Haifaa Younis – Fiqh of Adornment and Modesty for Women

Haifaa Younis
AI: Summary © The speakers discuss the challenges of dressing up and being seen as "our" in public. They emphasize the importance of community engagement and empowerment for women, and acknowledge that women have rights to speak their own language. The speakers also discuss the negative impact of "our" on women, citing statistics such as the prevalence of women having unintended consequences. They acknowledge that women have rights to choose their body and that women have a right to choose what shape their bodies look.
AI: Transcript ©
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Salam Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh do

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hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen wa salatu salam ala Ashrafi Lumbee I will mousseline Hamdulillah.

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Joseph macclare For everyone who take some time to come here to honor our guest speaker today. Dr. Sheikh Khalifa, Yunus. Let me just give you a little bit intro of the high value Shala

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Dr. Shiva Yunus is an American board certified OBGYN with roots from Iraq. Her pursuit of Islamic knowledge began when she began to study with various Islamic scholars from across the United States, which includes general thermography.

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While she's also simultaneously attended individual courses and lectures, on subjects, including Aqeedah, filled with solar field, Hadith and tusky, which is a purification of the soul from the United States. She moved to Saudi Arabia when she graduated from the Mecca Institute of Islamic Studies and alHuda Quran memorization School, where she completed the memorization of the Quran. She is the founder and chairman of Janna Institute, and currently teaches seminars on the dramatic commentary on various chapters of the Holy Quran, and their practical relevance.

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It's in our day to day living. Additionally, she offers retreats on key topics that inspire hearts, combining the inner essence of Islam with an outward expression of practice. And today we had just returned from her retreat. And it was

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in short, amazing. Exactly. And for those who were privileged to be there, you know what we're, you know what we have gone home with all those pearls of credential, that the heifer is passionate about spreading the word of Allah subhanaw taala and igniting the love of Islam and the Quran through her teachings. I shall not bore you with looking at me right now and we're gonna invite Shia desert Haifa Yunus to help address today's topic. And then we're gonna open up for q&a in the show. So now Malika Can I ask everyone move this way make the life of the people who comes otherwise they have to go across you. So move here for a lot actually I can see you better here.

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And then everybody always when you come to the masjid always think of the people who will come you one day you will be also coming for whatever the reason little bit later move this way so when people comes in Yeah, and there is still plenty of room you can sit here or it's all the same. Yeah, whichever you want. Come on in mid up in front of me even better. Mashallah, please Smilla 100 Lao salatu salam ala Rasulillah while earlier he was supposed to be humanoid, yeah, mind him now I am Foner. One fat and have humor and I'm finna unica Semyon would you would do? Well, one year old to become an admin lionpaw or Colby nyesha. When I've seen that hash power, the one line smoke or

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banana to Zocalo banaba it had a tener will have been AMOLED and Kurama inika internal hub, Robbie Shockley, Saudi Wessely, Emory wahala, of the terminally Sandy of ugly desert Mala, hey, everyone for coming. I know it's Monday. And I know it's 630 So may Allah reward you, you probably run out of your home to come here on time. So there's a common law here. And always remember, Allah Subhana Allah is the one who's going to reward you. And may Allah subhanaw taala not only reward you for your efforts and for registering and for coming, but the most important thing may he or be me and myself, number one before anyone is that he put in your heart, the ability to practice of what

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you're going to be learning, or at least hearing, because could be most of what I'm going to share with you, you probably know it. But the question is, not only knowledge is, do I do it? And if I don't do it, why do I not do it? And if I do it, then why hamdulillah I'm doing it. This is how we all learn. So that's number one. Number two, it's pleasure to be back here. I've been here before the COVID Is it Subhan Allah? Yeah, and I remember I was extremely impressed with this beautiful Masjid. It's so beautiful Subhan Allah, and it's one of the

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at least the one I visited. You know, what's the unique about your Masjid? Of course you don't know because you live here so you never pay attention. Right? What is the unique about your masjid for us as a woman?

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I think I said that before, you've probably heard that you don't know which is the entrance of the woman area. And I actually text took a picture and send it to my friend and I said Guess which one and that's really tells you that this may Allah reward everyone who

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helped in every step, to make this as reality from the idea to the building to the money to the donation to the efforts to now maintaining it to now to change and our running it. This is not easy to do. But the fact that they are thinking of woman it's really something you have to be very grateful to Allah subhanaw taala and I really mean this. We don't find this everywhere. There's parts of the world the woman is not allowed to come to the masjid Period. Period, let alone you're not only have amazing place and they give you the option of downstairs or upstairs so it's easier for you amazing entrance. But also there is a lot of

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keenness here on woman education. It's one of the few massages that I attended where the board and she and she met with me and says What can we do for the woman to learn? This is amazing. Right Hamed? Lahiru brandy. So the reason I'm sharing this with you is because whatever the masjid offer, you need to take it seriously. Because remember always the verse Allah subhanaw taala said, What a shocker to him. Let's see the knock on wood I uncovered in other English lead. If you are grateful, I'll give you more and more in this case or not say first How am I grateful? I feel this there is an element. I don't take it for granted. And I am grateful by being part of it. And I come to the

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masjid I come for Salah I come for Joomla if I can I come for the programs and humbler now there is online and there is

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On site and what else? Literally I say to myself what I'm going to tell a loss pantile I was like why didn't Tyler

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I didn't have a car I don't know how to drive. Well didn't you have a computer who doesn't? Don't you have a phone? Who doesn't? Don't you have an internet who doesn't these days we don't live in Africa come dinar brand. So the Isha cartoon resident can be grateful she'll this time don't say oh again it was Monday on tired we go next week don't do that. Because Allah will take it. And that way Allah technology you know how?

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How does Allah take knowledge?

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No, there's a hadith of Roswaal de Santo Sana, in Allah. And if anyone TISA Allah subhanaw taala does not strip knowledge and just take it away, rather, takes the scholars away.

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So when you lose your Imam, or your scholar, or your teacher, the first thing you need to ask, Was I grateful to that nema.

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Allah says you don't need it, we don't appreciate it, you know the value of it, okay, I'll take it somewhere else, somewhere else people will know the value of it. So always be grateful because the inertia cartoon as either Nakum you're grateful Allah will give you more. You will give you more will give you seminars, you will give you teachers you will give you right and left what you want, it's going to come so easy to you, you are going to start complaining or I don't need it or you don't show up. I'm too tired. Everything else is more important Allah, okay, that's your choice. I'm just moved them. And we live in a country where moving is the norm. I mean, people always move for

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job is very, very common. So don't be that community and be always grateful every time you come in Medela and we lived it for two years. Didn't you live it for two years, this was completely closed. Like all the other massages. So don't take it for granted. That's number one. Be grateful. Feel it and ask Allah Subhana Allah to make you among Shaqiri that's you, and from those who inner Maya Muramasa you don't know who Phil Phil alasa distance or the Toba? Who Phil Phil, are virtually the people who furnish the massage and it's not furnish you go and buy things for the masjid is your presence number one and you believe in Allah and you perform sada and you and you rely on Allah and

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you struggle for the sake of Allah coming to the masjid is a struggle. Like coming on a Monday at 630 I'm really impressed. You also know because it is first day of the week school is going to open soon some maybe just came back from overseas. I mean, there's a lot of issues and probably there is traffic but hamdulillah so be grateful be grateful be grateful I say this everywhere I go. But specifically when I'm seeing this beauty and and the keenness your leaders for this to happen, I can tell you, and they may allottee words, everybody how keen they were, how meticulous about the details, and the timing and the questions and the topic, and I'm coming to the topic in a second. So

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why do you think this topic was chosen?

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I'm gonna make a disclaimer. It's not my choice. I was asked actually, and I liked it. Because it is really nice to have people start thinking about realities.

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Alhamdulillah you all are nodding your head, having too little. It is a reality. And so when when when I was asked to talk about that, and I was like, Huh, interesting.

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And why is that? And I didn't ask, but I'm asking you. Why do you think we need to learn this? I don't think you've ever seen a title culture COVID

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adornment. Have you know,

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so why?

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What's wrong with us? Hungary also beautiful.

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Right? You're too quiet. I'm worried.

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Why is that? Why you're scared to say what's reality is?

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Why do you think we need to study? Why did you show up?

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Because you want to learn? Learn about what?

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Combined Bismillah

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yella for Han was Willa.

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So these days, it's extremely difficult to stay modest. Because of all the influences we have true or false. The statement if you haven't examined this statement comes in true or false.

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Very true or very, very true. Very, very true. Right. The Influencers, the YouTubers, and the Hollywood stars, the movies, what do they spread?

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Right and I'm

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Okay, about only the way we look, I'm not talking about anything else, because that's our topic. What do they spread? What do they make? It's so beautiful.

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It's like a woman wearing beautiful hijab and abaya right? And under it is like, wow, Mashallah.

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I wish they will not be having this seminar, right? Unfortunately, it's a time and this is, unfortunately, and I look at it as Allah who will reward me more, because it's a difficult time. And if I say it's an easy time, then I'm living. As you all heard me in the retreat in the lala land. I'm living in my own world, and it is not reality. Everything around you. And those of you who are working woman, you probably see this what if you if you don't work, and but you work at home, or you take your children to school, and you see this, everybody talks about? Beauty and how to beautify yourself

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in this way, or that way, dress code, what is the fashion? What is the color what is then the newest way of dress wearing this or wearing that? And that's one issue. And the other issue is what?

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Literally, this is angels, I don't think I need this for this course and the city.

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What is the other things woman are doing these days? And Muslim moments and young and old?

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I should show you the list of the questions I received.

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What is it changing the creation of Allah? Right? Why there are so many questions about Botox, or there's so many questions about plastic surgeons. Why?

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Because that's reality.

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So that's another things that we are bombarded.

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That's the standards of beauty has changed us for this week. It's all agree. The standards of beauty has changed true or false? Right? Especially the US, May Allah help length are honest. Because the way that people will tell you your beautiful is not the same way 10 years ago, or 20 or 30 or 41. And we are all woman and we have to agree on this and accept the fact we all wants to look beautiful.

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It's something in us and you all smile when someone looks at you and says you're so beautiful. You're gonna get upset and of course you're going to smile, and it's going to be even your be more happier. When someone looks at you. You're beautiful and your daughter is even more beautiful.

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I always say this to my friends and my patients. I was like the only woman that's happy when she is told some another woman is prettier than her. It's her daughter.

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That's it. Anyone else Don't say it. So beauty is something that we are bombarded we are it's becoming ideal. It's becoming like the idol. Like this is what I want to be everybody wants to be beautiful, everybody everyone wants to be better than everyone the way they look the way they dress. external beauty. And the sad part which I'm going to come to which in a second

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is there is no emphasis on

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internal beauty.

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No one

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like me as an individual when I'm standing in front of the mirror as a woman which we all do, and I look at the mirror, the question is always do I look nice? Is that looks fine. Do I need to do this or do that? But I never asked myself does my heart looking beautiful?

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Does my heart look crystal clear?

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This is my heart shining.

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And what does Allah subhanaw taala look at? And we shared this hadith in the retreat in Allahu Allah Yun Rowena so what

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we're lacking yonder inocula will become more magical. Allah does not look at your external look. Or my external look our my the shape of my body. Rather he looks at my deeds in my heart.

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And now put these together. Put them on to like scale on a scale one side of the scale and the other and see where is the emphasis as woman where it is the emphasis.

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And this orange that is external beauty. Am I right? Am I correct? Do we emphasize on our internal beauty? Yes or no?

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I love video No.

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It's so honest because this reality. No. Right? We don't right? How many people look at you and says how does your heart feel this morning? Do you have a lot of anger and right but everybody looks at like ah your skin is shining today. What cream you use? Right? What did you do last night? I think you slept a good night you had a good night's sleep because your face is shining. Now

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It's how we're here. Right? Or when you come and you had something different, don't you look at everybody waiting.

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It's like nobody compliment. And you were looking for the compliment. So what do you say? Do you see anything different in me?

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natural, normal, I'm not going to say this is abnormal, but a human with a woman. But the infant, the emphasis shouldn't be on this. The emphasis should be on beauty internal. That's the first thing I want to let's let's agree on. Before I come to the beauty I'm going to put I'm going to discuss the second part of the title. In fact, I added the second part of the title. Because if I have the second part, the first part becomes very easy. And I want you all to give me your heart and brain. So what was the title? Of I think you have the title in front of you. Can anybody read it for me? Because I can't see the screen.

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So first off adornment and modesty, I am going to turn it around, and I'm going to start talking about modesty. Before I speak, and I want you to talk to me, all of you. What is the relationship between modesty and beauty?

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And why do I have to put them together? Anyone?

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Think with me, and this is going to help you make life easy. Let's put it this way. What is the relationship between modesty and fit cough beauty?

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Is okay, let's make it even easier. Is there a relationship? Of course otherwise, there wouldn't be the title by hamdulillah what is the relationship?

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I can't hear you.

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So modesty related to internal beauty. True, but I am gonna say well, modesty related to external beauty. Let's make our life easy. Because that's what we focus on. Right? So is it related to external beauty?

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Yes or no? Perfect. Now the question is help.

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This is really tough question. I'll give you a question answers before I start. What is the relationship Think with me?

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Anyone gave up?

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If I have it,

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the second one, the standards of the beauty will change.

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I'm still going to be looking beautiful outside.

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But what defined beauty outside will change one

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and which standards I am going to follow to be beautiful.

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Second, I want you all to think with me now I'm giving you clues.

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So if I have it, someone I look at you and say Masha Allah, she has higher. That's what modesty, one of the translations. So higher she has here.

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What do I see external?

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And then I'm going to come and talk to you about what is all this higher about? If I say this woman has higher look at me and said she has higher What did you see in me? Or what did I see in you that I qualify? Or you qualify for that term? Yes, whatsoever.

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I will not put the word shyness because people misuse this word, specially in this society. Because shyness in this society is defined as weakness. So I agree with you, and I know what you meant, but I'm gonna put it on the side. Let's say the second part you said.

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So the person who has higher

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and I'm just telling you what she said, and tell me if you agree, is not interested in attracting the attention of people true or false.

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So I don't want to be noticed. I don't want to look beautiful.

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Like I'm 1670

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I'm really working on your brain today, right handed. Because this is exactly how you look at things. You literally have to slice it

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unless you sliced it. And unless you look at every angle of it, applying it is not easy. I can give you all the lectures and all the work that the Hadith and the ayat and then you're going to okay fine and you go out and you go to reality, but you need to really slice it one by one. So that when you look at someone and say this woman, and it's usually usually defined woman or defined by this character, by the way, it's not only woman because of us why I think it's obvious why they sought to serve who said I'll hire Jamie. Our hire or her son actually. Modesty is beautiful is x

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And then but in woman is even more, which tells you it's in both. But let's focus on woman and we're focusing on the external today because it has so many results.

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These are all the questions you said.

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I think I'll miss my flight tomorrow morning. Look at that. They see this it's back and forth

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does that unlock it? Okay.

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Let's see what Allah will open I'm sure a lot of these questions once you understand the concept, you're not going to ask halal or haram anymore and this is what I asked Allah subhanaw taala to make me speak because if you know the concept and you know what Allah wants from you, then the question of Halal and Haram is going to be much easier to to answer by yourself. So the question is higher is a concept in Islam true or false? Okay, is it in the Quran?

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This is the first thing anything you learn, always ask yourself, is it in the Quran? Yes or no? hamdulillah who was described the word higher used? And it's a woman

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yes, no Seder Maria was not which is so interesting. Because her her main character of Seder Maria was her obedience to Allah and our submission to Allah so of course she is but she's here

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so you know, Musa was described

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I heard say that Musa

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so go to salotto, castles, the stories, right? And it's in the beginning of the story, where say, you know, Musa left Egypt, because he was so scared, he will be killed. And he went to Meridian. And he came to the place where they were, well, or there was a water, and then they were men collecting the water. You know the story, right? And then he noticed this to a woman. They are not getting there. They're not getting closer. Why they need the water. And he asked her, right, Paula Talon, Miss Linda ski Hatta used Rhonda, Warner Shea Huckabee, they looked at him and says we're not getting close, until all these men move.

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Number one, look at this. These two women, they did not come they need the water because they said then and our father is an old demand meaning he cannot get come we have to do it. But we're not going to go and be with all these men let them finish and then we are doing it and then say no Musa

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Musa did it for them. And then he went to the site. Then the word higher come

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down home item she Allah Sofia,

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one of them. And we don't know who she her name is not even mentioned, the issue is not the name.

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And this I'm going to just put a second stop here and ask you when someone mentioned your name, and don't answer me, this is just for you to think what is the next word, we'll come to it not your father name. I'm talking about description.

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So when somebody says sorry, I don't know if there is any Salah in the school, but when somebody says sorrow, what is the next description?

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And this is what you need to ask yourself. Is it the description of these are the two daughters of sadness? Right.

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And they can't one of them Giotto if Dharma one of them we don't know even her name 10 She Alistair here, she's walking with modesty.

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Yanni there is no other description. A woman needs to be described in the Quran. But that one, what does that tell you?

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What does that tell you? This is your Creator on mine.

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And he created them and he created Satan and Musa and this is his words. When he described this, this woman coming to say you know Musa, and by the way, she wanted to marry him.

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And she suggested to her father that but Allah describe a time she Alice to hear what does that mean?

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It's a plus or a minus. It's a positive character or minor or or a negative character.

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Then the first question I say, am I this woman?

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Do I want to be that woman?

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Do you want to be

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yes or no?

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This is to

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okay, it's up to you. For me, absolutely. I want I want Allah to describe me the same way you describe that woman. It's your choice. I mean, in one reading, they said because we had to do Homa Aleister here in terms she Allah says

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Aoife call it and then she said, so she was walking with modesty she came to him to say you know Musa, and she said, Our father, my father is inviting you. And when reading is as the here in for all it is when she was talking to him, she was talking to him with modesty.

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So the first thing I want you to know that this modesty is in the Quran. This is not something the scholars invented, or this was after all Roswaal risotto salah, this is something in the Quran, what is the who is the other person in the Quran described with the action of hire?

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I can't, you

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know, not say the use of a minister Jataka we use I mean, the strong, the trustworthy. Who is it?

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Give you a clue. Allah was saying, Don't do that. Because what you do will hurt him. And he is modest and he's not going to tell you.

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Sedara Swati salatu salam,

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it's also that will Zab when he Allah subhanaw taala said to the Sahaba to the companion, right, don't enter the homes of Rasul Allah Santosa. And of course, the home of rasa risotto. SNA is not a huge house, it's a room don't enter unless you are allowed to you are given permission. And then when you aren't given permission, come in and eat and don't stay leave. This is the reverse right? And then Allah saying why said because when you stay, that was why they sought to Sam will be hurt in America. You didn't maybe it's because you are.

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You're invading his privacy.

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You know, we get upset when someone invade our privacy, our privacy is Daddy mean?

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He will feel modest. Here is shy, because he doesn't want to hurt you. But then who said and what's the next word in this? Allahu dagga stay in and help. And Allah will never feel

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shy from saying the truth. One of the description of Allah is Hawaii.

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Hawaii, hola is Hawaii. And this is in a beautiful way he said an hola Hey, Kareem on Hawaii, yesterday, a year for Abdur Pharaoh, Doha. Allah is so shy, that you and I please will give me the sinners, we raise our hand to ask him, although we don't deserve it.

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But because Allah is here, you know, when you say I'm too shy to say no.

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I just can't say no, it's just difficult. And Allah is Exalted. So Allah subhanaw taala, one of his criteria, one of his descriptors is hanging. So number one, hire this bashfulness. And I don't use the word shyness, because unfortunately, shyness is always looked at as negative and as weakness, but it is definitely part of it. That you are too shy to look at someone in their eyes.

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Right? But you are not shy to say the truth.

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That's nothing to do with hair.

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The woman the Sahaba if you remember the fact of menstruation we taught here.

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How many questions were here? Were asked by the companion woman.

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And I when I was reading this, I was like me and I'm an OB GYN. I don't think I'm comfortable asking an imam this question, let alone and maybe Ali Santosa. So you need to know that the bashfulness the higher the humbleness use the word China's if you want is in interaction with the same gender and the opposite gender and with the young and with the old and it is absolutely a positive

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trait. Thank you What is this has to do with focus Xena

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all this introduction.

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You are not with me? Yes, no, you're not. You're not answering me. Some of you come here. There's there's

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this cheers you can come from the back if you don't want to come from me come from the back and there's chairs here. And I can see you better and you see me better

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for you when I am and then I'm going to come here. Right and I'm going to come here and I will tell you a couple of the hadith of our Swati Santosa about higher and then we will come to it. How many of you in this room can easily raise her hand with no doubt and she says I am a believer.

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Well, you didn't raise your hand.

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You're a believer you're a minute you have Iman you have faith anybody? Anybody has doubts

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same question but in a different way. How many of you in this room young and old right and don't worry the cameras not on you the cameras on me so you're fine they will say I have this higher this modesty

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I have it

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you're I'm I'm not even a hand

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i don't i i didn't say percentage because he had a he sought to sell did not give me percentages. The reason I'm asking you because that's a hadith of Francois De Soto some coming soon. None

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Bismillah Are you ready? Don't get depressed. Okay, don't feel sad. He said that he is Otto Sinha. El Eman will hire. Adina Jamia

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faith, belief and modesty are together. Listen to the next one in our office.

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If one is lifted, the other one is lifted.

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One is gone. The other one is gone.

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So he didn't give me percentage I wish I wish.

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So this is extremely important question for each one of you. And don't look at anybody else because I always say this and you probably have heard that from me when I am in front of Allah subhanaw taala he's going to ask me he's not going to tell me what you do do read it it's me.

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So remember and higher will email coroner Jamia

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bashfulness modesty, use the word China's if you like and Iman are together.

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Like when we say I'm a believer, meaning I am I bear witness I shadow Allah. Allah wa shadow now Muhammad Rasul Allah, right. If you remove one of them in Manasquan, you're not so put in your mind this one. I'll hire one EMA and I'm going to share with you another Hadith or Swati usato Sinha, so a man admonishing the other man,

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and the man was telling him you're demeaning or you're too shy.

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Literally, you are too shy.

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Be basically stop being too shy. And you hear this all the time.

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And you know what Roswaal is sought to Samsung, Leave him

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leave him for hire ocular wire. Leave him bashfulness is all good. And here they are. Lovely hire, humbleness and modesty and bashfulness brings nothing but good. I want you to memorize this, all of you. Because unless I keep reminding myself of what's my Euro, soul and yours, and he salatu salam said, When I leave that door, it's hard to practice what I am saying. Unless I keep bringing this to my mind, young and old.

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It Hey,

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be bashful, be modest spring up. Don't worry what they say. Don't worry what everybody else is doing. Don't worry about the time we are living in your wrestling mindset. It brings all here there was a

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Sahabi His name is Aisha

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or his cornea is Alicia Jana masala is AutoSum looked at him.

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And before I give you this hadith, how many of you again, I'm gonna keep asking you today Hamdulillah

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you say confidently, young and old. I have a trait in Me, in Me whether I was born with it, or whether I really worked on myself. And Allah loves that trait.

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I have a character

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that I really worked hard on it. Let's let's use the terminology we all use these days. I worked hard on it. And Allah loves it. Can anyone hear? Tell me Yes. And tell me what is that?

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Truthfulness? Absolutely in a lie your side handle and truthfulness across the board.

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Don't answer me because that's not but when I say I have this character, meaning across the board, whether it is for me or with me if I said the truth, I'm going to be hurt. And if I said the truth maybe somebody ideally love will get her doesn't matter Allah Who loves it. So Roswaal is AutoSum looked at as a challenge. And he looked at him and says you have two criteria. Allah loves

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imagine this hello Suarez lotto Sinha looks at you and say this is and he said when I heard I saw a lot what is these two? I have? He said a helmet.

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Well higher

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forbearance and bashfulness. That's a man

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forbearance, meaning patient, you take things, you don't overreact. You don't react right away. You think you take your time and bashfulness or modesty. Then the man asked him, he said, Ya rasool Allah, what Allah has led to Assam was this given to me.

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It meaning it's my nature.

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And he said, Yes, Allah gave it to you. And he said that Hamdulillah that He, Allah gave me something he loves. That's why I asked you, what do you have? And dig deep in yourself? You will find one. We're not that bad. Maybe we're not the best. But we're not that bad also, so dig in you and says, What do I have, that Allah loves? And that the question came in? And the question came in? Is it something this modesty is something I was born with?

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Well, yes, he was. But everyone,

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or this is something I can

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accomplish. Something I can learn. What do you think?

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So for somebody who doesn't have it, can they change?

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Yes or no? Absolutely. Absolutely. Because his question told us what they saw to us. And that's what the scholar are saying. The fact he asked him when there is two possibilities, otherwise, you wouldn't have asked. So if I don't have it, if I don't have it, don't despair. Because this is something I can change. Have you not became more patient when you are older? At least a good number of you. Remember that in your 20s? There's things which you were so upset about these days? What do you say?

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Uh huh. Been there done that?

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Who cares? And then you would look at yourself I

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mean, I change and you change human being by nature is a changeable and we can change to the good. And unfortunately, you also can change to the bad. So now, next, come to the next one.

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What is higher?

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And what is has to do with beauty? I didn't come to the beauty yet.

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That's okay. Don't worry. After mother, we have all these lists of questions, because the questions will answer all the questions in your mind. I don't think they left anything.

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What is what what is beauty? I mean, what is more distinct and said not wanting to Miss Oh, defined it? And he said, I'll hire

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and tappable razza wamalwa. Those of you who know how to be and another chance to hire, I have this I am modest, I'm shy. I'm humble. That I am so careful and aware. This is how he described it off my head. And what it contains,

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what does my head contain?

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Number one, what does my head contain? Look at me. What does it contain?

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command Bismillah Look at me, right? And let me look at you and we're all the same. Right? So it has eyes,

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ears. And the most important thing is the brain or the why the wisdom or doctor whatever word so higher. You protected these and Tafolla rose to wamalwa You protect this. I'll come to it in a second

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one to one TAF of unbutton wama. Hauer

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and you protect the abdomen. What does the abdomen contain? Now it's an anatomy question.

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Which the abdomen is the area between the breast and including the private parts.

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So your stomach

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exactly your stomach and your private parts. Meaning beware of or be careful of what you put in your mouth and your private part.

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This too, right? And the other the other one is you look at the dunya and your focus is on the ACA I don't remember exactly how he said it. And that's you 101 test coral Moto and Bella because at times and you will remember death and that we will be decomposed

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and Tesco Remo 20 Bella because once you remember when you keep reminding yourself, the end a lot of what we

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The struggle in this life becomes much easy. That's why the connection between hair and beauty is coming. I hope it's now you all are start thinking, Where is the connection?

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If I protect my eyes, and if I protect my ears, and if I protect how I think, and if I protect my tongue

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80% of my problems is solved.

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80% Because food handler bottom line, we don't have a lot of issues with food. We're all eternal handler, handler remember the example I gave you, I'm not going to say to you, right? And then you come to the private part what majority of Muslims have handed now brand, but our problem and our weakness? Because what is it you just said? Is the influence what I see

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what I see, whether I see in public, whether I see online, whether I see on the social media, everything I am seeing these days tells you what

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for woman externally, what does it tell you

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know, hey, period, expose where whatever you You were right, put a lot of makeup show your beauty, what is the big deal? It's my choice, or the issue here. Right? And of course, I'm gonna get affected. I'm a woman. And again, we started saying that we love to look beautiful, and we love to hear the compliment. If you told me I don't care, was like, let me talk to you after the class. Very unlikely, unless you're really becoming so much with Allah Santana, and you don't look at reality, we're not there. And we need to be practical. So if I am guarding my eyes, my ears, my tongue, my my brain, what I'm seeing what I am thinking, what is coming in my mind when I see this beauty, and we

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are bombarded with it. You stand up in the line in a grocery shop? What do you see? You look at the right or the left? Either you eat all the junk food? Are you gonna see all the junk material? True or False? Does anyone put the signs they start feeling?

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Like remember ALLAH, remember, you're gonna die?

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No, it's all about how to lose weight, or how to look beautiful, where they put you the picture of the most beautiful person who Allah knows in reality what they are.

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So this is the hire. And there is two kinds of hire, I am shy, humble, modest in front of you.

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And that is why if that's how I am, when I am alone, in my room, I do whatever I want.

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The one that you all have to know. And you work on yourself and ask Allah subhanaw taala is the higher up from

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Yes. And here when Allah

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that Allah is looking at me.

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And unless I know who is Allah, this is not going to have the impact. It should have my Creator. Remember, we set this all for about 20 minutes in the retreat is my Creator, is my Sustainer is the one who gives me everything. He's the one who is evil of taking everything from me in a second in a blink of an eye. And when I need something, all of us remember what do we do?

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Your Allah Ya Allah.

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Right. And I always bring this this example if you're driving a car in the middle of the night, and the codebook and guess what? Your phone is that?

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After you panic, what are you gonna say? You Allah? Ya Allah, please don't leave me alone, please. And then non Muslims, what do they say? Oh my god, please, anyone who doesn't even they don't believe in anything, they will be calling something.

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So if I keep reminding myself, that he is looking at me when I look at the mirror,

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and I don't see what people say about me, or what do you think I'm getting ready to go out I like I think I'm going to impress them. Before you say this, ask yourself

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always will lie. This is the best way. You know the taco everybody talks about the system. You look at the mirror, and you say Ya Allah? Are you happy with me?

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Do you think I look beautiful?

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And what is the standard of beauty with Allah's pantalla

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it's not the standard of the beauty of the magazines, or the influencers, or the YouTube or the Hollywood stars. It's a complete different beauty.

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And it's a beauty of this life and the beauty of the life after. So I always have to have this relationship with Allah

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and that relationship with Allah and I keep reminding myself even when I am weak and I will be

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weak when I will be weak. I'm going to say this.

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Now I need to move because of the time Subhanallah what is Xena?

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anybody in this room named Xena?

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No, yes.

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No, come on and it's okay. It's beautiful new.

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I don't know who nobody I don't know. Maybe yes. Anyway, so Xena as beautiful me. And what is Xena? You translate it to

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its adornment and its beauty. Right? Is it in the Quran?

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I can't hear you. Just yeah.

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Yeah, it's like maybe I think she used the way she's asking you the answer is yes.

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Of course. Yes. Right. And the Xena in the Quran, and this is what we all need to learn. It didn't come as negative all the time.

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It didn't come as negative. No, I read it to you this morning. Coleman Harinama Zenith hola hola to Roger de body. Say Yaroslava who who made the Xena the beauty that Allah created for His servants who made the term basically why you're making it haram and then Allah says no, in Kalinda Mahara maravilha Hush, Allah What did what made what Allah made Haram is collage for what has she is in decency. But to beauty is not haram so that's remember this beauty is not haram. I want you all to know again, we're going to slice it. So looking beautiful with Allah subhanaw taala externally and internally absolutely fine. But also give us negative

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yes or no. When Allah described as you know the dunya

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a man who will be known Xena to hieratic, dunya children and wolves is the beauty of this dunya okay, what's wrong with that your Allah He didn't say it's negative, but he shows you the better. You all read it on sorted cap on Dubois, while back the other side he had to hire on under a big backyard saw the hat the good that everlasting which most scholars tells you it is a dhikr of Allah subhanaw taala these are much better than that. So now I need to comment I say Xena is not all haram because then I don't know my Deen

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Zina came as positive and came as negative

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now what is either

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which Cena is negative and which Zina is positive

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Okay, I am again worried

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at all you haven't thought of this topic at this o'clock at FERC

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so you absolutely need this topic

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You mean the positive one

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so she she said it in a simple easy way. So the negatives you know very simple you let's not use complicated words. The negative Xena is the way that going to push me away from my Creator. And the positive one is the one that's going to bring me closer to my Creator. Simple, easy. Did Allah says Don't show your beauty

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that's a million dollar question.

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There's there is only two answers either yes or no there is no fo in between.

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Did Allah says in the Quran? Don't show your beauty? How many say years?

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Time and how many say no?

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And how many say I've no idea.

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Ah, ouch. Ouch. Sadie.

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Absolutely, he said it.

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Well, are you Dean? Xena tahona it Allama Muhammad how you learn nothing today, except this line, all the questions in this you will know the answer right away.

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This is an order from your Creator and mind. And this isn't sort of to know this is this is

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yeah, this is actually just before the verse or just before the line off the hijab.

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Just before, right? Allah starts by saying tell the believing men first know what their gaze right and God your private parts. Body Allah

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is all knowing of what you do. And then he says until the believing woman, lower your gaze and don't show your beauty

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don't show your beauty Why do I need to learn this? Literally To me this is the foundation. I don't have to ask any more. I don't have to ask any Imam the foundation Allah says Don't show your beauty and any don't in the Quran Wallah it means if I don't do it meaning actually doing it is haram learn this concept unless Allah explained further it is not how not in this verse showing my beauty except to few people. And he mentioned the few people which is basically your mom's your father, your brother, your nephews, the people who you cannot marry.

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Now let's come to anything you want to do.

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So is makeup Haram

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is nail polish is haram this the second don't answer me these are the questions is nail polish Haram is makeup on? No. Okay, perfect. And I didn't say yes or no. But the most key Righto is the mother boy. The young Mufti said no I'm sure everybody will ask them.

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So this is the question makeup right?

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Nail Polish clothes that will show my my beauty any kind of clothes that will show my beauty changing things so I look more prettier and more beautiful

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what is the link?

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Absolutely no

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absolutely no hamdulillah Nobody asked you

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nobody has

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exactly so here you go. This is what my dean and yours mighty and yours is used the haircut you need to think it's not just a no there's never yes or no. It all depends. Even you told me is alcohol haram

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And I will say so I don't change his answer. I want to say yes, except in certain circumstances. If I'm not going to drink it, and I'm going to die, then alcohol becomes obligation

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becomes obligation if I'm going to die for sure not I think for sure. So nothing is is yes or no haram or you're gonna go to Johanna. So the foundation each woman in this room, and I don't know how many people are listening to me the foundation, when you are in front of that mirror, whatever you are doing and showing showing to the non Mahan

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Why are you doing it to look beautiful? So is that allowed?

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Yes or no?

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a whole lot. That was tough. It allowed you and

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did you get it? So many people you know what this is here also, and I'm gonna throw it here is the halal nail polish halal. I was like you just said

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right? You hear this? You hear it? And this is the most common one. And I said what is hella nail polish? I have no idea. I was like, What is hella nail polish? I was like, Oh, the nail polish that they say that's what you can do your will do. And it is valid.

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Okay, just a second. And I say okay, I am not going to argue but I'm going to tell you as I answer from number one, me as a physician, how many in my career medications came in with studies and they said it's absolutely safe or no problem, we'll use it and then 10 years later, they pulled it out of the market. Have you heard this? Why? Because the research showed it is not can this be under this category is there is a possibility. So if that happened, what happened to all my solder?

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nullified because I have ordered one and they say okay, well I didn't know I was okay. I'm coming with you. And Serena this question including when you are on your monthly period, because that's what woman does.

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I said why you are doing your nail polish?

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Just answer me don't I'm not going to tell you.

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Why do you put your nail polish? Why do you put lipstick? Why do you put makeup? Why? To look beautiful?

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And what did Allah says in the Quran about the beauty

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and of the story?

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Then it is your choice. This is what I told you. It's your choice Hamdulillah I am not I won't be able to defend you even if I want to. Because what did Allah says in the Quran, Allah tells you to was you know, to was raw,

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no soul will carry the burden of the other soul.

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So anything you are

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doing, to make yourself put it here, and that beauty is going to be shown publicly think twice.

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Those who you know me, I don't use the word haram very, very, like loose. Think of that.

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Now, we're going to come deeper now. Because I was asked to speak frankly, and I always like to speak frankly.

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What do we wear?

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What do we wear?

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Right? As Muslim, as a woman who just learned, or I know what since I was, whatever age that don't show your beauty. And please forgive me when I am wearing something tight. That shows the description of my body? why I'm doing it?

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Tell me. Why?

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Because you are waiting for someone to tell you what a beautiful body you have. Right? True or False?

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Right? Or do you feel beautiful? Sometimes you don't even want anyone but you want to feel beautiful? I have no problem with that. On the contrary, it's good to feel beautiful. But don't show it outside. Because that's what Allah said, This is what I asked you. Is Turon to show your beauty don't say yes, right away.

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Is Where are you? Where are you doing it, you want to put makeup you're in your home, go and then do it and enjoy the feeling. But Allah said there you will be Dean and don't show it with a few exceptions.

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Another huge problem we have huge we talked about this morning in the retreat, when we are woman together.

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When we are working together

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you will know what I'm going to say?

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Where is the higher?

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Where it is, the higher up from Allah is not people where it is the higher from Allah. He is looking at me. Yes, I am with a woman, but he's looking at me.

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Right? My Creator looking at me, and he is not happy with the way I look. But everybody else is doing it and I'm fine with that. Is that where you want to be?

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Is that who you want to meet Allah? Who is? And I'll ask every woman in this room, young and old. Do you have any doubt that you will meet Allah?

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Do you have any doubt?

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Absolutely not. Absolutely not. Look at how he is so certain. Because this is true.

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And what did Allah says we'll call it your multi Amati Florida. Each one of them

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will come to Allah alone.

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And I say this to myself before anybody I better have a good excuse to say to him, why did I dress this way Allah?

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Why couldn't I dress the way pleases you? Why did I dress the way pleases people? Why? Honestly, I don't have an answer. I don't have an answer. And it's too late there because even if I have an answer,

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and he explained it to me, and he shared to me, and he told me what was he and he said have high up from me. And he said higher is with ima that's why I shared with you modesty first because if I know this concept, the rest becomes very easy. If my focus Allah and what pleases him. I don't care what my friends does, because they will not come to my rescue. Yo my role model men were on me what Abby was he but he was funny. You call him a man whom yo mama isn't shutting on your honey. The day that you and I will run away from our siblings, from our parents, from our spouses and from our children. Those children that is part of you, you will be running away and they will be running away because

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everybody will be busy with their own. You know what to say that you should ask Look at her hair.

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He was telling her what I saw Alia Saito said and then on the day of judgment when the second blow comes in. Everybody will come out from the grave naked

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Did you know that

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and she said yada so Allah

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look at

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well Jambo Baba Ali Baba. And we will be looking at each other

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look at the higher she had. And you know what he responded and amaro album, yeah, Aisha that day, the matter will be way overwhelming. Nobody will be looking at the other

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with or without close, you know if there is an earthquake, think of it or the quake is a minor, your multi it as you'll see that in Xinjiang, one the earth will go through the earthquake.

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If there's an earthquake, you're going to look at what your neighbor is wearing.

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You'll be looking at now I've seen I've seen let me let me just just go when you are in plane and they tell you there is an emergency evacuation, what do they tell you leave everything behind you

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leave everything behind.

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So what we all need, and then this all fucka, Xena, and this all the dress issues we all talking about? If I just put two foundations, one, he is looking at me. And I'm going to speak standing in front of him.

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And to he told me Don't show your beauty Period.

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Period. And the choice is mine.

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This is the beauty. You know what the most beautiful thing about our D

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It's a choice. We all talk about choices these days. And I've said this many times people always ask me is a Java choice.

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And I said yeah, absolutely.

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And people will get greedy. I said yeah it's your choice to obey Allah or not to obey Allah.

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It's up to you.

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So Xena whether I am with a woman in what is the higher up from Allah?

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Where is the higher up from Allah?

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And if I am with the other gender he absolutely clearly stated now you Dina's unit

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so makeup my hair color my hair? Do my eyebrow all these questions Microblading you name it it's there.

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Why you are doing it?

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And not all of them are haram by the way. And all the scholars will tell you you're putting makeup for your husband. Absolutely. It's not only highly recommended it's even more than highly recommended. And look at us normally what do we do

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I'm not gonna even come up because you all know

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Right? So exactly what Allah has done give me and you were not doing and what he told me not to do we are doing

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simple, easy is it done?

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And what is and we have to talk about this what is he done? Because part of the zine? What is he job? I need to hear it

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what is the okay, because I don't want to get into a lot of discussion what is the Islamic dress code?

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Once it's done the dress code

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you how many of you work outside

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outside with non Muslims like those people ask you? So what do you say? What is Islamic Resco?

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What I don't know if you wear it or not but if your friends asking regardless what do you tell them?

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Say that again.

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I love it. I wish I can answer this way. I represent who I who I am when I wear my hijab

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How old are you? MashAllah Tabata, Kappa 12

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I represent who I am. Why we are shy? Who are we?

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Subhan Allah, I always say this to the woman, alas, it's good to hire a nurse. You are the best nation that was brought forth on this earth. And I follow everybody else, whatever they do.

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This year depends on wider I'm doing it next year though the path is shorter I am doing why.

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Why not who I am.

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Who I Am. And what did he tell me? You know, I in our practical, I say if I know your size, then you're not wearing hijab.

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You're describing your body period

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because hijab is not covering the hair only.

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And this is a false impression on a whole spread that

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and now it became fact

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it's not covering the heel, though. Covering the here is the most difficult part

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Every one of you have wore hijab and before they did not know what I'm talking about, because the hair is the most beautiful part in the woman.

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Do you know why Allah subhanaw taala asked the men after Hajj or after Umrah gave them two options, or Suarez AutoSum shave the head or cut why and why he made dua three times for those who shave the head.

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Because it is very hard, because it's part of your who you are. And the beauty even for the man is the hair. And you're shaving it completely for Allah. What a man you have to.

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So covering the hair I am it's absolutely one of the most difficult final piece of the puzzle. But that's not the whole puzzle. Because if I am waiting very tight, please forgive me what all woman but we really need to know this. When if I am wearing very tight, tie jeans tight. Am I showing my beauty? Then where is my hijab?

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Then I'm disobeying him. Although I put the hardest one, this is why I feel so hard. I really feel pain. When I see this. I was like y'all Allah, she made the most difficult decision. But the most important thing that you told her not to do, she's not doing and that's what we need to teach our woman. It is not covering the hair only. It is what you are wearing. It's more to see that don't show your beauty period period. And you know, what is the other major problem we are facing?

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And I said this in the retreat, and I remember the single foot say Dasha

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you know what she said after our Swati Santosa? She said if Roswaal inside to set up. So the woman

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these days, not now hers.

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These days he would have prevented them from coming to the masjid.

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Can you believe it? How do we feel when you go to Amazon there is no place for a woman to pray.

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You feel so sad, discriminated, you're looked at lower which is true.

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But at the same time, how I am coming to the masjid

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you and ask you what we are seeing these days is beyond my imagination.

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I come to the masjid as if I am going to Walmart

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and this is the house of my creator. And this is the house of my Creator who puts requirement.

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And I always ask if you have this role in your home. Where do you want everyone that they come they take off your shoes

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and somebody doesn't do it? What what do you do?

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How upset you will be

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very upset, especially if they see if they see the shoes are all outside and you put a special place these days some woman even put a shoe cover or they put another excuse me a slipper or something? Nope. You insist on getting in? What do you invite her again?

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She calls you and she needs help. Will you do it?

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How Rahim is Allah subhanaw taala.

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And he gave us this beautiful massage. And we come in here. And we come in here and we are not covered.

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And I you know what I say the Queen of England when she went to his home. If you haven't seen it, go and see it. She was covered.

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She covered her hair. She's not Muslim, she's not acquired, but out of respect to us and to our Creator. And here I am Muslim come in here as if literally I am outside

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Subhan Allah, this is becoming a phenomena in misogyny. What I see these days, I was like I couldn't believe it. What's happened to the woman? What's happened to us? Why? Why we don't look at this. Well then you have them sha Allah. This is the house of mind, Lord, my Creator.

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And he told me there's a dress code. You don't want to do it outside. As I said, get ready for answers when you're in front of him. That's a choice you made. But when you come to this masjid, it's not a choice is absolutely not a choice. Even some massage it puts puts things outside and women refuse to do and they get so offended. Why you're not doing it for me. You're doing it for yourself.

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So please all of you. Pay attention to these and teach the youth and it may Allah reward your parents or teach the youth that they are coming to the masjid. This is the house of Allah. It has a hallmark. It has it's a sanctuary, any house

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He has a share. It's a sanctuary. It has his own borders. Why do we take our shoes?

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Why do we take our shoes but we don't cover our hair?

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What is this? Why?

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I have no idea. Honestly, I don't have an answer.

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Let alone full makeup.

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Oh, false eyelashes, where the hair is like that. And I'm in his house.

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And he still feed me. And he still gives me everything will lie in the hula curry.

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I bear witness Allah is generous. If this you and me

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I will teach her how to respect my house. Don't we do that? Right? And people come to us like it's okay. She maybe she doesn't know she knows very well.

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Subhan Allah and then when you come to the house of Allah, I don't know why if you don't know people tell you and you get offended.

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So there is a three things and I are not going to go to the detail because we will cover the questions after the solder

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and humbler two more minutes and we need to get ready for

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the first foundation is that don't show your beauty. Anything you are doing to beautify yourself the answer you're not obeying Allah period.

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Unless you are doing it for your husband, and your woman who's completely covered,

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then that's fine. All scholars of studies find completely covered. Like when you go to Medina and you'll see them completely covered. And they were very wide. That's okay. But in general, don't show your beauty. That's number one.

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And that's for the non Muharram and then there is higher when we are with women.

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When we get invited to weddings, to gatherings, doesn't mean go out and do whatever you want. I've seen woman reading Quran and she is not not not covered, not covered.

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I couldn't believe it. I was like you're

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too so there is higher with Allah subhanaw taala there is orders from Allah subhanahu wa Tada and there's Hi out when we are together and woman and then the most important thing is when I come to his house, I hate to say anybody don't come Subhanallah who I am. It's so painful when I see it. And I literally make dua for everyone's like y'all Allah who brought her your Allah may come dressed the way that pleases you. Because when you come to the masjid, and you're not dressed properly, it's not you. You're affecting others. This young 11 or 12 year old with all the bombardment outside, she looks at you and says, Oh, she looks beautiful. She comes to me I'm coming and becomes a domino

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And then now come and clear all this. So let us all be and finally the last word I want to say if you are going to admonish somebody, then make sure you're admonished them nicely.

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And you talk to her nicely.

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And the best way is if there is a chat I'm sure in all the misogyny there is usually put a skirt and a hiccup just go and give it to her

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Hollis and in front of Allah Allah I did it and if she didn't do what you don't if you don't know her Don't talk or do you can say you look beautiful but I am sure you will look even more beautiful in front of Allah. If you dress that say it in an in a nice gentle way. May Allah Santana teachers of this era be me and may Allah subhanaw taala not only teaches us but give us literally the ability, the strength, the resolve to do it and to continue to do it. Your biani just Alchemilla Hydra Spanner Colombo behind the shadow Elijah Lila and a staff Hirokawa to booty SallAllahu ala Sayidina Muhammad, whether it was Harvey testament cathedra will return inshallah After Maghrib and

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Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah. Salam aleikum wa Rahmatullah.

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semicolon so um there's currently assisters class in progress which will continue so we ask that everyone after they pray there so please leave the masala from the brothers and the sisters can stay for the class in sha Allah

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Smilla Al Hamdulillah salatu salam ala Rasulillah while early he was a human who Allah La Molina myInfo now on Karna Bhima Alam tena Nica Simeon would you would do a llama now will you be coming a millennium far or I'll be layup shot when I've seen that dish bow or do I lose my or a banana to Zocalo been a bad headache to now Hublin Hamlin Ankara in a cantilever hub, probably shortly surgery, where suddenly Emery water optimally Sani of Coco Kohli. So if you can also move here, so the ladies was going to come they don't have to move on top of your heads to get there. So to the sides, please. Okay. I'm going to start with this Any questions from the audience? I mean, as you

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can see, I know there is at least 50 questions. So there's a lot Any questions from the audience before I start looking at the questions here?

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Any question? So either you understood everything or you understood nothing? Which one? I hope the first one

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everything clear. Crystal

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okay, my eyes fell on this question. And by the way, I don't know who Who Who are the questions she said. Can you explain the I went to Virginia, when October Rajnath. Tomorrow January at Lulu and a lot of woman go out with makeups is a key level.

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So tomorrow Jeanette Latta Virgina terbaru Jinja. hadiah Tula Zab Allah subhanaw taala was saying to a corner few booty Cunha he was addressing the wives of a Swati Salatu was Santa Omaha to me and he says, according to a few beauty coin, stay at home. And then we'll add tomorrow's dinner tomorrow January 18. And don't show your beauty or beautify yourself tomorrow, which is you beautify yourself and you should show it in a way

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too much, let's put it this way. Okay. So he was saying in the reason it was fantastic to borrow Janelia to replicate was very well known, like you say, for example, doing dress the way the people of Pakistan dress so of course, you know it is show our commies, or if you say don't dress the way like the Arabs dress for example, what do you normally come to your mind? Are by, right so it's every every country every culture is defined by their dress code, which is absolutely fine. Why but the woman over here they used to do too much too much showing and too much makeup and too much a lot of the things so then the question is, Is she the question honestly, I have no annual no answer. You

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told me, she said then Allah and the verse is clear in the Quran. And a lot of woman go out with makeup. Can you explain it?

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What can I say?

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What can I say? You know what I see? I see already establish your connection with Allah subhanaw taala

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because if you have that connection, the makeup polish will feel nothing.

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The desire to put makeup and the desire to look beautiful, and to impress people and you know all the reasons we do when you have this

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personal strong connection with him. Or like Olivia Allah Who to me is nothing. You don't have the desire anymore. Like you go through stages, the first stage as everything else in life you struggle but as you are struggling to leave you are working hard to connect, the stronger the connection with Allah subhanaw taala you talk to him you think of him you know you're gonna meet his obedience is number one, the more this gets stronger and stronger the struggle becomes easier and easier and easier. And I'm not saying this you don't need this in books. This is something you have to practice and you see it all in Ramadan. I mean, the simple example is Ramadan. Right? Why do you come in the

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masjid and you do two hours of Salah and good number of you don't even know what the imam is reading. But you can't why? Well it's Ramadan what does it mean? What is Ramadan mean?

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You are working hard on obedient to Allah, you're fasting. Right? Number one, you're fasting you're coming to the masjid. You are doing this you're doing church charity you're giving here's a car it's Ramadan. People keep saying it's Ramadan was like exactly. But what is really in Ramadan is your connection with Allah is stronger. You don't even have time to disobey Allah running around. So the less you disobey Allah the more you obey Allah and you're connected then this

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I want to I call it one of the tricks of che fine is actually is to beautify things for us he swore by it.

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He said that the last puntata said little Surah Tunis very clearly go and read that verse. Allah start saying in Allah yeah in a lot of futile I use struck me well your way out of your Roma June identically Manisha. Well my you should be lucky for her Bala Bala la vida, he said Allah subhanaw taala will never forgive, that anyone will take God with him while he or she will medulla dyadic. And he will forgive whatever he wants outside that. And then he said, Well my you should also ever take another guide with a law book called balaban Allen by Ada he went absolute far in his straight path. Then comes what applies to us. It took us one I mean, do any he let you know? He they worship

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with him, woman or helium? Because they said angels and now comes in what you're doing. I'm doing a healer show you on Merida. And they follow and they prefer

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real hard core if you want to use the word Shavon. And now see what shaitan said.

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You only need to know this verse because that's what he said to Allah what he's going to do to you and me. While color shape on said Let it be the nominee virginica now so you've been muffled or I am going to make sure I will have a portion of each of your segment.

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Let you then it's an in the Arabic language. It's an emphasis in a style of emphasis. But I'm going to take from each one of your servants. He didn't say Kaffir de Baddeck Nasima muffle Allah what he's going to do. Look at this. Well are all the land known and I'm gonna make sure they go astray.

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I'm going to make them wish I love things that you don't like. And look at the next one will allow more unknown. I'm going to order them

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and what they're going to do for you wait to Hakuna Adana. And they're going to make the ears of the Ananda cattles they're going to cut it because Allah said don't do that. And now applies to you when when it um or unknown, but uh you don't know how Allah I am going to order them and they're going to change their the way they look

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Is it true?

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And Allah says or may die the Shavon and what do you mean doing apricot hasira husana Medina and Allah says whosoever will take shape on as his close friend he is absolutely a huge loser

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and look what is happening these days all the blast plastic surgeries all the changes I don't like the way I look I don't like my nose. I don't like my my lips I don't like the way you name it you hear it from woman

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and what did he taught us Allah subhanahu wa Suarez Santosa What did he teach us? What did he taught us? When we look at the mirror do what

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say what your hola como has sent a holiday for has some follow up your Allah just like you created me so beautiful. Please make my email look beautiful. And we look at our self in the mirror and says Why do I look like this? Why don't I have colored eyes? This is the norm these days right this is one of the questions norm these days people would put to contact us like why you reserved your eye color notes or contact why

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you know what you really telling Allah Santana Can anyone answer me What are you telling Allah? This

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no let me just a minute come to you. What are you telling Allah

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I don't like the way you created

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you better have an answer when you meet him

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the Creator a hollow

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in Allah fabric will help you when Noah the Creator who split the pit who brings the fruits and I am the weak the sinner the one who is going to end up in the dust and becomes nothing I stand up and I don't like the way you created and you know he's still feeding me

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and he still gives me health and he's still respond to my dua

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well why none of us will do that none of us will do that.

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So why people do that? Don't ask me I wish I have an answer. I don't Subhanallah yes

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they are not changing it now you have this you have to to know to know a difference between excuse me between changing the creation of Allah or there is something acne right acne is not Allah created me with acne acne happened to me some people doesn't. So I'm going to put

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treatment. It's It's easy. It's it happens in the back. It's very annoying. It's not only they don't like it is very annoying. It makes them ah it makes them feel not comfortable. So she is putting treatment or she is putting conceder to to make it look better. That's okay, because that's not gonna be you're not changing. You're not attracting attention. That's fine. But I'm talking about real beauty like why do I want to change the color of my eyes? I honestly I can't understand this. Why? What is wrong with me?

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What is wrong with the way he the best of the creation to Avara Calarco son ohada thing. That's what he said in the Quran. You only need to all this woman read it in the Quran. Allah says Tabarrok Allah bless it, he is the best of the he's the best Creator. The best. You go to the best doctor, you go to the best engineer, and then the best creator you don't like the way he created you and you want to change it.

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The only thing I say I'm making dua to everybody and myself included.

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Because it is a phenomenal beyond. Beyond everywhere by the way, not only in this country. Everywhere you go to Muslim walls you see the same story. So the norm Subhan Allah.

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Let's see.

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Okay, I'm going to ask the question you answer me. Yeah. Can you Where can you wear fake nails, or nail polish and pray?

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Can you use fake hair? If it is not healed?

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In here

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words the Mufti is too busy.

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That's okay

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let me read it again. Let's let's also slice the question uses three questions. Can I wear fake news?

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Well, you didn't ask the most important question

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why you're doing it that's remember what we said foundation. Now you Dina's gonna tone. Why you're doing why you're putting a fake name? Why is you have no nails at all? No, no, there is there is diseases, people lose their names, right? And then you're just putting just the minimum so you can function better than the streets.

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But you have everything beautiful. Allah created me I just want to make it longer.

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What is this called?

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What is this cool beauty? And you're showing it the answer is lie you Dinas yet and I'm not gonna say I will never say this word. I'm going to keep reminding you of the water Allah said because you need to know this lie of genius. Don't show your beauty Same story with you cannot can I put a nail polish and pray?

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What is the most important prerequisite one of one of the prerequisites of solder is nail polish one negate and plus you are already disobeying Allah.

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Then you answer me and then can you use fake hair?

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Latin Allah this is a curse that hadith is well known. Curse the woman. And whilst we don't when we still see that the woman who puts extra hair to make her long hair long, and the one who does it for her

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both will wash you know and Mottola she's the one who does tattoos. She does are the one who does tattoo for her. That's law and that's the last one is how to sell. You don't like it. You don't like it again. You better have a good excuse when you're the I can change this Dean to make people happy. You know what I said yesterday? I told you the dean is beautiful and full of sugar. I don't have to sugarcoat it is so sweet. I don't have to put any more sugar or syrup on it. You like it? You like it? You don't like it? That's a choice you make.

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But don't justify it. So what I keep telling people, be courageous to stand up and says I like it and I know I shouldn't do it and I am doing it. And I will pray for you.

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But don't tell me it's okay. And you can go around and around. You know, you know like the Jews. What Allah says in the Quran? Allah told them don't fish on Saturday. What did they do? We don't fish on Saturday, but we're gonna put the net on Friday night.

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And then on Sunday, we'll pick it up what does that

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just say? I can say I like it so you may Allah Subhana Allah make it easy on me. I'll pray for you. But don't say no, it's not for hijab is not for what's wrong with putting nail polish, what's wrong with putting makeup and then you try to justify it and make it like what we say fluid

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As a busy woman, trying to practice modesty, how to find time and space to beautify self, for spouse, with parents.

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In laws in the house. Practically I like the question. The question is the answer is in the Quran.

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That's why we need to learn our Quran. Yeah, ladies, it's the answer is clear in this i Where are you, Dina Xena tahona Lila, don't show your beauty except Husband, husband father.

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Or their children or the children of their

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husband. Read the I read the verse. It's all attorneys. Nor I think it's verse 53. Read it and then you don't have to worry about practically however, there is limits with the husband. And there is limits with the

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other Mahara

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and neither is poor. And just because this is public, and you're out of here, but you all know what I'm talking about. So when Allah says Don't show your beauty, there is a limit to that beauty. And that's the beauty. The only one can see is the husband, the spouse, the husband or the wife, but then for the others is also a limit to this. Any there is like stages. You know what I say?

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And I have seen it and again as a physician, the Dean of Islam is a dean of prevention is not dean of treatment

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is a dean that gives you vaccine before you get the COVID.

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And if you learn this concept, you will know why Allah said don't do that. Don't do that. Don't do that. Don't do that.

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When he said don't have free intermingle. Let not a woman be alone with a man. Let the man and the woman lower their gaze. Don't show your beauty all these are

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All these are prevention, which is better take the vaccine or get the COVID

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if you know why Allah said no. And we have seen it into a see it in the metoo movement.

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Didn't we all see it? We lived it. What's happened to the me to movement? It was free. Right? And the woman couldn't see a thing. And the first thing they did you know what in the in the real world, no meeting between men and a woman alone.

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I was like Subhanallah like hello and Roger novembre allow too much like Juan, Carlos Suarez Otto salaam said no man and a woman stay together alone. But the third is shaper. And that's what the one of the things they did. No more meeting between men and a woman no.

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Let's see any court Yes.

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That's a different story.

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No, but that's was from an authorial Ira bargain. When I heard you need to know, there's always exceptions to the rule in everything I gave you an exception of the rule about the alcohol law said this concept. This is one of the principles in the Quran, from an overall hierarchy and we'll add, whom will be forced or need to do something haram out of necessity. Without transgressing the limits. Allah said three four times, so the Quran sorta nag. He said that Enma either. That's a different story completely. Right. But I am living in a country I don't have to do that.

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And the extension of the hair didn't make a difference because the Hadith didn't say about a human hair or an animal here, he said was the one who do the extension. Because it's a beauty. And it's an extreme beauty on the same story.

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Any anyone else? Okay, let's I don't know which question it.

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This is not related to beauty, so I'm not going to do it.

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Okay, so it says how do you? This is a good question. How to balance a dormant and modesty without being extreme in any way or the other?

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It's very good question. Because we are Omar was oppa. We are an Asian, or we are Yeah, we are a nation of balance. We're in the middle. We're not right. We're not left. We're not Republican, we're not Democrat. We're not. We're Muslims. Right. So this is what I always tell my sisters, all my beautiful sisters. When you decide to wear hijab, you will need to need to be to look, the most beautiful woman in the way pleases Allah. It doesn't mean you're not gonna look nice, it doesn't mean you're gonna wait, whatever. And you're gonna not and you're going to look ugly, or you're not gonna look tidy. No. But it's in with this within the standards of Allah subhanaw taala.

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And watch what you wear doesn't bring attention, color wise, details wise, material wise, you know what I'm talking about?

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So yes, this is how it is. You always have to do moderation. In the middle. Go for example, some people say I'm not comfortable with our buyer. Absolutely. You don't have to wear our by who said you have to wear rubber, whatever, it makes you comfortable. Right? You go and get it. Somebody just asked me in the break, you go and buy these long shirts these days. It's very common, right, long shirts, and long shirts will go absolutely under your knees. And under it you put a white pants and you match the colors, but not flashy colors. And then you look very nice and match your scarf with it. And a lot of brand new, literally, I mean some woman with the hijab, they are like so I remember

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I remember somebody I like I was seeing this. This was in a public library. The woman stopped her and told her you need to be a model for the Muslim ladies. What is this beautiful you're wearing? And it's not was not bringing attention or Xena was so well dressed? You know what I'm saying?

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That's how it is and the only the woman who doesn't wear hijab they all are absolutely fantastic. No.

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So look at the modesty dress properly. The question you always say look at the mirror and say yo Allah, are you happy with me? And he will give you the answer by the way.

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This is same question.

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Can women wear rings or bracelets? Good question. I'm sure that's a youth. I haven't I have a feeling.

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I don't know why. But I think can a woman wear rings or blue bracelet

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Everybody's now looking at their hands

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so what is the first question? You're all going to ask? Why you?

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How does this is how it is why you are wearing it? Right? Why you are wearing it? Like you're a married woman, you're wearing your wedding ring.

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That's that's the norm. Right? And you're very used to it as someone married they don't wear it. But if I am wearing all these bracelets, right What did Allah says in surah? Noor again Surah to know what did he say? At the end of the eye of the hijab? What are your br Julie Hina your fina mean? Xena teen do not wear what they called hull hull in the in the Arab world, you know, the same bracelet and the bracelet What did they call it? Eglon. So you wear it, but it makes sound when you walk and also compatible to it? I think you

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exactly high heels.

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It will bring attention. And Allah says don't do it. Because it will show your beauty.

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Right Subhanallah Can you if you if you honestly if you come to this with absolutely balanced heart, you are not to this or to that and just just think of yourself, not yourself think of someone right? And then see what do they dress? And why do they dress this way? And what kind of a heel and how high and what color and how they walk Why

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that's nice one. That means another workshop. Hopefully I can at least cover a little bit of advice to beautify, manners and character

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to be adhering to the Command of Allah subhanaw taala as it relates to this topic is very good question.

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How do I beautify me internally because that's what we talked about. Remember, we said the beauty is outside which we all spend money or time but what is the beauty inside

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you always go back to make it very easy. Go back again to the Quran. And now look at the woman in the Quran.

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And which woman comes to your mind right I

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say to Maria, right? No woman in the Quran was praised as much as she was Subhanallah but there was nothing about how she looks. Did you pay attention? Allah is the Creator. You could have said that? No, I mean, what we think of say the man is what do we see it from the non Muslims. Allah didn't say anything. What did she say? What did he describe her?

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Look at Sora to Maria. What did he describe her?

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What's called flicky Tabby Marina. Right? Interpret that's when Alia mccannon shall

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recite to them. Tell them about Miriam. What did she do? Number one, she spent time alone.

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Remember what we talked about in the retreat? It hurts when at home I can assure you she took a corner in the East away from her

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family. Why?

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Because when you want to know when you have time to think of you and yourself and your relationship with Allah you think of it as like why this number one and as she was alone, for talisman, Joanie him hijab, she puts a barrier between her and her and her family. What is the barrier?

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He didn't say barrier, presume, we don't know. But barrier, meaning it's my time. It's me and this time is with Allah. How many of us have a hard time with Allah Hunter?

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So that I shot Allah knows how we do it.

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That not much left in us.

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But the herdsmen Dooney him Hey, Java, for our Santa Fe Hello, Hannah. permettra Lahab asuran Surya as she was alone, I need you to feel this. Imagine I am here in the masjid. And suddenly a man enter on me.

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What will happen to you

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alone and the man and Allah puts him in in the form of a man a talisman person like the hero of an angel, but to muster Allah Bashar on Surya a very well looking man. So we immediately call it in the hour with over ramen me.

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I seek refuge in Allah in Quinta. takia she reminded him be Allah conscious. She is unknown.

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That's the beauty

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Do I have this in me? What is the first to beauty in her?

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When she is in trouble? The first thing come out of her mouth was what? Allah,

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Allah protects me.

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And immediately for 200 minutes of our Sunday Hello Hannah Fatimata Habesha Surya call it in meow all doober Rahmani mink in contact immediately Allah protected Allah in pseudo because I am the messenger of your Lord. Now she feels good because the word of Allah and the Abenaki hula Amman Zakia I'm gonna give you

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child purify child

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that's how she was described. And look at the other the other what led to us on it for a job

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no name in this I found a fact Nafi Hummer Rohini which are now webinar, I attended Alameen Allah said there's all sorts of NBA no name here. But of course we all know how was she described

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protected her private parts remember, remember what we said about what's what cellhire You protect the private part. That's how Allah described us on it.

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And you know what, as on the third you had the whole

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main bigger meaning. You don't look at anything that will move the desire and you you don't look at anything that's Haram is a suave Sato Salam said, every part of the body will have a share of adultery. You know, this heavy, the eye will commit adultery, the ear will commit adultery, and the mouth will commit adultery, and then the private part will respond or not. So when I look at haram, I look at these movies. I look at this. And what do you see on TV? What do you see on TV? Or when I listen to music or songs? Or that especially if I see two shows? What are they doing?

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And then how can I be saved that money

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and then the private part you will respond or you would not respond? That's how she was described. That's what it is. That's what modesty is all about. Is that Allah is your focus. You want to please Him number one, you go and work and you do all your thing and you're very successful. This has nothing to do with being successful in life. Don't blame it on it. Don't blame it. You have seen so many examples these days. Did you see the picture? The video of the senator from Australia.

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Did you see it? Most Beautiful Woman

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in Australia. She became a Senator for hijab.

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What is the excuse? And I always say this and I'm number one on I want to throw it when I put my finger it's me. It's me it's inside me struggle is in me I look ugly. You look at yourself What did I do to myself? Because the standards of beauty is not the standard of beauty of Allah is the standard of beauty of this company and that company and you know the beauty industry.

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How much money they make.

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You know that Sephora that you everybody in lines to buy from them?

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billions, billions of dollars, not million billions.

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All these products you buy they make at least 75% profit

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and they take from you and me and they sell to us that the beauty is this way. And they don't care about my after and your after. Everything is about dollars and cents. And I fall in that trap

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now this is very detail are wearing or wearing colorful colors. Look at the colors now. Now your answer? dusty pink, minty green is really detail. Right baby blue.

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Considered as adorning oneself, what about our buyers?

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That's false, or a glittery design or about wearing jewelry rings and watches extra or heels? Question mark. What do you see?

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You see here?

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Like this is a question I'm reading. Number one is why?

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Right? And it all depends. It all depends how do you look? Are you when you're wearing whatever the minty green, what kind what are you wearing?

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What is it to them into green, that the color can add for sure to the beauty but it's not the color that to bring the beauty. It's usually what are you wearing?

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Right? And if you look at yourself, and you say this is really beautiful

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then you think of it

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Okay, I'm choosing only the the questions related to beauty

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Okay, that's a good one. Do we have to cover our hair in front of a non Muslim woman as well? Can we wear short sleeves in front of our brothers dad extra? Are we allowed to wear makeup outside even just like makeup like tinted? Love this, like tinted moisturizers and tinted lip

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gloss us all

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realities that we really have to look at.

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Even just light makeup, like tinted moisturizer, right. And tinted lip balms, for example, not done. Are we allowed to wear bright colored clothing that is completely loose? Like a long right dip? Loose jacket? Meaning questions.

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Miss Miller now I know she has he sent it to me.

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Let's take it one by one. This will take the whole

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question as we have only less than 30 minutes because 930 is Asia. Do we have to cover our hair in front of a non Muslim?

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Let's see mufti, you're too tired. Okay.

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No, no, it's okay. It's okay.

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And then Muslim woman? That's the question.

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Yes, no, I don't know.

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The whole idea about wearing

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or not wearing or not covering not wearing your hijab. And covering is your is you are worried that this woman will describe you outside.

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And I will say it's not necessarily only non Muslim, Islam, almost a woman don't know that. I personally was was involved in this a woman was telling me, Well, we missed you yesterday in the wedding. I couldn't go out and remember, and oh, you should see this one and this one and this one. And I was telling my husband, and I said telling your husband what?

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He said opes.

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She was describing them. But she didn't do it intentionally. No, because you mentioned it. Oops.

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be careful. If you know the woman they know, then yeah.

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But that doesn't mean what we said earlier. That doesn't mean it's an open invitation. You're going to do remember higher. Remember the higher formula this is the question specifically about the hair.

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So if you are sure the people will not describe you, you're fine. But that doesn't mean you're going to come out full fledged everything

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exactly. Fine. Can we were we can we wear short sleeves in front of our brothers dad extra? What does she mean by short sleeves?

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If it is just the shorter sleeves, and then things are loose? Yeah, that's fine. But if you're talking about more than that, be Be careful. There's a lot of issues you know what I'm talking about? A lot of problems happens because of that. And cousins and sometimes what they are they will even brothers and sisters so that's what kept saying get higher up higher. Be modest. be bashful Teach Yourself this Subhanallah some of you may remember this we grew up this way.

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We grew up this way it was I was unheard of you do this right. But there is a reason is not because just because it's cultural. It's coming from the religion. Hey out bashful you know you don't have to. You want you want to look beautiful. And look at your duvet and your hamburger bun but outside make sure always that you are not showing all your beauty. Be careful with that. Are we allowed to wear makeup outside? I think we have no but the tinted moisturizer?

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Because she put it like as long as it is not to bring in the beauty. Right? That's fine. If that's going to make you okay, it's okay. And if I cannot tell you are putting that's okay. But that doesn't mean all the makeup.

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And then are we allowed to wear bright colored clothing? Most of the time the answer is no. So if you're wearing a long credibly loose jacket coming to the masjid, what is going to happen?

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Everybody's going to be looking at you, then you're that's not the reason. So usually the answer is no.

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well, what is this question that

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is hugging the opposite gender count Xena

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Don't be surprised it's the norm outside if you work in the real world it's normal

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Does anyone here work outside the world and you see what's right apps norm

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unless from day one you put that barrier as a Muslim woman it's very normal the any deport them like whenever I see you shake the hand and I hug you that's ours normal for for the non Muslims is for the opposite gender this person works

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and is it considered as Xena? Xena is in the Quran? It's used to mean the intimate relationship outside marriage. So it is not intimate relationship outside manage but it is

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a demon we say it's an introduction

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and what did we say Stan? Is dean of prevention

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there should not be there is you should not shake the hands with the opposite gender. What about hugging but again don't blame the other part because they don't know I have to teach them no thank you.

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You do which ones follows

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and I have never seen people get offended to be honest with you. They didn't know

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I have heard mixed opinion.

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Okay, we answered that

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Okay, so this is a good question for going for converts who have tattoos. Removing them is also said to be harming the body should we keep them they're not offensive.

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So this is a convert Subhan Allah Allah guide what in the * happened? And now she has had to or he had tattoo from before. What do they do?

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She answered you should we keep them if they are not offensive? Yes or no?

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While there is no Mufti in this room,

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they have questioned it depends is moving them harmful

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I don't know that if she needs to go and not painful harmful is a different because if anything is harmful to the body, I should not do it. So this needs to be she needs to go and check or he needs to go and check is it really harmful to my body to remove it I don't know I don't have this information. I don't have this knowledge. If the answer is yes then she keeps them but she covers them. And in Islam you had Duma Kubla once you become a Muslim whatever you do before it's time is all gone well yeah

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that's a good question. Very good question.

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It's a deep one something to do about external. So how can we how do we balance having our individual unique personalities while also trying to emulate the character manner of our pious female Muslim role models for example Seder Maria cdai Show extra?

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Very good question.

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Did you get the question?

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Yes, everybody. So what is the answer? I don't know. I'll Google what is the answer?

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Let me read one more time.

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How can or how do we balance having our own individual unique personalities while also trying to emulate the character slash manner of our pious female Muslim role models

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really that hard?

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I can't hear you

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you didn't you don't understand the question? So she says I have my own personality but I want to be like see the money and when I want to be like say die Isha How can I do that but I have my own personality that's the question Yes.

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What's your name my beauty

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and now Mashallah.

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Okay, so you didn't find the middle ground yet? That's what a question

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May Allah make it easy for you? That'll be me. So any Yes. What's your name? ID? Saba, lacrosse Kennedy Serbian humor skinny him i? Mashallah, yeah?

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I can't hear you. Yes.

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I want to hear because that's a good start. Can you give her the mic? Does this mic work?

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Because I want you to hear she's absolutely got the question. She understood the question. Yes. Does it work?

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There is something in the

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I was just, you don't have to try to have a unique personality, you just are your personality, you know. So this is the most important word who Allah created you your personality, you don't need to change it. But what is the word she used? You to carve it?

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Did you see the point? Carve it? What is carved so you have a piece of wood stays wood, but you change it. But how do you change it? In which direction you changed it? You You just when you see their new study their character, and you look at the all the amazing things they did and your character and your personality are two different things. The way you

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being able to help people and being a good person doesn't change your personality. And if it does, it's for the good. Absolutely. So here you go. So you look at yourself all of you. Are you the personality of Seda? Ayesha?

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Are you the personality of Seda Deja?

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Are you the personality of both? Are you the personality of Osama are the personality of say designup? Which one you are closer to? You don't have to change everything. Everybody has to be saved Isiah. Everybody has to be saved if you can do that. Where do I look at exactly what you said I love the word carving. I look at myself What did Allah gave me? Maybe I'm lucky I SHA. Allah already gave me modesty. Why do I need to change it? Or be the Callaghan? Right? Maybe Allah gave me this the sharpness, the smartness of Seda Aisha, I want to keep it. But

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I look at what negatives Allah gave me. I will do Billa what negatives is in me that Allah gave me. I took it from surroundings. And now I come to these negatives. And then I say, You know what, let me work on one or two. For example, say the Aisha how strong she was. I don't think there is any woman in the history as strong as seed alpha, personality

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smartness form. And when she starts to talk about strong woman, but when it came to hire, when it came to modesty, what did she say? After the resort he saw to a certain day she was doing power

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and usually have someone with them. So the woman with her says, Why don't we move to Israel but closer to the cover? She said to me, I am going to be in the middle of all these men.

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That's higher. I want to be this. But also I want to be the strong woman when they accused me and I am honest, I'm going to stand up for my right

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and then my relationship with Allah subhanaw taala. So you don't have to change but you can't have it. Remove the negative, but you can't remove anything unless you know what is the negative. So when people come and say something negative to you, don't brush them.

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Take it Don't say no, just listen. And then ask Allah Subhana Allah is it through your Allah? Maybe I'm not seeing it? Or maybe they are jealous. Is it true? And if it's true show me how do I change it? So it's very nice answer yes sir. And all what I keep is if it pleases alas pant dad.

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If it to please Allah I don't change Kembla hamdu Lillahi Rabbil aalameen?

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Already how many teenager in this room?

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Already? This question is for you.

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How do we get young teenage girls to not to be afraid of putting the hijab

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a million dollar question

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How do we get young teenage girls to not be afraid of putting the hijab first question before I answer is the mother doing

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in proper hijab,

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see what I said? I said, proper hijab. If you don't ask your children to do something and you're not doing it, they will not listen. So beneficial. I say always this myself, I'm going to be like the last pantalla describe the sort of soft limiter.

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Why do you say things and you don't do it. So that's number one. Number two,

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hijab is not at age 14, or 13. Or whenever the * is taught, it's not a switch. And you just standard

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hijab is a hire, practice. It's a modesty practice. I need to teach them from young age, not force them, there's a difference is you teach them that the modesty is part of the character what we all talked about. So I'm not gonna let her wear whatever she wants to wear, right? And two pieces and everything is showing you while she's young, and I always say this to the woman, okay. But then don't come to me and complain when she is 12 and 13. She will not put her hijab because she can't do it.

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She's not used to it. It's not a switch right away you do it. So this is how you start you start if you really planning and you're wishing and you're asking the last pantalla for your daughter to put her hijab easily you work on her when she was young for four and five and six and what you wear and Yanni I've seen one mashallah amazing dresses the girls are wearing, you know how beautiful it is. But never a dress without something under,

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under it's down to the knee? Or are they wearing two pieces like children, children, you know, if she's wearing a pass something on top longer, never things to tie, you need to prepare her. You can't just come and force her What is what happened? She will do it in the house. She lives she's not going to do one and two unit to engrave in them the love of Allah and she is doing it for him. She's not doing it for you. Isn't the main problem we have as Muslims minor Halophila we don't know Allah, let alone we don't know who is who is he and where we glorify him. Look at our Salah adults. We blame our youth. Look at us. Everything is more important than Allah. Am I correct? Please

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forgive me, but am I not? Am I exaggerating? How do you think that 12 or 13 or 14 living in this flood of brainwash, she's going to come and do it right away? Well, I look up to a very young woman who wears hijab in this day and age. And she is modest. I was like you're lucky or strong. Literally last week when I said this in the retreat, like an angel. And I was doing the same and she was in front of me pulled me outside says I want to talk to you privately. I was like Yeah, happy but and she starts crying said it's very difficult. This is very hard. And I don't want to change but it's very hard. There's a lot of pressure on me. It's true.

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But then I need my home environment to me as a mother me as a father, me as a family to make it easier for them. And just don't claim are on you and you're gonna go to Jana, they go to college and you lose them and you're done. So engrave it in them from young age and you practice and you make the masjid your home and when you come to the masjid you respect the masjid you dress properly. She sees what you dress she follows

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what time is it? Okay, five more minutes.

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Practical. How does a Muslim sister maintain modesty while on social media?

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How many of you have social media?

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Who doesn't?

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Write tick tock Instagram, Facebook, Snapchat, all of the above.

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Okay, so the question is how does almost m Sr. Maintain modesty while on social media?

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The why?

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That's, that's I fully disagree with you. There is no modesty on social media. You haven't seen any of my clips on social media.

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This is on social media. We are everything we're doing is on social it's live stream. No See this is not the right answers to say everything Allah created

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everything this bottle of water can be haram

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and as I said the alcohol can be obligation. There is nothing black and white right away.

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And my answer very simple, right. What you are outside social media. You are inside social media.

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You are

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Just outside, you're more distance, because it's you. You're taking the pictures you're posting. So it's not uncommon. Unless you think social media I have to be immodest to be on social media. The answer is go look at all the lectures on social media.

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So social media is not forced me to be immodest. It's my choice. We need to accept this. We need to acknowledge it. Everything I do is my choice. What I post does anybody put a gun on my head and tell me to post it? No.

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Whether you have the dinner party and all this food, and you're taking all these pictures of you went for a vacation and the whole world need to know you went for vacation? That's your choice. Right? You're laughing but that's what everybody does. Subhanallah

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last one.

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That's really nice questions. Powell. Allah made me read. How do I adorn? Oh, she said, how do we adorn ourselves in a way that pleases Allah and satisfy ourselves at the same time?

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Very nice question. It's a reality.

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Me I love to put lipstick. So I'm gonna do that. For example, make dress beautiful. What do you do?

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Everyone is looking good to me.

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There's a lot of work in this community.

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She's saying with ourselves, I'm assuming alone. So this is the first thing you're going to ask? Because it's only a quote many of short question. Is this is a loan or this is in public?

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Can I adorn myself in public and still please Allah?

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Yes, yes.

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It's just uterus with a dress code is what Allah said. But can it be the most beautiful shalwar kameez without attracting attention? And you look so modest? Haven't you seen people who looks so beautiful and nice and they are dressed properly? But they don't turn heads?

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And that you don't look at them in a different way? Yes, absolutely. This is what I was trying to say from the beginning. obeying Allah doesn't mean I'm gonna look ugly. I need you to all know that.

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Because Allah will not want to me like this. And he knows what is inside me as a woman. I need to tell myself I look beautiful.

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And more beautiful because I obey Allah. Three, Allah doesn't look at me. He looks at me inside and my actions. So dress beautifully. I was just saying to somebody, right? If you are a woman who does sports get again these long shirts, and make sure they don't see through and under it you wear pants and you're fine. And you if you want to buy usually buy one size bigger, something that it doesn't describe the shape of your body, but absolutely you can do that. And Wallahi and I say this and this is the last thing I'm gonna say. If you really want to obey our laws pantile

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And you are in that struggle, and you know what struggle we all go through. But you really want to obey Him will lie linear enough. He will make it so easy. Piece of cake. Piece of cake. You know what you will do? He will remove it from your heart. That struggle.

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You will he will remove it. You don't care anymore. You don't care anymore about makeup. You will not ask these questions. You just don't. And you just look at the mirror and he says you Allah Are you pleased with me? This is why I keep saying I started I will end with this. Work on your relationship with Allah. He is the one who's going to make you strong. You as yourself as a woman is very difficult. And again with all the social media and everything work on your in your salud when you are so close to him back home and cry. Make me the woman you want me to be look at me and say what a woman she is. I can say to him I can do it your love. I'm so weak and all the scholars

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teaches you the best way to get to Allah subhanaw taala is when you acknowledge your weakness, weaknesses. I can tell away you are the strong a winning make me strong making me I don't care when I go outside. And everybody is looking at me. What is she wearing? I make me I don't kill me. I don't see them.

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And what do you think he will do? They will let you

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hasha Hannah Callahan Morbihan digger shadow Allah Haglund. a stockbroker waterboarding

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So like I said, No Mohammed was early he was hybrid esteem and cathedra. My apologies to all the others will ask all these questions but there's a time limit to what we can do to get ready for solid Malaysia five more minutes in short

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