Life of Aisha R.A #05 – Relationship between Aisha R.A and Fatima R.A

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AI: Summary © The segment discusses the life and struggles of the Prophet sallahu alayhi wa sallam, including her relationship with the lady of the throne and her mother Ayesha's history. The speaker also discusses the controversy surrounding Fatima Dylan's statement about being the leading woman in the Muslim world and the challenges faced by her mother and her mother. The speaker also highlights the natural rhythm between husbands and wives and the importance of learning from the incidents and natural rhythm between husbands and wives.
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Bismillah Alhamdulillah wa Salatu was Salam ala rasulillah the brothers and sisters are salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah warahmatullahi wabarakatuh. And welcome to another episode of the life of Aisha, mother of the believers or the along with me your sister Fatima Baraka, Allah. In the last episode, we experienced a glimpse into the life of love between Asia or a girl and her and the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.

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This time we're going to look at the relationship our Isha radi Allahu Allah had with the daughter of the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, Father Fatima.

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I showed her the land her was of course family to Fatima or the Allah one of all of the daughters of the Prophet salallahu alaihe salam Fatima was actually the closest to Ayesha. The prophets daughter ruqayyah had passed away before our Isha moved in with the Prophet salallahu alaihe salam around the time of the Battle of brother. His other daughters didn't necessarily live with Aisha or the Lana. But Fatima or Dylan had lived in the same house has a shirt or the alone her for a little while until Fatima married Ali or the Hello I know. I shattered Dylan had even prepared Fatima as a bride for her wedding. And that really shows you how close they were. The Messenger of Allah sallallahu

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alayhi wa sallam told us she says to prepare for Thema since she was going to marry Ali, we went home immediately and brought an amount of soft oil, which we spread on the ground. We filled two pillow sheets with fiber. Then we prepared bowls of dates and grapes and spring water to drink and placed a steak at one edge of the house for clothes, pots and pans to be hung.

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And she said I have not seen a wedding better than the wedding of Fatima's. So I shall Dylan has just describing some of the things in their culture that they would do to prepare for a new bride and a you know, a new home moving into her new home. And she's telling us in such an enthusiastic way, which really shows you how much she loved and respected and cared about Fatima or the Allah Juana.

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Even after she got married, Fatima only lived a stone's throw away from the house of Asia, with only a wall separating them. And this wall had they say a small kind of window or some kind of gap. And sometimes they would talk to one another from that window.

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When the wives of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam wanted to complain to the Messenger of Allah about their feelings regarding people sending gifts to the house of Aisha. They asked Fatima to take their grievance to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, which we mentioned that story last time. And when Fatima Dylan had conveyed the message to her father, I saw Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. He said to her, oh, my daughter, don't you love whom I love? And she replied in the affirmative. So this affirms the fact that Fatima delana had a love for Ayesha or the learner. And the reason why we emphasize and mentioned this is that there are certain groups or certain

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people from Muslim backgrounds, who tried to create this very negative.

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Narrative surrounding our issue of Atlanta and Fatima are the Allah one hot when in reality, you know, the facts, the Hadith, the authentic and narration speak for themselves. And we see that actually, they had a very good relationship. They were family

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and Fatima Dillon, how to respected Ayesha a lot. Ayesha likewise respected Fatima GLONASS.

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We see this is very apparent in the way they praise one another. One day our Isha or delanda was asked, Who was the most beloved person to Rasulullah sallallahu wasallam. And she immediately replied, Fatima.

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I shared the Dan had describes the like

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So far, Tamara delana to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. She says I did not see anyone who looked more similar to the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wasallam than Fatima in terms of the dignity and serenity of her behavior, the elegance and politeness of her mannerisms, and the way of walking her you know her gate when it when she walked when she entered upon messenger of Allah, upon the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he used to stand up for her. He used to kiss her and make her sit near him. When Allah His Messenger, sallallahu alayhi wa sallam came to Fatima's place, she would do the same thing. I shall also narrated hadiths from Fatima or delana and conveyed

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the Hadith about the virtue of Fatima and Al Bayt. I shall also narrated a hadith about the virtues of Fatima delana For example, She narrated the Hadith, in which the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said to Fatima, Fatima, does it not please you will be the leading lady of the believing women or the leader of the women of this oma.

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I shall also had an intimate friendship with Fatima Abdullah and her and Fatima used to confide in Aisha about some of the hardships that she faced in life. Ali delana rates that Fatima went to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam his house to complain about the bad effect of the stone hand mill on her hand.

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So, you know Fatima Dylan ha she used to typically do so much hard work in order to just make bread and just you know, do ordinary household chores that her hands had become affected. It was very, very difficult. So she had heard that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam had received some slaves. And so she wanted to ask her father for a slave in order to be able to help her in her household work.

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But she came to shut down his house where the profit would have been, and he was not there. So what she did was she told us he shattered Ilan hat about her predicament. Right? And Ali added, so the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam came to us when we had gone to bed. We wanted to get up on his arrival, but he said, stay where you are.

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So obviously, the Prophet sallallahu wasallam must have come home. And I assure my grandma told the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam about the predicament of Fatima or delana. And whatever Fatima had confided in her, you know about the difficulty that she was facing at home and how she wanted to request a servant.

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So Rasulullah Salallahu alaihe salam had come to Fatima's house, Fatima and Ali were lying in bed, and he told them not to get up. He said, stay where you are. Then he came. Ali says he came and he sat between me and her. And I felt the coldness of his feet on my abdomen. So he was so close to them, he was sitting so close to them. And he said, shall I direct you to something better than what you have requested? So in other words better than a servant. And he said, when you go to bed, say Subhana Allah, Glory be to Allah 33 times Alhamdulillah Praise be to Allah 33 times and Allahu Akbar, Allah is the Greatest 34 times and that will be better for you than a servant. So this famous

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Hadith tells us really about how close Fatima delana felt to Asia because when she came to the house and her father wasn't there, she confided in Ayesha.

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She also shared precious moments with our mother Ayesha, what are the olana I shouldn't aerates that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam called his daughter Fatima. During his illness, the illness after which he passed away, he called Fatima to visit him. And he told her a secret were upon she wept. And then he called her again. And he told her a secret. Whereupon she laughed.

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And she says, When I asked her about it, she replied, The Prophet spoke to me in secret and informed me that he would die in the course of the illness during which he died. So I wept. He again spoke to me in secret, and informed me that I would be the first of his

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Family to follow him after his death, and upon that I laughed. So what this shows us is contrary to what some groups have rewritten into history, we can see that they had a beautiful relationship and sisterhood.

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Brothers and sisters, what you will notice and discover over this series as we look at the life of our mother, Ayesha or delana, is that our mother I show was a woman of substance. We live in a time when women are either commoditized or pursued as consumers, the various pressures and industries that are constantly calling to us to be enslaved to them are insidious. the fashion industry, the music industry, the beauty industry, social media, all seek to influence us as women. And that is why it's so important for us to know our own principles, to know Allah's commands and prohibitions and to have a strong relationship with Allah subhanho wa Taala.

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Because there's nothing that Allah Subhana Allah has commanded us with, except that it's good for us. And there's nothing that he has prohibited us from except that it is evil and bad for us. And when we study the lives of people like our is shattered, it reminds us of having that right attitude.

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Join me after the break and when we will continue to look at the life of our mother Ayesha, or the Allah one. salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.

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Welcome back.

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Before the break, I said that, you know, my mother I showed at the LAN house was a woman of substance. And I was highlighting how you know, we live in a time when women are commoditized, or we are pursued as consumers. And I highlighted that there were various pressures, and there are various pressures and industries that are constantly calling on us as Muslim women, to be enslaved to them. the fashion industry, the music industry, the beauty industry, social media, all seek to influence us as women. And I was highlighting that, you know, this is why it's so important for us to know about the great women of our past women like our mother, Aisha, or the olana. Because if the Muslim

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oma is to be revived, we need women who can resist the temptation to be materialistic, the temptation to being fickle, and blowing hot and cold. We need women of substance, who think, who have a deep understanding and motivation for the next life, not for the fleeting pleasures of this life. So when we study the life of our mother, Ayesha radilla, and how it reminds us of what our mindset should be like,

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because this life is not forever, it's short. And our job is to navigate it carefully. As believers, we will make mistakes, tragedies will happen, and harm may befall us, may Allah protect all of us, as if we fell those before us. And when we look at the life of Asia data and how we see a life with great happiness, but we also see that she experienced great pain, and we will go into that in Sharla. in future episodes, we see that people slandered her, we see that the Prophet salallahu alayhi, wasallam, passed away her husband passed away when she was only 18. And she lived the rest of her life unmarried.

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She never had children of her own. She experienced emotions that we all experience, things like jealousy, and you know, a sense of competition, and you know, all kinds of feelings that all human beings feel.

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But what we find is that even though she made mistakes, things that she considered to be mistakes, and at times she was regretful, what we learn is that, you know, how should we respond when those difficult feelings and those difficult times come into our lives? How do we recover from mistakes, and it reminds us that life is tumultuous if you live long enough.

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You are going to have an experience the ups and downs of life. But how do we harness our personalities and our temperament, our inclinations towards what is right. Our mother our issues, life really highlights for us how we can do that, and how we can keep bringing ourselves back to making the life hereafter our priority.

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One of the challenging experiences faced by Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was sometimes due to the sense of competition or the feelings of jealousy between the wives of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.

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The opening verses of Surah harim describe to us an incident that took place

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an incident in which the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam prohibited himself from something in order to please his wives, or issue or a deal and he tells us about this herself.

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May Allah be pleased with her she tells us that what happened was that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he prohibited himself from drinking this special honey drink that he used to drink. What happened was that our Isha Dylan hat and hafsa

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who is the daughter of Omar bin Al Khattab, who was also the wife of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam they were feeling upset that Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was spending more time with his wife Zeynep on account of honey drink that she would serve him. Okay, so he was obviously enjoying having this honey drink at her house and they began to have feelings of jealousy because of that. So they secretly agreed to pretend to be offended by the smell of that honey drink, okay. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he was very particular about smelling good, right? He was wanting to smell good. He always wanted he never ever wanted there to be an offensive smell coming

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from him. He did this because of his own personal sense of cleanliness and hygiene, but also because of the angels, right? The angels like my smells, and they run away from negative smells, and also because he cared about his wives and how they felt about, you know, his appearance and his, you know, his aura.

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So, when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam heard that there was an offensive smell coming from me, he attributed it to that drink, and he swore an oath never to drink it again. And this is why Allah subhanho wa Taala revealed versus telling the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam not to prohibit what is lawful.

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I should reports that the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in her own words, she says he would he would spend time with his wife, Zainab jash. And he would drink a special concoction of honey hafsa and I agreed that whoever the Prophet would visit first would say to him, I noticed a strong odor coming from you have a particular type of

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tree or a particular type of gum. So the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, I've taken a drink of honey at xenos house and I will not have that drink again. And this is when the verse of the Quran was revealed.

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Yeah, you hanabi Ulema to hurry Mama halala hulak Tabitha Lee motorboat as logic, while law hula for Rahim, Allah says, Oh Prophet,

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why do you ban for yourself that which Allah has made lawful to you seeking to please your wives? And Allah is oft forgiving, Most Merciful. And then the voice the verse goes on. So Allah subhanaw taala was telling the Prophet salaallah salaam Why are you making haram something that Allah made Hello, and then the verses and sort of harim Go on. And Allah says that Allah has prescribed for you a way to dissolve your oaths. And Allah is your guardian, he is all knowing most wise. So Allah then told the Prophet sallallahu Sallam to break this oath, and to you know, compensate for it in the way that we are told to compensate for our ODEs.

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So this incident took place. And Allah Subhana Allah told the Prophet salaallah salam not to respond to his wives.

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And you know, any kind of

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friction that there was between them not to allow that, to stop him from doing the right thing, you know, from doing from changing his way of life or making something that is halal haram for himself, etc, etc. Now you might be thinking, you know, how is it that the the best women who ever lived had kind of these kinds of frictions going on between them? Right? Well, you know, this again, shows us that the wives of the Prophet sallallahu, Alayhi, wasallam, and the Sahaba, although they were the best of human beings, and they are our role models and example, right, they were still human beings, they still had personalities, they still had, you know, idiosyncrasies even right. And that doesn't

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mean that we can't learn from them. And it doesn't mean that they're angels, right? We need to not go to extremes when it comes to looking at the lives of other human beings, even if they are the Sahaba the best of human beings. And instead, we should look at the way the ways in which they resolved those issues, right, that were between them.

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You'll also notice that, you know, it might seem as though the wives of the Prophet sallallahu wasallam. In this instance, were kind of causing a type of annoyance to the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasallam? Well, there's a certain amount of leniency that was allowed for the wives of the Prophet sallallahu wasallam in their relationship with Him as wives, you know, that kind of husband wife relationship, that really isn't allowed for other Muslims to have, right? Like other Muslims, us as believers, we wouldn't be able to and we wouldn't kind of argue with Rasul Allah Salallahu alaihe salam, of course, we wouldn't, we wouldn't annoy Rasulullah sallallahu wasallam in any way, that

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would be a very bad thing, it would be a very negative thing for any other Muslim to do. But there was a certain amount of leniency that the Prophet sallallahu wasallam allowed when it came to his wives, do you to that kind of very unique and close relationship that there is between husbands and wives, and the kind of natural feelings that develop especially when, you know, a man has multiple wives.

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So again, just to highlight that they were human beings, but they were the best of human beings. And sometimes Allah subhanaw taala allowed certain things to happen, so that then we could learn from those incidents, right? Allah subhanaw taala would reveal verses to correct Rasulullah sallallahu wasallam even why so that we will learn from that and we could benefit from that.

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Another incident that took place.

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First of all, we need to kind of understand that in the Muslim, Imam Muhammad, Abu huraira reports that gibreel alayhis salam, the Angel gibreel.

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Once he was with the Prophet, sallallahu alayhi wasallam. And

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he said, to the Prophet sallallahu, alayhi wa sallam, an angel has just come down, that had never come down since the day he was created.

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And the angel said, O Muhammad, okay, this angel he said, he gave a message to the Prophet Mohammed, Mohammed, your Lord has sent me to you with the offer that I make you a prophet, King, or a servant, messenger. I can make you into a prophet who is a king. Okay, so remember, the station of a prophet and maybe, is not as high as the station of a messenger, right? messenger is, is obviously a higher station. So the angel is saying, you have a choice. You can either be a prophet who is a king, or you can be a servant, and messenger and gibreel and he salon said to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Be humble before your Lord and Mohammed. In other words, he was indicating to Rasulullah

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sallallahu alayhi wa sallam that the best that the better choice was to be a servant, and messenger. And so the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, rather, I will be a servant, messenger.

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This story tells us how Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam chose a life of simplicity. He, he actually shortened the life of being a king, right, the status of being a king, and he chose a life of simplicity, and even have very, very

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Simple living, and in sha Allah in the next episode we will look at how this austere life that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam chose how it affected the wives of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasallam and why it led to him giving them a certain choice and ultimatum insha Allah will join you next time. So panic Allahu mo behind the eyeshadow, Allah Illa Illa and as the heruka were to be like a Salam Alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh