Assim Al-Hakeem – An Ideal Muslim Home

Assim Al-Hakeem
AI: Summary © The importance of Islam in shaping society and building partnerships is highlighted, along with the need for finding the right wife for a Islam-compliant marriage. The cultural and political differences between the Muslim and non- Muslim homes are discussed, including the use of loud music and social media to highlight people's feelings, the importance of teaching and continuous improvement in behavior to avoid harmful behavior, and the potential negative impact of the "areps" on people's lives. The segment also touches on the history and cultural expectations of Islam, including the belief that Muslims should not interact with women and children, the use of images of their culture in clothing, and the potential negative impact of the "areps" on people's lives.
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be what could be the art in bodalla work will love Allah Allah to infinity.

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Allah azza wa jal says in what translates to in the Quran, and Allah has made for you from your homes, a place of rest, and made for you from the hides of the animals tents, which you find light on your day of travel, and your day of encampment. And from their wool, fur and hair is furnishing and enjoyment for a time.

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These homes we live in

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are one of the greatest blessings of Allah azza wa jal upon us. And Allah's blessings are countless.

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Unfortunately, the silent killer is our ingratitude to whatever Allah grants us how many of us complain and whine

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trivial things while many of our Muslim brothers are homeless, under the sun, under the rain under the wind. Some of them even crossed the season deserts looking for a better life. While we have all of these blessings and favors of Allah, yet we fail to show our gratitude to him subhanho wa taala.

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Every boy and girl dream of the day when Allah azza wa jal grants him his Nima His favor, so that they can rejoin under one roof and establish a Muslim family.

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These homes we live in, are the first brick

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in order to build an Islamic society and community. If these homes

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were fine, then our societies and communities would be fine. And when we speak about Islamic homes, certainly we're not referring to the fabric, whether it's made of concrete, Clay, or would

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rather, we are talking about what makes a home Islamic or an Islamic. And this is

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what happens inside the home.

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The level of Eman the inhabitants of these homes have. So you as a Muslim? must ask yourself a question right now today

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before Allah asks you this question on the day of judgment, and before that in your grave, is your home, an Islamic home?

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Or is it not Islamic?

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Every home, before you build it, you have to establish the foundation. And the foundation of a Muslim home is the correct and wise decision of your life partner.

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The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says, if that comes to you, one whose religious commitment and attitude pleases you then marry your female relative who's under your care to him.

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So choice number one,

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choose wisely the man that proposes to your daughter or to your sister.

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And, as a man, you have to also choose the right wife. It's not what many of us may jump to choose.

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The Prophet says alayhi salatu salam, a woman may be married for four reasons a woman is sought after for four reasons, her wealth, her lineage, her beauty, and her religious commitment. Therefore seek the one who's religiously committed May your hand be rubbed with dust, which means may you prosperous if you do so.

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In the home,

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the man and his wife have mutual concerns.

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They respect one another, they care for one another. And respect is an essential pillar of marriage. The moment you see a house that has no respect, let it be known that this is an Islamic marriage and an Islamic let me rephrase that and an Islamic home.

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And the children would be brought up in a miserable fashion and way

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the wife respects her husband and appreciate whatever he does, the man encourages his wife and appreciates whatever she does, there is no criticism. There is no ridiculing. And this is how the children grow up to see love, compassion, and respect. Imam Muhammad says about his wife on salah. He said I lived with him silent for 20 years.

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argued or disputed upon one word.

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What kind of a marriage is this?

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The woman in this Muslim home is a righteous, perfect role model for the children.

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There is no shouting, there is no abuse. There is no nagging or annoying

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of the husband, Mother Hadiya may Allah be pleased with

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our mother. The Prophet came to her and says Oh, Khadija Gibreel is giving you the glad tidings of a house in Jenna made of a pearl where you will not hear loud noise, nor there will be any form of hard work for you. Because this is the life she gave to the Prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam.

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What happens inside our Muslim homes?

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There is no music. There is no forms of haram entertainment, Netflix show time and the likes. Rather it is all remembering Allah azza wa jal. So is it the Masjid? No. It's not the masjid but everything revolves around remembering Allah subhanho wa Taala the Prophet says sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, the similar the tooth of a house where people remember Allah and a house where people do not remember Allah. The similarity is like the death the dead person and a living person.

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Look at our homes today. They're filled with music, with movies, the soap operas with social media with Tik Tok with Instagram. Rarely

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We'll find people remembering Allah azza wa jal making vicar reciting the Quran.

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Our Muslim homes when we enter, we don't shout, we don't demand we don't curse. Rather we give salam Allah says, but when you enter the houses greet one another with a greeting from Allah that is saying a Salam or Aleikum

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and it is a house where Salah where prayer is established. And the Prophet instructed us alayhi salatu salam when he said make a portion of your prayer in your homes and don't make them as graveyards.

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How many of us check on their household? Their children, their wives, those who live there if they pray or not?

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Are Muslim homes are filled with people loved by Allah azza wa jal? How do you know Sheikh? Well, the Prophet told us Allah His Salatu was Salam. That when Allah wills good for the people of a household, he introduces kindness among them. So if your home is a Muslim home, all those living inside it must love one another. But when they fight, when they bicker, when they have envy, when they have problems all the time, you have a problem. And this is why this kindness that Allah loves in our homes, reflects on how we treat our servants and maids and drivers. The Prophet says salatu salam about slaves, not about free men and women, about slaves. He says, Your slaves are your

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brothers whom Allah has put under your command. So whoever has a brother, under his command, should feed him of what he eats, and dress him of what he wears. Do not ask your slaves to do things beyond their capacity. And if you do so, then help them. These are your slaves whom you buy and sell, which we don't have.

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Recent and modern times. What about the free men and women whom we bring from their countries to work in our homes? How do we treat them? Shouting, scolding, swearing, cursing. This is not a Muslim home. The Prophet was once asked Allah He salatu salam, O Prophet of Allah, how many times should we forgive our servant? Our servants make mistakes. So how many times should we forgive them? The Prophet said that they saw the Salam 70 times per day,

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70 times per day. And we notice a fly when it flies around the house and blame the mate or the driver for that in our Muslim homes. You don't hear curse words. You don't hear vulgar and profanity. Because the Prophet said alayhi salatu salam, the believer that you and me, the believer does not slander, curse, or speak in an obscene or foul manner.

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In our Muslim homes, we should bring the children with love and compassion, and not

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continuous reprimanding and blaming and criticizing. You have to teach them in kindness because this is a long term investment. It's not something you just want to get out of your chest by shouting and scolding and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam used to teach your children by saying Yo hula, oh boy.

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say Bismillah eat from in front of you, and eat with your right hand.

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This is how the Prophet used to deal with children alayhi salatu salam and

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those who live in Muslim homes are kind to their neighbors. They don't harm them. They don't blast the music. They don't throw trash in front of them. They don't let the water run into their homes. Because the Prophet said Are they here salatu salam, no one from whose harm his neighbor is not safe will enter paradise. If your neighbor is not safe from your harm you

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will not enter paradise. And one of the main characteristics of those who live in a Muslim home is that they make dua to Allah azza wa jal throughout the day and night and they say, and those who say our Lord bestow on us from our spouses and our of our offspring, who will be the comfort of our eyes, and make us leaders of the Motoki so they make constant dua to Allah azza wa jal because they know they're nothing without the help of Allah subhanho wa taala. What about financial expenditures?

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Muslim homes are based on halal.

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So the earning of the people living in these homes are also from Hala, there is no rebel, there is no deceit, there is no lying there is no bribery, there is nothing that angers Allah subhanho wa Taala because they know that the Prophet said Allah, His salatu salam, everybody that is nourished with haram food, the fire is more fitting for it. And when they spent, they spend wisely, there is no extravagance, but at the same time, they are not miser or stingy. They give they make their children enjoy life, but without extravagance, Allah says, and let not your heart hand be tied like a miser to your neck, nor stretch it forth to its utmost reach like a spendthrift so that you become

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blamed worthy and in severe poverty. According to Cody hada was some federal law Holly welcome festival Pharaoh Inaho Rahim.

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Al Hamdulillah help me Alameen wa shadow Hola. Hola. Hola. Hola. Hola. Hola. Shetty, Keller was shadow and Mohammed and Abu Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi. Wa early he was so happy he had you mean

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the people living in such Muslim homes are known to be bashful.

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To be modest, and to be chased.

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This is why they make it as a rule of thumb, not to attend mixed gatherings, mixed weddings. There is no free mixing between the genders in or out of these homes because they are proper Muslims.

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A Amen.

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came to the Prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam.

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And when he heard the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam say beware of entering upon women.

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This is a clear directive from the Prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam. So the man said,

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O Messenger of Allah. What about the inlaws? So you're telling us not to allow non Muharram to enter upon my wife.

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What about the in laws? My brother, my uncle, I trust them. They're close to me, my brother in law, he's married to my sister. I trust them. So the Prophet said I think his salat wa salam that in law is death. Full stop. Look at our homes today. Muslim homes, where we have joint families

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and you would see pure injustice, free mixing between the in laws and hideous things happen. But all under the carpet.

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The parents choose their daughter in law, not to marry their son, but rather to become a maid.

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They humor later not all but I'm talking about the non Muslim homes, non Muslim homes. This does not take place. They heal me later. They enslave

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her, they tell their son to abuse her. Don't take her to a restaurant. Don't take her to her family's house, except once every six months for six hours and then send her back. Don't treat her like a wife, like a woman do not treat her like a human being.

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And I have cases like this every single day.

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And it's heartbreaking to see those who claim to be Muslims treating their daughter in law like this, they want their son to break her as if she is a wild horse.

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These are not Muslims. They learn to be humans. These are not Muslim homes where there is justice, where there is where there is fairness, where there is humanity. In our Muslim homes, you come, you would never see a portrait of the family head,

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let alone of the girls and their children and the extended family hanging on the walls.

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In a Muslim home, you will not find idols of Buddha, or an elephant or dolphins made of crystals. Why? These are artifacts. These are beautiful souvenirs we bought when we travel to foreign countries. They don't have this simply because the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam said the angels do not enter a house where there's a statue, or a portrait or a dog

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I've seen in Muslim countries, youngsters with ponytails

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dragging dogs round the streets of the neighborhood. Don't they know that this is forbidden in Islam?

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It is forbidden but it's cool share. It's cool.

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Well, this coolness is causing you and your parents a great deal of Hassan at the Prophet says Alessa Sam, whoever keeps a dog in his house that is not a shepherd dog, and is not a dog for hunting for gain.

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Allah who would read deduct

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from his Hasselblad every day the weight of Mount also

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who among us can afford mount or heard of her Senate per day.

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And this is happening every single day. So a Muslim home does not have these things that go against Islam. And it's not me who's saying It's haram. It's our Prophet Muhammad Ali has salatu salam, who we pray every single day that Allah who would resurrect us under his flag. We could go on and on talking about the characteristics of a Muslim home, but this is a Friday hotbar and the time is limited. If we manage to scrutinize our homes when we go back and check, is my home, a Muslim home? Am I living an Islamic life as Allah wills it? Or

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am I Dr. Jekyll in the masjid Mr. Hyde, when I go to my home, this is a very important point that each and every one of us should adhere to. We have to walk the talk. We have to implement what we know because this knowledge will backfire. If we don't implement it, and apply it

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