Dealing With Apostasy

Muhammad ibn Adam al-Kawthari


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So that's

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privileged to be

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here today.

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He said,

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getting mixed up between older Russia, Russia

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gave an example.

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thankful and grateful to the organizers, the rush to the masjid here, Islamic Center for inviting me and he arranging this central Mosque of Rochdale for arranging this program.

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And really a very important topic, a very important subject that really needs to be discussed. I remember when this program was advertised, many people will say, will this be recorded people from different parts of the world, different countries, people will say it's such an important topic such an important subject affects a lot of people.

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A lot of people in the family can very easily be recording questions,

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demonstrate the organizers that

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are going on here and for the speakers and for everybody. Many systems must be of course involved in arranging this program and contributing.

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I have a few points, maybe some disjointed points.

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The versions of parenting.

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This is a vast topic and time is short, I just have some very random type of disjointed

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points, if I can connect them to try to connect them. These are just some random points related to this topic, a very, very important subject.

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First of all, I saw the poster and this

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poster, but you hear this a lot. I think we have a poster epidemic of Apostasy, epidemic of Apostasy. This is a big issue. It's a huge issue. But I would beg to differ.

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That isn't legal. I don't know if you can use it as an epidemic of people. But it seems that there are a lot of people in relation to how many people are not leaving Islam. If you look at a comparison of those who are leaving Islam, and those who are not leaving small percentage, maybe less than 1% of people who are leaving Islam from being Muslims born Muslims or who have embraced Islam. So it's not a it's an important issue. It's a very sensitive issue. It is definitely something worth talking about discussing and looking at the solutions or the problems and the solutions.

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But it's not something that

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Muslims in every household, in every community in every city, every town, in different parts of the world, Muslims are leaving Islam and it's becoming a big issue. It's not as big. Rather, if you look, on the contrary, there are more people embracing Islam. There are more people embracing Islam just recently, I actually read the recent report, which was from the government actually tweeted this morning, just find this.

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You know, the government when they when they did some research on different aspects of the communities living living in the

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living in England.

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They actually said that, let me let me just see.

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Yeah, this this was from

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government review into opportunity and integrate integration, which is published just like last month. And from that, among faith groups, the number of people identifying themselves as Muslims grew most significantly by 1.2 million people this last year.

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This 72% increase is higher than for any other religious group and Muslims make up the largest non Christian, non Christian, many of them are non Christians anyway, they just identify themselves so reading Muslims could be the largest

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played community in England, make some Muslims make up the largest non Christian religious population in the UK at 2.8 million in total, compared with 0.8 million Hindus 0.4 million Sikhs, 0.3 million Jews, and 0.3 billion Buddhists. This is last year 72% increase, Muslims are increasing.

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Who knows? The Quran says the world of Islam the COVID-19 of

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this great we think, this report, and then we're looking at apostasy made me think that Quran says that if you turn away from a lot if you don't practice in religion, bring other people into religion and take your place.

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That they will not like you. So this is something we need to ponder over, are we leaving Islam or people amongst us are leaving Islam, and as others are embracing Islam and the Muslims are taking our place. This is just one of many verses on talking about this is quite a few verses that a lot will change a lot and bring others into your place into song. So it is an important issue and definitely worth talking about. But I would say it's not like an epidemic. And it's really when people are two inches long. And this is just last year in the United Kingdom in other parts of the world. In America, you go many people, it's an increase on the increase. If you go to New York, New

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York, those days, literally tons of people on a daily basis, embracing slops so many people are embracing this not just in New York, North America, Canada, different parts of the world. So more and more people are coming into Islam, and very few people are leaving, but we need to show them without let those viewers well leaves. It's our responsibility. It's a joint responsibility. This is not just the responsibility of the masjid or the mosques or the arms or the shoe or the teachers for you know, scholars or you know, people who are in positions of authority, the committee, this is a joint responsibility of every Muslim. This is everyone's responsibility. We parent specially parity,

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parenting, but it's there's possibility of embryos that we ensure that people don't leave Islam. Now, when we show how do we show people in Islam, that's why solutions and the reasons and solutions. Sometimes we become the cause of people leaving Islam. Parents become the cause of some

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teachers. There's many, many reasons. So that was just my first point. The second point was just just the icebreaker. You know, it's not like an all gloomy until, like everyone's leaving Islam.

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your old people useless? And lots of people, because they see, they see the wisdom, the

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beauty of this religion, one brother I met in America a few years ago, I he became Muslim, I asked him what he becomes.

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He said, Well,

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actually, no, not

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most of

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it afterwards. But I was picked up picked up a book, on the seal of the biography, the characteristics of

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just three, four pages. And it was so beautiful things written about him. I'm intrigued and interested in

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the detailed biography of this messenger of Muslims, Muhammad, I will read about you more, I read more and more about him. And eventually, I fell in love with this person. And then I said to myself, this person with these characteristics, these traits, these qualities, these are the characteristics and also the messages and

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it is impossible. It is impossible not to believe in what he says. Because these are such characteristics that the normal human being cannot have. And it's true. Even another person was told me that it's just impossible. If you read the seal of the legend of silver.

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It's just impossible for someone not to believe in it. But the problem is, we don't need it.

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Don't let the scioto be the priority of the messages of some of these qualities and attributes and traits are basically beyond being a human Mr. believes a human touch. It's a he's a chosen human being a different human being. However, the question is not whether he believes he is, you know, the chairman, the rest of the milestones. If we just read his characteristics the way Mike's

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just like, you know, one of the things that he mentioned, that is it for the rest

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of our lives are passions, silly. From afar anymore.

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I served messenger.

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for 10 years, when you serve someone, you don't just meet him in the masjid. I stayed with him day, night, morning, afternoon, evening, giving him food helping you assisting him imagine 10 years from now economy

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in 10 years, he never even said the word. One word of contemporary

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in our language would be something like,

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likes sigh.

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Would you do that? In 10 years imagine can any human being today 10 years, you've got somebody who's your employee, your possible visitors? He's bringing you food in

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10 years, not once.

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One, and neither is ever upon me shaking to give up?

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Something I was supposed to do? He never said Why didn't you do it? And something I wasn't supposed to do in episode Why did you do it in 10 years.

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So these characteristics have

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become Muslims they get they feel that they fall in love, it's impossible not to fall in love with this message of

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And we have

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you know, just before

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talking about tariffs,

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and I had half his talk. And I cannot relate.

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So I want to talk about just briefly and like I said disjointed

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these demos, these doubts that come to the mind, I think what he was mainly focusing on some of the objections and 1000s of the teachings of Islam. And those are, of course, very important people need to tackle, eliminate and dismantle them with open mind like you will see, with a clear mind with an open heart and mind not being pessimistic not being skeptical, not like really going to, you know, with a winner mind already laid out.

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However, there are certain other doubts that come into the hearts and minds of believing men and women.

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And this has always happened, just doubts, should cook doubts,

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doubts about everything, you know, people sometimes it

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sounds about religion, different apps come into the hearts and minds of human beings. Sometimes the

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misgiving was was

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some of them are to do with

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sinful activities.

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This, but the very, you know, the strong ones, and the dangerous ones are the ones that come from faith and religion.

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And these come into the hearts and minds of believing men and women, even good believing men and women, even some of the companions have this. Like, for example, will you be believing Muslim, Muslim man? Or will you believe

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that, you know, isn't a real con? Oh, you know, isn't really hereafter? Is there really a life of the tenants

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of paradise? towels, you know, like, I'm angry like, what am I doing? Well, this whole isn't is it?

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These dogs, these dogs affect people.

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We need to understand that these doubts, do nothing in terms of your Avon and your faith and rather, in light of mentioned is really like the messengers and

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this is a sign of Eva, those companion it will give you the messages a little longer you said and he said

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sometimes we have doubts I have doubts in my mind that to bring them on my tongue I'd rather burn in fire because

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that's how dangerous they are. I can't even imagine to bring them on my tongue

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is actually one that's clear your mind that shows your remark because he was so worried about them and you don't want to bring them on your tongue in another generation. Is he Muslim men are

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You said,

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believer that is pure faith. That is pure faith. So these doubts, like some of the shields, they explained this, isn't it. This is similar to, you know, a thief or a robot will never come to the heart will never come to the house of somebody whose house empty. If you've got an empty house, nothing in there no work with a rowboat comm SharePoint only comes to the heart of that person when there is an inflow of FEMA. He knows that this person is Mr. Jenkins job is to put what was and this is why a very strong remedy for these type of doubts is along with many other things make you pick up a lot of

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talk about one or two other things. But a very important remedy is the recitation everyday as much as possible after all of prayers before going to sleep or out of the ugliness murkiness here he

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was was a nurse, and then he was

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the one that's very important, so I'm sure everybody knows,

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has memorized.

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In this we are asking a loss protection of us refuge from Lake Champlain was was

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you say for our fitness,

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you mentioned three attributes of a bar. And then we say we showed it was was a nursing Levy, you must

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always seek your protection, your refuge from the evil of who Allah was, it was it was from that

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creation that evil the evil of the one who places these doubts and was was an misgivings was was a lot of work was was a lot of misgivings in my heart and humbleness and the one who puts the puts the misgivings and then retreats. The word hundreds is with those little Arabic Movado a lot of said highness, this is hundreds excessively retreats. You know what the reason is couple of weeks on this one very important meaning of this is that this shape on the beach when he does

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place the muscles are in the heart. As soon as you seek protection or refuge, he will retreat.

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He will run away straightaway quickly but no one expects to hear the week. Similarly, Michelle was was a nurse and he runs away he retreats. And he receives a lot of the time so you don't have any

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go back cookie. This is this is what the shaman does.

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He will retreat, he will retreat. He won't just stay there.

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As long as we turn to a lovely Tico This is the meaning of Russia was was the kindness. And this is what the Quran says. Whenever these type of problems come.

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when shavon places this, this doubt in your heart then seek protection refuge.

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Turn for lots of panels. And Chevron is very big.

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And he's misgiving. And these tariffs do not have

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misgivings and doubts that whispers that shame on places in your heart naturally like whisper in your ear. In Arabic is a word when someone tells you something secret like you

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cannot use that for Chevron's misgiving when it comes to like whispers in your ear. And that puts into your mind this works of the law of reaching this will not harm you, as long as you don't let it carry on and then you act upon it to say something in accordance with it isn't.

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So, nothing to worry about, if someone has any kind of doubts, the companions on it, but as soon as these doubts come, you turn to a law you practice deep and and the more you practice, the less these kind of dealt

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with this point, that this is very important that these you know we have a life in which we are connected to

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connected yoga. You see, the mind the body is always in function. You know, the mind of the human body is always function. You know, this mind was giving us every single one of us here, we think about something 24 seven. Right now you guys are thinking about hopefully what I'm saying right now, I'm not thinking about something else. But as long as we are awake when we're sleeping, we're dreaming or when we are awake 24

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Seven we are thinking about something every human being mind is, you know, like in the jungle of false. We're driving a car, if you're driving by itself, if you're listening to something, maybe you're thinking about that. But if you're not

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thinking about different different things, as you're walking out as people think less because they're always on this, sadly, but we always take the mind is always thinking about something. What do we mean it think about music for about 495 97% of the time when we think about

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as soon as we wake up, we think about work, Joe Schmoe factory, taxi, car, money, Inland Revenue post office letter, he will email, a text message, what's happened this afternoon, that's how Facebook, Twitter, this person meeting me, Tony, that person, somebody

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said this, or that just everything. I'm not saying it's wrong, but it's

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24 hours of Antonia, the only time you think about it is when

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we start off with dnn with activity and then we come back to the

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how much percentage from 100% of our time is our mind focused on

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this is the greatest remedy that our flow of course we need to recommend to us or we need to think you know, sometimes

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the Quran is filled with verses telling us to contemplate

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or reflection to think about the law think about

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while we be lazy one day I'll be sitting in

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my shower, we go in there, how amazing would that be? And then showers come out in a mighty state. Okay, let's go and have some

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coffee. Right.

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Amazing, amazing coffee is still highly magic, imagine how we see a line

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and observe and see.

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So, we will see

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you will see in DC or load like you see this is full moon,

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full moon, which is

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you find no difficulty in seeing a

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reflection about

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Challenge Earth.

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Imagine, imagine this country sand, hills, that in the north where I live, there's only one hills, unless you have some nice clothes. But

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these things bring you to

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thing that is assigned

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to so many verses about the

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Arabic word, sometimes those

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Arabic sometimes the same word but in Arabic, meaning we fit that into the language. These words worry this worry here.

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contemplating reflecting deliberately sometimes?

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Just you

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people, astronomy astronomy has been the trauma doctors I've met him personally that medicine has taken them to

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your own body. He we have not even understood this, you know, five, six feet of the human body and intricacies of this human body let alone understand the universe and now with you know start questioning everything about the universe and the creation of the universe and evolution of creationism.

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Until now science has advanced so much.

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You I just want to get the whole body one aspect. You speak to Spanish I spoke them ice questions. So there's so much research probably we've understood 10% of the ice.

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This is a nice question. Just one I just imagine like just imagine what a great demo this is a lot of Givens. Just close your eyes. Sometimes you don't realize the great game of a lot. You know how to realize an animal

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Realize that once in a talk that one day spend one hour, I'm going to close my eyes and spend the life without

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you imagine if you were told growing up

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it's difficult.

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trying this these are things that take a stroll by saying, okay, 10 minutes, I'm just gonna close my eyes, I'm gonna try to do okay

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okay 10 minutes

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and then amazing. Now, this one now, can anyone make this nobody can make this. No science, no technology, no even cloning nobody because people misunderstand what cloning is, I did a reasonable research recently I

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had some

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upcoming medical seminar with doctors. So cloning, not nothing is made from scratch, everything is connected, everything is connected, nothing. All of these things are amazing science, that take us to the last panel, we should take time out to reflect and ponder as a family sometimes you

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do a romantic, you know trip somewhere, you and your wife or you and your husband, and go and do

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with the creation of jobs.

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Look at the sky, look at

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your look up just contemplate seriously, these things take you two hours. And this is why connected this point. The existence of God was never never questioned ever in the history of mankind.

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The existence of a God was never questioned. This is a recent phenomenon, like maybe 5060 years, right all these perversions that have come up recently, the whole recent recent phenomena as

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an atheist atheism, and the denial of God has become a recent phenomenon. There was no question nobody in history, you will never find the recorded history that there are people who deny God. Now, even if

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you ask them who created heaven and earth?

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And this is why

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there's no need for that. Like, is there something wrong with your brain? Like, are you mad at crazy?

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Like, can you even

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this is why every

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time joy, even even

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every single profit, none of them called a people to be a con. They call them to delete all the eyes around diversity.

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A lot of

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So many verses are talking about the oneness.

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There's no version of Iran that actually talks about the existence of a god.

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Because this is why there's something wrong with someone's brain in mind, this is a perversion. This is what happens in good mood.

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It's the natural, the natural disposition, the natural nature, the natural instinct to some of these things. They are natural. But we live in a time for perversions which

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means you've gone up the unnatural, you've left the balance where you've gone to the right or the left in any aspect of life, when someone leaves and they go to the right or go to the left and that is considered to be perversion. They

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go this way or that way, in every aspect from and this is one we live in.

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a protected refuge from the one who's giving what I'm putting in my mind and heart who retreats.

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From Jin and from mankind. In other words, this surah is not just talking about the police and Satan talking about sheltering against worshipping a God. He was from the gym, at the gym.

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Okay, so he was from the gym. But this verse

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telling us we are seeking a loss protection from the share of clean

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Meet the one who takes you far away from as far away from leaving alone. So whether it's a gene chip or a human chamber, we live in a time where this morning

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one of the greatest creative chip on is on us, and everything around us the locality that surrounding surroundings, the friends that we have, and the things around us and this great you know, Mashallah manifestation of technology and everyone has an answer, it plays a massive big role in people getting all these steps, because you're dealing with 100 and 400 million ideas, people minds are not perverted, because they're going away from the palate sweep, but learn the version, that actually every aspect in every aspect of sexuality from from faith in God to different aspects, nothing is now abnormal anymore.

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Other things, even in sexuality, you know,

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is not to say,

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we should be homophobic we don't hate anyone who was, you know, different sexual

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tendencies, may be a good word for it. inclinations. Whatever, okay? Of course, you don't hate

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Islam, you don't hate

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Islam, but at the same time, we can't change our religion is not permissible in Islam, homosexuality is not permissible.

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And not permissible in Islam. sex outside, marriage is also a very

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common very than any sort of sexual interaction is of course as normal, but it's a simple activity, you don't hate someone having

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a concern.

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But what I will say is, I'm now moving into a time with people, you know, I've seen this trend, but there will be a person yet. Later, maybe like, all these things come together. She's an atheist, for example, atheist, lesbian?

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No, no, we gender she, I don't believe in two genders anymore. There is no such thing as what is this this male female agenda. There's no such thing as make. People say there's no such thing as male, female gender. Unlike a word for it,

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comes again, there's all these different different words I was once reading. So that's

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even sexuality, they use all these words,

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do some research, pansexual and pansexual. And this sexual

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sexual was

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a person who has no particular inclination towards a particular gender, they just don't believe they just say we connected to a soul. Our soul isn't a man or a woman or whatever, like, you know, maybe.

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But it could be anything. And this is, you know, lesbian, atheist, all of these and then maybe add to that soon to say some sisters might get upset, but the feminists love them. Extreme families are lesbians, and at the same time feminists, and at the same time, you know,

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was the same gender like, it's just a version of ideas.

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So I think what's happening is like, all the gnomes that even Western culture, even the United Kingdom, the West had, no you know, things which were considered to be normal.

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Logic question, God, Richard, faith and everything, all of these things. It's the mind getting corrupted, perverted with all these different ideas. And you know, people are not willing to listen those who are just no interested they're skeptical, skeptical about everything.

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believe in God, as I was saying, connecting back to this, that it's a it's a normal thing, believe in God is natural. It's known because it's a study a lot placed into the hearts and minds of everyone's you know why

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the Quran tells us what

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to say.

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You know, every one of us, this is without this promise from us.

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When I got to this

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before he created the universe,

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he took this old from everyone, and let's move on to your load on indie

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everyone, we would agree

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the oath of allegiance testify the source of this happen, we have to believe it.

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Does anybody remember being in the mother's womb?

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You remember seven months, or seven months, one day?

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She was just the cause, you know, she was in the car, maybe while she was going down the stairs and you felt

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you denied?

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Have you set? People?

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People who actually have set a direction? Remember this? All?

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They remember?

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this is your

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cell phone.

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Remember this?

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And this is why when we have a child that is born into the house, one of the first things What do we do?

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What's the, what's the wisdom behind that wisdom is skin into the heart and mind of the child to read wonders of the law, Shahada just to really resolve the message.

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Somebody might say, what's not doing is an impact, we don't remember that.

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It's just like that, you know, promise to promise we don't remember it, even if it's pouring into the mind. And it starts from there.

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you move on quickly.

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This is I will say this is natural. So that denial of a god the existence of God was never questioned. This is absolutely actual normal, as long as we have a natural human mind, we don't have a perverted mind, we have a clean sound mind. Anyone who is has a clean sound mind will be guided towards the last panel data. And those who then gets

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deleted, or who have tendencies towards leaving Islam, cloudy and old and leave Islam. One of the main reasons many of them, many of the people who left religion, as I said, it's a recent phenomena 40 5060 100 years around language before this whole leaving, religion was never in existence. This started a lot within the Christian communities and the Jewish community. Many of them they left religion in Islam is like

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the beginning. It's an epidemic, epidemic.

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If you compare how many people leave Christianity and Judaism to have people in his family,

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extensive, it's just you know, what the reason, one of the main reasons is, and this is my third kind of point to which you might take number three

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points is that many of them undergo some sort of experience in the name of religion.

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That experience in the name of religion, oppression, persecution,

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persecution in the church, etc. And the same thing happens with Islam. In the name of Islam, when there's oppression, where there's holes where there's the persecution, when you use religion, and there's no religion there, whether it comes from parents, whether it comes from religious leaders,

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this happens to people and they just go they make a 180 degree turn like they were practicing or some of them really practicing families might be from a chef's family or something and they have

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this issue another issue to do not believe in a religion you should not be believing because of someone else. If someone's doing something, that's their problem, like, we tried to take you out to someone

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you believe in God.

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It's not like you know, I'm betting against you, because you are pressing knees and leaving Islam. Yeah.

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So this is from the beginning. It was wrong. you're practicing Islam was not supposed to be based on someone. But anyway, it does happen. It happens to people because of oppression because of persecution because of this. And this is one of great problems. Now. This is what we need to tackle in our communities. And maybe the questions you might have tackled this, and this is really important in many faiths, many Muslim community

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There is a misunderstanding or ignorance with a lot of work is always

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we don't differentiate between culture and Islam. There's so many issues I can list like for example, forced marriages, there is no place in Islam for forced marriages. It is completely absolutely, categorically, totally, wholly wholesomely. Fully, completely whatever was given to us how a normal simple aggression would go on the deaths.

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Completely a type of force on a boy or a girl, whether it's physical, emotional,

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emotional blackmail

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myself, if you don't mind me sisters living in the same city in the same village in the same alleyway.

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In You know,

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this is there's no place for this in Islam. Absolutely. We need to tackle this.

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Many, many marriage courses have talked about this a lot.

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This new words have become at ease, clear. There is no place before sturgeons law, there's one woman Kate Cotton's.

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The father was originally

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she came to

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my brother forced me to qualify for the uniform. Yes. Why do you do that? She has been saying this. It's up to her who she lives with. And she has to agree to

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live with him. You're married? This is the problem in our community. Sometimes we think, no, it's not these two people are married. Despite the Great Grandma from his learning the great ground level, despite everyone, not everyone has to match and mix and reach out to get along with everybody. Otherwise, the marriage is not done. We make marriages difficult.

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There's just so many examples where marriages are becoming difficult, right?

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Because the more we close the door for how long the doors are open, you know, you can't get married until x uncle and ex ante and great granddad from this one. This one, every single person 200 people are happy and everyone has their view and opinion. And then everyone and until that one doesn't come from this country, I'm not going to say yes. And this one is not ego when everyone is conditioned. According to the Sahaba, the Virgil's like, Okay.

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Everybody will

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have one companion got married.

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stinking, he said, I

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nervous, I had some perfume. That's the remains of that. So

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my great chef doesn't come from Botswana, I can't get married.

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He didn't even feel the need to tell the last messages of love marriages. It takes 35 takes seven seconds to

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actually count it. I gave myself during marriage. I accepted my marriage. Five seconds. Seven seconds. Once we said slowly, so to speak, and let's come to this. We come to seven seconds. We prepare two years in advance for seven seconds and the last seven days.

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And then we have to make the community happy and the money is

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these are problems depression comes people they feel depressed and what culture is.

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arranged marriages. Okay, that's fine.

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If you can help.

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People should listen to the parents because they love that game forever. At the end of the day, it's their choice. It's their choice. If they make the wrong decision. Look most of the time 90% of the time. It's actually nothing to do anyway. So worldly, worldly religion, the worldly reasons to disagree.

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It's just an egos because she's not

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the only

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you know, so

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most of the time, it's

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only 100 and hundreds of emails. I don't know what to do about these kind of marriage issues.

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It's most of the time he's worried he can send his

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parents up, take this person. It's not right for my son for my daughter.

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They have to they have carried away in affection in a loving way. But remember, if you pick up again another point that if you bring up the children from the

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village based on this mount de Luthor via, you want to get to the situation where they want to get back to somebody who is not something

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that clashes with you start to gain one. So not these things are based on culture in the name of Islam okay.

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Even these have spoken about gender roles

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these are cultural things which have nothing to do. But there are certain things which argument is wrong but then those you have to understand them with an open mind.

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Look, in a marriage the man has a right to divorce directly and a woman or directly but she has a longer process. The wisdom to understand it

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is a prime minister is an atheist. I say, you know, okay, I'm a half man like I shouldn't be a man like equality is Marxism as equality between men and women when there's differences like no, this difference isn't it isn't the differences. There's a man who gave birth to a child Well, you know, I can imagine a 40 years old

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we want men to be pregnant as well. It's not fair to mention as well.

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Could be possible right? They could be

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coming to us. There's differences there's equality men and women are equal in the sight of a woman who is close to us. But these are gender roles is a hottie is the creator of a lot of great men and women he has given many responsibilities and certain rights women certain responsibilities certain rights, and it's a perfect way marriages are destroyed today because I can only say that you know, Allah make a man as a man or a woman as a woman. These are perfect match for one another, they match perfectly. The men and women are counterparts to one another. They match one another very perfectly like you know, a man and a woman get married a man it's a perfect match. But we live in a time where

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the man has become a woman and a woman has become now you've got a harpoon

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the man has lost his masculinity is because even the clothes are tight jeans like you know everything make men as women like just make everything like even the clothing nowadays they have this everything's unisex you know unisex clothing

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is this jacket is for men woman who is unisex men woman is like the guy was telling me that I can see down the you know, a few years with all these you know, High Street shops, many of them don't have a menu section for men section. Women section is just going to be men women section or whatever section this was. So crazy mixed up. Nobody knows what they're wearing. And everything's just women are wearing men's clothes or men or women wearing women under

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the law. It's just so this is these are all perversions of the mind. Okay, so shamelessness is a big issue.

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porn is a big issue that takes away from young people away from the topic. I'm just giving you highlights to talk about so you know, I recently gave a talk somewhere recently, it was in Greece and

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it could be one year two years.

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I can remember what we did.

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You know, this is something that needs to be addressed in our communities how it's a killer diseases and addiction is like drugs. You can research on this.

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One has, it has dopamine. Yeah, it has. It's a drug. And it takes you if

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you can't think about that, you know?

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Then you've lost like 80% of your humanity.

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This needs to be tackled how people can save our lives.

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How it destroys their life, their marriages. Once you're addicted to it, you'll still be addicted to it. I've met people I've met people in the 50s and 60s who said to me that we started this when we were 1516 we are in our 50s and 60s. We still can't let go of this habit marriage.

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There's many many examples too much too many to sort of mentioned before you know this, all these sexual perversions of shamelessness, etc. So

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we need to tackle these issues. Try to become basically to become tenants in the mind in the heart, have a heart of modesty higher, you know, get back to the balance sheet. Once we do that, that automatically will believe in this. This belief in what will go away.

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But there needs to be a decision

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It needs to be a desire, there needs to be a one.

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We need to ask a lot sincerely.

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You know, I just remember one incident, my teachers named Michelle.

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Law, he mentioned this once.

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Now that

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once he received a letter from somebody from German Pakistani brother was living in Germany, that contract with

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a Christian woman.

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So he wrote to him, about 20 years ago, this incident took place. He wrote to me, when I moved to Germany, and I've been living here for many, many years, I compare it to, you know, Christian,

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etc, and find a now the other day I've had children with the other day, I was, I saw that she was teaching my child, you know how to worship Jesus, and you know, about Christian faith,

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that something happened to me, like, you know, he's affected his dad, even accidentally, this is not good, you know, my children.

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My children are gonna grow up Christians, like, I've been born Muslim, like my progeny does.

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so he wrote to the chef and said, you know, what to do, I'm trying to tell her but she, I spoke to her and she said, No, we never agreed on how the children would be brought up.

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They're going to become not going to be your extended religion, which you wrote from your country, they're going to be German Christians. So Tough luck, women have to join anyway. So whatever you do, you're going to be the way I want them to be. This I'm really like, worried and concerned.

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So the shampoo back to look at the Java

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make lots of the article. And there's a power of like using as well, the we, we need to connect we need with sincerity, ask a lot. Anyone who has doubts may go on for someone who's leaving, if you have children, to ask for them. And the person really needs to see the temple or like with an open mind all the time. So he said to him that they don't

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give you a tip. What do you do is tell you a lot if you're German Christian wife, and you've been married to for many years. And look, I want children to be Muslims, and you want them to Christians, like maybe you want me to turn to Christian and I want you to accept Islam. That's the bottom line. Let's both do this. Next, both every night. That's what we do is less go along with each other in rooms, by ourselves, and with sincerity, pray to God, you believe in God. And I believe in God, you believe in God. So this is not about atheism. Next proof receipt of God, your God, my God. And I say, I will say to my God, that Oh God, you know, I'm a Muslim, and I please You know, if, if this

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religion is true with sincerity with absolute sincerity, that keep me on this religion and open my hearts mind to this religion. And if not, it's not true that okay, you know, let me become a Christian,

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sincerely, and tell you what to do. This

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is why you do that.

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Every day.

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Go and make this supplication to God, please God, you know, open my heart in mind to the truth. If as long as a true religion and open my heart will make me a Muslim. And if it's not, then take me on this Christian faith.

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And then he said, also, I'm sending a book with this letter. This is what I write. This is a book that I wrote, and he wrote a book called was Christianity, sexual, he wrote a book.

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Then it got translated into Arabic, nyan lasagna. And then it got translated into English. What is Christians

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know this book? So he said, I'm sending you this book, tell you what to read this every day. Just one thing.

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He said, replied, after a week or two person replied back, and he said, Yeah, we'll be doing this. But there's no change, like is still like saying that no questions, etc. So she replied back and said, Look, can we

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continue this for 40 days? Normally 40 days?

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40 days,

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40 days,

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40 days, just continue for 40 days, and then let me know.

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After all, you know, his reply didn't come. And then after about maybe five, six weeks after past 40 days, he replied back to the show.

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He says,

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I'm so happy. You know, I've seen he actually said that people believe in God throughs You know, I'm telling

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and proofs and this evidence and people believe in God, I've actually seen a load in my eyes like he always is clear the existence of a law

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that he wrote. And what happened was, we did this for 40 days. And soon after 40 days. The other day, we were in a car, my wife was driving, I was in the passenger seat chauffeur driven. And she was driving. And she was going to some university that she had, like, I think, I don't know, something to do on the university. Certainly, while she was driving, a car swerved into the silence, really, like head onto the steering wheel, like shedding

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Okay, like,

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so many companies are called ambulance, like a bit of a formula called ambulance, you know, there's something wrong, he had an accident.

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And she was actually shedding tears.

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She said, No, no, no.

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He said before anything is equal to the closest mosque and

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I will say the Shahada.

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And then she said for the last two or three days, we do all this for 40 days, but just two, three days was just in my heart, and having this you know, this, in the heart of our goddess places, this the need to become Muslim and this is a true thing.

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And he wrote this in the lesson and then he said, this is another lecture as well from my wife, she's also writing to you as well.

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Now imagine this this is if we have sincerity those people who have these thoughts if you have an open mind, not skeptical mind not already mind made up by a professor of philosophy at the university has already said this is wrong and that's wrong and evolution and creationism

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as though there is no other way to the truth, and of course, if you broke your mind from seeking the truth, you will never see the truth. So, you have to keep asking a law for soundness and for your protection from diversity and version.

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Now, finally, I was committed and as well as religious,

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just briefly, one of the things is that a lot of times people

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have those questions because the questions or emotions or maybe some people think

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happiness in the world, why is that oh happens in my life. I need to do this.

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So many people.

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Point number one, Since when was having The Good Wife committed to practicing

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there is no such thing in Islam.

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You know, we should be practicing the worshiping Allah for love.

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Chicken Tikka Masala, you know, this is transacting with this Deen is not, we are not supposed to be paying a lot for

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reading all the rules. In the next slide, gentlemen, we are uneven that for some pious people who are at a very high level, even they are the symbol. They worship Allah for Allah agenda. Many of them say

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that even if there was no agenda, I will never obey.

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That's a very high level. Even if we can't get to the level

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of the next 150 6070 years, is

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the average lifespan right now is about 6065. Any gains you get over 65 is

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the lowest and people are dying like every other day, every day. It's a short life.

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This life is full of tests and trials, the

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will test you with lots of things to say fear of hope when you wonder when

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you have financial problems in your life. This is normal. It's

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dhupia is a mixture of happiness, goodness, and childhood difficulty hardship. Gender is only when is bliss have a point of protectors is when it's only difficult to hardship. This is a mixture of both and also real happiness. You know those people, this dhupia

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everyone faces trials and tribulations.

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Imagine our problems anyway, compared to the messages of others. Has anybody ever placed two stones?

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How would you do it?

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eat meat,

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eating, eating, eating, eating. Now how much

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three person seems to pass by in the household over

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two months?

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How much do we overeat? And that's another topic as well, you know, we should try to balance our diet and eating some good to eat too much. And eat too much. Not really good.

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Balancing that. But imagine how much the rest

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he actually says, Who are you our conversion is not even. You know, when I get fever, I have the pain of fever by the two of you.

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it's about a

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Most people who are affected most affected most of the cognitive issues of profits.

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So this notion that if I practice the magic of good, just take that off of your minds, there is no such thing actually.

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isn't a wrong understanding of fee at all.

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here's the message.

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Yes, they will be wanting that to be when you practice you do that wanted wishes eternal.

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eternal peace is something else. Sisters, we've misunderstood what eternal happiness and real happiness is. There's one thing called means of happiness is happiness itself. There's a massive difference. Having a lot of money. This means having a car nice and nice house nice.

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work visa happiness.

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You can have all the ways of happiness and abundance and happiness.

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old thing to say. I have old Amiga happiness, fame, these are happiness, all the money, millions. I was going to give him

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and I was singing.

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But there's something missing in my heart when I tend to be

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at peace. And that happens. We don't get that.

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Do you

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folks have several celebrities.

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They are depressed. Depression is another problem in our community. Many of them when it comes to academics and alcohol abuse, many of the football players we might know this already, but we're looking at his mind to his heart what was happening. Many of the crisis points especially when they reach about 3035 many of them crisis they were not happy with life. Many of the type of suicide they go through mental illness issues. Because of there is no piece of chocolate in their life.

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A garden the death is unexplained. Who is Michael?

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These are what they said to us. That is not suspicious but unexplained death

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models for that experience those are Football Manager.

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Was it suicide who knows

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what was going through his mind.

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You might think this person's got so much money, still not happy.

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real happiness is a narrowing of is given by the law. It's not in how much money you

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got here. So we need to bring this you know, into our lives. And so we do not think practicing of the has nothing to do with having no hardship difficulties. We will get hardships. We have not fallen following Islam or believe it or not because

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of worldly benefits. That's the whole idea. If

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We are believing in God because we want worldly benefits. And yes, when we start getting afflicted with hardships and difficulties and we leave Islam, so our practice and our formula should not be based on that.

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And finally,

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just final point with a parenting issue, very important, touched upon it briefly

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upon it briefly

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about parents and you know, the cultural issues.

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We live in a time where like I said, young people that were loaded with all these different ideas, divergent ideas, perversions, imbalance, things about faith, about sexual practices about about the world.

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We are being told that people are being told what you should think nobody should let you tell you how you think.

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That's what they say. Don't let anyone tell you how

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to actually make

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you think this way. This was happening. You think this way is this is how we should be. Parents have a responsibility. We have lots of parents here. It starts from a young age. You know, a lot of people they realize that the children have left Islam they left long time ago, but in our students, my 23 year old daughter has left Islam today. She probably left 30 when she was 13. She never told you from a young age. What did we do? Did we actually contribute as parents for leaving Islam? It's very important issue. Of course.

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We did a one day seminar on parenting from nine in the morning to 5pm.

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For parenting, a whole day seminar.

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It's a big issue. It starts from a young age.

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I said from a young age, if parents are not worried about the, the soundness of the children about the EMR.

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And when I say young age, it starts from a young age. It starts from infancy.

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infancy, not even into Sorry, I'm wrong. I made a mistake.

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I was gonna go step by step now. starts from pregnancy before the

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starts before the first write your children have over you is that you choose for them a perfect mother or father.

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We think of ourselves like how will you be in a hotel? How much how good she was.

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Coco Coco, there's more to life than cooking right?

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And there's

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so much to

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learn. But

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we are selfish, as long as you know it before your child's first right, even before they are born, they have a right over you.

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Even before they are born, this is an emergent

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seed because carefully select the mother of your future.

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Travel whatever you're going to get. You will receive and get to

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choose the mother or choose a father. Is this person right? Good Enough, enough, appropriate enough to be the father of my children with this man teach my children Islam and bring them close to smaller turn them away from Islam and leave you know make them far away from Islam with this woman be a good Muslim, our mother.

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But anyway, if you haven't done that,

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to date, from infancy from pregnancy, we have responsibilities you know when we during pregnancy

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that people have to

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practice the way you think the mother is thinking good positively, thinking positively or on restriction of a woman during pregnancy.

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And this is scientifically proven as well. Right? This is

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even is being instilled into the heart and the mind of the child. If you are reading

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We did. There are examples in history of robotics and examples in history where young children are three four years old and when they came to the mother some of the chef starts that's not really the already memorized

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recent times in the subcontinent

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they already knew

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how because the mother during pregnancy and breastfeeding everyday will resolve that.

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And they memorized it was the child

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the child has been breastfed when you breastfeed even the father you know how he treats the term is very, very important. You have EMA and faith a doctor it goes into the mind of the child you are nourishing the child even

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if during pregnancy How is the committed sins of a committed

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listening to songs and watching movies bollywood, bollywood whatever whatever

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gives example as a joke but if you if your

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mother was breastfeeding your child you're watching Bollywood and your childhood inshallah not each other. Maybe turned out to be

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if you reading

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so from a young age, breastfeeding time, young age from every household should when you have young children instilled the man in the hearts not

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practicing of the

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stick parents.

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practice yourself what more

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if we pray also it's

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my four year old daughter when she comes to

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Christmas credit booms as a family

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children should grow up on the 234 seen parents

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read loudly

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rediscovered azima read religions with

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reflection think about the easy person to ponder over them reflect on it. Have a collective reading every day if not possible at least once a week. Any book is a book

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in the house of mother all the way to visit nowadays.

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She's to visit Korea, Korea now children who's going to look after

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the ps3 and the TV and CBP is the nanny nanny.

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Nanny nanny which is

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no time. We are so busy.

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We are too busy earning the dunya look. We are too busy trying to make a house or not a home.

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Seriously, live in a smaller house if that

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is a problem. I will tell you what so listen to a radio talk show. They did a research they went to 20 schools across the country. They surveyed they asked questions from eight year olds to 10 year olds, young children. They said can you tell us what makes you the happiest in your life? Is it really that big you won't buy the toys or games or holidays are nice house a nice car. You know what majority of them said but 87% of young children at school this was a research summary to the thing that makes us happiest in our life is when the whole family eats a meal together.

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Children need that connection. Any household with a mother or father and everyone in the house coming together one meal families

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that's a sad family take time out. We

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will use them before we spend the money for them.

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connection you should have a gadget free zone in your house. I have 1.5 hours in my house with gadget free zone everyone's

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on his mobile phone.

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Everything should be off phone switched off mother's phone, wireless phone, everyone's tablet, everything.

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Everything one and a half hours at home. Just keep one sense

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call, you know people don't have a phone anymore. But

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nothing, no technology on speak, speak to children. What do they do at school?

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Actually, parents should teach themselves. Many, even non Muslim researchers and thinkers. They said that the education that comes from parents is far more effective when that comes from other people. I know we need to send them to mother son schools, of course those experts, but

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do your business there. I don't know what you're doing. That's wrong. Parents should know that teachers are

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teachers. Everyone loves a bit of children teacher. So you've got a bit of understanding.

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you've attended courses and agreement definitions, teachers, own children.

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Teach them

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teach them

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correctly. So education, young age, give time to children, bring them up like that with attention with love with care, show the goodness of Islam, you know, love of Islam. And as I was saying, have a collective reading and reading or at least once a week, every Sunday morning, for example. 11 o'clock, Everyone sit together read a book everyone has.

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Eg one week you read one week you read son, daughter, brother, sister, mother, father,

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and read together different books,

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different books, remember, sorry, we need to

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you know,

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read them together. If you have a household that parents bring up their children, with the mom with faith with goodness with

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a child with amazing characteristics, and there'll be this love for dealing with the hearts and minds.

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Sorry for going over time. I don't know how long but these are just as I said in the beginning, I'm just going to talk about some random disjointed points, talking about resolving them.