Ibrahim Nuhu – Building A Muslim Home

Ibrahim Nuhu
AI: Summary © The speakers emphasize the importance of Islam, self reliance, control, and absorption in achieving success. They stress the need for strong relationships, finding a partner who can support and help with family life, learning from past lessons, and trusting oneself. The speakers advise parents to make small donations, avoid giving gifts, and find a balance between giving and helping children. The importance of trusting oneself and not blaming one for a situation is emphasized.
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My brothers and sisters, it is our duty

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for us to spread the message of Islam.

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Revivers, a group of passionate students,

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unite to offer you the opportunity to fulfill

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this obligation together.

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Revivers is a student run Dawah Organization formed

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within IUM with one mission, to spread the

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message of Islam.

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We conduct events and workshops featuring knowledgeable scholars

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from around the world eager to teach us

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about the beauty of Islam.

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Get unique opportunities to converse with knowledgeable scholars.

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Diversify your skills from event planning to public

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speaking.

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Once again, I know we had rice. We

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had kabza.

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But shawarma,

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that's the first time I had

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a good meat.

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Right? Although we have in

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the not in Pahang or Jandebay. Wow. That

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food is awesome.

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Right? If those who want to taste

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puree clean,

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cooked from the ground,

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go to Jandebayg.

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Meet Abu Omar.

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Beautiful

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food.

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Let's not talk about food. Let's talk now.

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Who's ready for the quiz?

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Brothers and sisters,

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we'll be having the QR code for the

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participants to enter. Hopefully, the team can project

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that.

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It's q and a.

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As for those who

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definitely there are questions

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that would like to be, answered,

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by the panelist, Bayatulillah.

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Alright. Brothers and sisters,

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scan

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take out your phone and scan the QR

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code.

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Please, I beg you. I urge all of

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you sincerely deep down from my heart.

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Please use your real names.

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For Allah's sake.

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Right?

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And okay.

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Good.

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Okay. Good names.

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Okay. Okay. At least this

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that's fine.

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Who is z? Come on.

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A k

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is known as

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use of Amabdulon.

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What? A? I just said don't use a.

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Oh oh, okay.

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Breathe out.

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Is it possible to bring the projector down

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a little bit?

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Because some couldn't scan from the back.

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Oh, okay. Alright. Fine. Chef is gonna arrive.

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Right?

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Oh, okay. So we have to delay a

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little

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bit. Stall.

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I mean, we have to stall.

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Stall. Right?

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Wow. I saw Nottingham. It's a whole team,

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I guess so.

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Alright.

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120.

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I was told there are around 300 participants.

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Correct?

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More.

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Only a 122?

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How do you pronounce that? A t t

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y y?

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Alti, like give

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in Irving.

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Sorry. I didn't get that.

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Okay.

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Alright. The game pin or the game code

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is 7552870.

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7552870.

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Okay.

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More than 300 participants, only 125 registered

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or scanned the quote

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or joined.

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Allahum

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Ustad.

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Right. For those who just walked in, take

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out your notes,

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refresh

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what the 2 speakers have conveyed.

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The knowledge that have been disseminated

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throughout

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the morning sessions.

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We'll be starting inshallah.

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So prepare yourself. Embrace yourself

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for an exciting q

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kahoot question.

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Right? Quiz. Prepare yourself.

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We're gonna start inshallah.

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Let's do it. Everyone say.

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Louder.

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Don't let that kabsa take you down.

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Louder.

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Come on brothers.

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Those kids at the back

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energetic

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brothers.

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Say it one more time.

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Good to go?

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10

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seconds. 10 seconds. Okay.

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Have some.

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We learned today about patience.

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Within this 10 seconds, let's do this by

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ourselves.

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132.

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5, 10. Oh, I should count. Alright.

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Okay. Let let us count together. Everyone, 10,

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9,

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8,

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7.

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Let the game begin.

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Building a Muslim home session 1.

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Why were the wives of the prophet

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instructed to cover in front of the blind

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Sahabi.

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Because this draws because of the status.

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Alright.

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Good question. I like this.

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Perfect.

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Right.

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Okay.

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Yes.

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Because modesty goes both ways. Interesting.

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No reason. Okay. That's just a joke.

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No brothers.

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What is the one of the rules in

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intending a halakah, gathering of knowledge?

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The adab of tolebirayin.

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Dozing off. Imagine someone answers that.

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Respecting the shoe, attending late, whispering when talk.

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Wait.

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Whispering when talking? How do you do that?

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You were talking.

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Dozing.

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Right. Next question.

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Who was

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Barziza. Okay. It's Raeliad. Come on. He knows

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the story of Barziza.

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A prophet who abandoned his people, a sinful

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person who pretended to be pious, a righteous

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worship of a felt. That's so obvious. Answer.

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Yes.

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This shows that many of us were not

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paying attention

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to such Sharif.

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Right?

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What's up? It's still on the lead.

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True or false? Only unmarried and sinful people

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are affected by temptations from the opposite gender.

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Imagine someone sees,

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Oh, wait, Collin. You gotta be kidding me.

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Someone took the green color?

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Okay. Next question.

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Allah must have left.

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Aisha is on the lead.

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What did Allah say about?

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There's some benefits in here.

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Oh, it's

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who made this question, sir?

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Okay. Alhamdulillah. At least no one chose the

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red one, which is good.

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Right. She's back.

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She's on track now. Next question.

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Do not approach. What chapter in the Quran

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is this from?

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Open your Quran app right now. Find it.

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Search.

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You should also add which number of verse.

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That will make even better.

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Yeah. We have to do our muraja.

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We have to revise and check back the

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Quran.

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You're Yusuf.

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True or false? A believer of the highest

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level avoids marriage all his life.

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Miss Keane, the one who leaves marriage. Miss

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Keane.

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Miss Keane.

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You Allah.

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Oh my god.

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What is the one what is one of

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the key factors of success?

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Interesting.

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Self reliance, self control, self absorption,

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self indulgent.

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Alright.

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Quite a tricky

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4 options.

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Montas.

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Sent.

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This people will be under Allah's shade on

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the day of judgment

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except focus the key word except.

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Oh,

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good

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answers.

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The one who memorized this hadith and knows

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this hadith well,

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can answer it well.

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For the person who is at the risk

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of falling to sin, the nikah is

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Shh. Why do you have to tell the

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answer?

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It's

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compulsory.

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Come on. Someone

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say.

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Hamam?

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The fitra is to abstain from social relationships.

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Imagine someone

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says

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Okay.

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Unbelievable.

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Saliha is back.

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What is the second objective of nikah?

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Sheikh Sajjad's talk.

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To be a home that will be a

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source of guidance for all. To become garments

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for each other, to cover each other's deficiencies,

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to create a safe home. Wow.

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Good good answers here.

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13. Not bad.

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What are the 3 basic elements of a

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home?

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You've repeated this before we end.

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Great food, nice decoration, soft bedding.

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Good. Wait. We forgot the kitchen cabinet.

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Kitchen cabinet is very crucial.

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Test.

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The is only manifested

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through the fabulous of Islam.

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Right. Let's see who is the winner. 3rd

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place goes to

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Fabiola,

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a sister.

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Okay. I don't know. Is it a brother

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or a sister?

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And firstly goes to

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So, for the winners,

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Imran. Imran. Imran. Our brother, Imran in the

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white shirt. Mashallah. Barakkala. He's still single.

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Obviously, he's wearing a white shirt. I asked

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him just now to confirm that he was

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single.

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So you can claim your gifts from him.

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If you want to claim it now or

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after, please do meet with brother Amran.

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Alright. We move to the next session, which

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is I want to invite

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a good brother.

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A brother that stays in pv8.

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A brother that stays in pv8. I want

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to invite brother Faraz on stage. How are

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you, Faraz? I'm good.

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Are you? Good.

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How how's how how do you how do

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you feel today in today's, session? Today's,

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the first conference. The virus is the first

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conference you're having. A lot of people have

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come to different

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Right.

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And, we have Amir.

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That's the best part of

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No. Not really. Because we have them, the

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participants,

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as the best guests today. Hence, the topic

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will have to be also interest. Okay.

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I want to seek knowledge and there are

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many people who wants to seek knowledge too.

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In today's time where

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devices and applications are

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out there. What is the what is your

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advice for me to seek knowledge?

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Since you have something to share with them

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as well. Yeah. Something quite exciting

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because,

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you know, we have knowledge of people. Right?

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You can Google it and you can ask

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them

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coming from.

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So this is where we want to introduce

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a platform called Churel,

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and we'll be playing a short video first

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to show you guys a glimpse of what

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the

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So I'm gonna leave the stage for you

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and hopefully, you can enlighten us with true.

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Inshallah.

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Oh, yeah.

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Try to put the mic closer to you.

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these are the these are the different things.

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of the event. If you have any questions

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discuss from there. So,

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There are tons of features that are coming

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up. This is still our phase 1 launch

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phase of our of our platform.

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Insha'Allah,

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down the year, we're gonna have a lot

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more features coming up and a lot more

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exciting things coming, together for all of you,

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insha'Allah.

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For that

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presentation of.

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They're not far, actually.

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So for more information you can reach out

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to our brother for us. So our teacher

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Sheikh Ibrahim is here without

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further delay.

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Alhamdulillah all of us have gone through

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attentively

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together in steps

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of taming our temptations.

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The steps of choosing and understanding or correcting

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the view of the views of marriage

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through sheikh Sajjad's

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lecture.

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And now

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we also know

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what to do after the knot has been

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tied.

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What comes next

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is the upbringing of the children, the terbia

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of a child or the children.

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How do we educate our children discipline

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When emotion regulation.

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According to the sunnah of the prophet sallallahu

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alaihi wa sallam when the when rasallallahu

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alaihi wa sallam stood up when Fatima radiallahu

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anhu

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came in the house and kissed her.

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With this, I would like to invite

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Usa Al Nana, Alfadil,

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Sheikh Ibrahim,

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to enlighten us, to share with us

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on the topic of

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the

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prophet's

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way of a bring children.

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My brothers and sisters.

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Sheikh Ibrahim will be one of the speakers

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at our conference on this Sunday.

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Let me tell you more about him.

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Sheikh Ibrahim graduated from the CUNY of Shariah

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at the University of Medina, Almanuwala,

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and is now a lecturer at the career

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of economics,

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for,

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this, initiative. May Allah

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accept it from all of you

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and, bless you and put in your in

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your life. Ask Allah

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to help us and to aid us to

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say that which, benefit

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and to protect us from saying that which

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is, harmful to to us and the community.

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I believe this event is very, important,

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especially for,

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actually,

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in fact, everyone,

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because the first and the second part of

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it addresses the matters of the youth

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more than those who are already married.

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And this last part

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is for everyone also as well,

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because it deals with the of

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the the progeny and the kids.

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And

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one of the reason why we were introducing

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the first two, sessions.

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And

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as I said, this topic is very important

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because,

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unfortunately,

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the war against Islam

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is actually taking a new dimension

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through this,

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what do you call,

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part of our society.

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The enemies of Islam,

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they realize that

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fighting Islam and destroying Islam

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using weapons

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is a joke and,

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technically, it's something that is impossible for them

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to succeed in that.

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They have been trying

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since

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the time of the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa

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sallam

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to make sure that Islam doesn't succeed,

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but they fail.

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They met the prophet

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after persecuting him and chasing out chasing him

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out of his place,

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they met him in several battles.

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In Badr,

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they fought the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam,

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and they lost.

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So it was a very painful moment, for

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them. They never thought this to happen to

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them.

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In Uhud, they came also with the same

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enthusiasm

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that Islam

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is over.

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They also lost

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badly against the Muslim.

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And don't forget in

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the battle of Badr,

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the majority

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were the enemies.

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The Muslims were the minorities,

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but the enemies lost.

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In the battle of Uhud,

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the Muslims

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who are the minority,

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around 700

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people

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participating in that,

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jihad,

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and the enemies

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were about 3,000 people,

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and they lost the battle.

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And moving forward,

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the battle of Hazarqid,

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the number of the enemies who went to

00:31:04 --> 00:31:07

Medina to fight the Muslim actually

00:31:08 --> 00:31:10

outweighs the population in Medina.

00:31:12 --> 00:31:13

It's in Medina, collectively,

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all of Medina, including everyone, they don't read

00:31:17 --> 00:31:19

that amount of the enemies who came to

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the place. So they never thought

00:31:22 --> 00:31:23

this not to work.

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The cooperation of the Jew,

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those inside Medina,

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and the monothelin inside Medina,

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and also the cooperation

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of the villages and the cities around Mecca.

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And with the cooperation of the Jews in

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the, the military base,

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you know, they had against,

00:31:44 --> 00:31:45

they established against Islam.

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But all of these went

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in vain. Allah

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says,

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And, subhanAllah, in the battle of Azab,

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even Allah did not let the believers do

00:32:02 --> 00:32:05

the job by themselves that much, but he

00:32:05 --> 00:32:07

want them to be prepared because this is

00:32:07 --> 00:32:09

what Allah wants us to do, to do

00:32:09 --> 00:32:10

what is within our capability.

00:32:12 --> 00:32:14

What it was in their capability is

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to dig that trench because this is something

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which is not known to the people of

00:32:18 --> 00:32:18

Madina.

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So Al Mana al Farisi told them that

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they should do this, and they accepted the

00:32:23 --> 00:32:24

the advice.

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They dug the trench, and alhamdulillah, it worked.

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It deprived the enemies from reaching them.

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The battle of Azaab was a failure for

00:32:34 --> 00:32:36

them. Very badly, they failed. Allah

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Allah took them back to

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to where they came from. They did not

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get any good. Whatever brought them to that

00:32:47 --> 00:32:49

place, they missed it.

00:32:50 --> 00:32:51

They have seen this.

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And then after that, we have several battles

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came. The battle of Khaybar.

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Also, the Muslims are,

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around 1,005

00:33:01 --> 00:33:04

against 4 to 5000 warriors,

00:33:04 --> 00:33:06

and the enemy is lost.

00:33:07 --> 00:33:08

We go to Hunayn.

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The enemy is also lost.

00:33:10 --> 00:33:11

We go to.

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In the battle of, you are talking about

00:33:15 --> 00:33:15

300,000

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200,000

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enemies against only 3,000 people.

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And who lost the battle? They lost the

00:33:23 --> 00:33:24

battle.

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And there we go, even after Islam, they

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have been engaging, you know, wars. They have

00:33:30 --> 00:33:32

been initiating wars against the Muslimi

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up to this time of ours.

00:33:34 --> 00:33:35

None of them wars.

00:33:36 --> 00:33:38

They kill us so much and they do

00:33:38 --> 00:33:40

whatever they can do to make sure that

00:33:40 --> 00:33:41

Islam did not succeed.

00:33:42 --> 00:33:43

But none of these effort

00:33:44 --> 00:33:46

was a success for them. They failed.

00:33:46 --> 00:33:47

And therefore,

00:33:48 --> 00:33:49

they realized that

00:33:49 --> 00:33:52

fighting Islam using physical force is a waste

00:33:52 --> 00:33:54

of time. And up to date, they are

00:33:54 --> 00:33:56

killing us. Who is the one who is

00:33:56 --> 00:33:58

dying the most on earth up to date?

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It's us. And we are the victor. The

00:34:01 --> 00:34:03

one who is blame is always us. And

00:34:03 --> 00:34:05

guess why are they blaming us?

00:34:05 --> 00:34:06

This is

00:34:07 --> 00:34:09

because of nothing except because

00:34:09 --> 00:34:11

we are with the truth,

00:34:11 --> 00:34:12

and we deny injustice,

00:34:13 --> 00:34:14

and we reject corruption.

00:34:15 --> 00:34:16

And their life is based on all of

00:34:16 --> 00:34:17

these.

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As long as these doesn't exist, you know,

00:34:20 --> 00:34:22

if they don't exist, they will not exist.

00:34:22 --> 00:34:24

And that's the reason why they hate the

00:34:24 --> 00:34:26

prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam and Islam up

00:34:26 --> 00:34:27

to date.

00:34:27 --> 00:34:30

But over shirkum, the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa

00:34:30 --> 00:34:31

sallam has said,

00:34:31 --> 00:34:34

Islam is going to reach wherever night

00:34:35 --> 00:34:36

and the day reaches.

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Subhanallah.

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Every place

00:34:40 --> 00:34:40

wherever,

00:34:41 --> 00:34:43

you know, the sun rises, there will be

00:34:43 --> 00:34:45

a time when Islam will reach this place,

00:34:46 --> 00:34:48

whether they like it or they don't like

00:34:48 --> 00:34:50

it. So they have to change their tactics.

00:34:50 --> 00:34:52

They have to change their method because this

00:34:52 --> 00:34:54

one doesn't work

00:34:54 --> 00:34:56

and that's why you have the orientalism

00:34:57 --> 00:34:58

was established

00:34:58 --> 00:34:59

from

00:34:59 --> 00:35:00

long ago, very long ago.

00:35:01 --> 00:35:03

Those people who accept Islam

00:35:04 --> 00:35:06

but outwardly. But inside them, there is nothing

00:35:06 --> 00:35:07

except the kufu.

00:35:08 --> 00:35:09

And the purpose of that Orientalism

00:35:10 --> 00:35:13

is to destroy Islam from inside because they

00:35:13 --> 00:35:14

realize that fighting Islam

00:35:14 --> 00:35:17

from outside is a joke. So they have

00:35:17 --> 00:35:19

to come inside to see how to destroy

00:35:19 --> 00:35:19

it.

00:35:20 --> 00:35:21

That's why in the past, they have been

00:35:21 --> 00:35:25

introducing fake hadith into the Muslim community so

00:35:25 --> 00:35:27

that they can distort the religion from inside

00:35:27 --> 00:35:29

because if you distort the system, the system

00:35:29 --> 00:35:30

is technically

00:35:30 --> 00:35:31

none of this existence.

00:35:32 --> 00:35:34

And that one also went in failure,

00:35:35 --> 00:35:36

but they're still doing,

00:35:36 --> 00:35:38

you know, trying to change the method of

00:35:38 --> 00:35:41

our education, the curriculum, and so many things.

00:35:43 --> 00:35:44

And nowadays,

00:35:44 --> 00:35:46

it is more fierce

00:35:47 --> 00:35:50

because the battle is on our children.

00:35:52 --> 00:35:54

Trust me, my dear brothers and sisters, whether

00:35:54 --> 00:35:56

we like it or we don't like it,

00:35:56 --> 00:35:58

the one who is giving terbia to our

00:35:58 --> 00:35:58

kids

00:35:59 --> 00:36:00

is others

00:36:01 --> 00:36:02

other than us.

00:36:03 --> 00:36:04

With the existence of the social media,

00:36:06 --> 00:36:08

with the existence of different kind of environment

00:36:08 --> 00:36:10

which is not wanted to us,

00:36:11 --> 00:36:13

our children are taken by others.

00:36:14 --> 00:36:16

And this is very dangerous.

00:36:16 --> 00:36:17

We are suffering

00:36:18 --> 00:36:18

in Palestine.

00:36:19 --> 00:36:22

We are suffering in Kashmir. We are suffering

00:36:22 --> 00:36:24

in Iraq. We are suffering in many, many,

00:36:24 --> 00:36:26

many other Muslim countries

00:36:26 --> 00:36:29

where the Muslim are, you know, threatened by

00:36:29 --> 00:36:31

the enemies of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala.

00:36:33 --> 00:36:35

But trust me, one of the worst battle

00:36:35 --> 00:36:37

against us is this.

00:36:38 --> 00:36:38

Because

00:36:39 --> 00:36:41

if they manage to succeed

00:36:41 --> 00:36:44

in producing a Muslim who doesn't care about

00:36:44 --> 00:36:46

his religion, they don't need to go and

00:36:46 --> 00:36:47

do whatever they're doing nowadays

00:36:49 --> 00:36:51

because they have somebody who doesn't care.

00:36:52 --> 00:36:54

They have somebody who's willing to put all

00:36:54 --> 00:36:56

the efforts he has to support their mission

00:36:57 --> 00:36:58

in distorting

00:36:59 --> 00:37:01

the world, not the Muslim alone.

00:37:02 --> 00:37:04

They are not targeting us alone. They are

00:37:04 --> 00:37:04

targeting everyone.

00:37:05 --> 00:37:08

That's the reason why I said this topic

00:37:08 --> 00:37:10

is very, very important. The conference in general

00:37:10 --> 00:37:11

in general

00:37:11 --> 00:37:13

is very important. Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala put

00:37:13 --> 00:37:15

in it and make it a success

00:37:15 --> 00:37:17

and help us also to say that which

00:37:17 --> 00:37:19

is right and to go out of it

00:37:19 --> 00:37:22

with that which will benefit our our community.

00:37:23 --> 00:37:25

So please just, put this in mind

00:37:25 --> 00:37:28

and try to see what I'm seeing.

00:37:28 --> 00:37:30

That the battle, the strongest battle against the

00:37:30 --> 00:37:32

Muslim community is this

00:37:33 --> 00:37:36

taking over the terbia of our kids from

00:37:36 --> 00:37:37

our hands.

00:37:38 --> 00:37:39

We would like you to like it. You're

00:37:39 --> 00:37:41

growing other than which

00:37:42 --> 00:37:43

you have been, you know,

00:37:44 --> 00:37:46

targeting or aiming in your marriage.

00:37:47 --> 00:37:48

Most of us won't be married.

00:37:48 --> 00:37:50

When it comes to the children, you want

00:37:50 --> 00:37:52

to have a better family. You want to

00:37:52 --> 00:37:53

have this and that. That's why you are

00:37:53 --> 00:37:56

very sensitive and particular when it comes to

00:37:56 --> 00:37:59

choosing that person who should be in your

00:38:00 --> 00:38:01

in your company.

00:38:02 --> 00:38:02

However,

00:38:03 --> 00:38:05

after that, we're very negligent.

00:38:07 --> 00:38:09

We stop doing that which we're supposed to

00:38:09 --> 00:38:10

be doing, then somebody

00:38:10 --> 00:38:11

take this one

00:38:12 --> 00:38:13

from us.

00:38:14 --> 00:38:17

So that's why I said it's very important

00:38:17 --> 00:38:20

to pay attention to this, kind of, events.

00:38:21 --> 00:38:23

So what can we do if this is

00:38:23 --> 00:38:23

the case?

00:38:24 --> 00:38:26

Nothing to panic about.

00:38:27 --> 00:38:28

I believe

00:38:28 --> 00:38:31

change is always possible as long as we

00:38:31 --> 00:38:32

are looking for it.

00:38:32 --> 00:38:34

This is the beauty about this religion.

00:38:34 --> 00:38:36

You will never be late as long as

00:38:36 --> 00:38:37

you're willing to change.

00:38:38 --> 00:38:40

If you come back, be even at the

00:38:40 --> 00:38:42

last minute, Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala will grant

00:38:42 --> 00:38:44

you a success and accept you

00:38:45 --> 00:38:47

and help you, if you're sincere, to make

00:38:47 --> 00:38:49

a success in whatever you're doing.

00:38:50 --> 00:38:52

So my advice to all of us, whether

00:38:52 --> 00:38:53

we have children

00:38:53 --> 00:38:55

or we don't have children, please put this

00:38:55 --> 00:38:57

in your mind that I have a big

00:38:57 --> 00:38:59

job in front of me.

00:38:59 --> 00:39:00

And

00:39:00 --> 00:39:02

the kind of terbi I have been giving

00:39:02 --> 00:39:03

my children,

00:39:04 --> 00:39:06

which I believe is wrong, it is not

00:39:06 --> 00:39:08

late for it to be changed.

00:39:08 --> 00:39:10

You might face difficulty in terms of bringing

00:39:10 --> 00:39:11

you your kids

00:39:12 --> 00:39:14

back to the right track, but it's okay.

00:39:14 --> 00:39:15

At least Allah

00:39:16 --> 00:39:18

sees your intention and Allah sees your heart.

00:39:20 --> 00:39:21

So what is the solution?

00:39:21 --> 00:39:22

The solution

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is 1,

00:39:25 --> 00:39:27

which is to go back to the life

00:39:27 --> 00:39:29

of the prophet Sallallahu alaihi wa sallam and

00:39:29 --> 00:39:31

the companions of the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa

00:39:31 --> 00:39:33

sallam and the predecessors.

00:39:33 --> 00:39:36

So basically going back to the first

00:39:36 --> 00:39:37

3

00:39:37 --> 00:39:39

generations that the prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam

00:39:39 --> 00:39:40

praised.

00:39:40 --> 00:39:42

The generation of the sahaba,

00:39:43 --> 00:39:44

the generation of the tabiayn,

00:39:44 --> 00:39:46

and the generation of the Atba' Tabi'in.

00:39:47 --> 00:39:50

Whatever was done by those generations

00:39:51 --> 00:39:53

is the best way for us to bring

00:39:53 --> 00:39:54

up our kids.

00:39:55 --> 00:39:56

You will love.

00:39:57 --> 00:39:58

Forget about all of these claims

00:39:59 --> 00:40:00

which are fake,

00:40:01 --> 00:40:03

that we are living in the 21st century,

00:40:04 --> 00:40:05

the modern

00:40:05 --> 00:40:07

time. We have the capacity also to devise

00:40:07 --> 00:40:09

a system other than theirs to take care

00:40:09 --> 00:40:11

of our kids through it.

00:40:12 --> 00:40:13

Let's be smart

00:40:13 --> 00:40:15

and realistic to ourselves. We have seen what

00:40:15 --> 00:40:18

the kind of system we introduce produce for

00:40:18 --> 00:40:20

our own communities.

00:40:21 --> 00:40:23

Does it succeed? Who is happy

00:40:23 --> 00:40:25

with his children to be in the position

00:40:25 --> 00:40:26

they are in?

00:40:27 --> 00:40:29

Who is happy with the environment, you know,

00:40:29 --> 00:40:30

completely

00:40:30 --> 00:40:32

you can take a back seat and relax

00:40:32 --> 00:40:34

and say, I don't care. I don't worry

00:40:34 --> 00:40:37

because I know being in this environment, my

00:40:37 --> 00:40:39

child will never get to be deviated.

00:40:40 --> 00:40:41

Who is that person?

00:40:41 --> 00:40:42

Technically,

00:40:42 --> 00:40:43

none.

00:40:44 --> 00:40:45

So what happens?

00:40:45 --> 00:40:48

Because we lost that The track

00:40:48 --> 00:40:50

to those predecessors that Allah

00:40:51 --> 00:40:53

created them and put them as an example

00:40:53 --> 00:40:54

for us.

00:40:54 --> 00:40:57

Whatever you need to succeed in this life,

00:40:57 --> 00:40:59

whether it is related to terbio of your

00:40:59 --> 00:41:02

kids, marriage itself, how to live with others,

00:41:04 --> 00:41:05

the

00:41:05 --> 00:41:06

past generation,

00:41:07 --> 00:41:09

they left a legacy which is sufficient enough

00:41:09 --> 00:41:11

for us. So all that we have to

00:41:11 --> 00:41:14

do is to go back and read those

00:41:14 --> 00:41:17

books that contain none other than their biography

00:41:17 --> 00:41:17

biographies

00:41:18 --> 00:41:20

and their approaches in giving terbia to the

00:41:20 --> 00:41:23

kids. How did they manage to produce leaders

00:41:23 --> 00:41:26

that let the Ummah of Islam to success?

00:41:27 --> 00:41:29

How did they manage to produce leaders that

00:41:29 --> 00:41:32

led the Ummah of Islam to success? We

00:41:32 --> 00:41:33

have to go and see the keys

00:41:34 --> 00:41:36

used by those people, the principles

00:41:36 --> 00:41:39

used by those people, you know. And how

00:41:39 --> 00:41:41

do they succeed in that terbia? Why is

00:41:41 --> 00:41:43

it so difficult for us and it wasn't

00:41:43 --> 00:41:45

with them? It is part of the fitra.

00:41:45 --> 00:41:47

They just develop that fitra and it works

00:41:47 --> 00:41:50

with them. And I believe, if we do

00:41:50 --> 00:41:50

that,

00:41:51 --> 00:41:52

the predicament

00:41:53 --> 00:41:54

and the obstacles

00:41:54 --> 00:41:56

that are hindering the ummah to make a

00:41:56 --> 00:41:58

success and go back to the previous,

00:41:58 --> 00:42:01

you know, prestigious nature that Allah gave us,

00:42:03 --> 00:42:04

we will be able to go back to

00:42:04 --> 00:42:05

it.

00:42:05 --> 00:42:07

So what is the first thing to be

00:42:07 --> 00:42:09

done? So what I'm trying to say is

00:42:09 --> 00:42:11

the solution is giving them tell me according

00:42:11 --> 00:42:11

to

00:42:12 --> 00:42:13

the Quran and the sunnah of the prophet

00:42:13 --> 00:42:14

based

00:42:16 --> 00:42:18

on understanding of our predecessors.

00:42:18 --> 00:42:19

That's the solution.

00:42:20 --> 00:42:21

And what is terbia?

00:42:21 --> 00:42:22

As I said,

00:42:28 --> 00:42:30

you know, you grow something,

00:42:30 --> 00:42:34

develop something, nurture something, you know, gradually

00:42:35 --> 00:42:35

step by step

00:42:36 --> 00:42:39

up to the time when it is complete.

00:42:40 --> 00:42:41

So helping

00:42:41 --> 00:42:42

Dinesha,

00:42:43 --> 00:42:43

the baby,

00:42:44 --> 00:42:46

from day 1 when he was born and

00:42:46 --> 00:42:47

actually

00:42:47 --> 00:42:48

from way before,

00:42:50 --> 00:42:51

trying to do the right thing

00:42:52 --> 00:42:54

up to the moment this human being is

00:42:54 --> 00:42:55

complete

00:42:56 --> 00:42:57

in his thinking,

00:42:57 --> 00:42:58

approaches,

00:42:58 --> 00:42:59

you know,

00:43:00 --> 00:43:01

physical appearance

00:43:01 --> 00:43:02

and whatsoever

00:43:03 --> 00:43:04

this person need to succeed and to survive

00:43:04 --> 00:43:07

in this dunya. Help him to be matured

00:43:07 --> 00:43:08

in that in that nature.

00:43:08 --> 00:43:10

That's what terbiyah is all about.

00:43:10 --> 00:43:12

And this is insha'Allah,

00:43:13 --> 00:43:15

deal with, in

00:43:15 --> 00:43:16

this session of of mine.

00:43:17 --> 00:43:19

So the first thing you should do

00:43:19 --> 00:43:21

is to prepare a base.

00:43:21 --> 00:43:23

As they say in Arabic,

00:43:25 --> 00:43:27

Establish the base and then you can write

00:43:27 --> 00:43:30

on it. You can't write on a on

00:43:30 --> 00:43:30

an air.

00:43:31 --> 00:43:33

You have to establish the base for you

00:43:33 --> 00:43:34

to write on it.

00:43:35 --> 00:43:38

So if we're talking about terbia, you have

00:43:38 --> 00:43:38

to establish

00:43:39 --> 00:43:41

a base which is none other than a

00:43:41 --> 00:43:42

conducive environment

00:43:43 --> 00:43:44

that will help and support you to give

00:43:44 --> 00:43:45

that 10 b

00:43:46 --> 00:43:48

a. Because trust me, if you are not

00:43:48 --> 00:43:49

having this environment,

00:43:50 --> 00:43:51

you will be yelling

00:43:51 --> 00:43:54

and shouting and trying and putting all the

00:43:54 --> 00:43:56

efforts and somebody is too strong. You know,

00:43:56 --> 00:43:57

establishing

00:43:57 --> 00:44:00

and making something is much easier than destroying.

00:44:00 --> 00:44:03

Destroying is very, I'm sorry, it's it's much

00:44:03 --> 00:44:04

difficult than destroying.

00:44:05 --> 00:44:07

So you will be doing things and somebody

00:44:07 --> 00:44:10

else is destroying because the environment is contaminated.

00:44:11 --> 00:44:12

And, you know, children,

00:44:12 --> 00:44:14

they love seeing different things.

00:44:15 --> 00:44:17

They love having the easy

00:44:17 --> 00:44:19

way to do things. They love freedom

00:44:20 --> 00:44:22

and the other environment which is feeding them

00:44:22 --> 00:44:24

with the non Islamic things

00:44:25 --> 00:44:27

is much easier than what we are doing,

00:44:27 --> 00:44:28

especially in our approach.

00:44:29 --> 00:44:30

Ours is much easier if we do it

00:44:30 --> 00:44:32

correctly but since we are not doing it

00:44:32 --> 00:44:35

correctly, those one are more attractive than us.

00:44:35 --> 00:44:37

They catch our kids more than the way

00:44:37 --> 00:44:39

we are attracting our kids.

00:44:40 --> 00:44:42

So therefore, I have to provide a conducive

00:44:42 --> 00:44:43

environment

00:44:43 --> 00:44:45

for my kids to grow

00:44:45 --> 00:44:48

up. And the first environment and the best

00:44:48 --> 00:44:49

environment is the home.

00:44:50 --> 00:44:52

And against Ustad Sharif

00:44:52 --> 00:44:53

and Ustad,

00:44:54 --> 00:44:54

Sajjad,

00:44:54 --> 00:44:56

both of them fed you with more than

00:44:56 --> 00:44:57

what you need

00:44:58 --> 00:45:00

to make a success concerning this matter. So

00:45:00 --> 00:45:01

I'm not going to tell you who to

00:45:01 --> 00:45:02

take,

00:45:02 --> 00:45:04

but I will just emphasize on what I

00:45:04 --> 00:45:05

believe they said

00:45:05 --> 00:45:08

which is to make sure that the spouse

00:45:08 --> 00:45:10

you're going to be with is an excellent

00:45:10 --> 00:45:12

person who is ready to help you in

00:45:12 --> 00:45:15

your mission in the future in giving the

00:45:15 --> 00:45:16

good terbir to the children.

00:45:18 --> 00:45:19

Trust me, if you get a wife

00:45:20 --> 00:45:23

who is thinking about food and drinks

00:45:23 --> 00:45:25

and none other than resting and having sexual

00:45:25 --> 00:45:27

desire with you,

00:45:27 --> 00:45:30

wallahi, you're gonna cry one day because you're

00:45:30 --> 00:45:31

gonna get tired of this.

00:45:32 --> 00:45:33

She also is going to get tired of

00:45:33 --> 00:45:35

this. But in the future, when you have

00:45:35 --> 00:45:38

kids, nobody is to give therapy out there.

00:45:38 --> 00:45:40

That's why both of you have to look

00:45:40 --> 00:45:41

for somebody

00:45:42 --> 00:45:44

to help incorporate in that regard.

00:45:44 --> 00:45:45

Either the school

00:45:46 --> 00:45:49

or you take them to to the hand

00:45:49 --> 00:45:51

of a maid that you brought to the

00:45:51 --> 00:45:54

house and those maids sometimes they might be

00:45:54 --> 00:45:54

criminals.

00:45:55 --> 00:45:57

They treat and they teach your kids, you

00:45:57 --> 00:46:00

know, different discipline which you never expected.

00:46:00 --> 00:46:02

And since you are not there at home,

00:46:02 --> 00:46:04

they become the parent to the kids

00:46:04 --> 00:46:06

and they are not to be blamed

00:46:06 --> 00:46:08

because somebody's not doing their job. You give

00:46:08 --> 00:46:09

it to somebody.

00:46:10 --> 00:46:12

Trust me, my dear brothers and sisters,

00:46:12 --> 00:46:13

nobody

00:46:13 --> 00:46:15

is there to give terbia on your behalf,

00:46:15 --> 00:46:16

including your parents.

00:46:18 --> 00:46:20

Nobody's there to give terbia on your behalf,

00:46:20 --> 00:46:21

including including

00:46:21 --> 00:46:22

your parent.

00:46:23 --> 00:46:25

So if you take a wife or you

00:46:25 --> 00:46:27

take a husband who is a loser not

00:46:27 --> 00:46:29

thinking about this, you're going to cry in

00:46:29 --> 00:46:30

the future.

00:46:31 --> 00:46:33

Therefore, those two lectures are very important.

00:46:34 --> 00:46:37

A person to focus and to pay attention

00:46:37 --> 00:46:39

and to open his eyes widely to make

00:46:39 --> 00:46:40

sure that you choose

00:46:40 --> 00:46:42

the right person

00:46:42 --> 00:46:45

who is sharing the same concern with you.

00:46:45 --> 00:46:47

That is not about marriage,

00:46:47 --> 00:46:50

you know, you linking to this, person to

00:46:50 --> 00:46:52

this partner. No, it's about the progeny we're

00:46:52 --> 00:46:54

going to be producing because one of the

00:46:54 --> 00:46:58

most important objectives of marriage is preservation of

00:46:58 --> 00:46:58

a medicine.

00:47:00 --> 00:47:01

Preservation of medicine

00:47:02 --> 00:47:04

to keep their terbia intact, to keep the

00:47:04 --> 00:47:06

continuation of human beings also intact.

00:47:07 --> 00:47:09

It's not about the sexual desire and the

00:47:09 --> 00:47:11

food and the joy and the lovely words.

00:47:11 --> 00:47:12

These are all

00:47:13 --> 00:47:15

required also to provide a good life at

00:47:15 --> 00:47:17

home. But when it comes to giving,

00:47:18 --> 00:47:20

it needs other other things which we will

00:47:20 --> 00:47:21

be discussing Insha'Allah

00:47:22 --> 00:47:23

in the near future. So you need to

00:47:23 --> 00:47:25

have a base. You need to prepare a

00:47:25 --> 00:47:26

place.

00:47:26 --> 00:47:28

Get a good partner to stay with you

00:47:28 --> 00:47:29

holding,

00:47:29 --> 00:47:31

cooperating with you to raise,

00:47:32 --> 00:47:33

the children

00:47:33 --> 00:47:34

according to,

00:47:34 --> 00:47:35

the way

00:47:36 --> 00:47:38

the prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam are working to

00:47:38 --> 00:47:38

do.

00:47:39 --> 00:47:41

So after getting this person,

00:47:41 --> 00:47:43

what should be the main focus in this

00:47:43 --> 00:47:44

house?

00:47:44 --> 00:47:46

The main focus of your selection,

00:47:47 --> 00:47:49

you know, of that partner of yours. What

00:47:49 --> 00:47:51

should be the main focus?

00:47:52 --> 00:47:54

Please do open your ears and listen to

00:47:54 --> 00:47:55

this. I know you know it but I

00:47:55 --> 00:47:56

guess

00:47:56 --> 00:47:58

we need to know it again.

00:47:59 --> 00:48:01

What is the most important thing?

00:48:02 --> 00:48:03

Establishment of the Aqeedah.

00:48:05 --> 00:48:06

That's the most important thing.

00:48:07 --> 00:48:10

Be allah. The most important thing to base

00:48:10 --> 00:48:12

your family on is the aqeedah.

00:48:14 --> 00:48:15

If this is not there,

00:48:17 --> 00:48:17

no advice,

00:48:18 --> 00:48:20

no method can work.

00:48:20 --> 00:48:23

Whoever this person might be, if the Akiva

00:48:23 --> 00:48:25

Akiva is shaky,

00:48:25 --> 00:48:26

nothing can can work.

00:48:27 --> 00:48:29

That's why our predecessors

00:48:29 --> 00:48:32

starting from the prophets of Allah Subhanahu Wa

00:48:32 --> 00:48:32

Ta'ala,

00:48:33 --> 00:48:35

when they establish a home,

00:48:35 --> 00:48:37

they focus more on this.

00:48:38 --> 00:48:40

That's why they had no issue with.

00:48:40 --> 00:48:42

They have no issue with advice.

00:48:42 --> 00:48:44

They have no issue with guiding the kids,

00:48:45 --> 00:48:47

and they don't mind. They can take them

00:48:47 --> 00:48:48

and keep them in a place and leave

00:48:48 --> 00:48:49

the place,

00:48:50 --> 00:48:51

completely detach themselves

00:48:51 --> 00:48:53

from this place completely.

00:48:53 --> 00:48:55

They have no access to the place after

00:48:55 --> 00:48:57

after that anymore. When they want any information,

00:48:57 --> 00:48:59

they have to come to the place.

00:49:00 --> 00:49:00

You remember

00:49:01 --> 00:49:02

Ibrahim Alaihi Salam?

00:49:03 --> 00:49:05

The prophet of Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala? When

00:49:05 --> 00:49:06

he went to Egypt,

00:49:07 --> 00:49:09

he get into that city

00:49:09 --> 00:49:11

and he told his wife, he said, my

00:49:11 --> 00:49:12

dear wife,

00:49:12 --> 00:49:13

listen.

00:49:13 --> 00:49:16

He said, in this place, there is no

00:49:16 --> 00:49:18

Muslim except me and you.

00:49:18 --> 00:49:20

So we have to be very careful.

00:49:21 --> 00:49:23

And subhanallah at that time, they have this

00:49:23 --> 00:49:24

tyrant and a bad ruler

00:49:25 --> 00:49:28

whose attitude and behavior is to look for

00:49:28 --> 00:49:30

any beautiful woman and get her by force.

00:49:31 --> 00:49:33

When Ibrahim came with Sarah, and Sarah is

00:49:33 --> 00:49:34

extremely beautiful.

00:49:36 --> 00:49:37

So the

00:49:37 --> 00:49:39

the guards and the people who are there,

00:49:39 --> 00:49:41

the informants, they went to him, and they

00:49:41 --> 00:49:44

told him that Ibrahim came to this place.

00:49:48 --> 00:49:50

Ibrahim came with a very very beautiful woman

00:49:50 --> 00:49:50

here.

00:49:51 --> 00:49:53

So king the king as usual

00:49:54 --> 00:49:54

sent to Ibrahim,

00:49:56 --> 00:49:58

looking for him, wanted to meet him first.

00:49:58 --> 00:50:01

Ibrahim alaihis salaam came and the king told

00:50:01 --> 00:50:02

him, who is this woman that is with

00:50:02 --> 00:50:04

you? How do you relate

00:50:04 --> 00:50:06

to her? He said, this is my sister.

00:50:06 --> 00:50:08

He was doing tawiyah because your wife is

00:50:08 --> 00:50:10

your sister also in Islam.

00:50:11 --> 00:50:12

You said this is my sister.

00:50:13 --> 00:50:14

So,

00:50:15 --> 00:50:17

the king told him I'm gonna take

00:50:17 --> 00:50:18

her.

00:50:19 --> 00:50:21

Ibrahim had no choice. Yeah. What can he

00:50:21 --> 00:50:24

do? He sent people, they took her.

00:50:24 --> 00:50:25

She went

00:50:25 --> 00:50:27

and she did what you what you know.

00:50:27 --> 00:50:29

She asked Allah's wanted to protect her and

00:50:29 --> 00:50:30

she was protected. At the end of the

00:50:30 --> 00:50:33

day, the king thought she was sheikhan because

00:50:33 --> 00:50:34

he couldn't touch her.

00:50:34 --> 00:50:36

So he sent her back to Ibrahim alaihis

00:50:36 --> 00:50:37

salam and he gave her,

00:50:38 --> 00:50:39

who was the

00:50:40 --> 00:50:43

the the sister Hajar. Alhamdulillah. I'm not alone.

00:50:43 --> 00:50:44

Okay.

00:50:44 --> 00:50:46

So he gave her Hajar as a gift.

00:50:47 --> 00:50:49

So she took Hajar, she went to Ibrahim,

00:50:49 --> 00:50:51

looking at the fact that Ibrahim does not

00:50:51 --> 00:50:52

have children and he loves

00:50:53 --> 00:50:56

children as any like anybody else. So she

00:50:56 --> 00:50:58

told him, take her. Maybe Allah subhanahu wa

00:50:58 --> 00:51:01

ta'ala grant you children from from her side.

00:51:02 --> 00:51:04

And that's what happened. Ibrahim took Hajar and

00:51:04 --> 00:51:06

Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala gave him a child.

00:51:06 --> 00:51:07

What was the name of the child?

00:51:08 --> 00:51:09

Isma'il alaihi sallam.

00:51:10 --> 00:51:13

So and what happened happened between them, about

00:51:13 --> 00:51:16

the jealousy, Ibrahim had to take Hajj,

00:51:17 --> 00:51:19

Hajj away from from Sarah.

00:51:20 --> 00:51:22

Sarah also afterwards, Allah's mother gave her what

00:51:22 --> 00:51:23

she's looking for.

00:51:25 --> 00:51:28

Ibrahim was commanded by Allah. Please follow me,

00:51:28 --> 00:51:29

from this moment.

00:51:30 --> 00:51:32

Ibrahim was commanded by Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala

00:51:32 --> 00:51:33

to take his wife,

00:51:34 --> 00:51:34

Sarah,

00:51:35 --> 00:51:37

and to put her in a place where

00:51:37 --> 00:51:38

there is no life completely.

00:51:40 --> 00:51:41

Did she,

00:51:42 --> 00:51:44

you know, show any objection?

00:51:45 --> 00:51:46

We're not told about this and the way

00:51:46 --> 00:51:49

it happens we believe that she totally submitted

00:51:49 --> 00:51:51

to this decree of Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala.

00:51:52 --> 00:51:53

So they left.

00:51:54 --> 00:51:55

How did she accept?

00:51:56 --> 00:51:57

Very easily

00:51:57 --> 00:51:59

to go to this place. Ibrahim told her,

00:51:59 --> 00:52:00

let's go. She accepted.

00:52:02 --> 00:52:04

Trust me, my dear brothers and sisters, if

00:52:04 --> 00:52:05

not because of the terribia he has been

00:52:05 --> 00:52:07

giving them in that family.

00:52:07 --> 00:52:09

It will be very difficult for her to

00:52:09 --> 00:52:11

tolerate and to accept living in that place

00:52:11 --> 00:52:13

because when they reach Makkah,

00:52:13 --> 00:52:15

Makkah in Makkah at that time, there was

00:52:15 --> 00:52:16

no life.

00:52:17 --> 00:52:19

Nobody is living there. No houses,

00:52:20 --> 00:52:21

no trees, no plantation,

00:52:22 --> 00:52:25

no river, no water, no food, no anything.

00:52:25 --> 00:52:27

Nobody is coming to that place

00:52:27 --> 00:52:28

except,

00:52:28 --> 00:52:30

you know, the place is what there was

00:52:30 --> 00:52:32

a tent, the place where Ibrahim

00:52:33 --> 00:52:35

built the Kaaba. And even Kaaba was was

00:52:35 --> 00:52:36

not there actually

00:52:37 --> 00:52:39

because according to the best opinion of the

00:52:39 --> 00:52:41

scholars, the one who builds the Kaaba was

00:52:41 --> 00:52:43

Ibrahim Alai Salam.

00:52:43 --> 00:52:45

The one who built the Kaaba was Ibrahim

00:52:45 --> 00:52:47

Alaihi Salam. You have several opinions.

00:52:48 --> 00:52:50

Some said Adam. Some said angels. Some said

00:52:50 --> 00:52:52

sheath. Some said this and that. But the

00:52:52 --> 00:52:54

correct opinion with Allahu Alam is that Ibrahim

00:52:54 --> 00:52:56

was the first person to build the car.

00:52:57 --> 00:52:59

Saying of Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala, it

00:53:01 --> 00:53:03

doesn't mean that the foundations were there.

00:53:04 --> 00:53:05

But it means that he was the one

00:53:05 --> 00:53:07

who raised up the foundation from the beginning.

00:53:07 --> 00:53:10

That's why the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam,

00:53:10 --> 00:53:12

when Abu Dharr asked him,

00:53:13 --> 00:53:14

which house

00:53:14 --> 00:53:15

was established

00:53:15 --> 00:53:16

first?

00:53:16 --> 00:53:18

The prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam said Kaaba.

00:53:20 --> 00:53:22

And then, he says, and then, which Masjid

00:53:23 --> 00:53:25

which Masjid was the first masjid to be

00:53:25 --> 00:53:26

established? He said,

00:53:26 --> 00:53:29

and then he said, what what what next?

00:53:29 --> 00:53:30

He said, Bayt and Maqdis.

00:53:31 --> 00:53:33

He said, what is it between the 2?

00:53:33 --> 00:53:36

How many years between the 2? He said,

00:53:36 --> 00:53:38

40 years. So if you say Kaaba was

00:53:38 --> 00:53:40

built by the angels or by Adam and

00:53:40 --> 00:53:42

his son, it doesn't work because everyone knows

00:53:42 --> 00:53:44

that between Abraham and Adam, there was

00:53:45 --> 00:53:47

many years actually, around 4000 years or even

00:53:47 --> 00:53:48

more.

00:53:49 --> 00:53:51

And then the prophet said between the Kaaba

00:53:52 --> 00:53:54

and the Beta Muqaddis is only 40 years.

00:53:54 --> 00:53:55

And the one who built the Bayt al

00:53:55 --> 00:53:56

Maqdis was?

00:53:57 --> 00:53:58

Who built Bayt al Maqdis?

00:54:00 --> 00:54:03

Yaqub alayhis salam. That's the correct opinion, Yaqub

00:54:03 --> 00:54:05

alayhis salam. Many of us believe that it

00:54:05 --> 00:54:07

was Suleiman alayhis salam.

00:54:07 --> 00:54:09

But if you say Suleiman, then you need

00:54:09 --> 00:54:12

a lot of explanations because between Suleiman and

00:54:12 --> 00:54:15

Ibrahim alaihis salam is it was about 900

00:54:15 --> 00:54:15

years.

00:54:16 --> 00:54:18

And, Ibrahim and the prophetess,

00:54:18 --> 00:54:21

between Kaaba and Bayt al Maknis is only

00:54:21 --> 00:54:22

40 years.

00:54:22 --> 00:54:24

That's why the only opinion that can stand

00:54:24 --> 00:54:25

is the one that says it was built

00:54:25 --> 00:54:27

by Ya'akov alaihis salaam.

00:54:28 --> 00:54:30

But then it was renovated by Soleiman alaihis

00:54:30 --> 00:54:31

salaam.

00:54:32 --> 00:54:34

Ya'qub built it, and then Suleiman came and

00:54:34 --> 00:54:37

renovated. And between Ya'qub and Ibrahim is about

00:54:37 --> 00:54:37

40 years,

00:54:38 --> 00:54:40

because Ya'qub is the grandson of

00:54:40 --> 00:54:43

Ibrahim Alai Salam. Right? So 40 years is

00:54:43 --> 00:54:44

enough to have a grand

00:54:44 --> 00:54:45

a grandchild.

00:54:45 --> 00:54:48

You get it? So anyway, back to the

00:54:48 --> 00:54:50

to the to the story. So Makkadah was

00:54:50 --> 00:54:51

nobody in that place. Nobody was living in

00:54:51 --> 00:54:52

that

00:54:52 --> 00:54:54

place. Ibrahim took Hajar

00:54:54 --> 00:54:56

and he put her in that place,

00:54:56 --> 00:54:58

and then he left them with a little

00:54:58 --> 00:54:59

amount of water

00:54:59 --> 00:55:01

and little amount of food.

00:55:02 --> 00:55:05

And then he he turned his back going

00:55:05 --> 00:55:05

back.

00:55:07 --> 00:55:08

Hajar asked him. She said,

00:55:09 --> 00:55:11

my dear husband, where are you going?

00:55:12 --> 00:55:13

Are you going to leave us in this

00:55:13 --> 00:55:14

place?

00:55:15 --> 00:55:16

You're going to leave us in this place?

00:55:17 --> 00:55:18

Ibrahim kept quiet

00:55:19 --> 00:55:20

because don't forget,

00:55:20 --> 00:55:21

this is

00:55:22 --> 00:55:24

one of the best part of his family.

00:55:24 --> 00:55:26

He has the first child. He was so

00:55:26 --> 00:55:26

happy

00:55:27 --> 00:55:29

after spending, you know, many years.

00:55:29 --> 00:55:32

Some scholars said more than 80 years, around

00:55:32 --> 00:55:33

80 years without having a child and now

00:55:33 --> 00:55:36

he has a child. Miraculously, Allah Subhanahu Wa

00:55:36 --> 00:55:37

Ta'ala gave him a child.

00:55:37 --> 00:55:39

And then now, Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala is

00:55:39 --> 00:55:40

asking him to go and put the child

00:55:40 --> 00:55:42

in a place which is

00:55:43 --> 00:55:44

empty from any life.

00:55:45 --> 00:55:46

So Ibrahim,

00:55:47 --> 00:55:49

at that moment, was very sensitive.

00:55:49 --> 00:55:51

He doesn't want to say anything also that

00:55:51 --> 00:55:53

will cause him any trouble with Allah Subhanahu

00:55:53 --> 00:55:55

Wa Ta'ala. So Hajar when she asked him,

00:55:55 --> 00:55:58

where are you going? Ibrahim kept quiet.

00:55:58 --> 00:56:00

She kept on asking him, do you live

00:56:00 --> 00:56:01

in us in this place? He kept quiet.

00:56:03 --> 00:56:03

He said,

00:56:04 --> 00:56:05

she said, I'm sorry?

00:56:06 --> 00:56:07

Is Allah the one who asked you to

00:56:07 --> 00:56:08

do that?

00:56:09 --> 00:56:10

Now she asked a question that he can

00:56:10 --> 00:56:12

answer. Itoher,

00:56:12 --> 00:56:12

yes.

00:56:13 --> 00:56:14

And SubhanAllah,

00:56:15 --> 00:56:16

she said Eden,

00:56:16 --> 00:56:18

lend you by yana. SubhanAllah.

00:56:19 --> 00:56:21

This is what I'm looking for.

00:56:21 --> 00:56:23

Imagine this place, you know, there is no

00:56:23 --> 00:56:25

light. It's just a typical desert.

00:56:26 --> 00:56:28

But then when he left her in that

00:56:28 --> 00:56:30

place with her son, you know, newly born

00:56:30 --> 00:56:31

baby,

00:56:31 --> 00:56:33

with nothing except this little amount of water,

00:56:34 --> 00:56:35

little amount of food, and there is there

00:56:35 --> 00:56:37

are no neighbors, there is nobody to to

00:56:37 --> 00:56:39

seek their support from.

00:56:40 --> 00:56:42

But then when she asked Ibrahim, where are

00:56:42 --> 00:56:42

you going?

00:56:43 --> 00:56:45

Is Allah the one who asked you to

00:56:45 --> 00:56:46

do that? He said, yes.

00:56:47 --> 00:56:49

She said, I believe Allah will never neglect

00:56:49 --> 00:56:51

us. That's what I'm looking for my dear

00:56:51 --> 00:56:52

brothers and sisters.

00:56:53 --> 00:56:56

Imagine this is the mother of your child.

00:56:57 --> 00:56:59

Why would you worry about the aqid of

00:56:59 --> 00:57:00

your kids?

00:57:00 --> 00:57:03

That's how much she has trust in Allah.

00:57:03 --> 00:57:04

She says, definitely,

00:57:05 --> 00:57:07

Allah will never neglect us. And she went

00:57:07 --> 00:57:08

back.

00:57:08 --> 00:57:11

She wasn't joking, joking, you know, or making

00:57:11 --> 00:57:14

mockery on Ibrahim or being sarcastic. No. She

00:57:14 --> 00:57:16

meant it when she said, Allah will never

00:57:16 --> 00:57:17

neglect us.

00:57:17 --> 00:57:19

So she went back to the place and

00:57:19 --> 00:57:22

sat down in that place, keep on feeding

00:57:22 --> 00:57:24

herself with that water and the food until

00:57:24 --> 00:57:25

it finishes

00:57:26 --> 00:57:28

And bread I mean, feeding the the boy

00:57:28 --> 00:57:29

with the milk

00:57:29 --> 00:57:31

she has from the food she's eating. Until

00:57:31 --> 00:57:33

it finished, then she doesn't have anything.

00:57:33 --> 00:57:36

Subhanallah, till the time she get exhausted and

00:57:36 --> 00:57:38

the child also get exhausted, she was afraid

00:57:38 --> 00:57:40

of him dying. So she kept on looking

00:57:40 --> 00:57:41

here and there to see whether she can

00:57:41 --> 00:57:43

find somebody to support her.

00:57:43 --> 00:57:45

There was no support at that place.

00:57:45 --> 00:57:48

Then she heard somebody speaking from behind.

00:57:49 --> 00:57:51

She tried to to, she was talking to

00:57:51 --> 00:57:53

herself, keep quiet. She was telling

00:57:54 --> 00:57:56

herself, keep quiet, keep quiet, there is somebody

00:57:56 --> 00:57:57

talking there.

00:57:57 --> 00:57:58

So she kept quiet

00:57:59 --> 00:58:01

to to try to trace where is the

00:58:01 --> 00:58:01

sound coming.

00:58:03 --> 00:58:06

So she said, please help us. You let

00:58:06 --> 00:58:08

us hear your voice. Please help us if

00:58:08 --> 00:58:09

you have any support and help.

00:58:11 --> 00:58:13

And then she saw the angel, Jibil Alaihi

00:58:13 --> 00:58:14

Salam, next to her child.

00:58:15 --> 00:58:15

SubhanAllah.

00:58:16 --> 00:58:18

Another event that we have to take note

00:58:18 --> 00:58:19

on which

00:58:20 --> 00:58:22

makes it very important for you to establish

00:58:22 --> 00:58:24

a good house upon the Akida.

00:58:25 --> 00:58:27

Jibril asked her, who are you?

00:58:28 --> 00:58:30

She said, I am the mother of the

00:58:30 --> 00:58:32

son of Ibrahim Alaihi Salam.

00:58:33 --> 00:58:34

She did not see Hajar.

00:58:34 --> 00:58:37

Scholar said she's using the name of Ibrahim,

00:58:37 --> 00:58:37

you know.

00:58:37 --> 00:58:40

She knows that, this could could be somebody

00:58:40 --> 00:58:41

from from the heavens.

00:58:42 --> 00:58:43

So she uses Ibrahim

00:58:43 --> 00:58:45

because he is more recognized than her. She

00:58:45 --> 00:58:48

said, I am the son of, the I'm

00:58:48 --> 00:58:50

the mother of the son of Ibrahim.

00:58:51 --> 00:58:54

So Jibril said, but where is your husband?

00:58:54 --> 00:58:56

She said, he left.

00:58:56 --> 00:58:58

He left? She said, yes.

00:58:58 --> 00:59:01

But he leave you he left you under

00:59:01 --> 00:59:02

the custody of who?

00:59:03 --> 00:59:04

She said Allah

00:59:10 --> 00:59:11

he says

00:59:11 --> 00:59:12

definitely

00:59:13 --> 00:59:15

Ibrahim alaihis salam left you under the custody

00:59:15 --> 00:59:17

of somebody who is more than enough for

00:59:17 --> 00:59:17

you.

00:59:18 --> 00:59:18

He said, Latasha

00:59:19 --> 00:59:19

obeah.

00:59:20 --> 00:59:23

He said, don't you ever worry about you

00:59:23 --> 00:59:24

being neglected in this place.

00:59:25 --> 00:59:26

And by the way, there is a house

00:59:26 --> 00:59:28

in this place. This boy is going to

00:59:28 --> 00:59:30

build this house here and his father.

00:59:30 --> 00:59:32

Giving her good news.

00:59:33 --> 00:59:35

That's the nature of the house of Ibrahim

00:59:35 --> 00:59:36

alaihis salaam.

00:59:37 --> 00:59:39

And there's a very long story.

00:59:39 --> 00:59:42

Trust me very interesting and enjoyable story narrated

00:59:42 --> 00:59:43

by Muhammadu Buhari

00:59:43 --> 00:59:46

around several pages to establish this fact that

00:59:46 --> 00:59:49

every Muslim needed today to have a house

00:59:49 --> 00:59:50

like this.

00:59:50 --> 00:59:53

And that's the reason why the mother did

00:59:53 --> 00:59:55

an excellent job. Ibrahim was not around in

00:59:55 --> 00:59:56

Makkah.

00:59:56 --> 00:59:58

Allah gave them everything they need.

00:59:59 --> 01:00:01

To heed was the one that brought them

01:00:01 --> 01:00:02

to this position, wallah.

01:00:03 --> 01:00:05

That area that you see nowadays, one of

01:00:05 --> 01:00:08

the richest area on Earth, Tawhid was the

01:00:08 --> 01:00:09

one that brought them to that nature.

01:00:11 --> 01:00:14

When Ibrahim left, she did an excellent job.

01:00:15 --> 01:00:15

She gave him

01:00:16 --> 01:00:18

a that Ibrahim was looking for.

01:00:18 --> 01:00:20

That's why when Allah commanded him to come

01:00:20 --> 01:00:22

all the way to get the child and

01:00:22 --> 01:00:25

tell the son Allah is commanding me to

01:00:25 --> 01:00:26

slaughter you.

01:00:26 --> 01:00:27

What did the sons

01:00:27 --> 01:00:28

say to Ibrahim?

01:00:29 --> 01:00:30

You should think properly.

01:00:31 --> 01:00:33

Why can how can you think about this?

01:00:33 --> 01:00:34

And you are telling me this is a

01:00:34 --> 01:00:36

dream. And you know this is a dream,

01:00:36 --> 01:00:37

Ibrahim Sou'aalaihi Salam.

01:00:38 --> 01:00:39

And he told the son, and the son

01:00:39 --> 01:00:40

submitted completely.

01:00:42 --> 01:00:43

They told me of who?

01:00:44 --> 01:00:45

A woman at home

01:00:45 --> 01:00:47

that shows the importance of having a good

01:00:47 --> 01:00:49

partner, good base,

01:00:49 --> 01:00:51

where you can take a back seat and

01:00:51 --> 01:00:53

sleep and don't worry about anything.

01:00:54 --> 01:00:56

We have so many scholars in this in

01:00:56 --> 01:00:57

this of ours

01:00:58 --> 01:01:00

that are the product of none other than

01:01:00 --> 01:01:01

the sisters

01:01:01 --> 01:01:04

when the sisters are doing the job Allah

01:01:04 --> 01:01:05

Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala put on their shoulder.

01:01:06 --> 01:01:08

Please listen to this, correctly.

01:01:08 --> 01:01:11

Many sisters in the past, they did an

01:01:11 --> 01:01:12

excellent job,

01:01:13 --> 01:01:13

which

01:01:14 --> 01:01:15

is based on producing

01:01:15 --> 01:01:18

card leaders that led the ummah of Muhammad

01:01:18 --> 01:01:19

to success,

01:01:20 --> 01:01:22

but that was when people are doing their

01:01:22 --> 01:01:25

job correctly. So the first thing you need,

01:01:25 --> 01:01:28

you need, my dear brothers and sisters, is

01:01:28 --> 01:01:28

to provide

01:01:29 --> 01:01:30

a good and conducive

01:01:31 --> 01:01:31

environment

01:01:32 --> 01:01:34

that is going to be led by you

01:01:34 --> 01:01:37

and the excellent partner of yours, the mother

01:01:38 --> 01:01:40

of your children that you established your relationship

01:01:40 --> 01:01:41

with her upon the Akida,

01:01:42 --> 01:01:43

believing in the last

01:01:44 --> 01:01:46

because this is supposed to be your base

01:01:46 --> 01:01:49

and the protection of whatever you're gonna put

01:01:49 --> 01:01:50

in that

01:01:50 --> 01:01:51

house later

01:01:53 --> 01:01:54

on. The next

01:01:55 --> 01:01:57

is to have the sense of responsibility and

01:01:57 --> 01:02:01

of an understanding that children are none other

01:02:01 --> 01:02:02

than Amana on your shoulder.

01:02:03 --> 01:02:05

The prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam

01:02:06 --> 01:02:08

says, or before this hadith of the Prophet

01:02:08 --> 01:02:09

sallallahu alaihi wasallam,

01:02:10 --> 01:02:11

there is a,

01:02:11 --> 01:02:14

an Ayah in the Quran, where Allah subhanahu

01:02:14 --> 01:02:14

wa ta'ala says,

01:02:22 --> 01:02:25

Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala says to the believers

01:02:26 --> 01:02:27

protect yourself

01:02:27 --> 01:02:30

and protect your family from *.

01:02:31 --> 01:02:33

SubhanAllah. Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala says protect yourself

01:02:33 --> 01:02:36

and protect your family from from *.

01:02:36 --> 01:02:37

So it's a great responsibility

01:02:37 --> 01:02:39

on the day of judgment. That's why our

01:02:39 --> 01:02:41

scholars said, don't be surprised

01:02:42 --> 01:02:43

that the cause of your delay

01:02:44 --> 01:02:46

in going to Jannah is your child.

01:02:47 --> 01:02:49

You see now they smile, they're happy with

01:02:49 --> 01:02:52

the freedom you're giving them, with the method

01:02:52 --> 01:02:54

you are taking which is none other than

01:02:54 --> 01:02:56

corrupting their future. They're happy with this

01:02:57 --> 01:02:59

But trust me, my dear brothers and sisters,

01:02:59 --> 01:03:00

tomorrow,

01:03:00 --> 01:03:02

they are going to be your kusama.

01:03:02 --> 01:03:05

Those who will fight you in in front

01:03:05 --> 01:03:06

of Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala on the day

01:03:06 --> 01:03:06

of

01:03:08 --> 01:03:09

judgement. So this is a manah

01:03:10 --> 01:03:12

and a manah is one of the greatest

01:03:12 --> 01:03:14

responsibility on your shoulder

01:03:14 --> 01:03:16

and on the day of judgment you have

01:03:16 --> 01:03:18

to pay the price. You have to tell

01:03:18 --> 01:03:19

Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala whether you do it

01:03:19 --> 01:03:20

correctly

01:03:20 --> 01:03:22

or you did not manage to do it

01:03:22 --> 01:03:23

in the way it should be done.

01:03:24 --> 01:03:24

That's

01:03:25 --> 01:03:25

prophetess

01:03:26 --> 01:03:27

in his wisdom,

01:03:28 --> 01:03:29

he advised us in this hadith

01:03:30 --> 01:03:32

which is very beautiful. He says

01:03:37 --> 01:03:39

I believe everyone of us remember this hadith.

01:03:39 --> 01:03:41

But when it comes to application of the

01:03:41 --> 01:03:42

hadith,

01:03:42 --> 01:03:45

probably only a few of us are understanding

01:03:45 --> 01:03:47

what this hadith is is talking about.

01:03:47 --> 01:03:50

Yeah. We just interpret the hadith that prophet

01:03:50 --> 01:03:51

said, we are a shepherd, we are a

01:03:51 --> 01:03:53

shepherd, we are a shepherd. Did you ever

01:03:53 --> 01:03:56

have a time to study, you know, the

01:03:56 --> 01:03:58

connection and the link between you and the

01:03:58 --> 01:04:00

shepherd as a father, as a mother?

01:04:01 --> 01:04:01

Rasool

01:04:02 --> 01:04:02

Sallallahu

01:04:03 --> 01:04:03

alaihi

01:04:03 --> 01:04:04

wa

01:04:04 --> 01:04:05

sallam

01:04:05 --> 01:04:06

said,

01:04:06 --> 01:04:08

Every one of you is a shepherd.

01:04:08 --> 01:04:10

And the first one he started with

01:04:11 --> 01:04:14

was who? The imam, the leader, people in

01:04:14 --> 01:04:14

the authority.

01:04:15 --> 01:04:16

They are like Ruwaat.

01:04:18 --> 01:04:20

They are supposed to deal with people with

01:04:21 --> 01:04:22

leniency

01:04:23 --> 01:04:25

and guide them to the right way and

01:04:25 --> 01:04:27

bring none other than good to the community.

01:04:27 --> 01:04:30

That's why the prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam has

01:04:30 --> 01:04:30

said,

01:04:37 --> 01:04:38

What is a hootama?

01:04:39 --> 01:04:41

Hootama is an impatient

01:04:41 --> 01:04:42

shepherd.

01:04:43 --> 01:04:44

Somebody who is not patient.

01:04:45 --> 01:04:46

This is the message I want you to

01:04:46 --> 01:04:48

extract from this hadith. The

01:04:48 --> 01:04:49

prophet

01:04:49 --> 01:04:51

said, you are a shepherd.

01:04:52 --> 01:04:53

You know a sheep

01:04:53 --> 01:04:55

is one of the weakest animal that you

01:04:55 --> 01:04:57

can see. It is defenseless

01:04:58 --> 01:05:00

because the defense of this animal,

01:05:00 --> 01:05:02

you know, we have sheep. We know how

01:05:02 --> 01:05:05

they live. The defense of this animal

01:05:05 --> 01:05:06

mostly is external.

01:05:08 --> 01:05:10

They have a shepherd always with the stick

01:05:11 --> 01:05:12

to protect them.

01:05:13 --> 01:05:15

You get it? And this shepherd has to

01:05:15 --> 01:05:18

be vigilant and awake all the time.

01:05:18 --> 01:05:20

I was doing research on this topic.

01:05:20 --> 01:05:22

I found that in Turkey,

01:05:22 --> 01:05:25

there was a time when a shepherd slept

01:05:25 --> 01:05:27

and it was negligent for a few minutes

01:05:27 --> 01:05:28

or few seconds.

01:05:29 --> 01:05:31

They lost around 400 sheep if I'm not

01:05:31 --> 01:05:31

mistaken,

01:05:33 --> 01:05:35

which means taking care of a sheep, you

01:05:35 --> 01:05:37

have to be vigilant all the time.

01:05:39 --> 01:05:41

Can you understand why the prophet sallallahu alaihi

01:05:41 --> 01:05:43

wasallam said you are like a shepherd.

01:05:44 --> 01:05:45

To who?

01:05:46 --> 01:05:48

To the family at home. Because he says,

01:05:48 --> 01:05:49

imam

01:05:49 --> 01:05:50

and he says,

01:05:57 --> 01:05:58

and all of those who are mentioned by

01:05:58 --> 01:06:00

the prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam.

01:06:00 --> 01:06:02

They are supposed to be acting like the

01:06:02 --> 01:06:04

shepherd who is not sleeping

01:06:05 --> 01:06:08

to make sure that people under his custody

01:06:08 --> 01:06:09

are doing the right thing.

01:06:10 --> 01:06:12

The prophet said,

01:06:15 --> 01:06:17

You need this attitude in the behavior of

01:06:17 --> 01:06:18

the shep shepherd

01:06:19 --> 01:06:20

to be able to succeed.

01:06:20 --> 01:06:22

Rasool Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam said,

01:06:23 --> 01:06:25

if you want to see arrogance and,

01:06:27 --> 01:06:28

you want to see pride

01:06:29 --> 01:06:29

showing

01:06:30 --> 01:06:31

off, look at those people who are the

01:06:31 --> 01:06:32

horse riders.

01:06:33 --> 01:06:35

In the past, they don't have Ferrari,

01:06:35 --> 01:06:37

Rolls Royce, and all of these fancy

01:06:38 --> 01:06:40

new newly invented cars, but they have horses,

01:06:41 --> 01:06:41

they have mules.

01:06:42 --> 01:06:43

So when you want to show up and

01:06:43 --> 01:06:44

you want to show people that you are

01:06:44 --> 01:06:47

somebody, you come using these things.

01:06:47 --> 01:06:48

The prophet

01:06:50 --> 01:06:52

said, exists in these type of people.

01:06:55 --> 01:06:56

Is talking about hardship,

01:06:57 --> 01:06:58

lack of forgiveness,

01:06:58 --> 01:06:59

intolerance.

01:06:59 --> 01:07:01

He said, look at those people who are

01:07:01 --> 01:07:02

taking care of camels,

01:07:02 --> 01:07:05

because camel by nature doesn't forgive.

01:07:05 --> 01:07:06

And the prophet

01:07:07 --> 01:07:09

said, if you want to see patience

01:07:10 --> 01:07:10

and countenance,

01:07:11 --> 01:07:13

go and see those people who are the

01:07:13 --> 01:07:16

shepherd taking care of the sheep because being

01:07:16 --> 01:07:18

with the sheep need a lot of patience.

01:07:19 --> 01:07:20

That's why Rasool Allah Sallallahu alaihi wa sama

01:07:20 --> 01:07:21

said in that hadith

01:07:23 --> 01:07:25

because it's not easy to control a sheep.

01:07:26 --> 01:07:28

This one wants to go here. You bring

01:07:28 --> 01:07:29

it back. The other one wants to go

01:07:29 --> 01:07:31

there. You bring it back. So if you're

01:07:31 --> 01:07:34

not patient, you're gonna smack this one and

01:07:34 --> 01:07:36

smack that one before you reach home. You'll

01:07:36 --> 01:07:38

find nothing left. You kill them all.

01:07:39 --> 01:07:41

The prophet, the last of all, described a

01:07:41 --> 01:07:43

leader. The leader, he says, the best

01:07:44 --> 01:07:46

leader is the, the just and the kind

01:07:46 --> 01:07:47

ones.

01:07:47 --> 01:07:49

And the worst type of leaders are the,

01:07:49 --> 01:07:51

the impatient people.

01:07:52 --> 01:07:54

So I'd hope also you need to act

01:07:54 --> 01:07:56

like this as a shepherd.

01:07:57 --> 01:07:59

They told the prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam

01:07:59 --> 01:08:01

when they were with him in one of

01:08:01 --> 01:08:01

the for,

01:08:03 --> 01:08:03

forest,

01:08:04 --> 01:08:05

they said they said to the prophet

01:08:06 --> 01:08:08

when they were trying to get some fruit,

01:08:08 --> 01:08:08

the prophet

01:08:09 --> 01:08:09

said,

01:08:10 --> 01:08:10

he

01:08:10 --> 01:08:11

said

01:08:11 --> 01:08:12

get

01:08:12 --> 01:08:14

the black one because it is the best.

01:08:14 --> 01:08:15

They said,

01:08:18 --> 01:08:19

I mean,

01:08:19 --> 01:08:21

most likely this is the reason why Allah

01:08:21 --> 01:08:21

make

01:08:22 --> 01:08:23

all the prophets of Allah

01:08:24 --> 01:08:27

shepherds before they handle the responsibility of others.

01:08:27 --> 01:08:29

Because if you can take care of a

01:08:29 --> 01:08:29

sheep,

01:08:30 --> 01:08:31

you should be you should be able to

01:08:31 --> 01:08:33

take care of human beings.

01:08:33 --> 01:08:35

So they told him, you Rasool Allah

01:08:36 --> 01:08:38

because they see the way the prophet is

01:08:38 --> 01:08:40

talking to them. Take this one. It's the

01:08:40 --> 01:08:40

best one.

01:08:41 --> 01:08:43

They thought he's just living in Makkah, doesn't

01:08:43 --> 01:08:44

know what is there in the forest. The

01:08:44 --> 01:08:45

prophet

01:08:45 --> 01:08:47

when when he saw them picking up the

01:08:47 --> 01:08:49

wrong one, he said, no, take this one

01:08:49 --> 01:08:51

because it's the best. They said,

01:08:52 --> 01:08:55

were you a shepherd before? He said,

01:08:57 --> 01:08:59

Was there any prophet of Allah subhanahu wa

01:08:59 --> 01:09:02

ta'ala who wasn't a shepherd shepherd before?

01:09:02 --> 01:09:05

All of them have been through this, system

01:09:05 --> 01:09:08

before they handle the affairs of the Muslim.

01:09:08 --> 01:09:09

So the prophet said,

01:09:14 --> 01:09:17

sense of responsibility. Without having this sense of

01:09:17 --> 01:09:17

responsibility,

01:09:18 --> 01:09:21

you will never succeed in your terbia.

01:09:21 --> 01:09:22

And the

01:09:30 --> 01:09:31

prophet said,

01:09:32 --> 01:09:33

There will be nobody

01:09:34 --> 01:09:35

that Allah will

01:09:36 --> 01:09:37

assign a responsibility

01:09:38 --> 01:09:39

to him on his shoulder.

01:09:40 --> 01:09:41

And he let

01:09:41 --> 01:09:44

himself live in this life as a cheetah

01:09:44 --> 01:09:45

in that responsibility,

01:09:45 --> 01:09:47

except that Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala is going

01:09:47 --> 01:09:49

to make jannah haram upon him.

01:09:50 --> 01:09:52

Allah, parent, we need to wake up.

01:09:52 --> 01:09:54

Rasoulas, sallallahu alaihi wa sallam said, if you

01:09:54 --> 01:09:57

don't give the terbiyah correctly, you cheat in

01:09:57 --> 01:09:59

the responsibility that Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala put

01:09:59 --> 01:10:00

on your shoulder,

01:10:00 --> 01:10:03

Jannah is going to be prohibited upon you.

01:10:04 --> 01:10:06

This is more than enough for you to

01:10:06 --> 01:10:08

change the way you see these things.

01:10:09 --> 01:10:10

Freedom,

01:10:10 --> 01:10:12

which is not restricted,

01:10:13 --> 01:10:15

doesn't have a place in our religion.

01:10:16 --> 01:10:18

Yeah, there is no absolute freedom in Islam.

01:10:20 --> 01:10:21

You get it? That's why the prophet

01:10:22 --> 01:10:24

said at Dunia,

01:10:24 --> 01:10:24

Sijinal,

01:10:25 --> 01:10:26

Al Mumin, Wajanato,

01:10:27 --> 01:10:28

Al Kafir.

01:10:28 --> 01:10:30

Dunia is like a prison for the believer

01:10:31 --> 01:10:32

and also it's like for

01:10:33 --> 01:10:34

the Kafir.

01:10:34 --> 01:10:35

Why prison?

01:10:36 --> 01:10:39

Because we don't have an absolute freedom. You're

01:10:39 --> 01:10:42

restricted to doing that which Allah subhanahu wa

01:10:42 --> 01:10:42

ta'ala

01:10:43 --> 01:10:43

wants.

01:10:45 --> 01:10:47

So these are the principle that I decided

01:10:47 --> 01:10:47

to begin

01:10:48 --> 01:10:49

my lecture

01:10:49 --> 01:10:50

with it and I believe

01:10:52 --> 01:10:54

with the creation of a good base

01:10:54 --> 01:10:56

and also sense of responsibility

01:10:56 --> 01:10:57

and the on your

01:10:58 --> 01:11:01

shoulder. You'll be able to to do the

01:11:01 --> 01:11:02

right the right thing.

01:11:03 --> 01:11:06

So I'll be talking inshallah in the following

01:11:06 --> 01:11:09

about the sifaat of al Murabbi?

01:11:10 --> 01:11:13

We talk about terbia. Right? There must be

01:11:13 --> 01:11:15

a Murabbi, somebody who's given that terbia.

01:11:16 --> 01:11:19

Are there any isifat, you know, that this

01:11:19 --> 01:11:21

person is supposed to adorn himself

01:11:21 --> 01:11:23

for him to succeed in this terbir that

01:11:23 --> 01:11:27

he's given to the family under his custody?

01:11:27 --> 01:11:27

Yes.

01:11:29 --> 01:11:31

The first sifa is knowledge.

01:11:32 --> 01:11:34

The first sifa is.

01:11:34 --> 01:11:36

I have list of them, Insha'Allah. I will

01:11:36 --> 01:11:37

try to go,

01:11:38 --> 01:11:40

through each and every one of them before

01:11:40 --> 01:11:41

the end of my time, even like that.

01:11:41 --> 01:11:43

So the first one is knowledge

01:11:44 --> 01:11:46

Because knowledge is the key to,

01:11:47 --> 01:11:48

the success in doing everything.

01:11:49 --> 01:11:52

Knowledge is very important as you know, that

01:11:52 --> 01:11:54

Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala place it even before

01:11:54 --> 01:11:56

the tawheed in Surat Muhammad when he says

01:12:00 --> 01:12:01

Without knowledge, you will not be able to

01:12:01 --> 01:12:03

do the correct thing in the way Allah

01:12:03 --> 01:12:05

wants them to be done. And how is

01:12:05 --> 01:12:07

expected to guide your family

01:12:07 --> 01:12:08

to doing

01:12:09 --> 01:12:11

what Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala wants if you

01:12:11 --> 01:12:12

don't have the knowledge of that thing,

01:12:13 --> 01:12:15

and how is supposed to value that which

01:12:15 --> 01:12:17

they are learning and to support the teachers

01:12:17 --> 01:12:19

who are educating your kids if you don't

01:12:19 --> 01:12:20

have the knowledge of that thing.

01:12:20 --> 01:12:23

So knowledge is essential and there's a message

01:12:23 --> 01:12:26

also to whoever is looking for a marriage,

01:12:26 --> 01:12:28

focus on that person who has at least

01:12:28 --> 01:12:29

the basic.

01:12:30 --> 01:12:31

The basic in terms of the Islamic and

01:12:31 --> 01:12:32

the Sharia knowledge.

01:12:33 --> 01:12:35

Don't go with an ignorant.

01:12:36 --> 01:12:38

You will love. This is my personal advice

01:12:38 --> 01:12:39

to all of you when you want to

01:12:39 --> 01:12:42

marry, do not accept somebody who is a

01:12:42 --> 01:12:44

typical ignorant in the sharia of Allah Subhanahu

01:12:44 --> 01:12:45

Wa Ta'ala.

01:12:45 --> 01:12:46

At least he at least he has a

01:12:46 --> 01:12:47

basic.

01:12:47 --> 01:12:49

The basic in in the sharia. And we're

01:12:49 --> 01:12:52

not talking about him being a mufti of

01:12:52 --> 01:12:54

a country or very strong student of knowledge.

01:12:54 --> 01:12:55

No. The basics

01:12:56 --> 01:12:59

are more than enough. Whatever is upon

01:12:59 --> 01:13:02

him and his family and whatever he need

01:13:02 --> 01:13:05

to handle the responsibility Allah put on him

01:13:05 --> 01:13:07

on his shoulder in giving talbiyah to the

01:13:07 --> 01:13:09

kids, he's aware of that.

01:13:10 --> 01:13:11

That knowledge is is necessary.

01:13:12 --> 01:13:14

Otherwise, you will not succeed in having the

01:13:14 --> 01:13:16

support in in your family.

01:13:17 --> 01:13:18

Number 2, al Amanah.

01:13:20 --> 01:13:21

Somebody to be amin, a trustworthy,

01:13:23 --> 01:13:24

Trustworthy. Nowadays,

01:13:24 --> 01:13:25

when,

01:13:25 --> 01:13:28

subhanAllah, divorce happens, the husband will not be

01:13:28 --> 01:13:30

happy with the kids to be with the

01:13:30 --> 01:13:33

wife. And the wife also, in many instances,

01:13:33 --> 01:13:34

she's not happy with the kids to be

01:13:34 --> 01:13:36

with, with them, with the husband.

01:13:36 --> 01:13:38

Which means there is khalil

01:13:39 --> 01:13:40

in the choice they have made at the

01:13:40 --> 01:13:41

first place.

01:13:42 --> 01:13:43

Because an idle

01:13:44 --> 01:13:46

selection of a spouse is the one that

01:13:46 --> 01:13:48

if in case by the of Allah Subhanahu

01:13:48 --> 01:13:50

Wa Ta'ala you happen to be separated,

01:13:50 --> 01:13:51

you don't worry

01:13:52 --> 01:13:53

about the religion,

01:13:53 --> 01:13:56

education, and the well-being of your child just

01:13:56 --> 01:13:58

because he's with that person, that partner of

01:13:58 --> 01:14:01

yours, that you are now separated from them.

01:14:01 --> 01:14:04

If the answer is not like this, then

01:14:04 --> 01:14:05

your selection was wrong.

01:14:06 --> 01:14:08

Your selection was wrong. You need to do

01:14:08 --> 01:14:11

a lot in terms of establishing a home

01:14:12 --> 01:14:13

which is based on that which we had

01:14:13 --> 01:14:16

mentioned earlier. So a manor is

01:14:16 --> 01:14:18

one of the most important qualities of a

01:14:18 --> 01:14:19

monarchy

01:14:20 --> 01:14:22

that succeed in his in his term.

01:14:24 --> 01:14:24

Number 2,

01:14:25 --> 01:14:26

I'll,

01:14:29 --> 01:14:29

Alcoa,

01:14:30 --> 01:14:32

ability to deliver.

01:14:33 --> 01:14:33

Alkawah,

01:14:34 --> 01:14:35

ability to deliver.

01:14:35 --> 01:14:37

You need somebody who is Alkawih.

01:14:38 --> 01:14:41

You see the wife, I'm sorry, the daughter

01:14:41 --> 01:14:42

of that righteous, person

01:14:43 --> 01:14:45

in, Madia when Musa visited them,

01:14:46 --> 01:14:49

When she told her father about Musa, alaihis

01:14:49 --> 01:14:50

salaam, she said,

01:14:57 --> 01:14:58

She said, that

01:14:59 --> 01:15:01

I believe it is better for us to

01:15:01 --> 01:15:03

hire this man to help us in taking

01:15:03 --> 01:15:05

care of our sheep.

01:15:05 --> 01:15:09

Because the best person you hire is Alkawi

01:15:09 --> 01:15:10

Elani.

01:15:11 --> 01:15:12

Somebody who has a manner,

01:15:12 --> 01:15:14

and he has skills,

01:15:14 --> 01:15:17

and power, and ability to deliver the job.

01:15:18 --> 01:15:20

So you need a spouse

01:15:20 --> 01:15:22

that is strong enough

01:15:22 --> 01:15:25

to deliver, to execute whatever you believe to

01:15:25 --> 01:15:26

be correct.

01:15:27 --> 01:15:27

A weak

01:15:28 --> 01:15:31

person, especially if the weakness is from the

01:15:31 --> 01:15:34

from the father. Because the qawama in the

01:15:34 --> 01:15:35

family comes from

01:15:35 --> 01:15:37

Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala to whom?

01:15:38 --> 01:15:39

To the husband or the wife?

01:15:40 --> 01:15:41

Who is having the qawama?

01:15:42 --> 01:15:43

It's for the husband.

01:15:45 --> 01:15:48

But subhanAllah, nowadays in many places, who is

01:15:48 --> 01:15:50

taking that responsibility at home?

01:15:50 --> 01:15:51

The wife.

01:15:51 --> 01:15:54

You know. This is wrong because we are

01:15:54 --> 01:15:55

I'm not saying the sisters are very weak.

01:15:55 --> 01:15:58

They can't do anything. No. I have already

01:15:58 --> 01:16:00

mentioned what I meant earlier.

01:16:00 --> 01:16:02

That we do have a lot of sisters

01:16:02 --> 01:16:03

in the past

01:16:03 --> 01:16:06

who did the job in the very excellent

01:16:06 --> 01:16:08

way. And by the way,

01:16:08 --> 01:16:10

whether we like it or we don't like

01:16:10 --> 01:16:12

it, taking care of a child,

01:16:13 --> 01:16:15

nobody can do it except a sister

01:16:16 --> 01:16:18

with the cooperation of the husband.

01:16:18 --> 01:16:21

Trust me, a husband cannot do it alone.

01:16:21 --> 01:16:22

Father cannot do it alone.

01:16:23 --> 01:16:24

That's why Kawda,

01:16:24 --> 01:16:26

when she went to the prophet sallallahu alaihi

01:16:26 --> 01:16:27

wa sallam,

01:16:27 --> 01:16:30

after her husband uttered the vihar on her,

01:16:30 --> 01:16:31

You know,

01:16:32 --> 01:16:34

is husband saying to his wife,

01:16:34 --> 01:16:37

you are just like my my mother. In

01:16:37 --> 01:16:38

the way I cannot approach my mother,

01:16:39 --> 01:16:40

You also I cannot approach you in that

01:16:40 --> 01:16:42

way. This is what it means.

01:16:42 --> 01:16:45

So when this husband told her, the husband

01:16:45 --> 01:16:45

of this,

01:16:46 --> 01:16:46

companion,

01:16:47 --> 01:16:49

He did he told her, auntie alayhi kabari

01:16:49 --> 01:16:51

ummi. You're just your back is just just

01:16:51 --> 01:16:52

like the back of my mother.

01:16:53 --> 01:16:54

Subhanallah.

01:16:55 --> 01:16:55

She

01:16:56 --> 01:16:57

was really traumatized by this.

01:16:58 --> 01:17:00

So she went to the prophet and complained,

01:17:00 --> 01:17:01

and this is the reason why Surat Al

01:17:01 --> 01:17:03

Mujadilah was revealed to the prophet

01:17:05 --> 01:17:06

One of the things she told the prophet,

01:17:06 --> 01:17:08

sallallahu alaihi wasallam, she said, You Rasulullah, this

01:17:08 --> 01:17:10

person took all of my strength.

01:17:10 --> 01:17:12

I used to be pretty. I used to

01:17:12 --> 01:17:14

be beautiful. He He destroyed all of this

01:17:14 --> 01:17:16

because of the life we we had together.

01:17:17 --> 01:17:19

And now you Rasool Allah, he uttered this

01:17:19 --> 01:17:21

statement and he's going to neglect me with

01:17:21 --> 01:17:23

those younger kids.

01:17:23 --> 01:17:25

She said, You Rasool Allah, if I leave

01:17:25 --> 01:17:28

this kid to him, she said, Indamam to

01:17:28 --> 01:17:29

whom ilayhi jahu.

01:17:30 --> 01:17:32

If I'm to leave them with him,

01:17:33 --> 01:17:34

they will die out of hunger.

01:17:38 --> 01:17:40

And if I leave them to myself,

01:17:40 --> 01:17:42

they will not get the proper because

01:17:43 --> 01:17:45

I need somebody to help me and monitor

01:17:45 --> 01:17:47

what the kids are doing, especially when they

01:17:47 --> 01:17:48

go out of the house.

01:17:49 --> 01:17:51

SubhanAllah. Look at this smartness.

01:17:51 --> 01:17:53

When he tell When she tells us

01:17:53 --> 01:17:56

the way things should work in our community,

01:17:56 --> 01:17:58

that we have a job that is very

01:17:58 --> 01:18:00

conducive for the brothers, and we have another

01:18:00 --> 01:18:03

job that is conducive for the sis sisters.

01:18:03 --> 01:18:06

You will know that job, nobody can do

01:18:06 --> 01:18:08

it properly more than the woman.

01:18:10 --> 01:18:12

I had a son that had passed away,

01:18:12 --> 01:18:14

I lost my heart and I show mercy

01:18:14 --> 01:18:16

upon him. There was a time he came

01:18:16 --> 01:18:18

back and I found him a very critical

01:18:18 --> 01:18:19

moment.

01:18:20 --> 01:18:22

So we I took him to the hospital.

01:18:22 --> 01:18:24

The moment I go to the hospital, the

01:18:24 --> 01:18:26

hospital told us he has to stay here.

01:18:26 --> 01:18:28

His condition is very bad.

01:18:29 --> 01:18:31

I said, k. No problem. We have no

01:18:31 --> 01:18:32

choice.

01:18:32 --> 01:18:34

You know, we left him and who is

01:18:34 --> 01:18:36

supposed to be in the hospital with him?

01:18:36 --> 01:18:37

The mother or the father.

01:18:38 --> 01:18:40

He's a very young young boy, you know,

01:18:40 --> 01:18:42

I I think he was around 2 months

01:18:42 --> 01:18:42

for that time.

01:18:43 --> 01:18:45

Yeah. Who's going to be with him? The

01:18:45 --> 01:18:47

mother. The father is useless to to this

01:18:47 --> 01:18:48

baby.

01:18:49 --> 01:18:51

Anyway, so I left them there.

01:18:52 --> 01:18:54

Now for the first time, I'm coming back

01:18:54 --> 01:18:55

home to act

01:18:56 --> 01:18:57

as who?

01:18:57 --> 01:18:59

The father and the mother at the same

01:18:59 --> 01:19:00

time.

01:19:00 --> 01:19:03

Well, I do understand this statement of this

01:19:03 --> 01:19:04

woman after that so much.

01:19:06 --> 01:19:07

In

01:19:07 --> 01:19:10

in Madina, sometimes we stay without eating until

01:19:11 --> 01:19:13

night, and then when we come to Malaysia

01:19:13 --> 01:19:14

also, we develop this concept,

01:19:15 --> 01:19:17

me and one of my closest friend.

01:19:17 --> 01:19:19

We eat very late.

01:19:19 --> 01:19:21

And I'm not saying do this, don't listen

01:19:21 --> 01:19:23

to this part of my life,

01:19:23 --> 01:19:25

but this is what we do. But now

01:19:25 --> 01:19:25

I forgot

01:19:26 --> 01:19:28

that I have other people in the house.

01:19:28 --> 01:19:29

I'm not living alone.

01:19:30 --> 01:19:32

Trust me. The first day when I wake

01:19:32 --> 01:19:34

up, I found the house in Messi.

01:19:35 --> 01:19:36

I was asking myself,

01:19:37 --> 01:19:40

how is this woman managing this house properly?

01:19:41 --> 01:19:43

I don't know where to begin. Which one

01:19:43 --> 01:19:44

should I start with?

01:19:44 --> 01:19:46

I went there. I have a younger daughter

01:19:47 --> 01:19:49

and then she messed up herself. I have

01:19:49 --> 01:19:50

to change the nappies. I didn't even know

01:19:50 --> 01:19:52

how to do it. 1 of them was

01:19:52 --> 01:19:54

laughing to me or laughing at me. Telling

01:19:54 --> 01:19:55

me, Abi, you don't know how to do

01:19:55 --> 01:19:56

it. It was it is not like this.

01:19:56 --> 01:19:58

It is not like that.

01:19:58 --> 01:20:01

SubhanAllah, they they took the first meal

01:20:01 --> 01:20:04

after one of them told me, dad, why

01:20:04 --> 01:20:05

can't you do like our mother?

01:20:06 --> 01:20:08

I said, what was she doing? They said,

01:20:08 --> 01:20:10

just give us some potatoes, some egg,

01:20:11 --> 01:20:12

and that was after Asaf. That was the

01:20:12 --> 01:20:13

first time they eat.

01:20:14 --> 01:20:16

I remember what this woman was saying.

01:20:17 --> 01:20:18

She said, you Rasoolah, if I am to

01:20:18 --> 01:20:19

leave my kids

01:20:20 --> 01:20:21

to the custody of my husband, he is

01:20:21 --> 01:20:23

the one who will be taking care of

01:20:23 --> 01:20:24

of them. They will get lost

01:20:25 --> 01:20:27

because he will have no he will be

01:20:27 --> 01:20:28

having no time for them.

01:20:29 --> 01:20:31

That's the reason why this call has said

01:20:31 --> 01:20:34

this job to give terbia to a child,

01:20:34 --> 01:20:36

you know, to the to the to the

01:20:36 --> 01:20:38

level where he can lead the nation to

01:20:38 --> 01:20:41

success, only a woman can do that. I

01:20:41 --> 01:20:43

appreciate a statement that I kept on sharing

01:20:43 --> 01:20:45

with many of us where I heard one

01:20:45 --> 01:20:47

of this mofa, Kireen, saying that if you

01:20:47 --> 01:20:49

want to destroy a civilization,

01:20:50 --> 01:20:51

you don't need to come with weapons and

01:20:51 --> 01:20:52

fight a civilization.

01:20:54 --> 01:20:55

You don't need to do that. It says,

01:20:55 --> 01:20:57

what do you need to do? I found

01:20:57 --> 01:20:58

it very interesting.

01:20:58 --> 01:21:00

It said, just try to convince the community

01:21:01 --> 01:21:03

to have no respect to the scholars,

01:21:03 --> 01:21:05

to have no respect to the knowledge,

01:21:06 --> 01:21:08

and to convince the woman in that community,

01:21:09 --> 01:21:11

you know, that being a housewife

01:21:12 --> 01:21:13

is an is an,

01:21:14 --> 01:21:15

I mean, a humiliation.

01:21:16 --> 01:21:16

Disrespect.

01:21:17 --> 01:21:20

Convince the sisters that staying at home, taking

01:21:20 --> 01:21:22

care of the children is a do is

01:21:22 --> 01:21:23

a form of disrespect.

01:21:23 --> 01:21:25

He said if you succeed in that, you

01:21:25 --> 01:21:27

don't need to do anything else. Just leave

01:21:27 --> 01:21:30

that society. It will fall. And you

01:21:31 --> 01:21:32

can understand also

01:21:33 --> 01:21:34

why shaitan,

01:21:34 --> 01:21:38

when he asked his workers You know, every

01:21:38 --> 01:21:40

day the Prophet said, shaitan will bring his

01:21:40 --> 01:21:43

throne and put it on the sea and

01:21:43 --> 01:21:45

then send his evil workers to go to

01:21:45 --> 01:21:48

everywhere and destroy people. You know, In the

01:21:48 --> 01:21:50

evening, they will come back to him and

01:21:50 --> 01:21:52

he will ask them about what happened.

01:21:52 --> 01:21:54

And the prophet said they will come back

01:21:54 --> 01:21:56

to him mentioning big sins that they get

01:21:56 --> 01:21:59

people involved in and sheitan will tell them,

01:21:59 --> 01:22:01

no, this is not that big.

01:22:01 --> 01:22:02

They will change

01:22:03 --> 01:22:04

until the time

01:22:04 --> 01:22:06

one of them will come to him and

01:22:06 --> 01:22:09

say to him, I tried my best in

01:22:09 --> 01:22:10

one of the homes and I did not

01:22:10 --> 01:22:13

leave the house until the time I see

01:22:13 --> 01:22:16

the husband uttering divorce against his wife, then

01:22:16 --> 01:22:17

I left.

01:22:18 --> 01:22:21

And guess what happened after that? Then, Shaikhan

01:22:21 --> 01:22:23

will tell him, aunt, aunt, you're the best

01:22:23 --> 01:22:24

one.

01:22:25 --> 01:22:26

But divorce in Islam,

01:22:27 --> 01:22:28

is it halal?

01:22:29 --> 01:22:32

Salam. Is it halal? Yes. Yes. It's halal

01:22:32 --> 01:22:34

to divorce, you know. It should have

01:22:34 --> 01:22:36

reason. If a person is smart and okay,

01:22:36 --> 01:22:37

you should have reason for the divorce but

01:22:37 --> 01:22:39

it's halal generally to divorce.

01:22:40 --> 01:22:42

But why is sheikh'an is happy with this

01:22:42 --> 01:22:46

so much? Much happier with killing somebody.

01:22:46 --> 01:22:47

Which one is worse?

01:22:47 --> 01:22:50

Of course, the first one. But why Shaikh

01:22:50 --> 01:22:52

An is happy with this so much?

01:22:52 --> 01:22:55

Some of us callers said, because if you

01:22:55 --> 01:22:57

have a woman leaving the house because of

01:22:57 --> 01:22:58

the divorce,

01:22:59 --> 01:23:01

then the first person to be affected by

01:23:01 --> 01:23:02

this is the child

01:23:03 --> 01:23:06

because he will be he will be having

01:23:06 --> 01:23:08

no proper term They are being given to

01:23:08 --> 01:23:11

him by one of them. Because that cooperation

01:23:11 --> 01:23:13

between the father and the mother is needed.

01:23:13 --> 01:23:16

But now it is only one given the

01:23:16 --> 01:23:18

And if she or he is not able

01:23:18 --> 01:23:21

to give the proper terbia, this boy is

01:23:21 --> 01:23:22

going to be corrupt,

01:23:22 --> 01:23:23

and he will be engaged

01:23:24 --> 01:23:27

in corrupting the community by doing all types

01:23:27 --> 01:23:27

of

01:23:27 --> 01:23:29

deviation and sins.

01:23:30 --> 01:23:32

Those one who are doing only zina, only

01:23:32 --> 01:23:35

riba, but this one will come and become

01:23:35 --> 01:23:37

a pumbula for the community.

01:23:37 --> 01:23:39

That's why Sheban is looking for this type

01:23:39 --> 01:23:40

of people.

01:23:40 --> 01:23:42

And that's the reason why you can understand

01:23:42 --> 01:23:44

why is is very evil.

01:23:45 --> 01:23:46

Apart from the sin that Allah,

01:23:47 --> 01:23:49

you know, put in in the commission of

01:23:49 --> 01:23:52

zina, why is it is very evil? Because

01:23:52 --> 01:23:54

it leads to corrupting the community.

01:23:55 --> 01:23:56

Because if you have children who are coming

01:23:56 --> 01:23:58

out of wedlock, what will happen?

01:23:59 --> 01:24:01

They will have nobody who is claiming them.

01:24:02 --> 01:24:04

No father. Islamically, they cannot be attributed to

01:24:04 --> 01:24:05

those

01:24:05 --> 01:24:07

fathers of theirs.

01:24:07 --> 01:24:09

They have to be attributed to the mother

01:24:09 --> 01:24:11

and even the attachment between him and the

01:24:11 --> 01:24:13

mother also is going to be not like

01:24:13 --> 01:24:14

the attachment between

01:24:15 --> 01:24:17

a legal and legitimate child and his mother.

01:24:18 --> 01:24:20

And in the way this sense of deficiency

01:24:20 --> 01:24:22

will be there, especially when the child knows

01:24:22 --> 01:24:24

that he came out of out of wedlock.

01:24:25 --> 01:24:26

What is he going to be doing in

01:24:26 --> 01:24:27

the community?

01:24:28 --> 01:24:30

Engaging in corruption and corrupting the community and

01:24:30 --> 01:24:32

everyone is going to, pay the pay the

01:24:32 --> 01:24:34

price. May Allah

01:24:34 --> 01:24:36

grant us a good. So my dear brothers

01:24:36 --> 01:24:38

and sisters, you need a very strong

01:24:38 --> 01:24:39

spouse.

01:24:39 --> 01:24:41

A very strong spouse.

01:24:41 --> 01:24:43

The wife has to be strong and the

01:24:43 --> 01:24:46

husband has to be strong. We're not looking

01:24:46 --> 01:24:49

for strength in terms of physical ability to

01:24:49 --> 01:24:52

wrestle somebody down. No. You might be as

01:24:52 --> 01:24:53

skinny as you, you can.

01:24:54 --> 01:24:56

But it's okay. The heart should be very,

01:24:56 --> 01:24:58

very strong. She said,

01:24:59 --> 01:25:00

minister,

01:25:01 --> 01:25:03

And I mean, she's talking about the skills

01:25:03 --> 01:25:05

here and the strength, the physical, you know,

01:25:06 --> 01:25:09

ability and power also that is requirement.

01:25:10 --> 01:25:11

The next is Aladdin

01:25:12 --> 01:25:12

justice

01:25:14 --> 01:25:16

because if the spouse is not just,

01:25:17 --> 01:25:19

he will be the reason why the family

01:25:19 --> 01:25:20

will be

01:25:21 --> 01:25:23

gone, especially when it comes to the ties

01:25:23 --> 01:25:24

of the family if he has more than

01:25:24 --> 01:25:25

one child.

01:25:27 --> 01:25:29

You get it? Especially when he has more

01:25:29 --> 01:25:31

than one child, if the father and the

01:25:31 --> 01:25:33

mother are not just so that they are

01:25:33 --> 01:25:35

not going to be fair whenever they deal

01:25:35 --> 01:25:37

with with the children.

01:25:37 --> 01:25:38

In their love

01:25:39 --> 01:25:40

and their gifts also.

01:25:40 --> 01:25:42

And these are very dangerous for a child

01:25:42 --> 01:25:44

to sense that you are favoring

01:25:45 --> 01:25:48

somebody, you know, among his siblings over over

01:25:48 --> 01:25:48

him.

01:25:50 --> 01:25:51

Yusuf alaihis salam

01:25:51 --> 01:25:53

almost lost his life because of

01:25:54 --> 01:25:55

because of this.

01:25:56 --> 01:25:57

That's why as a father,

01:25:58 --> 01:26:00

as a mother, we really need to be

01:26:00 --> 01:26:00

very careful.

01:26:01 --> 01:26:03

You see, you have 7 children, 5 children,

01:26:03 --> 01:26:05

you know, you have all of them. You

01:26:05 --> 01:26:07

love one of them and you do not

01:26:07 --> 01:26:09

manage to conceal that. You let the rest

01:26:09 --> 01:26:11

know about this love. Trust me, my dear

01:26:11 --> 01:26:14

brothers and sisters, you are putting this person

01:26:14 --> 01:26:15

that you love into into trouble.

01:26:16 --> 01:26:19

Exactly what what happened to Yusuf alaihi salaam

01:26:19 --> 01:26:20

might happen to to your child.

01:26:21 --> 01:26:22

You might not see it

01:26:22 --> 01:26:25

because they will be afraid of showing him

01:26:25 --> 01:26:28

any negative feeling towards him because of your

01:26:28 --> 01:26:29

existence.

01:26:29 --> 01:26:31

By the time you die,

01:26:31 --> 01:26:35

this is when the true image of these

01:26:35 --> 01:26:36

siblings that you left for this child that

01:26:36 --> 01:26:39

you love the most will be revealed.

01:26:40 --> 01:26:42

So let's be very careful and do the

01:26:42 --> 01:26:45

right thing. The man bin Rashid said his

01:26:45 --> 01:26:45

father

01:26:46 --> 01:26:47

once gave him a gift

01:26:48 --> 01:26:50

and there's a piece of land he wanted

01:26:50 --> 01:26:50

to give

01:26:51 --> 01:26:52

you. But, subhanallah,

01:26:52 --> 01:26:54

he's married to

01:26:54 --> 01:26:57

a very smart spouse, the mother of al

01:26:57 --> 01:26:57

Bashir.

01:26:58 --> 01:27:00

So So he said to her, I'm planning

01:27:00 --> 01:27:02

to give this land to my my son,

01:27:02 --> 01:27:02

al Bashir. She said, it is better for

01:27:02 --> 01:27:02

you to go to rasulullah salallahu alayhi salallahu

01:27:02 --> 01:27:02

alayhi salallahu alayhi salallahu alayhi salallahu alayhi salallahu

01:27:02 --> 01:27:02

alayhi salallahu alayhi salallahu alayhi salallahu alayhi salallahu

01:27:02 --> 01:27:03

alayhi salallahu alayhi salallahu alayhi sal

01:27:08 --> 01:27:09

advice concerning this matter.

01:27:09 --> 01:27:11

So he went to the prophet Sallallahu alaihi

01:27:11 --> 01:27:13

wasallam and he told him, you Rasulullah, this

01:27:13 --> 01:27:15

is my intention to give this piece of

01:27:15 --> 01:27:16

land to my

01:27:17 --> 01:27:20

my son al Bashir, I'm sorry, al Noma.

01:27:20 --> 01:27:21

The prophet

01:27:21 --> 01:27:22

said,

01:27:22 --> 01:27:23

do you have

01:27:24 --> 01:27:26

children other than him? He said, yes, he

01:27:26 --> 01:27:28

has a son. He He said, oh,

01:27:29 --> 01:27:30

did you give each and every one of

01:27:30 --> 01:27:32

them the same thing? He said, no You

01:27:32 --> 01:27:34

Rasool Allah. And then the prophet said,

01:27:36 --> 01:27:39

go and look for somebody to witness this,

01:27:40 --> 01:27:40

transaction

01:27:41 --> 01:27:42

or transfer of ownership,

01:27:43 --> 01:27:44

Not me. Because

01:27:45 --> 01:27:47

I don't witness injustice.

01:27:49 --> 01:27:50

SubhanAllah. He told him go and look for

01:27:50 --> 01:27:53

somebody but not me because I don't witness

01:27:53 --> 01:27:54

injustice.

01:27:54 --> 01:27:56

And he said fear Allah

01:27:56 --> 01:27:58

in dealing with your children

01:27:58 --> 01:28:00

and be just when you're dealing with your

01:28:00 --> 01:28:03

children. And he said the same way you

01:28:03 --> 01:28:05

want all of your children to be respecting

01:28:05 --> 01:28:06

you,

01:28:06 --> 01:28:09

you should also equate them when you are

01:28:09 --> 01:28:10

making a gift.

01:28:11 --> 01:28:12

That's why one of the things we do,

01:28:12 --> 01:28:14

which is wrong approach we are doing in

01:28:14 --> 01:28:15

Terpia

01:28:15 --> 01:28:17

in motivating our kids, it's good for you

01:28:17 --> 01:28:20

to have some incentive. You provide for somebody

01:28:20 --> 01:28:22

who did well in his education. But the

01:28:22 --> 01:28:24

way we are doing it, trust trust me,

01:28:24 --> 01:28:25

my dear brothers and sisters,

01:28:27 --> 01:28:28

is wrong.

01:28:30 --> 01:28:32

I have, let's say, 3 children.

01:28:33 --> 01:28:35

You know, one of them got, you know,

01:28:35 --> 01:28:37

after the exams, one of them got got

01:28:37 --> 01:28:38

all a's, masha'Allah.

01:28:40 --> 01:28:41

And the other one got

01:28:42 --> 01:28:42

Baine Baine.

01:28:43 --> 01:28:45

Some A's, some something.

01:28:45 --> 01:28:47

And the other one got a lot of

01:28:47 --> 01:28:47

F.

01:28:49 --> 01:28:51

He came back home.

01:28:51 --> 01:28:53

Who is the one that is in trouble?

01:28:55 --> 01:28:57

Yeah. In the past, whenever we got low

01:28:57 --> 01:28:59

marks, we know that that day we're gonna

01:28:59 --> 01:29:00

be beaten at home.

01:29:01 --> 01:29:03

You are allowed. You're gonna be beaten at

01:29:03 --> 01:29:06

home. So that was really wrong. So nowadays,

01:29:06 --> 01:29:08

we modernize it a bit. So we give

01:29:08 --> 01:29:10

gifts to the one who exhale

01:29:10 --> 01:29:12

and we neglect the rest.

01:29:14 --> 01:29:16

And we think this is justifiable.

01:29:17 --> 01:29:18

This is wrong. This is not one of

01:29:18 --> 01:29:20

the justification and the reason why you can

01:29:20 --> 01:29:22

make difference between your children in terms of

01:29:22 --> 01:29:23

gift.

01:29:24 --> 01:29:25

And you are not helping

01:29:26 --> 01:29:29

those people who fail in the exams

01:29:30 --> 01:29:32

because if that is the accent of their

01:29:32 --> 01:29:33

ability,

01:29:33 --> 01:29:35

the next time also they're gonna get the

01:29:35 --> 01:29:36

same thing.

01:29:37 --> 01:29:39

And when they get the same thing, you're

01:29:39 --> 01:29:42

gonna favor this one and suhawaqa, he's gonna

01:29:42 --> 01:29:43

share with them, you know.

01:29:43 --> 01:29:45

They might be pushing him, telling him too

01:29:45 --> 01:29:47

well, inshallah, so that dad will get us

01:29:47 --> 01:29:48

this and that and they will come and

01:29:48 --> 01:29:49

share.

01:29:49 --> 01:29:51

They will remain like this.

01:29:52 --> 01:29:54

And the best approach, as scholars mentioned,

01:29:55 --> 01:29:56

rather than

01:29:56 --> 01:29:59

you favoring one of them in in gifts

01:29:59 --> 01:30:01

just because he got good

01:30:01 --> 01:30:01

result

01:30:02 --> 01:30:04

is to show concern to this person that

01:30:04 --> 01:30:05

fails.

01:30:06 --> 01:30:09

Because he'll he'll be coming back nervous.

01:30:09 --> 01:30:12

Focus on him. Tell him why you're nervous.

01:30:13 --> 01:30:15

This is Qadr of Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala

01:30:15 --> 01:30:18

and we accept it and insha Allah.

01:30:18 --> 01:30:20

We're going to cooperate with you in the

01:30:20 --> 01:30:22

next time, be it enlight to Allah, to

01:30:22 --> 01:30:23

make sure that you succeed.

01:30:23 --> 01:30:25

And you guys have completed your examination.

01:30:26 --> 01:30:28

We're gonna celebrate this completion. You know, even

01:30:28 --> 01:30:29

if you have in your mind that you're

01:30:29 --> 01:30:31

celebrating this this one, but you don't inform

01:30:31 --> 01:30:34

any one of them. SubhanAllah, they will feel

01:30:34 --> 01:30:34

honored.

01:30:35 --> 01:30:38

And next time, most likely, they will be

01:30:38 --> 01:30:39

doing their best to make sure that they

01:30:39 --> 01:30:42

don't disappoint you because of that previous treatment

01:30:42 --> 01:30:43

you did.

01:30:44 --> 01:30:46

Now when you favor one of them, they

01:30:46 --> 01:30:49

will never see that, you know, excellent, you

01:30:49 --> 01:30:50

know, score that he had. They would just

01:30:50 --> 01:30:53

see father favoring one of us and neglecting

01:30:53 --> 01:30:55

us. They don't care about what he did

01:30:55 --> 01:30:57

but they just see the connection between you

01:30:57 --> 01:30:58

and them.

01:30:59 --> 01:31:00

And there's a problem.

01:31:01 --> 01:31:03

That's a problem. That's why I try your

01:31:03 --> 01:31:03

best.

01:31:04 --> 01:31:06

Do not give a gift to any of

01:31:06 --> 01:31:08

your child if you're not going to make

01:31:08 --> 01:31:10

an eco gift to the other one,

01:31:11 --> 01:31:13

except if you are making it to the

01:31:13 --> 01:31:14

very young child.

01:31:15 --> 01:31:17

I say very young, very young.

01:31:17 --> 01:31:19

Because sometimes the kids, they are not mature

01:31:19 --> 01:31:22

enough. Trust me. The one that is younger

01:31:22 --> 01:31:24

than them, 8 years young younger than them,

01:31:24 --> 01:31:26

but he's still at the age of, let's

01:31:26 --> 01:31:28

say, 8 years, 7 years, they see him

01:31:28 --> 01:31:30

as a big person. When you make a

01:31:30 --> 01:31:32

gift for him, to them, you are favoring

01:31:32 --> 01:31:33

him over over

01:31:33 --> 01:31:34

them.

01:31:34 --> 01:31:36

So the best is not to do. When

01:31:36 --> 01:31:38

you buy for 1, buy for the others.

01:31:39 --> 01:31:41

When you are going to somewhere, also take

01:31:41 --> 01:31:43

all of them. If that is possible, or

01:31:43 --> 01:31:46

leave all of them. This is better. Otherwise,

01:31:47 --> 01:31:49

you are creating this kind of enmity and

01:31:49 --> 01:31:51

hatred in the heart of your kids which

01:31:51 --> 01:31:53

might not be revealed now.

01:31:53 --> 01:31:56

They will see it and the family will

01:31:56 --> 01:31:59

see it after you live this life.

01:31:59 --> 01:32:00

Allah, I know

01:32:01 --> 01:32:02

a family that after the death of the

01:32:02 --> 01:32:03

father, subhanallah,

01:32:04 --> 01:32:07

they were having battles among them as if

01:32:07 --> 01:32:08

they were not family. As if they are

01:32:08 --> 01:32:10

not from the same from the same father.

01:32:11 --> 01:32:13

So in most instances, we are the one

01:32:13 --> 01:32:16

who put them into this, trouble before we

01:32:16 --> 01:32:17

left the junior.

01:32:19 --> 01:32:21

One of these qualities so, how many qualities

01:32:21 --> 01:32:22

I give now?

01:32:23 --> 01:32:25

4. 4. For I thought I'm alone, alhamdulillah,

01:32:26 --> 01:32:27

then I have the energy to continue.

01:32:28 --> 01:32:28

Okay.

01:32:29 --> 01:32:31

The next one is al heads.

01:32:32 --> 01:32:33

Having strong

01:32:34 --> 01:32:34

interest

01:32:35 --> 01:32:37

in doing the right right thing, the courage

01:32:37 --> 01:32:39

in doing the right right thing,

01:32:39 --> 01:32:42

which should be based on a dua

01:32:44 --> 01:32:46

always making dua for them. Somebody who believes

01:32:46 --> 01:32:49

that there is always a hope

01:32:49 --> 01:32:51

in his children doing the right thing.

01:32:53 --> 01:32:55

SubhanAllah, that's why as a real and a

01:32:55 --> 01:32:56

good father,

01:32:57 --> 01:32:59

you are supposed to make dua against your

01:32:59 --> 01:33:00

child.

01:33:01 --> 01:33:01

Please

01:33:02 --> 01:33:03

listen to this carefully.

01:33:04 --> 01:33:06

Don't you ever open your mouth

01:33:07 --> 01:33:09

and make dua against your child.

01:33:10 --> 01:33:12

No matter how much corrupt

01:33:12 --> 01:33:14

and bad is this child.

01:33:15 --> 01:33:17

Because one of these adiliyah that Allah

01:33:18 --> 01:33:20

quickly accept is the dua of the father.

01:33:21 --> 01:33:22

As a father,

01:33:22 --> 01:33:23

as a mother,

01:33:24 --> 01:33:26

nothing should come out of your mouth about

01:33:26 --> 01:33:27

your children except good

01:33:28 --> 01:33:30

and hope and being optimistic.

01:33:31 --> 01:33:32

And asking Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala to guide

01:33:32 --> 01:33:33

them.

01:33:34 --> 01:33:35

You know this woman?

01:33:35 --> 01:33:37

She's an old woman.

01:33:37 --> 01:33:39

She came to her son, Jurej. He's in

01:33:39 --> 01:33:40

Bani Israel.

01:33:40 --> 01:33:43

And she went to his, Masjid in the

01:33:43 --> 01:33:44

forest.

01:33:44 --> 01:33:46

This person is very righteous,

01:33:46 --> 01:33:47

and he even

01:33:53 --> 01:33:53

So

01:33:54 --> 01:33:55

she went to

01:33:55 --> 01:33:58

the child in the forest, Juraj. He have

01:33:58 --> 01:34:00

his masjid because he doesn't want to mix

01:34:00 --> 01:34:01

with people.

01:34:02 --> 01:34:03

This is the that Allah

01:34:03 --> 01:34:04

talks about.

01:34:05 --> 01:34:07

So she call him. He's very old woman

01:34:07 --> 01:34:10

and Jurej was praying. When he heard her

01:34:10 --> 01:34:12

voice, she said You Allah. I'm sorry. He

01:34:12 --> 01:34:15

said You Allah, this is my mother and

01:34:15 --> 01:34:17

this is my prayer. So he doesn't know

01:34:17 --> 01:34:18

what to do. At the end of the

01:34:18 --> 01:34:20

day he favored his prayer.

01:34:20 --> 01:34:21

That was his mistake.

01:34:22 --> 01:34:24

He favored his prayer because that was, that

01:34:24 --> 01:34:26

was a sunnah prayer. The scholar said if

01:34:26 --> 01:34:28

you engage in a sunnah, a prayer,

01:34:29 --> 01:34:31

if a parent called you, you cut it

01:34:31 --> 01:34:33

off and go on listen to their advice.

01:34:33 --> 01:34:35

If you're praying the Wajid prayer, your parent

01:34:35 --> 01:34:38

call you, then you continue because this is

01:34:38 --> 01:34:39

what Allah asked you to do. It's right

01:34:39 --> 01:34:43

of Allah, it's always coming first before each

01:34:43 --> 01:34:45

your your parent. Unless if they are in

01:34:45 --> 01:34:47

a state of necessity, then you cut off

01:34:47 --> 01:34:49

the prey and go on and eat them.

01:34:49 --> 01:34:52

So he doesn't listen to her. So, how

01:34:52 --> 01:34:54

loud, three times she has been doing this.

01:34:54 --> 01:34:56

Whenever she comes, she couldn't have access to

01:34:56 --> 01:34:57

him and she need him. That's why she's

01:34:57 --> 01:34:59

coming to the forest looking for him.

01:35:00 --> 01:35:01

She said, Jurej,

01:35:01 --> 01:35:03

I'm your mother, and I came to you

01:35:03 --> 01:35:05

3 times. I called you. You did not

01:35:05 --> 01:35:06

respond to my call.

01:35:07 --> 01:35:08

She said,

01:35:09 --> 01:35:10

you will not die

01:35:11 --> 01:35:14

until Allah's mother embarrassed you in the presence

01:35:14 --> 01:35:15

of the mumisat,

01:35:15 --> 01:35:17

the bad and the prostitute sisters.

01:35:19 --> 01:35:20

Is that a good dua?

01:35:21 --> 01:35:22

No, it's not.

01:35:22 --> 01:35:24

And a mother shouldn't make this dua for

01:35:24 --> 01:35:26

her child. The one that she spent a

01:35:26 --> 01:35:28

lot, she put her life at risk

01:35:29 --> 01:35:31

to make sure that he succeed. And now,

01:35:31 --> 01:35:33

you are making this evil against him.

01:35:35 --> 01:35:36

So,

01:35:37 --> 01:35:38

the Jew, as usual,

01:35:39 --> 01:35:40

they don't like good, and they don't like

01:35:40 --> 01:35:43

to have somebody who is even among them

01:35:43 --> 01:35:43

good.

01:35:44 --> 01:35:46

They started plotting. And guess, who did they

01:35:46 --> 01:35:48

assign to go and destroy Jurej?

01:35:49 --> 01:35:52

The daughter of the king in that community.

01:35:53 --> 01:35:55

That's why Musa, alaihis salam,

01:35:55 --> 01:35:56

said to Allah,

01:35:57 --> 01:35:59

when Allah destroyed the Jew, those 70 people

01:35:59 --> 01:36:00

who went with him, he said,

01:36:03 --> 01:36:04

Musa called them

01:36:05 --> 01:36:07

so that you will understand what is going

01:36:07 --> 01:36:09

on nowadays, you know. You're dealing with Safi.

01:36:09 --> 01:36:10

You can imagine everything.

01:36:12 --> 01:36:13

So

01:36:13 --> 01:36:15

they tried to plot against him because they

01:36:15 --> 01:36:16

don't want what he's doing.

01:36:16 --> 01:36:18

How come he's the only righteous person among

01:36:18 --> 01:36:20

us? How come? How come? How come? So

01:36:20 --> 01:36:22

they send this woman, this prostitute sister, to

01:36:22 --> 01:36:24

go and deceive him. She went to him.

01:36:24 --> 01:36:25

She called him.

01:36:25 --> 01:36:27

Duray doesn't want to listen because even his

01:36:27 --> 01:36:28

mother was neglected.

01:36:30 --> 01:36:32

So he doesn't listen to her. What did

01:36:32 --> 01:36:34

she do? She looked around the place, she

01:36:34 --> 01:36:36

found a shepherd, a person who used to

01:36:36 --> 01:36:38

go and take care of his sheep and

01:36:38 --> 01:36:39

come back and rest next to the place

01:36:39 --> 01:36:40

of.

01:36:41 --> 01:36:43

She went, she submitted herself to him, and

01:36:43 --> 01:36:46

the guy committed with her. She became pregnant

01:36:46 --> 01:36:48

and she was patient until the time she

01:36:48 --> 01:36:50

got a child and then she went to

01:36:50 --> 01:36:51

the city with the child.

01:36:51 --> 01:36:53

People ask her, where did you get this

01:36:53 --> 01:36:56

one? She said, from Juraish. I said, Juraish?

01:36:56 --> 01:36:58

We never know Juraish to be married. She

01:36:58 --> 01:37:00

said, yeah. This is Juraish's child.

01:37:01 --> 01:37:01

SubhanAllah.

01:37:02 --> 01:37:04

They went. This is what they're waiting for.

01:37:04 --> 01:37:06

They went to Juraish. They call him. Juraish

01:37:06 --> 01:37:07

doesn't want to listen.

01:37:07 --> 01:37:09

They broke his masjid.

01:37:09 --> 01:37:12

They destroyed the masjid. He fell down. They

01:37:12 --> 01:37:14

kept on beating him. They're waiting. They're beating.

01:37:14 --> 01:37:16

So Jurej asked them, what did I do?

01:37:16 --> 01:37:18

They pointed at the boy. They said, this

01:37:18 --> 01:37:20

boy, why do you get it?

01:37:20 --> 01:37:23

Subhanallah, he look around him, he sees none

01:37:23 --> 01:37:25

other than those prostitute sisters exactly like the

01:37:25 --> 01:37:26

way the mother asked

01:37:27 --> 01:37:30

for. He got that one. So he knows

01:37:30 --> 01:37:32

what happened. And, subhanallah, he said the good

01:37:32 --> 01:37:33

people, subhanallah,

01:37:34 --> 01:37:34

and,

01:37:35 --> 01:37:37

righteous people, you know, they know how to

01:37:37 --> 01:37:38

get,

01:37:38 --> 01:37:40

you know, the solution to the predicament.

01:37:41 --> 01:37:44

Yunus alaihi sallam, when he fell into the

01:37:44 --> 01:37:46

the the the stomach of the whale, did

01:37:46 --> 01:37:47

he lose hope?

01:37:48 --> 01:37:50

You know, in that place, honestly speaking, let's

01:37:50 --> 01:37:52

be realistic, what else, what kind of hope

01:37:52 --> 01:37:53

do you have?

01:37:54 --> 01:37:55

But imagine imagine

01:37:59 --> 01:38:01

not losing hope. Even in that place, he

01:38:01 --> 01:38:03

did not lose hope in Allah

01:38:04 --> 01:38:05

He says

01:38:09 --> 01:38:11

That was the only statement he mentioned.

01:38:11 --> 01:38:13

And what happened? Allah commanded

01:38:13 --> 01:38:15

the whale to go and vomit

01:38:16 --> 01:38:18

Yuls alaihis salam, and Allah swore to give

01:38:18 --> 01:38:20

him what he wants, you know, to to

01:38:20 --> 01:38:23

survive, to to regain back his health. And

01:38:23 --> 01:38:24

Allah sent

01:38:24 --> 01:38:25

him back to 100,000

01:38:26 --> 01:38:28

or even more than that, subhanallah, success after

01:38:28 --> 01:38:30

success when a person goes back to Allah

01:38:30 --> 01:38:33

Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala. So this person, Julej, he

01:38:33 --> 01:38:34

remembered that

01:38:35 --> 01:38:38

the only way out from his predicament is

01:38:38 --> 01:38:38

to go

01:38:39 --> 01:38:40

back to Rubb ul Havelin.

01:38:40 --> 01:38:43

And what did he choose to approach Allah?

01:38:43 --> 01:38:46

Salaam, he prayed. 2 rakat.

01:38:47 --> 01:38:49

I hope you're understanding a lot of things

01:38:49 --> 01:38:51

here also because we also face a lot

01:38:51 --> 01:38:52

of things in our life. Right?

01:38:53 --> 01:38:54

These are solutions given to us by Allah

01:38:54 --> 01:38:56

subhanahu wa ta'ala, but unfortunately,

01:38:56 --> 01:38:58

the level of our trust in the religion

01:38:58 --> 01:39:00

is very low. That's why we don't see

01:39:00 --> 01:39:03

what they see. Trust me, my dear brother

01:39:03 --> 01:39:05

and sister, the system is always functioning and

01:39:05 --> 01:39:07

active and intact

01:39:07 --> 01:39:09

and valid and it will never fade

01:39:10 --> 01:39:11

until the time you meet Allah Subhanahu Wa

01:39:11 --> 01:39:13

Ta'ala. You follow the same system, you're going

01:39:13 --> 01:39:14

to get the same,

01:39:14 --> 01:39:15

result

01:39:15 --> 01:39:17

as long as you're doing it correctly with

01:39:17 --> 01:39:18

no modification.

01:39:19 --> 01:39:21

Don't get busy and listen to somebody who's

01:39:21 --> 01:39:23

telling you have to modify it. No. Allah

01:39:23 --> 01:39:24

does not want this modification.

01:39:25 --> 01:39:28

We want Islam nowadays according to the way

01:39:28 --> 01:39:30

we want it. No, Allah doesn't want this.

01:39:30 --> 01:39:32

Islam is very simple. That's why we find

01:39:32 --> 01:39:34

it difficult and we are suffering nowadays from

01:39:34 --> 01:39:36

those people who are not doing the right

01:39:36 --> 01:39:38

thing because we let everything to be to

01:39:38 --> 01:39:39

be open.

01:39:39 --> 01:39:41

Open for discussion. You don't discuss what Allah's

01:39:41 --> 01:39:43

wanted already already finalized.

01:39:44 --> 01:39:45

You didn't do that. Allah wants you to

01:39:45 --> 01:39:47

just take it and use it in the

01:39:47 --> 01:39:48

way the predecessors

01:39:48 --> 01:39:50

took it and use it. They succeeded.

01:39:50 --> 01:39:52

If we do the same thing, we will

01:39:52 --> 01:39:52

succeed.

01:39:53 --> 01:39:56

Subhanallah, this man realized that he has nobody

01:39:56 --> 01:39:57

except Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala.

01:39:58 --> 01:40:00

What did he do? He went back to

01:40:00 --> 01:40:01

Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala and pray

01:40:01 --> 01:40:03

and ask Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala to protect

01:40:03 --> 01:40:04

him.

01:40:05 --> 01:40:05

And subhanAllah,

01:40:06 --> 01:40:09

after this prayer, he came back to them.

01:40:09 --> 01:40:11

He told them, where's the baby?

01:40:11 --> 01:40:13

They gave him the baby. He hit the

01:40:13 --> 01:40:15

stomach of the baby. He said, boy, who

01:40:15 --> 01:40:16

is your father?

01:40:19 --> 01:40:20

You Allah. Yaqeen Yaqeen.

01:40:21 --> 01:40:22

What makes him think that the baby will

01:40:22 --> 01:40:24

talk? This is the baby that was newly

01:40:24 --> 01:40:26

born. He asked him, who is your father?

01:40:27 --> 01:40:30

And the baby not just talked, he pointed

01:40:30 --> 01:40:32

at the shepherd because he was there.

01:40:32 --> 01:40:33

He said,

01:40:34 --> 01:40:35

and he pointed at him.

01:40:36 --> 01:40:37

And then people

01:40:37 --> 01:40:40

are like, Masha Allah. Wow. And they came

01:40:40 --> 01:40:41

to him and they hung him, you know.

01:40:41 --> 01:40:43

They kept on telling him, you are, wadi

01:40:43 --> 01:40:45

of Allah. We're going to rebuild your your

01:40:45 --> 01:40:46

your your masjid,

01:40:47 --> 01:40:48

you know, in gold. We'll make it in

01:40:48 --> 01:40:50

gold. He said no.

01:40:50 --> 01:40:51

Just take it back to

01:40:52 --> 01:40:53

the place where it was.

01:40:54 --> 01:40:56

I needed this story just to tell you

01:40:56 --> 01:40:58

as a father, as a mother,

01:40:59 --> 01:41:02

you shouldn't make dua against your child. Always

01:41:02 --> 01:41:04

your dua should be, yeah, Allah. Guide them.

01:41:04 --> 01:41:05

No matter how much bad they are,

01:41:06 --> 01:41:09

should make dua against them because your dua

01:41:09 --> 01:41:11

is going to be heard most likely. And

01:41:11 --> 01:41:12

if this dua is heard,

01:41:13 --> 01:41:15

you're going to put your children into trouble.

01:41:15 --> 01:41:17

I saw a person who is living with

01:41:17 --> 01:41:18

us up to date, if I'm not mistaken,

01:41:18 --> 01:41:19

he's still alive.

01:41:20 --> 01:41:20

He was

01:41:21 --> 01:41:24

almost completely paralyzed. I'm pretty sure some of

01:41:24 --> 01:41:26

you, saw him. In the early days of

01:41:26 --> 01:41:28

his when he was talking about his life,

01:41:29 --> 01:41:30

he said, this is the dua of his

01:41:30 --> 01:41:32

father. The father made dua against him. He

01:41:32 --> 01:41:35

said, if you're lying against me because the

01:41:35 --> 01:41:36

father asked him, did you pray? He said,

01:41:36 --> 01:41:38

yes. I told the father, yes, I did

01:41:38 --> 01:41:40

and I did not do. So the father

01:41:40 --> 01:41:42

said, if you are lying to me, may

01:41:42 --> 01:41:44

Allah break your neck.

01:41:45 --> 01:41:46

And he said, when I went out with

01:41:46 --> 01:41:49

my friends to get into a swimming pool,

01:41:49 --> 01:41:51

he get deeply down there and his head

01:41:51 --> 01:41:52

hits the floor.

01:41:53 --> 01:41:55

That was the cause of his sickness for

01:41:55 --> 01:41:57

ages up to date. If the last water

01:41:57 --> 01:41:59

did not give him the shifa shifa.

01:42:00 --> 01:42:02

Can't move his body except his eyes and

01:42:02 --> 01:42:04

his mouth and talk and that's it.

01:42:05 --> 01:42:07

That's how it is. So as a

01:42:07 --> 01:42:10

father, you don't have time for this. Your

01:42:10 --> 01:42:10

responsibility

01:42:11 --> 01:42:13

says you have to be optimistic all the

01:42:13 --> 01:42:16

time and have big hope in taking care

01:42:16 --> 01:42:18

of of your child. And also, Al Mutaba.

01:42:18 --> 01:42:20

Al Mutaba is quite interesting because you have

01:42:20 --> 01:42:22

to be following up your kids.

01:42:24 --> 01:42:27

And this one, you shouldn't exaggerate in monitoring

01:42:27 --> 01:42:28

your your children.

01:42:29 --> 01:42:30

I have children

01:42:32 --> 01:42:33

and they have phones.

01:42:33 --> 01:42:34

What do I do to make sure they

01:42:34 --> 01:42:36

are doing the right thing?

01:42:36 --> 01:42:39

I check their phones. I I do all

01:42:39 --> 01:42:39

of these things

01:42:40 --> 01:42:41

and I try to ask them about who

01:42:41 --> 01:42:42

they,

01:42:42 --> 01:42:44

mingle, mixed with, you know, all the time.

01:42:44 --> 01:42:45

I put them into trouble, you know, in

01:42:45 --> 01:42:47

the way whenever they meet me, they they

01:42:47 --> 01:42:49

already know that I'm going to open for

01:42:49 --> 01:42:50

them a new file.

01:42:51 --> 01:42:52

Who do you mean to them? What did

01:42:52 --> 01:42:54

you do? Where did you go? This person,

01:42:54 --> 01:42:55

what did he tell you? And all of

01:42:55 --> 01:42:56

these things.

01:42:56 --> 01:42:57

No.

01:42:57 --> 01:43:00

You have to be very careful. If your

01:43:00 --> 01:43:02

child sends this barrier between you and him

01:43:02 --> 01:43:04

that whenever he meets you, you're gonna give

01:43:04 --> 01:43:06

him a long and see,

01:43:06 --> 01:43:09

trust me, they are going to start having

01:43:09 --> 01:43:12

distance between you and them. That's why many

01:43:12 --> 01:43:13

of the parent complain

01:43:14 --> 01:43:15

that our kids

01:43:16 --> 01:43:18

don't want to sit with us.

01:43:19 --> 01:43:21

Why your child doesn't want to sit with

01:43:21 --> 01:43:21

you?

01:43:23 --> 01:43:24

Why?

01:43:24 --> 01:43:26

Because you are always blaming

01:43:27 --> 01:43:29

and you always don't see him as somebody

01:43:29 --> 01:43:31

who has the ability and the capacity to

01:43:31 --> 01:43:32

take initiative.

01:43:40 --> 01:43:42

But with care. That's why one of,

01:43:43 --> 01:43:45

these, things that I have which time will

01:43:45 --> 01:43:47

not permit. I have a long list. Unfortunately,

01:43:48 --> 01:43:49

time will not, permit

01:43:49 --> 01:43:51

me to share with you all of these

01:43:51 --> 01:43:53

valuable things that I have picked up from

01:43:53 --> 01:43:54

all our scholars.

01:43:56 --> 01:43:57

And so one of these

01:43:57 --> 01:43:59

qualities of rugby

01:43:59 --> 01:43:59

is

01:44:01 --> 01:44:03

a. Please, do understand this correctly. It's very

01:44:03 --> 01:44:04

important in.

01:44:06 --> 01:44:08

A tagafil means

01:44:08 --> 01:44:09

you overlook.

01:44:10 --> 01:44:12

How many crimes and mistakes your kids are

01:44:12 --> 01:44:14

making on the daily basis at home?

01:44:16 --> 01:44:18

But the the problem is all most of

01:44:18 --> 01:44:19

the people in front of me, they are

01:44:19 --> 01:44:21

not married, so if I ask them, they

01:44:21 --> 01:44:22

don't know anything about that.

01:44:23 --> 01:44:25

And couple of people that I see who

01:44:25 --> 01:44:26

are married, they are too far, so I

01:44:26 --> 01:44:27

cannot cooperate with them.

01:44:28 --> 01:44:29

Please, next time, change this.

01:44:33 --> 01:44:35

You see a boy, a boy in the

01:44:35 --> 01:44:35

house.

01:44:36 --> 01:44:37

You see this one?

01:44:38 --> 01:44:39

The younger boy will come.

01:44:40 --> 01:44:43

His mentality will tell him, what happens

01:44:43 --> 01:44:45

if I if I throw it away?

01:44:47 --> 01:44:49

What hap what happens if I push it?

01:44:51 --> 01:44:53

Just like that. I know it. First, I'm

01:44:53 --> 01:44:54

just talking about them. It tells you of

01:44:54 --> 01:44:57

a child, know. You'll be something will be

01:44:57 --> 01:44:59

telling him what will happen. What will happen?

01:44:59 --> 01:45:00

And then he will throw it away.

01:45:01 --> 01:45:03

And this is a glass.

01:45:04 --> 01:45:06

It will be it will be broken.

01:45:07 --> 01:45:08

As a father, what are we going to

01:45:08 --> 01:45:10

do? Your mother, you already know. By then,

01:45:10 --> 01:45:12

maybe 10,000 of shoes went to him.

01:45:15 --> 01:45:18

But as the father, he knows that definitely

01:45:18 --> 01:45:20

today he is he is doomed.

01:45:21 --> 01:45:23

But trust me, this is wrong. This is

01:45:23 --> 01:45:25

against the manhatu of Rasool Allah sallam.

01:45:26 --> 01:45:27

You might find it strange

01:45:28 --> 01:45:28

but it's not.

01:45:29 --> 01:45:31

The best approach in this regard, if you

01:45:31 --> 01:45:34

can just overlook, if it is something harmful,

01:45:34 --> 01:45:35

just tell him don't approach that approach. Wait,

01:45:35 --> 01:45:37

wait, wait. We We will do the job.

01:45:37 --> 01:45:38

He will be nervous telling him, no no

01:45:38 --> 01:45:40

no no. Just get me things to to

01:45:40 --> 01:45:42

pick it up. Help him and support him

01:45:42 --> 01:45:44

and make some jokes with him and tell

01:45:44 --> 01:45:46

him, but you do understand that this is

01:45:46 --> 01:45:48

wrong. Right? He said yes, it's wrong. Please

01:45:48 --> 01:45:51

don't do it again. Trust me. Most likely,

01:45:51 --> 01:45:53

it will never happen in the house

01:45:55 --> 01:45:57

because if you're going to be harsh,

01:45:57 --> 01:45:58

trust me, sometimes

01:45:59 --> 01:46:01

they just do it to provoke you because

01:46:01 --> 01:46:01

they are

01:46:02 --> 01:46:04

familiar with what you are you're going to

01:46:04 --> 01:46:07

say. They just they enjoy the way you

01:46:07 --> 01:46:09

you talk and the way you shout, especially

01:46:09 --> 01:46:10

with the sisters at home.

01:46:11 --> 01:46:12

Alastair Gul Malik said,

01:46:13 --> 01:46:15

he said, the prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam

01:46:15 --> 01:46:18

never told me why did you do this

01:46:18 --> 01:46:20

and why didn't you do that?

01:46:21 --> 01:46:23

What kind of talbiya is this? He said,

01:46:23 --> 01:46:25

I've never did something in the presence of

01:46:25 --> 01:46:27

Rasool alaihi sallamahu which I got blamed. Why

01:46:27 --> 01:46:29

did you do this? Why didn't you do

01:46:29 --> 01:46:30

that?

01:46:30 --> 01:46:33

And if the sisters at home blamed me

01:46:33 --> 01:46:34

for doing something

01:46:34 --> 01:46:37

wrong, the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam will

01:46:37 --> 01:46:38

tell them, why the blame?

01:46:41 --> 01:46:41

SubhanAllah

01:46:42 --> 01:46:44

whatever Allah wants to decreed is what happened

01:46:44 --> 01:46:47

already happened so now let's cooperate with Him

01:46:47 --> 01:46:48

and fix it

01:46:50 --> 01:46:53

Save your words. Those words have value. The

01:46:53 --> 01:46:55

more you talk, the less value your words

01:46:55 --> 01:46:57

are going to have in in the house.

01:46:59 --> 01:47:01

That's why the gospel is really necessary.

01:47:03 --> 01:47:05

The kids, you overlook the vast majority of

01:47:05 --> 01:47:07

their mistakes so that when the big mistake

01:47:07 --> 01:47:10

comes, when you talk about it, everyone will

01:47:10 --> 01:47:10

sense

01:47:11 --> 01:47:11

that, yes,

01:47:12 --> 01:47:14

this shouldn't happen in this house.

01:47:15 --> 01:47:18

But if you are very sensitive person, intolerant,

01:47:18 --> 01:47:21

your children have no place in your life.

01:47:21 --> 01:47:23

You don't sit with them. You don't play

01:47:23 --> 01:47:25

with them. Rasulullah sallallahu alaihi wasallam play with

01:47:25 --> 01:47:26

with his children,

01:47:27 --> 01:47:29

grandchildren, you know. Rasulullah sallallahu alaihi wasallam played

01:47:29 --> 01:47:31

with them. He was praying one day and

01:47:31 --> 01:47:32

umama came,

01:47:41 --> 01:47:43

Whenever he made sukoor, he put her down.

01:47:43 --> 01:47:46

Whenever he comes up, he would take her.

01:47:46 --> 01:47:48

That was done by Rasulullah sallallahu alaihi wasallam.

01:47:48 --> 01:47:50

There was a time the Prophet was making

01:47:50 --> 01:47:51

khutba

01:47:51 --> 01:47:52

and a child come. The Prophet

01:47:53 --> 01:47:54

picked him up.

01:47:54 --> 01:47:55

SubhanAllah!

01:47:56 --> 01:47:59

Which Masjid this can be practiced? We chased

01:47:59 --> 01:48:00

the kids out of our masajid.

01:48:01 --> 01:48:03

And tomorrow we tell them Allah, subhanahu wa

01:48:03 --> 01:48:05

ta'ala, is going to put the one who

01:48:05 --> 01:48:08

is always thinking about salah, he'll put him

01:48:08 --> 01:48:09

under the shade of the arash. But when

01:48:09 --> 01:48:11

he comes to the masjid before all of

01:48:11 --> 01:48:11

us,

01:48:12 --> 01:48:15

sometimes the kids will rush and go very

01:48:15 --> 01:48:16

early to the masjid.

01:48:16 --> 01:48:18

All of us are sleeping

01:48:18 --> 01:48:19

in our businesses.

01:48:20 --> 01:48:22

We come to the masjid during the and

01:48:22 --> 01:48:23

the kids went to the masjid earlier than

01:48:23 --> 01:48:24

us.

01:48:24 --> 01:48:26

And they're going there to get the first

01:48:26 --> 01:48:29

line because the Sheikh told them going to

01:48:29 --> 01:48:30

the first line is a virtue.

01:48:30 --> 01:48:32

Don't want to get that one. But then

01:48:32 --> 01:48:34

we, the old people, we when we come,

01:48:35 --> 01:48:37

kick them behind. What kind of message we

01:48:37 --> 01:48:39

are sending to them? You have no place

01:48:39 --> 01:48:40

over here.

01:48:42 --> 01:48:44

Kids recognized by the prophet,

01:48:44 --> 01:48:45

the masjid,

01:48:46 --> 01:48:47

in all kinds of categories.

01:48:48 --> 01:48:50

I remember the time when the prophet

01:48:51 --> 01:48:51

prayed

01:48:51 --> 01:48:53

and he read a very short surah

01:48:54 --> 01:48:54

in fajr

01:48:55 --> 01:48:58

prayer. You know what fajr? Rasulullah salaamal usually

01:48:58 --> 01:48:59

recites,

01:49:01 --> 01:49:02

he usually recites

01:49:02 --> 01:49:05

from 60 to 100 verses.

01:49:06 --> 01:49:08

But this time, the prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam

01:49:08 --> 01:49:08

recited

01:49:09 --> 01:49:10

only a short,

01:49:11 --> 01:49:11

surah.

01:49:12 --> 01:49:13

So So they were surprised why this. The

01:49:13 --> 01:49:16

prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam told them that sometimes

01:49:16 --> 01:49:18

he start the prayer, but then he will

01:49:18 --> 01:49:21

hear the sound of a baby crying in

01:49:21 --> 01:49:21

the masjid.

01:49:22 --> 01:49:23

So he knows that the mother is there.

01:49:23 --> 01:49:25

The prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam said he wants

01:49:25 --> 01:49:27

to get her free for her child.

01:49:28 --> 01:49:31

That's Rasulullah sallallahu alaihi wasallam. So my dear

01:49:31 --> 01:49:33

brothers and sisters, this tagaful

01:49:33 --> 01:49:35

is a very long concept and I would

01:49:35 --> 01:49:37

love to talk about it in detail, but

01:49:37 --> 01:49:39

time will not permit. But I guess you

01:49:39 --> 01:49:42

understand what I meant. Right? You overlook the

01:49:42 --> 01:49:44

vast majority of the things and focus on

01:49:44 --> 01:49:46

the most important things. There should be in

01:49:46 --> 01:49:48

the house things which cannot be compromised,

01:49:49 --> 01:49:51

matters. I mean, issues that are related to

01:49:51 --> 01:49:53

Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala. This one cannot be

01:49:53 --> 01:49:55

compromised but there is always

01:49:55 --> 01:49:58

a better way to convey a message. Your

01:49:58 --> 01:50:00

child when he comes to you

01:50:00 --> 01:50:02

and he get into trouble or he did

01:50:02 --> 01:50:03

something wrong,

01:50:03 --> 01:50:04

Rather than blaming,

01:50:04 --> 01:50:05

scolding,

01:50:05 --> 01:50:08

calling him with all sorts of names, why

01:50:08 --> 01:50:10

can't you why can't you let him sit

01:50:10 --> 01:50:10

down

01:50:12 --> 01:50:13

and advise

01:50:14 --> 01:50:15

him? When we are young,

01:50:15 --> 01:50:18

trust me, we used to be, you know,

01:50:19 --> 01:50:19

naughty

01:50:20 --> 01:50:22

naughty boys. We play a lot.

01:50:22 --> 01:50:23

We don't do those

01:50:24 --> 01:50:25

but we play a lot.

01:50:26 --> 01:50:28

Subhanallah, our parents tried their best, you know,

01:50:28 --> 01:50:31

to convince us that prayer is important and

01:50:31 --> 01:50:32

all of these things.

01:50:33 --> 01:50:35

It wants a little because the environment is

01:50:35 --> 01:50:37

not cooperating. It's not supporting in that regard.

01:50:38 --> 01:50:40

I live in a place where

01:50:40 --> 01:50:42

as a child, it's not easy for you

01:50:42 --> 01:50:43

to approach your parent.

01:50:44 --> 01:50:46

I told some of you the first time

01:50:46 --> 01:50:48

my father shook my hand was when I

01:50:48 --> 01:50:49

finished the Quran.

01:50:50 --> 01:50:51

That was the first time.

01:50:51 --> 01:50:54

We never know, you know, a young person

01:50:54 --> 01:50:56

shaking the hand off the big ones. That's

01:50:56 --> 01:50:57

disrespect.

01:50:57 --> 01:50:58

You can't do that.

01:50:59 --> 01:51:01

And subhanAllah, when the sunnah

01:51:01 --> 01:51:03

comes, they change. I still remember the time

01:51:03 --> 01:51:05

he had to call me and my brother

01:51:05 --> 01:51:08

and told me and told us that from

01:51:08 --> 01:51:10

now onward, if he see us getting afraid

01:51:10 --> 01:51:12

of him, we will be in trouble. Imagine

01:51:12 --> 01:51:14

the father has to tell his kid, don't

01:51:14 --> 01:51:15

get afraid of me.

01:51:15 --> 01:51:18

And still, because we are not familiar with

01:51:18 --> 01:51:18

this new life,

01:51:19 --> 01:51:22

you know, the sensitivity was was still there.

01:51:22 --> 01:51:24

But subhanAllah, trust me. What works

01:51:25 --> 01:51:27

was the hadith of the prophet sallallahu alaihi

01:51:27 --> 01:51:29

wasallam and the approach he took. I remember

01:51:29 --> 01:51:31

that time he called me, he told me

01:51:31 --> 01:51:32

Ibrahim,

01:51:32 --> 01:51:33

listen.

01:51:33 --> 01:51:34

The prophet said,

01:51:37 --> 01:51:38

That was the last

01:51:38 --> 01:51:41

time I remembered when I engaged in those

01:51:41 --> 01:51:43

jokes and playing and playing a lot. That

01:51:43 --> 01:51:44

hadith.

01:51:44 --> 01:51:46

Had been spending, had been, you know, doing

01:51:46 --> 01:51:48

everything possible to make sure that he convinced

01:51:48 --> 01:51:50

us to come and do it, but this

01:51:50 --> 01:51:50

hadith,

01:51:50 --> 01:51:52

And he let me sit down, and he

01:51:52 --> 01:51:54

talked to me, and he respected. You know,

01:51:54 --> 01:51:56

I sensed that, yes, I am somebody down

01:51:56 --> 01:51:58

in the house. When he talks, it works.

01:51:58 --> 01:52:01

Trust me. Up to date, this is what

01:52:01 --> 01:52:02

is working now, Terbia.

01:52:03 --> 01:52:04

Bring your child.

01:52:04 --> 01:52:06

Talk to him in a nice way, in

01:52:06 --> 01:52:09

a very kind way. Don't act as a

01:52:09 --> 01:52:12

monster or as a big father. No. Act

01:52:12 --> 01:52:15

as somebody who shares concern with him.

01:52:15 --> 01:52:17

I understand what you are in, and I

01:52:17 --> 01:52:19

understand how much you are suffering. And this

01:52:19 --> 01:52:21

thing that you did is wrong, but don't

01:52:21 --> 01:52:24

worry. We will cooperate inshallah with you to

01:52:24 --> 01:52:26

make sure that it doesn't happen again. Talk

01:52:26 --> 01:52:27

to them in a nice way. Trust me.

01:52:29 --> 01:52:30

That will be the last time they have

01:52:30 --> 01:52:31

that approach.

01:52:32 --> 01:52:32

So a

01:52:33 --> 01:52:35

is necessary. They ask

01:52:35 --> 01:52:37

one of the the Bedwins,

01:52:42 --> 01:52:44

He told the Bedouin, who is the aqil?

01:52:45 --> 01:52:47

The person who has aqil. He says,

01:52:47 --> 01:52:49

meaning the smart person. And

01:52:50 --> 01:52:51

somebody who overlooks.

01:52:52 --> 01:52:53

In the hadith of when

01:52:55 --> 01:52:57

she was talking about those 11 sisters who

01:52:57 --> 01:52:59

were talking about their husbands,

01:52:59 --> 01:53:01

she talked about one of them. One of

01:53:01 --> 01:53:03

them was describing her husband. She said,

01:53:12 --> 01:53:14

She said, my husband when he is at

01:53:14 --> 01:53:15

home, he's like Fahd.

01:53:16 --> 01:53:17

You know you know Fahd?

01:53:18 --> 01:53:20

Not the human being, the the the animal.

01:53:21 --> 01:53:22

Fahd is a cheater. Right?

01:53:25 --> 01:53:27

Anyway, do you know that animal that is

01:53:27 --> 01:53:30

called? Right? Whatever animal there is, an animal

01:53:30 --> 01:53:30

called

01:53:31 --> 01:53:31

in Arabic.

01:53:32 --> 01:53:34

That animal, they said it sleeps a lot.

01:53:35 --> 01:53:37

So what she's trying to say that this

01:53:37 --> 01:53:38

husband of mine,

01:53:38 --> 01:53:39

if he is at home,

01:53:40 --> 01:53:41

he's very calm.

01:53:41 --> 01:53:44

Not like sleeping at but people can do

01:53:44 --> 01:53:45

whatever they want as long as it is

01:53:45 --> 01:53:48

right. He doesn't shout that much. He doesn't

01:53:48 --> 01:53:48

say

01:53:49 --> 01:53:51

any. He doesn't blame. He doesn't come back

01:53:51 --> 01:53:53

to the house and ask why this thing

01:53:53 --> 01:53:55

is here, why, who took this and put

01:53:55 --> 01:53:57

it here. He doesn't do that. That's why

01:53:57 --> 01:53:57

she said

01:54:00 --> 01:54:02

But she said, when he is out of

01:54:02 --> 01:54:04

the house, he's like a lion because she

01:54:04 --> 01:54:06

didn't want somebody to think that her husband

01:54:06 --> 01:54:06

is weak.

01:54:07 --> 01:54:09

At home with us, he's very soft and

01:54:09 --> 01:54:12

gentle and leaning and corporate person. And this

01:54:12 --> 01:54:15

is Rasool Allah sallam by the way. Rasool

01:54:15 --> 01:54:16

Allah sallam at home

01:54:18 --> 01:54:20

is to support his family. He doesn't leave

01:54:20 --> 01:54:23

them alone. He live with the family at

01:54:23 --> 01:54:23

home.

01:54:24 --> 01:54:26

Many of us are not like that you

01:54:26 --> 01:54:28

will love. And you want your wife to

01:54:28 --> 01:54:30

be cooperative and you're not like that.

01:54:31 --> 01:54:33

Trust me. We do have brothers

01:54:33 --> 01:54:35

who don't care about

01:54:36 --> 01:54:38

the condition of the family at home.

01:54:38 --> 01:54:40

You go out for long. You don't check

01:54:40 --> 01:54:42

about your family. She message you. You don't

01:54:42 --> 01:54:45

reply. You don't message her. She doesn't message

01:54:45 --> 01:54:47

you. A life also at home, you are

01:54:47 --> 01:54:47

not together.

01:54:48 --> 01:54:49

And you want her to cooperate,

01:54:50 --> 01:54:52

and you want her not to be depressed,

01:54:52 --> 01:54:53

and you want her not to be sensitive

01:54:53 --> 01:54:56

when taking care of of your kids. We

01:54:56 --> 01:54:57

really need to read,

01:54:57 --> 01:54:59

the sunnah of the prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam

01:54:59 --> 01:55:01

to get the best way to make it.

01:55:01 --> 01:55:03

Being a student of knowledge or a scholar

01:55:03 --> 01:55:06

doesn't work here. You have to apply what

01:55:06 --> 01:55:07

you know.

01:55:07 --> 01:55:09

Just being a scholar will not work.

01:55:10 --> 01:55:13

Yeah. Many student of knowledge are misusing this

01:55:13 --> 01:55:14

attitude that we are the student of knowledge

01:55:14 --> 01:55:16

but they are not treating their spouse in

01:55:16 --> 01:55:19

the correct way. That's why you have, in

01:55:19 --> 01:55:21

some places, a person is being afraid of

01:55:21 --> 01:55:23

marrying a sister who is who is a

01:55:23 --> 01:55:23

scorner.

01:55:24 --> 01:55:26

Why? They will tell you because she's gonna

01:55:26 --> 01:55:28

be arrogant. She will not be cooperative because

01:55:28 --> 01:55:30

she believes she has also exactly what I

01:55:30 --> 01:55:31

have.

01:55:32 --> 01:55:33

It's supposed to be the other way around.

01:55:33 --> 01:55:35

Right? If somebody get a sister who is

01:55:35 --> 01:55:36

a scholar, he's supposed to say,

01:55:38 --> 01:55:39

go to this, but we're not doing the

01:55:39 --> 01:55:40

right thing.

01:55:41 --> 01:55:43

I remember Sayed bin Musaib or one of

01:55:43 --> 01:55:46

the scholars, he married his daughter to to

01:55:46 --> 01:55:47

somebody.

01:55:49 --> 01:55:51

This boy got this marriage almost free.

01:55:52 --> 01:55:54

And after everything has cooled down,

01:55:55 --> 01:55:56

he wanted to go out.

01:55:57 --> 01:55:59

Subhanallah. He wanted to go out. So the

01:55:59 --> 01:56:01

wife asked him, my dear husband, where are

01:56:01 --> 01:56:03

you going? He said, I'm going to study.

01:56:03 --> 01:56:06

She said, he said with, she said with

01:56:06 --> 01:56:07

who? She said, I'm going to your father.

01:56:07 --> 01:56:08

There is a majesty,

01:56:09 --> 01:56:10

that have been established.

01:56:10 --> 01:56:12

She said, no. If you're going to my

01:56:12 --> 01:56:14

father, trust me. Stay home. I will give

01:56:14 --> 01:56:16

you whatever my father is going to give

01:56:16 --> 01:56:17

you.

01:56:18 --> 01:56:19

Very good wife. Right?

01:56:20 --> 01:56:22

24 hours, husband. She said, no need to

01:56:22 --> 01:56:24

go. Stay here. Whatever knowledge you get from

01:56:24 --> 01:56:25

my father,

01:56:25 --> 01:56:26

I will give you here at home.

01:56:27 --> 01:56:29

These are the parent that know what to

01:56:29 --> 01:56:31

do and how to take care of of

01:56:31 --> 01:56:31

the kids.

01:56:32 --> 01:56:33

The next,

01:56:33 --> 01:56:36

behavior and the quality of a child, I

01:56:36 --> 01:56:38

know my time is over and I have,

01:56:38 --> 01:56:39

like, 20

01:56:40 --> 01:56:41

points to address.

01:56:42 --> 01:56:43

Yeah. So I will just summarize inshallah and

01:56:43 --> 01:56:45

close, it inshallah.

01:56:45 --> 01:56:47

We will have another time to talk about

01:56:47 --> 01:56:49

this. The next one is Al Hazm

01:56:50 --> 01:56:52

because when we talk about leading, see some

01:56:52 --> 01:56:54

people think that I have to let my

01:56:54 --> 01:56:56

children do whatever they want.

01:56:56 --> 01:56:58

No. This is not good tamilah

01:56:59 --> 01:57:02

and this is not being amin and trustworthy.

01:57:02 --> 01:57:05

And you are cheating in the Amana. That's

01:57:05 --> 01:57:06

why Paul says

01:57:12 --> 01:57:14

A good is the one that is full

01:57:14 --> 01:57:14

of mercy,

01:57:15 --> 01:57:17

but there are red lines that the children

01:57:17 --> 01:57:19

knows that they have they have no right

01:57:19 --> 01:57:20

to cross them.

01:57:21 --> 01:57:23

When they cross, there is somebody who will

01:57:23 --> 01:57:25

never tolerate that. It will tell them what

01:57:25 --> 01:57:27

to do. But in the nice way, the

01:57:27 --> 01:57:29

way the prophet salallahu alayhi wasallam prescribed for

01:57:29 --> 01:57:30

us.

01:57:30 --> 01:57:33

That's why, is it halal for a person

01:57:33 --> 01:57:34

to beat his child?

01:57:36 --> 01:57:39

Is it okay for a person to beat

01:57:39 --> 01:57:39

the child?

01:57:46 --> 01:57:47

Yes. Right. Okay.

01:57:47 --> 01:57:49

Why do you keep quiet then? You are

01:57:49 --> 01:57:51

afraid of being beaten when you go home?

01:57:54 --> 01:57:57

Yes. It's it's halal. Right? But is it

01:57:57 --> 01:57:58

good to do it?

01:57:58 --> 01:57:59

No. It's not.

01:58:00 --> 01:58:03

Unless if there is no any other way,

01:58:03 --> 01:58:05

you know, to give the terrier to a

01:58:05 --> 01:58:06

child if you don't beat.

01:58:07 --> 01:58:09

Because sometimes beating fixes.

01:58:10 --> 01:58:12

But these are rare situations.

01:58:13 --> 01:58:14

Especially in the time we're living in,

01:58:15 --> 01:58:18

trust me, beating your child might be very

01:58:18 --> 01:58:18

dangerous.

01:58:19 --> 01:58:21

You have to be very careful because as

01:58:21 --> 01:58:24

I said, somebody's taking care of our children

01:58:24 --> 01:58:25

and taking over the terrier.

01:58:26 --> 01:58:28

So beating your child might be very dangerous.

01:58:29 --> 01:58:31

In the past, we got beaten.

01:58:32 --> 01:58:34

But I go to my friend, Mazin.

01:58:34 --> 01:58:36

Mazin would see me annoyed.

01:58:36 --> 01:58:38

He asked me, why why he crying?

01:58:39 --> 01:58:40

I tell them because my father beat me.

01:58:40 --> 01:58:42

He would say, oh, so so what? I

01:58:42 --> 01:58:44

also just know my mother beat me.

01:58:45 --> 01:58:46

So the community is all like that so

01:58:46 --> 01:58:49

nobody cares. But nowadays, if I am to

01:58:49 --> 01:58:52

beat my child, he goes out, nobody among

01:58:52 --> 01:58:54

his friends was ever been beaten by his

01:58:54 --> 01:58:54

parent.

01:58:55 --> 01:58:57

They are going to feed him with negative

01:58:58 --> 01:59:01

thinking about about me. That will be the

01:59:01 --> 01:59:03

beginning of the distance between you and you

01:59:03 --> 01:59:05

and them. And wallahi, you're going to lose

01:59:05 --> 01:59:06

them from that moment.

01:59:07 --> 01:59:08

That's why the prophet

01:59:08 --> 01:59:11

did not beat, but he said, you can

01:59:11 --> 01:59:12

have at home a stick that you hang

01:59:12 --> 01:59:13

on the wall.

01:59:14 --> 01:59:16

On the wall, you have a you have

01:59:16 --> 01:59:17

a what do you call a stick that

01:59:17 --> 01:59:19

you hang there? The kids, they see it.

01:59:19 --> 01:59:22

They know that, yes. The father can beat.

01:59:22 --> 01:59:25

Although, he is very smart, very kind, but

01:59:25 --> 01:59:27

he can beat. That will be like a

01:59:27 --> 01:59:28

policeman

01:59:29 --> 01:59:30

in the street.

01:59:31 --> 01:59:32

The criminal, when he wants to commit a

01:59:32 --> 01:59:34

crime when he see the policeman, they don't

01:59:34 --> 01:59:35

do.

01:59:36 --> 01:59:37

Exactly that stick is doing the same thing.

01:59:37 --> 01:59:38

But practically,

01:59:39 --> 01:59:41

you don't beat. You try to fix things

01:59:41 --> 01:59:45

through the way that is as simple and

01:59:45 --> 01:59:47

that is more merciful because as I said,

01:59:47 --> 01:59:49

there is always a better way to convey

01:59:49 --> 01:59:50

convey the message.

01:59:51 --> 01:59:53

So honestly speaking, the time,

01:59:53 --> 01:59:56

that was given to me is up to

01:59:56 --> 01:59:57

the other. So I don't want to disappoint

01:59:58 --> 02:00:00

these people, but as I said, I have

02:00:00 --> 02:00:02

a long list of what to what to

02:00:02 --> 02:00:04

do, but inshallah, we might have another time

02:00:04 --> 02:00:06

to discuss these, matters.

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