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Salam Alaikum wa Rahmatullahi wa barakaatuh who? Welcome to Ramadan reset your visit to my living room and my beautiful friendship group in this wonderful amount of Rasul Allah. How is your day? How is your fasting? How are you feeling? Are you tired? I have to say I took a bit of a kind of epic nap today on the balcony Subhanallah I didn't mean to. I like to stay awake during the days and do little naps but you know what staying awake through the night and sleeping during the day. I think it's a better way of doing it if you can. Salaam Alaikum but my Basha you are the first person to send Salam so I asked a lot of bless you for that mashallah to balaka So without further ado, we've

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got an amazing, amazing blessing of a guest with us today Mashallah. She is somebody who I found out just from Instagram from looking for positivity from looking for people have knowledge in these different areas and different groups and social platforms, or star that Maryam Amira is with us today. If you don't know you don't know. That's all I'm gonna say. Please find out. She holds a bachelor's degree in Islamic studies through UL as her. She studied in Egypt. She is a half of the of Quran and has researched a variety of religious sciences, including Islamic jurisprudence, prophetic narrations and commentary and women's rights within Islamic law. For the past 15 years or

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so the Maryam has been an instructor with Al Hikmah institutes and she's an author with virtual mosque and Algebra online by the Grace of Allah, her focus in the fields of spiritual connection, social justice, and women's studies have seen her invited to lecture around the world, including in Jerusalem, Mecca, Medina, Stockholm, and she holds up to black belt, a second degree black belt in Taekwondo and speaks multiple languages. I'm so in awe. Assalamu alaykum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh because now I want to get to thank you so much for having me.

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I don't even want to speak right now. I just want to say Subhan Allah, literally, I hand over to you. That's it.

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Oh Subhan Allah.

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May Allah bless you, I love love, love hearing you speak. It's the way that you speak touches my heart because it comes from such a genuine place. And you're so incredibly understanding guide, may Allah bless you and raise your rings. I certainly saw that the best type of believer and my interactions with you and they left me with your type of

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Subhan Allah What a beautiful introduction and only to be expected of such as a devoted sister. And the path of knowledge, mashallah to Vatika.

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I want to make sure that everybody on this group benefits from you today. But I feel we should get to know you first. Oh, first of all, how did you get such baraka of time? Tell us about the path to il tell us about your journey to memorizing the protocol and studying as her please. Yes, Pamela, this is actually a very long, long process. I think that so many of us when we want to study, our goal is to memorize the Quran in a year, or our goal is to study and then inshallah we're going to be done, we're just gonna go for a year, we're going to go for three years, four years, and then we're finished. And the path to knowledge is literally lifelong. And you're going to hear that from

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everyone. But I think a lot of times when you begin, you feel very hopeful that you are going to do it. And then as light comes up as as, as global situations happen, you find yourself more and more stuck. And at times you feel like it's a reflection on your own self and process of memorizing for the person or the practices that it comes with so much

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purification, and it doesn't mean that necessarily a person who's sitting is pure, it means that the process and journey purifies So much of what you might have thought is the right way for you. And sometimes Allah subhanaw taala puts you in a place that you never expected would be the place that you could connect to him the most. And you actually might fight the fact that you're grateful you're, but sometimes he puts you in a place so that you can find the best way to start in your circumstance. And that specifically as it not only Russian martial law talks about is that space is really what we're worshipping is about because when he puts priorities into your life, and you see

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them, and I hear this from a lot of people like mothers, for example, who feel like they don't have time because they are mothers and they weren't planning to spend so many years studying and now they have even more to do and it's even harder with kids or you know individuals

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Like, we're taking care of their elderly parents are so many different.

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Sometimes a lot puts in front of your life, these things that are called cultural via Tuvok, which is the priorities of your time. And so we're ultimate worship is what you have in that time period, what you have in that time to do what Allah has put in front of your life, in that moment, what is worship, and everything else you try to do within what he has put into your life. So definitely, it's so it's such a long journey to get to the goals that you have. For me, for example, I knew that I wanted to go into memorizing the Quran, when I was a senior in high school, I wanted to become a scholar, I wanted to memorize the Quran. And subhanAllah the process of memorizing the Quran took

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seven years for me, the test of actually studying comes when I went to Egypt, and then I came back, I was supposed to go back, and then there was the Egyptian revolution. And then there was the the coup, and there was there's so many things that just kept happening in my life. And for me, and each part, it was a reset to relook at my life and think like, Why does Allah subhanaw taala want me to be here right now is in this journey that I need to look at and see, why do I need these parts of this journey for right now? So it's certainly a long process. But I will say that over and over, every time I made istikhara, which is this prayer of asking for guidance, there were times that I

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felt like the answer is not,

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you know, just stay here. I don't want to do that. But it just, this is the way that Allah set my life. And I have to be accepting of that. And looking back at those points in my life, where I was trying to make major decisions about my journey of knowledge. And at the same time, my responsibilities of life, I look and see that every time I felt frustrated with my lack of growth. Allah had real for something else to open up for me to put me on a path where you open other doors of knowledge for me that were more important to me at that time. But I couldn't have known that, because I just got so frustrated, and like you were I wish I could be. So I think the journey is a

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very long one. But when you realize that, it's lifelong, and you continually pray to Allah to open those doors for you, he will sometimes put you in places that are better than the ones that you would imagine being in, even if in the moment, it's very difficult to see. Because I think so many people, all they want to do is just study in the masjid all day long in the countries and just stay there for years and years and years. And that is such an honor and a gift if that's possible for so many people. But it's not the reality for so so so many people because of their personal circumstances or just global circumstances. So looking at what has allowed placed in your particular

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particular life, and how can you use what He has given you to draw close to Him? Mashallah, I'm sure we're going to get lots of questions and brothers and sisters, I'm going to be although sister, Maryam has got a wonderful presentation to give us, which we'll be sharing in the next 30 minutes in Charlotte, about gratitude. Please do feel free as well, to ask questions about that journey to ilme. Even if you're starting out. I mean, for example, I'm kind of easily defeated on learning Arabic, there's something in me that is relating Arabic to language. And I got an F in my French because Oh, yeah, at a level, it's kind of traumatized me for languages. But is it? Is it? Is there

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a mindset of treating this completely differently? When you sit down? That helps each other? Yes. So I'm not Arab. I totally understand. I didn't grow up knowing Arabic. And when I tried to study Arabic, here in California, I kept taking classes. And of course, you know, I'm in California, I'm taking like a one hour class a week. It's extremely slow. I'm trying to memorize vocabulary throughout the week in the middle of all the things I'm trying to do. And it was just very difficult because you know, you open the Quran and you're like, oh, I can point out one word, and I don't know what that one word means. But I will tell you that what I would do is specifically look at language

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people asked me about wanting to know Arabic for the sake of the Quran, I just want to be able to understand them. And absolutely, knowing Arabic fluently will impact your understanding of the Quran to a level that is way beyond just the English translation. But I will also tell you that I spent maybe about five years before I moved to Egypt to study Arabic, just reading the translation of the Quran. So I would spend

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every day we do five pages a day of English and Arabic, and then I would listen to the Arabic while reading the translation. And then they would also memorize three words like that.

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Well over time, by the time I moved to Egypt, I didn't know if you could speak to me and I knew me.

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And sometimes maybe

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that's about

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anything else. And you know,

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I'm at that level, that's me. Currently, when I tested in the Arabic program, they actually put me

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into the third level. So I wasn't a beginner. I was like an intermediate beginner. And then when I actually started my classes, my teacher looked at me and she said, How did you place into a level three, you shouldn't be in a level zero, you have no SQL skills, you have no you, you have nothing. Why would you place at this level, and I remember that was the first conversation we had. And over time, she realized that all my vocab comes from the Quran, I couldn't understand

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the Quran. And so the process of simply reading the translation every day, listening and reading this translation, and memorizing key words have gotten me to a point where, you know, with every year that I get this over a period of five years, I couldn't tell you that that lamb meant that some, you know, this particular thing, or that in mental that, you know, this, this, this, this, the person who Allah French, I was quoting is emphasizing what they're saying. What I do not understand is the general message, understand the general.

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So what I would recommend for any person who feels like oh, I just can't learn language and can't learn Arabic or want to know all of it, your goal doesn't need to be I need to know Arabic in and out right now. Europe wants to be I just want to be able to connect with the Quran. And you can do that by listening to the Arabic and getting the translation, and then also being able to memorize the key words, because there are so many words that are repetitive and regret. And Allah has made it so easy for us to keep finding those repetitive words so that we can really connect to his words when we don't even know the language. So we have to memorize this keywords helps us process what the

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words are to us, even when we don't speak Arabic, and it's a mercy for him because he knows that his book came down in a language that is going to be spoken until the end of time. For us. Sometimes we feel like oh, it's not good enough. If I'm not reading the Arabic of them. For me, I get this question a lot in Ramadan. You know, I want to finish reading the Quran one entire time, all of them. And I hear about people from three to just a day and they don't understand anything that they're reading, which is still beautiful. The Quran itself is about looking at almost half just looking at a love. Just looking at it with love that is worship, worship simply at the most awful of

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love. It's worship to hug the most stuff out of your love for it. How to love the Quran itself brings healing, it brings lessons into your life. Without you even under your recent tension of it. There are angels that roamed the earth, looking for people who are reading your ad, when you read the Quran, angels come into your home, they come into your life, and with them come to blessings and mercy in the answer of God. So there is every blessing possible when you read the Quran when you don't understand it. And in addition to that, imagine how much more when you do understand what you're reading in a translation

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was revealed in the Arabic Who era. It wasn't revealed in Farsi to Allah, it wasn't revealed in Japanese to add up wasn't revealed when finished all of it was revealed in Arabic. And so the point is that Allah use the language that they know so intimately, and it challenged them because the eloquence of the Quran is a miracle. Of course, the Quran has scientific miracles. Of course, the Quran has miracles in so many different ways. But once you do know the Arabic and the linguistic miracles, you can do nothing and I'm sure that you yourself have read the Quran and canons of meeting or read the Quran and conch covers, you know your body just

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a lot of talking to you like how did you know that you're, you open the most happened all of a sudden, it's so that that is such a real experience because Allah truly watches us and we appreciate our connection with his book in any language. But then imagine that you're witnessing the revelation. And the words that are useful are the words that you use in your daily lesson, never even attempt, eloquence and the power of those words. So knowing that language is so powerful for your deeper connection, your understanding your ability to look at the top of seer and Arabic and Arabic and understand what they mean. But Subhanallah that just begins with the language that you

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speak. And in turn aside if you do embark on a full blown journey

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memorize, to learn Arabic so that you could like, fully understand and access all of these texts. Because unfortunately, so much of our history is written in. I mean, it's not unfortunately wonderful for an Arabic, it's unfortunate, it's not translated. So we don't have as much completed work as you do in Arabic. But being able to access all of that is just very exciting. But

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I remember when I went to Egypt, for me, I really was thinking about people. And it seems like you do too, it seems like that's something that you enjoy.

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I tried to make every opportunity of being outside in Egypt itself and opportunity to practice my language, and I knew that people aren't gonna understand it. And I knew I was gonna make a fool of myself, but that's okay. Because my goal is to learn the whole thing. And so what I would do is, I would try to fly with you. And I remember when I was trying to move apartments, and I had a suitcase, and I didn't know the word suitcase. And so I went, like, I Nisha, and I was like, I have this thing. And it's like a square and you

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know, for one thing to another, and

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you told me, you

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don't have to pay for that. Good luck.

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Next time he comes. And it's just this this process where you don't look at how it's, you know, this over, you know, this person's eyes, your mouth, but when you look at his connection with a lot, it's this connection with, what is this connection with the people. But when you focus on what drives you, you seem like you're someone who is driven by a connection with people. So people don't have that for people on they do not enjoy speaking with random people on the street. That's okay. So now you find what drives you. What is it that drives you? Is it writing? Is it reading time? What drives you? And then use that point of that driving point? What's the point of access into being able to

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look at language because one of the things when you're studying Arabic, I remember, when I was still here, before I would love to go to Egypt, I had a very incredible friend of mine. She's a chef and her husband is a chef, they studied in us. And they had gone a year before me. And so I remember once I was speaking with her on mine, and she was like, it's just so hard. And it's it's not you know, our A man is not feeling strong. And, and I'm here like in my room in California, they're living my dream. And I'm like, okay, just say that.

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You're like everyone, right now.

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But then I got here and I realized that you're not studying the piano thing. You're running to Pebble assess, you're running this, this man used to go to the bank, and then he goes to the hotel, and it's like, what's his use of have anything to do with the end. But then as you study those very dry basic words, you start recognizing the vocabulary, the syntax, the grammar,

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the rhetoric, all of that was back to what you're really going for, and that is an uncertain event. So it's a very long journey. Being patient is definitely important. Making a lot of time and always reminding yourself like why you're doing why going back to your access point for yourself to motivate you, then follow that process will slowly help you get there Inshallah, and it's okay, if it takes many years. That's okay. It's okay. Yes, yes. And it's not a linear journey. As you're saying, everybody who's here, Salam Alikum. We are honored, deeply, deeply honored to have I help someone who's going to be become a friend and a mentor to me, because I feel so blessed to know you

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a step further Maryam Amir, and we are discussing gratitude today. And we've kind of linked it to, to baby steps towards the court and as well but what I'd like to do now is everybody who to here, this is a beneficial gathering on a social media platform where things don't always have to be beneficial. So be it never to Allah, press share right now, share the hair from your chair, okay.

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And then anything good that comes from it, you're just reaping the benefits. So all you have to do is go below and press the share button, stream it on your page, bring many more people to this beneficial moment in Ramadan within Australia talking about gratitude to Allah subhanho wa Taala and also I want to just give us all a blessed reminder inshallah to Allah, that we are here for our Syrian brothers and sisters, that what han.org.uk have kindly given me this platform to expand extend invitations to people that I've known, and friends and people that I've wanted to know and introduce to you, with ill with knowledge with different areas of expertise, and we've been able to

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do that this month. But all of our friends and colleagues here have given their time because we are trying to donate to very important charity was doing work for Syrian refugees, specifically, brothers and sisters 100 families. Our aim is 100 families to begin

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Given everything they need in 10 days, that's the aim of the last 10 Day show that was started it is here to do right now and if possible inshallah we'll go to a little video now and we'll see the work of what and all that you can when we get back we'll start the Maryam will take your questions and talk to you about the blessings of gratitude in Islam brother Hamza Have you got a video for us inshallah?

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Right

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Love to Bunnicula

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hamdulillah so, welcome to Ramadan reset with myself Lauren booth and also other Marian Amir and this is all about covering that covering the work of what handled at UK. We are sponsoring 100 families right now in a particular camp.

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A displacement center I think campaign has different you know, connotations these people are in between tents. Okay. So you know when we talk about getting on the property ladder of study, we're talking about getting a bigger place does it have an extra shower room? Is the view okay? What we're talking about for the people of Idlib and we'll add that to Misurina located in the north of Syria, they've had to flee flee their homes. Okay. What we're talking about for them is getting out of a shared tent with other families Allahu Akbar. So we are helping 100 families with education needs food and water specifically through what's handled at UK 100 families 10 days you can donate now in

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sha Allah to Allah, if Allah wills give you a cat, now whatever UK below, or if you can't give 100 pounds at the 100 pounds per family, by the way, guarantees their food and water and hygiene needs for months. We're talking nappies, we're talking sanitary products, we're talking bars of soap, Allahu Akbar, okay. And the money also goes towards medication and education. So you can donate 100 pounds straightaway to what and below or go to my just giving give whatever you can for the sake of Allah. So welcome back. We have an amazing study here.

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You know, almost a black belt of Taekwondo. I guess that's a journey for you as well. So Pamela Aviv and but we wanted to we want to hear your words about about gratitude, or Stella, Sinatra, her name Hamdulillah I mean, what is someone that wants to be say that in Ramadan, especially I hear a lot about how they

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people who haven't felt emotionally connected to Allah and this month, so struggling with feeling

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Unlike the sweetness of faith, those tears falling from your eyes. And that's a very common feeling that sometimes leads people to feel like they haven't been successful this from a lot. This Ramadan wasn't good enough, they didn't do good enough. And almost anytime I hear this, I asked what is going on in your life. Because the way that you are feeling from an emotional level, the stresses you have in your life, whatever is going on with your family, or your job, or your depression, or whatever it is. Sometimes we take those things, and we think this all of this difficulty, and the fact that I don't feel an emotional connection with Allah is a sign that I am not close to him, or I

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am not accepted by him. When in reality, those are our own insecurities. Those are our own things that we are processing in our tests. And then what we do is we start projecting them onto a lot. So we struggle with our own selves, we feel like we're not good enough, we struggle with our own religious insecurities. And then we project that all into Allah subhanaw taala. And then we think, if this is the way I feel about myself, if I am struggling with feeling apathetic towards myself, or self loathing, or any type of struggle internally, then that must mean that that's how Allah subhanaw taala views me. And we can never say that the way that Allah uses it the way that we see

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ourselves. Instead, what we should know is that Allah subhanaw taala is the Most Merciful, the Most Loving, that he sees all the pain that we're going through, or the confusion that we're going through the stresses that we're going through a loss that we're facing, he sees all of that. And this is why the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam taught us to even the prick of a foreign as a means of our forgiveness is a means of our drawing closer to Him. Because all of these types of trials in our lives, they all are a form of our own closeness to him in this life, and when it really matters for eternity in the next. So whenever we are going through

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a very difficult space and start to view ourselves in a deficit, it's important to re evaluate the way that we that we that we are looking at ourselves, and start thinking about ourselves from a place of gratitude of what we have. And we see in our own misogyny, emphasis on this, in our global conversation, when we talk about, for example, people with disabilities, even the term itself is a disability. It's someone who doesn't have the capability of someone else. But really, which is, of course, a totally perfectly fine term. I'm not trying to say that that's if someone like this, this is a term that someone who's disabled identifies, that is amazing.

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Another way that we can look at that is that, you know, those who have a disability also have very abilities because they can do things in ways that those who are typically able, like someone who doesn't have a struggle with maybe eyesight, or hearing or arms, or whatever it is, they can do things in ways that other people can't. So their abilities are varied. And one of the things that we continuously see in our religion is that there isn't a highlight on people who don't have the same necessarily necessarily abilities, as those who have typical, were typically abled, but they are still critical for the community are in and are in a place of gratitude. So give you an example. For

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example, I'll give you an example I was alive but who is known as a convenient who's a blind man of the pocket. So Aloha.

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You know, we, today you know, you know, someone who is blind or we care for who's blind and sometimes people think, oh, you know, that's so sad that they don't have eyesight and of course not having eyesight. eyesight is an enormous blessing of course.

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You can't say thank you enough for that blessing. But that doesn't mean we won't have other blessings and just like we might not have the same feeling and when we came up in the community of the Prophet saw a lot more than he had any man who know everything that you have to have a name in mind when you hear the abandoned excuse me, the more I've been someone who makes the event our listener when you hear someone who makes the event, who do you think of the person who made the event at the time of the pocket so along with them what's

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below

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we're gonna say a little more slowly we're selling wine and you know, have even a Muhammad for three seconds a woman was only within their mind and you know, having a lot of misogyny within them and then they've you know, had even 100 Mashallah the informing was just too many people. So

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normally, people think that there will be Allah who I knew, and he has an incredible model.

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And the second level of the profit center level I am selling what's up with life.

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And what's incredible about this audience and I'm putting him in a position

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where people are not only being called to the salon, which is the most important thing, we actually have a Muslim, but not only is is he in a visible position, but people coming into the community who don't know the Muslim community, people who are coming in and wondering about this religion, are seeing a blind man as a representative, but the most important aspect of a daily ritual. So what we see is that the prophets of Allah, why they were sent, and the way that he set up the policies of his community. He's reminding every believer that no matter what your circumstances are, you're not just welcome into the community, you're not just you're in the community, you're critical, you're

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integral for the way that our community functions. And that is a place that recognition that I have a purpose. That is, is the beginning of where we start to feel a sense of gratitude. Because when we look at our life, when we feel like we have a reason for our day to day, that in and of itself is enough to fill our hearts with this feeling of humility, because so many people have so much time and have absolutely no idea what to do with it.

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People have every single blessing, but they don't know where to go. And that is really difficult. It's

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not have any idea what to do with yourself. In that circumstance, so many of you might be in that circumstance where you know, you you know, you do pray and you do all these things, but you don't know what your major goals are, you might not feel happy with where you are on your life. That's okay, that's a process. But if you still know that in the end of the day, in another vignette, with your intention, everything can become an act of worship, then you can turn that, you know, hours have to figure out who you who are on your laptop into a form of worship, because you're trying to find out how you best preserve all those times when you feel like you don't know how the data path

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between cooking and cleaning. And all of that was for a purpose, you have something that grounds you. And remember the Heavy, He's a scholar of our past, we have a narration of a man named Abdullah, who was walking on a hill and he came across a tent where someone was living. And he approached the chant, he asked to enter,

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his paralyzed, he's blind, and he doesn't have his arms. And so he calls out to him because he hears from his tent Alhamdulillah, his level of Golani, I like to hear

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that.

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Thank you, Allah to the one who has given me so many blessings over so many other people. And I was listening to this old man, and he's thinking, This man is paralyzed. He's blind. And he doesn't have arms. And he's saying, I have so much. And so the men are Abdullah asked for this older man, how are you saying?

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Why are you saying I have more than so many people? And he said, Am I not feeling mine?

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And I said, Yes. And he said, How many people don't have the time? How many people are not able to think for themselves? Do I not have the ability to hear of the loss of Yes. And how many people don't have the ability to hear. I mean, this man isn't focusing on what of the last off, which is everything he doesn't have. He is focusing on what Allah has given him and how to use what to watch.

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And I'll tell you once I was in the grocery store with my two kids. And at the time, my son was about maybe three, and my baby was maybe like a year. And they're, they're very little curious or asking questions without filtering. So we're checking out and there is a cashier, who's loading up our groceries and he has a very visible disabilities, very visible variability. I noticed that immediately. And that's what, I think that we noticed each of these differences, and we celebrate them and we recognize them. And we recognize that even with our differences, all of us are using the skills that Allah has given us in those different ways. And we are, we are just in awe of a lost

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power through that. And my son, my mokwena. Over time, he he was speaking to me and said, Mommy, why he's like that. And so I know that the man heard why he's like that. And the way I interpreted this is just Okay, now he's recognizing very visibly that this man has a disability and how am I going to explain this to my son and all and hopefully that's okay. I'm gonna tell him that. This man is so incredible because this is how alumnae this man has so much tenacity, because regardless of his circumstances, he is doing so much that I couldn't do in the way that he's doing it. And I tried to think of all these things, and then I was like, You know what I want to allow for my son

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To be able to ask this man himself feels comfortable explaining this product, his identity. And I didn't know if that company would feel, I just felt like maybe this would be something that I could ask for that he himself to feel like he could all the voice text.

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And so I asked, I asked myself, What do you mean, why he liked that, and the growth curve, and helping us

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listening? And my son said, why he's putting all those things in our cart.

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If he was just wondering why we're kind of putting things in our cart, and I'm submitting this question in so many different ways, when all my son was looking for it was the action. And so the man told us, oh, I work your job, and then we got away.

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But I think the point of what I'm doing on this was that Allah looks at our action, just like that three year old who doesn't know what we'll look into things that we just see it almost kind of policies or activities. Beyond that, we also see our emotions.

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And sometimes, when we look at who a lot is, we struggle because we think, Oh, I'm not good enough. We shouldn't look at how low we feel, or how we don't feel like we measure up to Allah don't look at your smallness, look at a was greatness. He has undefeated as the observant when he

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talks about

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being the one who's a winner, you know, you might be aware of where you're

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needed. You might be aware of where you're aware of what you need, what you love, is watched over his servants, he knows what they're doing and what they need. So instead of feeling like I can't connect to him because of my smallness, because of my sins, because of my mistakes, I can't have this emotional connection letter to look at when almost until it's held this high enough as my servant thinks, I am. Think high enough to make a diet and the whole thing I was thinking last I couldn't answer this guy the whole time. I was making that dua I was thinking Allah is gonna give me the opposite of what I'm asking for because he wants to test me. Why would Allah? Yeah, thinking of

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as the worst things about Allah, may Allah forgive me, so many of us are trained a lot in that way. And some of that comes from our own, of our own selves, healing

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the process, but that process helps you heal in relationship with Allah. So instead, look, look at your relationship with Allah, I started changing. And I realized, wait a second, I am that's my stupid thing. Second, I'm going to move to that. And I'm going to have certainty in that draw as a puppet till Allah who I knew was going to pull this big lie to Allah and you are affirming our beliefs. So you make a dua to Allah knowing that Allah will answer you and that answer might come in different ways, but He will answer you. Maybe you don't see the exact answer, but he will come in a different way. And so I started making dua to Allah. I'm liking cat with the certainty of who he is

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a Marathi who was watching me and Mooji Who Will Answer and Allah subhanaw taala answer that. And sometimes for me in those jobs that I made, they will take two years, seven years, 10 years until they

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okay, it's the journey that's part of the process of that die. Yes. estado Habibi, FMT, a question on gratitude, we should focus on people who are who are on ourselves when we're not doing well, we, the question is this, we seem to know how to ask Allah. But regarding gratitude, do we know how to thank him? Because sometimes the distance comes when the prayer has been answered, and you're like, I'm okay now. And we slip into a dangerous, disconnected zone. I wonder with the little time we have left with equal touch on that. Thank you. That's a perfect segue to the next portion, which is how to inculcate that. So we hear about people who have gratitude like the ones I mentioned, we look at

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who Allah is. That's where gratitude stems from. Apparently, he's the one who's still watchful that he loves you, and He cares for you. So so much so that when you're dry is not answered. Last week, two years, I've been praying for something. I thought that day it was going to be answered. I was supposed to get information about whether or not it was gonna be answered. I was so helpful, and it wasn't answered. And I was told to state it. But of course, I trusted that Allah has the best plan. And then later on in that day, I just really wanted these cookies that my friend bakes, And subhanAllah out of nowhere, she called me and she said, I'm dropping these particular cookies off.

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Why did that happen? Allah knows your circumstance. When he doesn't answer the big. He still gives you the comfort of the small because he knows the big is that a better time, but that small, out of his love for you. He continues to stop everything. So to inculcate this gratitude, stop looking at the big you don't have start looking at the small you do. Take a moment everyday psychologists say

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that for 21 days, if you would just write down three things at the end of your day, and you're grateful for from that day 100 In that I found a parking spot today. And Hamdulillah I have a toothbrush to brush my teeth Alhamdulillah I was able to sleep without rain pouring upon me, oh my God, so many people don't have these blessings, but they might have different ones you have a lot. So we think about those three things a day that Allah has blessed us with for 21 days, if you write this down in the journal, you're added to will psychological your neurons will start shifting to look at us from a pleasing a place of gratitude, an attitude of gratitude. And for an emotional

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connection in these days, what I recommend is you take some quiet time to just sit and just say Alhamdulillah. And with every single one that you say, you think about our blessings, take time for yourself every day, even if it's just five minutes, and just focused on giving things to unlock. And in that moment, think of what you're giving things for it can be as huge as the fact that you are able to close your eyes at night, because some people do not have what is needed for their eyes to close. So they have to keep it shut. Or it could be as small as

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none, I'm so blessed, that I have a cassette, which is still not so small, really, there's no small boxes. So you sit in the field of of Hamdulillah, that I have nails to cover the painful area underneath it, and Hamdulillah that I can I can see the sky. And if you can't see this guy 100 In that, then I can bring you whatever that blessing is, you just say 100 Enough for each blessing over and over and over. And instead of approaching from this deficit, overlying need this

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is a form of worship. When begging you the form of worship your need is a form of worship. You also merge that with the gratitude of what you have on thank you for the blessings you have given me send your silhouette of a Prophet

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O Allah as would have given me this in the past, as you have given this in the past. He's answering hidden debts, oh, Allah who are degenerates? We could ask, you could ask every single person who's listening can ask, Oh, well could ask an election, give every single one of us what we need. And it's nothing more than dipping a needle into the ocean, and how the news out is practically dry. That's all it took away from us.

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So when we asked, we asked him, and we asked No. But when we asked him for what we don't have, we recognize that it's not from a place of deficit because I don't have

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and that's okay with feel like I'm in a deficit. But the difference is, I'm coming to Allah knowing that it's not what I'm asking for. It's who I'm asked a lot is the most generous, even when you don't deserve the generosity. He is the Most Merciful, even we don't deserve the mercy. It doesn't matter what you are asking for, because you're never gonna be getting like he. It's not about whether or not you're good enough, it could up who he is he just did. Ramadan is a time of the Torah has moved forward on a lot of this, you're going to break next week outside of the five

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part a lot. It's the same action, but the timing is the monitor. So the same, the same thing that you're asking for the smallness of it is not small to him. And I get this question all the time. Like, I feel that a lot. I want to ask him, but I'm not really asking again, when you ask, loves to listen, he loves to listen to the sound of your voice. So when you sit up in your seat,

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after that time, when your heart is full of gratitude, when you recognize that it doesn't matter, your mistakes is still has continually given you in that moment. You look at the Holy

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Mother, what a baby into a basket. Her baby was taken to the palace of apparel, anyone else she was trying to protect them.

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And what happens in the end, she has her baby come back, what happens in the end, he has state protection to have her sign. And for the rest of humanity, you have to be put in that place to create the legacy of the freedom of the dinosaurs and the establishment of this worship of Allah subhanaw taala which could have made an impact for the entire world. So sometimes you're in a place and we feel stuck. You're taken to the palace of the Pharaoh and you don't know why. Remember, he knows you're here after he knows your full time story. And those those tears that you need when you are begging him in the soil.

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Maybe yours are the ones that will fertilize the earth in which a tree which has flowers bloom and while you will be in your grave 300 years from now, birds and butterflies and bees are taking from the fruit of your tears and you're still getting the reward that you've planted from your sadness in that moment. So recognize that even moments when you're broken, you're fertilizing what you might not see the light. But maybe what comes after it is through that you are being rewarded for it, you have nothing but your this tiny space in the earth instead of being on top of it. Coming from a sacred gratitude or Cortana has told us that when you're grateful I will include you so being

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grateful to him and inshallah he will increase you in the blessings of

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Allah, masha Allah we've all benefited a star thank you so much for your time and that's I just think brothers and sisters to wind up with sister and then I'm going to stay on a little bit longer

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return to gratitude doing well can distance ourselves from Allah to Allah but spend time being grateful this Ramadan we know how to ask but we know do we know how to thank I'm really going to take that away and scatter said you know wisely mashallah sabbatical or get away from a deficit mindset because Allah to Allah is Allah MkII visa Rahman he is his overall things benefits and turning control and and get with that program in sha Allah to Allah and watch the increase

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Yes, yes thank you so much. Thank you so much for the honor of being with you and thank you so much for your kindness bless you sister will speak again inshallah to Allah I know you have other things to do. So we'll let you go and please everybody make dua for Sister Mary and her family and for her work to continue inshallah to Allah was kind of a lot more ignition on that even

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when it's a willekes and MI legal rally concerned about a character. Well, I feel really quite emotional about that. I know what I'm going to be doing this evening Inshallah, to Allah, maybe you'll be doing the same, we can, you know, get away from a deficit mindset sit somewhere in just five minutes and hamdulillah from my eyes, Alhamdulillah for my husband, Alhamdulillah for my children, handler for whatever big and small that we have Allahu Akbar. And take that time to thank Allah the so holy month as well we focus a lot on asking, and that's great, this is the month when, when that when the eyes are answered, when are fasting, may it be accepted, you know, it was beloved

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to Allah to Allah, but also to sit there and acknowledge what what Allah has given and to really be happy with that. Because, you know, if we're grateful he will increase us Subhan Allah, this whole program, which has been put together by the Grace of Allah has been sponsored by what's handled at UK to bring you great content on social media platforms, and also to alert us to the needs of our brothers and sisters in Syria. Subhan Allah Azim they haven't gone away. No solution has been found. These 10s of millions of people haven't gone back to their homes. These children are not safely back in their beds. These mothers are not able to wash their children in their own bathrooms. They don't

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have their own fridges to go back to, they're not sitting next to their grandmother's in the gardens with their fruit growing as they used to. But by the grace of Allah, these brothers and sisters are thanking Allah just to have a center where they can be together if they made it from the war. And that if they have their next meal funded, they know it's been a cut from Allah to Allah and our job. Our job is to be a part of that slipstream of goodness. That is Allah to others world that is Islam. So brothers and sisters, these families fled their homes, Southern northern Idlib and Hama and they've lost everything and what and org.uk I've got a just giving page with them this whole of

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Ramadan. And in the last 10 days, we want to sponsor the 100 families who are right now in this special displacement center. Right now you can find out about the sinuata and all that you can I'm going to play a very short video Please brother Hamza, the one about the actual camp itself so we can see them. We'll watch that now and then come back inshallah.

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I'm now talking to my classroom. Emergency Response manager in Watson foundation talking to you from Madison, mystery in town in

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Idlib province. We are here in our reception center, as you see it's a collective centers receive IDPs, who fled recently the hostilities in southern Idlib and western Aleppo.

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This center have been found for around one

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last two weeks, and we have recently launched this project in collaboration with different donors. We receive around 100 families around 400 to 500 members. And we're planning to extend the center to get more capacity of the IDPs. As you see, we have prepared, there's a heating shelter place, and it's a collective center, that families comes women and men live separately, and we have like four big tents here. And now we're extending, as well as we provide the water sanitation services so Latins drinking water, and as well, we provide each day to meal for all the families who are living in here. As you know, within the last month, around 900,000 IDPS have fled from their homes and were

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displaced according to the United Nation. We invite all the parties to take responsibility, seize the hostilities, to exert more effort to get more funds to respond to the crisis. I would thank you again, all the ones who donated all the donors who cooperated with us to provide these assistance with your cooperation and your with our coordination, we inshallah reach more IDPs which more beneficiaries and provide a decent livings for the people. Thank you so much.

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hamdulillah so you're we're all here tonight gathered by the Grace of Allah with a chance of doing some great work. We browse too much on social media, which is wasteful, but thanks to a feather Maryam Amir, we've really had some good learning tonight and now it's time to to show Allah Our love for his Deen. And how many of the eyes of the Holy Quran link love a lot of prayer with charitable giving. So this 100 pounds for 100 fat for a year 100 families will provide these items food, water, hygiene, medical care and education. So 100 pounds to many of us we have the Zakat, and we like to give to different places. So give a section of your zakat today to our brothers and sisters, whom

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Allah to Allah at the end of the day has raised their case to you right now. I'm sitting here because Allah Allah has chosen me to sit here in the month of Ramadan, to be talking about our brothers and sisters to present their case to you just think about that. And you're sitting where you are at home, on a bus, on a train in your garden, in lockdown, free to move so that you can hear about the case of the specific family who's waiting for you to help them Allahu Akbar, it's written for you. So 100 pounds will provide food water hygiene, medical care and education and keep these families going in this camp Subhanallah them so you can go to one of the links below where the

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Harris con is here. You can go to what Anta org.uk Check out which area you want to give it in. Although we're raising specifically for food and hygiene, and you can give less on my just giving page and Allah knows best what we do. I hope you've benefited from this So brothers and sisters, and I asked for Allah to Allah to put blessing in all of our good deeds to accept our two hours to give us increase to allow us to be grateful to him that he may increase us even more and to accept all our fasting and good deeds this holy month, inshallah to Allah via the letter Allah and Allah to Allah bless sister Marian or Stella, Marian, and all your families. I'll see you again tomorrow

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inshallah. So I'm Ali Khan rahmatullahi wa barakaatuh.