Hosai Mojaddidi – Resilience Personified Asma bint Abi Bakr (RA)
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I'm Monica and what I happen to love here but a cat two. Now I
chose a sama bin Abu Bakr, because when I was thinking about, you
know, who do I want to learn from? And there's so many incredible
women in our, in our tradition, but I realized I had very limited
knowledge about her. And I thought like, what do I know about her as
you know, someone who's clearly a figure in our tradition, and she
and, and I thought there's only a handful, maybe two stories that I
can think of. So I intentionally chose her because I wanted to
learn more about her. And this is where, you know, for all of you to
keep in mind, we are students of knowledge. You know, we sit up
here and we might seem like we're, you know, in this position of
teaching, but we are actually always learning and I know that
we're always learning. So for me, I'm so grateful for these programs
because they allow me the opportunity to also learn so I am
excited to share what I have learned about this extraordinary
example for all of us. So she is a smack of course, the daughter of
Satan out of a bucket, as well as put Taylor bins Abdullah Uzza and
she was the first wife of Santiago Bucha. She did not become Muslim.
So they actually divorced before the province Iceland's mission
began. So she's the half sister of, of course, our mother, so now
I should have law and whose mother was on Romain. So just important
things to know because sometimes you hear that they're sisters, but
that distinction is important. Now according to Ibn Katya s Mata the
Alana was about 10 years older than I shattered the law on her
but others like you, my mother had been say that it was a much
bigger, wider, wider age gap between 13 and 19 years. So Allah
knows, but she embraced Islam at 11 years old. Are there any 11
year olds here? Anybody 1110 in that range? Anybody has a daughter
that's 1011 I just think about I mean, I have a 10 year old soon to
be 11 Think about what a precious time that is. And that, you know,
Subhan Allah through her father, of course, she embraced this faith
and I just thought wow, she's you know, at such a young tender age,
she, the faith, you know, entered her heart, she's considered again,
there's a difference of opinion to be the 15th Some say 17th Some say
18th person to become Muslim in the earlier communities. So she
was prominent from the very beginning she was there and she
was like all the earlier converts, they would gather in that outcome
and study with the prophesy set um, and in those earlier years, we
don't know much about her life, but we do know that she marries
another very important person who is a Zubair even a one and who is
here are the Allahu Anhu. He is the son of an awam even waylaid
who is the brother of Sedna, Felicia or mother for each other
behind her. So making her him her nephew. So the fact is, is nephew
and then his mother is Sofia bins, Abdulmutallab who is the prophesy
sums aren't. So that makes him the first cousin to the prophesy
setup. So she married someone again from this incredibly noble
from both mother and father, her lineage is very noble, and he is
also considered the fourth or fifth male adults to become Muslim
in that earlier community. So just an amazing pairing. And of course
he just FYI, he goes on to be part of the eyeshadow Wabasha the 10
who are promised Jenna so her husband is again an incredible and
he has his own story, which one day inshallah maybe we can go into
but
the saint novel bucket also brought him by, by the way also to
Islam. So it's kind of it's really sweet, right? Like the man who
would go on to be his daughter's husband came to Islam through him
as well. Really beautiful. Now,
there beginnings as a couple were were difficult. Like many of that
earlier generation, they didn't have very much and Zubin Allah was
known for having just one possession when he came to ask for
her hand, which was a horse, he didn't have much else other than
this horse, but of course, his character and that's why. So
number buckle gave him his daughter because of his incredible
character. So they had very humble beginnings in asthma talks about
that in her, you know, in her head that she related some Hadith,
which we'll get to but in some of those Hadith, she talks about the
challenges that she had as his wife and just, you know, the
struggles of the life that they had the hardships and the poverty
that they endured. So during right before the hijra, or at that time,
she becomes pregnant with her first son, another very notable in
our tradition of the Laban Zubaydah ideologues, and so she
becomes pregnant with him. And this is when the prophesy set up
and say now boubakeur fleet right, we know the story
They go to seek protection and Bob's out, and for three days and
three nights, and so they're looking to keep this obviously
under wraps with only trusted people. You know, it's a very, you
know, secret mission, but she steps up to the plate of taking on
the responsibility as a pregnant woman in her third trimester.
Anybody here in their third trimester?
Anybody? Oh, Mashallah. So we have one, a couple of sisters. And I
want you to think about this. You know, we, those of us who have had
children, we know what the third trimester minister is like, you
could barely walk, you know, a few steps without needing a break,
right? Your back is hurting, you got a lot of things going on. So
just I just was floored when you read the description of what she
did in that state. We have to remember, I mean, we're talking
about the middle of the desert Mecca, leaving the outskirts with
people seeking to kill the prophesy centum and her father,
but she steps up knowing that she is also with child. And she
clearly is in her act showing where her love and her priorities
and her hearts are she wants to protect the Messenger of Allah
subtle that is she wants to protect her father, even at the
risk of her own life and her own child's life. So this is an
extraordinary woman who goes out. I want you to take Yes. Does
anyone know how far Vodafone is from Mecca? How far anybody get
Take a guess? And use miles. You know, everything I read was like
kilometers. I'm like, I'm an American. I don't I don't know.
kilometers. So miles, please. Anybody? Miles? What do you think?
How many miles? How many? 20 miles. Mashallah. Anybody else?
Any other guesses? 10. But close, close. Seven miles.
Seven miles, she would walk it took her about two hours in the
blazing sun as a third as a pregnant woman in her third
trimester. And this is where, you know, she again stepped up to the
challenge. And what was her purpose she needs she took them
provisions. And she acquired this beautiful nickname, because when
she was putting together the provisions, she didn't have
anything this is again to show you how little they had. She had
nothing else to tie the water. You know, the water? What is it called
the the leather water pouch. There's a term for it, but she
didn't have anything to tie that or the food. So what did she do at
that time the women used to wear a waistband that would, you know,
prevent their dresses from falling. So she took that
waistband and she tore it into two. And this is where she got the
nickname. That's when it's a pain, right, which is referring to the
woman have to waistbands because when the prophesy sort of saw what
she had done when he when she came and she's, you know, to untying
her, you know waistbands and giving them the provisions. He
made a beautiful dog for her. And he said Indeed Allah has given you
so the words are important to to pay attention to indeed Allah has
given you in exchange for these waistbands to waistbands in
paradise. So he is indicating to her that she is in Jenna, she's
guaranteed gender, which is a again an extraordinary gift. So
Subhanallah This was her sacrifice. And she was again
willing to take that, you know, that trek into the desert, risking
her own life, two hours, two hours there two hours coming back four
hours, for three days right? Now, fast forward, she Alhamdulillah
you know, makes hedge of that as well. And on her way to Medina,
she delivers her baby, that's how close to delivery she was. And she
delivers in Cuba. And this was a really great, extraordinary moment
for the Muslims there because at that point, the Jews were you
know, they were they had spread this rumor that they were cursing
the Muslims so that they would nobody would ever have a baby in
Medina. So she was her son, Abdullah it was about was the
first infant to be born in Medina as a Muslim. So again, another
great honor for her. And so the muscles are of course celebrating
his birth. Now again, for those of us who have had children before
instinctually we know immediately you get the baby, whether you're
at the hospital or at home, or however the birth is, and your
instinct as a mother is to latch on nurse. So I want you to imagine
how much strength it takes for a mother to again think of like what
is best for my baby instinctually I feel like I need to nurse him
but she was aware that what was better for her infant was to send
him to who none other than Rasul Allah said a lot of said um, for
him to perform technique which is the process of taking a date and
mixing it with his saliva and breaking off a piece and putting
it in the mouth of the infant so that it promotes well being and
health and of course any any mixture of his noble moderate
MOBOTIX lebuh Is she felt for him so she did that and you know,
again, just put your plate yourself in her place like to
to know these things and to separate yourself from your child
upon birth, it's not easy to do for everybody. But of course,
these are people who had a greater understanding. Subhanallah so she
goes on in Medina to become again a devoted wife, a devoted mother,
she bears seven more children Subhan Allah, I mean, I have to
and to me and I,
I'm like, when I see anybody with two or more I really I'm just like
in awe but to imagine seven Subhan Allah, and again in a time of
immense difficulty, but she went on and she did it, masha Allah,
and she spent her time just serving serving her family, she
was known to be incredibly charitable. This is one of her
qualities that even her own son, Abdullah, he, in a hadith noted
about her, he said that I have never known to more generous women
other than my aunt, I Isha, or the law and her and my own mother, a
smart, now he made a really great observation and how they were
different in their charity. And again, I want you to think about
who matches your style more. So I showed her the line, she was the
type that would collect a good amount of money, right? So it's
like she's saving, saving, saving. And then once she saved, or
whatever it was, maybe it was food, then she would go and
distribute it. But she had this habit of wanting to save it first,
and then at once, give it away. Right? So think of are you do you
follow that? Or do you follow a SMAs example, like Aloha, which
was to give it away immediately. So she didn't hold on to anything
that was given to her if it was an excess, she wanted to always give
it away right away. So some of us you know, we operate differently,
but it's really nice to try to connect like Where would I be in
this spectrum, right. And so, her situation as she you know, lived
with a Zubair and Medina and they grew, their family actually turned
around completely. He became one of the wealthiest men of Medina
and then later Mecca after the Fatah. So she was known then for
feeding the poor and anytime she got sick, which is a really good
tip for us to think about. I remember my mother like anytime
there was anything that happened to the family, her instinct was
always said, she always had she had we had a you know, on the
mantle above the fireplace in her previous home, she had a Quran and
then she would have a place right next to it that she would put her
money that she was going to get for set up Ah, but it was her
habit, anybody sick, anything happens, God forbid a car
accident. This was the way and so how many of us do that or how many
of us think again, as soon as something befalls us, that we need
to look to purifying our wealth and seeking Allah subhanaw taala
as help and also thinking of other people benefiting other people,
right? It's very natural to think of yourself and want to preserve
yourself in those situations but Subhanallah you know, people have
a greater understanding again knew that no, you want to take care of
others. So this was her way as well and she would feed the sick
and she would free the slaves. So this was her habit if she was ever
sick. She was also known for teaching of hajj for the during
the Hajj season. And these are the facts that just you know for your
information she narrated a total of five Hadith hamdulillah and you
can you know if you're ever reading books, you might see it
you know, narrated by a smell, which is an incredible honor, we
really have to think about the fact that you know there are so
many people around the provinces to them, but not everybody is in
the Hadith collections and here she is narrating five Hadith. She
also is a warrior on top of all of this she fought in the Battle of
Yarmouk later on in life Subhan Allah so she was an act, she was
actually on the battlefield. And they said she was a fierce
warrior. And anybody want to take a guess what age she reached
before she passed.
Just throw out a number ideas older,
older than 90 years old,
100 years old, and Subhanallah, the climax of her story. And right
before she passed away is one of the most incredible things I've
ever read her exchange with her own son, I just, you just can't
help but just be so in awe and humbled by these women. Because
again, we live in a time where, where we don't have these living
examples. I mean, I'm sure there's beautiful women everywhere. But
these stories, these epic stories that have been fighting battles,
you know, raising seven children suffering through famine and so
many other things, sanctions, and then to also live to 100 years
old, but I'll get to that point in a moment about her her end of her
life. So there are a few really key lessons from her life that I
just thought were really important to know in addition to all that we
just shared. The first as was mentioned in the description of
this talk was the Hadith that a lot of us may associate with a
smack
instead be back into the Ohana, which is the narration where she
entered the prophesy cinemas home. This is according to Aisha, the
Alana or sister, and she was wearing a thin garment, a see
through garment. And at that time the prophesy set up. This was
again before the ayah of hijab was revealed. But she there wasn't
turned away from her. And then he said to her, Oh Esma, when a woman
reaches the age of maturity, it is not proper for her to show
anything but this and this, and that was referring to her hands
and her face. So this hadith is really important for us to think
about as women for obviously, the context, because we live in a
time, as we know, women are exploited constantly and women's
fashion, even what has been introduced in the, you know,
fashion of hijab, that many things would be considered inappropriate.
And we have to just be real, we have very clear boundaries in our
Sharia about what is acceptable and what isn't. And this is why
this hadith is something we have to pay attention to. So when you
get dressed, you have to think about, would I be someone that the
Prophet salallahu Salam would turn away from based on what I'm
wearing right now? I mean, I would I think that would be the most
mortifying thing ever. I would do anything for him to have one
glance of his. So is it worth it to wear the yoga pants? No,
sisters, it is not? Is it worth it to wear the see through things
that show your shape, just because you want to keep up with the
fashion trends and look really, this or that? No, if it
compromises your standing with Allah subhanho wa taala. And the
messenger of Allah said a lot of so then it is not worth it. And
that is why I so appreciate the grace and the beauty that SMAC she
said she was in submission. She was in submission, she accepted
it, she didn't challenge the prophesy centum. And that's why we
have to pay attention to the language of today of the modern
Zeitgeist. It's all around these themes that are alien to our
tradition. She wasn't triggered when he said that she didn't take
offense and personalize it and you know, say oh, the patriarchy. She
understood. This is the messenger of allah sallallahu sallam, he,
his entire life is for my salvation. So if he's going to
tell me something to do or not to do, I will accept it and she
accepted it. And then you know, the facility and say that shortly
after the verses, you know, hijab was revealed. And this specific
Hadith relates to verse 31, where I'll also point out that it says
Illa Malhotra men have except for what is apparent, he goes, you
know, tell the believing women to lower their gaze and guard their
chastity and not to reveal their adornments except for what is
apparent. So it's really she's she had, you know, subhanAllah a part
in this beautiful verse being revealed to us. So she's, again,
an extraordinary example for us. And so we want to think about that
when we are, if our spouses or if our parents are challenging the
way we dress, we have to think about what is their intention?
Sometimes it could be control, and there's no real, you know, noble
intention. It's just control, but other times it actually is for
your betterment. And it's good to question why not just what they're
saying, but why are they saying that to me? You know, is it for
some ulterior motive? Or is it really because they're looking out
for me, and nine times out of 10 Insha? Allah because you have, we
want to always have the best of opinion of our parents and our
family members and our loved ones. They are looking out for us. We
just need to accept that and not question and have, you know, these
doubts about everyone, which is what, again, the modern Zeitgeist
does, it just promotes this constant friction between us. So
really powerful story about that, and there's, there's more but for
the sake of time, I'll go to the next point, which is her Aida,
this is also another really incredible lesson we can take from
asthma. A smile was a amazingly brave and courageous, she had real
courage she spoke out when, whenever there was a you know, I
mean, we already saw my saw what she did in terms of protecting the
boss's son, but even speaking to people and having the emotional
intelligence and wisdom to know how to say certain things
effectively, which is a tool. It's something we all need to learn.
This is why grammar matters. Rhetoric matters, our liberal arts
matter because we have to be empowered with language to be able
to say things effectively, and she in her discourse in her dialogue,
she was incredibly wise. So there's a story of her grandfather
so who is the father of setting up Rebekah His name is Abu Hanifa. So
he did have not yet accepted Islam. When the process I'm in Abu
Bakr migrated to Medina, he was still a non Muslim. So he was
really hurt that they fled because his grandchildren are left in his
son's home, without, in his estimation, any care. And he kind
of came into the house and said to his grandchildren, oh, your father
has left you in a really terrible situation. He's He's taken all his
money at that point. And we took all of his money, which some say
was around 6000, that hammer dinner, to help the Muslims. So he
took his wealth with him. And so when her grandfather walks in
seeing the situation of his grandchildren, he immediately, you
know, says these things in a way to bring doubt into their hearts
about, you know, the what their father did, but she had so much
data for her father, and as well as the image of Islam and the
Muslims. That what did she do? He was blind. Okay, so he was blind.
So she went, and she quickly gathered a little bag, and she put
pebbles in it, like stones, and then she put it in an area and
covered it. And she took her grandfather by the hand, she said,
No grandfather, he didn't leave us without anything. Look, touch
this, this is all the money he left us.
He was like, oh, okay, in that case, and there's no blame if he
left all of that for you. But she had this beautiful lady again, to
protect the image of her father protect the image of the province
of Saddam and the Muslims to do that. And then another story comes
out of when she was in Medina. So now fast forward seven years after
she's she's left and she is a Medina, she's an established
mother has her own family. What happens her own mother remember
her own mother for Taylor, who had not yet accepted Islam, she's
still and she dies in that state. All the beloved she visits the
visitor and she brings with her all of these treats and food and
like ghee, and raisins and other foods, and she wants to give all
of these gifts to her daughter.
Now, it's most conflicted, right? She's like, wait a second, even
though you're my mother, you're still on the other side of this.
And I need to make sure this is okay for me to even accept you as
my guest. And accept your gifts. So she had again that wisdom and
that mind deeper data for for her faith, to go and ask the Father so
I said, um, through her sister Ayesha, can I accept my mother,
even though she is not a Muslim, and she's brought me all of these
gifts. And this is also really relevant. Okay, how many of you
are converts in this room?
Now, Allahu Akbar, may Allah protect and preserve all of you,
and inshallah bring Hidayat to all of your loved ones. We had a
sister here, I don't know if she's here. I don't want to call her
out. But she was here yesterday for our liquor that we did. And
her heart was really heavy, she's a convert. And she said, I have no
support system. And this is the situation of many of our convert
sisters, which is why it's so important that we hold space with
one another and that we bring our convert sisters and brothers into
our communities and make sure that they never ever in their life feel
that they have no support system. But we all of us, and especially
our converts, you owe us smash into the bucket a lot for what she
did in this exchange, because because of her and this situation
with her mother, and seeking the advice of the prophesy centum the
Iowas revealed, which is Allah does not forbid you from dealing
kindly and fairly with those who have neither thought nor driven
you out of your homes. Surely Allah loves those who are fair.
This is Chapter 60, verse eight, this idea was revealed to reassure
everyone whose family and loved ones have not yet adopted the
faith, that you can still have them in your life, you can still
have a beautiful relationship with them, as long as they're not
forcing you out of their homes or torturing you or doing anything
like that, to, you know, again, bring them into your homes and
treat them with the same love and dignity and respect. He gave that
permission and so she was relieved and she accepted her mother. But
another again, incredible story that we get from smell. The third
is the story that she had with such a powerful story. Subhan
Allah. So again, we're going to rewind a little bit when she
didn't have a lot. And you know, her husband is a banana was
struggling and they had this horse. At that time in her life.
She did a lot she was the she would go out early, and get water
for the horse, feed the horse, bring it fodder, she would walk it
she would go and get dates, seeds, and they would they would at that
time crush it. And it was a very labor intensive life. And at one
point, she had to walk about two miles to do this process of
crushing these date stones and then they would carry these
massive things on their head. So again, try to visualize this.
She's walking two miles exhausted, she's been laboring all day, just
trying to make it survive and who comes and crosses her path. None
Other than the beloved sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and this is his
sister in law. So you know, sometimes, and this is, again,
something that we should just really appreciate, that is lost,
unfortunately, today in the nonverbal communication that can
sometimes be really powerful. Not everything always has to be said,
sometimes the States and our hearts are communicating. So the
prophesies that I'm sees his sister in law in this state,
without a single word, he stops his camel and orders the camel to
kneel. And then he makes a sound.
Or if something to that effect, which was an indication to her,
like, come on, I got you sit on the camera, I'm gonna take you the
rest of the way. He had this compassion for the sister in law
seeing her in the state, but Subhanallah, and I want you to see
what she does. This is again, the emotional intelligence of a wife,
and a woman who's using her intellect to assess the situation.
There's all these men here, the processes here, I could really use
a ride, right? But
my husband is jealous.
without words, without any words, what does she do, she just stands
there, and the prophesy centum. Again, He knows the hearts, no
communication, they just understood each other. He
understood that her shyness meant she wasn't going to get on. And he
just proceeded forward. And she went home rushed home to tell her
husband about this whole incident, what happened, because she wanted
to be transparent, we, and we have to, again, apply this in the
modern context, a lot of things are happening in spaces, private
and marriages, and lives all over the place. And everybody's all
about privacy. Now, give me a break, you're married
transparency, you should have you know, access to one another's, you
know, whatever is public, right? But this idea that no, I can do my
own thing. And I don't have to share too, just let's learn from
her, she wanted to, again, show her husband and I honored you in
your absence. So she tells him what happened. And his response is
also really beautiful. Because it just gives us insight that they
actually cared about one another. And it wasn't this whole, you
know, power game all the time. Like, I want this, and I want that
they weren't about that they were about the hearts. So he told her,
he said by Allah, you're carrying the date stones, and you being
seen by the promises to them on with that, you know, with it on
your head in such a state is more shameful to me, than you having
taken a ride with him. So he's letting her no, like, I'm paying
that you were in this, that I've put you in this situation, I don't
care about that. But there are so considerate of one another's
feelings. So we have to think about that in the context of, you
know, who are we? Are we, you know, again, not sharing certain
things with our spouses, or are we taking these positions that are
not really thoughtful about one another's feelings, and this
applies to the brothers too. I hope they're watching this or will
watch it at some point. But you know, if your wife asks you not to
socialize with certain people, it's respect that you honor that
request and vice versa. And I think we just have to, you know,
take take that, you know, nessa from this, but she prioritized her
husband's feelings in that incident. And then quickly,
because I know we have
oh, sure, thank you, just like you often know, satisfy the emotional,
she's awesome. She reminded me to define the word Clara. Lena is a
type of jealousy, but it is a beautiful jealousy, right? It's
feeling that you know, you're to want to protect the honor of
something or someone. So that's what what that word means. I'm
going to apply to the story before but she had immense advantage. She
was known for that. I'm sorry, what? How much time do I have? I
just don't want to just why No.
What is it like what am I done? Five minutes.
I'll try to finish this up as quickly as I can. It's just she's
got so many gems from her stories upon Allah. But we received two
really important Hadith from her that warned about ingratitude. So
that's why I think she's such a great role model for all of us.
She This is from her own narration. So she reports that the
Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam passed by a group of women
in the mosque one day, we're a group of women. Okay, just imagine
this. We're all here. We're remembering Allah, Sparta and the
officers and walks by and he waves so beautiful, what the private the
right hand, he waved his hand to greet them with peace. And then he
said, this is his Naseeha to the women. Beware of ingratitude to
those who bless you. Do you aware of in gratitude to those who bless
you, and we know that the process and when he repeated something he
was driving a point home, he was trying to penetrate the hearts and
one of the women said O Messenger of Allah, I seek refuge in Allah
up prophet of Allah from being ungrateful to Allah. And you know,
she's seeking like what explain and he says, rather one of you
will be widowed for a long time throughout her middle years, then
Allah provides her with a husband and he benefits her with a child
the joy of her life, then she gets very angry and she swears by Allah
saying, I've never one good I've never had one good moment with
you, that is in gratitude to the blessings of Allah that is in
gratitude to those who bless her. That's one and then another Hadith
she also narrated the messenger of allah sallallahu sallam said,
spend in charity and do not count it. Less Allah counted against
you. Do not hoard it, lest Allah withhold you from from you. So we
learned again, her way according to her son was she would just give
it away. So she's teaching us be in a state of gratitude, don't
deny blessings, don't magnify incidents, because this these are
shape onic you know, thoughts? When you magnify an incident, and
it overshadows a lifetime or years of experiences? This is what
a fraud what is it? No, thank you. No problem. Thank you. This is
ingratitude.
Jewelry directly, because shaitan wants you to hyper, again, focus
on one thing that was said to you one thing that was done to you,
and that you negate everything else, may Allah protect us from
that we never want to fall under the category of those who are in
great, ungrateful. In fact, we want the opposite, we always want
because, you know, the opposite of gratitude is kofler. So may Allah
protect us from that, and then to spend in charity and to give away
without counting. So this is really great. And I see how
sometimes, you know, we are in positions where we might have to
give and if you're the type who's worried about giving away your
wealth, this comes from again, a lack of understanding, may Allah
increase us in understanding that never are we losing when we give
for the sake of Allah that never Is it a loss, it is always a gain,
it is always an investment. So we want to, you know, really fight do
that Magetta enough's that we give, if you feel the impulse,
just give and don't think twice about it. Don't let that internal
conversation how long oh, maybe I'll just do half this time, and I
can do it another time and no, knifes shaitan work together to
try to, you know, prevent you from getting the maximum reward. So
she's teaching us right spend, don't count it because then a lot
will counted against you. And then finally, and this is what I wanted
to end on. I mentioned one incident where she spoke to a
tyrant of her time they call him the footer owner of our OMA Abuja,
right.
Or I might, I might not have given you the details. Sorry, I think I
mentioned it, but I didn't get the details. So here's the detail of
what happened with Jaha. During the time and the process of
setting up a bucket we're missing. He stormed into her house. And he
demanded from her, where are they tell me where are they? And I want
you to Again, imagine she's a pregnant woman.
Pregnant, so
vulnerable. There's no protector, her father is not there.
She stands up to him says I'm not telling you anything. I don't know
anything.
He slapped her so hard on her face, that her earring fell off.
And she's still stood firm in front of him. And he realized I
can't get anything out of her and he left. So that's one incident
earlier in her life. At 100 years old.
Her son of the Laban Zubair was
excellent, executed and crucified by a hedging use of
100 years old, and right before this incident happened, where he
was executed. They have this beautiful exchange, her father,
mother and son, he actually goes to her seeking counsel on what to
do because he knew that if he fights, a hijack, she's going to
be killed. So he didn't know should he surrender, should he
fight him. And this is a mother talking to her son, knowing that
she's sending him to certain depths. And she basically says to
him, I would much rather you die a noble death than go and you know,
basically be beholden to this tyrant. So she, it gives him this
encouragement and this NESEA and it's this beautiful back and
forth. And then he says to her, you know about being afraid he's
vulnerable. This is his mother, and sister. I'm scared about being
crucified after death. And she says skinning a slaughtered goat
does not bring it pain. Off you go and seek Allah's help. 100 years
old, sending her son to do the right thing. And he she noticed
that he was wearing armor, and she said, What what are you wearing?
Take that off. That's not the clothing of someone who's going in
to martyrdom. You have to stand firm. So she gave her son that
encouragement because
He knew that that was, you know, his he was already promised Jen
that she knew who where he was going. And she wanted to give him
that, you know, like end his life in this beautiful way and not to
cower to this tyrant. Now, a judge, of course, being who he
was, he wanted to
talk to her. So he did, he taunted her. And he called, he went and
sent one of his minions to go get her and said, come face me, you
know, what did I do to your son, basically taunting this 100 year
old woman, and she refused to see him and then you double down and
said, If you don't come, I'm going to drag you by your two braids.
And again, she was firm and defiant. She's not going to
capitulate to him. Finally, he had no choice but to go to her. And,
you know, again, he's trying to turn her and she says to him,
something so powerful. Remember this? She says, you may have
ruined my son's dunya. But he has ruined your
Allahu Akbar, Allahu Akbar Allah but that is who a snob is. Every
bucket was she was an incredible force, a loving mother, a devoted
wife, daughter, sister in law, everything and she had this life
of 100 years Allah gave her and now when it comes to Allah here we
are celebrating her life. And inshallah I'm so honored again to
have learned about her life with all of you. And I hope you'll
learn more about her and all of the other wonderful sahab yet and
women around our profit solar lighting system. As we usher in
this Mubarak month of rebel Al Jazeera como Ferran are Salam
alaykum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh