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Kamal El-Mekki

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100% as usual.

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So

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from what I understand your shift, or just going to ask you this segment is called Getting to know shift command lucky up close and personal. So I'm going to ask you a lot of personal questions, inshallah, and you can answer them however, you feel comfortable and Sharla. Just be careful. Yes. So, inshallah So one thing I just, I just heard from you right now, which was was really interesting to me. I think a lot of the youth are interested in that was the fact that you mentioned that you used to be a DJ before No, no, teacher, a teacher.

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DJ,

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used to dealing with students. Okay, so just a couple of questions for you in Sharla. The first question I had was, besides teaching and going around lecturing, and all that sort of stuff, and speaking engagements, what do you like to do Aside from that, people want to know what was just come out linearly, as in hobbies, anything, hobbies? Sure. Okay, hobbies, I do oil painting.

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I'm not making I'm not joking here. Somebody's laughing. I do oil painting. I draw. I like aquatic fish. And I like cats.

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And I mean, that's it. Do you play any sports? No, I've never been any good at any sport that has a bowl in it or something you have to chase around. So I never had good coordination. And it's weird that I wasn't a sports guy. But I was not the nerd either. I was kind of in between. So the only sport that I really, like became very good at and I'm sure by looking at me, you can tell is I used to do a lot of bodybuilding in the

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good old days. And the only proof I have of that is this old photo. But the problem is that everybody who looks at it thinks it's photoshopped.

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But it's not. It's not to impress anybody.

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Yeah, so bodybuilding. So what motivated you to actually go out and seek knowledge? And a lot of the youth are interested in this what what was it for you personally? Is the story behind it? Or what exactly was it that led you to this decision? Okay, well, I don't have any fancy story. It's basically, I was just pushed into it, you know, because in North America, there's like a shortage of speakers. And so you're forced to give a hook, but then you're forced to give a high locker and then, and then as you're forced to speak, you have to prepare for many hours. And so you're forced to seek knowledge. So I think, you know, fairness, I was forced into it because there was shortage.

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That's the only reason.

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I know. Okay, so the question is, a lot of us are forced into an AR situation, a lot of youth Mashallah they want to get to that stage where they want to learn knowledge, and they are stuck in or not stuck in, but a lot of them don't have the opportunity to go outside in Medina or omokoroa, even though they wish to what advice do you have for them living in North America? What can they do? Something you might have done, or something that you suggested them that they could do to be on the same? You know, the same level and Sharla? Right? Well,

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you know, this whole Medina thing. Yeah, and of course, we all know the benefits of that, but that's not the only way to gain knowledge. And there are many people who are let's just call them homegrown speakers here, who Mashallah have fantastic knowledge, because they really had effort, they put effort into it, you know, there are many people who, you know, put all the effort into it, they memorize, they studied and they ran after Messiah and they chased after it, and they didn't chase after video games and other things and then they reach that level. Now, if knowledge was something that was not attainable, and you have to travel overseas to get it, and that would be a problem, but

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out of the mercy of Allah, that's something you can do here as well. And there's so many knowledgeable Michels just now in Toronto, there's so many knowledge with Michelle but I guarantee you when they have a class, they're probably like, you know, 15 you know, 12 serious brothers, and everyone else is just waiting for the the bit to get accepted into Medina. So you don't have to do that if you put efforts some a lot of fantastic speakers came out of it with excellent any knowledge and they chased after the older man, the scholars and the knowledgeable people, and it's not necessary that

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they have to go right so it's very interesting.

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Now I'm going to get into your formal introduction inshallah. So,

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we'll just read what we have down here is shift Command T is a young dynamic speaker and lecturer used to be on sorry

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Mashallah, so shift command, as you can tell is the young used to be young, still young, so young got heart dynamic speaker and lecturer who dedicated his time and effort into educating people through his various talks. He teaches a number of

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a number of youth and also specializes in the field of Islamic history Mashallah. The most

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Famous of his talks and his vibrant vowel workshop called How to give Shahada in 10 minutes, which has led hundreds to Islam. And Mashallah, it's a very good

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talk I would highly suggest everyone listens to it currently has a mom at the Islamic Information Society of Calgary where he dedicates his time in coordinating programs for the youth and creating a supportive environment for non Muslims. He also teaches various courses designed especially for the youth growing up in the West. Mashallah, that's the introduction to the ship, I would highly suggest listening to the current talk that he's going to talk about which is hiding your pride and

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oh, it's patience. So the pride one is totaliser talk. Tomorrow he's going to talk about patience today inshallah. So, without further further ado, inshallah, forget everyone. Give your attention to shift

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Salaam Alaikum Hello.

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smilla han Rahim al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen wa Salatu was Salam ala rasulillah. I mean, he was happy here Jemaine. First of all, I want to begin by saying that I'm very, very, very pleased to be here. Because everybody knows. And everywhere I go, I make sure that everyone knows that my favorite conference in the world is the one organized by MasterCard have been really

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not the computers.

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Thank you. So this is absolutely my favorite conference. And I usually don't miss it. I did have to miss it last year, because I had the conference in Australia at the same exact time. And as we speak, the conference is going on in Australia. I was supposed to be there. But I apologize to them. Because I love this conference so much.

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Thank you. So now.

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So I mean, it's always an honor for me to come to this conference. I always love being around Somali people. I consider them the second best people in the world right after the Sudanese people.

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I'm sorry, was that funny?

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And just to show you how much I love you guys, I have two jokes for you.

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Yes, absolutely. The first one is for the sisters. Sisters. Did you hear the joke about the foolish sister who said no.

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There you go.

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Okay.

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All right, come down, come down.

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Now, obviously,

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obviously, that was for the younger sisters, of course. Now for the brothers a joke.

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How do you keep an ugly person in suspense?

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I'll tell you later.

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All right, come down, please calm down.

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It's all about love. Right?

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All right, people. Let's start with our lecture about patients in Sharla.

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Why is this topic so important? You know, something, it was important just now as we were leaving them with some love for the brothers, because they kept the brothers in one place so the sisters could get out first. And it was amazing watching how impatient people were, we're just supposed to wait a little bit. It's not like someone's gonna lock us in. And so you can't leave them with something for the next two years or anything. Just a few minutes until all the sisters leave. It was fantastic watching people. And the most amazing people were the people they see that we're not moving but they're trying to push their way through. But where are you trying to go and get to the

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door so then you just stand there my stand in your place. And the most amazing thing was old people. They're like, I'll take care of this and they keep pushing everybody Where are you going? Older young you still gonna stand at the door and they just kept pushing their way through young kids, you know and so on is Mashallah young, but big also, big guy pushing his way through it like and like I told one guy is like, Good idea. Just keep pushing your way through. You're probably going to get somewhere and impatience. Few people have patience these days. Ask yourself this. How many times do you push the button for the elevator?

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You push the one time and it lit up. Right? When it lit up. What do you think about you? Again? Yeah, what's gonna happen the buttons gonna say Oh, oh, you're pushing me. I'm sorry. Okay, let me bring the elevator. You push it one time the light comes on fellas. But all of us we push it more than once. Maybe it will come faster or something. And that's not the mechanics of how it works. By the way.

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You know what if you if you drive those of you who drive when you're at a traffic light, it's a red light when it turns green.

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If you're a little bit delayed in moving your car, what happens?

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The guy behind you honks at you immediately. But next time do this, calculate how many seconds you delayed moving your car. What do you think it'll be?

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Probably like three or four seconds. So lights green, you wait four seconds.

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before you're done, the guys honking you behind you. People are so impatient. So, and actually, I'll tell you a true story. I visited one country and the shifts that that a man actually came to him. And he said, Sure, give me a draw to help me become patient because I don't want to wait for it.

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I mean, the guy says, I want to become patient. But I don't have the patience to wait for becoming patient. So give me a DA to quickly move things along. This is this is the problem now. So why is it that people are not patient these days, because of something called Instant gratification, instant gratification, everything you want these days happens quickly. So you get used to instant gratification. Things happen very quickly, you know, before you would have to mail a letter and it goes through, you know, put the envelope into the post office and it gets mailed. And they call it now snail mail, because now we have email, electronic mail, and it just takes a few seconds, and it

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can reach someone across, you know, halfway across the world. Few seconds and you get your response quickly, within a few minutes. cell phone, you want to call anybody anywhere, anytime you pick up the phone. And if you get a hold of that person, and sometimes even while you're trying to call that person, it takes a few seconds for the phone to connect and you get impatient for

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just a few seconds, you can't wait.

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Cars now you move quickly from one point to another planes, again, journeys that would have taken months, just in a few hours, you're there. No. So you don't have to wait for too many things, fast food, just a few minutes, you know, you make your order at the window. You know, give me two Angus burgers with mushrooms and Swiss cheese. By the time you get to the window, it's ready. And you start chopping before you even get to the house that one is gone.

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Everything is fast. So we get used to that. And not only that, not just is everything quick and fast. But also whatever you want, you get it you know and those of us living here, you know you you whatever you want, you get it quickly. So if anyone now in this room is craving chocolate ice cream, how difficult would it be for you to get it, it's so easy, just a few minutes you could be eating it. So whatever you want, you get it. You know, you want to watch a certain movie or documentary, you can go wherever you go either online or to a place and you can get it. So whatever you want comes to you quickly, you don't have to wait for hours and for years. So most things happen quickly.

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And we live in now in a day and age and we should be thankful to Allah azza wa jal where most of the things you want are attainable. And you can get most of the things that you want. Most of the foods that you crave whatever part of the globe it's from, you can find it here in North America. And whatever it is that you desire, you can for the most part afford it. If you want to buy a car, just one paycheck, you can buy, you know, some old car. In other countries, people work their whole life and they can't get certain things. You know, I used to i, there's there's a guy I knew he was a professor in his country. And he used to get $7 a month, a professor $7 a month, you know, a lot of

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us make more than that in an hour. So we were we're living in a day and age where most of the things are available and attainable. And you see, if you look at it, this is even affected the politics of the world now. Because before, politicians would always promise things for people. And that's why the politician would always say, if I'm elected into office, I promise you this and this and that, I will promise you electricity in every home and running clear, clean running water in every home, and no health care for people and this and that. So now people have the health care, they have the electricity, they have the running water. So now politicians have nothing to promise people anymore.

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So what do politicians do now? They promise to save you from bad things. And that's why you always hear about new protecting people protecting the borders, terrorism, that's just a way again for these dirty, filthy politicians to get their way. Because before they used to promise people but we're a day and age now where everything you want just about is there that healthcare is there's so many blessings of Allah azza wa jal are there. But most of the things are fast and instant. So we get used to instant gratification things happening quickly. But you might ask them if this is a blessing, and what's the problem with it? The problem is that this can transfer to other aspects of

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your life and it can transfer over to aspects of worship. And so when you want something from Allah azza wa jal, typically what you're supposed to do, you're supposed to ask Allah subhanaw taala and then you're supposed to pick the times where your dog will be responded to, whether it's in your schedule, or the last third of the night or when you're fasting and you break your fast. You're supposed to

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Constantly as a scholar, say, beg Allah is the origin, the same way that a child will beg their parents to buy them a candy or something like that at the store, the child will keep begging the parent, you know, and crying over and over again, just so they can get the candy. When you want something from Allah azzawajal, you ask once and twice and you ask again and again, and again, you keep crying and begging to Allah subhanaw taala. But because we're used to things happening quickly, we want to raise our hand and Dawn, we wanted to whatever, we want to be there immediately with fries even, you know, or so we want things to happen quickly. And we're supposed to, you know, put

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effort into it. And we're supposed to persevere constantly and asking a lot for what we need. You know, how many of us right now, and don't put your hands up. But how many of us really, will use the last third of the night to solve all our problems? How many people now you just asked yourself, how many people use that as their way to solve problems the last 30 the night. So you prepare your clothes, you set your alarm clock, you go to bed early, and then you wake up in the last third of the night. And then you start to make to ask about and why wouldn't you solve your problems this way? No matter what else you have to do during the day physically to solve your problem. Make sure

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that one third of the last one third of the night is part of the solution. Because Allah azza wa jal soprano, tada in his greatness descends down to the lower heavens and he asks, Who will call upon me? So I might answer. Imagine Allah Subhana, Allah is asking this question, who may call upon you? So I may answer, who will ask of me, so I may give Him and who will seek my forgiveness so that I may forgive him? So upon Allah every night, this happens, Allah azzawajal in his greatness is asking these questions, and what are we doing at that time? At that time, we're in the deepest of sleep, people will have problems. And they'll stay up all night worrying about it, then they'll go to bed

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and they woke up in the morning, and then try to fix it. But why didn't you wake up in the last day of the night and ask for a solution. So and how difficult is that just set your alarm clock to, you know, whatever time in the early morning and get up and pray or whatever it doesn't have to be you don't have to be half as to just get up and praying the rest of the night. You can keep repeating one sutra for an hour if you want. You can repeat pseudo class for a whole hour for one workout, just keep repeating certain thoughts. What's the problem with that? No, some of the hardware some of the early Muslims, the present settler,

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the old narrations that they would recite one ayah for hours upon hours, just get up and then make long little cool loans to dude, ask Allah Subhana Allah to help you with your situation. So can we all agree that this is part of our solution for the next time we have a problem? And those of us who have whatever kind of problem this time, can we make that a solution? Is it that difficult, really, and large retail is asking, I always give the example. If the richest guy in Toronto comes and says, you know, look, you have problems with monetary problems. Just ask say whatever amount I'll give you.

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The total comes up too. Long story short, $55,000. This is a guy that Allah provided for him. But I'm not in his greatness is asking who may ask, so I may give him and we're sleeping. So brothers sisters up in Lafayette, make this part of your solution for whatever problem you have currently, or for whatever problem you may have in the future. Wake up in the last day of the night. But you know what, again, even in the last third of the night, it's not magic, you might have to wake up in the second day and then the third day and ask Allah again and again, but in the world of instant gratification. We want even the DOD to really be responded to quickly. And the thing is, we don't

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dictate when a large project chooses to respond to you. That's up to Allah subhanaw taala so you wait and you constantly make done ask Allah subhanaw taala the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said used to juggling a honeycomb Malema Jani Yaga, the President said that you will be answered to you will be responded to your da so long as you don't rush. So then they asked him, How do you rush the DA? How do you rush? You say I asked him I asked him I got nothing. So the problem said you will be given the response as long as you don't rush it. So you'll be given the response. As long as you don't say, I asked and I asked I still didn't get anything, then you won't be given anything. But

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you see how instant gratification can affect our da? Everybody with me? Yeah. So people are used to things happening quickly. And so now they ask a lot smarter, they don't get an answer. They start to go and look for all other kinds of neat, magical things, magical solutions. And that's why you have these weird books now that have to offer everything and the book and it will promise things like if you say this immediately this will happen. And if you say that immediately that would happen. And if you think there was a drought like that, there would be problems in the

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Anyone had the problems? Let me find out the ridiculous book here. Let me say this. Okay, great. Everything's fixed. You know, that's not how it is. We cry we ask a lot of again, we persevere. We're persistent and asking a lot of diligent. But because of instant gratification, we want things to happen quickly. One example I always give is the one formula which is of course is false. Right? They tell you that anything you want to happen, if you recite that Fatiha 1000 times, at night, it will happen immediately.

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Anything you want, you know, brothers, not marriage.

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In the morning, you'll be married.

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You know, it's, of course, no need to say this is there's no such thing. There's no evidence to that. There's no Hadith, it's just gibberish. And the good news is most people who attempt that they fall asleep before finishing that. Maybe somebody can do the math how long it takes to recertify to how once and then how many minutes journey times 1000 isn't even possible within one night. But people believe things like that. They'll try it until they fall asleep. They'll try it. Why? Because they want these instant things, magical things. You know, if you go to the Muslim lands, if somebody has some kind of problem, what do they do? Where's one place they go? Who can tell us? What kind of

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person they go to?

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Somebody said I think the Sahara not not a good chef, a chef, you know, a guy who will go and he'll start to invocations.

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And something will come from big red thing will come out. And then so why did the gin Oh is going for these weird solutions. And they'll give you a little bit of thing, you, you burn it, you put the ashes on top of your head and you climb and sit on top of a tree until it rains and then it will happen for you. Why? Because people want instant gratification. They don't have patience for these kinds of things.

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So now,

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if you can't be patient with simple things, like the elevator, like the you know, the entrance is blocked for just a few minutes until the system is you know, move. If you can be patient while you're sweet video game is loading. Yeah. How many of you young people cry when the video is loading? Come on?

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Or do they load anymore? It probably don't load anymore. I don't know what's new with video games, they probably just go quickly. And he's still impatient, like, two seconds.

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Because people are impatient. So if you're not even patient with the video game, the elevator that just a few things like that. What makes you think you'll be patient with more difficult trials. And that's why this topic is so important. Because it's a pattern, you know, if it applies to just simple things, it can move on to your acts of worship.

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You know, you might say, well, what's the big deal? There's no punishment mentioned for impatience. There's no remedy. This is for those who are impatient will get this punishment. There is no ayah that says those who are impatient will get that punishment. So what's the big deal? Well, the big deal is that impatience, especially when it comes to your deen, it could lead to other it could lead to disasters, or it could lead to reactions that lead you to punishment from Allah subhanaw taala.

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And Allah subhanaw taala.

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Well, we know in Islam, the places where patience is required. All right, and see now how important patience is. One of the things you have to be patient upon is obedience to Allah azza wa jal, you have to be patient upon being obedient to Allah subhanaw taala because obeying the law requires patience, because the How can you enter Paradise without patience, and paradise has been surrounded with

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the McCarrick things that are difficult or sometimes even, you know, you know, disliked for people. The paradise has been surrounded with things that are difficult, so they have to do the things that are difficult to make it into paradise. So if you're not a patient, patient upon these things that are difficult, how are you going to make it there?

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For example, waking up for fidget, you know, you're tired and you wake up procedure. Is that easier? Or is it easy to just wake up when the sun is out? That's easier when the sun is out. So you want Jenna you do the more difficult thing? You get up and you wake up for Frederick? Because you want Jenna hijaab that's the most difficult thing, no doubt. So you want Jana you will do the more difficult thing. So you have to be obedient patient upon the obedience of Allah subhanaw taala Everybody with me? Fantastic.

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too.

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Say one you have to be patient upon obedience to you have to be patient to stay away from the prohibitions from what Allah subhanaw taala made haram or prohibited or unlawful because again, the Hellfire was surrounded with desires, a lot of things that you desire. They've been said they surround the hellfire. And so for example, is it what what is it easier to just, you know, commit most kinds of sins or to abstain

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From the sin to abstain is more difficult, it's easier to commit the sin. So a lot of times the things that lead to the Hellfire are easy to do. You know, for example, in fornication when committing Zina that's easier to do, especially in the West, it's very easy to do. So to keep yourself from that you have to be patient upon this have to be patient, from what Allah subhanaw taala made, how long, for example, having bad manners that easier, it's very easy. And to be rude to people, that's very easy. So for the thugs in the audience. And I know that you're out there,

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the thugs in the audience, you are losers.

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I mean, that's the truth. Because you think you're fantastic for doing the easiest things. You think you're great for doing something easy for being rude, you know, walking like this and stuff, getting people to mean look, and that's easy. That's easy. Anybody can do that. So your you've become, quote unquote, special by doing the easiest things.

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The more difficult things to have good manners be proper with everybody contain your, you know, your anger, and what's your tongue around people? That's the easier thing.

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You know, using bad words, is that easy or difficult? It's so easy. Anybody can pronounce a bad word. contain yourself is more difficult. And most people, you know, whether religious or not, they throw bad words. I just wait till you're in the military.

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Just wait till he gets into an accident or something. bad words start flying out of his mouth. What is this? Oh, say you're good brother. When the sun is shining? Only when it's a good day. You're a good brother. Yeah. But when stuff happens, it's fantastic. How in some of these nice brothers, when something bad happens, they revert back into jelenia. They just become some guy you've never met before. You know, bad words, sign language, all kinds of means of communication.

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And you ask Allah to not make it from that group say I mean,

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you know.

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Speaking of bad words, they tell you that the person who uses bad words is somebody who has no patience. True or false. It's very clear, no one who has patience I've ever heard of a righteous man who has good patience, something bad. Having said the F word

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doesn't happen. So if you use bad words, you have patience. If you use bad words, you don't have good manners, true or false. No doubt about that. No manners. If you use bad words, you also have no token. Because you know, this is a situation decreed by Allah subhanaw taala. And now it happened. And you're not you don't have any reliance on a lesson. Immediately you start using foul language. And you also have know your team. So now, you want to know what is one of the filthiest things ever?

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One of the filthiest things ever, what do you think?

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Think to yourself, don't say it out loud. But thank you. So what do you think one of the filthiest things you could ever see? or hear? I'll tell you, sisters pay attention. It's a sister who uses bad words. That is one of the most despicable things you'll see in your life, a Muslim sister, especially if she's wearing hijab, who uses the F word and the S word.

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And you might think Now, why are you bringing this up? Now? You know what? I've been coming to this conference for a number of years now. And three years ago when I came to the conference, all right, let's be realistic now. Yeah. Because, you know, sometimes we can deceive ourselves. Like, I remember one time, they were like, oh, there's 1000 young men and woman in the room right now listening to an Islamic lecture. Mashallah. And the sun is rising from the west, and Islam is progressing and moving forward, and the light of Islam shall reach every household. 1000 young men in the room and women listening to a lecture on Islam, okay, but let's not fool ourselves. There are

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estimate as I was told from some prison chaplains into the Toronto area, the Greater Toronto Area, there are about 3000 Muslim males in prison. And we're happy about 1000 We're here for a conference 3000 the prisons, let's be realistic. So being realistic. Three years ago, I was at this conference, and it was near a shopping center. And of course, a lot of Chicago it was happening stuff like that

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in a capsule

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so

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so

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so what happened was that some people weren't serious about the conference. And now this is the complaint came from the owners of the shops in the shopping center. They came and complained to the organizers of the conference that the CES turns, and hijaab would hang around and loiter in front of their stores and when they would ask them to leave the sisters would respond with the F word.

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Please.

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Now, even though it's pitch dark, none of you are going to put your hands up Why? And I know some people do use the F word, but you won't put your hand up even though it's dark because you know, it is so shameful and disgusting. And you don't want your other sisters to know that you use bad words. None of your life.

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Know It. It's so disgusting and shameful yet you are shamed in front of everybody but in front of Allah azza wa jal there you go using the F word. We think your Jo ruler, whoever it is that guy

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so

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it still doesn't prove I was a DJ by the way.

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So no, seriously man, this is disgusting. Sisters in the F word and wearing Hijab using the F word. These men go far too far. Confirm came to complain of Muslim sisters using the F word. What's what this oma? you telling me we're gonna take over and I'm in the light of it. Just put that aside. Don't give me any of that stuff right now. Let's jibberish. Okay. You don't dream Jani? This is the reality. We have sisters in hijab using the F word. kuffaar males complaining from them. He told me

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it's going to reach but not from us. Must be another generation that's going to do that. Sisters don't use bad words. Ever, ever. Unbelievable. How can a sister use an F word? Or any other word for that matter? And that doesn't mean that brothers are off the hook. She's unbelievable. Now, the other day I met this guy supposed to be religious. metamath domestic. Let's do coffee, sir. Okay, let's do coffee with this guy.

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He's sitting in an S word starts flying casually. No. Oops, I take it back. Sorry about this casual Yeah, like we, me and him are all sitting over a beer or something. What do I look like I have no beard and sitting on like a cafe around here. You using the S word in front of me like that. And he's going to talk about Islam and Islam is gonna move forward and down with for the sake of Allah.

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I want to hear from you. I don't want to sit with you again, using the F word so casually, what do you think you are? no patience. For sure. I'm telling you people don't use bad words. Don't This is unbelievable law here. And maybe we should just not give a talk about patience and keep it about bad words. What do you think? All right. So no, seriously, people meet so many brothers use bad words.

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And just very casual to them. And these bad words are being recorded. And you'll get them back. Don't worry, you'll get them back. You know, you don't have to take what I say. Seriously, keep using bad words. Yeah, you're cool. Keep using bad words. Every time you use a bad word Angel writes it down. And then you're going to get your chapters this thick of therefore this thick of this word this thick and just keep looking through it. Enjoy yourself.

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You don't have to listen to what I say. Nobody's going to stop you. The Prophet sallallahu Sallam said either them to stay first not my [???]. If you have no hair, do what you please. What does it mean? It's going to say there are two explanations. One means if you don't have higher meaning, you're not ashamed here. If you're not ashamed in front of a lot, you're not ashamed in front of people and you're not ashamed in front of your self. Might shame 200 or so? Yes. You're not ashamed in front of a law, not ashamed in front of people not ashamed in front of yourself. First not my [???], do whatever you please What does it mean? It means nothing is gonna stop you. If you're not

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ashamed in front of Allah, not in front of people, what's gonna stop you. But then the scholars say there's another meaning to the Hadith. It means do as you please, and you will be punished for it. So those of you who are so cool, now you're going to continue using the F word Do as you please. And you will get it if Allah doesn't forgive you. So you better stop it right now. What is the value of saying I'm Muslim, and I know the Quran and I know this and that when I went to this conference, and I sat in this halaqa and I listened to that Sheriff and I have this CD and in the end, your mouth, just like the cover next to you who never heard of guidance, never heard of Islam, never heard of

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the prophets of Allah. They said, No.

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Don't do it. And it's not something hard to stop.

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And you know, the man who came to the prophets of Allah Solomon, he complained, he said, I'm a Bedouin man. I've got the harshness of the Bedouins. So what do you suggest? And they give me a solution. The President tells him just three words and the man change for the rest of his life. Why? Because he wanted to change three words changed him. So the Brazilian said fell out to subarna hadn't do not curse anyone who says I've never kissed anyone after that. nor a camel nor a sheep, nor sheep or camel. Even out of the animals to the list.

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You want to stop cursing, you can do it right now. It's not like you need to curse to survive. You're gonna wake up out of breath. Oh, if

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you don't need it to survive. Sisters.

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Don't you dare. Don't ever use bad words. Don't every you representing Islam and using the F word or whatever the word

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And brothers who wants to marriage histories as the F word?

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Just Just for information, nobody put their hand up. All right? All right people. So you have to be patient upon what Allah made Tom.

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okay to be patient about ulimate heroin because it's easy to use the bad words easy to have bad manners easy to do all these things have to be patient upon that. All right, and then you have to be patient upon the trials and tribulations because no doubt everyone's gonna have a different test in life. Some people will be tested severely, some people that test will be you know, minor, but everyone's going to be tested a lot of differences in the Koran, this

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meme has given us a huge Raghu Rama Rama afternoon, do people think that they're going to be left alone and they will not be tested. So what Allah is saying, yes, you're going to be tested, everyone's going to be tested. So when Allah test you,

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you have to be patient, in order to pass the test, you have to be patient.

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And a lot of people again, they are not patient, and they complain. So when you're tested by Allah subhanaw taala, you have one of four possible responses, one, you can be patient, then you get your reward for that. So that's the first one. That's where we all want to be a lot testy with something difficult, your patient, patient doesn't mean you don't do anything about it, you try to fix it rectified but you're patient, you don't complain, you're not angry with Allah, whatever been left for testing you. The second type of everyone paying attention.

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The second type, some people, they get angry in their heart, but they still keep holding their tongue. They don't argue they don't complain. And they don't complain to other people. They're just in their heart, they're angry. That's also not good. So you want to be accepting of what Allah tested you with. And there's a third con people who complain and they keep complaining and complaining and complaining and complaining about what happened to them. And then of course, the fourth con is the worst where people like also will use a physically needle, you know, like, tear their clothing or tear their pockets or slap themselves things like that.

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So you know, Allah subhanaw taala says in the Quran, possible sub Baron Jamil and be patient a beautiful patience. What does that mean? It means this is a patience where you know, you don't complain, and you're patient, not one where you complain. And This usually happens with people when something bad happens to them. And I know I gave this example about three years ago, but I will repeat it again, where a calamity befalls someone. And he complained to everyone and they think they're being patient. So just let's pick on sisters, something bad will happen to our sister. So she'll get out her phone book. And she call all her friends one by one. And then this happened. And

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then the doctor said this, and now they have to cut off his dad, and then complain. And then in the end of the conversation, this is the beautiful part. She says

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what can we do? We'll be patient inshallah.

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No, this is not the patients that allows we didn't ask for foster sobrang Jamil and the beautiful patients is one where you don't complain. And then she ends up causing Nexus. And then he said that then Indiana will be patient now. This is a beautiful patient is the one where you don't complain.

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You know, there was a

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a woman during the time of the Prophet sallallahu sallam, and some someone had died. Some of her eyes and family had died and she was crying. The person told her to be patient and she didn't recognize who he was. So she said, you know, you don't know what this is like no, have you ever felt this type of calamity the president walked away so then later on the toilet this was the Prophet of Allah Salallahu Salam. So she came back to apologize to him and the process I'm told her patience is required at the first shock so when you first get the the calamity that's when you're patient, not you cry for 10 years and after a loss we're gonna be patient that's not it, you know playing

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Warhammer Allah He says that, like the the noble

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person experiences or has patience willingly, because he realizes the benefits of patience and knows the reward for his patience, meaning, like someone who is a wise person, when he gets a calamity, something bad happens. He becomes patient immediately at that moment, because later on it doesn't count you know. So I was manage reporter Wiseman said, a man with wisdom will as soon as he

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as soon he as he faces adversity. He he does that which a foolish man will only do after a month. What does that mean? The foolish man, when he is tested with something difficult. It takes him a month Do you realize he has to be patient with this? First he's running around complaining and trying to do this and that, but after a month, he realizes this just needs patience. But the wise man realizes it the first moment doesn't happen.

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To go through the month experience to realize that it has to be patience. It says that the the person who is not very wise, he exercises patience out only after he realizes that he has no other choice. And this is the person who is not wise. He will only become patient after realizing there's no other choice but to wait it out. A wise man realizes that from the beginning. All right.

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I'll tell you one time.

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We were, we were sitting with this one, one chef, and then this guy came in, and his car broke down and he had a flat tire and this spare was flat. And so he was complaining. So the end of the shift was trying to tell him make to our he's trying to tell him say that two out of one, you're afflicted with a calamity. You know, so you say in

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your own Allahumma journey, FEMA, see, but he was leafly Hiram minha. So a lot, so we're barely to where to learn to him, we return a lot me, give me a reward in this for this calamity that has befallen me and replaced me with something better. The President says if you say that alone replaced it with something better. So this guy came in with this problem. And the chef kept trying to tell him to say that he was too angry.

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Say after me just kept refusing. Then after a while they sat down right before we drank tea the guy calm down and but she tell me that again.

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She said it's too late, too late. Now after you drink tea and you relax. Now you want to say that I should have said in the beginning.

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So anyway, so what happens with the patients What do you get with patients you get the reward of Allah Subhana. Allah says in nama for sobre, una Jerome believed that those who are patient, they get the reward without any without measure. Allah subhanaw taala sometimes will give us you know, let's just call them mathematical equations for reward. You know, it has shown to be actually I'm 30. If you do the Hasina, three multiplied type times 10, then it could be multiplied times seven, then multiplied by 100. But Allah subhanaw taala is saying with reward, no measure. No mathematical equation alone gives you the reward for your patience. So you get a lot of reward. But then there's

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something I actually just as amazing. You get the love of Allah subhanaw taala by being a patient person, you get the love of Allah azza wa jal, and we know that because the laws against Islam Quran, Allah who hibou savarin and Allah loves those who are patient. Allah loves those who are patient. And in the end, as they say, it's all good, right? Because the Prophet said, Lim said that the believer, and he said the argument, the Umbrella Movement, the wonderful is the the lot of the believer, because all of everything that happens to him is good. So if something bad happens, if good happens, he is thankful. And then that is good for him. And if something bad happens to him, he

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becomes patient, and that is good for him as well. So whatever way you look at it, something bad happens to you. You can it can be a win win situation. If you're patient, it's good for you it's reward. And if something good happens anything Allah you still get reward. Pro seven said that is only for the believer, this great blessing here. So when you're tested with Allah subhanaw taala, do you want to get an A? Or do you want to get an F and if you want to get an F go ahead and complain and be impatient, if you want to get an A Be patient and realize that Allah subhanaw taala decreed that whatever happened to you was going to happen 50,000 years before he even created the earth.

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You don't want to think of it like that. It makes things a lot easier to digest and to deal with that this was written 50,000 years before the earth even existed. So why would you complain now, things are gonna happen. So you'll be patient, and you get your reward and a lot of haunted promises. For in number three, you saw verily after hardship comes ease, not just once again next verse immediately allows you to repeat it again in three years after hardship comes ease. So we know even if you experienced the hardship, you know that the ease is going to come you know that you can call on a loss, you know that He is the Most Merciful and you are patient and you don't complain to

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others and you don't now it doesn't mean that if you know someone can help you or if you tell the problem to someone who can help you know it means that you're complaining and you're not being patient but when you complain that's when you've been impatient so with that we stop here in shall la de la for four years and they've listening so long Baraka Mohammed

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Salam Alikum