Mohamad Baajour – You and your money belong to your father

Mohamad Baajour
AI: Summary © The transcript describes a man reciting a statement about his son's behavior, including a bouncy phone call and a woman reciting a statement about her son's behavior. The speakers emphasize the importance of treating people properly and being a good judge of one's behavior. The father is responsible for taking money and giving it to their children, and the chef advises parents to be patient and use the money when ready to give it to their mother. The transcript uses a book to explain the concept of the father and how he can be a good judge.
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Hadith has a story. This hadith is a very famous Hadith

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there's a story behind it, and tell America because you and your money belong to your father, you and your money belong to your father. What is the story behind the Hadith?

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hadith is

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reported in the top, Ronnie.

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And then came to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa salam, and said, Yeah, this will Allah, my father has taken my money.

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My father is taking my money.

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Prophet sallallahu sallam said,

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which is the way he was supposed to, anytime somebody tells you something. Anytime the husband comes and complain about his wife,

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a wife complains about her husband, you have to hear the other side of the story. So So as I said, and told him, Go get your father.

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Get your father, let me hear the other side of the story.

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Go and bring him to me.

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In the meantime

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Gibreel Ali his Salam came to Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi salam.

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And he said

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Subhan Allah, Allah convert conveys his Salam.

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Ne Allah, send the Salam on New Era salah.

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he says, when the old man comes before you ask him about something he said to himself, which he did not utter, in a, in a voice that his ears will hear.

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Ask the man about something that he said to himself while he's walking to you learn to smile with his ears did not hear it. And he was saying to himself something. So when the man comes to you, you really started selling him and ask him about that.

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The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam on the men came, he asked him, Why is your son complaining that you are taking his money?

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The old man said, Yes. When Allah asked him,

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What do I spend the money on? All I do is I spend the money on his paternal and maternal aunt, and on myself, and I'm not taking the money and buying unnecessary things or I'm spending it on a fella who had an AMA

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personal assassin and said, Okay, now, tell me about something. You said

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to yourself, that not even your ears have heard.

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The man said spamela Listen, he said, I swear by Allah Ya rasool Allah, that

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every time I meet you, Allah any I increase in faith and Allah subhanaw taala How did you know that was saying something?

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It increases my faith. I have said something which I did not utter for my ears to hear the prophets I said and said let me hear it.

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I'm gonna read this in Arabic, so people will understand Arabic would enjoy it. So beautiful, so beautiful, and I'm gonna do my best to translate it to the best of my ability.

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So the man said yeah, the Salah, I was reciting this

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poem, I was just writing this poem.

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Of course, the translation is not gonna give it any.

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I have provided you with food when you were a baby and you're a child. And you made the best use of these provisions. Now, the Son of the Father is saying that he was reciting this appeared this point.

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If you became ill for a night, I would spend it very worried and concerned. It was as if I had been the URL

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person instead of you, and my eyes poured our tears, I feared that you might die. Although I know that death is an inevitable end, when you reached of age and attained the status for which I had long yearned.

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You rewarded me with roughness and rudeness

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as if you had been the one who grants me graces and favors, as long as you have not fulfilled your duties toward your father.

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You have not fulfilled your duties to your father, I wish that you would at least treat me like a neighbor treats his neighbor.

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Yeah, and he asked us to summarize he was extremely upset from the behavior of his son. And he reminded him of all the things that he has done to him

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through all these years, and this is the way the sun is acting right now. Then,

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the famous statement came out from the mouths of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he turned to the boy and said, and Tawana Allah Cali avec la, you and your wealth belongs to your father.

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You and your wealth belong to your father

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This is

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a very famous Hadith that is narrated usually when people speak about the importance of the Father because Masha Allah the mother, as many had he even yet

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but with Father

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we get very happy when we have one Hadith is strong, so we hold tight to it. Even though we all know that a solar cell Salam has the utmost just in everything.

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Yeah, when Alberto lay some ohada

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while Bill Lazar,

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elder cadoola

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being obedient to your parents, especially to your father, it's not about listening to lecture and you finish and you become back.

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It's not about listening to a hotbar

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if you want to be really bar by your father,

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you have to be a coder.

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You have to be a role model.

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Your children

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they see how you treat your parents.

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And since they are programmed, the way you treat your parents, they understand that this is the proper way to treat parents. So you will get the same

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we all know I don't know if you ever seen that very famous commercial came a few years ago

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a young boy was his mother asked him to draw your future house.

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Anybody saw this commercial?

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That's good.

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So she told him draw your future home. So he draw in mansion beautiful, big rooms big this big and he drove beautiful backyard and an a shed you know the shed there's not too many sheds in here in New York has a lot of sheds, you know small house in the backyard and swimming pool so it is not a total mashallah such a beautiful house. Who is this room for? This is for me who is this? This is for my sister who is this room for? This is for you mama.

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And she kept looking?

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How about

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this shed? That small house that usually you put all your tools and stuff in the garage outside? So this is for Baba

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is for my dad said how come?

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How come this is for your dad?

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He said took his hand. He took his mother's hand and they show us in the video. He's taken her to the shed. Look mama This is what my grandpa lives. So I'm gonna do the same thing

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his grandfather is living in a small shed outside. They pass the food for him.

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They check up on him

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come up to the to that

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when I heard one of our shields

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and especially I want everybody to listen to this.

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He said when you sit with your father

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You're looking at your phone

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you have disobeyed Him

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when you're sitting with your father or your mother you're sitting like this waiting for orders

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you just sitting down waiting for orders

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you just waiting for order

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and then when the order comes to jump

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we are fooled

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we are fooled

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sending $200 A month shaitan Harris you have done your job

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you're the best kid ever.

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Allah we are so behind and our duty starters so behind

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until Ramallah, Kenny IDQ

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you know what kind of statement is this, you and everything that you own belong to your father.

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let's go a little bit to the fucker part.

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Does that mean that my father can come

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at the end of the month and take all my salary?

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Because this hadith if you take it literally, word by word, that means my father could come, where's your paycheck 1000 Zach Aloka This is what the Hadith says you and your money to your father, right?

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Obviously, this is not what the Hadith means.

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The hadith means that your father has the right to ask you for whatever he wants, and he has the right to take. But he has to make sure a few things that are conditions.

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Number one, he cannot take something that by taking it that will harm you.

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Okay, Yanni

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this car is your only source to go to work, and going to work is the only source for income to support your family, your father cannot come and take that car.

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Second, your father cannot take money from you, and give it to your brother.

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Or give it to your sister. He can't.

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That will create more problems in the family.

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He comes to your house and you listen and tell America or beat you and your money to your father. So I can take this money and give it to your brothers.

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Maybe his brother is a bum, he doesn't do anything. And this guy's day and night is working. This doesn't work. It's not the right thing. But other than that,

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other than that,

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the father can come and take anything you have an extra $50,000 That you know, your father, if he asked, it's a different story, but he could come and take it as extra. You have no use for it just on the side. This is what the Hadith literally means. As long as it does not harm you. Or does not create any fitna in the family.

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For the brothers over on my group, I send the video short clip the other day

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and then call the chef asking for a fatwa.

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And that question,

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made the chef weep

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you know what the question was?

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said Yeah, Chef.

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Can I give my mother

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So the chef said, repeat the question again. So Yes, chef, can I give from my sadaqa? Can I give to your mind to my mother?

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She did not stop crying.

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Where do where do we live? Someone's asking if he can give his mother is subaqua, your mother.

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You and your your wealth and your family belong to your mother. Everything you have is from your mother. You'd ask if you can give it a sadaqa

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Who are you without your mother?

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It's a must. It's an order. It's an obligation on you to spend on your mother. You'd ask if you could give it a sadaqa

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Wow. When someone reaches the level of money to that level that is trying to save some zakat money by giving an excuse I guess

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Give it to my mother Wallahi This is the science of the akhira giving my my mother from the cat money because I'm trying to run away from the cat and the Allah, it will be two birds with one stone

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in that Illa we're in LA Harar Joan.

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my beloved brothers and sisters

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if your father is still alive,

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I always talk about the mother.

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many people told me you are biased.

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But if your father is still alive, online

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make sure you

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be creative

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and pleasing him.

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Even though it might sometimes bother you, it might sometimes be inconvenient for you.

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Go out of your way to please them as long as they are alive. And after they die. It's a different story. But if they are still alive, if they are still alive Wallahi don't wait for the moment

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that they go away and you will tell yourself I wish he would come back and I would do this and this and this and that.

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Go sit by their feet

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and just wait for their orders. You know

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how many of you here their parents are here in this country and they see them all the time? Raise your hand

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Allah you don't know how lucky you are.

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you know how many of you have your brother sitting next to you? That would die to hug his mother every day.

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Do you know how many brothers and sisters next to that would die just for the father to give them an order.

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And we have

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many brothers and sisters complaining. My father did this. My mother did this.

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That's why Allah subhanaw taala specifically said when they become old, because Allah knows when they become old. They're gonna have extra demands.

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They might repeat something 5678 times just like you did on your kid.

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Be patient.

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lengthen her human.

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Accordion Akula Houma. Kovalam Karima

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Workfit llama Jana hovel limited Rama, Aqua rabbit Hama Hama come out of Bernie Savio?

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Patience, especially when it comes to the parents

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you know how sometimes you say

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I cannot take it anymore.

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It happens you're going through difficulty and you come home and maybe your father needs 24 hour you know,

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help or your mother. So,

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in a moment

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you forget what they have done to you and you complain

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they raised you

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and they spend everything they have on you

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hoping that you know your growth

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and you taking care of them and you spending as much as you can on them and you can't wait for them to die

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it's exactly the opposite.

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there are many of your brothers

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that are deprived from this great time that you have. So take advantage of it before it's gone.

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And keep in mind what goes around comes around.

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If you mistreat them now, you will be in that small house in the backyard or you will be in one of those homes and

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They will

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show you that they are doing you a favor by visiting you once a week

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this is your daughter Jana

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your parents or your daughter to Jana?

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Take advantage of it before it's closed.

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Llama fully valid you know you're behind. I mean, Lamar has come out of band behind me. Along they are behind me and Shri Madonna or her mo Tana allometry Madonna while her mo Tana no more fucking early moto Hebrew bottarga alumna in bear valley Dino era behind me. Yeah Allah help us obey them to the best of our ability. Yeah Allah do not make our parents die except that they are pleased with us young. Well, I have one go today. You never know. Could be your last night could be my last night. Just go today. Hug your children and tell them I am pleased with you and around the neck.

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Tell them I'm pleased with you. If you are pleased with them, tell them I'm pleased with you.

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Can you imagine this is the last thing you hear from your father. Or the last thing you hear from your mother? Allah He this will make your life but your day it will make your life

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See you tomorrow artificial inshallah at 615 second block Arabic Allah Subhana Allah, masha Allah Shalala him the stockbroker

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