Grief & Loss #01 – An Islamic Perspective

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Bismillah you're loved man, you're walking

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Salam Alaikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato Bismillah with whom thou salatu salam ala Rasulillah while it he or Sufi woman went out limb NEMA and found out on fire now vema alum tener una cosa Mian Would you ever do lemania Oh, you're becoming a milliamp hour call me Leia en F Singla Toshiba. What do you smell of banana to Saku banana, bad data now Hublin amulet Ankara indica interval herb, or be strictly sadhvi us Sully Emery wa Lula the tema. Listen you poli, sir Sarah money comm everyone Joseph Malachy for joining us at hamdulillah it's good to be back after three weeks and hemlock Grameen las pantalla accept the Allah we were as a group from Jenna Institute Allah's pantalla

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blessed us and invited us holding the hand and came back and again may Allah subhanaw taala accept all the good deeds we did forgive all the shortcomings. assayed name Brahim with sadness, smile when they are building the Kaaba, what's more honorable than that, and as they were doing it so I've been at Aqaba, Mina in a contest semirara Name Allah accept from us. You are all hearing all knowing what to abandon and accept our repentance in the canta Tora Bora he knew or the one who accept the repentance and all merciful europea Minami Allah subhanaw taala. Invite us All right, everybody, everyone listening to me, may Allah invite you sooner than later and those of you who have not

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performed Hajj May Allah pantalla allow us to have had this year and may allow everyone who wants to go to Hajj to be invited to be me. It's a beautiful trip. And it's a blessing and honor and Mayor las puntata make us and make me worthy of visiting near his house europium, in case you wonder why this subject and I just came back from O'Meara? Actually, it's a request came from you. And many of you actually some of our students in Geneva Institute, some of you from online May Allah reward everybody reached out to us and they wanted us to talk about discuss this topic is the topic of grief after loss, like after loss of a loved one. And what is the main requests? What does Islam say

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about it? And what should I do? Not how I feel or the grief itself the point, but in general, how should I deal with the fact or the only fact thing is actually death, the only certainty that we all cannot doubt and can't argue about in everything in this life. There's only one thing, the only area Okinawa, the only certainty in here is actually the Earth. We see it every single day. It's around us. Every one of us, every one of us. Adults have went through this experience meaning somebody you love somebody, you know, someone close, sometimes very close people went through it, and you may have witnessed it or heard about it, but it's reality and even Allah subhanaw taala sent it to a

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Swati salatu salam at the end of solar to hedge Allah COVID-19 wa nfld casado Kirby Manya loon we know that you are you feel sad from what they are saying file for some become the Arabic when I and you feel down or feel sad because somebody said something about us and this is Tova Swati salatu wa Sana, he lost pantalla gave the advice to Rasul Allah saw to a sinner behind your betrays your Lord. What would you come back and worship your Lord had time to actually attain till sir tivity comes to you. And I translated the word literally nothing certain at all of a serene all the scholars of Tafseer if you open any book, they tell you in this verse, last verse of Soto hedger Alia thing is

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certainty here is death. So it's absolutely something we all gonna go through it. And unless pantalla says this, in the Quran repeatedly three places where he said, every soul supernova will taste death Kulu Neff seen that auto note, every single soul will taste death, and in three places he said it he said to insert Alia Imran he said it in salt

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Ambia the prophets and he said it unsorted uncoupled the spider with different of course, ending of the same verse couldn't have seen dichotomy mode, every soul will taste death.

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And then couldn't have seen that a cartoon mode from NZ honey knotty watercolor Jennifer cut flowers, whomsoever was literally pulled back.

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dragged from the hellfire, what would religion and was and was allowed to enter Jennifer katanas he or she are successful. That's an alien one. And then Allah said in Ambia Kulu never seen there are two modes same start. Every soul will taste death whenever you come. But surely we're highly fitna what Elena to John, and we will test you would evil bad things things you don't like sure will hire and good things things you love you like you love I love we want fitness test. And you all gonna come back to us. That third one, the shortest one inland Caboose, coolant I've seen there are two mode to Medina to John.

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Every soul will taste that. And then you will come back to us. Why do we need to live this reality? First and we are talking about how do I deal with

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any incident in life, we say Get ready, prepare.

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And for me and you to keep reminding ourselves that this is a moment, every person around me will go through it. And I may go through it before them. Only Allah knows the timing. It will make me number one, accept this fact. Because anytime you talk about death in a group, people get so annoyed and they get they don't want to hear about it. Because the only way not to run away from something is not to talk about it. Although it is reality.

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And it is again the real, the only real reality is death. So what I need you and me, myself and you and everyone is to talk about it, even at least with myself internally, but the adults to accept the fact that it's coming.

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And then when to comes and if I if it is not to me, I am going to go through the grief of losing a beloved one. I am ready to this fact. Again, nobody will be ready, real ready. But at least it's not going to come as a shock.

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And awe Swati salatu salam in many a hadith he talked about that. He said in one Hadith and key use mandanna? And if so, what am De Lima by the note? The wise person, she or he men Dan and EFSA took himself or herself accountable? Why did I do that? Why did I say that? Is this pleasing to Allah? If this is not pleasing to Allah is this is what he wants me to do is this is what he doesn't want me to do, or he doesn't want me or doesn't want to see me doing this. I take myself accountable. As they know Omar said in a famous statement has the one Fusa cobbler and to hustle. Take yourself accountable before you will be taken accountable. Was you know American Kabbalah and tourism and way

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your deeds before it will be Wait?

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What is a new love in October and get ready for the big show for the big exhibition, which basically is the day of judgment. So L key is basically the person the wise person is the person who get ready for death. And how do I get ready for that for that is basically by

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accepting this reality number one,

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accept the fact and I keep me to reminding myself and that's why In another Hadith, he alleges salatu salam said, axial men Vickery has the millionaire's that, keep remembering, or remember frequently,

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that destroyer of joy Subhan Allah had the middle of that destroyer of joy or destroyer of desires. And then in one narration, he said a moment that so if I'm, if I keep reminding myself that this is reality, this is fact this is going to happen to me one day for sure. And to the loved ones around me, maybe before me, maybe after me, that's the first step

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to

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cope with the grief.

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I know it is coming,

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that it's not going to make it easier, feeling wise, but it is going to make me

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if I can use the word more ready,

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more ready to especially when I prepared

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when I prepared my myself in a way that is

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is is basically

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keep reminding myself, literally the sooner is daily. You remind yourself that's why he said x zero min decree has the middle of that.

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Keep reminding or reminding yourself of the destroyer of joy.

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The word death in the Quran came in many ways, as I said, this is one but also it came in talking about the death of the prophets. It's very interesting and as a verse in Surah, to Zuma, Allah said the total Swati salatu salam, and also Elisa to Sam recited to the Sahaba

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we all know the Quran came from Allah pantalla through save Newbury, Torah, Swati Serato, sir, this verse, Allah subhanaw taala, saying God was what towards what he saw it was in a community to what may tune you will die, and they will die. It's just not to Zuma the groups to commit yo malcare mucha Angara become Dr. Simone, then on the day of judgment, in the presence of your Lord, you're going to be arguing.

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And there's a lot of arguments of the Day of Judgment, plenty in the Quran. But this is not the topic of the day. So that is reality. That includes not only ordinary people, including the prophets or the salatu. Sinner, in the community, we're in, we're in the home mania tune one. And I'm going to come to the moments of the death of Rasulullah saw to Salam and the most beloved people around.

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Number one, Allah subhanaw taala said, and sort of the MOOC, and that the Halacha moto will hire at Diablo accom or you can ascend Muhammad Allah, He created death and life and he put death first. I love you he hung up or created a moat that will hire me a blue icon you can ascend Mahamaya Why am living? Why am on this earth be a blue icon you can ascend Muhammad. So you are literally tested, who is going to do a better good deed? Better deeds.

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We are not here in this life, to have fun to enjoy it only

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and to collect at work very hard and to have bigger homes and more cars and more travel and more vacations. That's not why why Allah created us. Hello Can Moto and Hyatt He created them booked. Reality. He created them both we all know this. We have no comma you can ascend rahamallah be basically absent, meaning it's a competition. But not competition in collecting. And in Who's prettier? Who has more children? Who are more successful? Ayoko assalam Allah who is better? Who's competing more in good deeds and good deeds, by the definition of last panel, Todd?

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Woman ASAM Colin, who's better, better, insane, so there's always a better competition, but in good deed, or as an Edina a lot. This is all last panel what Allah

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said it's in the Quran, the concept of better, better singing, the best words you say is the words that you call people to Allah subhanaw taala not necessarily you have to be a die and give lectures. If Allah chose you this way and hamdulillah if he didn't in your home, in your surroundings word are a tool

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to remind people of the reality of this life. But where are we going of the other life that we're going to be living and why Allah created us so that the concept of us and asset are polar as similar Amanda amino acid no Dina Halaqaat motohio He created death and life. Allah subhanho wa Taala also said so to search the the surah that we normally read it sooner. I shouldn't say normally, the sooner to read it on Joomla in federal search the polyether Falco molecule noting that the Wookiee that become the Angel of Death is going to take you back that one

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that's assigned to you. It takes you back to again, it'll affect molecule note, the angel of death will take you back that angel of death that was assigned to you into a fact molecule not let you work your vehicle to a natural John, you will come back to us. That's the sort of to center and that I looked at there's a lot of

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verses in the Quran, one verse we live with daily, sometimes more than once a day. But we do look at it as reality of death.

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Absolutely.

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In every single day, each human being almost everyone

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go through small or minor death. And that's actually sleeping.

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Who doesn't sleep in the day? Or who has two or three days with not without sleeping we can survive as a human being. And Allah said this and sorta Zoomer also in the group. Allah who used to often emphasize Hina Mutya will let him Thomet prima naamyaa Palooza, Coletti Acaba, la Mota while you're sitting in Jerry mucem. And then he ends it in a few then can you call me a tougher call? Let's translate a wahoo yet often unforce Allah take back souls

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in two cases, Hina motiva at time of death. When that Unum Thomet Shimanami. And those who just has not yet the time of death has not yet come to them when they are sleeping.

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So that's the real, the major one and the minor death or the small death or the transient, that steeping. And then what does the vs.

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For UMC Qulity Kobani Helmont, he will keep with him, the soul, that the time of death has came, come to it. So the death, the real death, and sleep minor death in took in these two cases, the soul leaves the body and go the loss pantalla in a way we don't know in the Ingelheim

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and then what happens? Those who Allah spawn Tada have decreed that death is the time for that, that's all stays with Allah subhanaw taala those human beings, you and me, still, time have that has not come yet. So the soul comes back. And even scientifically, they waited the human being, when they are sleeping, and when they are not sleeping, that person when they sleep, they are lighter in weight. Subhanallah and enough, Allah said it.

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So the one who does the time of death did not come yet. For years POC Qulity Kabale remote, the soul, that of that person who that has come to him or her, the soul stays with Allah when you're seeing her send the other one back. And Allah says, in FE Darrick, in this phenomena, daily phenomena that we all go through, sometimes more than once a day.

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If this phenomenon is a sign the economy at a calm, it is a sign for those who reflect, think, comprehend, learned.

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Every single day, I go through it, I see it. I see it with the people around me, I see it with my child. I see it with my spouse, I see it with my parents, I see it with my children or my spouse or my siblings, it's there. But we don't think about it.

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We don't conduct it. And that's why when the real death comes in, it's a huge impact. It's a huge shock. Versus if I am looking at it every single day when I see somebody sleeping, I will say

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small death.

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When I wake up and this is why our Swati salatu salam taught us that you are one of the doulas when we wake up when we wake up from sleep, and hamdulillah lady Jani that Mr. Martin or the piano bad Mr. Mr. Turner, whether you can assure all Praise to Allah who gave us life after he made us die? I was sleeping after he make us duck waiting him to shore and to him resurrection to Him belong resurrection.

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Londoner the piano bad Mr. Martin

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and when we go to sleep

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Also the DUA this application Rasul Allah salatu salam totters What did he tell us when we go to to miss Mika Allahumma robot to Giambi by your name your Allah I'm putting my side

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will be cut on foul and by your name I'll wake up and then you say Fein M sector Rohit if you're gonna keep my soul with you for Hummer you're making dua for yourself for Hummer blesseth your shower your mercy on it. We're in our CELTA, if you're going to bring it back,

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like I'm going to wake up Fafa we might come at a fork of emetophobia about the casada hey, if I'm gonna wake up my soul, Allah will bring it back. Then your law you're making for yourself, y'all know, God, protect this soul, this human being the way you protect your righteous people. So every single day phenomena, we go through it, small death, minor death, should remind me of the reality should remind me that this reality is happening. Sooner or later. I need to get ready.

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Getting ready. Number one, getting ready is actually by accepting the fact accepting the fact

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it is coming sooner or later today. Allah knows. Tomorrow, five years, next month. Allah knows how many people you know, I know. They are not with us. And they will and they were with us last month, six months ago. Last Ramadan.

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So that is in the Quran. Or rasool Allah salatu salam ala Seto in the community, we're in the mail today. You're going to die and they all will die. Allah subhanaw taala said Have I saved their poop. I'm going to shahada is Javier COVID mount. You were witnessing when you are who say now called prophet

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death, king to him. Shade now, dude, Allah also said this. Allahu Monticello. Costner Hatim Absolutely, y'all wanna give us a good and your OB I mean I loved it. One of the sisters had made a lot of awards and put it on the chart. And it's a beautiful day Ah, yes, your Allah give us the good end. The whole idea is the the end. It doesn't matter how I am going to live or how I am going to die. However, the person and that's also solely salatu salam said it is the way we live, the way we die. This is why we need to live

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on the path of Allah with his obedience so the death come to me in any time I am in the path of obedience to Allah spontan Sade Nadal road

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and Allah also said, Palma de la mala Moti Illa. De but will auditor apollomon setter. They didn't know the st. Nadal would died. Only one because he still stayed. And his leaning on his stick to the

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stick was actually eaten by moth and then the stick fell and he fell. That's how they know. So if the Prophets the most beloved

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creatures to Allah subhanaw taala and the most beloved ones, even a Brahim most beloved ones, they now are Swati. Salatu Salam died, then for sure you and me are dying. And we're going to be dying. There is no question about it.

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The moment of swatting salatu salam

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as he was dying, there's many a hadith about that. But that tells you and there is a reason why these these sayings of him came to us it reached us. And this hadith of Roswaal risotto was actually narrated by Seder Ayesha, she was with him and she said, Oh, Swati salatu salam, as he was dying, he was holding in his hand. And he salatu salam, a container of leather, or a container, a container of wood or leather.

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And that container has water.

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And he used to put his hand in this container, and then wipe his face. And he used to say, in motorcycle rot.

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Indeed, death has moments of agony,

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pain, imagine this is also at the software center,

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puts in his hands in this container and then wipe his face. And he used to say in the multi Sakura death has agony

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Pain. Imagine him Subhana may Allah be pleased.

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Peace and blessings of Allah is upon him. And in the same moment his, his daughter Fatima was around him. You can imagine that moment. Anytime you hear about someone who's so

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close or you love or someone who really their death is a huge loss, has many scholars tells you there is no calamity that has been folded the Muslim ummah

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anything equal to the death of Roswaal de Sala Tosa.

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And I cannot even start to think to imagine if I and you were there, living with him, and he salatu salam, learning from him have the blessings of his presence, let alone the baraka of the Quran, in all the beauty and the changes. And then he got he's gone. He's gone. And this is where the see the Fatima Subhanallah his daughter most beloved, and she was next to him when he was dying.

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And she and she used to say, Wow, Cordoba Yeah. Whoa. And she used to say, Oh, how distressed you are daddy. This is a daughter. Because she was again, going through all this. And he responded, your father has no more distress after now.

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This is when you look at death, that you're going to go and meet Allah, that you're going to be in Jannah What is this life? So he was telling her Your father has no more distress after today. Meaning after he died. Lisa, Allah Viki current battling, there's no distressed there's no worry, there's no soil done.

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Then, when she when he died, she was there. CDF ultimo is there. Sahaba. Were there when he died, and he Salatu was sinner? She said, Yeah, butter, daddy, a Jabra bath, a jabber banda. He responded to a Lord who called him. And then she said, yeah, a butter manger net men generated for dosi Manoir daddy.

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The fifth dose garden is his place. She was imagined and you really have to feel this. This is a daughter and a father but what a daughter what a father, the fathers of a Swati salatu salam. And she said Daddy, to debris to debris. I I say you died. And then when they took him to bury him.

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Imagine this. Who are we? It's very painful. That is very painful. There's no doubt about that. It's probably the most painful moment when you lose someone you love. But imagine that was over so early Serato Sara.

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So when they came back, she looked at us sadness when they came back from a barrier. She said Keifa Taavet lacuna. So come and talk to us a tour OB and a lot of Sula, a tour of how could you do it?

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How did your souls let you Subhan Allah put dust on it was what is AUTOSAR

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this Yanni, all of us will say the same thing. And they responded that's when your Eman comes in. And, and look what they said. This is what he taught us.

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This is what he taught us to do.

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And we will do it Subhan Allah, what else more SOTL more pain than losing the Rasul Allah salatu salam.

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Having said that, having that said that, that doesn't mean death is not painful. There is no moment of sorrow and grief. And it's extremely important to go the process of grief or talk about Inshallah, next week, and also, what are the soon and things will start with a little bit today. But we'll continue also next week, and Roswaal who salatu salam also, he said the following.

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And this is now what we're going to learn. We need to memorize these doulas. So when the moment of death comes in, these comes to me and definitely will calm me down. And look what he said that he sought to set up. And this is actually almost Sonoma, Sonoma, his wife before she married her Rasul Allah salatu salam, her husband of selama died. And Osama was one of the best husbands of course before over Swati salatu salam Merida. So she was really going through a lot of grief. And she said it

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I heard from Laura Swati salatu salam saying the following Bismillah What did he say and this is in Muslim, she said mammon, Abdullah, he said, or Swami salatu, sir. Mammon Abdi to save whomsoever, not a single servant of Allah, that we will be before by a calamity. And usually calamity is losing some, someone you will love, someone you will love, a dear friend, a spouse, may Allah protect the children, a child, parents, anyone man may not have to say mama saver,

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he is tested shoes tested by calamity, fair old. That person says

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at the moment of the Muslim neighbor, at the time of the calamity, not later on, at the time of the calamity, says in anilao. Raja to Allah we belong and to Allah we will be going back to Allah we belong and to Allah, we will go back this is extremely important that we all remember this is that we need to remember this is we are going we're gonna go back to Allah subhana wa Tada

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Raja when the DUA, Allah Houma, Germany, primo 71 of the Hiram Mina, y'all Allah reward me for the war, Jimmy, because of this calamity, because when I and you go through calamity, and the calamity, and I respond, in a way pleasing to Allah, I will be rewarded. For the test I'm going through for the pain I'm going through for the patient, I'm going through all this. So mom in here, a servant, tested by a test and masiva here carnality is loss of life.

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And they say in an inaccurate Natalie Hirado to Allah we belong and to Allah Who will go back along that journey, if you must be back to your loving word for my loss, what lovely Hiram Mina and replace it with something better.

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And replace it with something better area, that Allah will will reward him for this calamity. And he will give him better. And when I say that almost cinema,

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lost her husband. And she was so sad and crying. And he was amazing husband are also arranged salatu salam taught her this dua taught her to say this, and what the Allah gave her after a portion of a Swati sought after Sarah. So when I say it with your cane again, when I say this with full certainty, and I know what is hearing me and I know Allah who respond to me, and I know Allah will not let me down. And I know luck will help me to go through this. And I know

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Allah subhanho wa Taala will give me better whether in dunya or in Africa, assayed almost said Allah, Allah gave up Rasul Allah and saw to Sam in the dunya and of course, in the alpha. So let us and this is another famous story, actually, wherever Swati salatu salam was passing by graveyard.

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And he saw a woman crying and wailing. She just lost her son, very hard.

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So she, he came to her. And he said he was very, he came, he came to her, and he said, a summary. Be patient.

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And then she said, move away from me.

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Move away from

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the middle. SWATI salatu salam said nothing as swatting software sir moved, the people came to him

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to her and said this is also law.

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She didn't know was there so Allah, and this is her son, she was at the graveyard of her son. And you can imagine? So our swatting thought was Samson said somebody has to be the patient and look for your reward from Allah spawn Tada. She said to him, that that can Nice. Move away from me. You don't know what I'm going through. She didn't know it was. He was a Roswaal. He saw to Sarah. He didn't answer anything. Look at the

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manners of Rasul Allah salatu salam, look at his mercy with this woman. Because you know, what is she going through? Is I'm going to now teach her and tell her you don't know who I am what Allah said, left her people came to her to her and said this is also the law.

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The one who was speaking to you, so she went to him and says the meaning of jasola I didn't know and he responded a Subaru in the submittal order. You

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Practice patient at the moment of the calamity. And that's why at the moment of the calamity, what we need to say right away in 911, don't be Raja.

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At the moment of calamity, you will need to keep reminding ourselves and reminding people around us. If you are a person who are supporting those who are going through this, this major test, you remind them in an inaccurate, Rajan, it has a major impact on human being Subhanallah I've tried it many times, when immediately as something come to you, to remind you of the reality. We belong to Allah and we're going to go back to Allah in Africa, we're in the urogen Allah subhanaw taala said that inshallah to Bukhara,

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and Medina either Asaba tomb or saber follow

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those when they are tested by calamity. So auto Bakara the car call you in an interview? Roger, we belong to Allah and to Allah, we will return all the Arica le Him those who say this at the moment of calamity, and he Salewa tomorrow be him. praises from Allah. What a hammer and mercy. What would like Cahoon Mata do and those who are the guided one. So the first thing I need to say, we need to say if we were the people tested immediately, by last we heard the news were there on their around their

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deathbed, immediately. Teach Yourself to say in any language, Rajon definitely it comes down sooner.

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It's a good deed, I'll be rewarded, and one of the rewards I will get left alone and the after that I will be calmer.

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In Israel, yada Sakina, Allah would send down tranquility upon me or upon the people around me. So that's the first thing. And

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when the loss is a child, may Allah protect all the children. I'm sure everybody have seen. The

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sad story last week in Morocco, where the young boy Iranian, who fell in the well as Subhanallah, after five days of trauma, tremendous efforts to save him. They saved him with Allah subhanho wa Taala decided to take him back. And if you have not seen it, please go and see it. See the response of his mother and father, and his mother.

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And his mother Subhan, Allah Subhan Allah and even those clips that's translated,

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meaning basically what she said, this is the decree of Allah in Manila, he would not be here on June. So Arrazola risotto Santa taught teaching you and me what to say or what to to say to someone, when they lost their child. This is one of the most difficult moments and also adding salatu salam said, he didn't matter what they do.

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If the son or the daughter knew the child of the Serbian died

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Subhanallah it doesn't matter what ages that that child, or that man or that woman, and the idea is, is a parent lose a child?

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And when that moment happened, Paula who the mother equity, or what would say to the angels have to bully the Hubby, one at a time WalletHub de, you took back the son, or the daughter of my servant, pray over and the angels will say yes, of course Allah decreed it. And Allah knows. But that was what his thought was. I'm teaching you and me preparing for your whole along we'll say custom somata for added.

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You took back Subhan Allah, you took back, like the the the

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like the fruit of his heart or her heart.

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Like imagine, imagine you always say my child. You're like you put your hand on your heart. You took the fruit of his heart. And the angel says yes, you are. Yes we did. Then Allah will ask mother Kwan Abdi.

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What did my servant the parent who just lost the child? And Allah would say, what did they say?

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And of course Allah knows. But he's again teaching you and me. I need to learn this. So if I am in a situation where there's somebody around me lost their child, I need to remind them of this. So Allah will ask, what did they say? What did he say? Or she said, If a homeowner had another co star,

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the angel say Your servant you Allah

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who lost their child? Said Alhamdulillah in Allahu alayhi Raggio

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100 India. In India he won the Rajon. All Praise to Allah. We belong to Allah and we will return to Allah. Her mother co star jar Tanja. And if you heard the mother of Rayyan That's what she said. Alhamdulillah Panama, five years old boy fell in a well, it's like saying the use of Panama

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Alhamdulillah in our in the raja

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then Allah will say, This is what I need to memorize. I want you all to memorize because that really will help at that moment. Then Allah will say openly Abdi batim finish on with some more who Baitul Hamed build billed for my servant, the parent, the parents, Beetham village under

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a house in Jana, some more, this house has a special name, call it bait will hand the house of praise,

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the house of praise, because this is one of the most difficult moment. May Allah pantalla not test any parent with this. But this is the hardest one is when you have a parent, lose a child, young or old. It's very hard.

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And that's what I need to remind them at the most at the time. say Alhamdulillah. In early now in the Herodian What did Allah remind them Allah will ask What did you say? And then the angel will say you're a hammer the coaster. He said all Praise to Allah, in and in our in it hello Joan. And Allah will tell the angels build the house, for that parents, for those parents, who at the moment, I have the moment of death, which is so hard. Remember, Allah praised a lot for everything, including this calamity, and reminded themselves that they are they belong to Allah and to Allah subhanho wa Taala we all

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will say.

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So now

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what about crying now? Now we're going to come to the ischemic steps one by one and as I said, We'll finish some today, inshallah next week, because that's what the students and you all have requested. What should we do? What is What does Islam allow? What does Islam doesn't? No. So I'm going to start with one thing, which almost everybody, including Roswaal risotto Silla did. What about crying

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at the moment, when you are just lost someone you love?

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Subhanallah and let me share with you this hadith say not beloved, no, Omar said

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Saudi Nevada who is a famous Sahabi from Medina. He fell ill

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and Rasul Allah salatu salam entered to visit him and with him was a development now inside of the viewer cost and Abdullah bin is old. So three major Sahaba went with those who are in salatu salam to visit Cygnus ahead of Nova about who was very ill. Whenever Swati salatu salam entered sadness ahead was actually unconscious. Saraswati salatu salam asked, according Did he die? And they said, no, no, not no.

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Another Swati saw to Sarah started crying.

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And imagine this. Imagine of a Swati saw to sit down crying. So all everyone around him. They looked at her Swati salatu salam, and they start crying. And then he said,

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at the smell, don't you hear what I want to tell you don't want to hear what I want to tell you. And what do you want to tell? What is it? He said? Allah subhanho wa Taala Allah subhanahu wa taala does not punish Allah subhanaw taala does not punish someone because they cry. But Allah subhanho wa Taala punish, not to punish but the dark the death, the deceased will get hurt if those around him not Why crying, but wailing.

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So that's why I was sweating sauce was CERAM taught us by action, that it's okay to cry as long as there is no wailing, loud voices and not saying things that not pleasing to Allah

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and are also adding salatu salam

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and this is so

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thing will be.

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Make things easy for those who goes through this, especially losing a child and are swatting salatu. Salam, as you all know, lost all his mail or all his sons. So this hadith say nearness is reporting it. He said save now was what he saw to Sarah and turned

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on his son Ibrahim and he was dying.

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Say that Brahim was dying and other Swati Sato had no sons all the sons died Subhanallah so this was the youngest one and the sea level. SWATI Salatu was not young at that moment. So feed net Rahim was dying. Basically, actually, he was gasping, meaning the last moment of life. So Swati salatu salam start crying.

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And also with him was Abdurrahman now, one of the hobbies and he looked at him and says, You cry or swallow.

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Again,

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think of the scenario or swatting sort of surrounded by Sahaba he's the teacher is Rasul Allah is the most beloved creation of Allah's pantalla to Allah pantile. And he entered, this is a son, Ibrahim, and save the Ibrahim is gasping for his last breath.

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And RUSADA star to Sam sada and he starts crying. Of course, all the Sahaba started crying, but they were

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somehow astonished. Antion so Allah, you cry also Allah. And then he said, his famous statement. Again, learn this. So if May Allah protect your children, if you are in that situation,

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around people who lost their child, and you say in the life, he said or Suarez thought was in the liner uttered my

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eyes, shut tears, but now their husband and the heart is sad.

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eyes shed tears, and the heart is sad. And we don't say anything. But what to pleases Allah subhanaw taala and we are for your loss here, Ibrahim are very sad.

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Panda.

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So yes, crying is allowed, saying anything. As long as it is pleasing to Allah, in an hour in a garage and move to hop, this is reality. That is true. That is going to come to everyone your law and you turn to Allah, but the crying in pain, but you ask but without wailing, the Allah make me patient, you're alone to help me to go through this difficult times. We cannot say it's not difficult, I cannot deny the reality but it is not Allah will make this easy Subhan Allah and another. Look how many times Rasul Allah salatu salam was tested with this under how many of us know that he lost his his all his sons. He lost two of his daughters and grandchildren. And this hadith

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is about his grandchildren, or some of New Zealand. He said, We were with us who are a salatu salam. And his daughter, in one narration said it was Xena. She called for him and she said my son is dying, I want you to come.

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And then he said, Go to her and tea and tell her to Allah Lahemaa Welcome To Allah belong what he tooks meaning the soul that he took it well in Lahemaa Appa and Allah also always what he gives, and this is actually one of the drop, you say, when you can dollar someone who say the Lahemaa was really lacking the APA, to Allah belong what he took back and to elaborate on what you just gave to start with your conclusion in the who the agenda Muslim, so he told the person who came to him, go back to her and tell her to Allah belong what he took, And to Allah belong what he gave, and everything has a measured time or moment. And then and tell her to be patient and look for her

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reward from Allah subhana wa taala. She sent him back and said, Tell him I want him to come. I want my daddy with me. Saraswati salatu salam came and also came with his Sahaba sad did know about them or I don't know joven and the grandchild was a boy. Right? Was in her hand. She gave it to Toto, Swati salatu salam, and he was actually in his last breath for coming out of his mouth. And the rosary salt was Ramstein

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crying again Subhan Allah and Saba look looked at him

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to LA. And then he said, and this is what you all need to remember. For Carla had he Rama Giada holla, Piccolo ba ba they were in Nehemiah Hama, La Mina Eva buddy he or Hamal. Sadly, Nevada when he looked and Saraswati sought to surround crying, he just like felt Rasulullah crying. And then he said Rasulullah felted. And he said, This is a sign have mercy. And Allah will have mercy on those who have mercy in their heart. So crying upon losing

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a loved one is absolutely allowed, as long as it is no wailing, not saying things that is not pleasing to Allah, as long as there's not excessive and to the point that is hurting that person. And if you come to medicine, and if you come to the grief process,

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the healthiest thing, that's the person who goes through loss or grief, is actually to show it gets very healthy. You worry about people who doesn't show their emotions, because it's not natural. It's also a sort of salaam cried about us. And when you don't show it, that's when you start to worry. And that's what people suffer. And the grief process takes longer. So being patient doesn't mean I am not going to cry. Being patient, doesn't mean I'm not going to cry. I'm gonna cry, but I'm still patient, but I'm not going to complain. I'm not going to be saying why me? What did I do? Why did he test me this way? I never question the wisdom of Allah subhanaw taala because I don't know anything.

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How do I know anything about the knowledge of Allah subhanho wa Taala and inshallah we will stop here and then the evening. Next week we will continue at the process. Death, graveyard, visiting the death all the Islamic concept of it may Allah subhanho wa Taala make us among those. Your BME who, when they listen to the words of admission I am number one to remember it and to

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act by it may Allah subhanho wa Taala does not your own BME will not test us in anything that we are unable to handle from now to that caulifla Mala Takata Nabee urine we don't test us in something we cannot May Allah subhanho wa Taala make us of those. When they are tested, they will be the best servants of Allah subhanho wa Taala and they turn this test and this calamity to a gift as because the scholars will say every test is in it. There is a gift and may Allah subhanaw taala make us see the gift in spite of all this difficulty and test and turn it for us in the era that we will look at it and say Alhamdulillah with all the pain look with Allah gave me your be me Zack Mullah halen

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Subhana Allah who will be handing a shadow and law as the federal court today. So