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You're listening to the productive Muslim podcast season three, Episode 23.
Welcome to the productive Muslim podcast season three with your host enough handy and welcome to the Ramadan hot detox challenge. Now, we are now 23 days into Ramadan. Summer has kicked in, and so has the hay fever. So bear with me in this podcast, if I sniffle quite a bit. Today, you're asking what the day is on how to capitalize on the burqa of having parents. Now this is an article that I absolutely love, because I think it is relevant to anyone who tends to have arguments with their parents, or who finds that their parents frustrate them. There are some key points in this article that I really want you guys to take away. One being that you have to remember who you are, who your
parents are. A lot of us we reach a point, especially when we become adults that you know, we expect our parents to the same level as us, that will never happen. Allah Subhana Allah has given your parents and right that you cannot contest in that when Allah penalty Allah told you to worship Him. The next thing he told you to do was to treat your parents with asset, okay? Meaning excellent, you treat them an excellence in everything. Whatever good character you show, you have to show it with excellence towards them excellence and patient, excellence and kindness going the extra mile for them. Then after you realize who your parents are, there's a key point that this article makes,
which is that think about the effort that we make for our friends, the dedication that we show them to take care of them to listen to them. How often do we give that to our own parents? How often do we treat them with that level of kindness and that love respect that we would give to our own friends, you know, our parents, our daughter, Jenna, and we underestimate that. And what is quite beautiful is that it doesn't actually take much to please our parents, for the majority of us. I mean, the things that we nag the pin things that our parents know got asked about what is it generally tend to be, it might be housework, it might be your grades, it tends to be minor thing
that you can easily change. But when you start arguing and you want to prove a point, it doesn't happen, you end up accumulating a lot of sins for being rude to them for arguing with them. And your parents trying to prove you're wrong, you try to prove them wrong, ends up being an unnecessary vicious cycle. However,
if a lot of these mundane things that it takes to please your parents, you do them and you make your intention for the sake of Allah subhanaw taala It is nothing but a win win situation Your parents are happy. Unless a penalty Allah is happy, and it counts as a better for you. You're technically worshiping Allah through kindness to parents. Now with this, there are some times where when we make an effort for our parents, they still don't appreciate it, or they see it as an opportunity to lecture us on how little we do. In situations like that you need to show Patience, patience here is key. So some people the patience of a Obadiah, sir might be necessary. And that might be true.
However, the coroner has explicitly said that you should not even say off to them. And by the way, one thing I never realized, I always thought of was like, like the major thing. Like if you say off, like that's it, but offers like the minimum everything else on top of like, I don't have a single if you say off, that's a sin. But no, if you say anything from off upwards, that's also something that you should not be doing.
But regardless in situations where your parents might stress you out, okay? Patience is really important. And so is kindness. Okay? good words don't cost anything. That's what my grandma always used to say words do not cost any money. So when it when you reach a situation, where you have an option to either pursue an argument, or you have an option to say something kind of say something diplomatic, you're not doing it for the sake of your parents, you're doing it for the sake of Allah subhanaw taala. The thing is, when you do something motivated by people, that motivation can run out quite quickly, depending on how you feel towards that person. But motivation from last panel data,
it doesn't run up, it's something that is always there. So if you find that you do have a difficult relationship with your parents, making your intention towards Allah Subhana Allah saying that for your sake, I am going to treat my parents with kindness I'm going to be diplomatic. I am going to respond with kindness, your motivation and shuttler will not run out your patience it will be that it will 100% happen and also on this point, one thing that I need to make clear as well. So sometimes a lot of us will make that I will say will make it easier for patients to say Allah please sub Barney make me patient, whatever. When you make a do I like the last panel Diana doesn't like
take patients as a warm fuzzy feeling and put it inside your heart. Allah Santana will give you an opportunity to demonstrate and show and build patience.
So, your parents if you have a difficult relationship, this is the option to do so. And on that point, I also want to mention that one common situation that tends to happen is when a person becomes more devout, more practicing spiritually and intellectually with Islam, if they have parents who are quite cultural, and some parents for whom culture supersedes religion, that can cause a lot of conflict within that you need to demonstrate the best of us luck, the prophet SAW, Selim was sent to perfect our manners. showing good manners does not mean telling our parents, this is how this has had on you getting sin, whatever, no, showing good manners is trying to guide them through kindness
through being polite to them, through understanding them through being humble. So with that, and shortly you guys benefit from this article and share it with anyone who you think might find it very beneficial. Your next task of the day is you are going to have to make a sincere and personalized laugh for the people that you love. So how often does that happen? Where everyone says, oh, keep me in your diaries make draft for me. I think of all the people that have said to me, you know, keep me in your diet. I've never actually named them by name. Maybe I can cut them into heads. Generally, I will say like, Yeah, I love Please, you know, guide and bless all of my friends, but it doesn't
actually naming them. I think I have a few that make it to the top list where I actually remember their name. So after fetcher makes sense it customized for the people that you love, plural. So take the people who you really love, who you really care about can be as many people as you want. I mean, most of us, all of us insha Allah where we fulfill our prayer, and where are we at a time for her anyway. So spending a few minutes into our praying for other people is not going to take a large amount of our time. And not only that, when you make the angels around, you are making the same to have for you as well. So whatever great to add that you're making for your friends, that has also
been made for you too. And the final task of the day, is to make a handmade gift for someone that you care about. Now, when I put this task, I didn't realize how uncreative I was and to what extent I would be able to make a handmade gift, but inshallah I look forward to hearing what handmade gifts you guys are making you can give it to anybody that you want. It can be anything from a handmade card to a cake even you know if you want to handmade gift and cook or bake something that's perfectly fine to you just cannot buy it. Okay, make it something sentimental. These are your tasks for the day. I hope you have a wonderful day and I'll be with you guys tomorrow. We have one week
left on Ramadan inshallah you guys are really pushing yourselves. In these last seven days. I'm really making the most of it, and I'm ready to let him better care too much.
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listening and have a great day.