Change of Heart Series #12 – Patience Pt 2

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Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah live on account

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Alhamdulillah wa salatu wa salam, O Allah and Allah Allah via Raja Hawala early, he was so happy here Jemaine.

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Welcome, dear brothers and sisters to what is actually our final class from the blessed change of heart series. We ask Allah subhanaw taala, to accept it and to forgive the sins that were definitely part of the series.

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And the idea of the series is to really excite inside of you and interest to continue your study

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in the topic of our manual, the actions of the heart.

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And just as importantly, I encourage you individually, dear brothers and sisters to revisit the entire series.

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It's up on YouTube, Al Hamdulillah, I would rather have not has done all of the hard work really behind the scenes revisited again and again. And I claim Alhamdulillah, that the content that I shared with you is something that I didn't find a huge amount of it in the English language. So don't let the last connection you have with these classes and in another 55 minutes, make it the beginning of your relationship with this topic and revisit the lectures again and again. And if you haven't been taking proper notes, compensate by going back and taking proper notes.

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What was our last week's session about do you remember

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about Southern adaptations,

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and who can remember the headings that we covered in order please, heading number one,

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the meaning of solder. We looked at the linguistic and the technical definition of cyber so that when we say patience, we know what we are talking about.

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And then we went on to speak about a

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comparison between patience and gratitude. And we showed the three opinions.

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And then we went on to speak about the

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status of southern in the eyes of Allah and His Messenger, sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.

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And then we looked at the conditions for patients, and we addressed how many,

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three. And then we concluded by looking at the stories of the people of patience, and it was just a snapshot.

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We promised that we will speak about patients Part Two this evening, but from which perspective?

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Yeah, how to foster patients how to attain it.

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Before I share with you, these 11 steps for myself and for you, for those who feel that their patients is a major work in progress. And each of you knows himself herself better than anyone else. I want you to realize that these steps that I'm going to share with you must not be taken for granted.

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And say Alhamdulillah, that Allah Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah who has gifted you with these mechanisms to develop these virtues in your life?

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And if you are not too sure what I am talking about, ask the people who live this world without the religion of Islam.

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How do they cope?

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Because being in the life of this world, is hard.

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Living in this abode,

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is no easy task, filled with temptations and trials, and all sorts.

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And so if you have no religion

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to help you cope

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as you live in this world, then you will have to look elsewhere

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to OPA the pain of being in this world.

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And that explains why people go on to do bizarre things, with themselves, with their bodies, with their identities, what are they doing? It is a cry for help in most cases.

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It is a desire to find relief, and to sedate the pain of being in dunya. So you try to find yourself in someone or something. Because there is no religion in your life, there is no Islam.

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So being in this world is difficult. And being in this world without Islam makes it exponentially more difficult.

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So I will share with you a few steps

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intended to ease the pain of living in dunya and to cultivate patience and to foster it properly. And we're going to divide this study into two parts. We're going to have the first part

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At, which is about the doing three practical steps that you and I can take to develop patients in our life.

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And then when we've covered those, we'll move on to the cognitive matters, matters that you and I are expected to recall, to remember

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to help attain patience and these will be another eight steps, but if Nila hit Allah, so all in all, you will have 11

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Are you ready

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Bismillah let us begin.

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The first of these steps, and this is coming under the heading of the doing the practical matters. These are the verbs

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is to act with patience. Even if you feel that it is contrived at first, meaning you feel it is artificial. It's not you, you're failing. Act with patience, and allow yourself to fail.

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And realize that patients can be cultivated it can grow. This is a very important principle to realize that patience is a skill, a personality trait that can be learned. It's not something that you merely inherit from a parent, you have it or you don't it can be acquired.

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And the fact that there came a point in your life when you used to get hungry, you used to kick up a huge fuss, you cried, you shouted, you kick, you screamed. And now you're not doing that anymore when you're hungry, at least I hope that we're not that is an evidence that patients can be can be learned.

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And that is why the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he said emphasizing this meeting women Yetta sambar use of Bureau hula whoever acts with patience, Allah will give him patience.

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Yet there are sub bar on the pattern of yfm meaning you are exerting an effort to act with patience, though it may be artificial at first, eventually, what is the outcome cause and effect practice makes perfect patients becomes part of your personality.

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So a difficult situation comes your way. And you think Ah Are you southern patients and you fail dismally. 99% failure rate don't focus on the 99 you succeeded by 1% work with that.

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Then once you've tied up the loose ends you move on to event number two that comes the loss of money, someone insults you, somebody frustrates you whatever it may be, you think ah southern patients you fail dismally, but this time it's a 75% failure rate, the 25% Look, it is growing, and so on and so forth till the trait of suburb becomes your second name.

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Women yet the sub bar, some bit of Allah the promise of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam he who acts with patience, love will give him patience. And that applies to every other virtue that you may admire

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in people

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what is step number one Yeah, Malik. Act with patience, even if it is

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contrived.

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Number two,

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redirect your energy, and thoughts.

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In the sense that the difficult situation has come your way you are going through a tough challenge. You really have one of two logical options. Either you sit where you are.

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Ideally, wallowing in self pity, feeling sorry for yourself, reliving the tragedy, going over the details.

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Or you can choose to put your energy and thought in your mind into something beneficial to get up and do something.

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And that's why there is an amazing Chinese proverb that says, You can't prevent the birds of grief from hovering over your head.

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But you can prevent those birds from nesting within your head.

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You get it? Misery difficult times they have to pass by. That's the nature of dunya. You can't control that. But what you can control

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is the prevention of these difficulties from getting a hold of you from nesting into your head from extending their tentacles into your essence and getting a hold of you that you can control.

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So redirect your energy and thought and allow patients to grow and much of this brothers and sisters is about

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emphasizing

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thought over feeling. Much of this is about learning how to separate between how you feel

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feel and your situation. Many times people conflate between the two so they become miserable and impatient. They're mixing between their feelings, their emotions and the reality of the situation. But when you look at it from a third person perspective, there's they're not interlinked. They're separate. So separate them, realize that your feelings are not always an act, an accurate portrayal of reality, that helps with patience. And that is why when you are down, you are not seeing the world for how it is.

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You are not seeing matters according to how they are. You are seeing matters according to how you are.

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You are broken inside, so you see everything around you as broken.

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You feel wounded and damaged inside so everything around you seems damaged and wounded, separate between your thoughts and your reality. And then redirect your thoughts, your strengths, your energy, your thicker, your contemplation into something beneficial. Get up and help someone.

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Find someone who is impoverished offer them alone.

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track down someone who's hungry, offer them food. Find someone who is stressed consoled them, find someone who's been let down, support them. Remove the burdens of people so that Allah who will remove your own

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and that is why Allah Allah gelato who said yeah, you have nothing in common Oh, you who believe either Elijah comme des for several field modalities if you have Sahar we have Salah who,

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when you are told to make space in the public assemblies, make space Allah who will make space for you.

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Make space for people, and Allah will make space for you. And notice how the I did not specify what type of space Allah will give you in return space in your wealth, space in your health, space in your mental well being space in your grave space and the Day of Judgment space in Jannah. None of it was specified why to include it all.

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So you are down. You are going through a tragedy redirect your thoughts. Focus your attention into something productive, don't sit idly replaying your tragedy. Go on, find someone to help. And then the divine intervention is on his way Allah Almighty will now help you.

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This is step number two for those of us who want to cultivate their son or their patients, redirect your thoughts and your energy and your strength into something beneficial and productive. And don't sit idly.

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Number three,

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retreat to the fortress of Salah prayer and declare the remembrance of Elijah and

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the ones who will be able to tell you of how effective this strategy is or only the ones who've experienced it.

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Once when they fight find themselves stressed afraid, anxious.

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And they say Allahu Akbar, after spreading out the prayer mat and now they are standing in the hands of Allah Jalla jadad who complaining and sobbing to him to then be infused with a sense of relief. Only only they can describe the character of Allah and Salah who do you know suffered more pressure in his life than our NABI sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Prophet Muhammad

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in Mecca and in Medina. And so Allah Almighty gave him verses from the Quran to console him and to help him with patience. What did Allah Almighty say to him? These are also for you as tools. Allah Allah Allah, Allah Allah who said in Na Na Luna Zina article Quran and Zillah we were the ones who brought the Quran down upon you Oh Prophet in stages.

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Fosbury How can you be so be patient to the Command of your Lord? While I totally I mean home theme and Erica fura and do not obey any sinner amongst them or disbeliever how do I be patient? Oh Allah. Listen to the verse after it was good is Murad Vika Bucherer Tommaso Isla, remember the Name of your Lord in the morning and evening.

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Wamena Neely and during the night, first of July who prostrate to him was Leila, Leila, and glorify him for a long, long part of the night.

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Yes, sir. Victor and salah. These were the coping mechanisms given by Allah to his favorite Prophet alayhi salaatu wa salaam to help him patient to help him be patient. Who they thought of the Allahu Anhu said Can and maybe he was Allah Allahu alayhi wa sallam either has Allah Who Amarone Salah Whenever the Prophet alayhi salaatu wa salaam, was given distressful news he would turn to Salah. Imagine

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someone's saying to him such and such has happened. Really? Just give me a moment Allahu Akbar.

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As if to say, Yara, I am handing over the reins of this difficulty to you. You navigate the way you show me how to emerge from this distress. Victor Onsala.

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Musa and Harun are instructed by Allah to go to the Pharaoh and they were afraid. They said he will transgress he will kill all Allah. We are afraid. And one of the tools Allah gave them both is what Surah when 10 Yaffe do not stop remembering me.

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This is what will help the believer traverse this difficult abode, and help him or her Be patient. So these are the three under the heading of what are the things to do the practical matters? What are they again, Hashem, what was number one,

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to act with patients number two,

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to redirect your energy and thoughts, number three,

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somebody from the side

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as well. And they care very good. Now we turn to the second segment, slightly longer. These are the cognitive matters. Ie these are the things to remember when a calamity befalls you.

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And I want to say here, something very important.

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When a difficulty comes your way, especially if it's there clutching you for a long time.

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It is very easy for the human heart to degenerate into a state of resentment

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and bitterness towards Allah. And it begins to turn hard as you ask why.

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And the burden of patience and the advice of being patient becomes more of a burden than it is relief, you begin to say things like until when

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that is how people behave if underlined the word if, if you do not have a sense of proportion to these difficulties,

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if you do not feel that there is wisdom behind them,

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if you believe that they are devoid of meaning.

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If however, you are as a Muslim, you are able to

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formulate an idea, a reason or a purpose, behind these difficulties that have come your way, even if it is vague. All of a sudden, you become positive. All of a sudden, you realize that the sun does rise upon planet earth, you realize that the world is not out of sync and you realize that Allah Jalla Janella, who is not unjust,

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how and when. That's when you feel and you believe that there is reason, purpose, wisdom behind what you are experiencing. I say this as an introduction to these next eight points, I'm going to share with you matters of perception matters to keep in mind.

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It's just not always just about doing it's also about believing, accepting, being aware, perceiving. So I share with you eight of them.

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The first of these eight is to remember that this is the nature of dunya

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This is the nature of life.

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It was never supposed to be Donald Jazza a home of reward. It was intended to be thou rubella, an abode of tribulation. That's the purpose of dunya. That's the very first step for he or she who wants to cultivate patience to come to grips with this reality and to accept it gracefully.

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The same way.

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The very first step for a student of knowledge, who wants to learn and increase in understanding the very first step for him or her is to accept that they are ignorant of the matter at hand.

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If you come in, come into the natural believing you know it all you can't learn. What's the first step of being a student is to accept that you don't know. Then your heart is open and you can begin to learn and grow. The same thing applies to southern patients the exact same principle. The very first step to be aware of if you want to foster a subset of patients in your life is that life is not intended to be easy, and accept it gracefully. Everything else comes second place. Everything else follows

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Fe de calidad. Allah said We have created man in turmoil.

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That's dunya in Gurkha Johan Isla Rebecca Callahan formula p you are totally toward

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Do Lord a great toiling till the day you meet him.

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Accept that reality and surrender to it, then you will be able to relax. And you won't be too shocked when you feel that life has betrayed you with an unfortunate event.

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And that's why our poet's Subhanallah they've been singing about this matter. Even before Islam, they realized that this dunya one day is for you one day is against you don't expect it to be any other way. Abu Bakar Randy, he said in his long couplets of poetry in his obituary of Al Andalus when it was lost to the Corinthians, he said liquidly che in either terminal cuando Fela Johar rabidly Bellagio in Sand Hill Omoro Kenosha had to do one on Mansoura Hosanna Ahimsa towards mono. He says everything when it reaches its pinnacle, its peak its completion.

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This is the beginning of its decline.

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So nobody should be deceived by dunya. He said.

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He said life is something that will make you happy in some of its phases, but it will also depress you in others.

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And the libidinal, Arabiya, from Naja Healy pre Islamic poets. He says, Well, my mother well known in the word Yeah How to Allah, Buddha woman and Torah.

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He said what is money and children but alone,

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and every loan has to be paid back. There ilaha illallah This is dunya. So accept it for what it is. See for me. I believe that

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some of the ways that we react when a calamity comes our way, the impatience, the shouting, the shock, the misery, the crumbling, the the displeasure, the discontentment. These negative expressions many times are the product of not accepting this point that I'm sharing with you, this person fails to accept that this is the reality of dunya you should not expect it to be any other way.

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And that's why Sofia limonaia Anna, he said at dunya Kulu. Her home, life is filled with the grief family, I can I mean harm in sorority and for whatever. So any good moment you experience in life, consider it a bonus. That's a healthy mentality to approach dunya

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consider the default as grief, Misery. And if moments of relief come your way and moments of happiness and peace of mind, consider it a bonus, savor it, enjoy it, but also accept it as an exception to the rule.

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So this is number one except dunya. For what it is. Remember, dunya is a abode of tribulation, this will help with patients. Number two, remember that the elevators of a believer in the hereafter is hardship.

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A lot of us Allah subhanaw taala wants to give us a position in Jannah that we don't deserve.

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For many of us, Allah Almighty intends a position in paradise that our deeds do not qualify us for. And he knows subhanho wa Taala that so long as we live in this world, we're not going to pick up on our game. We're not going to learn how to read Quran. We're not going to pray at night, we're not going to improve our hijab, we're not going to change our ways. We're not going to cut our habits. But Allah wants to give you a place in Jannah that you and I don't deserve. So what will he do? Seeing that you will not change your ways he will send a calamity or a way to qualify you for a high position in Jannah that he knows your deeds would never be sufficient for that is generosity and

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mercy at its peak.

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And that is why

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a Buddha would narrate in his sunnah that the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said

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in the La vida.

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la mia beluga hobby annually he emitted our hula hula female he Elfi Jessa de LV while Eddie

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when Allah has decreed for a person a certain high position in Jannah paradise

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that his deeds don't qualify him for

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Allah will send him a calamity

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in his body, your health or your wealth or your children.

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So my use of beautiful Isla Darrick then Allah inspires him to be patient over that trial had valuable lira who ailment Zilla and lettuce advocate Muhammad Allah and therefore Allah qualifies him for the position in Jannah that he intended for him Loic

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This is generosity at its peak. So to realize that what difficult circumstance you may be going through, that's what's going to take you to a place in Jannah that your deeds couldn't have taken you to. So enjoy it. Save

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Do it Thank Allah Almighty for it say Alhamdulillah show him gratitude and realize contentment. And believe me when I say this, when you and I see the reward that will be distributed to the people of patients on the Day of Judgment, we would wish that we had not experienced a second worth of wellbeing in the life of this round.

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You will say I wish my whole life was one journey of a toothache.

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Women will say I wish that my entire life was in the pain of labor.

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I wish that my kidney stone never left me.

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I wish that I never recovered from grieving and mourning during my bereavement. I wish that I never made a penny. I wish that I never took shade I wish that I suffered when you see the reward of the people of patients given to them on the Day of Judgment. Now you and I will never make such a wish in the life of this world. Of course, we're not required to do that. But that's how we will think on the Day of Judgment. You ask for the evidence I share with you a clear evidence. I tell me the generates in his sunnah.

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On your authority of Java, that the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said in a remarkable Hadith, he said, Yeah, what do I do Rafi it Hina Yaga Bella estaba buhoma Yama,

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lo and julu their home can that podium Bill Macario.

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He said that the people who were living in well being healthy, comfortable

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when they see the reward on the Day of Judgment being distributed to the people of patients.

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They will wish that their skins were cut with scissors all throughout their life.

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They would wish that a man called Ibrahim and Marguerite B was kicked by a camel and it broke his leg. What did he say? He said Lola masa Abel dunya la cadena Allah Hema factories. If it wasn't for the calamities of life, we would meet Allah penniless.

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If it wasn't for these difficulties that come our way, we'd have nothing to offer Allah Subhana Allah Allah say Alhamdulillah Alhamdulillah. So if you have been put on a path of tribulation, realize that you've been put on a path and a staircase to Jannah this is point number two.

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Yeah, these trials that you are experiencing this difficulty is lack of peace of mind. These are your elevators in the hereafter.

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Number three, realize and remember that the finest of all believers are the ones who are tested. It's only because you occupy a high status in the eyes of Allah that He sent you your trial.

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So don't be discontent Thank you.

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And that is why I share with you a hadith I think a lot of you will hear this hadith for the first time. Hadith which I haven't narrated his most notorious authority of Abu Huraira that an Arab Bedouin man was walking past the Prophet salAllahu alayhi wasallam and this Arab Bedouin man was strong, tough, full of energy and vigor and he was self impressed by his own strength. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam called him he had some questions for him.

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He said to him matter access Debbie oatmeal them.

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When was the last time you experienced meal them?

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He said what is on mobile them? He said Allahumma a fever. He said what is a fever?

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He said to him second attune Tokuda interval army will deal with a fever is a sense of heat that affects you between your bones and your skin. He said madly with Alec. I've never experienced that before. If I had a fever. He said to him I have another question for you.

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Mata has asked that Bisola when was the last time you had a headache?

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The man said one Masuda what is a headache. He said to him Laura by noon Yahoo does not have any words. It is a thumping that happens in the temple and the head.

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He said nearly be the Alika had never experienced that before. So he left and when he left. Our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said to the Companions months or Rahu and Yun Dora Isla Rajamouli Minh and in the valley en la ilaha whoever of you wants to see a man who will go to hell you are to look at that man over there.

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You live in this world and you're not complaining of any pain no difficulty no suffering. That can't be the way of a believer

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because in Ivonne Al Jazeera EMA Allah mil Bella in the enormity of reward is connected to the enormity of suffering.

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We're in Allah either had back home and if tele home and when Allah loves a people, he tests them

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shed do Nursey Bella and Ambia familia himself and M feminineness. When Sadie Nabi Waqas. As the prophets Allah sent Him Who are those who suffer the most in life, he didn't say to him the fornicators are the users of interest. He said to him, What? The prophets, they suffer the most, then those who resemble the most in personality and behavior.

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So who are the ones

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who are the ones who suffer the most they are the finest of Allah's creation. Use that to concern you, when you are going through a tough time. This is number one.

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Number Number three. Number four, remember that what you are experiencing is a medicine. So accept it gracefully.

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Realize that the medicine that Allah has sent you can take many different forms. And medicine by its nature is bitter.

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And so don't ruin the healing properties of this medicine by complaining and expressing discontentment and what Allah sent your way. It's a medicine that you needed.

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And I translate to you the beautiful words of Mr. Ibrahim, who describes this matter so vividly. Listen to what he said.

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He said follow the anahata Allah. You there we Heba who will be a doula tell me honey, well, if Tila la Taha Walburga Watteau, he said, if it wasn't for the fact that Allah subhanho wa Taala

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sends medicines to His servants by way of tests and afflictions, they would have become haughty and arrogant and they would oppress him transgress

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and then he said,

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we're in Allahu Allah Allah either or rather we Abdi Hi yah, and when Allah Almighty intense good for a person what happens? Sarkar who della and

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Minami honey, well, Bella II Allah Kadri Herlihy, when Allah intends good for a person, he gives him a drink of medicine in the forms of trials and pains. According to what you deserve.

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Yes, step three hooby

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Meenal adware in Mollica, causing you to vomit out fatal illnesses that were inside of you had to either had the other one occur who was off till Allah refined, you, purifies you, shapes you cleanses you? A hunter who will be Ashrafi Marathi be dunya why Yeah, oh, booty to Allah then raises your level and qualifies you for the highest position in dunya. And that is to be a proper servant of Allah.

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What alpha is our bill clarity, we're here to who are caribou and raises you to the highest levels in the Hereafter. And that is being near to Allah and seeing that you know, in your heart to see what difficulty has come your way as a medicine that you needed.

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So this is number one.

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This is number four. See it as a medicine that you need it desperately.

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Number five, realize that

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impatience

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does not improve your situation. Remember that

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impatience does not make your situation any better.

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So you go through a calamity, something really upsets you, bothers you to the core.

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So you kick and shout and you smash and you swear you curse.

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Has your loved one comeback?

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Has your money been restored? Have you been avenged? Nothing of that has changed.

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So impatience, only adds to your calamity. It does not remove it.

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And that's why I love the words of Ameerul Momineen Haile Radi Allahu anhu, when he said, In subhabrata Jarrah alagille Kadar wantto module were injure Xacta Jarrah helical cutter one Tamotsu

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if you are patient during your calamity, the decree of Allah will pass over you, but you will have reward.

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But if you are impatient, the decree of Allah will still pass over you but you will be sinful.

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So it's not going to change. The only thing that will change is what the status your status post calamity. Are you going to be in a state of agile and growth? Or will you be in a state of sin and degeneration, the color of Allah decree has passed impatience does not improve your situation. So when a trial comes your way a tragedy befalls you don't add to that calamity. Another one, that calamity of missing out on the reward

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because the latter will be far more so

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via then the former, if you miss out on the Hassan act

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that's number five. Number six

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to remember that your problem is only as big as you make it to be.

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Why is it that when you look into some of the issues of these so called third world countries that are existential in their nature, I mean, I'm not talking about social media and, and embellishments. I'm talking about sanitation, talking about heating, talking about shelter, talking about safety, talking about clean water basics that you and I have. They don't have it yet they're coping a lot of them plodding along, courageously they're coping.

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And then you look into our so called First World developed countries. And our threshold for pain is so low. I mean, someone may take away his life if somebody unsubscribes from his socials what happened? That shows you that by and large, it's about how big you make the problem.

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The Arabs they have a proverb that says her wind her what her home

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her wind her what the horn How do you translate that?

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Masking?

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Yeah, good. Yeah. Which essentially, diminish it, and it will diminish. It seems like, like a no brainer, right? How when, hmm, shrink it, shrink the problem, and it will shrink in reality, shrink it in your mind, and it will shrink in reality, you know, in the English proverb, it says he makes a mountain out of a molehill. He makes a mountain out of a molehill. So essentially, this program is saying, flip it on its head by saying, make the mountain into a molehill. Shrink it. So you won't say to me now? How do I shrink my tragedy? How do I shrink my situation that needs patients, I say to you, several filters, you got to push it through, and it will shrink.

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It's a mental exercise Subhanallah the first shrink your tragedy or your difficult circumstance by remembering what is worse, it will dwarf it in size.

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It will give perspective. One of our predecessors a woman who used to suffer so much, but her coping mechanisms were phenomenal. They said to her how how do you do it? She said Listen to these words. Matt will sob will be mostly betting for ethical rule Na Na in Surah t ayeni lubob. She said any tragedy that befalls me instantly. I remember Johanna the hellfire.

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And all of a sudden my calamity shrinks to the size of a fly in my eyes. Like that's one way to shrink and think about the hereafter think about perspective, thinking about how much is awaiting you and I post death your calamity will be given proportion

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number to shrink it by remembering that your calamity itself could have been worse. You've lost the leg. Thank Allah wasn't both. You've lost an eye say Alhamdulillah it wasn't both. You've broken your arm. Thank Allah, it wasn't your spine. You've lost your savings. Thank you Thank Allah, it wasn't your job, Muhammad Minnewaska

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developed an ulcer, a huge boil like illness on his skin. And his friends were horrified at its site. He said Alhamdulillah Alhamdulillah it's fine. Alhamdulillah another lady said fee I knew Allah be thorough Felisa Annie Alhamdulillah that the ulcer is not on my tongue, or on the tip of my eye Hamdulillah. So think of the calamity itself could have been worse. That's another way to shrink it. Number three, shrink it by thanking Allah that the calamity is not in your religion.

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That's the most Lima when Allah test you in your commitment as a Muslim and your faith, so long as your tragedy, your trial, your challenge is in dunya the people or assets, say Alhamdulillah it's manageable.

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And that's why I'm you don't want me no matter who said, any trial that comes my way, I thank Allah for four things. The first thing he says is that it's not in my religion, to Hamdulillah that is not in my religion. Number two Alhamdulillah that Allah inspired me to be content with it Alhamdulillah that there is a reward in it And Alhamdulillah that it wasn't worse than it was before. So shrink it by realizing that it's not in your religion. hamdulillah it's manageable, and shrink it.

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And this is point number eight. I'm going to share with you now. Point number seven I mean to say, shrink it by

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remembering that your tragedy is going to pass, it's going to pass. It will not stay forever. No tragedy has ever stayed for anyone forever.

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In number allostery, use raw guarantee with difficulty there is ease one of our predecessors, muhammad shah Brahma, whenever he would be affected by a challenge in his life, his motto statement was what Sahaba. From Latin culture, it's a cloud, and it's going to pass. It's a cloud, it's going to pass. That's the mentality of a believer, how many people do you know

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who are in the clutches of severe grief, loss of money, loss of friends, loss of family, loss of health, ever it may be, and during that time, they believe that this will be the misery that will cripple them. This will be the one that will bring them to their knees. This will be the one that will see me never recovering. This will be the one that will drive me to my grave.

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Guess what happened?

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Weeks days months elapsed. They recovered.

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They got over it. They moved on. They grew. And now what was once a heart wrenching tragedy in the past has now become distant memory and chitchat. During conversations with family and friends. It will pass it will pass but trust the process. Trust Allah agenda, gelato. See, Hannah Lila? Do

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you remember how it was when you went into the doctor as a child? And you needed Bloods? And what would the nurse say to you? What is their statement? Shop, scratch? Shop scratch. And then you cry? And then about two, three seconds later, the pain goes? What does the nurse say? See? We're done. It's finished. It's done. So you hug your parent and you cry Alhamdulillah. It's finished. This is dunya. This is dunya with all of its grief, all of it to whom all of its misery and sorrow. It's just a temporary sharp scratch, then it's going to pass. Even if that sharp scratch that triggered that tragedy lasts 60 years in your life. 70 years? How long you gonna live for 80 years, 90 years

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max, then you're dead?

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If all of that was pain and misery, when you compare that with infinity, post death, what is it equal to zero? It's nothing. It's nothing. Sharp scratch, then it will pass trust Allah Almighty. Just don't panic brothers and sisters.

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You know, again, when our parents

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used to launch us as kids into the sky, and they used to see the look in our faces. It was like

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terror, right? You can't breathe for a split second. And then the wind when they catch you again, what happens? You're laughing. This is dunya to launch you. It will put these moments in your heart where you feel.

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I can't I can't do this one. Then you remember that? You are upon the eye of Elijah and legendado. You will learn in safe hands. Just don't panic. Don't resist. And what is the very first lesson that you received from your swimming coach when you wanted to learn how to float on water? What did they say to you?

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That God

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don't fight. Stop kicking the water stop resisting, stop punching you're going to go deeper.

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And that is the situation with the believer. difficulty comes his way away. They kick the push, they shove. They show impatience. They despair they doubt Allah and they move deeper

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into the pits of sin. They'll trust the process. Don't panic but man by his nature he can't help it. Why? In in Santa Monica. Hello ah Allah said man by his nature was created anxious.

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Be the Messiah who Messiah who shadow Joshua. When evil touches him. He's impatient. panics who either merciful Hiram Manoir. But when good touches him, he would hold doesn't want to share. Then Allah gives you the cure. Inland mousseline except those who pray. Allah Vina, Houma, la sala to Him. Those who are consistent with this, they don't behave in this way. So don't panic. Trust Allah subhanho wa taala. And he has never let anyone down, who truly relies upon him.

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This is point number one.

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Point number seven, shrink it and it will shrink. diminish it in size in your mind by using these four filters that I helped you with, and it will shrink in its reality. Number eight and this is the last one we will conclude with this dua.

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Do we make dua for patients

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Do we make dua for slobber?

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There is a Hadith that some have classified as weak and others have deemed it a sound

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which Attila Medina writes in his sunnah and or his Jamia, we should say on the authority of Madiba German. Why didn't know Jebel raised that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam heard a man saying Allahu Allah in the US Erica Saba, oh Allah I asked you for patience.

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So our Prophet alayhi salaatu wa salaam said to him look at CELTA, Allah has Bala you've just asked Allah for an affliction. You've asked him for a trial

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for sell hula half year. instead ask Allah for Afia for wellbeing. Don't ask him for patients. When you ask for patients that mean you're you're asking for the calamity that comes side by side with the patients that you've asked for. It's a package.

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So ask Allah for half your well being.

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But now we have the issue of the Quran in at least two passages telling us of people who made dua for patients in the context of dilute and dilute what is the dua Robina Alfred Molina sobre o Allah pour upon his patients

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and in the context of the magician's who became Muslim at the time of Prophet Moses, and they knew that they were going to be executed by the Pharaoh what did they say? Ramadan after a rally now sobre o Allah pour upon us patience. How do we reconcile between the narration that suggests that asking for patience is not favorable. And these Ayad in the Quran that makes it clear, it's good to ask for patience.

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And moolah, Alicante and others have said that when a person is going through affliction, you are recommended to ask Allah for patience. But when you are going through well being you're going through normality ask Allah for if you ask Allah for will be, is this clear? And that's why when you look at the context of the two verses in the Quran that asked Allah for patients, what were the context of difficulty balut and Jalota was the context of jihad in the path of Allah, a small group against a large group. So they said poor upon his patience we needed here.

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And in the other context of the magician's, they were on the verge of execution. So they said what?

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Pour upon his patience, Oh Allah, but in non times of normality, you ask ALLAH SubhanA Medina for half year for will we ask Allah to give us wellbeing?

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And that for those who are going through a tough time in their lives to pour upon them patience along

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and on that note, I will share with you just one final Hadith to conclude the entire series. It's one of the most beautiful Hadith that those who are going through grief, can none of memorize his content.

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I will say that Audrey narrates that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam once came into the masjid.

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And he saw a Sahabi companion by the name of Abu Omar Matilda Healy, Abu Omar.

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And so he came to Abu Omar and he said to him, why is it I see you sat in the masjid at a time when people are not praying? This is not the time for Salah it's the time for work. What did Obama say? Words that you will be able to resonate with? He said, hormone lazy, medneo Rasool Allah, what do you own because of burdens that have befallen me, Oh Allah, and debts that I have

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because of burdens that I have Oh Messenger of Allah, and because of debts.

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So he said to him, Allah or Lemo, Kellyanne and either and Dakota who, as have Allahu Ahad ganache. Wakaba Anca Dainik Shall I not teach you some words? If you were to say them, Allah will remove you from your burdens, and he will settle your debts? He said yes. He said to him say these words Allahumma in the owl will be coming behind me will hasn't Oh Allah I seek refuge in You from sadness and grief. Well, I will be coming Elijah z will Casin and I seek refuge in You from incapacity and laziness. What are all there'll be communal? geovany one borehole and I seek refuge in You from cowardice and stinginess, where I will be coming rather but the new APAC region and I seek refuge in

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You from being overcome by men and being subdued by that

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of a woman I said so I said those words for COBOL for other have Allahu Annie

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Let me welcome you acaba Omni Nene, I said those words and so Allah subhanaw taala removed from me my grief, and he paid off my debt.

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Dua

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We ask Allah subhanaw taala to give us IV and dunya and akhira We ask Allah subhanaw taala to have mercy upon those of us who have passed away and to bring goodness and tofi and help and light to those who are alive amongst us We ask Allah subhanaw taala to free

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As from the tribulations of dunya, we ask Allah subhanaw taala to allow growth to be our hallmark We ask Allah Subhana Allah to bless our teachers and our teachers, teachers and our parents and our grandparents and our children and all of those who have a right upon us. So this is Alhamdulillah the end of our series, the change of hearts, and we're going to take a break inshallah for a few weeks and then we will resume inshallah on the 31st to 31st of this month in Missoula class, Broadway Inshallah, and we will start the married Ever After series that will last for about two weeks in sha Allah. So until then, Baraka la Feeco, Salah line, Amina Mohammed Mohammed in Arabic