When Parents Beg Their Kids To Believe

Omar Suleiman

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To begin by praising Allah subhanaw taala. And bearing witness that nun has the right to be worshipped or unconditionally obeyed except for him. When we bear witness that Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa Salam is his final messenger, we ask Allah to send his peace and blessings upon him, the prophets and messengers that came before him, his family and companions that served alongside him, and those that follow in his blessed path until the day of judgment, and we ask Allah to make us amongst them Allah, I mean, your brothers and sisters, there is nothing more beautiful than the succession of Islam, the succession of belief, from parent to child, and then from parent to child

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and from parent to child. And in many ways, we are looking around at these communities being developed, you know, Subhan, Allah just on my way in here, noticing all of the massage that have been built, and seeing so many people, we are the fruits of that succession from the time of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and the companions that at some point, even if you are the first person to convert to Islam, in your particular bloodline, at some point, there is a Dariya, there is a color to Islam that came from a color to Islam, there is a convert, there's a point where it dropped off, and then it picked back up. But there is nothing more beautiful than when you can trace

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that line. And you can see the succession of belief and faith. And what I mean by that is that in many ways, when you see worldly success, when you see that the children have followed the parents footsteps, and then their children have followed, and you start to have a heritage that represents some sort of value, and the upliftment of something that is great. And when you look in the Quran,

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you find that Allah subhanaw taala speaks to that, from the perspective of Ibrahim alayhis, Salam of the drops of Ibrahim alayhis salam, where the multiple drops that he made for his offspring, the multiple drops that he made for the succession of Islam, within his own loins, and the succession of Islam on this earth, and the purity of every generation to come from that which contradicts the monotheism that he upheld. You see it in almost every single one of his do is his insistence that this be something that goes on beyond him. And you find that Ibrahim alayhis salam

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is calling his children to him at the time of his death and what a long life and a difficult life and eventful life he lived. And Allah subhanaw taala. Anna says, What will Salam be? Ibrahim ogone He will Yeah, QUB Ibrahim alayhis salam and a son Yaqoob call their children to them. And they give them our Sia. What is that? We'll see. What does that will what is it that they're impressing upon them at the end of their lives? Yeah, Benny in Allah how Stafa Hola, como Deen? Oh, my children, Allah has chosen for you this religion of Islam, Salah temotu, not

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to Muslim moon, don't die, except that you are Muslims don't die, except that you're on this faith. Now this isn't some sort of regret that Ibrahim it has Saddam has at the time of his death where suddenly it impresses upon him. Like I really messed up with my kids. My kids and my grandkids have left the faith and they no longer have anything to do with Islam. And now as I'm leaving, I'm feeling this overwhelming sense of guilt. And so I need to try to salvage what I've been missing my entire life. This was Ibrahim ani his Salam, reaffirming what he has been affirming to his children for their entire lives and to his grandchildren for their entire lives. And that's an important

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distinction to make. Why? Because Allah subhanaw taala covers through the life of Ibrahim it has salaam, the life of a parent who prayed for his kids, the life of a parent who worked with his kids, because he's building the Cabo with this mountain. It is said I'm just a few I asked before that the life of a parent who was sincere to Allah subhanaw taala and didn't have a speck of hypocrisy which could be sniffed out. Brahim ani Salam represented sick, truthfulness, sincerity, and the life of a parent who now is sitting with his children and his last moments and saying Yup, and here in Allah husafell accommodating my children, I remind you that before I give you the we'll see about our

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businesses, our land, this and that or anything worldly. The main thing I want you to remember is that we were sent here for tohave we were sent here for that call of la ilaha illAllah. Stay upon that until your death and how beautiful Allah subhanaw taala says

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Tom Shuhada how old I am

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and then

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Jacoba Alayhis Salam comes,

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you know, and yeah Coolgardie his Salam is speaking to his children, my tablet doing them embody. What are you going to worship after me? So now the succession comes.

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And this isn't the son of Ibrahim, this is the grandson so it's succession to succession to succession. Oh my children, what will you worship after me? Ba Luna boo Isla de la.

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Ibrahima Ismar. Isla is how

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we're going to worship your Lord and the Lord of our fathers Ibrahim and Ismail. And as Huck, they even are able to replay even if they never lived with ismat eel, it became their identity. It was Sybilla to Allah, it was the brand that they had. They grew up with that. We're going to worship your Lord, we're going to worship the Lord of Ibrahim, we're going to worship the Lord of our uncle Ismail, we're going to worship the Lord of our grandfather is hack illa huwa he don't want to know that home was Sneem on one God, and we are to him Muslims. It's a beautiful thing, then you carry that on to use of it his Salam, where use of it his Salam at the time of his death is saying

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telephony was SNI MT what el hecho Nabeel Salani hain. Let me die a Muslim, and follow the righteous, that's for generations. And the thing that they brand themselves within the Quran in their eyes, in their actions is we want to live and die as Muslims, we want to be believers, that that was the priority that was set for us, by our parents and our grandparents and our great grandparents. And we have seen the beauty and the impact of it in their lives

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is hack and this man Eve sought and their father Ibrahim Yaqoob saw it in his hand and his Marine, the children of Yaqoob saw the sincerity of their father. They saw the demands of their father, they witnessed his worship. And so it wasn't just some sort of earnest supplication. It was a lifetime that match that do and that was self evident to every one of those kids wanted to carry the exact same identity in the exact same mission.

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Here's the thing. Someone might say, Well, I tried. I'm trying, it is very hard, you have to deal with competing environments, you have to deal with the culture wars, you have to deal with political pressure, you have to deal with social pressure. You've got to deal with

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all sorts of things that are trying to undermine that very identity of Islam. And that's what makes it so much more important to make that the number one priority in your house and to make sure that in word and deed, the idea that Islam will survive in our loins and amongst our descendants is the greatest priority, that you put that before everything else and that they can't see any hypocrisy in your way of living Islam.

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Now, there is a very painful conversation, that Allah subhanaw taala gives us that inserted off, because some of you will correctly say, we tried and

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our children are not holding on to it the way we want them to hold on to it. We're struggling.

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And we know the story of know how to hit Saddam and his son.

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When no hurry Saddam calls out to his son in a very painful way

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to ride with him to come along. And his son stays back on something that he feels is more tangible, is more anchoring. He thinks the mountain is safer and more comfortable and that it will save him from the flood and he's wrong.

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And we find this through the legacy of some of the greatest scholars of Islam that they taught Islam to the masses. And Allah subhanaw taala tested them in their own children. A very painful conversation that Allah subhanaw taala gives to us and so with that off

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when you have a son or a child that says to their parents, Finn likoma Leave us alone. That Terry done any an orange? Are you really telling me that there's life after death? Are you really telling me that there is anything beyond this life? Are you still talking about this? Are you still talking about? Don't do this and don't do that and hold on to this and hold on to that? What God holodeck Corona and cobbly

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and generations have come before us. While home is dead yesterday etha Nila Hawaii, la Amin and the parents cry out and they say believe when he looked at him see bye

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Nature in this verse by the way, these are righteous parents. We can tell we can infer from this verse these are righteous parents. These are not bad parents. These are righteous parents that are speaking to their children and pleading with their children. We look at them and in our the law he has

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believed believe Whoa, do you believe the Promise of Allah is true?

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Now the way that the child then dismisses the parents

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lends itself to a mindset.

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They are all Omaha.

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Safley welling, says, these are all just old stories stop telling us about these old backwards stories stop telling us about these fables stop telling us about the stuff in the sky and the stuff. It's not real mom, it's not real dad, I've got to focus on this and focus on that. And this is more compelling to me and my friends and my environment and my priorities and my career.

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And Allah subhanaw taala says, hola in Kerala, Dena Hamza Ali, he will call unfortunately, when they follow that path, then the statement that Allah subhanaw taala has pronounced upon them, follows them. And it's so powerful because ALLAH SubhanA wa says, Fi OMA Amin, Khaled Khaled Min cobbly him in Elgin Newell ins in the home Kandahar City, and they follow you know, what were they denying? They were saying to their parents that are you telling us to believe and people have died before us and nothing happened to them. And Allah subhanaw taala is saying now you're being joined in punishment with those that came before you from the jinn and the INS from human beings and jinn that

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deny just like you

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and what a party of losers they become.

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This conversation lends itself to something very powerful. And first and foremost, I want to acknowledge here, that this is not an easy struggle, and some of you that are sitting here as parents, this is the struggle of your life. I ask Allah subhana wa Tada to answer your drought in regards to your children. I ask Allah Subhana Allah to guide your children back. I ask Allah subhanaw taala to keep all of our children firm upon Allah, Allah Muhammad Rasul Allah, I know that this is a struggle in our community. And this is a struggle that many of us face, and it's the worst fear even for those that aren't facing it presently, what if my kids don't follow? What if my kids

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don't, you know, attain the exact same thing that I've set for them. And I want to unpack and chocolates on a bit of this mindset in a few minutes. Number one, make sure that your children see that your care and concern is for them. And not for the shame that comes in this life. Should they disbelieve? It's actually a very powerful commentary on this verse that some of the scholars make, that this conversation

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where the parents are speaking to the children, we look at them and in our and Allah He, Huck Walter you believe the Promise of Allah is true is for them. Don't put yourself in a compromising situation with your Lord, don't do something that's going to cause you to suffer the consequences in the hereafter. I'm not just worried about what people are going to say, or my dunya we consequences because we're thinking in ways that are beyond this material world, I'm not thinking about reputation, I'm thinking about your resurrection. When you look at him, and in the way the lie hack, the Promise of Allah is true.

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So the concern for your children should be evident and you're pleased towards them. The second thing, make sure that you are distinguishing between athletes and adults, Creed and culture. Because if you're trying to pass down all of that in one singular package of creed, and culture, and they're able to find something that is flawed in the culture, they may attribute that flaw and culture to the flaw of creed and reject the whole thing.

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Make sure that you're not trying to pass it all down to them as one package. There is a primary thing that you are trying to pass down to them. And by the way, there is nothing wrong with trying to pass down good culture. The only thing that's wrong is to try to pass down something negative about culture. There is nothing wrong about wanting your children to speak the language that you spoke to uphold some of the culture that you upheld. There's nothing wrong with any of that unless it contradicts Islam, but what's the primary thing you're handing down to them make sure that it's evident that you're separating? When Ibrahim Iranian Saddam was speaking to his kids and Jaco was

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speaking to his kids is how to speaking to his kids use of it Sam to his kids. They're making it very clear that look, there is a snap and there's everything else. And sometimes when you bundle that all together, then you end up diluting the toe hate part of it. So you separate that and say listen, this is the main thing. This is the most important thing to me. And even in the world, the expectations that you placed upon them.

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In terms of the the natural expectations a parent should have of their

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Your child, parents want their children to succeed in a worldly sense and in the sense of the hereafter. But don't dilute that primary call that I want you to be Muslim. I want you to be a believer, I want you to discover the beauty of this faith, and I'm going to invest in you. And I'm going to show you through my concern and through my practice what Islam looks like and how important it is to me in my life.

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But don't let them find a flaw. Don't let them point out a discrepancy. Don't let them identify the dilution. Why, because if you are telling them, I want you to be Muslim, and I want you to succeed in the Hereafter, but they see from you character deficiency and failure, and harshness, and things that contradict the very things you are warning them about that actually, that actually show them.

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Islam in light of the worldly consequences that are negative that you know, Islam is actually leading me to act in a negative way, if that's what they're seeing, then they're going to be able to hop on that. And it's going to dilute the message for them. So the concern the character of Islam in your life, the way that you live, and not diluting that Call of Tawheed with the worldly concern with the cultural concerns that you have, as you're passing down to them that the main thing is I want you to be righteous, and I want to invest in that. And I want that for you because I want you to succeed. I want you to succeed, because I love for you that which is good.

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And subhanAllah you'll find here and this is now to the other side of that.

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Children who have been blessed to have parents that raised them upon Allah, Allah, Allah, Muhammad Rasul Allah, but find this urge within them to reject because I want you know, I want to figure it out on my own. I'm, you know, I'm trying to discover the world on my own. I'm trying to figure out life myself, I'm trying to, you know, live outside of my parents shadow.

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Realize that if you had parents that raised you upon that Allah Allah Muhammad Rasul Allah and brought you to the masjid, you had a head start, because that wasn't a given for everyone in this life.

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And don't do something that will harm yourself.

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So that you can craft your own identity in this life.

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Take the time to actually ponder upon the blessing that Allah subhanaw taala gave to you and you got to Headstart. If you had that blessing of parents that taught you that Allah Allah Muhammad Rasul Allah.

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And if there was a discrepancy on their part, you don't have to inherit the discrepancy. If there was a cultural dilution on their part, you don't have to inherit the cultural dilution because some people had to find the creed.

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Through every single obstacle that exists in this world, and they still found it and committed themselves to it. You don't have to inherit those parts. But to put at the forefront of your mind that you know what, at some point, it's not my parents that are going to wake me up for a salon anymore. It's not my parents that are going to tell me you need to go to the masjid anymore. It's not my parents that are going to tell me haram and halal anymore. At some point, you're going to have to do that from your own motivation. At some point, you're going to have to take that on as a personal call for yourself. And at some point, you have to be driven by your success in this life

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and the hereafter, by wanting the best possible outcome for you.

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And if you reduce this all to us athletes are willing, but this is all just the fables of the past. That this is all just nonsense, that these are all just, you know, things that people pass down from generation to generation,

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then clearly you have not studied that text. If you only receive that as stories, then you might just reduce it to stories. Some point you have to approach the Quran for yourself. At some point you have to approach the CLI yourself. At some point you have to approach the Sunni yourself. And if you had parents that taught you like Allah, Allah Muhammad Rasul Allah say Alhamdulillah for that because that is a great blessing and a great favor that Allah Subhana Allah has bestowed upon you. And for those of you that found that Allah Allah Muhammad Rasul Allah, despite having parents that taught you otherwise may Allah subhanaw taala bless you, because you are the demonstration of a

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great blessing in this life. And Allah subhanaw taala rewards you for that struggle. You see, this bounty comes with a consequence.

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And you have to be answerable to it on your own.

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And I want you to think in sha Allah to Allah as you read these verses of the parent and the child, that very quickly, this equation shifts at some point in your life. And that's why Allah Subhana Allah says just a few verses before that the beautiful story the story of Ibrahim is hot and cold. Allah Subhana Allah says was seen in Santa bydd Santa hemella to Omaha Kureha over the Autocode huamu office Allah Huhtala throat chakra Hatter either bellava

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Should the hula Bella Marina Santa Paula Robbie Ozeri and Escoda near Mata calla T and AMTA Allah Yahweh Allah wa t de or an atom Allah Saudi huntable la well Austin LiFi Realty in need to go to the lake, we're in the middle Muslimeen this verse that comes before and because of time, a sunrise it very quickly. If you can't believe in the stories of the past, know that your past is a past that's also unseen to your mother when she had you in her womb, and then gave birth to you, and then nursed you. And then you grew up. And Allah subhana wa Tada saying, honor that womb honor your parents. And Allah says many people don't do that until they reach the age of 33. Or they reach the age of 40.

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And then they're looking back at life and they see so much of what their parents told them to come has come so much of what they were taught. So much of the I told you so is now I'm living so and you're now repeating the same things two generations after you watch out Be careful. Trust me, I know what I'm talking about. You're now living on the opposite side of that. hetta either Bella should the whole Bella Barbarina Sana

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voz Ernie and ash Quran aromatic allottee and I'm telling you why nobody says Oh my Lord, grant me the ability to properly thank you for the blessing you bestowed upon me and my parents What blessing is he talking about here the blessing of the house, the blessing of the family business, the blessing know the blessing of Islam, the blessing of faith? What an Atmel asylee hand titled law and let me do deeds. Let me do deeds now that are pleasing to you. Because when you were growing up your parents were the ones that were telling you to do deeds that are pleasing to Allah subhanaw taala let me now do the things that are pleasing to You will aesthetically fever reality and rectify my

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offspring in need to be equal and Nieminen? Muslimeen and now I've repented to you, I am from the Muslims, there is that affirmation at that point, I am from the Muslims.

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But to the young people in here and that are listening, you might not live to see 33 and 40

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You might not live to see that, ah, recognize that blessing earlier. Therefore you can properly thank Allah subhanaw taala for it at whatever stage you are in life and get a head start the way that your parents gave you a head start May Allah subhanaw taala allow us all to be grateful for the blessing of Islam that he has bestowed upon us. May Allah subhanaw taala allow us to live it in such a way that the people around us the people amongst us the people that come after us would want to commit themselves to it as sincerely if not more than we are to it. May Allah subhanaw taala allow us to live and die as Muslims as believers Allah him I mean a hula cola was definitely welcome

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