Moutasem al-Hameedy – Life Of The Prophet 55

Moutasem al-Hameedy
AI: Summary © The importance of hard work and patient approach is emphasized, along with the need for a strong understanding of human behavior and caution in one's approach due to the negative impact of the coronavirus on people's lives. The speakers stress the importance of following legal rules and following the rules of the church, as well as the need for a strong understanding of human behavior and cautious behavior during the upcoming weekend. The difficulty of dealing with emotions and negative situations is also highlighted.
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hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen wa salatu salam ala Sayidina Muhammad, while early he was hobby of mine.

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So after a gap of about two weeks, we go back to the life of the prophet saw Salam.

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we covered

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nadaka, to honey, the Battle of Honey. And again, this specifically

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this point in this era, there's a lot of lessons to be learned. And the reason is, it's a, it's a turning point. It's a turning point. Here, the Muslims take over America. And thus they become a dominant power for the first time in their history. The first time in their history, they become a dominant power in the Arabian Peninsula. That's a huge shift, moving within about talking about 10 years, almost 10 years, from being persecuted, chased out of Makkah into the most powerful government or state, or body in the Arabian Peninsula, and taken over a Mecca, which is sort of the capital of the Arabian Peninsula. That's, that's about 200 years putting in 10. condensed in 10.

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It's such a rapid change. But there is a lesson there is that the Prophet SAW Selim, if you remember about 13 years in Mecca, he was doing a lot of work, and he was doing a lot of data. And then we're seeing very little results. Sometimes there's no results. So this was a lot of effort being put and it doesn't seem to be pay off immediately. And by the way, this is a another universal rule

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that plays out in different in different forms in life, that you sometimes put in an F put an effort into some kind of a project or an endeavor or anything, you just invest a lot of effort and it doesn't seem to pay off. It might seem to fall flat and not produce results. And you might say, okay, all my effort went to waste. Well, if you did that sincerely from your heart, and you were honest and authentic and putting in your effort, then Allah subhanaw taala is not going to let this go to waste is going to pop up somewhere else. It's going to pop up somewhere else and it will appear to you some of the scholars quote the story in

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in Surah, the story of al Qaeda Mossad is some of the other insults and gaffe with regards to the wall that Al Hassan Musa, they find in a city and obviously most affixes that will, which was almost about to fall was leaning was almost falling, so he fixes it. And most assistant, you know, why did you fix it, we should have asked them to pay us for this work, because they haven't given us any kind of they haven't showed any type of his hospitality. They don't offer us food, although we're hungry, and we're guests. So then we'll have to explain to him why he fixed that wall. He said, under this wall, there was a treasure. And the treasure belongs to these kids, young kids, they

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haven't reached puberty, they haven't reached adulthood. So they can dig out their treasure, it was left for them by one of their forefathers. Some of them have a Syrian say it was their seventh grandfather, great grandfather, who actually left that and he and he says what can abou whom outside the hand their father or their grandfather, he was a righteous person. So it pays off afterwards, it paid the the the the fruits of his work showed in the seven grandchildren, seventh generation. And that's profound. And sometimes that's how life works. So sometimes you might actually put in an effort and a lot of and maybe in a study in a fit for you studying a field or something and doesn't

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really give you the fruits. But by the way, the fruits are built in in your sincerity in your actual experience of going through that challenge and being honest and sincere and challenging yourself. You have already built your success and doesn't necessarily show immediately in the form of immediate results. It actually shows up later on. It shows up later on. I don't recall who made that statement was very powerful. And it was one of the I mean someone contemporary he said you get rewarded in public for what you for four years of hard work in private

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get rewarded in public for years of hard work that you did in private.

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So, again, you find the prophets of Salaam, putting in a lot of effort in the muck compared doesn't seem to be a lot of results. But now all of them are just gonna arrive at once or just going to be, you know, flowing in abundance into the life of the prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam by the way, in a sense, we still live in the momentum, the a lot of the advantages that we have is a momentum of the hard work that was put by the prophets of Solomon, the early companions in the early stages of the Muslim Dawa.

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So this is why there's a lot of lessons. So there is a lot of rapid change, Muslims were turning into a major power in the world so rapidly, and so quickly in a short period of time, and the whole dynamics of their life and their situation changes. And you can see how the Prophet SAW Selim and the companies are actually rising up to the challenge, and really handling the situation very wisely, the profits are in keeps up with the challenge, he really the profits of salami can see the growth of his skill and insight and management is profound, you can see an acceleration there. So this is why we're going to stop by some of the events and really try to draw lessons and benefit

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from them.

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So the story that we finished with last time was on the Prophet SAW, Selim was handing out the spoils of war. And we said, this is fake. So we, we divided the war booty or the the spoils of war into two types, there is

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a self which is

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in the battlefield, you face one person of the enemy, and that person has some property, they have the weapons on them, they have the armor and the shield. And they might have some property, like they might have the horse and their camel, and maybe there is some goods in it. Sometimes it has gold and silver, like these people have brought some of their wealth with them. So if you kill that person, then their their personal property becomes yours. This is called a self. This was a universal rule that is observed all over the world. This is called the self. So the very person that you kill, you get whatever, they have their property that's yours. But after the war, there is some

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kind of a collective property that belong to the whole group of your enemy.

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So if you are victorious in the battlefield that is given to the commander of the army to the leader, and there is a way to distribute that there's a way to divide it.

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This is called the fake.

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So the Prophet SAW Salem was handing this out, mainly the the majority of it to the, to the new Muslims from Mecca, the new Muslims in Makkah, who in the past, chase the messenger salamander companions out of Makkah, and to some of the still recent, recent Muslims, like venerable Salim, for example, who still joined the program in his march to Mecca, but there were relatively new Muslims. So the program was giving these people lots like he was giving 100 camels to this person and 100 camels to that person. And that's a huge, huge wealth. It's it really like in today's money, it's in the millions. So he was handing these people and these were the tyrants of Quraysh. But now they

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would have they were Muslim, or new Muslim. So we we said there was a man who was called the hallway Salah and some narrations indicate that he was his name was

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his name was her posts

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help us by the way, he turns out to be one of the ones this guy who also is one of the one who revolts or rebels against Earth man, or the Allahu, and he was actually one of the people who attacked the house of Earth man, I'll be alone, he wasn't asleep and they killed him.

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And as far as if my memory is not if my memory is still okay.

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He was one of the one of those who conspired to kill olive oil. Although he was previously before that he was with the army. It was one of the commanders in the army of leibny are gonna be a toilet or one of the like, because he was a very strong, very strong, physically strong person. So the Prophet Sam was sort of handing out those spoils of war. And this man helped us or the Hoysala he says yeah Muhammad he screams at the top of his voice in front of everyone he says yeah, Mohammed did in a hurry here because SmartOne blah blah blah to be which Allah say Muhammad be just this kind of distribution is not for the sake of Allah.

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He's saying to the Prophet Sal, Mohammed is calling the prophets and salaam with his burning. This was disrespectful. Raghu I mean, regardless of the content of his message and the style that he was delivering that message in

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the companions were shocked I'm gonna help them says all Muslims of Allah, let me let me just chop off the head of this guy. The Prophet SAW Selim handled it well. He turns to me and says we had come in yet didn't imagine he says

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Brought to you who's going to be fair and justify Mohamed Salah Salam is not going to be fair. And just because the Prophet Salam is guided by revelation is guided by revelation. And this shows by the way, that sometimes sometimes the truth might not be straightforward in the sense, we might not be able to see it straight away.

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So oftentimes the truth is supposed to be clear, but sometimes in complex situations,

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you might want to be patient before you make a judgement. You might want to be patient, before you make a judgement that Allah subhanaw taala by the way gives this advice to the believers. A last one that it says yeah you Allah Deena Amen injure confess Juan Bina in Fatima you know, and to Cebu Omen be Johanna for to be who Allah mafia Illuminati mean, or you who believe. If someone comes to you with news, with some kind of news, telling you something about a person or about a group of people, this or that, then verify it's double check, double check before you act, lest

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you act on that, and then you'll regret it.

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And how often we hear something hey, so and so said this, and that you go and react based on that. What happens when you really investigate? It turns out to be not so that's not the case. That's not the case. So this is a chronic principle, the prophets Allah syndrome again, here.

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He, he realized that person like What was he saying that the Prophet SAW Selim is giving more to these new Muslims, he's giving them a lot, and you can tell like he's not gonna get a share? He's not from those who's going to get a shit. So for him, well,

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yeah, Muhammad, you're not you're not being fair, you're not being just.

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So this is absolutely problematic. Again, the lesson here is, you need to be patient. Sometimes the truth might not, like really reveal itself fully to you, depending if the situation is complex. And by the way, this is the trick as well used by some people, to deceive others. So they might some people play games, and they say, like, obviously, like, they're not doing the right thing. And when you question that, they say, well, sometimes the truth does not reveal itself. So this could this, this is a double edged sword, it could be used both ways. It could be used by the scepters, by people who are trying to play games, but sometimes it's true. So this is why you need to develop the

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shrewdness and the patience to see through it. Be patient, don't act on your immediate or first impressions, you need to be careful. You need to be careful. And this happens a lot, by the way.

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Happens a lot between Muslims when there is a matter of difference of opinion.

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By the way, there was filthy opinions that when you read them, or you read the argument of one scholar, they will say the argument is such and such and here's the proof. And it seems to be straightforward. Seems to be like a cannot, it can't be anything else. Like there's no way no one that like no one who holds another opinion has a point. You already jumped to conclusions, but you don't know. You don't know what the argument of that person is, or the other opinion is. So you, as a person as a layman, as an average Muslim, what you can do, okay, like, this sounds to me to make sense. This is a scholar that I trust, and I usually look up to and take from take from them. But

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don't get into other areas. Now you start seeing someone who does something differently. For example, maybe in the prayer some people like when they first go, they first got on their hands on their palms, then they go for sujood. They put their hands first and they put the knees first. You're gonna find some people who put their knees first than their hands first. So you might read a book or read a fatwa from a scholar that says, Well, no, you put your hands first because the Hadith such and such, and that's it. Screw. She said, there's no like, there's no way the other opinion has proof. It's so straightforward. Right? So you start seeing someone who prays when they put they put

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their knees first you say, Brother, you're praying wrong.

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Okay, now you transgress the limit.

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you transgress the limit? Because you don't know. You don't have the knowledge that gets you to make that statement. You might want to ask the brother, you might want to say Brother, you know, I read otherwise, like, well, what would you probably you know, something? I don't know, give me advice. What did you get this from? Maybe Maybe that person doesn't know. They're just following and others. Colin, that's it. But the reality is, when you investigate that opinion,

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you're gonna find the scholars on the other side, they have proofs as well. And they seem to be very powerful.

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So again, unless you have the tools to you know, side with one of them, you can't you you can't you just can't and you shouldn't, you shouldn't so you hear you follow a scholar and you know their evidence. And that's what you do as we call metabo lemma. You follow the scholars based on their evidence, you ask what the evidence

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He says, what is the, the proof the Hadith or the verse that substantiates their point in Perfect, good. But you do not go out policing people telling them hey, that's wrong. Why? Because not, that's not how I learned. And the thing is sometimes, if you do that,

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with people who don't know, you might seem to have the upper hand, but if you come across a person who knows what they're talking about, they will make you feel bad. They make you look bad.

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They make you look bad. And I remember like, I myself personally, at some stage, I used to do this thing with with some of the rulings I used to say, you know, oh, that's it. It can't be any other way. By then I, I speak, and I'm full of confidence that I know this issue inside. I thought I did. So and I go until that's wrong. That's not how you do it. But that but that person was a learned one. He said, Okay, why is it wrong? Come on, let's go through it. I said, here's the ruling. Here's the evidence is so straightforward. He says, Okay, what about this evidence, which is Hadith in Sahih al Bukhari, that's what the prophet ism says. And it suggests the opposite of what you say,

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and here, I start to scratch my head. I never thought of that. Right.

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So then go back to the books and read the books of this cause I realized, man, it's not so simple, or it's not so simplistic. So again, the, this is the mistake that AWS fell into. And he did that very audaciously. He was very bold, in his approach to the profits or some was inappropriate. That's not how you speak to the prophets of Salaam. And look how the high level of character of the prophets of salaam you are victorious. And you know, when people are victorious what they do, they become tyrants, you know, in the, in the hype of victory. And you see, like, you're about to say, I'm God, you just want to say and Abu Kamal Allah, that's how humans are. Read history. When people

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are victorious. You know, they do strange things like you won't think that a normal human being would do.

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And all in all civilizations, and in all cultures. By the way, that's how humans behave when humans are victorious they become, it's very likely for them to become savages, really. So the problem is victorious, and he could be taken by the hype of this victory, but this man is challenging him

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with a sign with a finger just a sign with his own finger, the person could get this man killed.

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But the Prophet SAW Selim response to impersonal sees the bigger picture is not taken by the hype. He's not

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disillusioned by his victory, he's still focused on the whole spectrum or the the full context of reality but a morphic

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and that is, so when. So when Bob hears this conversation on the porcelain repricer this man almost says, Your Messenger of Allah, let me chop off the head of this hypocrite the prophets of Salaam, what does he say? He says, ya

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know, Your Holiness and the Mohammed Madelon. It had that the nurse and the Oculus hobby, no, I don't want I don't want people to say Mohammed is killing his companions. I don't want this to happen. Then the problem talks about how these people are going to manifest themselves in the sense they will seem to quote the Quran, they will seem to worship Allah, they will seem to read the Quran, but they don't really understand it. They don't really comprehend it. And this is an advice for people who start to study the DNS, study the religion, don't jump to conclusions, really know your own worth, know your own worth. You don't. Specially when it comes to declaring other people to

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be wrong, or just pointing out their mistakes. It's it's really as the Arab say, Lisa, that'd be Oh, shaky federal OG, this is not your business. This is not your area, you're not qualified to do that. You're not quite. And imagine if the Muslims really do that they don't jump to conclusions attacking others, you know, we would have a lot of peace, we'd have a lot more harmony, and less partisanship and division, and so on and so forth. So the prophets of Satan was aware here is this strategic understanding of a situation, immediate situation calls for you your authority is being challenged in front of everyone. Instead, you don't act based on your ego, you actually be act by act based on

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your wisdom. So you see the whole situation and you realize, no, I have to act wisely. I have to take consequences in consideration. I should not just act on impulse, because usually when you act on impulse, you will regret it, the consequences will be great. So the Prophet SAW Salem calls back and he says, Leave him leave the smell. And the problem is aware that there will be more damage coming through this person and others like him.

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And sometimes there are things you cannot eliminate. There are evils you cannot eliminate, and that's why they say if you can't

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if you can't change it, you have to change yourself. If you can't eliminate it, you have to learn how to live with it. There are facts about life. There are things that cannot be changed there are unpleasant.

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You have to learn to live with them.

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We can't change everything there or whatever you can change you should actually go ahead and do it. But what you can't change, you have to learn to live with it. You have to learn to live with it. There is a beautiful idea or Maxim in

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he's very powerful. It shows how practical Islamic Africa is.

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It says rule says

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elmen he you know, shovel and laser can do me hasten.

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If something is haram,

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something is religiously, legislatively how long

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it should not be there.

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But actually, it's there. It's done like someone is doing it. We don't treat it as if it's not there.

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We don't treat it as if it is not that we deal with it as if it's there already.

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That's very practical. It's very practical, because for example

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a person

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tries to commit, let's say, Xena, and underwear to committing Zina. And you know, they're going to commit Zina.

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They have it and they happen to trip or maybe there's like a, like a hole in the street and they happen to trip and fall in that in that pit.

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And they need to help.

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Okay, if you're going to treat

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that person based on their sin, you want to take it overboard. You might say, Okay, since you went for a sin, that's your punishment, I'm not going to help you.

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I say no.

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Say no.

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We separate that. Now this position is a human being in this situation, you need to help them

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you need to, you need to help them so the sin has its measured, but if it's a reality, we deal with it. We deal with it as a fact of life. Okay, let's move on.

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We said as the Prophet SAW Selim after, with in this situation being victorious after Hawaii as an entity, if the two tribes have a bar if they run away

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and some of them actually come and they join the proximity, the embrace Islam, they become Muslim.

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One of the ones who will come was an older woman, and we said she was from Bengal sad, and she turns out to be Halima Sadie, who, the nursing mother of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Halima a Sadie. So when she came the prophets of Salaam, took off his clock, and he put it on the, on the ground for her to sit on it.

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And then she sat with the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa salam, we don't know whether she became Muslim or not. But it seems from that kind of interaction. Probably it's pretty likely in that situation that she actually hopefully that she actually became Muslim. Now, we said the prophets of salaam gave all these new Muslims, the leaders of polish and the leaders of the other tribes, he gave them a lot to the point that the spoils of war ran out and some people got nothing. Specifically, the problem also give them a hygiene.

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The margerine who were originally from the problem, give them a share.

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The ones who got nothing, literally nothing. Were the unsolved from Medina. There were the unsolved from Medina.

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So they even like so they felt left out, they felt like it's a very awkward situation. Like, obviously, there the human nature is, their immediate kind of thinking is, well, we made a lot of sacrifice. We are the ones who welcome the prophets of Solomon Medina after he was chased. Were the ones who gave him shelter. We are the ones who put ourselves in a position of enmity towards all of the Arabs in the Arabian Peninsula, to protect the prophets or sell them and give him shelter, give him a city. And we helped him and we helped establish all of this. And now when it pays off, we're left out.

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So a good number of them felt that way to the point that even Sonnambula Thurber told the Allahu Anhu the poet has great protocols. He made some kind of lens of poetry initiated and obviously poets at the time. Like just like rappers sometimes you have very good rappers who just, you know, just, they come up with it right on the spot. You speak you have a conversation within the situation. They start rapping, they just make it up on the spot, right? This is how poetry was at the time. For them poets, they could just speak poetry. Like, they could just come out naturally. It's not like rehearsed or prepared.

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they just pop up in their head and they speak poetry. That's it. So her son with habits was was like this. So he has some lines of poetry. I want to just quote the main ones that are very, like they talk about the situation.

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Very straightforward. So

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it's basically like we were taken by sadness, and by tears, and we're feeling like sort of left outs.

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And then he says, he praises the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. He says, What to rasool Allah, He familia que la motorman income to the Prophet Salam, and say, You are the one that we trust the most, el Mina either de la Bashar who is the best among humanity Allama to the SRA manual, he enters he has a man or a woman whom our warm Nazzaro Why do you give and favor bluesoleil Like when they they used to be the enemies of the Muslims and they fought against the Muslims many times? Like why do you give them and you you, you sort of offer them something. When there is another group of people or they are the one who championed you and supported you. So Maham Allahu unsalted Nina see

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him dentistry he me needlessly me Dean and Dean alHuda where I want to help you to stay true. Allah called them the unsalted luck will them be helpers when they were supporting the religion of Allah and they are the ones who will really like when the when the when the battlefield was at its highest at the peak, they are the ones who jumped right into it, which I had Wolfie sebelah who were a total fool in EBRT Famicom one module. So and they fought for the sake of Allah, and they faced the most difficult situations, and they never coward, like they will never acted cowardly. And they never gave up on you.

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Were naturally born Elena to Malaysia, Anna ilustrado, for Accra, Ghana was and when we sort of gave you shelter, everyone took a position of enmity against us, like we compromised and our relationships, we, we sort of set ourselves like,

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like we were sitting ducks for everyone just because we gave you she gave you shelter.

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Then he talks about how powerful the answer is in the battlefield and he talks about bedroom and he talks about a herd.

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So basically, it was some sort of like, why is this happening? Why is this happening? So the younger ones among them, then they were saying, young Pharaoh Allahu Rasulillah you're not a corporation. We're gonna, we'll show you for now talk to Roman demon him. The younger ones among the unsolved still the youth. They say May Allah forgive Allah's Messenger, may Allah forgive the messenger, he is given a rush. And he's leaving, he's leaving us, he left us

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and our swords are still dripping with their blood.

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We are the ones who used to find them in bed or in Ohio in 100. In the Battle of the Trench, and other battles were the ones who defended him against them, and their blood is still on our swords. And now he gives them you know, the results of all of this work.

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Some of them also said either candidate should get to Canada, we're not all of China or Europe or total of an MOV Rana. So they said when it's like when when the going gets tough, we're called upon, but when the spoils of war and the blessings are being distributed, we were left out, others have been given.

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Some of them also said all the messengers of salaam finally reunited with his people, indicating Okay, now he's going to forget us. Is this going to join his people?

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Sad, do we know about that being one of the main leaders of the unsolved, realizes man, this is a troubling situation. And by the way, here are lessons with how to deal because sometimes good people

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they panic.

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But people have doubts about one another, have misunderstandings. We're going to see a very sensitive situation here and how to handle it how the how the Companions how the Prophet Selim handled it, you're going to see the main theme here is being truthful and straightforward. No deception and no hiding. No hiding. You're very clear about everything is straightforward about everything. You state all the facts. And you don't hide stuff. You're not you might because oftentimes in difficult situations, we say no, I'm just going to be nice. Don't Don't be nice. Don't be nice. be straightforward. Be straight up when it's the truth. Obviously, you have to be

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respectful, but you don't hide faxing. Okay, yeah, it's okay. Well, you're not happy by you just swallow that and you're gonna move on. Man, you're setting up setting yourself up for a bad relationship because that's going to germinate. You're going to suppress that. It's going to germinate inside you and it's going to grow into a monster that will destroy that relationship and that's what happens with marriages. That's not what happens with them.

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marriages so usually among spouse spouses, if something goes wrong there's a situation you feel that your wife did not treat you well, she said something and it wasn't nice. may say, Okay, I'll forget it. I'm a good husband I'm just going to let that go. Well if it really hit you you shouldn't do that. Maybe you should wait until things come down. But you should bring it up hey listen, I can't get over this. You said such and such already you've acted in this way and it's not it's not settling with me. Let's fix it. Let's fix it let's bring it up. So if I'm going to allow in has to go in nicely when it's a good shape, otherwise you will be swallowing some poison and it will get it

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will get into a monster later on.

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So sad note about this is all of this he realizes man we need to deal with this. We need to deal with this he himself is not able to give answers to those younger ones. So what does he do he goes to the prophets of Allah Salaam and he says the apostle Allah in her that hey Yemen, Al unsalted, which I do at a coffee unfussy him. Lima Sonata if he hadn't failed at the SubTerra for a scientific Olmec we're after it Allah environment for you. While I'm here, Kofi had the middle and sorry mean Hashi. He says all Messenger of Allah, the unsalted

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are having issues with the way you distributed this the war booty, they're having issues with that? Straightforward. We're not playing games yet. That's the situation. Okay, let's figure out how to deal with it. So they see that you have given a great deal to your people, or Irish. And you have given great gifts to the Arabs or the Arab tribes, and the unsalted got nothing.

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Now, this is a moment of extreme like radical honesty, radical honesty. And that's what this situation requires.

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Oftentimes, people would like just to sort of, you know, let go, man, or you would say to the youth, forget it. It's all right, man. It's all right. Now, of course, it's not a big deal, right? Well, it might sound nice. But as the report is, well, either Module is a module from Allah facade into UniFi, a male or a baby. Now, if you have some kind of wound, and you don't treat it properly, you just don't disinfect it, and you just wrap it.

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If it's contaminated, it's going to, you know, deteriorate, it's going to grow worse, there will be infection, there will be issues and complications, right. So again, this is a situation you need to deal with it properly, it might be painful, might be painful to open that cut, and clean it and fix it. It's painful, it's not pleasant, you don't want to deal with that, right? But it's not good. It's not as not good as a long term plan, it's going to just make things worse. And by the way, that's how most of us do with their life. There's an issue and emotional issues, psychological issue, or relational, as you said, in marriage, or maybe just your own, you've been through one

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experience through a situation and it really hits you deep.

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And when you do, you just want to run away from it, instead of you facing it, and dealing with it and fixing it once and for all. You sort of swallow it and think it's gonna go away by you ignoring it, very bad strategy, very bad strategy.

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So it's just going to go deeper inside, and it's going to mess up your psyche.

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And then it's going to appear, it's going to show up in very, in very bad ways, in very bad ways. So and most of them are going to be subtle and sneaky. And you won't realize you won't realize a very common thing I want to point this out.

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Some sisters might not happy with this might not be happy with this, but it's actually a very common occurrence. You will find oftentimes, in some Muslim cultures, females, from a young age, they are made to serve everyone in the house. They're really worked hard. And they'll need to be obedient, and so on and so forth. So they have to serve their father and their brothers and their mother and so on and so forth. Then afterwards, what happens until she grows into adulthood, then she's given a marriage. And most of the time, sometimes she doesn't have a big choice that she doesn't have a big see in that relationship. So sometimes it's an arranged marriage, sometimes it's a cousin,

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sometimes, there's a lot of pressure, that's a good guy seems to be good. He has a lot of monies, so on and so okay, just from a good family, you just go so Oh, we're not forcing you. Okay, but they just keep nagging her day and night. We're not forcing you, right. But she gets into the marriage into them and the marriage she is supposed to serve her husband, like, make sure all his clothes are washed and ironed, and his food is ready. His breakfast is ready. The moment he wakes up. The moment he comes back, his dinner is ready. And everything is just everything is perfect, right? And then

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she starts having children one after the other, right, going through pregnancy and whatever, whatever comes with pregnancy, and so on and so forth. And she's just working hard. She's giving

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got herself is she's giving herself to others, right from being a young girl into inner family, they're into her marriage. Okay. And that is shown as devotion and selflessness and sacrifice is a wonderful thing for a mother to do, right. And she has very little choice in all of this. So she's basically she doesn't

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like, like her personal preferences, her personal, like interests and passions are all sacrificed. So it's all about just running up to the kids and the husband and making sure everything's in its place. And it's hard work. It's really extremely hard work. And she's staying up at night with the with the younger kids and, and then she has to wake up to make the breakfast and she has to prepare the kids for school, she has to wash their clothes, she has to help them do the homework. It's just like, there's no rest.

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And then when she, you know, reaches middle age, or afterwards, later on senior age, now she starts acting funny.

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She starts challenging her kids like Where's your loyalty? Like her son?

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Like he's spending his in good terms with his wife? Like, she's not happy with this, your wife to cue from me?

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Or the daughter?

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Right? I mean, why are you with your husband all the time?

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It happens. There's a lot of these cases, by the way, and she's very bitter. She's very resentful, like you guys, like we gave you everything. And now you leave us. You leave us to our fate. You're just busy with your kids. And you get like, we gave you everything. And now you give everything to your husband to your kids. What about what about me what all the sacrifice, I've done this and that, and this and that for you and everything. And sometimes some people become very resentful, and they become very toxic.

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And people wonder why? You wonder why? Because you made wrong choices from day one. Because you've been calling this selflessness when it is subjugation.

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Its subjugation is not a healthy relationship to be like this, people should be given their space.

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A relationship should be between two people who are at some level equal, emotionally equal.

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So then,

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then people start calling her Oh, she's the typical mother in law. Oh, she's a toxic person, she wants to destroy my life. It's not necessarily like this, but it's been building up, you've been giving all of that stuff, good names, devotion, help, and selflessness, and so on and so forth. But you've been swallowing all of these poisons, and now they're going to come out. They're going to come out, they have to, they have to. And the by the way, I'm saying these things, I'm not just by the like, I'm not having joy. I'm not experiencing a lot of joy talking about these things. But there's a lot like this. In our community, Muslim communities, there's a lot. Now Muslim countries

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home here, you don't want to see what's going on there. It's even worse, it's even worse. But that's what happens. That's what happens. People suffer a lot, you find some and sometimes not only ladies, but this is more with ladies, because they tend to be more, more easygoing, it's easy to get a woman to do what you want. If you are the father, or if you are the mother, or if you are the husband. It's easy, but you're just getting, you're destroying this person, she's going to become very toxic. But that also happens with with men. It happens with men as well happens with children. It happens with everyone. So you just have to be careful, you don't swallow something if it's not right, the

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same here. So I don't know, bad does not going to swallow this, I'm not going to let this go. It has to be fixed. He realizes that if these people we just

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if we just explain it away, we just wing it and forget that's the problem. He knows what he's doing, which is true.

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But it doesn't register emotionally. It doesn't register emotionally. So he realizes, man, we need to fix this at the root level. At the root level, we can't let this fester. So when they when he says to the problem, okay, these people that's what they say you're giving your people given the Arabs? And the answer haven't got anything.

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The prophets have to ask said he says for ain antem in daily chaos at the Prophet Sam wants to see because that is a leader and where the leader is makes a big impact on their followers. So he says where are UASI? Where do you stand with regards to this?

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is sad gonna, like sort of pretend to be like, play this kind of self righteousness? Oh, yeah. I don't care about this. It's just the younger ones. Right? That'd be lying.

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That'd be lack of honesty.

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And this is why we have to give it to that generation.

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Yours. He's speaking with the Prophet sallallahu and he will send them it's very sensitive situation. And he knows how upsetting this attitude is going to be to the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam, he knows but he's just gonna say it straight.

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says where are you? You're sad with what do you stand with?

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With regards to this, so it says the other sort of low

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return men call me almost in Java. I'm just one of my people.

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So they're okay. It's not he doesn't have an answer. It puzzles him as well. The situation puzzles him. Like he's not it's not as bad as it is with the youth, but It puzzles me.

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Obviously, I'm, I don't know, I can't, I can't

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make sense of what's going on.

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That takes a lot of courage. And that's the level of honesty by the way that really helps relationships, survive survive hard times. Oftentimes, when we think about honesty, and and like, openness,

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when we can torture the other person with it, like someone like once, okay, I need to be honest with my wife, like, catch her doing something wrong, that's bad. You see, it's bad. You shouldn't be doing it this way. That's not honesty. That's not honesty, man. This is just you're taking advantage. You're taking advantage but look at this level of honesty. He said to the Prophet some of the situation is because he realized how dangerous and serious it is. Then the Prophet M asks him straightforward. What about you is at where do you stand

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on because he knows the human dynamics leaders. If the leader knows what it is, it's it will be easy we can fix that. But if the leader is not able to figure out and and understand the situation fully.

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That's much bigger than that we need a more radical a deeper action deeper treatment.

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So he says he also law I'm just one of my people. The prophets of salaam says Vijay Mallya, CalMac, bring my people to you, or bring your people to me, bring them to me. So we have to address that. And that shows communication is important. Communication is important. You might do the right thing.

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But if you do not inform people whose lives

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you know, are connected to that decision, you risk being misunderstood. And don't blame others.

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Don't blame others communicate in and to communicate, make yourself clear. And here's why. There's there's a like some sort of verb. Like a proverb. In Arabic they say, I'll buy an yacht or the shape on being clear. expels shape on away. Expensive shape ombre brings doubt. shaytaan brings dissension and problems among people. He puts doubt plans doubt in your mind about me. Why did I do this? Why did why did he do this? Why did he do that? Maybe he means this and that right shirt on? That's how he brings about enmity among people. But when you when you clarify to people, okay, you leave no room for conjecture. People cannot guess why you did that you just spit stating it. So you don't

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leave no room for Shavon Shavon fills in those gaps. Fill in the blanks.

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The prophets of Solomon de was with his wife Sofia. At night. He was walking with his wife Sophia at night.

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Two companions walk past him.

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They say Salam Alikum and they walk away. The problem says while he comes salami says in the house Sofia, this is Sophia by the way.

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Is the only gonna sit down. This is Sofia,

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uracil Allah, we're going to have doubts about you like you're gonna, you're walking with some stranger woman? Are we going to have doubts about the Messenger of Allah? Are we going to have doubts about the Messenger of Allah, the Prophet says in the ship and I usually mean MD Adam Magellan Domina, shaytaan runs through the veins are through Adam through the son of Adam, just like blood runs through the veins, there is no square millimeter in your in your body where there is no blood vessels.

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And that means she plan is just is just with you all the time. You know, jumping in every, every opportunity. So again, you need to keep things clear. And you keep things clear, you avoid misunderstanding. When you under communicate, there's a lot of problems. There's a lot of misunderstanding, people are not on the same page. And you'll be surprised how people different interpreting one situation by the way, you might think well, that's self evident. So clear. This is how the situation is normal. People see from different perspectives, different angles. So you have to, you have to communicate and that's why there's a rule in leadership. They say it's impossible to

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over communicate.

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That means no matter how much you communicate, you cannot overdo it. You always fall short.

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You always fall short. Why? Because you just have to keep communicating, communicating, communicating, because you don't realize where blind people's blind spots are. You don't realize you just don't see it. People come with interpretations of certain situations. I'm telling you if you deal with marital disputes Allama Stan, you're going to see how people can see the same story as completely different

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completely different stories completely different.

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So that's the capacity for interpretation. That's a human capacity that we have. So you need to be careful, communicate, communicate, especially with your spouse, communicate with your children. Oftentimes parents think like there's a, there are parents who are so busy working, because they want to

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sort of secure a good life a good level of life living standard for the children. And thus, they don't spend time with their children. They don't get to spend time with their children. They don't get to have patience with their children. Because you come back home burnt out. And your kids when they see you this smother, don't want to play with you. Just keep go away from me. Like I don't I don't want to see no one I want to, I want to go like I want to. I want to hide in the basement and I want to just time to myself like you're going crazy. Because you're just spread so thin. You overwork yourself. So. So you think you know, my kids understand. They understand that I'm doing

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this hard work for them. They have no clue.

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They have no clue. All they see is that you don't want to play with them.

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That's how they see it. In their small mind. That's how it appears.

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Same with spouse wife, someone says, Well, you know, like women, you have to keep reminding them how much you love them every five minutes. And if you don't do it, the last few

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they will ask you, do you love me? Go man, I just told you that. Like last year, I told you that. That's how men think.

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I told you last year on what you love. You know, I told you when we first got married, I told you so it's done deal. Hello. I was like, I don't have to do that again. No, man, every five minutes. Set your alarm clock.

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Okay, I love you. I love it. You know, there was a guy

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forgot it was an IT guy and what he did. He put together some kind of software at the time, there was no apps, but he put a software on his personal computer where he basically sends his mess his wife

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sweet words. So he connected to some kind of I don't know, like, it's kind of website reference website that has a lot of like, romantic statements or words and so on and so forth. So so he connected the software to that website. So every day it comes up with a few times a day, it comes up with a sweet word, romantic word, and it goes straight to his wife's inbox.

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And it was all automated for years. So it's why I was getting all of these all of these messages. Thank you. Oh, it's like such a romantic guy. Right. And he was playing Playstation all the way.

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Okay, so So the President says to start doing better its value Comac bring bring your people to me.

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And that requires courage.

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You just come out of a battle. You've just come out of the battle. Actually two battles you've just conquered Maccha a very huge step in the history of Islam. And it's not an easy thing like emotionally it's quite demanding and then nineteen's days later you go and fight this army You almost lost the battle at the beginning Did you manage to win it and then you chase these people to their home town Tata if and you set a siege around them but you come break in so you withdraw and then you start actually handling you know distributing the spoils of war and people are just we've mentioned some of those that people are running off to the Prophet SAW Selim give me give me give me

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because they see the person has given this person that person give me give me the people actually chase the person in the corner him and there was a tree behind him to the point that his own cloak or his own is like the the upper garment it got stuck on the branches of the of the of the tree and it was pulled off him and he says oh people give me my Garmin back like give me my my upper my upper reader back. Give it to me Wallahi if I have those like valleys full of wealth I would give it to you on I would leave nothing to myself.

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But so that's the moment the person run out of all the spoils of war by the way there was nothing left. So those some of the Bedouins especially the nomads who are very rough and aggressive in their approach that we're chasing the Prophet, give us give us and give us and give us and they literally chased the props of them into the tree.

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So imagine it's very confusing there's 1000s of people and there's a lot of demanding situations yet the prophets of salaam knows I have to address this now.

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Now I'm I have to do with it.

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It takes a lot of courage takes a lot of composure takes a lot of emotional power and it takes a lot of focus takes a lot of focus, you should be distracted, you should just be you know you should actually be completely drained, drained, but the problem says this address that as a very sensitive situation like you need to choose your words carefully.

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you know when when people are like, emotionally aroused and very sensitive situation? People feel betrayed.

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And people feel deeply hurt.

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Or it's similar to a state of paranoia.

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And, you know, that's just like when someone is angry and tell them hey, calm down, it's okay and it's really not okay. I don't want to calm down. And everything you say, to try to calm them down makes them feel worse. And they take offense to the smallest things you say. Right. That's how situation is you need to choose your words very carefully. So the Prophet sizes so sad goes, he brings the unsolved all of them under one sort of huge, massive tent. And they all sit there,

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sad goes to the prophet comes and he says the Rasul Allah, this term, Allah, the human alongside or messenger of Allah, the unsalted, they're all gathered together. Prophet Sam goes to them. So he starts by praising Allah subhanaw taala.

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And then he says Yama, Shan and salt. Have you really listened to first the honesty of the Prophet sites? And the skill, the conversational skill.

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That is, again, coupled with honesty, there's no manipulation there. There's no manipulation. There's just truth. And he is calling upon the best in the answer. He's calling on the best of NASA. He counts on their faith. That's how he deals with it.

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If he were to use the same kind of language within up new Muslims, it won't work or backfire. But the prophet Sam knows who these people are and how to address them. So he's saying gamma Sheboygan, salt

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malerkotla Tune Bella cockney Hancom

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what is the statement that I hear about you? Or you had something that you said?

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Would you get on with it to Mojave unfussy calm and something that you emotionally found hot something you felt that was against you there was something that I did against you

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and you're the you can tell from the words of the Prophet Solomon speaking is very decisively very like he's not being Smiley. He's actually being very straight up to them

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to Kampala and for her Docomo Allah, didn't I come to you when you were misguided? And Allah guide you through me?

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One motor federal 18 FL Aletheia como la hooby. And you were divided amongst yourselves and Allah brought unity among you by means of me.

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We're Arlington Farrakhan Alchemilla who be and you were

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suffering from lack and poverty and Allah gave you abundance through me.

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They said Bonilla, who are a Zulu who a man who after

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they said Allah and His Messenger hug have given us more than that.

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More than so we agree and more than that.

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So the problem says, Hola. Hola to je Bonilla, Mashable unsolved, he says, Why don't you answer me?

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Why don't you answer me They already gave an answer. Right? They already said, you know, Allah and His messenger did more for us than what you just said. It's more it's even more than that.

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person saying Why don't you answer me?

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So they said we'll be more than OG baccarat rasool Allah when Allah He was truly Hyndman Walford, they said what should we say on Messenger of Allah? Like who just say basically saying, All favors are from Allah and His messenger. So Salam upon us like we are showered with that.

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The listen to what the prophets of salaam says, and this is radical honesty.

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Like there is

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zero manipulation.

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By the way, manipulation we all do it all the way to the people that are closest to us.

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The Prophet says, the same what should we say like what answer you're looking for? He said, a male Hola. Hello shipped en la. Fela Sadhak Tommaso dictum,

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a Daytona will cabin for some duck neck while my rollin phantosaur neck. What are Eden for our neck were eaten for an Enoch?

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Problem says by Allah. If you wanted you could have said and you would be truthful.

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If you wanted to say the following and you could have said it, and you would be truthful, and I would believe you and I would confirm that.

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You would have said

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you came to us being rejected, and we believed in you.

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You were let down.

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We supported you.

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You were chased out of your town.

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We gave you shelter, we gave you our town.

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And you came to us penniless with nothing. And we gave you our wealth.

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You could have said that, right?

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He's he is stating their answer for them, he realizes that they're too shy to see that. But the problem doesn't want to brush it off.

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He doesn't want to brush it off, because that's what we do oftentimes in our relationships, right? We give a silencing answer. We think we're being smart, right? We sort of have a good comeback on the person. They can't, you know, they don't have an immediate answer. They feel baffled, right? And think, Okay, perfect. I silence them. What about the problem that is underneath? It's gonna get worse. What about that? So it's not wise, it's not wise. Look, at the honesty. The Prophet Islam is stating what they could have said, the answer that they could have. And they're saying it's true. If you were to say it, it's true. And I confirm it, it was true.

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Then he says,

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So now he's actually and that's what the beauty about this. He's showing them, hey, it's a fair game.

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It's a fair game, I'm not going to use my status as the messenger of Allah to silence you. Again, I'm not going to choose this position of me being the husband to silence my wife.

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Right? Because I have, I have the authority. I'm not going to use my physical power and appearance to silence my kid.

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And I'm not going to use that to silence someone else. Just some people are not very like verbal. They're not very eloquent with their speech. And you just give them that powerful answer. And they don't know what to say.

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I think, yeah, I own them. I got them. You didn't, you set yourself up for something worse, that's gonna grow. And that's, by the way, what happens with marriages find after a long time in a marriage, all of a sudden, all of a sudden usually happens. Husband walks away and the family get it? Why 30 years has been going through so much, right?

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Every time he tries to address that, it does get somehow it gets lost in in a drama, or you find a wife after so long in a marriage. Okay.

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See you in the hereafter. I said, I don't want you anymore. Why? I'll it's been happening, right? You think you're being smart to silence your spouse? To give them like a smart answer. You can't have a comeback on this right? I got you. Well, yeah, we'll see what's gonna happen. What's gonna pop up 20 years from now, and you won't make the connection. You won't make the connection. I know what happens, by the way, like statistics now that indicate when someone goes through a divorce, by the way

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that's one of the most difficult things that could happen not just emotionally, financially, socially, everything. Like,

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like, the price of divorce these days has never been like in human history, as bad as it is now.

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It's extremely bad, extremely bad. For both, for both. So So the Prophet SAW Selim is giving it here. It's a fair it's a fair deal. who you are. I know you out of respect and shyness. bashfulness. You're not going to say that. But here I will say it for you. We want a fair deal. We don't want I don't want to play games with you. There's no that's not what the process does. And you know what, you win their hearts.

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You win their hearts. And again, as a Muslim, why do you want to play games?

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Why do you want to play games? There's no way there's no way you can justify that. Okay. So the promises and then he says he changes now the way he addresses them.

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Now he starts addressing the heart. He says, Oh budget Tom feet and fusi, Camilla Marshall and salt. Fill it in minute duniya to a left to be her Coleman view slim.

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While we're called to Camila Miko, he says, Oh anzar

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Do you find it hard? But you find a grungy news in your hearts or in your chests with regards to some some of the beauties of this world a little bit of the beauty of this world that I have given to some people in order to win them over into Islam?

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Is that the reason for your grudge and this feeling?

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And I have left you for your Islam. I count on your faith. So that's why I didn't give you then he says FLR thought Ilona. Yeah, I'm not sure and so and yet the hub A nurse will be shared he will bear with her Do you interview Rasulullah sallallahu any he will send them a few the honeycomb

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Don't you want to be happy once you'll be pleased? or unsought that people go back to their homes? Having taken

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camels and sheep,

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when you the unsolved, you go back home

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and with you is the messenger of Allah.

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So he's taking them to a different level of logic. Wake up, wake up to the reality. You guys are caught up in this game of having more getting more right. Then he says for well Levine FC Neff. So Mohammed Anbiya de la will Hijra la come tomorrow, Mohammed Al Assad, the President says by the one in whose hand my soul is,

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had it not been for the fact that I migrated to Medina, I would have been from the unsought

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I'm from you. That's what he's saying. But technically because I came from Mecca as an immigrant, I'm from the MaHA Julian

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but I am indeed from you. When Oh Salah can associate a banana silicon and Satoshi had been there select to share but unsolved and if people all of humanity take one path I will take the path of the unsolved people take one path down so I'll take one path I will take the path of the unsolved

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an unsolvable she she had a nasty thought

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this is a little bit culturally so he says. So the Arabs used to have two levels of government today we have same thing we have an undershirt and underwear right? So let's say we have an undershirt and then we have

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maybe some sort of a jersey over it or our shirt over it or a jumper so

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the Arabs is well they used to have

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first garment that they that would be like sticking to like direct indirect contact with their with their skin, but then they would have the outer garment which is outside again similar thing to layers of clothing. So the prompts I'm single Ansaldo share out the answer are more like my under shit. Like they're so close to me like they are connected to my skin.

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Whereas the other people that you have those Muslims outside these people are like my outer garment they like my jumper

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so he's saying You are the closest to me. You're the closer you love my undershirt, you're so close to me. You're like my skin is to your skin, that's where we are together. But other people are on the outer level on the outer you know on level of clothing so sort of the outer garment but they're not as close to me.

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Then the problem says Allahu Mohammed unsolved, or Allah have mercy upon the unsolvable Obinna unsolved and the children of the ensemble abna The children of the children have the answer.

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So the unsolved started weeping and crying now they were in tears completely in tears until their beads were wet with the tears. And then they said the whole Lena Rasulillah. Here, Chrisman will help via the same We are pleased with the Messenger of Allah as our ship.

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That's a profound, really profound situation. Like

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I personally have no words to

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even like, digest this fully.

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This is a situation where the leadership and the maturity and the depth of the prophets of salaam manifests itself so beautifully, so beautifully.

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Like who would who would be able to handle a situation just like that in these conditions? Were very like,

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like a very hectic, it's a very hectic situation, but the kind of depth and thus the centeredness of the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.

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And look at the unsolved how the problem addresses them and how they respond and how he takes their mind and their understanding to this to the next level is that you think it's about how wealth is to think it's about numbers. You think it's about camels and sheep. These people are all they're walking away with is what is this wealth.

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She's obviously like, one day you get it next day you lose it, it comes and goes, you are going back with the messenger of allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, really that sort of last a moment of awakening, it's a moment of Jacoba like wake up to the truth.

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Wake up to the truth. And you know sometimes it happens in our in our daily life. Some days sometimes you're in a situation the other day I

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go on, it was was called a couple of days ago. So I saw this beautiful sandals. It was like really looks really nice sandals.

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And I haven't had a good one for years. So I thought it was it was an on Facebook marketplace for $5. And I thought oh man, that's a good deal. So pretty was there for a few minutes. So I asked about it. And the person said it was pending and then I got a message that it was not though

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The state of pending was taken off. So then I contacted the person again, I said is still available. And it was a lady. She says yes, it's still available. So okay, can pick it up tomorrow. She says, I can leave it for you outside. And we'll be in a bag, put the money in the mailbox. Perfect. So I go, and I find the sandals. And apparently when I went it was about

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2pm. And it was

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it was Wednesday. Was it Wednesday? It was Wednesday. Yeah. extremely cold. Very cold. Right.

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So, so I like to check the sandals, make sure that the right size, so I get one of them. And so I fixed it. I fixed it. It cracks was frozen. And obviously it wasn't genuine leather. So I that's the I could tell it was plastic. So I cracked. I said okay.

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But well, it wasn't my size either. Anyway.

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So I thought I wasn't going to get it is smaller size. But it cracked the mind. I just put it and then I message the lady and I say listen, I just checked it. It's, it's it's not my size. It's small. So I'm not, I'm not going to take it. But when I picked it up, it cracked in my hand. Because it was extremely, it was frozen. So if you want, I'll compensate you for that. And I thought to myself, like, man, it's $5 it's not a big deal, right? But she really acted nasty. And she says, like on Facebook, you don't try out things like you just buy them. That okay, I don't do that. But anyway, then

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I said, Okay, I'll give you the money. But I already drove off. And she wasn't at home there was obviously seems like there was no one at home. So So I said, I'll give you the, I'll give you the $5 Now that we do put them in the mailbox, she said she just goes off on me like on Facebook, you don't try things out. And well, it's not like a store and and and and it goes all all I said listen, I just sent a text and said, Listen, I'll put the money in the in the mailbox. So I go and put the money in the mailbox mailbox. And I go, and that's it. And I leave it. And I think to myself really had I just gone without putting the $5 I would have I would feel bad about myself. Still, I mean,

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regardless who was wrong, I don't think it's like she was wrong, or I was wrong completely. But it cracked in my hand.

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So I'd rather take responsibility for that. So morally speaking, I was at peace, I was really a presenter, look, I mean, it's $5 like it's gone. There are some times there are situations when there is 1000s of dollars involved, and your real luck for you. It's a matter of life and death. But when you look at that three years down the line in your life, you say, man, it wasn't worth it. Because even if I had those 3000 years, they won't be here now they would be gone. They'll literally be gone. So that's money. So the Prophet was sort of making a more a more profound argument. He was saying to them, You people are going to take that money. Right? But you take the profits Awesome.

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That's your share.

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Wow, that was that was a again a moment of awakening. So the the way the process and manage this was extremely like I would say I want to say professional, but it was more than that. It was profound, it was wise. That's wisdom. That's wisdom. Half of it hedgehog himolla. In his book for Tilbury he actually comments on this. And he just draws some lessons from that from this. And he says the way the prophets Allah, Allah when he was sending them sort of puts in order the blessings of Allah upon the answer, the sequence how the Prophet and built that argument was so profound, and so powerful. So he comments on this.

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And he basically says, like, look at what the prophets I send them reminded of reminded them of, first, the most important

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of the gifts of Allah that you were misguided, you were lost, and Allah guided you through me. That's the number one that's the that's the top of the list. Then second one is that you were split among yourselves, but you were divided. And Allah brought you together in a state of unity by means of me.

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And then you were in a state of lack and poverty, and Allah brought you richness and riches through me,

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through me, so I've been hired as saying this is a very beautiful sequence because humans need faith more than anything else, they need guidance more than anything else. And then comes their social well being which is obviously connected to their emotional well being, which is people getting on together. And that's why it's actually profound. It's an important thing. Having having social stability is extremely important. Because if, if you don't have social stability, by the way, you live in a troubled society or you yourself do not fit in with a society. It's hard for you to function. It's hard for you to have a healthy life even in your own home. It's hard. It's just hard.

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So when you're having issues let's say fights and feuds with your some of your siblings or some of your brothers and sisters or family

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It's hard really to focus on work, it's hard to, you know, focus on your family always be troubled, it will always bother you, it was bugging in the background, it will really drain drain your energy.

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And, and then the last thing the President said, you were poor, and Allah gave you a lot of riches through me. And again, that shows that material wealth comes at the bottom of these three, these three guidance is the most precious thing. And then that kind of unity, and the social stability and comfort, and then the wealth, all of them are blessings. But if you want to order them, or put them in an order, hierarchical order, that's how they come according to the level of their importance and their impact on you. And that's where you find the rapport people who are really have the faith, they live a meaningful and, and wonderful life. Yet they struggle. And they go through pain, they go

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through moments of sadness, and they go through trials. And that's true. But there is a level of contentment and level of peace in their heart that compensates for that makes it up.

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And, again, when people have a very meaningful social life, they might not be rich, but actually makes the life very stable, very meaningful and very rich.

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And there are people who have the wealth, but they don't have the lag those those two things and they're struggling.

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It still doesn't mean that wealth is not good, because when wealth is there, it does make life easy for you. It does live it like especially if you use it wisely. You know how to manage it, it actually is an it's a powerful resource to have it it's a great advantage. And we shouldn't play it down. Or we shouldn't play dumb. It's not a virtual being poor by the way. It's not virtuous. It's not virtuous, being poor.

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Okay, then the prophets Allah said, and by the way, he sort of clarifies why.

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Why he gave those people why he distributed the spoils of war this way, and that's what I'm going to close with inshallah. And it shows that this is actually guided by revelation. The Prophet SAW, Selim says, in New York, the home and a half or Villa home was a home.

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Its processor says, I give some people out of fear to avoid

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their crookedness and their paranoia.

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So there are people who not

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like not all people are good. There are people no matter how good you treat them, they're not going to be good. But the person wants to mitigate their evil.

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The problem wants to sort of, like, reduce and minimize the damage that comes through these people. So he gives them he gives them

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he wins them over. He wins them over. And that's something extremely important. By the way, remember some of the people some of the DUA, I'll share when basil came along to her. They said, What do we do with people who are like not with the Sunnah who are against the sun. He said, Don't make enemies.

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He said, the people that you can't win over to the side of the Sunnah, people, you can't win them over to try to neutralize them.

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Try to neutralize them in the sense do not wait, do not turn them into enemies. So it's not necessarily that everyone who disagrees with you, or everyone that you lack, you profoundly oppose what they believe in, you don't have to turn them into enemies. It's not a wise thing. It's not wise, by the way to increase your enemies. It's just one of the worst things you can do.

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His life and its trials are enough, so you don't need more, you really don't need more. So if there is no extreme luck, if, unless you are left in a position where you have no other choice, you should not put yourself in an enmity with someone even even if they disagree with you. It's not a virtue and it's not it's not wise to win enemies. And it's not brave by the way to win enemies.

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So the Prophet Solomon's given, he said, I'll give you those people because I want to avoid their crookedness and their paranoia and their their fear. So some of those were fearful or we're going against everything and against everyone. So the prophets, Allah wants to sort of, okay,

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give them because he knows once you give them they're not gonna bring about that kind of argument. And this has to do. By the way, this shows that the Prophet Selim also understands has a profound understanding of how human behavior is. By the way, it's, it's like, anyone who has even the least exposure to social sciences, it's obvious and anyone who has some sort of

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a careful and careful observance who considers humans how humans behave. You know that actually, humans say what they don't mean.

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Humans say what they don't mean.

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Not only children, we find children like when a child gets upset, they say to the mother, I don't love I don't love you. I hate you.

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Well, the mother like if she's

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Obviously, like if she if she's okay, she knows the child doesn't mean that

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it's so obvious in the kids, but with adults as well, there's so many things that most of what we say is just a bluff is not a real thing. Really, it's not a real thing. We just oftentimes, like, we reject something. And we justify why we reject it, we say are rejected, because it sounds very logical, right? But actually, with careful examination, it's not the case. And that's what's called motivated reasoning. And by the way, it's not in your, in your neuroscience now that a lot of our brain energy goes into justifying the emotional decisions that we make. So we make a decision already, and we're not aware of that. But then our minds start working or brain start working to

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make a case for that choice. And then when it comes to our awareness,

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it seems as if we're arrived at that through logic, that's known that's known by experiments through experimentation, it's known.

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So the prophets are sort of knows that these people they're gonna say, oh, you know, we fear the Arabs, we feel that Oh, and so, but the prophecy sort of knows okay, that

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these people feel they they, like they're not they don't see faith and the value of faith. So they want some kind of game. And they're gonna come with come up with excuses. So if you give them that gain, financial gain, okay, automatically the other excuses are gonna will evaporate.

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Then the person says we're Akyuu Aquaman Isla Mirage out Allahu Allah will be hymnal. Heidi Well, Rena min hum, Amruta club. So the problem says there are other people, I leave them to what Allah has put in their hearts with regards to goodness, and a sense of wealth and abundance, richness. And that's obviously that comes from faith that he names one person from those is Emerald turtle.

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And the problem says in Nila are the region, Hadith who I had to him, because I give people because they just they just left COFA and they just came into Islam, and they still very, there's a lot of connections they have to the state of California. So they're not established in Islam. So I'm gonna give them I'm gonna give them humans are humans. You can't just you can't be very idealistic and say, okay, you know, people should come to Islam for the sake of coming to Islam. Well, no,

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no. And by the way, what prevented what prevented the Arabs from becoming Muslim earlier. But prior to that point, it wasn't the dinner, it was the truth. It was it was basically just to preserve the status. And again, holding on to the norms, and thinking that Islam had no chances of being victorious. That's why the moment the problem took over, McCann became the major power in the Arabian Peninsula, all of a sudden, the Arabs all around the Arabian Peninsula, all of them just wanted to become Muslim.

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So again, it is humans function at more than one level. So the prophets Allah knew that these people would actually embrace Islam, but what was holding them back was worldly concerns. If you remove these worldly concerns, either poverty or lack or fear, or anticipation or lack of trust in the future, etc. If you handle those, you just have removed the barriers from the hearts to accept Islam. Otherwise, they have hearts that are willing to accept Islam. So don't mix this with intention. Don't mix this with oh, they just became Muslim for the money. No, humans are much more complex than that. Humans are much more complex than that. So the prophets of salaam that's what he

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says. And he says in the Quran, Hadith, Radin Weijia. Haley, yeah, well, mostly mostly, but in the middle, he honestly but we're in the hour to an Algebra homework. For him. The problem says Quraysh. I've just recently come from Jay Haley, and they have recently come out of a huge

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disaster. And that was when the program took over Maccha. They lost, like was a huge like, knock out they were knocked out completely. So the profit side is a limb. He says I wanted to fix their brokenness, and I wanted to win their hearts over.

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But why because you're dealing with humans. You're dealing with humans now yes with but the Prophet Salam dealt idealistically with the unsought

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he's knowing downside have faith. I'm gonna leave you to your faith.

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I'm going to so that's how you deal with everyone based on their on their level.

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And the Prophet Allah says Allah when Lydia and if so Mohammed in bed, that you have been a little Ilocanos Surah Chiron Mandela and coulomb Mithila you have no Hassanal o'clock no habits well I can need to lift to whom I'll use Nima or what to do. I Lebanon salata. Illa Islami, the prophet Islam says,

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By the one in whose hand my soul is by Allah, there's a man called Joe ale Abner Soraka

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was a Muslim

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Do I don't know Sara himself is better than the Earth full of Oh yeah, you never know Hudson was from the fundraiser of what fun what are called alguno habits. When I can knit I left all my useless so one person do I don't know Salah was one of the companions he's better than the Earth full of a unipolar hassling the leader of what a fan who just become Muslim. And in Accra had been habits from the rubbish from the other Arabs who around Mecca, the Bedouins among the MK one of their leaders, most influential leaders.

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So that person is better than the Earth full of these two people. But the President did not give to that person he gave to those two people. Problem says I wanted to win them over, but I left jail to his own faith.

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So the problem is showing exactly why he

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why he distributed the word booty. And in this fashion shows again, that sometimes, you know,

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it's very, it's very important to see sometimes the further end of something and not jump to conclusions, especially when it comes from the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam what I find often among some of the those who specially swallow the the, the critique that some atheists level at Islam and Muslims, is that their critique is very superficial, like something sounds like not right. Okay. But I mean, you don't do that in science. You don't judge things on face value, you have to, you know, put it through a process of experimentation. And you have to see what happens over time.

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There are things there are strategies that you actually act upon, and they pay off in the short term but the the sustained damage that will destroy you on the long run. And there are things that don't seem to pay off in the short term but they actually they are very good invest investment on the long term. This this thing only shows with with time over time.

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So jumping to conclusions based on something you saw is not a wise thing. It doesn't mean you don't question like mentally question something and try to investigate it. That's good. Because we're not supposed to accept everything just like that we're supposed to look into the evidence supposed to verify things before we take them in again. I mean, we moved slowly today but I think there's a lot of lessons really a lot of lessons to learn from this Subhanallah so we'll stop here. So last time, I

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can take a couple of questions if there is any

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next time inshallah we haven't got to that point yet.

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Well, yeah.

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Questions, no questions, call us we'll see you.

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Okay, the MaHA durian. There were a lot of them they had no homes still up until that point, had no point no, nothing, no money. And a lot of those marjorine When they left to Mecca, they left their wealth behind. Because obviously wealth was not all gold and silver like money, you could carry cash. A lot of it was possessions like house or some sheep and camels and they couldn't run away with that. So they had to leave it. So the prophecy of them is sort of compensating them for this. Yeah.

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Played we'll see Inshallah, next week or so. Allahu wa salam, I send them hamadryad he also have me here as you might

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