Social Etiquettes For A Healthy Society
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To etiquettes and this is Surah Al gerat, the the chambers or the houses of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
so at the beginning Allah subhanaw taala talks about
Allah starts with a principle with a principle and this is a principle that Muslims have to live their life. Why, by the way, they have to live their life by Allah Subhan Allah says, Yeah, you are living in a
national energy system now to handle him. Yeah, you have Lavina Amendola to cut them obey nya de la he will surely hear what tabula in Allah has sent me an alien
or believers do not proceed in any matter before a decree from Allah and His messenger and fear Allah surely Allah is all hearing and knowing. That basically means you do not put yourself before Allah subhana wa Tada and before His Messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. In general, that's the principle so you give precedence to Allah in your life, in your decisions.
We can take that broadly in the sense that really Allah should be the center of your life.
Allah should be the center of your life. Obviously, we humans, we are designed in a way that we seek our own interests, whatever is beneficial to us. We seek survival, we seek other needs. And we seek also luxury. And we see we seek whatever benefit we can gain. That's the nature of human beings. But that's the nature of the self. That's the nature of the self. But Allah subhanaw taala offers us another way to set our priorities. And that's basically based on the fitrah when it's coupled with the revelation, and that empowers our soul over our neffs it empowers our hearts, over our naps and it sets our priorities right in life. And that is basically to put Allah first before yourself, to
put Allah subhanaw taala first before yourself that's just one part of the meaning of this verse, that you put Allah Subhan Allah to Allah and His messenger. So Salam before yourself in your life, and although on face value, this might sound to be like,
like, what why should I put myself first why should I put Allah and His messenger first, it feels a little bit strange or a little bit counterintuitive. But the reality is, if you want to flourish spiritually, if you want to live this life in a state of balance, and you don't want to lose your ethical direction, in this life, or your moral direction in this life, you have to put Allah Subhan Allah and His Messenger SallAllahu Sallam first and here's the Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, where he says, and that's about, you know, the tranquility and the peace you get when you achieve a high level of iman, the Prophet SAW Selim says
phenethyl man couldn't if he was at the beginning, the Halawa, Iman, three traits or three things, whoever possesses them, then he or she will find the sweetness of iman, the sweetness of faith, and that's basically a life of transcendence. It's a life of tranquility, serenity and peace, a life of ecstasy, spiritual ecstasy.
What are the three things
and the Akona Allahu Allah showed who had been at him in mercy wahama
that Allah and His Messenger, become dearer to this person more beloved to this person, than anyone else? Anyone else?
including oneself, and that's why in Hadith, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says, well, Allahu Allah, you may know ahead or come a corner ahead, but Lee Min Neff see he was a leader, he when he when he married Allah He none of you will truly believe and that means a high level of belief by the high level of iman.
They will no one will truly reach a high level of Eman until I become the person I'm talking about himself. I become dearer to this person, more beloved to this person than himself, his parents, his children and all of humanity.
So Mr. Bob hears this and he says yes will Allah Allah He in Nicola Habu in a year I mean clearly I had 11 nnessee is almost unheard of Allah what law he you are dear to me than anyone else but myself. I love myself more.
The prophets of salaam says to hammer laser but I do
Not yet. You have not reached them. The HA the highest levels of Eman and faith. I'm gonna hottub takes it takes him a few seconds. takes him a few seconds and he automatically
clear what he does, he sets his priorities rights right. Then he comes to the problems still in the same situation the same kind of of meeting. He says to the prophets of salaam Walla he rasool Allah Allah and tell Anna what you know Yemen FC
says almost ninja of Allah, Allah He you are now dear to me than myself. I love you more than I love myself. I'm not giving lip service, by the way, and anyone who knows me knows I'm gonna have to up does not give compliments. He speaks straight, he is so straight up.
So that shows that when a person is true and sincere to Allah subhanaw taala helps them achieve, you know, great things like this. This is such a great kind of feat. It's a great kind of, you know, leap to really change the, you know, the priorities and the love for oneself and put the Prophet size on them before himself. I'm gonna help him manage to do that on the spot. Lovely Allahu Ana.
So that's part of the meaning of the verse, another meaning of the verse which is, I would say the primary one is that in matters in your life in your affairs, do not speak before Allah and His messenger. Do not put your opinion before the instructions of Allah and His messengers. So you have in Islam, something is halal.
Because you don't like it you don't go and say It's haram.
Or because you think maybe it's not a good thing, okay. That's your opinion. You say? No, it's It's not okay. Or you have something that is haram that Allah subhanaw taala, for example, made Zina haram and someone says like for their own desires and whims, they are drawn into this kind of sin.
So, or someone deals with riba and they build their business around it. And they are entrenched in it, they are completely entangled in a system of Riba. Right. And then they hear about about so they start, they try to explain it in a way in any way in any way possibly, or they start to meet say, this form of it is halal. Or maybe in a non Muslim country, it becomes halal and so on and so forth. That's putting your opinion before the guidance of Allah Subhan Allah to Allah and His messenger. So here, again, that's the primary meaning of the verse. So that's a principle that we Muslims should live by. And by the way, this helps us in every way spiritually helps us and being devout Muslims
helps us a lot in your relationship with Allah subhanaw taala, but it helps you as well personally, and it helps you in the society, when a whole society functions based on that, in our society is set, right?
Because when because Allah Subhan Allah sent down His his Sharia he said he sent it down, to improve the quality of life in a way that leads Muslims to paradise. So it guarantees maximum benefit in this world and maximum benefit in the hereafter. Does the lead sale musalia Phil agilely will agile as the scholars say Islam was sent down to maximize benefits and reduce harms minimize harms in this world in this life. And in the next both together you can't consider one without the other.
except in extreme cases, you give preference to the hereafter obviously.
So when when when a whole society abides, they put the words of Allah and His Messenger salaam first that when this society is set, right, that's when everything is clear. And everything is just going according to the guidance of Allah subhanaw taala and here now we start getting into now into more of the etiquettes the that we we Muslims are supposed to have in society and here the Quran paints a beautiful picture of what a society seems like yeah, you handle it in a lot of our swatter come focus out in a BU hola hola hola que God about the company about and bottle Anna como en Tamila to Sharon, in Alladhina Holborn, elsewhere to home in Dallas hula hula ek lithium to Hana Allahu Luba
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Allah who speaks about an etiquette so Allah wanted to comment on an incident that happened repeatedly in the life of the prophet solo Salam. But before doing that Allah establishes a principle. And this is one of the ways the Quran addresses an issue. First Allah lays down a foundation or a principle, then Allah subhanaw taala brings the situation, you know to attention and applies the principle to that because when you build a principle, by the way, it's easier. It's easier to you know, talk about a specific incident.
It's just easier you establish the foundations, the principles, and then you talk in details about specific situations that makes it easier. And by the way, that's the way to study Islam. That's the way to study Islam. That's why the Scholars say for example, man, holy man, man, I demon or soul, hurry man warzone. Whoever lacks, you know the principles of the knowledge and the principles of Islamic sciences, then they will not reach a high level of knowledge. And that's why if someone wants to excel in the science of Hadith, they need to study the principles of Hadith, or Sol Hadith, they need to study the masala health, they need to study the other sciences that are associated
because these are the principles. Anyone who wants to understand, if you start just reading 50 rulings, by the way, you can spend your life doing that and you will never develop mastery over Facebook, you will never develop what they call Melaka Tilak, you will never develop this. And that's why the Scholars say you have to start with the principles. So you want to understand physics, you need to study the principles of soil.
These are the foundations, this is the background is just like grammar for a language. It's like grammar for language, when you understand grammar, you know how to apply the rules or when to apply them, even though you can figure out the different details and instances without, you know, having first hand knowledge of them. Why? Because you just apply the principles. So when you understand solos, you know the background and the back end system of how for quirks. So you start to see patterns lot rather than seeing individual fatawa and rulings, you start to see patterns, you start to see similarities. And this basically it helps your memory you understand much more you link
things that are linked together, you can trace back things back to the origin. And this gives you by the way, a very important, very important fruit. And that's consistency in your
consistency in your federal new because you when you are acting from principles, you are following the same principle with every ruling with almost every ruling. But when you are just dealing with rulings, you could actually
use one ruling here and one ruling there. And both of them like this one comes from a principle and the other one comes from another principle that are contradictory.
And that's the problem by the by the way with fatwa shopping. That's the problem with fatwa shopping. So again so the principles here so Allah Sandra establishes the principle by saying, Oh you who believe Do not raise your voices above the voice of the prophet nor speak loudly to him as you do to one another.
And that's a specific respect for the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.
The Scholars say it does not well primarily it's with the prophets, Allah Allah when he was a number that extends also to the elderly, in a family, your parents, it extends to your teachers to the scholars, it extends to people of you know, status in a certain community in a certain society.
So that extends to them only by extension, but primarily it's for the Prophet SAW Selim and it shows again that
the level of your voice or the volume of your voice is actually very indifferent very indicative of
of your morality and the level of respect
and usually by the way, you will find people that are very loud, are more messy in their relationships and are more messy in their treatments of others. So they usually they are lacking in empathy.
They are lacking in empathy usually people who are loud more than necessary more than is needed, okay, you will find these people usually lack in empathy.
So, and look at it I mean, and it requires by the way self awareness so this is one thing again, some of the scholars have SoloQ they use this as an example that about Maddie for two neffs as one of his cell phone have a tablet in says, you know, men let me out if necessary, who caveat if
He who doesn't know himself or she who doesn't know herself? How could they possibly know Allah?
So, one of the verses that they actually are the examples that they sort of use in order to establish the importance of self knowledge and self awareness, is that look at Oh Allah subhanaw taala.
Instruct the believers commands them. Yeah. Are you Halina Amendola, Tafawa, Swati and usually people are not aware by the way of the level of their voice or the volume of their voice. And usually if you have a loud voice, by the way, you will notice people tell you why you're speaking so loud. And it's just like, it's like it comes about
As a surprise, right? Like, I'm not speaking loud, you don't realize that you're actually speaking loud. So people usually are unaware of their voice. People who's who have a low volume of their voice. They don't really like speak loud enough. Okay? That's the opposite. Usually you tell them to speak up, but they don't realize that they are actually whispering. They don't realize. So humans are not aware, generally speaking of the, of their voice. So, Allah subhanaw taala is you cannot, the believers could not abide by that without self awareness of their voice.
And that shows that self awareness is an important thing. And that's why the principal and soul
are subtly different here again, malah etymology but in lobby for Hawaii,
you know, whatever is required to fulfill an obligation also become an obligation.
Whatever is required to fulfill an obligation also becomes an obligation, for example.
you have to pray your five daily prayers on time.
If you set up your day, or plan out your day, in a way that makes you miss
prayers and miss, like, you're unable to pray the prayers on their time, then it becomes obligatory upon you to set your day up in a way that makes it practical or doable possible for you to pray your present time, let's say someone decides to wake up all night, and all the way till 11am and then go to sleep at 11am
So they go to sleep these days if a person's sleeps, goes to bed at 11am And by the way, some people do that. Someone goes to bed at 11am Let's say they require seven hours of sleep, they're going to wake up 6pm How many prayers they have missed? The whole ASR. Maghrib right. So if someone comes and say listen, you know shake I'm I'm unable to pray the whole on time and acid on time and Maghrib on time. How come you because that's how I set up my day, right? I go to I go to bed at 11am
we say okay, because mele tomorrow at etymologically libido worship, because you cannot perform your obligations, the prayers, pray them on time, without changing your daily routine, then it becomes changing your daily routine becomes a worship becomes a watchable new. So in order for the believers to abide by this ruling not to raise their voice above the voice of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam, so to speak moderately with a moderate volume of voice. When they speak when they address the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam then they have to be aware of their voice and that requires self awareness. So it becomes here an obligation and it's a beautiful etiquette by the way. It's a
beautiful etiquette, Allah subhanaw taala condemned loud voice in the Quran, Allah Subhana Allah condemned it. Anyone can think of the verse
in Ankara while both men soltec In uncle Swati law, so tell me which Surah look man look man giving advice to his son. That's the last piece of advice that he gives to his son and so Look, man, he says
workboat Min soltec and lower your voice make it moderate. Make it moderate,
in uncle Swati De Soto Hamid, that the voices that are most detestable to Allah subhanaw taala is the sound of a donkey. Sound of a donkey. Why? Because it's loud.
It's loud, and there's no need, you know, for that for that level for that volume for that volume. So it shows that it's part of etiquettes to speak at a moderate volume at a moderate volume and the
description of the Prophet SAW Salem you will find this obviously in Chemin de tell me the way he describes the prophets of Solomon detail his cannula Salah Salam either to kill lemma Esma the prophets of salaam used to speak when he spoke he spoke in a way that he makes people hear him just right. Just the right volume. That's it. Just the right volume.
Okay, so Allah says don't speak to the Prophet SAW cinema raise your voices just as you do with one another. So Allah subhanaw taala exempts them from watching or observing this etiquette when they are among themselves, but with the Prophet sallallahu wasallam it's an obligation that they observe the level of their of their voice, then Allah Subhan Allah gives us severe warning Allah says,
nor speak loudly to him as you do to one another, or your deeds will become void while you are unaware.
So for some people might be an insignificant issue. No. But speaking to the Prophet salallahu Salam in the appropriate manner,
a huge thing with Allah subhanho wa Taala is a huge thing with Allah Subhan. Allah also applies, as we said, applies to your parents applies to the elderly people in society, imagine a society where older people are really respected.
And this is something by the way, the world is going in a wrong direction with regards to the older people
really, like there is a lot of focus now on the youth and the younger ones, and rightly so. But it is happening to the negligence of the seniors of the older people.
And this is why, by the way, is a very common thing. Now, if someone and this happens with immigrants, immigrants, when they come here, and they are in their, let's say, late 40s, or their 50s, they find it hard to get a job.
Because all companies they want, you know, young graduates, fresh graduates or they want someone in their 20s, maximum, the early 30s. That said, so there's a lot of people by the way, I've seen a lot of people in like part of this community, who had PhDs from reputable universities, and they were here for years, and they couldn't find a job, they could not find a job, they couldn't find work.
And oftentimes, as well, you know, the younger generation because of the, you know, because of the internet, and because of video games, and the world of the IT, of it, and all of that, you know, usually the younger ones are the ones who jump on the wagon of technology, right, and they join the the trends, technological trends, but older people usually are the later ones who join in.
And that leads a lot of the younger ones, and the world is becoming more now more technology oriented, everything is online, you need technology for almost everything you pretty much can do most of the things you need to do online, you can buy and, and you can shop and you can sell and you can make your business all on your phone, or on your phone.
Some of the older people have not really joined that yet have not joined, you know that kind of trend. So you will find the younger ones looking down upon the older ones. Why you far behind you far behind. And there is a tendency, by the way, and this is the narcissism of our times. Although some people call it narcissism of post modernism, I don't want to get into these ideological wars. But generally speaking today, there is we tend to look and there is a general spirit around to look down upon everything that is from the past.
And this is why you find some Muslim youth, by the way, they are the fallen victim to this. So they say yeah, I mean, the Quran was was there 1400 years ago, how come you bring a system that was 400 years ago, and try to apply it on today's modern world, right?
That's part of this narcissism. And it just shows ignorance. It shows ignorance because principles are universal. And what is changing today is not really a deep thing about life, it's just the surface, it's the surface that is changing. It's it's, it's the packaging and packaging of lifestyle that is changing. But you know, the universal values, you know, transcend time and space, by the way, they apply everywhere.
So again, so.
So the believers were supposed to speak to the prophets of Salaam in such a respectful way that Allah subhanaw taala praises the ones who sort of lowered their voices by saying, Indeed, those who lower their voices in the presence of Allah's Messenger are the ones whose hearts Allah has refined for righteousness, they will have forgiveness and great reward. And by the way, this shows how good manners and good character in Islam, you know, gives about a lot of reward from Allah subhanho wa taala. A lot of reward and this is something that is overlooked. There's something overlooked there's a Hadith from the prophets of salaam that that shows that one of the states actually one of
the things that really one of the things that enter people into paradise most after La ilaha illa, Allah is personal Moloch is having good character. So the majority of people of paradise enter Paradise after believing in the Oneness of Allah and to hate is because of their personal luck because of their good character. And just to sort of clarify an issue here a misunderstanding, personal HELOC was not only good treatment
wasn't the whole it goes much deeper than that is much deeper than that because some people keep good social etiquette but they're not genuine does not has no lock that's not has no HELOC. HELOC starts in the heart with a Nataliya that you have a pure heart
towards others, you don't have you don't hold a grudge. You don't have any envy, jealousy, hatred towards others. And that then you express that externally and authentically, you know, with what seems to be good treatment of others and good manners. That's what has no holidays. But if you think has no luck is about, you know, pretending, and all this kind of, you know, showing, no, that's not what has no holidays. So again, Allah subhanaw taala states here that there is a great reward for people who observe this etiquette, which is speaking to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, you know, in a good and respectful manner without raising their voices. Then here Allah Samantha is
talking about an incident because the prophets Allah wa salam had a struggle with the Arab with the Arab who are the Arab, they're not the Arab, by the way. Some people you know, put down the Arabs, and they quote verses from the Quran that talk about the Arab, no, they are about the nomads, or the Bedouins. Okay, so they're not the Arabs as a, as an ethnicity or race. So the Arab are the ones who live in the desert, they live in isolated life, a rough, you know, style of life. And those people exist everywhere. They exist everywhere. So you find people generally speaking, who live in rough areas, or people who live in more in the countryside, or more in you know,
more as nomads, so they don't have the the luxuries that people have. In the cities in the in the in the major cities, you find when you deal with them, their character is rough. They don't have the softness, the sweetness, and the accommodation, and the empathy that people who live in more cosmopolitan areas usually have because of their interactions. And because education tends to be more in major cities even at the time of the Prophet sallallahu and who sent him that's why the messengers wa salam says in the Hadith, Min Min betta Jaffa, whoever moves out to live in the Nomad areas, and with the Bedouins there develop more of a rough character and better Jaffa.
So some of those people used to come to the prophets of Salaam and speak in their own manner. So they would come from to see the Prophet and salam. They came in either the asking about Islam, or they became Muslim, and they want to investigate more about Islam. So we will come to the masjid and I will say, Where is Mohammed?
So the Companions would say the Prophet Salam is in his house.
So they won't wait for the prophets of salaam to come, they would go to his house, which was right next to the masjid of the Prophet Islam and they would scream to the top of their voice. Yah, Mohammed, yah, Mohammed and keep, you know, calling the prophets of salaam until he shows up. That was the way
that was the way you know, some other people have that wasn't at the time of the Prophet Salam but some people remember this as a child. Some of those people will come from Bedouin areas when they come to your house. They just opened the door and walk in. They don't even knock on the door they just walk in. So you you better had have your your your door locked. So
and they're not being rude. But that's how they that's how they live. They just opened the door and walk in. Right? That's their that's their lifestyle. So those Bedouins they used to come and they would just scream to the top of their voice. Yeah, Muhammad Yeah, Mohammed until he comes until he comes back. Until actually shows up and the prophets of salaam would accommodate those, the prophets of salaam would accommodate those. There was one bed one that the Prophet Salam treated him.
And basically the messengers or Salam borrowed some money from him, or borrowed something from him
or took a loan from him.
And there was an appointment.
So the man came before the appointment
today, a couple of days before the appointment, and then he came to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam
prompts him was among his companions. It says, Yeah, Benny Abdul Muttalib wala he inocula Oman mottle. He says all children have Abdulmutallab. Children are Abdulmutallab Wallah. You are people who don't give people their rights on time. You keep sort of putting that off, or you keep dragging people to change their rights. How would be the manner this person spoke? Do you think he was speaking in a soft manner? I mean, it's obvious. Omar have stood up he wanted to chop off the head of that. And the problem says Leave him leave him than the Prophet SAW Selim prosom says in nilsa he will Aktiva Colin, the person could have said you know you just came early, etc. But the problem
would compromise sometimes his own right. For the sake of what keeping some people on Islam.
And probably the person knows that this person has people behind him so he prompts them
wants to win their hearts over, even if that takes that the prophets of salaam compromises on his own rights. So then he says to the companion who was on the treasury of the Muslims, he says, give him back his money and, and he says to Moses, Damaris says give him more, give him something more, because you freaked him out Jamar because the man when he saw Rama, Rama was told, by the way, I'm gonna topple the Allahu Anhu. If he walked among the group, he stood out, it seemed as if though he was riding a horse,
you would see them from a distance as a group of people walking, you would assume there was one person of them is riding a horse, and that was a model tablet alone was extremely tall.
And imagine hottub jumping to sort of, you know, take them head out straight away, the man was scared. The problem said, You scare them, it scared him. So we give him something as a compensation. And by the way, just stuffer key point of view, because I was contacted by a sister who was working in a company.
it wasn't a good environment for her. Somehow she was ostracized a little bit, and she was put under some pressure. And then she was
she was dismissed from the job.
Without any warning without any kind of notice. Obviously issues, she tries to sue the company, the lawyer tells her, they they put the case forward, and they guarantee they actually give her some sort of a promise that you're going to win the case. But they said there is something else you can ask for compensation.
Something else you can ask for more compensation, which is about you know, the damage that they caused you by putting you through trouble and that you still you have to sue them and go through all of this hassle and her time. So she contacted me wanting to make sure that she said she says basically, can I take first the compensation that was specified in the law? Because they dismissed me without any notice?
I said yes, of course, that's your right. She says What if or what about other things that are not legal? I said, what's not legal, she said, That's compensation for the hassle that you have to go through? And I said, Yeah, but that's the legal that's part of the law. She says, but it's not Islamic. I said, How come it's not Islamic? Like this kind of pain that you went through and all this hassle and all the distraction and pain you went through? It can be quantified? It can be quantified and some kind of value could be put on it. That's right. Look at the prophets of salaam now here's where we take that from the Prophet and told him or that you scare that he scared that
man you freaked him out. So when you do you give him a compensation for that and I will give it from my own money.
So the proxim compensated him
again, so these are a comparison of the Allahu Anhu and by the way, like Abdullah and I'm going to ask the Allahu Anhu he said, Well, Allah He, Masha be at 18 I remember I saw the laser Salah Mala a call to another off, he hired a minimum of a budtender, who said, I never got enough of just seeing the Prophet Salam, or, or keep observing him out of shyness, out of respect for the Prophet sallallahu sallam, and the Companions by the way, they wouldn't ask the Prophet in many questions. So this is why some of the companies said they used to say, like, can I either
couldn't have been a fly, that whenever we saw a bedwin coming into Medina, like becoming a muslim would we would be happy. Why? Because the people would ask the prophets I said, non stop. And they would ask some crazy questions that we don't have the guts to ask the Prophet SAW Selim.
So that was what the prophets have said that was what the prophets of salaam dealt with so those people would come to the house of the Prophet Islam and scream to the top of their lungs. Yeah, Mohammed ja Muhammadiyah Muhammad until he would come out, but still the province of Suriname will treat them well. And by the way, something about the personal life of the prophet saw Selim, if you violated his personal rights, he was very forgiving.
The Prophet would be shy to tell someone that you wronged me, or I'm not happy with that. One incident Allah subhanaw taala refers to
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some companions used to come to the house of the Prophet SAW Selim. And probably it was an incident when the message was sort of I think, married almost dilemma of the Alana.
That the Companions would come to the house of the prophets, I send them and linger around the house. Hopefully there will be invited to the house of the Prophet sallallahu sallam. And out of shyness, the person would invite them even when it's not comfortable for him. And sometimes the person would invite them for food especially when in his wedding. So they stayed they stayed in the house and they didn't leave like this.
paid for long. And the Prophet Salam was just newlywed and he didn't have time to spend with his new wife. And these companions were there just socializing. So Allah Subhana Allah revealed these verses that the prophets of salaam feels so shy that he tells you that I need my private time with my family. You just stayed for you overstayed. But Allah subhanaw taala does not shy away from saying the truth. So again, so there were people that's, by the way, this is not about being rude or anything. But sometimes cultures are different. Sometimes norms are different, and people's habits are different. So this is the type of people who would come to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa
and obviously it was disrespectful, and it was annoying.
So Allah subhanaw taala sent down this, this surah starting with talking about this incident, and Allah gave them a better alternative rather than just call the name of the Prophet SAW Selim and scream, they should actually wait until the Prophet SAW Sanlam comes out. That would be the etiquette. And by the way, that's what the companions are the Allahu Anhu usually abided by and adopted as a lifestyle. So we find in the famous story in El Kufa, where a woman almost at the Allahu Anhu after Salat al Fajr. He sees groups of people sitting in the masjid as small groups. And upon each group there is one person who's saying to them say subhanallah 100 times and they have
pebbles in their hands and they're counting Subhan Allah spawn laundry times hamdulillah Al Hamdulillah Hamdulillah 100 times and so on and so forth.
So Abu Musa luxury shows he like, okay, that's the speed but we don't know that style, right.
So he didn't say anything. So he went to the house of Abu Abu Abdullah No, my throat abou Abdul Rahman Abdullah Masato, the Allahu Anhu. He went to his house and he found the students of Abdullah Abdullah Mossad, sitting at the doorstep, outside the house of Abdullah Abdullah Massoud. So he comes to them and he says, Hello, J. Man. He says the double Abdullah Han come out they said, Allah Han, Antonio, who, here we are sitting here, we're waiting for him till he comes out. Why? Because they're gonna go to their lesson he's gonna start teaching them. So they're waiting for him. They didn't knock on the door. They didn't say you know, you're late, etcetera. That's, that's the that's
the respect of the students. So the teacher Abu Musab actually looked up to
Abdullah Abdullah Massoud because he was higher than him in knowledge.
So what did he do? He sat with them.
He did not knock on the door was an urgent matter. But he sat with them. And he was waiting till Abdullah
Abdullah Mossad came out, and he told him this story.
And Abdullah said, didn't you tell them that they should count their sins not that good deeds? He said, Now, what can intervertebral Yak? He said No, I didn't say anything. I was waiting for your for what you were going to say what what are your advice? Again, you see that so the companions of the Allah Langham, you know, upheld these principles and the values and they lived by them. Then Allah Subhana Allah gives us a very important thing. And here we're going to talk about how the society can be built. I'm going to go quickly now I'm not going to go in details because sort of a project could really take a lot of sessions. It's really a beautiful, by the way, beautiful,
beautiful Surah there's a lot of lessons and wisdom that we can extract from it.
So Allah Subhan Allah says area you already know, enjoy Confessio convener, but inevitably you don't want to sleep Oh, man, did you hear that in philosophy? Who Allah Martha Illuminati mean? A very important thing, very important etiquette. All believers if an evildoer brings you in any news, verify it so you do not harm people unknowingly. Becoming regretful for what you have done.
There was an incident at the time of the prophets, I said, I'm not I'm not going to talk about that. I'm just going to sort of lay out how this should should be done. So humans are fascinated with fascinated and obsessed with gossip.
You know, he said, she said, we just fail carry, we love to say talk about people backed by people and men, because we love stories as well. We love stories. So you're gonna have people who are going to come to you and tell you things about others. So Allah is saying, don't take that on face value.
Don't accept as a truth again. And by the way, this follows from principle, that you are not supposed to judge between two people until you hear from both sides, both sides. And an immature person what they usually do is what when they hear and by the way, this happens a lot in counseling. So if you if you advise people or you're doing your imposition of counseling, or whatever you're going to find for example, a husband comes to you and he complains about his wife. And if you are going to identify with him, you are doing injustice. If you're going to take whatever he says as the host
Sorry, you're doing injustice to his wife. The same happens if the wave comes about and she paints a picture and you stick whatever she says. And the problem is that if you start giving fatwa and rulings and there are by the way, sometimes people might actually give up Allah in a certain situation without hearing from the other person. without hearing from the other person that said, that would be a crime, that would be a crime because every story has more than one side.
So Allah Samantha is saying when a person comes to you, telling you something about another person or other people do not accept it like that, do not accept it like that. Do not accept it as a fact. Where you put it you put it in some sort of a quarantine,
a quarantine you put it in that quarantine, you don't accept it, you don't reject it because you don't have a proof for it or against it. And you don't know the whole story. That means you do not act upon it, it should not become an active part of your of your behavior.
Are we overtime already?
We started later
Okay, so Allah Subhan, Allah is saying, if you do that, if you and by the way you do this, you can do this with your children. You can do this with your colleagues at work, you can do that with your family with your spouse, you can do that with with anyone with your friends. So again,
Allah subhanaw taala when he that protects society, by the way, so Allah Subhana Allah gives us a double protection by the way here first, when news comes to you about someone you do not you put it in that quarantine, you don't believe it, you don't disbelieve it. You put it in this idle place where it's inactive until you verify the situation and you get all the facts. But again, the second level of protection is that in the first place you're not supposed to carry news about people and backed by people or or Carrie tells. One man came to all hustle bustle and he said such and such you know he's saying these bad things about you.
So what do you think it has an imbecile he said is it didn't Allah didn't cheat on find anyone worse than you to carry this nonsense to me?
So he reprimanded him. But now when someone tells you so and so said that about you, what do we say? Thank you so much. We start bringing them closer, right? Why? Because of our ego, oh, enough's. This person, okay? He's actually doing us. He's not doing us a favor, is not doing you a favor.
And we also should not be that person who carries that kind of message. Someone says something bad about someone. Okay? That's negligible. Leave it. Leave it, you don't have to carry it. But you might think no, I'm being loyal to that person. He has to know what's going on. No, no, no, he doesn't know what was going on. Most of the things that happened in life, by the way, it could have been just odd, negligible, you shouldn't neglect them, avoid them, turn a blind eye. That's how you should live your life by the way. But if you take and that's that's what destroys marriages, by the way, your wife says something and you just sort of dig your heels in the in the ground, you're not
moving away from this spot until you figure out what that is.
I mean, good luck with your marriage. Good luck with that marriage. It's not it's doomed, absolutely doomed. Again, with your child, your child says something or make some mistake, I'm gonna put your nose in the dust. No, you have to ignore a lot. You have to turn a blind eye, you have to turn. That's why some of the Imams of Islam they said this to Ashari Apple photography,
and in our nine tenths 90% 90% of maturity and wisdom is in turning a blind eye towards what people say and what people do, honestly. Because people say all types of stuff and they do all types of stuff. I don't know how I can fit the rest in
I know we have a q&a at the end. I'm tempted to sort of hijack part of it.
While more NFE come rasool Allah he will usually configure Aetherium in amarilla and some Allah this this is a I mean, I'm not gonna go over this quickly. So anyway, I'll try to start the q&a le insha Allah and I will try to go over these inshallah quickly, although there's a lot by the way in the Surah. And I'm tempted actually to maybe give some, some sessions here at the masjid in sha Allah, maybe stop the Sierra for a while and just talk about salted Hydrolat because there's a lot that connects us to Allah subhanaw taala in it. Again, apologies for the late start, and Giacomo here for your presence and for coming here and for your attention. It was a last limited no Mohammed Well, he
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