Manazil as-Sa’ireen #38 – Chapter on Modesty

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So inshallah, today we have the chapter on how

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you can translate this as modesty shyness bashfulness shame, decency, dignity all combined.

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the session inshallah we will have the rest of the chapter on Salatu Juma or Juma prayer.

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Remember Narayan? Allah tala said Baba hyah Palazzo del adomian pianola era

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chapter on hyah alone mighty said, Does he not know that Allah sees, does he not know that Allah sees.

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So like I said, the word that higher itself can be translated

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as modesty about it may not, you know, one word may not embody all the meanings of hair. So, that's why I have this list for you here. So it's modesty, shyness bashfulness.

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dignity, decency.

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And then you will just call it at higher, probably because it will confer the meanings that are intended the word that higher.

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But certainly, if you will have to select one word for higher it would be modesty, because that's the closest translation

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that we have.

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You may also say bashfulness, may be closer than modesty. bashfulness would be the closest to hire that we have ever, you may also say,

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cannot be under isolation from the Congress.

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But at the end of the day, even sometimes modern culture is not considering the Chinese even to be something positive. China's you know, just recently, in the last few years, during the DSM criteria of diseases, it's become a disease uses equal social phobia.

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Then, you know, they call it now social social anxiety disorder. So shyness and social anxiety disorder would be the same thing. So the word shyness is a disease you know, in, in the DSM, which is the most important manual of psychiatric diseases, then, then that word is is starting to carry or harbor negative connotations. modesty when one day also have negative connotations. So if you say that bashfulness may have some negative connotations, every one of those words, at one point may start to have negative connotations, we'll still have to use them. So modesty, bashfulness, shyness, decency, that's what higher means.

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Shame also, shame. So when the Prophet sallallahu Sallam says, for instance, is evaluate the stack effect first now Masha is a LAMP stack he first nanashi or even a lamp as if as normal said, if you don't have same do as you, like, do whatever you like, do whatever you want.

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You could translate a LAMP stack here are going to study as if you have no shame. If you don't, if you have no shame, do as you please, do whatever you like. And certainly this is from the Prophet salallahu salam, this is a threat, you know, so do whatever you like, and then you will be held accountable for.

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So those who have no same, they'll do whatever they want, but at the end of the day, they'll be held accountable for it. You could also say that the Prophet sallallahu Sallam meant if you don't find that shameful do

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so some of the scholars said that this is what the Hadith means. Most of the scholars said it means that the prophet SAW Salah meant to say, if you have no shame, do whatever you like. Some of the scholars said the Hadith meant if it does not feel it is if it is not shameful, do it, like examine it first, whatever you embark on,

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examine it first. Think about it. If you don't find it, shameful, do it. So he's attaching

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You know, he's saying that all evil is shameful. So if it is not shameful it is not evil evil.

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So the shift How do we know law here started by quoting This is lm era and beyond alojado era, does he not know that Allah sees? Does he not know that Allah sees? This is how he is starting the chapter on a higher? Does he not know does man not know that Allah sees

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and it is particularly suitable of him to start the chapter with this area versus progetto mettam. Cialis to hear

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more clear or clearer idea about high end the Quranic theories die about high end the Quran is when

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you know one of the two women you know,

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the fathers of the righteous man, that Moosa met in Medina and one of the two women came back to him after he, you know, helped help them out, was given water to their flock. So they came back to him.

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The Lost Planet Allah says, momentum crst Akala t nebia Rocha, Jacob Meza Catalina, so one of them came back to him walking shyly or walking with modesty. And she said to him, my father invites you to sort of compensate you for your help. So that, that this is the clearest I am the person talking about higher. But any moment harder we wanted to use, this is our idea, to tell you many things to tell you about the root of higher, the spring of higher, where does higher come from higher comes from the fact that you should always be cognizant of a loss, watchfulness, a view, you should always be aware, you should always be conscious of Allah watching you. And that is where your highest comes

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from. Otherwise, if you don't,

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basically watch this, you will have no higher if you are not watching the laws, watch and watch from this view, you will have no hire, someone may say, Well, you could just be naturally inclined to hire. natural inclination is not the whole up, that is reward worthy that you will be rewarded for it is not the whole of that as part of a better that's part of worship that you will be rewarded for. And, and eventually also, this natural inclination is because of the cultural inclination. So if the culture promotes higher, you will have people that have higher you will have a lot of people that have hired as the culture does not promote hire, hire will be taken away from the collective,

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not just the individual, but the collective. And that is, eventually what we seem to be heading towards. That hire will be taken away

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without watching the law, without watching a law or being cognizant of God watching you, you know, because what it really comes down to

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when atheism does not produce morality does not produce morals, people who don't believe in God,

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they have borrowed morality borrowed morality, where is it by borrowed from, from, you know, like here in in, in a predominantly Christian society, it is borrowed from Christianity. Christianity teaches about morality to teach his good morals, you know, most of their, almost all the major religions in the world, the teacher, the teacher about morality, they stress they emphasize the importance of morality. And that is where an atheist who grows up in a predominantly Christian society or a predominantly Buddhist society, that is what they're getting their morality from over time, if atheism prevails, takes over and there would be no more religion no more, you know, the

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concept of God itself will be forgotten.

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Then, where would where would my morality come from? Where would any objective standard of morality come from? Absolutely nothing. There will be no source of morality whatsoever. Because in the atheist worldview, all of these things are just manifestations

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Have some biochemical reactions in your brain or different levels of hormones and enzymes and so on that are working in your brain in certain ways that are causing you to act a certain way or to behave a certain way or to have a certain stat list of values or standards. So they will be lost. So she here is trying to say that this all comes from your watchfulness of his watchfulness of you lm ER and be an ally or does he not know that Allah sees, so, higher and Islam should not be reduced into interpersonal dealings into modesty in interpersonal dealings, although modesty and interpersonal dealings is important, is a manifestation of higher, but it is just a manifestation of

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higher but higher, it is predominantly and mainly and originally about your height, your shyness from Allah subhanaw taala your embarrassment to be seen this obeying Him to be seen by him this obeying Him to be seen by him hacking,

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you know, shamelessly or acting this gracefully and

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in any circumstance, so, it should not be reduced into you know, just like a set of behaviors, it is about the quality itself and that is why the Prophet sallallahu Sallam

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stressed the importance of

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hire in many, many

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hobbies and we will we will try to cover some of them. So, like I said, it should not be reduced into you know, hijab or interpersonal dealings, although these things are part of it, but it should not be reduced into these things, and it should not also apply to women only, because, in our cultures where we grew up,

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men are not supposed to be shy, right, you know, or men are not trained, instructed, in higher in modesty, shyness and so on.

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When we that is not every household, that is not everyone in every household, but that is basically

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almost the dominant culture.

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So, like I told you, Islam is not a it's not about Eastern West, it's not about you know, Eastern Western and this. So, in Eastern culture also, there are certain things that are not approved or that are not acceptable. In in our Deen Islam is not a northern, Southern, Eastern or Western religion, Islam as religion came down from the heavens, revealed the Bible divine to mankind. So, but but in Eastern cultures, there is more a lot more emphasis and there should be more emphasis on higher for women than men. But it is a lot more it's exaggerated. And it detracts also from the importance of higher for men, men should have when it comes to the route of higher when it comes to

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higher in front of Allah subhanaw taala we're being addressed equal year by this quality of higher in front of Allah subhanaw taala shine is from Allah subhanaw taala when it comes to interpersonal dealings, a little bit more emphasis

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on higher for women in interpersonal dealings, and the verse in the Quran talks about the home atom Shasta here, it's talking about a woman who came walking with came to him walking with modesty or shyly. So, so, there there is a little bit emphasis more emphasis on higher for women and when it comes to interpersonal dealings,

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but it should not be just limited to women, even in interpersonal dealings, men should also practice higher and the reason why there is a little bit of emphasis on height for women is that you know,

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women manifest the divine attributes of beauty, the divine attributes, most of the you know, and they they have the privilege of manifesting like men manifest the divine attributes of intensity, severity, rigor, might.

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Women manifest the divine attributes of beauty, beauty itself, you know, certainly, and compassion and the whole of the divine attributes more or all or most of the divine attributes of beauty, they have a greater share of those divine

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attributes, the last panel Tyler instilled in us.

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You know, because everything that happens in this universe are all the things that happen in the universe are manifestations of the divine attributes, translations of the divine attributes.

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So, women manifest the divine attributes of demand, more than men men may manifest the divine attributes of Gillette more than women. So rigor, intensity, severity, mindset, and so on are manifested by women, men are asked to manifest them with control properly. So you have to be to be measuring how you manifest those attributes of Might and intensity and rigor. And women are also told to, to basically exercise or to manifest them, or to project them

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and to basically in to do this in compliance with the divine instructions in his area, to manifest His divine attributes, in accordance with the divine instructions in Sharia. So there may be a little bit more emphasis on higher for women, but it does not mean that men should not have higher in their interpersonal dealings. And it does not mean at all that the route of higher which is higher in front of Allah subhanaw taala, China's from Allah subhanho wa Taala applies to women only, and shall not apply to men, they should apply to both

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equally. And like I said, the fact which is the multiplicity of our conditions, does not negate, you know, the JAMA which has the oneness, the unity of the origin of all things. So when it comes to the origin, from the divine side, not our human side and the multiplicity and variances of our circumstances, but when it comes to the divine silence all the same, you know, men and women, there is no difference between anything. So creation and creator, and that's it. But when it comes to the multiplicity of our conditions and our circumstances in this life, then everyone has to be observant of their circumstances, their individual, the circumstances and their circumstances as you know,

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yeah, the circumstances as members of a certain gender or this or that.

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And if we have time at the end, inshallah, we will talk a little bit more about the interpersonal dealings, but this is, you know, that this chapter is not about interpersonal dealings, this chapter is about, you know, in front of Allah subhanaw taala, or China's from Allah subhanho wa Taala.

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The Prophet sallallahu I will say that Ray Dalio that happens not only apply to men, the best women the best of all men, most courageous of all men, most masculine of all men, the Messenger of Allah sallallahu sallam, he, you know, exhibited, you know, projected a lot of hire, that they used to say about him was either one of his companions said about him Canada sort of lighthouse, Allah said, the higher end middle Azra, if the Messenger of Allah sallallahu Sallam used to be more like shy,

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or modest, or bashful.

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bashful may be the best word here because they have the, you know, the unmarried woman

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that would be the version woman in her private quarters. So unmarried version woman in her private quarters, she used to be more protective of those women. So he was more basketball than an unmarried version, woman and her private quarters.

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And that, that does not take away from the Prophet Scourge from the prophets, masculinity whatsoever, because masculinity is not about obscenity

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or and should not be about obscenity.

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Then in a moment how to weight loss and higher I mean, I want my data Janet, who's who's yet another mentor Lehman manoogian board who

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are higher in every modality and of course, higher is one of the first steps of the stairway of the elites.

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You know, one of the first steps on you know of the stairway of the elites or on your way up.

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This for the elites.

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Moment. How are we here? acknowledge that

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You know, here, we're talking about the elites here. Because in the past few stations, he was talking about the commoners. These are Stations of the commoners, but he considers this station to be one of the first stations, one of the first steps on this stairway of the elites. So once you have, but keep in mind that he is not meaning that this does not belong to the commoners, but he is meaning the establishment Tamkeen, in this particular station, or Han, belongs to the elites, you could have come keen in a different station. And it is all about and keen, because when it comes to the pinnacle of each station,

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you have to be the, you know,

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the best, the greatest of the elite, or the people who reach the pinnacle on each station. And when it comes to the pinnacle of all stations, they're all equal.

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Right. So to reach the pinnacle of the station of the record, the pinnacle of the station of patience, the pinnacle of the station of arrival, the pinnacle of the station, they're all equal, the pinnacles are all equal.

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But the variation that he's talking about is not about just visiting the station, it's not just about like, basically, the transient

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transient passing through the station, because all of us do, all of us pass through the station of radio, sometimes the station have sub, you know, patients sometimes and do well, you know, but it is transient, you're not established in this station, if you're established in this station, nothing will overwhelm you, nothing will drive you out of it, you will always be in the station of rebel, the station of sub, nothing will push you out of it, that is called the Temkin which as you know, and Sufi terminology Tamkeen is about your thinking and your mentality or basically your establishment in, in the stations. So there is a difference between transients like transient visit

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to the station, Allah subhanaw taala could give you the trophy, basically to show River at one time, Allah subhanaw taala could give you the faith to exhibit sub, in one occasion or hardship, but you're really not established in this station yet. You're just like a visitor.

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And so when he talks about the differences between the stations being commoners public, and so on, he's saying that you're going to be established in the station, that is what we're measuring here.

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even draw.

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if this is basically

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this is the station of river.

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And this is the station of higher

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you like let's say that here, you will reach the point of Tempe, this is the threshold, or the cutoff for Tamkeen being established in this station. And here you are one of the commoners.

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This is an this an elite here, because if you already established in the station, you are one of the elites not the commoners.

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But here, the people who are here, this is this would be the pinnacle, the people that are here, it's all the same. It's they're all equal, because the pinnacle of all those stations is equal.

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Tamkeen is here to be a visitor or

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even if you're invited frequently into the station, but you're not really established you get pushed out of it also frequently or sometimes you get pushed out of it.

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If this is the cut off after Tamkeen, then we can say that you know some stations will be like this, some stations will be like this, some stations will be like this, some stations will be even like this.

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And so when he talks about the free dental heat and so on the end of the book, it is all for the most elite, you know and so most, you know of the first level and second level in

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Where will not even have a chance

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to even get admitted into those stations. But so the pinnacles of all the stations are the same they overlap in that sense, you don't reach the pinnacle of decision. If you reach the pinnacle of station of taqwa you will be at the pinnacle of decision of whether you'll be at the pinnacle of the station of sub, you know think the Prophet sallallahu Sallam thinkable, darkness the not even the prophets and messengers with thinkable buckless of the so these are the people that are that have reached the pinnacle of all the stations. But for the commentaries, sometimes you could be established in one of the stations that the sheikh says,

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you know, these are Stations of the commoner, sometimes it could be established in one of the stations, but the other station will be too far away for you, because the other station does not belong to the commentaries to be established in, you know, again, keep in mind to be established in the station of higher it will truly have China's from Allah subhanaw taala to truly have, you know, this

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modesty in front of Allah subhanaw taala and China's that that is huge, that is different from TOEIC you know, to rely on Allah subhanaw taala and to have to reliance is different from having Chinese from Allah subhanaw taala you could have realized you could be established in the station of reliance, but not establishing the station of higher because the station is greater is higher.

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And he says here that higher is basically one of the first steps of the stairway of the elites, it arises from the glorification that rests on a foundation of love and without a doubt and associate a valid mentality emanates from glorification or arises from glorification. Menuhin Beware the minute means it hinges on you know unwarped is like you know, things that you hang things on. So, it hinges on my Newton bullet, it hinges on wood, compassion, love. So, it is not only about the glorification, but it is also about the love of Allah subhanaw taala. So, he he describes you know, to be this, like this outcome result byproduct it is not the byproduct but the outcome or result or

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the product of mixing, glorification was love then you will have China's from last panel Tyler and

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you will be able to exhibit in front of Allah subhanaw taala but this is not it, this is not it, everything, everything that every act of the heart has to be translated into actions. There is no way that the heart will be righteous upright and the actions will be corrupted. Right. So the Prophet sallallahu wasallam always wants to point us to this practicality. He said to the Sahaba is the human ally haha. He said to the Sahaba show, be modest or show be shy from Allah subhanaw taala or show higher to Allah subhanaw taala the way is his do his right.

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handers habitat in Atlanta study. What do we do? We are shy from Allah we do exhibit higher

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towards Allah subhanaw taala one of the 100 illa and all praise be to Allah and the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said to them laser that is this is not what I'm talking about. I know what you're saying, and I know that this is part of it. But I want to alert you to the practical training, you know, outcome of this. If you're truly shy from Allah subhanaw taala then this is what you should be observant of. He said to them, place evatik when I can.

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Hi Amina la Cunha

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sama on top of a button on our way into the vet Kara, Bella, woman. Farah taraka, Zenith adonia. To shine is from Allah subhanaw taala is to guard the head or us wamalwa and that which it contains everything that is contains What does that contain your brain, your thoughts, your beliefs, your you and your tongue. You know, that is what your head can pay is what I'm talking about.

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But now my house and to guard your

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guts, basically in button here would mean Gods which would include you know the private parts, it includes the stomach, the private parts, it is to take care of this, and to take care of that everything that's above everything that is below. So to watch what you eat and make sure it is allowed to watch your modesty, your chastity and all of that stuff. That is tough as a Batman woman

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on top of a button on our Coronado Villa, to be always to be always conscious of mouth, you know the death

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and trials woman or other ephedra taraka Zenith adonia he wants to die Farah should abandon the adornments, adornments of the donia should abandon the adornments of the dunya.

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So, once again, the professors are always trying to say that this is what you should.

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This is how we manifest. You know, if you truly have higher, if you truly have higher milazzo Jen,

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this is what you should be doing. This is how you should be manifesting this higher. This is how it will translate. Practically speaking, your behavior, your conduct, even your thoughts.

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Your thoughts will be modest, will be a decent, your various thoughts. Keep in mind, the thoughts that get pushed into your brain that passed through your brain, you are not responsible for them, they are not yours, your own thoughts. They are whispers as long as you're, as long as you are repulsed by them, as long as you resent them, and you push them away. They will shaitan could whisper in your head all kinds of thoughts about a lot about people about yourself all kinds of thoughts. You're not responsible for those thoughts, unless you entertain them, unless you allow the shaytan to just continue to talk to you and you're not basically risk resisting. But the thoughts

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that you're responsible for are your own thoughts that you're entertaining.

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Certainly, if you act upon them, then certainly they're yours. But even before you act

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upon them with your body, if you act upon them with your heart, if you despise your Muslim brother in your heart, that is, that's it, you don't need to act upon it. You can be the most humble person, most courteous person, but deep inside your heart, you're so arrogant, and you're you're despising everyone around you for their mistakes, their errors, their looks, they're this or that. And at the same time be very courteous. So this was your heart that work here your heart wasn't work, or these just thoughts from the shaytaan No, these are your own thoughts.

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And they translated into actions by your own heart,

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even if your tongue and your limbs did not translate and

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you basically guard your head against those thoughts, resisting them, the tritone Will you know, throw them into your head, keep resisting them and keep fighting them off inside your brain and try to do this also externally. So that because there is a this mutual relationship, symbiotic relationship between the exterior and the interior, so the more you like, the more you humble yourself exteriorly without hypocrisy or anything but but genuinely, you know, but the more you humble yourself exteriorly hopefully that this will will go back and humble your interior and vice versa. It's a sort of a two way street.

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Certainly we will not be able to do justice to the topic of chef Mohammed Chanel. He translated the book on hire, it's called the factory hire, which would be translated as understanding the proper understanding of the Islamic concept of modesty.

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It is more than 250 pages. So it is obvious that we will not be able to cover the concept of higher self and we're just trying to address some of what the sheikh said because we can't even address everything the shifts

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So, the key here says hire is basically one of the first steps and like I told you that this is the shift take on the issue, someone else who is a master of the path you know one of the greatest masters of the past is you have the covenant Gilani, Rahim Allah Todd

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has a different you know, something that that that

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that is

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different something that is very beautiful in the article article number 26 of his book for to help guide the revelations of the unseen check of the coverage Irani give this advice and this advice is extremely important for people particularly people who are practicing particularly people who have you know,

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anxiety about their condition, the condition of the condition of their community. So, he gives us an also particularly for people who have high aspirations, you know, there is and people who have aspirations, high aspirations, he said for Sabra, Sabra Dorito.

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I'll say it all in Arabic first and translate. He said for sobra Sabra river river and hula hula hula de humo de su Kuta sakuta sumoto smooth and Hydra Hydra nada, nada. Allah Allah Allah Allah has some Allah and it Raka Raka mother, Ahmed Al higher and higher hotteok abbiati Kwanzaa on camera like some otaku Sufi Bihari

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fadli with minuty where are Rama? So, he said a surplus he said patience patience, contentment, contentment.

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And then he said have that honey have that had which is guarding the state guarding the state after patience patience, contentment, contentment to garden gear state garden, your state, whatever have the law gave you

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guarded, you know, protected whatever state spiritual state of the law gave you a protected though you know because some people go through where which are gifts from Allah subhanaw taala.

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And they just

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they neglect to them so they lose them. So guarding the state guarding the state. And then he said that Moodle, commode and Moodle, Moodle would would be what have security obscurity or away from fame away from fame. And who mode you know when they say a certain mood he preferred obscurity over popularity or over fame and homeowner homeowner, a homeowner who mood and mood or her mood and her mood and her mood means extinction extinction. Her mood is calm, calm or extinct extinction extinction. When we say from a data not the fire went out that is coming at an hour the fire went out. So extinction extinction, which means Calm, calm, slow down, slow down.

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What is he talking about? Here? He is not talking What does he want to suppress your

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energy? Absolutely not. He wants to suppress your the energy of your enough cell Amara, which is the provocative self the provocative neffs the commanding laughs That laughs That incites evil that manifests that commands evil or, you know, provokes you to evil. That is what he's trying to suppress. He's trying to suppress the snake inside you. He's trying to suppress the fox inside you. He's trying to suppress the sort of rabid dog inside us. We all have those. We have the foxes we have the snakes. We have the rabid dogs, that is that absolutely. He is trying to suppress that is telling you, you need to suppress but they're approaching naps. Now. He is not wanting to suppress

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the tranquil naps, he does not want to suppress the energy have that. But for most of us, were dealing most of the time with the rabid dog, the snake the fox inside us with the naps, that entity you know provokes the evil that is that that is that commands evil and Nuff said that is the one that needs to be suppressed, that will need to be suffocated.

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So Alhamdulillah hammoud which is away from fame away from fame or obscurity, obscurity

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alhuda, who mode which means extinction, extinction, or lose that fervor inside you. You know sometimes you see that, you know some of the some of the speakers, some of the

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For instance, you see them having a lot of fun without it is fun, but it is like an internal fun. It should not be that much fun, you know, like looking around you looking at your own state the state of your own. There should be some more

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like, you know, I don't know where you're getting all of that fun from. So,

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but there should be comfort inside there should be strength, there should be contentment, there should be river, certainly you can count on Allah subhanaw taala for all of this, but it should not really be that much fun.

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At least externally. So I'll move that who moved. And then he said a pseudo pseudo pseudo pseudo which is quite quiet silence silence, quiet quiet silence silence you know, stay you know keep quiet, you know, silent.

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And then he said that hazard hazard and natural natural wahiawa caution, caution.

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Hazard hazard escape escape. And Wahaha means haste Haste, haste Allah, Allah. And then he said, Allah, Allah, Allah,

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Allah, Allah, and again a lot. But you know, when I first read this, I thought that he would stop here. Should you not stop here. That's it, because that is reaching a fleet and Hayden.

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You reached him. By the way, he wanted to say something else. That after you reach him as this is when you this is there is another set now of qualities that you need to exhibit so that you could reach finally prosperity. So he said, it's rapid attract, which means head down, head down.

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Now everything will be about China's here. So he said that a throttle, down hit down. His mother, his mother eyes closed, eyes closed, higher and higher modesty, modesty, how to have a big country are taken by the hand, weapons aren't alike and relieved of your burdens with

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Sophie before, and for the one minute he wore Rama and then you'll be immersed in the oceans of his graciousness, bounties and mercy.

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So she has a pattern here puts a lot of emphasis on the quality of hire, and hire when it comes to dealing with a lost prototype. So you need to go through all of this all what he said, he needs to go through it to reach Allah subhanaw taala and once you reach Allah subhanaw taala then you need to basically show your higher in front of Allah subhanaw taala and

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exhibit that quality of modesty, China's bashfulness decency

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with Allah subhanaw taala then

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you will be relieved of your burdens. You're relieved of your super heart relieved,

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relieved of your weaknesses.

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You really relieved of your doubts and be immersed in the oceans of his graciousness, bounties and mercy.

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Then I see a lot of Mr. Lhasa Raja he said karate karate these three levels. Raja Tula hi Anita Allah domina animal Abdi Bonanza ad hoc de la fere zebu Electro Harmonix heavy Mujahidin were middle who allistic back jenaya wave ski to unshackle

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adonijah una. The first level higher oneota Allah domina enemy lobbied even after unhappy like it is a type of hire that results from the servants realization of the Lord's beholding of him or her

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fans they boohoo once you have once you're aware of this once you're conscious that allies watching you fetch zebu Electro Harmonix heavy Mujahid, then this higher this awareness of Allah is watching of you and will entice you to endure the struggle

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to hum will have

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the struggle in life. Why middle allistic Belgian area and causes him or her to see the ugliness of his or her crimes.

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Why are you scared to who are the sakura and keeps him or her from complaining and keeps him or her from complaining and that is for the commoners the commoners now are the people who are

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and Tabitha laka Anika, Tara, Tara in Iraq This is hobbies, you know, hobbies to breed, to worship Allah

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If he sees you, but if he

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but if you can

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see him if you are not seeing him,

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be certain that he sees you. This is the second one the second level, the lower level where you're worshiping Allah knowing that he sees you.

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And then the second level he said about other Sania I only had one or two in another forum, it is usually the scale.

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In most of the book or all of the books

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you may encounter it says the element portal, it is likely an element Core

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Data sorry,

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another element per second level is higher that results from beholding the flags of Uranus not the knowledge of new Uranus, but the flags of new Uranus. Now for the elites they have come near to a lot now, and they're seeing the flags of new Uranus the milestones that they are closer to their destination.

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And once they see the flags of near this once you come closer, that near and this itself will propel you will pull you and propel you even closer and closer further to who you are to become a hub. You know seeing the flags Can you see it like you can imagine someone who's like in a marathon and seeing the whatever the flags have coming closer to their to the end line. So this one fellow who you know Ruben muhabba

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does inviting him once he sees those flags that's inviting him or her to write the amount of love to write the amount of love together with our husband were boo boo head ons,

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connecting him through the breeze of the breeze of owns comfort and intimacy with Allah subhanaw taala. So, now you will write the amount of love and the amount of love is much faster than the than any other amount that you have been writing before amount of fear the amount of this or that, or the pursuit of reward, the amount of love is much faster and stronger and durable, much more durable than

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than any mountain that you have been riding before. But this you will be able to ride the amount of love when you see the flags of neediness

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and then you will be connected you like you will be

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sort of the rejuvenating force. Now the force that will connect you to Allah subhanaw taala is broken bones. It is the comforting breeze of intimacy with Allah subhanaw taala

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why you carry who lie

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and then making him or her present mixing with the creations resent mixing with the creation is certainly expected when you get to that point. And when you're that close. And you see the flags of nearness, and you write the amount of love, and you're connected by the comforting breeze of

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homes or intimacy with Allah subhanaw taala that you will not be looking behind, you will not be looking behind. Certainly that does not mean that you will

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abandon the creations.

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Any mixing with a creation that that is not in serving the cause of your Lord is the mixing that is unworthy of you, unworthy of your time, at this level. Any mixing with a creation that is not in service of your Lord and the cause of your Lord is unworthy of your time. And that is what you will resent not the mixing of the creation, not the mixing of the creation in the sense of coming to select them out or visiting someone sick or going to someone's funeral or comforting someone sad, all of this mixing is in in service is right or wrong. So that is not the mixing that is unworthy of you. That is certainly worthy of your time. And then he said that the two salaries are higher only

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atolla dohmen shahidul. Hydra, the third level is higher that arises from attending the Divine Presence. Well here Leti tissue hybrid, you know at this level,

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it's a level that is mixed with our well I took her in Africa and void of the protocol which is dispersion

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while I look up via and with no finite and so at this level now that you have basically transcended the previous slide

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level the second level, you've seen the flags of neediness. And now you were you know, once you have seen the flags of neediness now you

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once you do that you're right the amount of love and you're connected by the breeze of owns or comfort, comforting intimacy of Allah subhanaw taala. And you are you have this dislike,

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or you have this aversion to mixing with people except in the service of your Lord, you can imagine at this point that you are going to be moving much faster, and then you reach Alhambra, which is the Divine Presence.

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And once you have reached the Divine Presence, then you will be filled with our reverence.

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And you will not have any, any dispersion, this dispersion the flip is not the factor necessarily to flutter is when your observation of the observation of the multiplicity of conditions and states and phenomena and events in this world causes you dispersion, you are unable, because you're so consumed in your observation of the variances and the differences of the of the events, phenomena and everything that's happening around you, that you are unable to see the JAMA, you're unable to see that the oneness of the source of all of this, the everything converges to one source, you're unable to see this. Because of your inability to be to see this you're always in the flicker dispersion,

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you're always having scattered thoughts and your your thoughts are disparate in dispersion.

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But certainly being able to watch the differences in your circumstances and serve Allah subhanaw taala on the basis of what he wants a view and demands of you and every circumstance is not the prep, you could be aimed in togetherness with Allah subhana wa tada watching the oneness of the origin of all of these things,

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why you are observing the group the differences between your circumstances and what your allows wants of you, depending on your variant circumstances.

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And then he said what are you after Haha, and with no finite and certainly when you are in the todra or the Divine Presence, then there is no finite end because you have reached infinity. Allah subhanaw taala is infinite. And once you have reached the last 100 Allah you've reached infinity. And may Allah subhanaw taala make us of those who will reside forever in the abode of his karma over his graciousness, and mercy and bounties. So that's infinity bliss without and, and sha Allah subhanaw taala. Some people reached this before, you know, they, they

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they enter agenda. And for some people, they may not reach it in dystonia, and they will have to wait for it, wait for the hereafter to reach that.

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That level

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now that we have covered with the shift wants to say about hire, maybe you in like five minutes, I want to say that when it comes to the to the issue of and maybe I'll just cross the time by five more minutes. So I'll take 10 minutes to say this, or maybe less. So when it comes to the one of the issues that many of them

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sort of have difficulty with is this issue of hijab, for the Muslim woman. And the issue of hijab for the Muslim woman is a little more intricate here in the West than it is in the east, because in the east. If you are if you live in Cairo or 11 Karachi or you live in what whatever city that you know, eastern city, you have the Mainland's of Islam. Basically, not wearing hijab is more like an act of defiance than it is an act of weakness or an act of

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basically succumbing succumbing to pressure, hear it more than there would be more like an act of defiance. Certainly some people some people it may be out of ignorance and for the people who you know who are, who are it may be out of shape.

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But the problem is the Sherpa always meets with the shadow and when the Shopian

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Meet meets the shower that because becomes very hard to basically correct.

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So, back home, it may be out of defiance, it may be out of Sebag mixed with shower

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for some other reasons that I don't recall now, but he but in the West, it is a little bit more complicated than this, you know, not wearing hijab is a little bit more complicated than just an act of defiance or an act of Shabbat mixed with shower this or that. And it may be like weakness, it may be,

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like I said, given into pressure. So we have to be careful about how we talk about how

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many there are sometimes, you know, in some massages, or around the country, some of the I have been clearly told that there is no talking about hijab and this must, you know, so this is one of the things that you should not be talking about, if you're starting this job as an Imam. You know, here's a list of things that are not our taboos. And you figure taboos, you know, I'm not going to talk about the Board of Trustees, I know that

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I met them and we're going to talk about a job that's a little bit too hard.

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But in all honesty, many memes also have a very, like, offensive approach or a very inappropriate approach to the topic. First of all, what your reliance will be on what after the assistance of Allah after the divine assistance, which is the trophy of Allah subhanaw taala, your reliance will be on your near your good Nia and your extensive, comprehensive knowledge of the topic. Right. So, first of all, seeking the divine assistance from Allah and knowing that without his divine assistance, you're not going to be able to say anything right about any topic, let alone a complicated, intricate topic of this nature. So you seek the divine assistance of a lot of you have

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a line that your reliance will be on two things, you're getting a comprehensive, comprehensive knowledge of the issue. It is worthwhile, it you should really have comprehensive knowledge of an issue of this intricacy before you talk about. Okay, now this is your reliance first the assistance of Allah, then you're good Nia and your comprehensive knowledge of the issue. Your objective will be what to say the truth in a way that is not alienating to the sisters who are not wearing hijab, because they are our sisters, they are full blown sisters. They're just as you know, Muslims as everyone else,

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you may have masie that are worse than theirs, whether you are a Mahadeva sister or you are a man, you may have a lot of nausea that are worse than theirs. And so, you should not and there is

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these massages, we cannot afford to alienate anyone from the massage and we cannot afford to alienate Muslims from massage, but you will have to say the truth. So is what you're attempting to do is to say the truth without alienating the sisters who do not wear hijab and also without weakening the resolve of the sisters who were hedger right, because that is also an objective. So you should not always keep in mind that virtue is always in the middle between two vices. So, you know, think of the balance whenever your MP embark on anything say anything do anything, think of the proper the right balance the right balance. So,

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II if your intention is only to not alienate sisters and will not wear hijab, you may weaken the resolve of the sisters who wear hijab, if your intention is only to not weaken the resolve of the sisters who wear hijab, you may alienate the sisters who do not wear hijab, but you want to do both, you want to do both. Now, moving on, now you will want to say the truth, you know, so one of the you know, I saw a post, I don't really,

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you know, follow Facebook that much, but I did see a post on Facebook one day, someone you know, like academician

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who teaches Islam and Muslim University, he's he had written an article about hijab not being obligatory and he said that I hope that the Halima will catch up with me one day, maybe in 1000 years.

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you know, I really felt bad for him because that,

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you know, it really hurt it really hurt me. It's like, you feel really bad for someone like this because that is so arrogant someone, it means that someone is not even watching themselves.

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The even we, we have a lot of arrogance in our hearts, but at least some of us have the prudence to watch what we say so that we don't sound arrogant. And then you work on your heart and suppress that arrogance, but if you are unable to suppress the arrogance, the turn of arrogance, then that that is all that is a huge problem. So, then at the same time, if you are the vanguard, because there is also in the culture that that we you know, in the culture that you grew up in,

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it's a culture of Lone Ranger's. If you want to be the vanguard,

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you have to be a metalhead at least like an Imam which there had

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to be at the forefront of

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the religious discourse, but you cannot really like the act disagree with the whole all the all the scholars of the dean and expect them to catch up with you in 1000 years that is so so, but this tells you what it tells you the recognition if someone like this, that the automatic the community of Muslim scholars, the entire community of Muslim scholar is disagreeing with him because of hasn't been the case for the last 1400 years. So you do want to say the truth.

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But and you want to be honest about the truth, that hijab is for hijab is obligatory hijab is compulsory.

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But at the same time, honesty about the truth means that you will not exaggerate hijab is not salah and it is not so man it is not Second, it is not one of the pillars of Islam, it is obligatory, it is compulsory compulsory, but do not equate it to silver. It is not easy to they're completely different, do not equate adapt to silver hand, if you exaggerate, you will be dismissed, you will be dismissed. And if you exaggerate, you will also be sort of you will lose, you know, you will have your own agenda in this case, if you whether it is because of lack of knowledge or because if it has corrupted me, but you're having your own agenda if you don't say the truth, so be honest. Second to

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being honest, is to be compassionate. And it is important and this is not just because we are americanizing Islam or anything, the Prophet says animals most compassionate, even with you know, sitters, the prophets, Allah was more so show empathy, because like I said, not wearing hijab, in UK, in in our circumstances is unlike not wearing hijab, in Riyadh, or in you know, Casablanca, it is different being an and you do not know the struggles that the sisters go through, you may have succumbed to pressure you may have given in, you know, a particularly men, you know, I know that the mahabad sister know the, the, you know, the pressure and they know everything, because they live it,

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but particularly for men, you have now gone through that struggle, you don't know it. So you have to show empathy, because no matter how you look, even with your little poofy, you could be a happy you could be anything.

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So you are you don't know their struggle. So show empathy, a great deal of empathy as the second thing. So be honest, you know, say the truth without exaggeration is number one second, that show empathy. Third, be practical, sorry to be practical, which means one, it is not a zero sum equation. It is not a 00 sum equation. modesty is a spectrum and you wanted them the sense there is that you may not have hijab, but you may exercise modesty. So the fact that that you do not wear hijab does not mean that you just wear whatever you want. You're still a Muslim woman, exercise modesty, even if you're not wearing hijab, exercise modesty

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that does that sound bad? Does that sound like you know, encouraging people to another project? Absolutely not. You're saying the sisters hijab is one of the manifestations of modesty. If you're not wearing hijab, be modest. Show the other manifestations of modesty, including your attire. If you're not wearing Hijab do not give up on modesty completely in your attire, or in the way you conduct yourself in public or in your interpersonal dealings in the way you interact with people of the other gender.

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Touch. So be practical, it is not a zero sum game or equation. So

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Be honest, show empathy, be honest, be compassionate, be practical.

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what else and be objective and avoid mockery and avoid insults. And don't attempt to be funny when you talk about intricate issues. There are people that are going through, you know, great struggle

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to basically put it on or they take it off, and they feel, you know, they feel discomfort in their hearts. So, to try and be funny, when you talk about an issue of this nature of this intricacy of this complexity is absolutely telling of your character of your mean evil, you know, character and your corruptive intentions.

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And it is about posturing. It is it's about showing off your piety.

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So, don't make Don't try to be funny. And in that way, using fun and using jokes should be like using salt in food very infrequently, you know, and in topics that are suitable for making like,

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you know, one or two jokes here and there. Not not topics of this nature. So when we talk about a lot of drama, we may you know, you know, you know have some

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light hearted comments not necessarily jokes You know, there's no need to be joking around when you when you get down when you teach or when you post something on Facebook about the you know, jokes are not this is not the proper context of jokes. The profits are Southern made jokes. Yes. But he did he make jokes in the middle of his code, but you know, no did not make jokes in the middle school but some light hearted comments that make the people laugh are okay, but not when you are addressing a serious topic. Have this nature. So have you know that don't be funny. That's it.