Channel: Omar Suleiman
There are so many sisters in the community who have never had the experience of seeing someone buried. And actually going through the process that we've been talking about of watching someone that you knew go underground, the dirt coming on them, and the finality of that process, as it takes place here.
As Pamela, there are many ways to experience death and a growing climate of materialism, where people are further diluted by life, and we're certainly encountering so much that's harmful, in terms of greed and materialism, and how we assign value to ourselves into our lives. encountering death is so important, and experiencing it, you know, even in other ways, whether it's the hosel of the dead body, being there with someone when they pass away. You know, being with the family, comforting the family, there are other ways to encounter death and to be in close proximity to it. That would soften the hearts, right? But there's nothing quite like the graveyard, there's nothing
quite like seeing a person go underground or seeing the graveyard in general, and being there. Now, traditionally speaking, there is the last there is a difference of opinion in regards to
where women could participate when it comes to the janazah when it comes to the graveyard when it comes to the burial. And I want to unpack this just a little bit in Charlottetown and start off with what is permissible across the board and what is prohibited across the board. So we start off with what is permissible. Attending salado janaza is unanimously permitted for women, even traditionally in Islamic law, right to go to the janazah. And to pray the janazah to attend it in the masjid or on the lawn or wherever it may be to praise the lots of janazah and bid the lying to Allah to have the same reward the pilat that is the likeness of hood, in good deeds, and shot lots out of that's a
short there, what is prohibited across the board exceedingly prohibited in fact and causes harm to the dead. So it's not just that it is sinful for the person but could harm the dead is Nia is wailing. And in the time of the Prophet slice alum, though wailing was prohibited for men and women that means screaming loudly and shouting out things and tearing clothes and things of that sort. It was a particular practice that was associated in jelenia with the women that would go out and that were professionals at whaling and doing these things to show grief for the debt. And so the profit slice alum prohibited and in fact cursed those that do Nia whether it is men or women. Now here we
have everything that's in between, right the salata janaza, which is permitted for men and women across the board unanimously, and then the the NEA which is prohibited for men and women. And then you have what's in between, which is following the janazah and then going to visit the graveyard. When it comes to going to visit the graveyard. There is a narration from out you shall have a lot of time on her. She was actually returning back from the pier. And someone asked her where are you coming from Omen momineen are mother of the believers, where are you coming from? So she said I went to visit my brother, Abdur Rahman. And the response was didn't the Prophet sallallahu wasallam
prohibit that? And he shall be allowed to Allah and have responded and she said that the prophets lie Selim used to prohibited Okay, now on the article board he used to prohibited and then the Prophet sallallahu wasallam. Mr. bzr it has he in fact commanded people to go and visit the graveyards because it reminds you of death. So what I showed the allowance that I was saying is that the prohibition on visiting the graves was for men and women. But there is a particular emphasis on women because of the practice of Nia how, but then when the Prophet sallallahu wasallam, commanded the companions and made it not just permissible, but made it recommended to go and to visit the
graves that that included women as well, so long as they continue to abstain from either being known as those that would frequent the graveyards or those that would wail excessively, mourn excessively in the graveyards or those that would not observe the hijab in the graveyard and things of that sort. So visiting the grapes, according to a large group of scholars visiting the graveyard is permitted, especially in accordance with this narration from it shall be allowed to and some of the scholars made a difference between a differentiation between following the janazah and going to the graveyard outside of the janazah. And this is based upon, you know, primarily narrations that aren't
necessarily authentic but there is an authentic narration from Alia Omar to the Aloha and he says that we were forbidden to accompany the Gentiles.
To accompany the Genesis means follow the procession, but not strictly not strictly. Now, again, where is this in the timeline? Is it when it was prohibited to, to do so as a whole? Or is it afterwards and this remains so many of the scholars mentioned, a dislike, which is what seems to be indicated by mildly while the allowance add on. And a lot of the scholars, you know, went into different reasoning for that, right. And they said that, at the end of the day, it's the practices that are frowned upon, and the practices of whaling and the practices of mourning and obviously, following the janazah. And going through that entire process would cause more distress is a is a
more tasking, environment and hard thing to encounter than going to the graveyard outside of the janazah. And then some of the scholars, they say that it's about the elements if a woman abstains from the elements that are prohibited, then she is permitted to even accompany the funeral procession and to witness that one of the evidences that some of the scholars actually use is an incident that's very famous that the Prophet slicin um, came across a woman that was weeping over her last child. And as she was weeping the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam told her to be patient and she responded and she said, you know, what do you know about my tragedy? What do you
know about my Muslim but, and the Prophet sallallahu Sallam walked away? And some of the people told that woman Do you know who that was? And she said, who they said it was the Messenger of Allah ally Salaam. So she immediately goes to apologize to the profit slice alone. And the profit slice that I mentioned to her What a submitter in the submitted oola that true patience is at the first stroke of calamity. Some of the scholars mentioned that Prophet slicin them did not remark on her being present or her grief, but rather the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam taught a valuable lesson in patience at those moments. And that is the type of patience that is needed for anyone that walks
that trail. It's not just observing the rules, it's also making sure that we derive the full benefit and that's true for both men and for women.