And we said, I am a

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So she took the Shahada on this one. How many of us today

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can take this into action, as you said, like, you know, when you said like, we cannot imagine like, we cannot imitate the books and everything, of course, like life changes, like we're not going to ride a camel, you know, in the 21st century. But Mashallah, we would like we can drive a Ferrari and Lamborghini, right. But what I'm saying is, how can we take the best thing, which is the good character,

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and act like that, because one little act of kindness will bring hundreds of people to Islam.

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You could have 1000 speech, but it will not move the heart of anyone, right. So

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I like the idea of implementing lessons from our life.

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Also, when you when you mentioned some tips here, steps that we can become productive in Ramadan should praise Allah at time with the family, make one room or corner, like as a masala in the house holder, then make a habit of applying after the other. Like what? Like, can you elaborate on that?

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Normally, Ramadan is the time that we spend in the machines. Having physicists pandemic, we can do that. Right? So it's important that just because the machines are close, doesn't mean we're not worshiping Allah. Right? So it's even a chance. Because now you can, it's kind of like, someone's leading prayer, right. And when someone's always waiting for you sometimes forget, or make small mistakes that you never get to pick up on. Right. So now, you can leave prayer for your family.

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You know, do things with the family, because it's easier when it's in a group setting. Right? So you know, before if they are right, some people just like, you know, do work and casually do whatever until I start and finally drink some water. But we should be taking this time to make to all of your families, right? I'm even talking to them not for a car, but talking to them in general, because, you know, we don't get enough time.

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Off, right? because of things like work school. I mean, yeah, work school, right? So, you know, talk to them during this time, right?

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Make sure someone's doing a job prepare, right, make sure you guys are all paying on time. And together, right? brain gives us the most beloved acts of worship and love to play and play. Exactly. Yeah. And Jamaat just because the matches are closer we can play in Jamaat, so it was giving us a chance to turn all our houses into massage. That's even better. So yeah, it's um, yeah, and it's watching scholar talks with them. Make sure everyone's together. Happy. It's tough, right? Yeah. Mashallah. So again, I think he was telling us, we should take advantage of that chance and look at the positive side of it. When Allah subhanaw taala of his father, we have this pandemic Now, a lot

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sending us a message like, we as a family, we don't get to sit together. We don't have quality time together. So last part, Allah as if he's forcing us to do this now. So make a masala in your house, turn all our messages, bubbler. That's number one, get the benefit of having an amendment dimension. So the measure that we will house and then repeat after them i think you know, how much do you get out of that my boxer said if you repeat after the Martin, Lahore, Lahore until it comes to paella so I say that

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at the end you make this a lot more body demos a lot of time I think Mohammed was so popular about modality right that once you say this lovely look at the word

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What about Lucia fatty a person who will do this? He said he deserves my shefa my intercession on the nature of love. Look at the little Act and the huge reward from Allah subhanho wa Taala. And then you pray on time, this is one of the most beloved acts of worship in the sight of Allah. And also they seem to mention something very, very important.

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Most of us today, we are addicts have cell phones, internet, said book, snapshot, Twitter, and Instagram, right? People will be like holding their phones while they're sitting next to each other. He didn't say Salaam Alaikum Tashi they can write. s er ay ay ay ay ay.

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Even they don't even write a Somali from the right a abbreviation. I call it the internet lingo.

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We have developed like and then the others are like a Oh, a.

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You know, I'm saying so we're not even saying that we're not talking to each other. I know. Some people may think, what is the what's the talk today? She's right, like two steps away from her. You don't have time to imagine like six, seven people sitting at home. And everybody's like looking at that screen. And there is no communication?

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Listen, I don't agree with social distancing. Don't judge me. I agree with physical distancing. But not social distancing. When we are at home, even when we are without extended families, we should never do social distancing. Social distancing means we're going to be away from each other socially know, that yes, physical distancing. Because, you know, we want to follow the precautions given to us by doctors, that we can never disconnect when it comes to be like, like a social person with my loved ones. Right? So quality time. And by quality time, it doesn't mean we're sitting stuck right in front of Netflix and watching * and vulgar language. No, we mean by, you know, quality time,

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we are looking at each other. And they are talking to each other listening to each other having a two way dialogue. It's a two way right. Like sometimes like, you know, when people say, okay, we're gonna have, okay, you go ahead and talk to us here and you're talking. And I'm just like,

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and then you say, Okay, so what do you think about what? I've been talking for 20 minutes? Like, it's supposed to be a conversation, right? So when we say qualified means we're listening to each other, we are validating the concerns of one another. And we are trying to bring about solutions to the problems that we're facing. Okay. siblings should be sitting together exchanging, you know, advice. Parents should be sitting, you know, with the kids talking to them spouses together, right. Based on that, I just want to ask you as a as a young Muslim.

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Tell me some life stories that happened at home, given that people have locked up now and they're like staying at home? Almost 24. Seven. What are the things that happen at home these days? I'm not talking specifically about you, but like out of your experience with your friends and stuff, because I'm sure you're chatting with them and stuff. So what are things that happen at home now that are negative, and we should change that? Okay, so one thing is that, you know,

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especially before you start, that's mainly when dads are home right there, because, you know, first of all, a lot of dads are off work or not Coronavirus, but if our you know, nighttime their home, right? From wives usually sometimes, you know, like, sadly, the wives and mothers get missed out on a car because they're working so hard in the kitchen, making everyone but you know, try to put down the, you know, special and everything sit down and, you know, make draw with your family. Right. So, like, make sure everyone sitting like, in one thing, but like, you know, a lot of mothers and wives are missing on that opportunity. Right? So this is a promo that is accepted by a lot. Yeah. And a

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lot of kids are just playing video games or something like you know, in the living room wants to safeguard Tom, like your parents call them come sit down, eat, right. But like, it shouldn't, we shouldn't have to call them they should we should already be there. When our friends are there. We should be there like 10 five, like 20 minutes in advance. Spirituality at all.

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And yeah, but it's like, but there's honestly a lot of good things that have happened with, you know, this quarantine with their families, like a lot of relationships with your dad or mom have gotten better. Because you know, when you're living with someone for 24 hours a day, seven hours, I mean, seven days a week, then you're gonna end up talking to them, right? So make sure you're open with your parents.

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Because I know sometimes parents make it hard to talk,

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you know, very stern or like, just in their own thing, right? So make it easy for your kids to talk to you be like their best friend, right? Because believe me, if, if you're your child's best friend, and you'll know more than anyone else, right, they'll trust you, they'll come to you for advice. And that's your chance to tell them what they can do from an Islamic viewpoint. Because you don't know their friends a lot of the time, right? You don't know what advice they're getting? Right? So you could be the difference between your kid and not like in a bad spot in life or turning out to be erections? Good?

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Can you tell me like some of the things that parents should change when it comes to dealing with a teenager at home? So they like we want the teenagers to open up because this is one of the common complaints that comes to me like no, my teenagers, like somebody living in their own shell in their cave. And like, they don't talk, they only talk to their friends they want to sleep over. So what are things that parents should change? Right? So one thing is, a lot of it's just because you're a teenager, now, it doesn't mean everything's changed. But when you're a kid, right? I remember going to my parents and stuff. And like, they didn't really talk to me, because, you know, it's just a

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kid's opinion isn't valuable, or anything like that, right? So they come like a lot of kids, they want to talk to their dad and mom, right? And I know, sometimes it doesn't make sense. Like, they just go on and on about their game, like small little things. But listen, right? Even if it's not interesting, just listen and nod your head be like, Oh, that's nice, right? And they'll remember that, please, don't remember that. And when they're older, they will talk to you, right? So if you don't talk to them, you can kind of neglect them when they're a kid. And they'll do the same when you're older. Right when they're older. Right? So that's one thing, right? On second of all, is let

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them into your lives too. Because, you know, I know a lot about my mom and dad, like where they're born. And it really interests me, because as Muslims, a lot of our parents are immigrants, right? So being born in this country, we don't know too much about back home. And, you know, I'm personally from Bangladesh, and I love hearing stories from like, you know, animals and the way life was, right. So it's interesting to talk to them about

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a lot of things doesn't always have to be religion, or politics or anything like that. They're kids after all, right? So talk about things that interest them, because if they play the video games aren't necessarily always bad, but you should be, you should be the best. We should be playing with your kids occasionally, right? You should be doing things with your kids, if they play basketball, go outside, go play basketball. Right? So, you know, be there as an adult, be there and be available to talk to you. Because if asked, Can I talk to you say no? They can can I talk to you? And we say no, then Believe me, they won't be coming back again.

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Excellent, Mashallah, I hope the parents are listening to this. So it's again, it's, as we say, an Arabic kimata deal to them, like, you know,

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what, what goes around comes around, right? So the way we treat them when they are young, if you are open, if you listen to them, if you give them quality time, they'll open up and come to you. You know, that three little kid when he comes up,

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and he jumps in front of you, and you're on the phone, and you're gonna say, Hey, I'm busy on the phone.

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And he's gonna run away from you, right? When he was saying this, even if you just like, turn the phone, it's like, What do you want?

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What does that mean?

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I just need some attention from you. He doesn't even he doesn't. He's not that eloquent to speak to you. But like, you just say, Please give me some time. Like, are you talking to your boss? That's work. Work is outside the house, you're at home. Now you're that act like a dad, this is your job. Right? When? When he looks at us, like, you know, can you just play with me? He's like, Hey, would you like three years old? Like and I'm 30 or 40? Like, you know, how can I play with you? Listen, oh, Ma, let's say Omar, what his name was mentioned. You know, the leaders of the two superpowers in his time, journeys will be shaking.

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One time somebody went to visit him.

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And Subhanallah he saw on one of the line, like live like a camel, and his son was riding him.

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And the man was shocked like no armor is doing this.

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He said I'm saying so it's like, yeah, this is my son. I'm playing

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today Cipolla when we study parenting, we need to go back to

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the processor would do the same thing and it hasn't been we'll drive him nuts. I'm gonna say Nirmal Gemma Gemma Kuma like you have the best camera ever.

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It doesn't degrade you.

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And again, also at a submission, something very important. listen to their stories. They might be boring and to you they're like nonsensical. But they mean a lot to them.

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Like, once they jump in the car when you're giving them a ride back home and say, how was your day and they gonna say, today, you know, my pencil does a cooker.

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And my friend did this. And like, some some of us like, we just like, as if we're doing our job looking at how was your day and we go back to your phone call? No, how was your day and then you listen to the story. Because if you listen to the story, later on, they will come to you and say that I have a problem. I want you to help me. But if you shut them down, they're going to go to their maybe bad friends and they get advice from there. And they will not tell you anything at home and all of a sudden, you come to the Imam Imam, I discovered that my son has a girlfriend.

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How old is he? He's very young. He's only 22 as a Mashallah baby. What have you been for the last 22 years? I was busy but making money to secure his future. Yeah, you have the money now what's your son is gone. It's gonna take a long time to bring him back. So don't let the means to secure the future be the goal and you forget about your kids. Why is your time with them? Listen to them. Again, when they like to play something, why don't you play with them? And at least when you see something wrong, and I say oh, this game is not good, let's change it. And then if they will do some activities outdoor, like they play soccer, you know, just try if you even cannot play with them go

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and watch them support them.

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That means a lot to them little things, but it will build that relationship. This is very important. Excellent.

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Mashallah, I so many things here that you suggested also like making a poster as a reminder on the wall, reciting morning and evening. supplications. This is something that very little people, very few people do now, right? Of course, Obama said it protects you from black magic and evil by and many people's complaint from that. Why don't we take this as a chance also in Ramadan, to develop that habit. And then outside of Ramadan, you're going to continue doing that. I also like something that I want to conclude with when you said, some people are Ramadan in you. That's what we're saying.

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They worship Ramadan. I mean, they worship Allah only in Ramadan. And once Ramadan is over, they say.

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Now let's go back. Stefan, one of the signs that Allah accepted your good deeds in Ramadan, is that you continue with the spirit of Ramadan after I'm not going to say you're going to go ahead, but at least take something out of Ramadan with you. Right. So what would you like to share with us? What are your thoughts about this? So, um, you know, it's, yeah, it's, it's a big thing. A lot of people you know, during Ramadan, it's, they become amazing Muslims, right? smokers stopped smoking, right? Things like that, right? So why not carry off that with you because it only takes 60 days for something to become habit. So Marsha, like already created 300 in 30 days, which is called the RX

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30. And you'll be fine. Right? So it's important, and sometimes we do things that are a little bit more religious in Ramadan. So I know someone finished the ground every day.

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Right? And so that's kind of hard to maintain over a long period of time. Right? So Laura, right, make sure at least you're opening right every day, you're opening it for 3010 minutes, I'm gonna just open it right and then naturally the level form from your heart right and then it won't be a chore it won't be a you know, just get it done. So make sure you pray five times a day and make sure you do try catching up on sooner maybe in Ramadan, you know for everything right, but you know, it's and then suddenly after Ramadan, you stop right so maybe instead of doing nephal and Darwin after Ramadan, are we there buddy, you know, just stay on the right so don't set unrealistic goals. Like

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if you're Muslim who only create like, you know, once

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was not very good, you you're not going to become a hotness by the end of Ramadan. Right? But start doing work, right, like work towards your goal. That's all that matters. Make sure there's improvement like the Rambam you from last year and the Ramadan you from this year shouldn't be the same person right? They should

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Be two completely different recently

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beautiful Mashallah. So this is telling us, you know, if you were to close your eyes and remember last Ramadan, what were your regrets? At the end of Ramadan? You had a very, very unrealistic, you know plan for Ramadan and he ended up being like feeling guilty like feeling like you know like oh man I know so I'm not gonna do this this year again. So when you set your goals Be realistic. And then Mashallah, another tip also that I liked is we developed so many things in Ramadan, we pray on time, take this after Ramadan, it's not a big deal.

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We pray all the sooner in Ramadan take this habit into after Ramadan. We do Torah, we have Ramadan and 200 at least do some family, I'm not going to say to the full thing at least do to Raka for Raka take something out of Ramadan with you. Because this is the side that he likes to do hard work on the mother, right? The brother who you know finishes the Quran in three days or one week. At least make it your habit to recite wonders outside of every day. At least you will do like one every month.

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We're also waiting by the way for your questions like I got a question here. I'm going to answer shuts off topic, but I'm going to answer it. And then I'm going to ask all the speakers to think about a question on your behalf. We gave tips to the parents. But we need tips from a young man to the young people out there how to deal with their parents so they can earn the respect. But before I do this, I'll let him think about the answer. I'm going to answer the question the sister here is asking sister Sonia Han Salaam Alaikum alaikum Salaam Can you please tell me what do I have to pay my foot in my neighborhood mosque or I can pay anywhere I want Thanks for the question you know the

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cotton footer is for every Muslim every Muslim in the household is not an adult Muslim every Muslim in the household. So if you and your spouse and you have three children one of them is 17 one of them is seven one of them is seven days. One of them is seven minutes one of them in one minute before so lots of you have to give the cat a photo for that that's different from cattle

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and the cattle photo is $10 and again at the time of the Prophet they used to give it in time meaning like you know barely dates raising rice to kilograms and a half but the equivalent of that is $10 and some scholars said people need the money more than than the food now. So if this is the case you can give it money inshallah.

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Now when should I give it the sooner is two or three days before the end of Ramadan but from the beginning of Ramadan you can give it simply because you make it easy for the masjid to be able to give it to those who deserve it What should I give it the sooner is to give it to the neighborhood and and also when you when you give it to like you know to the measure in the in your neighborhood because in Islam we should be self sufficient in one area and then if it's enough, then we'll go to the neighboring area and then we go to the neighboring area this way, you know this is like social solidarity amongst the Muslims. So we should give it to you should give it to the masjid I know some

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people like they send it back home and stuff like that. And I said how much I said it's $10 per person. I mentioned that $10 per person. So if you are in the household with a spouse and three children, that's $50 $10 per person. If you are two spouses with no children, that's $20 two spouses with one child that close even if that child was a few minutes born after sorry before siliconate in Sharla.

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Now the same thing for the cattle

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the cattle man it's for every like you know I have a whole

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seminar you can go to like you know, our facebook facebook page at Saskatoon and my own Facebook and my YouTube you will find it it's a seminar on the fifth of Zika so it talks in detail about everything in Sharla for some people I know they delayed there's a capital Ramadan and by the way you can give your cat is a message because the message needs your generous donations inshallah. And as as he was talking earlier, like one of the habits one of the good habits you should develop in Ramadan is the habit of soda because Ramadan is the month of soda and they say the process was the most ever but he was more generous in the month of Ramadan and the way he spent in the month of

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Ramadan is like sweeping wind. So give generously. inshallah. Let's go back to the ceiling, we still have a few minutes and you give clips to the parents so that the teenagers can can open up and talk to them. What also let's

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Let's flip the coin and ask you to give some tips for the young people, how they should treat their parents, and how they shouldn't make fun of their accent or like the fact that they don't speak fluent English. Or like, No, they are old fashioned, they are outdated and, and like, they will give you a lecture if they want to say something. And they are very democratic by saying no, uh, no all the time for you. You know what, give us some tips to the young people. Yeah, I have two tips, right? Um, for accent, and things like that I can relate because I used to always do Indian accent and things like that. And it was funny to me, my friends, but in reality is like it, you should be

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proud of your ethnicity. Because if, like, if you think about it, like these white people, a lot of them don't have culture. So they make fun of other people. Right? But we have culture, we are multilanguage people, right? And if you like, don't let culture consume you and forget about religion, right? But obviously, religion is a big part of our identity. But cultures, one thing we can be proud of, right? Like, you know, know your language, because a lot of dads can't even talk to their kids. Right? Because their kids don't they're so whitewashed, like, they don't act like john, but they're actually Muhammad. Right? So don't be

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just accept your culture, learn more about it, right? Recently, during this quarantine period, I've been trying to pick up on my native language, which is one guy and it's, it's fun leaving, like talking to your parents and your language. It's like something, it's feels good, right? And it's an accomplishment. Because even when you're like, 30 years later, you'll be able to put it on your resume. And believe me, it makes a difference. Right? And my second piece of advice is, this is for even to kids who aren't too religious, right now. It's be neutral with your parents be very, you know, kind and don't argue with everything, because I remember, like, religion used to kind of be

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like a chore for me, right? So watch this color talk for it, counting down the minutes and looking like waiting for time. Right. And by the end, I wouldn't learn anything, I probably sleeping throughout the whole thing, right? So basically, it's just be very willing and upset, accepting, because think about all the things your parents go to bed. So your parents, like your dad probably works, or dad or mom works probably like eight, nine hours a day. So they can feed you put a quote over your head, right? And then you can sit down for 30 minutes and watch a scholar. Right? So understand that, like, be willing to do what they ask at least think about it at least just give it

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a try. And then if it doesn't work for you, you can kindly explain to them like, I don't think this is like, could we find a replacement? Right? Like I have a basketball practice at this time? Can I watch this guy talk? It's recorded, so maybe I could walk away? Right? Don't just say no. And don't just argue over, like, you know, just being rebellious. Because I used to do that all the time. I just mom says this, I'd be like, Oh, really, like, you know, it's like, even when you know, you're wrong, you just want to make them angry or something. Right? The whatever generation, whatever.

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Hold back on, right? Just, you know, give everything a try. Right? Try your best because, believe me, they try hard for you. Right? Try your best. And then you'll see, you know, like, because, you know, their job is to give you religion, at its best point, like show you have beautiful salads. And it's all ours and your job to accept and understand it. And your parents or your children. Exactly. So let them you know, present everything to you. And at the end of the day, it's your decision to make a choice. And it makes sense to me, and it will make sense for you. Right? And just because you're a kid now, and you don't understand religion, right? It's doesn't mean it will be like that

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forever. Because for a lot of our parents to they didn't get religion, or you didn't understand that it takes time. Right? You know, you become wiser if your actions but just don't use your breath now.

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Did you hear that young people? So nobody, I'm saying this, write it down. Nobody on Earth would love you more than themselves. And I would like to see better than themselves except your parents.

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your siblings could be jealous of you. Your classmates could be jealous of you. But no one would love to see you better than them. No one except your parents. So you have to have this in the background of your mind when you deal with them. And unfortunately, we take them for granted. Right? So they tell you for example, at the garbage like it's not my job. whose job is it?

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It's your mom's job Who said that? Is your dad stop?

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Why me? Why don't you ask my brother? What do you ask my sister? Why don't you lead by example? Be the best one.

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Stop arguing for the sake of argument.

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And remember, your parents are two keys two gentleman went up to like Minnesota met someone and he asked them, is your father alive? He said, No, he passed away. Is your mother alive? He said, Yes. He said, you still have one key question.

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So remember this when you deal with your parents. And we're all what we mentioned, we need to

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apply all these steps. And we hope that we give you a recipe and a plan, how to be productive, not only as a Muslim, because what we mentioned applies to everyone, but we give more emphasis on the young people and the challenges that they go through and will also give tips to their parents to be more welcoming and be more patient with that gets to me Allah subhanaw taala make us all amongst those who listen to the speech and follow the best of it. I think we have maybe 30 seconds. I'm gonna surprise they see them ask him. Can he do like an Indian accent just to put a smile on their face before we

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look at them on the cover and below them? A little bit? Yes.

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Hello. How are you? Did you do baryonic today? Oh, hello. Okay, good.

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Okay, I hope that you're gonna enjoy the video and inshallah I don't I can't do the Indian accent but like Mashallah, thank you this year, and with that smile, inshallah we'll let you go and persevere through it. I remember you mentioned in your donation. And remember the month of Ramadan is the month of taqwa is the month of Ramadan is the month of sadaqa is the month of reaching out your friendship is the month of vigor. It's the month of two I

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don't forget to make lots of especially in your solute. Before you break your fast any nutrient Sharma like tips from us, all in sha Allah was ceramah alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh

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