Hosai Mojaddidi – 2nd Questions & Answers
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Salam Alikum Let's never forget where are we? This is the house of
Allah. So we were talking about connection to Allah, we were
talking about the true Muslim man, we're talking about what affected
sister Megan. Don't let shaitan within two or three minutes,
destroy a whole day of knowledge. This is the house of Allah. Yes,
we are sitting on chairs. And he blessed us with this, but this is
his house. So there is certain etiquettes Don't forget that.
I'm going to say something just before we start because 3d
affected me. If sister Megan did not look at everything around her,
and said, This is God, I doubt you will be here today. She reminded
me of the verse When Satan Abraham was looking for Allah.
In Surah Al Anam, I'll tell you afterwards, it's in the capital,
Ottawa, Darby. Right, he said, This is my Lord.
So don't forget this. You all want to change. I saw a lot of
beautiful vibes, you're crying, it really moved you don't let
shutdowns and five minutes ruin everything.
Because you're gonna go home? If I couldn't do it here when I do it
at home. So please don't forget that. There's
no absolutely does that kill off here it is like then this is this
is the beauty of community and the beauty of sisterhood is that we
can, you know, have these reminders with each other. And
when one of us forgets someone else, is there to remind us and
that is a blessing from Allah subhanaw taala as well. So does
that kill that whole fight on? How do we put all of our
responsibilities properly in balance in order to be the best
servants of Allah? subhanaw taala. So how can I be a mother, a wife,
a professional, the daughter and a servant of Allah and it's only 24
hours a day. And then I'm a human being goals. Right? I'm a woman I
take care of myself, I take care of my being my health.
The answer is in one word.
Who can answer me?
One word,
the essence of this religion? Yes. Intention. That's it.
That's it exactly. Who said it? I think you said that one of your
teacher, when he talked when he had this debate while you're
getting married? That's what I tell my patients. Why do you want
to have children? Now she comes with infertility. It's extremely
painful. Of course, my Muslim patients who I know them well. And
so why do you want to have children? She looks at me. And I
said, I really need to know the answer. And she gets you all the
list.
And the most important one is not so when you
change you probably some of you have seen this clip, when he
changed the diaper diaper of a child of your child, you don't
want to do it. Right, you're very tied to 3am Have your intention.
This becomes up to Fortune.
Because this is a responsibility Allah gave it to you that child
has right upon you. And when you fulfill the rights of the human
being, you're actually obeying Allah subhanaw taala. So if there
was a stand up to do tahajjud verses, I changed the diaper off
my crying child. Which one of course you change the diaper of
your crime child and you don't feel guilty. You didn't stand up
for 200 that's the balance that we are missing. We define a batter
the way I wanted, not the way he wanted her the whole MacArthur
MacArthur comic. Meaning when we are now here in this beautiful
conference, right? It's all pleasing to Allah. But when the
salah time came in, we said all for Salah, right? That's balance.
But then we came down and we're learning that's balanced, learn to
balance, not what you like. That's what how enough's your desire. Now
what you want what everybody else is doing, thus to fit in, that's
not pleasing to Allah. There's only one question before you do
anything. Is that pleasing to you?
And if the answer is yes, do it with no hesitation.
And if the answer is no, what usually is, but we justified.
We find excuses. That's when we lose the battle. And we become
overwhelmed and all the mental illnesses happens and anxiety and
all this learn to do everything with the intention. Like Like when
I entered, I said to Allah, this is for you. If there was 300
people hamdulillah there was zero people Alhamdulillah because I
know you will reward me. That's what you will need to learn. Once
you get this you will live in peace.
He's because you are Abdullah, in every step, it just the way it
changes the way you're washing dishes, you don't like dishes
while you're doing it. Because he puts you at that moment in front
of the sink. And the dishwasher is not working. And the kitchen needs
to be clean. I really mean it. We haven't paid off and everything
just change the way you look at exactly what she said, naturally,
you made me cry when she said I went out and look at the tree. And
I said this is you.
That's it.
So learn from that and Allah subhanaw taala will give us the
balance between
to second the heightened
the next question is how do we find that which is valuable about
ourselves without being self involved in involving our ego? I'm
understanding it is how do we see what what's valuable in what we
have to offer without becoming arrogant or without having to get
to our heads? Sure, the time under the law? Very good question.
Again, very thoughtful questions just like Malachite. And
you know, I referenced the Hadith that I said it was one of my
favorite Hadith at the moment. I admit I had a moment because I
really think that that's partly why sisterhood and brotherhood is
so important because we are deluded by the self. Right.
There's four evils, you know, Jigna Hawa, shaitan. Enough's
enough, says the most dangerous because it resides within you and
you delude yourself, and you think you are something when you've got
a long way to go to be even anything. So this is the danger of
leaving yourself to yourself. And that's why the Prophet was sent
him sought protection from even from the blink of an eye. So I
think, you know, just realizing the power of good software,
because we are the average of the five people that were in the midst
of the most so whoever is in our inner circle, or the average of
those five people. So if you want to be an amazing person, look at
the people that you're spending the most time with, look at the
people that are influencing you that are you know, pouring into
you that wonderful story of say Nisa, which I love, and I think
it's so powerful Prophet Jesus, who when he was walking with his
disciples, and the men cursed at him, and then he responded with a
prayer and his disciples were like, what they cursed at you and
you're praying for them. And he said, memorize this. A vessel only
pours out what it contains.
He's beautiful, He's pure, that's all that's going to come forth.
But how do you get to that level? If you're not making sure that
what's going into your vessel is also pure. So look at the company
that you're keeping and they will keep you on check. I'm so grateful
because I have beautiful friends that I have known for over 20
years and I will call out my beloved Son of February who
inshallah you all should meet. She's one of those people who's
behind the curtains doing a lot mashallah, but she's you know
what? My name for hers?
She's my neffs Crusher.
Oh, does everyone need enough Crusher? I'm telling you, right?
Because when you're in the public eye, it's very easy to let the
compliments in the oh you're so amazing sister get to your head
it's like a balloon. Whoo I'm flying I'm flying. And then you
have a friend of mine she said
that balloon real quick and 100 allow for friends like that well
law 111 Friends I remember that for teachers like these beautiful
teachers who when I look at everything contribution that they
make you feel this small and you realize I'm not doing anything I'm
not doing I don't say that will lay out a false humility. I truly
feel like when I see Cefa traveling all over the world the
moment there is something happening and there she is. In the
middle of some calamity raising funds are calling for this and
there's reels and videos overnight. I'm like Mashallah.
It's like a factory. I don't know. I mean, look, if you continue to
feed, but you may it makes you realize you're not doing what you
should be doing. So don't get delusional, have good people who
keep you real and look at them. They're your mirror shot. We're
just gonna add one thing. The reason Allah subhanaw taala said
in the description of the best woman you said said you had
fasting. The best Crusher of the knifes is fasting. We used to call
it in the test kill retreats, the knifes killer.
I mean, it's because we used to be in the summer. And murder was 10pm
Natasha.
Yep. And Federer was 330 because we used to have the retreat in New
York.
She will just give her some time.
Next next woman retreat you will be fasting conference. So make
sure especially these days, can I put you on the spot? I will
because you are great. How many of you fast monday and thursday
regularly?
Ouch.
Ouch. Only for ISIL
No, you don't have
Have to wait. Don't rush to this, I'll get to you.
But if you really want to control your nerves, you want to control
your nerves. You need to eat less. This is the five pillars of
Teskey. For less and one more and soon we will do a program for you
hear about Teskey we're going to do less food, less talk, less
interaction with people, and less asleep and more dhikr of Allah
remembrance of Allah and fasting as most of this start with fasting
Fajr is at five, McGraw visit five. How many of you work and
restaurant structure during work and you don't have time to eat or
drink? I had times where I'm in the O or from the moment I entered
Tim McGraw.
So do it. It really will control you with one requirement or the
joy of Colombina. And he said your husband for those of you are
married, he has to agree. Because that's a voluntary Yeah, that's a
voluntary fasting. Don't say she said do and conference who killer
Nevsky. Don't do that? He's gonna text me. I said I didn't say.
I'm gonna say I told her take your lunch.
Awesome.
I love that we can add humor and laughter in what we do, because
that's how we learn better. Sounds that Allah. Okay.
Our next question is this one was to you, Dr. Yunus. And I think
anybody can answer a doctor. In a society that's so focused on young
women's journeys in marriage and motherhood. It's easy to feel less
valued when you're neither. How can we navigate this and still
feel valued?
It's so true.
I see it in my office. I see it when I talk to a woman and I see
it from the questions I get. This is what I see. She sits in front
of me, right the first time. So we are knowing each other. And I say,
so. Do you work inside the house or outside the house? I use this
term.
Okay. And she said, for example, if she doesn't work outside, I'm
just a mother.
Just a mother.
You know what I say? It's the only profession that guaranteed Jana.
Everything else Allah knows.
True or False? It's not my words. It's not my words. You put it on
your slides. Yeah, the hadith is only there's arguments about how
strong is the Hadith, but the meaning is right, because in
another one, he said, Oh, maximum maximum. Your mother, your mother,
your mother. So that's number one. Number two, woman feels so please
forgive me. Pity. They pity themselves if they don't have
children.
True or false?
And you know, what's my answer? Say Dasha had no children.
Why? She was 18. The youngest, right. He loved her the most. Her
father said Neville burka. Why didn't she have children?
I exactly. Allah said so that she starts crying about herself.
There is nothing and she was one of the actual she was number two
from the Sahaba the Companions who narrated Hadith, the first one
said no before IRA, they say it's probably heard or say now blob
Noma 1000s. Why didn't she she narrated all her story of the pain
she wanted through when they accused her? Why didn't she read
something about you know what? Allah did not give me children
your value and I think I heard it more than once in from the
morning. You know, what's very your value? Number one, you're a
human being. What Quran now Benny Adam. Allah said we have elevated
the status of the human being. So don't say I'm not number two. The
first quality of the best woman was what mostly MATT What did we
say submit to the will of Allah. He did not want you to be a mother
and of the story period. Because could be if you are a mother, you
will not be close to Allah subhanaw taala
or he saved you from the tests of having children who will
make you sad and miserable. Learn to submit to the will of Allah
he'll.
What? Why did you?
I'll tell you what, I'll tell you what 70% 60% To be safe.
From the emails I get. And the woman I talked to. It's about the
children.
Because of the children are not successful. She doesn't mothers
especially. She doesn't look at it as cut down on low muszaphar. She
looks at as failure what
did I do wrong? This is again part of us woman. So as long as Allah
did not test you with children Alhamdulillah you want to give me
children Alhamdulillah you don't want to give me children
Alhamdulillah your value your number one creation of Allah as a
human being number two the true servant of
children may get you to gender may not eliminate radical Eminem
wildly come, daddy come I don't want to look as logical daddy come
I don't want you to come. Some of your spouse's and some of your
children are your enemies. Why are you crying for not having an
enemy?
Again, change your honestly because this is society. By the
way. It's not only Muslims, the same thing with non Muslims.
Less but still, oh, the click the clock is ticking. What is the
clock is ticking.
But this is how it is so your value who you are and who you are
in the sight of Allah.
If you have a value with Allah, I care less if I have seven
children, I have zeal. And may Allah make it easy and teach us
what He wants us to know. And pleases Him not what we want, or
what would pleases people.
Okay, how do you work on your number one priority if you're not
motivated enough?
In my opinion, if you are not motivated, it is not your
priority.
If if it is a true priority of yours, if it is if it is meant for
you, if Allah made it for you,
it would be in your heart already.
If you can't seem to and I learned this the hard way. And I chalked
it up to my ADHD in the past like Oh, I'm just
smile ADHD I'm not supposed to. But I've noticed that with
anything that is meant for me that I'm truly passionate about, it's
lifelong.
I didn't lose interest in activism, it wasn't an ADHD thing.
I'm not losing interest in the Quran, like, okay, I get it and
moving on. This isn't a lifelong.
And so
I would say it, you know, if the
motivation isn't there, it shouldn't be your priority. And
that's the key time, I'd say, to really look inside yourself to see
what is motivating you.
And that's where your priorities priorities lie.
So if I'm going to do a follow up question on it, so okay, if we
know that our number one priority is supposed to be our connection
with Allah subhanaw taala, right. Like we know that's supposed to be
our number one priority. Maybe the question is more, we don't have
that motivation here where we're at right now, how do we get there?
How do we how do we get the motivation to have that be our
number one priority? And and live that out? So no matter? Hey, I
mean, it's all about time. I think part of the problem with comfort,
and is that comfort makes us complacent. So we are in this we
live in this climate of, I mean, honestly, the amount of luxury and
privilege that we enjoy. So that means that we have this sense of
who do you call an Arabic like doodle? Doodle ML is a term right?
That yeah, we're long hopes.
Yeah, in other words, I mean, we have this sense of like, oh, well,
you know, because things are just so comfortable. And I have access
to all these privileges and benefits. That we think that
things like ill health and death are just so far off. We have to
remind ourselves that these things could be imminent. You know, when
the when the angel as our beloved Prophet says Peace and blessings
be upon him it Hustla to A salaam you know, when the angel comes to
the human being that's still in the womb of the mother, there are
four matters already decided for that human being
that human beings a result there the provision that Allah to Allah
gives that human being the what is the other one doesn't? The armor,
the actions that human being earns?
Shortly or side exactly excellent martial law, right that are they
going to be happy or sad shall be or side and that actually means
are they going to have Felicity? Are they going to have salvation
or perdition destruction in the Athleta? Like, what are they
headed towards? And then the other thing is the measure of the
lifespan. So we have to understand that we don't control life.
expands as Allah Tala tells us in the Quran that you know, no, no
soul knows in which land it will die, I think that sort of look
that and I believe, I think the end of the suit, I think. So ALLAH
SubhanA, Allah tells us that
these this is like entirely within his realm. And if we remind
ourselves of that reality every day, we do not control our Mo. And
all of us, I would imagine, we have aspirations for long life and
good health and blessings and prosperity, and all these things
that we as human beings enjoy. But if we are finding ourselves
lacking motivation, to be very honest with you all, I work with a
lot of young people, and I'm seeing that a lot of young people
are being impacted by issues of mental health and anxiety and
depression and, and not being able to find that drive and motivation.
And I just want to say to them that, number one, it's very
important that you go to the mental health professional, there
should be no stigma around that, go to that person who can help
you. But also understand that shade lon loves to see the
believer being sad and depressed, because the depressed believer is
someone who's just sitting and not acting. And that person becomes
paralyzed by that inaction. So if we keep this foremost in mind
that, you know, we can't say, Well, I'm gonna put off this act
of good until tomorrow, or next year, or 10 years from now, we
don't know that that time is guaranteed. And you know, this is
something that I know from personal experience. We're
centering Elissa. So my personal experience is hardly relevant in
this regard. Honestly, the only stories I want to hear from Meghan
stories, but I'll be very honest with you that, you know, my
husband, a lighter, humble, passed away at age 34. And for a long
time, I just, I really struggled with that, why so young.
So we have to remind ourselves that youth is not a guarantee
health is not a guarantee. And if we keep that in mind, then and if
you're my age, where you realize that most of your years are
actually now behind you, as opposed to in front of you. That
should be a motivator for all of us. Right? Yeah.
I'm gonna add a couple of practical
if I'm going to ask the youth, and I'll answer, what is number one,
something they love most they use is their phone.
Not just that you just just I was about to
read my mind. So what do they do? Right? What do we all do? Right?
The reason I said the youth because some of the adults say,
you know, I do a lot of work on the phone. So it's a different
story. If you love something, it's your priority.
Period. You love your child, you wake up at 2am you love your job,
and you have a plane you have to catch and the plane is at four
o'clock, believe me by three o'clock before the alarm. You're
in that airport. So how do I get more motivated? One of the hardest
subjects to study in Islamic studies actually actinidia Creed,
because it's so abstract, the most beloved class in the year of
knowledge and you can ask the students is actually that theta,
because when you start knowing Allah
there is something is I know, I see. There's something I know I
newly attain, when you know Allah Well, which means you have to
spend some time some time gradually build it up, knowing him
when you love him. You don't look at sada Did you pray, you ask
yourself or your child? How was the talk with Allah?
Different story.
So that's number one, know him, know him and know him and ask him
to know to help you know Him and ask Him to help you to love him.
Because once you love somebody, you're motivated. You want to fast
and you say on long day I like coffee, tea, you know home shaitan
and then the Hadith comes to your mind a soul what do you want to
receive fasting is for me, Allah sing it and I rewarded for it,
you're fasting that day
and apply it to all
what has also helped me with creating motivation especially
I'm naturally motivated with the Quran is as well. But just finding
certain things in the Quran that are just automatically correct in
what is going to help your life and just your overall well being.
With with fasting for instance, that's scientifically
proven to heal the body the longer you fast. It's just a fact. And I
think of one
I had, I believe it was in
16 The B's I believe it started 114 When it's talking about,
like bad foods that carry on blood, and swine.
And but then it it, but then it says, and a lot of people miss
this, because I joked about it on live. B, because I was joking
about how everybody who was watching these mukbangs if you
don't know what a mukbang is, it's people just literally eating
boards and boards of food. And I and I said that's haram. And they
were just like, that's not what I'm gonna I was like, at the end
of that I got it says, Do not eat out of desire.
Only out of necessity or something, something it's it's
the BS 16 one like I believe it was like 114 to 116
it says don't eat out of desire, but eat out of necessity alone. So
when when you
eat out of necessity alone,
you find that you naturally fast
you naturally do not get hungry as often.
When you when you eat
outside of the forbidden foods, the foods that are automatically
Hello, seafood, for instance, rich in omega threes and everything
that we need, et cetera. That's that's naturally in the Quran. And
it's backed by science, which was one of the reasons why
I fell in love with it because I tried to, like I said earlier, I
put it to the test. And it passed every test I put it up against. So
I would just if you're having a hard time finding just a way to
connect with God.
My own advice would be tested.
Tested don't I think I think what I've what I've run into is a lot
of Muslims
that are born Muslim, it seems that they read the Quran out of
duty.
As opposed to seeking guidance, like actually trying to use the
Quran as a tool to guide your life in the right direction. It's more
like okay, let me let me get up let me read let me read this like
in that's common in
religious populations, when you grow up in a religion, it tends to
go more and it's very difficult to create that connection with a lot
because it starts to become something of duty to you. So
that will make sense because I just want to I want to call me.
No, it does.
It does. But I want to just cautious unless you're a deep
thinker.
You need to be very careful when you question the Quran because
that's one of the keys of Shavon
so if you're a deep thinker, know she is yours. You know why? You've
been doing this for a long time you look at the tree how many of
us look at a tree and say this is Allah? Very few she did. That's a
different story. You're looking at it not to argue you're looking at
it. I know it is there. Just show me
if you're that person do it he'll show you but don't go and says let
me see if the Quran has it. Now Allah who leave you to yourself.
See the point, it's just you have to be very careful. Because
shaytaan has keys for each one of us. It depends who are the my keys
or shaitan use keys way different than you and that you then then
you that's when if you just allow me because I want to comment on
something you said and you said the people the Haram police. I
loved it. However, no. Yeah, Mr. Haram remember all the kids say
all the teachers in Islamic school are Mr. Haram because everything
is haram.
They are not but we use the word haram very loosely. If you count
how many times Allah in the Quran. In the 6000 Plus verses he used
the word haram it's less than point 1%
However, and this is to make an end to everybody I know the reason
they told you when you said Allah has being sarcastic? Yes, I
wouldn't say haram but there is a certain etiquettes and words we
use when we talk about Allah this is us as Muslims.
So I wouldn't say hola who was sarcastic? I say hola happy Hola.
Hola. laugh because he said it about himself. But anything Allah
didn't say it about himself. I can see it
That's why they jumped on you. Right? I'm sure they didn't
explain it the right way. Right. And we this is how we do to be
very careful how we explain things to people, it's out of the adult,
you're honoring Allah. And I'm not gonna say Allah has being
sarcastic when you said it. I was like, Oh, no.
in me, but I know what you meant. Right? So for all of
that sounded sarcastic.
Yes. Right. But for me as a Muslim, and I know Allah. So this
is I will say, wow.
If I want to say what she said, I will say, Wow, this is amazing.
That's a different story. If you said amazing, everybody will say,
wow. But when I say
I mean, I'm not going to go into the Aqeedah. And the whole decree
thing there's going to be above your head. But in general, and
this is also for Muslims, I see it with the youth. They we say things
we just have to be warmer, your album shine or
when you glorify the symbols of Allah, that's a sign that you are
Allah conscious. So I say this is the house of Allah, I don't call
it a message.
Of course, it's a messenger, but it's the house of Allah, what
impact it has on your heart. When you say this is the house of Allah
versus Masjid. So I will say, Wow, and I know which verse you are
referring towards Surah Baqarah right, because Allah is making fun
of the disbelievers. You chose other than Me Go,
go, but I wouldn't use the word sarcastic. I just want to say when
they told you haram police, I'm sure they you will be bombarded
with that. And I'm sure but just when you mentioned Allah subhanaw
taala
you know how you feel inside you that made you pray the Fajr and
you don't know how to pray? It was the most powerful thing I learned
when I didn't know what to do but I stayed
she stayed and the only thing she know Bismillah R Rahman r Rahim
and said that's it
right so whatever your heart is telling you the way you look at
our largest I don't know did I make Did I make it Yeah, you know
what I'm saying? Because not everybody when they say haram they
are right. But sometimes they may be and I'm sure they just didn't
see it in the best way and this is for everybody here
that's actually a very good and I'm sorry for going off if we're
going off topic but just for the all the because there's a lot of
new reverts Me included
in the book club there have been a few people who've reverted to
Islam since since joining and yes
phenomenal but
But what this is the most difficult thing that I've come
across as far as access is concerned
for someone who does not know who to trust
when they are saying this is haram This isn't haram because what I
also find in my comments is some people do it as a joke like oh
this is how knowing it's not just to get someone upset or someone
like just ooh you know like just watch it yeah worried and watching
themselves and things like that. What is your advice for new
reverts when they're trying to find accurate access and what is
and is not head on? So we had a one hour discussion yesterday
that's why I looked at my left side
don't learn from the internet
I mean it and that includes Muslims not only unless you have
Allah subhanaw taala taught you and now you're looking for the
cook when you know it but you look like what we were looking for the
iron we know what is there but where is it because there is on
lots of stuff there are a lot of good things but a lot of things
are not the best way to learn. And actually this is what we were
talking about I want to talk to you about that is in your manager
which part of Chicago noodle
Okay, is every Masjid has classes for new Muslims including here
every masjid and so we will talk later our connected because the
new Muslims classes is usually sometimes taught by new Muslims
will be Muslims for a long while or somebody who's been with non
Muslims is very different when I teach non Muslims and when I teach
you right so you this is what you start and you start gradual and
usually they will teach you that to the Creed what we believe in
and gradually takes you up but the Internet if I listen to everything
in the internet I don't know what I'm going to believe it's very
confusing the so different opinion imagine you give her four
different opinion about sada
please don't do that. Right so the best thing is your classes in the
masjid new Muslim class because these are well structured looked
at
And again, I can connect you with many people. Please forgive us.
I think a lot of the questions got answered. There were other
questions that sort of got touched on. I did want to get
one more question I'd love for sister love not to have this one.
But no, no, it really isn't. I I've had the screen open for a
while. And I was like, this would be good. But it talks about what
do we do when we feel that we're being taken, taken for granted as
wives and as mothers?
Yes.
When we feel taken for granted, as wives and mothers sometimes so it
says, what do we do when people take us for granted as wives and
mothers?
Yes, but yes, that's a very, very relevant and valid question.
And this can apply to really anyone you know, you do a lot for
your friend you do a lot for your parent you do a lot. Well, how do
you handle that emotion or that feeling? So first of all,
it's always helpful to bring it back to Allah subhanaw taala that
whatever I'm doing for the sake of Allah Subhan Allah Allah smart
Allah will reward me that I'm like you said cleaning. That's partly
why I was late. Because yesterday, long story, but anyway, we'll talk
about that. But
but there will always come a time. So we do for the sake of Allah
subhanaw taala knowing that cleanliness is part of our deen
knowing that Subhanallah feeding, just feed it on a dime is a Hadith
the Prophet was like Saddam gave us advice to somebody feed the
food to to your cat, to your neighbor to your coworker, you
know, your coworker from another faith to your family. So
Subhanallah when you look at everything as like, this is part
of a Betta, it takes away some of that, like man, even know how much
I do for you guys. Because it's that feeling it's very natural.
Secondly, though, if you feel like something is, it's now crossing
the boundary, like somebody's constantly asking you for
something like wait a minute, you have more time than I do you, you
totally are capable, this is going to negatively affect me, because
now I'm going to be late for something else, or whatever it is,
this is where communication is so important. I feel oftentimes I
hear from other people, like if they're upset about something,
they'll just keep quiet about it. Because that's what they've been
taught. If you're upset about something, just be quiet, but then
you never resolve the issue. So it doesn't mean that you should yell
and scream and start, you know, throwing tantrums and throw the
phone in the shoes at somebody when they're, you know, you feel
like you're being disrespected. But to start saying, you know,
what, guys, husband or kids or whatever it is, I need help in
this area. Or this is becoming you know, I'm not sleeping enough
because the soul you frame it in a way where when you state your need
as opposed to you guys are losing yourself if you don't do anything
when you stayed as a need, I need to sleep early and therefore can
you guys put the food away I need you know, this is like very
personal guys. So
you know cat and all these things is just coming out
so so it's it's the beautiful thing is when you keep everything
focused on Allah subhanaw taala and that this is this is worship,
that helps a lot. But then when things are just kind of in a
practical way, things need to be worked out stating what you need
assistance from other people, your spouse or your children
that it's hard to be able to say no, and then there can become some
kind of a negotiation and it's still not maybe going to be
perfect, but it helps. And lastly, like I said when you're protecting
your your your your health, your time your your other requirements
and you can't forget us a lot because you're trying to make
somebody you know some try to fulfill somebody else's request
that doesn't need to be fulfilled at that time. Remembering your
boundaries for the sake of Allah subhanaw taala is also something
that's really important. So hopefully we can as as Dr. Haifa
mentioned always keeping that balance. So I'll add one thing how
many of you wants to go to Jana
and you want to see a loss, right? If I had three hands I will do it
and you want to see a loss pantile
Then you need to do the extra
you need to do the extra Latina acid or Husna or Ziad those who do
things with excellence. So don't look at the I am being taken
advantage. Which means I asked them not please can you give me my
phone Okay, so Luna gave me her phone and they looked at asked me
can you give me your phone? I didn't that I asked again and then
she did it now Libnah starts feeling being taken advantage. No,
that's extra
she doesn't want the Jana she doesn't want the loss pantalla I'm
sorry, I wanted it
I really mean it this will make you deal with people very
differently.
If you will treat deal with people one on one you give me I give you
You forgive me I forgive you, then you always gonna be in at the at
the verge of being injustice or feeling sorry for yourself.
If you always do a certain minimum you will end up in justice Allah
said this universe you hear it all of you on Friday. In Aloha mobile
it was sunny. Well it is an orb. When handled fascia it will move
curry will bury the either cooler Allah come to the Quran, Allah in
joint or order, Justice first, but accidents is second, where he
taught you the pallava and you are good with your
relatives, when when he forbid, fascia is immorality will move or
anything that is rejected. And he advise you scholars teaches you
this. They always teach us as students of knowledge. If you deal
with people with a son you are May Allah forgive me for the word
brand better, meaning she doesn't give me I'll give her she doesn't
forgive me. I forgive her. I will always live minimum with justice.
But if I always live with justice, very good possible to you. We'll
go to the other side. Look at it this way, focus on your akhira
focus on Jana. Focus on Allah, it doesn't matter. So what? So what I
did five times and she did one, I'll be higher up in Jana.
And who doesn't want it, it's change. It's all about mindset. So
first off does that come unlock it everyone for your for your being
here for your attention for showing up with yourselves and
being willing to learn from others and to learn from our beautiful
teachers over here and and from one another. And for connecting
and building the sense of sisterhood that we have in our
community. Just like Kamala here. We hope that you learn something
and then we hope that last month I like ignites that love and desire
to be closer to Him and to connect with him and to do everything that
is pleasing to Him in sha Allah in our hearts from today. Moving
forward. We have feedback form. So if you can QR code, tell us what
you what went well, what you'd improve on topics you'd like to
see in the future, we only improve by hearing learning from one
another and learning from what your experience is at the end. So
mashallah the whole team under the leadership of Dr. Hey, fat, no,
it's true. It's true, have done an amazing job with this. And so we
want to continue with that. So that's the feedback form, have to
do a plug and hamdulillah like this is the first measure that we
see lead in these efforts in our area, right in terms of organizing
the woman's conference, we had the first one in February, we have
this one over here and continuing to grow. So and hum did Allah may
Allah bless icoi we want to do a plug that you can get involved
with msgid If you can look online, I think there's also a button for
membership to participate and to get involved in the masjid and
give your input and feedback because the masjid is as strong as
the people who are there. Thank you just so I can lock it.
Okay, so then we have that we're going to invite a team up we want
to thank our speakers so if everyone will join me and it's
hard to be it and a round of applause and we have some tokens
of appreciation
Thank you Okay, should it come? I just want to say final things are
you done? I was just gonna say closing dot and then just
instruction for the number one IDD so grateful to everyone may Allah
reward you but definitely the speakers everyone in this panel UC
and definitely the last minute, which is the best live the best of
the last. Right I honestly last Friday, I was in Atlanta airport,
and I get the phone call. And I made a connection before that. And
then I text and she didn't answer me and I normally text I don't
call but then I had to call and then she answered right away and
somehow I didn't say a word in Arabi. MashAllah Alhamdulillah you
know, I was like, take it easy on her. She started saying in sha
Allah I was like, Wow.
I was like okay, so may Allah any words that I wanted to make
special dua for sister Megan for one main dua to Allah keep her
steadfast me because we all struggle with that. We all I
really mean it because it's, it's a road ends in Jannah. But the
road is not paved. You know how we all feel? That's number one.
Number two, everybody may Allah rewards I know I don't know the
details, but I know that was a big challenge. But a humbler. She
showed me a * war sister. She has enough Ansari, she left her
kids to fly to us arrived last night at 10pm flying tomorrow at
7am So don't you think being in public eyes is I mean, hamdulillah
but there's a lot of challenge comes with it may Allah the word,
actually my consultant called her simultaneity. Because it was my
client side this is the idea and then hold on a second. And then
after 10 minutes comes something how do we do this? So may Allah
reward I love her for the sake of Allah. May Allah reward everybody,
all the volunteers, I did not do any of this and I just did that.
Part The a lot of work behind the scenes Karima May Allah reward you
sister Rolla, may Allah reward you all those layers? I really mean
it. Make dua for them at Allah always use them. Allah use them in
the way that pleases Him. Again, I absolutely want to every woman
this is the most woman friendly Masjid I have been. I mean it
really, right. So, maybe MCC maybe yeah, because I always bring MCC
there. Right? When when they don't do things I say MCC does it.
So, get involved, there is a membership drive, you need to be
members. When you are members, you have a voice. And when you have a
voice you can change. And let's stop complaining. And let's stop
not talking outside when we are in social gathering. And let's be a
force of change and the force of change when you are involved. So
absolutely be a member the last but not the least, it's a very
good news and inshallah it will happen from next week. You know,
we have two new buildings in the back. One of them is going to be
the woman Education Center.
Exactly.
However, I will need that's why I we need the woman to be a force we
need and it's not only me and a few of us we need everybody.
Right? So make dua to Allah subhanaw taala will shortly next
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