Nadim Bashir – What Destroys a Community
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The speakers discuss the struggles of Muslim society, including domestic abuse, physical and psychological abuse, and issues in their own values. They emphasize the importance of community members and their ability to support each other, and provide advice on learning to cut news and avoid mistakes. The speakers also emphasize the importance of avoiding conflict between Muslims and Muslims, finding a way to act in a civilized way, and not making derogatory comments. They also touch on the negative impact of negative language and the use of nickDRencies in the title of the Prophet Muhammad. The segment ends with a recap of the message of brother and sisters to not say derogatory things and a discussion of the use of dERER MAC and the importance of straight lines in building houses.
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for in as doccle Hadith Nikita Bula behind Hadith How do you Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was shot a little more to her work with that they made the work will be the art in Bala we're collaborating Finn now I'm about I ask Allah subhanho wa Taala just as he has gathered has gathered us here today on this day of Juma May Allah subhanho wa Taala gather us with our families in general for those who are Allah in the companionship of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. Amenia Robert Alameen brothers and sisters, Allah subhanho wa Taala creed each and each one of us and when He created us, he surrounded us with things that will help us move along in life that is key and
essential for our function of life. Allah subhanho wa Taala he put us in families. And not only did he put us in families, but he put us within communities and Allah subhanho wa Taala he tells us very clearly in the Quran, that the reason why he did all this is because this is important for our functioning. We cannot function as a human being. I cannot function all by myself in life. I cannot be only about myself and I cannot only can not only be the situation where I've not I've cut off all kinds of contact with everyone else. In fact, we live in a world today that when people want to inflict pain
enrichment upon others, why do we put kids in timeout? Because it's a source of punishment. We're cutting them off from everyone else, all the children, when you talk about solitary confinement, why is that a punishment, you're only taking one person and putting them in a small room, because that is how they lose your sanity. Because when you separate people and a human being from another human being, it is not conducive for their health. It's not conducive for their well being. So Allah subhanho wa taala, in order for us to function in order for us for our well being, Allah subhanho wa taala. He put us in families, and then he put us in communities. But today, brothers and sisters, it
is sad that those things that are very important for us to function, those are the things are at the highest level of crises in our Muslim community. When you talk about families, there are so many crises within our families. Families aren't getting along with each other domestic violence, physical abuse, emotional abuse, psychological abuse, I get calls every single week, literally I kid you not when I say I get calls every single week about abuse that is taking place in families. And then not only that, but then we have issues in our own communities. Think about our brothers and sisters. How long can we go on? How can we thrive in life? If I don't have people around me who can
support me how can I survive around other people when we don't care for each other? When the Prophet sal Allahu Allah He was salam tells us in a hadith Coonoor a bad Allah He one and be brothers to one another. When Allah subhana wa Tada says in me know now that you all are brothers, you're not just a fraternity, he's not to say you're in one. He says inqua that the way you look after our families, that we look after each other in a in a similar fashion. Allah says in me noona everyone who says La Ilaha illa Allah, we have to care for one another, and we look after one another. And that is why today in this brief goodbye today, Inshallah, I want to go through some important things that what
destroys our community. There are so many people who moved here. We there are so many people who moved here recently in the last three to four years. Why do people move around because of the community? They peed. There are people who are coming over here over here and saying, We love what the community is. We see people coming to the masjid brothers and sisters, what drives people to move from place to place? The community is that strong that it will cause people to move? Why did why did people move from different places they want to come in live in Medina, the medina of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is because of the community. Why do you have people like
tribal leaders have been no Hanifa when they were they were such that they were saying negative things about us LaSalle Salem, they have even made threats against the province of Salem. But when they were around Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam, when they were around the Sahaba of the Allahu Anhu. And they saw the beautiful community of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam. They said that this is this, this is no joke. This is the real deal. And I need to become a Muslim people who never believe in Islam. They came into Islam, because of the community of Rasulullah sallallahu. It was sent to brothers and sisters, in order for us to thrive. We need to be surrounded by other
people. We need to have communities that are meaningful communities, communities where we care for each other communities where we look after each other Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, when Salman al Farsi interview Allah on was coming into the fold of Islam, he did not just make it a personal matter. But when he was coming to the first of all, he was already a Muslim, but now he's trying to purchase his freedom. He's trying to purchase his freedom and make him part of his community. Roswaal some didn't just do it by himself. He got the entire community engaged, that this brother is part of us. He belongs within us. So all of us will get together and we will support this
person. Brothers and sisters, this is today what we're lacking in our communities. Yes, we're coming to the masjid. Yes, we have four or 500 people every day for Central Asia, but it's not about how many people are coming. It's about how we care for one another how we respect one another and this is why today inshallah I want to go through some important points. The very first thing is Allah Subhana Allah Allah in the Quran, he says, Yeah, you have to learn to cut the movie in the law. He was truly he what type Allah, Allah subhanho wa Taala lays down the foundation for all relationships for all matters of life, whether you're dealing with community members, whether you're dealing with
your own family, or you're dealing with anyone else.
The point is the key thing is you can never advance ahead of Allah and His Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. What that basically means is when we hear that Allah says something in the Quran, that is where the buck stops when we hear that this is what Rasul allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam has said, that is where the matter stops, we cannot move ahead. Today. Unfortunately, it's not about what Allah and His Prophet SAW Selim think, and what they say, it's about what I want to do. It's what my culture tells me to do. It's about what my parents told me to do. It's about what my siblings told me to do. Brothers and sisters, if I am going and moving ahead of Allah and His
Prophet SAW Salem, and I'm giving other people preference to make decisions for me, as to how I will take care of my affairs in my life, then we have to be responsible, and we will be responsible for this on the day of judgment and Allah subhanho wa Taala will most certainly ask us and that is why ALLAH SubhanA wa Tada at the end of this ayah he says, What up Allah be conscious of Allah subhanho wa Taala you can probably fool everyone in the community, you cannot fool Allah subhanho wa Taala then another important advice or instruction that has been given to us in the Quran is yet a Johann levena Manu injure a confessor in Fatima Janome. Often, when you live in a community, news will
spread, news will spread, something happens, it gets passed on to the next one. Look, I'm telling you something, do not tell anyone else and you tell them something, then the second person will go to the third person. Look, I'm telling you something very privately I've been told not to tell you. But I'm telling you because you're my best friend. I love you so much. And you were so close. I'm going to tell you I'm going to divulge someone else's secrets. And I'm going to tell you something about someone else. And what happens is that news spreads in the community. What is started off as is totally different and 50 people later it is entirely different. Allah tells us in the Quran, when
you hear something about anything that happens in the community, someone comes to tell you Oh, did you hear about someone said this about you? Or someone did this or someone did that? You first go and inquire you first go and you investigate? you inquire about the matter. you research the matter. If you hear someone saying something about you, you don't listen to that right away. But you go and you inquire someone comes to you and says someone did this to me, you don't listen to me right away, you first have to take it with a grain of salt. You first go and you research your matter. I've had so many times people come my husband is such and such. Okay, sister, I will have her first first
talk to him. My husband says such and such I will first have to go and talk to him and find out the true story and the old story. Oh, my wife did this. Well, I need to first go and find out from her. We today we listen half of the story, a quarter of the story. And we've made our own assumption. It is a reality that ALLAH SubhanA wa Tada has given you an eye, the ability to think differently for one another, we process information differently for one another, we release information differently from one another. And yet today, instead of looking at the entire story. We make a judgments regarding each other, someone gets arrested in the community. This has happened in the Dallas
community, someone gets arrested and the word spreads right away. He's guilty. He's guilty, she's guilty. This is not allowed in our dean. If I don't know the entire story that I stayed quiet. And that's why our Dean has said that if someone comes with a claim, you provide evidence, I'll pay you to do it while you're me. No. This is a very well known flippy Maxim and a 50 rule that when somebody comes they have to provide evidence, but that is not what today we're doing our Muslim community. We hear someone saying something, and if they are close friends to us, that's it. Hello, as we've already made our judgment, we will bless that person on social media. We will attack and
launch attacks against certain people in certain groups on social media and so forth. Brothers Sisters, let's take a step back. If I don't know someone comes to you and they bring to you a story, they tell you something about someone it is not allowed to make your judgment till we don't know all the evidence. I shall have the hola Juana. There is a rumor that has spread in Medina about our mother Aisha Radi Allahu Ana, the munafo are spreading this rumor about our mother I said of the Allahu anha What did Ross Watson do? Did he jumped to conclusions? No, he did not. In fact, those who did jump to conclusions and those who were involved with the accusation of our mother, Aisha
Radi Allahu anha. Amongst the believers, they were they were lashed after that the height of Islam was applied upon them. But what did the Prophet saw him do? He taught us that you cannot jump to conclusions and eventually Allah subhanho wa Taala he said
down our yard, exonerating our mother Aisha Radi Allahu anha brothers sisters. The point is why did these kinds of incidents happen to teach us a lesson? This is how a community breaks. This is how a community is destroyed. When you hear a story, it is not allowed for you to make judgments till you have not heard the entire story. So the very first thing is ALLAH SubhanA wa Tada tells us Fatima yen and to Cebu Oh mommy Johanna, for two to behold IMF Altoona demean the next thing that Allah subhanho wa Taala tells us in the Quran is we're in PA if autonomy and meaning Nakata do falsely obey the Houma for him but
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for In fact, for us the whole beta format Bill ideally what accuracy to for in fact for us, the Homer, Urbina, Homer, Bill, Adam, what accuracy to Allah Subhan Allah tells us, it is common it will happen. Allah says when two people are engaged in a conflict, people are bound to engage in conflict time to time, they will be it happens. But Allah subhanaw tells us the conflict part is not the wrong part. The part is, which is more important is how you deal with that conflict. Allah subhana tells us that first of all is amongst the believers. If when we see two people fighting, often, I'm telling you honestly, often people take a step back, oh, it's their problem. When we see volume
taking place, and yet we stay back. Why? Because it's our own personal matter. When we sit back and we want someone committing violence against someone else, even in this day and age, if you see someone shooting someone else, and you don't report it, you are a criminal to they call you accessory to murder. This is what happens when you support it and you stay quiet, you are guilty also, when you see something that is wrong. And you take a step back and say you know what, it's not my matter. No, you need to get involved. And the way to get involved, there's appropriate measures to take in order to get involved. You don't blast them on social media, you don't bring their
affairs on social media, you go privately behind closed doors. This is where Allah Subhan Allah is telling us for In fact, for us to obey the Houma Bilad and he will opposite to the word Aladdin and Accorsi to I'll list other than this, these are common words are used in the Quran for justice, what's the difference between the two and the other implies that you are making something public publicly you're trying to bring people together publicly you're trying to resolve conflicts, when you see a conflict is part of the nature of a munaf it that he sees Muslims together Muslims in a conflict and Muslims fighting and he enjoys it. This is exactly what Abdullah bin obey bin Salman
will always do in Medina. He was always trying to cause a rift between the Mahajan and the unsought. And when there was a rift between the Mahabharata and the unsought, he will not step in and try to resolve it. He will marvel at it. He was happy at it. Brothers and sisters when we see people fighting, yes, let's just say if they are in a fight, let's just say they're in a conflict, but they know how to act civilly around each other. That is important. Yes, we may not always get along with each other, our nature, our massage, our temperament may not get along with someone else, the way we see things and the other person the way they see things are entirely different. That's fine, but at
least we treat each other with some civility when we are around each other. Even if we don't like him or her. We act in a civil manner. That means that if they say a Salam aleykum I say why they come to salaam, not because I don't like them. I don't respond to their Salam. If they sneeze and they say the Hamdulillah that I have to say your hammock Allah, these are things are these are basic adab of life that we are taught by the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. So when we see these kinds of things, instead of taking a step back, we take a step forward, and we try to resolve issues between the other Muslims. So Allah subhanho wa Taala says Aladdin for us, Rubina, Houma. Billa on
the first of all, is the person who is doing the judgment, the person who is the mediator, they have to have, they should have a clean intention, not that I'm going to try to bring these people together, because there's a vested interest of four in me, there's a vested interest in it for me that there's something I can gain. If these two people are talking together. No, they should have a clear intention. First, the mediator the arbitrator has to have a clear understanding that why are they doing this? They're doing this because the oldest one was behind with Allah, because Allah tells us in the Quran to do this. And then not only that, but they tried to first of all is they try
to take them behind closed doors, and behind closed doors, they try to mediate the matter. They try to bring some reconciliation, and there could be some cases where of after even private reconciliation, they come out in the public and then they spread
Everything that was mentioned in that meeting are in the arbitration or in that mediation, and that case, then you can make a public you can try to publicly bring them together and so forth. This is what other means. And this means in your own private matters of life, you try to make sure that you are just in all your affairs, the way you pay your employees, the way you take care of your time at work and so forth. You cannot be unjust in those private matters of life. Then Allah subhanho wa Taala he says,
la Yes, her Coleman, Coleman Eisah and Yaku Hiram men home, while an ESA minister in Eisah, and you couldn't hide on Manhattan, do not make a mockery of each other. Do not talk about how you know did you look at this person? You see how they walk, you see how the talk is so funny when they talk, they talk like this person and that person. Today our entire if you look at the actual comedy industry, what is it built on is built on making a mockery of each other is one person who belongs to one race making somewhat making fun of someone of another race. When you make the screen you are looking down on someone. When you make fun of someone the way they walked away. They look the way
they talk the way they do things in life. This is not allowed in our deen Allah Subhan. Allah is telling us that this often happens when people get together. That's why Allah says law. Yes, her como min Coleman. Allah use the word calm. Why did Allah use the word calm is because this often happens when people get together. When people get together, and there's laughing and giggling and so forth. And it goes and across limits, and we begin to talk about other people, we begin to make a mockery of other people's families and so forth. Oh, do you see this child and that child and his child looks like this and his child is so inferior to my child and he's this and he's that there are
other words that are you know, subhanAllah that are said in these kind of gathering which is even appropriate for me to say on the member. But the point is that we say such derogatory terms about other people, Allah subhanho wa Taala says, lie yes horrible moment omen. That why do you make a mockery of others do you not factor in the fact that they can be better than you, each one of us we have our own relationship with Allah subhanho wa taala. I cannot see here in judge someone just because whether they have a long beard or a short beard, the way they look, the way they dress, the way they if they come to the masjid or not, that's not our place to judge any person. It's not
written on our foreheads, the who's the worry of Allah who's not the worry of Allah subhanho wa Taala every single person, imagine if you are married, making a mockery of someone and they are close to Allah subhanho wa Taala imagine that for a moment, you're making a mockery of someone who is close to Allah subhanho wa taala. Just like friends, we say we have each other's back, Allah subhanho wa Taala has his back also think about what's going to happen to you. When Allah subhanho wa Taala he knows that you're making a mockery of someone who is very beloved to him. That's why we always are very considerate about these kinds of things. And not only that part of this also is when
we say the screen, and you're looking down on someone, part of that also is racism. We talk about we see the racism in our society, but brothers and sisters, it's a reality that there is a lot of racism within our Muslim communities. Also, there's a lot of racism within our in our Muslim communities, the way we look at each other, the way we we talk about each other, the way we look down upon each other and so forth. This is why Allah subhanho wa Taala he says, in a chroma coma and Allah He has come. It's not about the race. It's not about where we come from. It's not about the language that we speak. It does not matter about anything. The only thing that matters is our Taqwa
to Allah subhanho wa taala. So Allah subhanho wa Taala Says law yes herder como Mina Coleman, I say Hakuna Hallo min home, while Ernie salmonicida Rahman Han, and then Allah subhanaw taala says while telling me zoo and for a second, do not insult each other, do not say derogatory things and insult each other on their face. One is behind her back. One is behind her back, you're saying something about the way they do things the way they talk the way they look, the way they talk and so forth. Or Imam Muhammad, Allah Allah He also says, even if you mimic something by your own actions, you're walking in a way, the way someone else's while someone else is walking. Why? Because you're trying
to make other people laugh. You're making a mockery of them. You're not saying something, but you're doing something the way someone else is doing that also in itself. emammal cotp says this is also part of the idea, but what about when you say something derogatory on their face, Allah says the law tells me to and do not say something that is insulting on to anyone else. And this is something that what happens is, you know, subhanAllah what a what a corrupt time we live in. People are making a mockery of each other in front of each other. Okay? And what happens is because the other person is getting offended, which is the natural behavior, what did he tell them? Oh, don't be a baby. Come
on, grow up, learn how to take a joke and so forth. So the other person says, You know what? Yeah, you know what make a mockery of me
As much as you want, say whatever you want about me as much as you want, and they're sitting there, and they're taking it over and over again, let me tell you one thing, brothers, sisters, if you don't have respect for yourself, no one's gonna have respect for you. If you don't put your foot down for your own self respect, no one's gonna respect you. So that's why if you feel like this is offensive, that you say something, and you tell them that look, I'm not okay with this. And this is derogatory. For me. This is crossing the line with me, you got to put your foot down if you feel like that. This is something that's not okay. Allah subhanho wa Taala also then says, well,
turnovers will build up, do not use terminologies do not use nicknames against each other and so forth. Nicknames that are insulting and disrespectful and so forth. This is something that Allah subhanaw taala he says that these are things that we need to stay away from, why does Allah mentioned all these in the Quran is because this is what destroys a community. Allah is telling us this is what's going to destroy you. Be careful about it. Of course, there is much that can be mentioned after this but because of the time inshallah we will wrap up, the point is brother and sisters, all these things, we have been hearing them all of our life, and yet we don't apply them
whose fault is that? We can all look at Allah subhanaw taala and say, Yeah, Allah, what kind of a community we live in. Yola, what kind of a Muslim world we live in. It's our own fault. If we were to apply these teachings of the Quran, we will not be here in this state, but it's our fault that we're not applying the teacher in the Quran and Sunnah of the Prophet it is so this is why we are in this position. So I ask Allah subhana wa Tala to bring first of all peace and happiness in our communities, in our families. May Allah subhanaw taala bring our hearts together. May Allah subhanho wa Taala unify us not externally but even internally also and ask Allah subhanho wa Taala to remove
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