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Islamic Solutions – Question & Answer

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Ahmed Hamed

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Have you planned it – Death

Islamic Solutions – Question & Answer

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Salam Alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh Alhamdulillah robola alameen wa Salatu was Salam ala rasulillah Kareem was early he was happy as mine. Also Billahi min ash shaytani r rajim Bismillah R Rahman r Rahim

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probably shortly you saw that he was suddenly Omri washpool, aka data melissani Yahoo calling my brothers and sisters, welcome to this live webinar on the topic, Islamic solutions.

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And this is your brother Mohammed presented and organised by almoner Islamic Center Dubai, as many of you perhaps are familiar with the iluminar Islamic center will hamdulillah the center has been running

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and providing Islamic education in various platforms. And using different means Subhan Allah, Allah subhana wa Tada, he puts this responsibility on us and that's what we actually try and strive to you know, fulfill in sha Allah with the help and the permission of Allah subhanaw taala to pass on the goodness D to share that which is you know, beneficial that which can be valuable for people. So, the center Alhamdulillah is registered and recognized by the Islamic affairs and charitable activities department.

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Some of the flagship projects of the center is you know, among many is Dubai International Peace convention, you know, large conferences, workshops, you know, lectures, courses, and various online platforms that we do among, you know, many is learn Deen daily well hamdulillah My beloved brothers and sisters, the topic that we have actually chosen for today's webinar is Islamic solutions, especially when it comes to depression, anxiety, you know, stress and family issues, what we have realized, you know, for the past few months, I am sure, so, is the feeling of many of you, that when when this pandemic COVID-19 began, life has changed, I mean, so many people, you know, getting into

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stress, anxiety, depression, you know, a lot of financial stress a lot of growth, people lost their jobs. And so panela It is very important that we feel as an Islamic Center to provide that which is given by Allah subhanho wa Taala to provide a kind of a solace or comfort for people who are in need Subhan Allah. So, the challenge of COVID-19

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you know, we have to actually face it and we have to move on in our lives with positive mindset, whenever anything of such kind happens, you know, there is definitely you know, an amount of tests that is there from Allah subhanaw taala that we have to, you know, you know, face it and move on inshallah, so this session, Islamic solutions is organized with that key objective of, you know, making sure that we provide solutions from Islam.

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Why Because obviously, these solutions from Islam is from Allah subhanho wa Taala. And who can actually provide these solutions in the best way possible, better than Allah subhanho wa Taala. So as a lot of Buddha, he says, In surah, Yunus surah, number 10 is number 57. Allah subhanho wa Taala. He says, that all mankind, here is an instruction manual for you.

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It is a cure whatever is in the hearts, and it's a mercy for the believers. So, Islam is a solution for the humanity beat in any aspect of beat in any field. So Pamela, and the Islamic solution is actually best because obviously it is prescribed by Allah subhanaw taala. In to it is described by the prophets and a level it is lm meaning that these solutions are practical, realistic, and insha Allah by the will of Allah subhanaw taala achievable. So it is definitely significant for us to explore and gain the exposure of the Islamic solutions for the issues or the problems or the

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challenges, you know, that we are going through. So panela also, one key important thing that I would like all of you to keep in mind is that when we say Islamic solution, it becomes a solution and it will be beneficial, it will be practical, it will be actually usable, only when it is in terms of Islam. What I mean by it is, many times we want Islamic solution, but on our terms, well, that's not you know, you know, possible, we need to gain the Islamic solutions based on what Allah Subhana Allah says in the Quran, and what prophets of Allah moral Islam taught in the Hadith. So the Islamic tradition should be received and practiced, based on Islamic terms and not on our terms, we

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have to have, you know, this mindset very clear, that Islamic solution has to be implemented based on the terms of Islam.

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Allah subhana wa, tada has completed Islam as a packaged solution for the whole of humanity, as I mentioned, it has solution from the social perspective, from the economic perspective, from the emotional perspective, from the physical perspective, from the financial perspective, from the individual perspective to the, you know, group perspective. So, Islam has so much to offer well, hamdulillah Now, what I would like to actually share with you in this session is after you know, mentioning all this, you know, intro is I would like to dedicate more time to your questions, because as we have, you know, started to receive so many questions Subhan Allah already, and I think

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it would be justice to address those questions, you know, and move on in our you know, presentation. So, I will dedicate more time to the question and answer session more more than you know, what I would be talking about, because that way you know, it will be justified now, the topics that we have actually, you know, shared that is depression, anxiety, you know, and the family issues upon which the questions should be asked, as well as I would like to, you know, remind you about the guidelines, that were meant, you know, in the groups so, that you know, you will be able to take a lot of benefit from it insha Allah by the will of Allah subhanaw taala

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just as an intro, I would like to share with you certain key important aspects that we need to actually keep in mind when it comes to depression, anxiety or even family issues, the Islamic solution for such you know, issues is, there are there are certain things that we need to keep it as a meter or as a criteria. Firstly, we need to understand the concept of life, the concept of life is that it is a test, Allah subhanaw taala says in Surah Surah number 67 is number two, under the helical moto when heartily a believer can or you can ask Allah, that Allah has given this life and death, so, that he may test to see who is best in conduct. So, the concept of life is we are here in

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this world, which is temporary, and we are all tested, that is number one, number two, we need to obviously perform in this test. So, in this in this test, there are ups and downs there are you know, good and bad there are difficulties and E's. So, this is bound to be there, I mean, you and me cannot actually escape from these solutions or from you know, problems actually speaking. So, we need to have that also mentality very, very clear. Also, my beloved brothers and sisters, what we need to realize is that, we as Muslims and as believers in Allah Almighty have to keep this fundamental, you know, perspective in mind and that is, our lives should be governed by certain

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principles. And these principles Subhanallah are given by Allah subhanaw taala in the Quran and described by the prophets that are nowadays and so, our life which is a test, which is temporary, which has to face certain challenges, certain, you know, issues, certain difficulties, what will help us to stand firm in these, you know, difficulties or challenges

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What will help us to ease our journey of life are these principles which are derived from the Quran and the teachings of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasallam. So this is very, very important,

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as I mentioned the last point and then we'll inshallah get into the question and answer session in sha Allah. The last pointer is, as I mentioned, we are here meant to be tested, right? But what we need to realize is this test is temporarily as our lives is, you know, it's temporary, Subhan, Allah, my life, your life is temporary, so as the test, so in this test, we need to perform the best. Now when we perform the best, we will be insha Allah at rest in the Hereafter, meaning we have to live in this world, keeping our focus in the year after, in the long term. So we need to think beyond this life, which is the actualization of the purpose of this slide that we need to serve

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Allah subhanaw taala in a way that is pleasing to Him. And we need to, you know, be firm in our faith, we have to have conviction, we have to have that commitment and consistency in that conviction, having the faith in Allah subhanaw taala and depart from discipline. So we need to have this long term perspective in our minds. Now. This is something at the outset, which I wanted to discuss with you that this life is a test, we need to perform the best in this test. Yes, you and me cannot run away from the problems or the challenges. And again, mind you, the problems and challenges are unique to every people, we have unique issues, we have unique problems, the way you

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are tested is different than I am tested, the way someone else is tested is different from the other person. So tests are no different. But we all are tested last Rihanna huhtala he says in Surah, Baqarah surah, number two and number 155, that we all will be tested in different ways. And Allah subhanaw taala at the end, he says, give good news to those who are patient. So we need to have that, you know, patients in our lives in order for us to be successful in this world and the hereafter.

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Let us insha Allah get into the questions and answers, you know that you have asked him a lot, there are so many questions that you have, you know, God and I must, I must appreciate your, your interest, your enthusiasm to be a part of this program. And I must ask Allah subhanaw taala to ease each and everybody's affair, I asked a lot to have choices, mercy on each and every one of you. So, my beloved brothers and sisters, we really thank you from the bottom of our heart, and we hope that inshallah this session would bring benefit to one at all.

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So, let me start with the question and answers that we have received. So, the first question is from Sr. If I was into a relation and that brought nothing but negativity, self doubt, no value, how to get over the negative effects that I that it had on you, and how to practically get over with the person remove him from my heart, if he is from among the relatives, where I know it was only a toxic relation, Baraka loafie boom, so, sister, firstly, what we need to realize is, as I mentioned, we, as believers, we when we take solutions from Islam, we need to be on Islamic terms, meaning that we do not have to actually first create a problem and then run after it to find the solution. The root

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of all the principles of Islam, firstly needs to be followed. Because when we follow the principles of Islam, then these sorts of problems would not even arise. Right. So now that it is it is it is there, how do you actually get rid of it from the Islamic perspective is number one, number one,

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have consciousness of Allah subhanaw taala built and developed every single day, the consciousness of Allah subhanho wa Taala, meaning you need to get engaged in the vicar of Allah subhanaw taala and that freetds and fills your heart it free. It feeds you with contentment with pleasure, with satisfaction with joy, and that's how you actually become a positive person.

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And, and obviously, when you are convinced internally, you actually, you know, can come back with the doubts that you have from your own internal, you know, self So, you can actually come back with those kinds of doubts, you know, by yourself inshallah, with the help and permission of Allah subhanaw taala, when you actually gain the consciousness of Allah subhanaw taala practically speaking, when you think that certain people in your life are creating hindrances, problems, difficulties that you think for a moment, you cannot cope up, Allah subhanho wa Taala, he wants you to be away from such negative people. Allah subhanaw taala says, for instance, who know Masada can

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be with those who are truthful, who are, who are, were practical people who believe in Allah, our conscience of Allah, who are good people, a lot of times we get spoiled when we are among the people who are negative, or when we know that they are negative, we have to distance ourselves from those people and support Allah, this has to be done in a very structured and and, you know, designed fashion, meaning that you cannot cut off the relations in Islam, but at the same time, you cannot mingle with someone who is, you know, a non mme to you a person, you know, who is not a blood relative to you. So a lot of times what happens is when we get into an environment, and we face, you

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know, issues, and then we want to come out of that, right, so we have to ensure that we don't get into that environment. So, you know, our suggestion to us sister is number one, gain consciousness of Allah subhanaw taala and to try to distant from such people, you know, if you don't, don't mingle with those kinds of people so that you will be negatively affected.

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We have another question.

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My 14 year old daughter got severe depression, and sleepless from past eight months Mila make it easy for her.

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And she is taking psychiatric tablets, she's having mood swings, and voices hearing frequently. And she said sometimes she saw some human images. She is not praying salah and interested in and interested in any of these and not interested in any Islamic activities. She's watching movies, yearning songs, and she doesn't like Islamic culture. In India to Imam and Ali g lm told that she is possessed by soul, please suggest a solution for her in Islam.

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Is there a possibility possible to be possessed by a soul or she's having only psychiatric problem? Now, this kind of issues happens. Firstly, because we, as believers in Allah Almighty do not take protection, which is given by Allah Almighty. So the first thing that I suggest you, sister, is to ensure that your daughter is being you know, engaged in the vicar of Allah subhanho wa Taala, the asker of the morning in the evening, I understand, if she is not very much interested, then you can actually put an audio and you know, where, where this is audible to her as well, it will benefit her and it will benefit the entire family. So the asker of the morning and the evening is is a very,

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very strong way of protecting, you know, everyone from all these evil, your thinking or actions or any kind of such disorders or the mood swings.

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Sometimes it could be a clinical problem as well. So you need to, you know, show to someone who is reliable, who is faithful. Like for example, I was speaking to Mufti menk, you know, couple of days back where he did an install live session with Dr. tk Harris is a wonderful coach, and he's a psychologist, a very well educated doctor, as well as he is still kind of a strong believer, you know, as we see, so, you have to consult someone who is of like that kind of a person who has faith in Allah Almighty at the same time, who has an expertise on this subject. It could be, you know, tackled in that way, but as a regular solution, regardless whether she's possessed or not

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The best protection would be to help her Listen, the US guardi the two hours of the morning, and the evening inshallah that would, you know, ease the situation and you can, you know, share with her the positive, you know achievements that she has achieved in her life a lot of times what happens is because of the negativity as well, the people, they, they tend to lose the faith and they tend to lose the interest in faith. So you need to pump them talking and appreciating them, their good qualities that they have.

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Another question that we have is

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me and my husband are having marital issues due to in laws, interference in our life, and they decide everything that we need to do meaning the in laws, they decide everything that they need to do. And my husband blindly listens to whatever his family says, and he feels, if he goes against them or their conditions, he might lose his family, Is it right for my in laws to make every decision of our life, and Is it right for my husband to only listen to them and not have a balance between wife and family. He believes paradise lies under the feet of the mother, therefore he should only obey what his mother says. Also, I would like to know if God is married, does that mean she

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only needs to obey her husband and his family no matter whether they are right or wrong, and should give second priority to her parents as she's married and only should obey her husband. Now, this is something which is a very common, you know, issue or a challenge that, you know, our sisters, you know, who face the issue of the you know, in laws, this is something which is very common and genuine. Now, what we need to realize is, we have to have a balanced approach. Now, as we know that a lot of laser, he made us a balanced tumor, what that means is we need to have a balance in everything balanced in maintaining the relations balance in, in our approach balance in our, you

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know, practice with with all the treatment for that matter. So, we need to have that, that clear understanding of how to move, you know, and go about with with such situations. Now one of the ways would be to understand and educate the, you know, senior, or the elderly people that there is a life of husband wife, and indeed, the one who is not, you know, centrally attached with with with them has any right to influence their decision. So, in Islam, the framework is very clear, the decisions of the husband and wife cannot be interfered by the in laws, this is very clear. However, these suggestions, the inputs, the advisors can be sought in order to take the benefit from the elderly

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experience. But what seemed over here is the unnecessary interference, which in Islam is definitely not encouraged. One of the key things that husbands and wives both have to realize and understand is justice is the main thing that we need to establish in our lives. And that is the reason Allah Almighty He says that he loves those who are maxing in who are the most sitting those who actually do and deal their life with justice. Right? So Allah gives the command to be just and justice demands that you take what the sight of what is right in justice is one of the major or the fundamental causes of the problems and the issues in in every, you know, you know, everyone's life

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be each individual in a family, society or the world as well. So injustice is actually the cause of a lot of problems. So the husband has to take discharge being the head of the family needs to take and make sure that you know justice prevails at any cost. That doesn't mean to be disrespectful to the elderly, whether it's mother or father or you know, any senior or elderly once that only means that you need to balance the approach and this way, you know, you will be able to find benefits inshallah and this way you will be able to find what is right and blessing from

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Allah subhanaw taala a lot of times we take either this side or that side, but we need to take the balanced side, which means that we have to ensure that the, the, the rights of parents are undoubtedly there, but at the same time, you cannot be unjust to your wife. So, that's the reason a lot of times, you know, if injustice is played, then there is a problem. So, what we need to realize is the husbands have to be strong enough in order to practice justice in their lives, and that would solve a lot of issues that would solve lots of issues and at the same time, this should be done in the correct manner as we know that the two things which are very very important this the either this

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the this is the suit is the principle in law of matters. First thing that you're doing should be right, and the way that you do it should be right so what you do should be right and how you should do that also should be right in sha Allah and Allah knows best.

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Another question that we have is

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I'm from a decent Islamic family, but I fell prey to a young man's promise of getting married to me as he claimed to love me but suddenly his promises faded. And his strange behavior made me fall into depression because of the guilt of disobedience towards Allah subhanaw taala kindly guide me, Allah subhanaw taala loves those who turn back to him. Allah subhana wa Taala he loves those who turn to Allah subhanho wa Taala. So if you have sincerely repented of your actions, you do not have to be depressed Subhan Allah, Allah says, In surah to Zoomer na tekna to moratalla Do not be despair from the mercy of Allah subhanho wa Taala Allah, Allah Buddha is veggie and you know open to forgive any

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and every kind of sins, as long as your repentance is sincere. So yes, that guilt of that sin must be there, in that remorse factor must be there, but that should not actually make you depressed, rather, it should take you closer to Allah subhanho wa Taala. So, you should start doing lots of good deeds, because our good deeds, they actually spell around the bad deeds. So, whenever we we we commit a sin and this is again a common principle, a general principle, which will be helpful for everyone, whenever we commit a sin, we should immediately we should immediately you know, backed it up with the with that which is good, we need to do that which is good that way, you know, insha

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Allah, our affairs will be set right and that doesn't mean that we plan a sin and that we do a good No, when we you know, when we commit a sin or when we are, you know, caught into certain things which are which are which are, you know, disobedient to Allah subhanaw taala we need to make sure that we do not have good deeds and that will help us big time insha Allah so you don't have to be depressed you just need to seek the mercy of Allah subhanaw taala and keep doing good insha Allah

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has another question.

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Sir, I'm already good employee can salon de la hope this message finds you in good health? Will hamdulillah I would like to ask how to get over negative thoughts. I feel so hatred for one person whom I have to see daily. She just stopped talking to me suddenly saying I envy her how to get over his this feeling and how to get over someone whom I love.

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I go so low in my energy, I don't even feel like moving it hurts when he talks to other girls, when he goes out with others. I'm in complete tension, anxiety, how to overcome insecurities inferiority complex. So, there are too many things involved in this question. Now firstly, how to overcome the negative thoughts, the negative thoughts, the depressive thoughts, they are majorly you know, from shaitan. And from that, which is evil in our own sub so since makes us sad, actually speaking, and obviously these things are instigated by shape. And so a lot of times what happens is shaytaan insinuate certain negative thoughts, because eventually the purpose of shaytaan is to deviate, you

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make you hopeless and make you depressed and keep you away from Allah subhanaw taala as a lot of races in the hula kumawu movie, indeed, chipin is to you as an open enemy. So he being an enemy, he does everything possible to take that enmity. We are

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believers have to combat it with our email, you need to have Imani Allah subhanho wa Taala and have good hopes. Positivity is something which is so important for us to live, you know, and move forward in our lives that would help us to remain happy inshallah, so how to overcome negative thoughts, think about the good things that you have done, think about the favors that Allah subhanaw taala has done on you think about the achievements that you have, by the will of Allah subhanaw taala and think about the future as well how bright it's going to be in sha Allah, by the will of Allah subhanho wa Taala also, you mentioned that I feel so hatred for one person in Islam, it is not

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allowed to hate people, you know, in general, in general, obviously, as we say, the principal hit the problem, not the person, when you hit the problem, the problem gets killed, but the person remains that right. So we want to actually,

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you know, get rid of that which is negative, which is wrong input in people. So, we need to ensure that we hit the problem not the person. So,

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try to think that which is good in that person, you know, Allah subhanaw taala is is is the fact that he

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removes the bad with that which is good, and you will find the enemy, you know, the one who was enemy to you will be your close friend. So a lot of times this formula works, wonders Subhan Allah, when you do good, even if the person do back to you, you will find amazing results. But again, it depends on case to case basis. Also, you need to also understand that, you know, when you get feelings of insecurity, go back to the you know, root reason why that insecurity is coming into play. Is it on faith grounds? Or is it on, you know, unfair grounds if it's on Fair Grounds, you know, for example, obviously, if you're if your husband is is going out with some someone else, and

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that is obviously not allowed in Islam, if they're not married, then obviously this is fair insecurity, you need to talk to that person, counsel, and advise and take them to the religious advisor, take them to a camp counselor, you know, talk to the elders and try to sort out that situation. Most of the times communication consultation could actually solve and provide the solution based on the Islamic principles.

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Another question that we have is I have a question, which is currently affecting me so much. I'm an introvert who just don't like, you know, unnecessary socializing. I don't like following up on people's personal issues. I'm also very sick, you know, secretive, and rarely share my issues with people. My problem is most of my friends are treating as if I'm as if I perform ship, or I have an evil eye.

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The

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question is, how will I make them understand that I do not perform ship? And how will I live with them? Well, there are two things here. Number one, you have to know what ship is all about. And you have to account yourself as Omar rhodiola used to say, account yourself before you are accounted by Allah subhanho wa Taala. So you need to account yourself and ask yourself, I you, first of all aware of what God is all about. And if you're well aware of what the show is all about, then are you performing the ship or not? If you're convinced that you're not performing ship, you don't have to show to people that you're not performance ship, you are going to be accountable to Allah subhanho

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wa Taala It is Allah who is going to reward you It is Allah who is going to punish you a lot of times, you know, we have certain similar questions as well a lot of times we become people oriented, well we need to be Allah oriented. We need to think about Allah 1000 times better or more or bigger than what we think about people. So people will come and go, today, they will they are they are, you know, teasing you. Tomorrow, they will appreciate you and later again, they might you know, oppose you so people will come and go, what we need to focus on is on Allah subhanaw taala if Allah is pleased with me, if Allah is happy with me, then that's it. That's a done deal. That's number one.

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So you need to make sure that you understand what sugar is all about. And you need to ask yourself if you're committing it, if you're not committing it, you don't need to be you know, shy enough you need you don't need to be you know, inferior with them and you just need to be relaxed and and live your life. That's number one. Number two

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people when they actually look at you to be inferior or they look at you, that you have an evil eye, well they could be a possibility that you could be affected with an evil eye because this is something which is why the spread the profits to the level and he sent him he said an evil eye is is the truth. So you and me Can anytime be affected and that the the cure is we need to make drugs and have the the self rockier the the protection from the as God and drugs and that's how we actually protect ourselves. So don't be driven by the people's mentality, drive yourself based on the principles of Islam inshallah you will be happy.

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So, we have

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another question. Does suffering from anxiety and depression mean the person has low or weak? What is the cure of depression and anxiety as per the Quran and the Sunnah? Well, Allah subhanho wa Taala. He says in the Quran, in Surah, Baja, Allah subhanaw taala, he says, woman are the victory for another whom I shut on Ganga, one national who yo Malachy Amati Arma Allah subhanaw taala says that if you go away from my book, from my reminder from the Quran, I will make your life a depressed life. And in the year after you will be among the blind people or you will be raised among the blind people. So what we need to realize is that the depression comes majorly you know, from the Islamic

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perspective you look at, it comes when we distance ourselves from the Quran, how many of us do we take Quran every single day? When was the last time that you read, you know, with a quality mindset, the Glorious Quran, when was the last time that you actually reflected on the meanings of the Quran, when was the last time that you actually bonded and die and try to find solutions from the Quran? So, these things generally speaking, we do not do so that's the reason we get ourselves victimized with certain things such as a you know depression. So what we need to do is we need to be with the Quran. Quran is actually this is the Shiva Lima, Lima sudo This is the cure of whatever is in the

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you know hearts, whatever the disease whatever the problem whatever the issue is that is there lying in our heart. Allah subhanaw taala gives the cure the Shiva the solution in the Quran, so be with the Quran, that's number one. Number two be with the positive people. Be the people who uplift you be the be the people who who encourage you inspire you, who help you who actually try to you know, appreciate you in a way that is pleasing to Allah subhanaw taala and inshallah that's how you can actually combat with something such as you know, depression and anxiety also there is a dua that we know from the authentic son of the Prophet salallahu alayhi Salaam, with Allahumma inni are obika

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mineral hammy wellhausen We are also becoming an agency while castle are also becoming a Jubilee while boeken are also becoming a law all over the Dany takahara region, meaning Oh Allah, I seek refuge with you from anxiety and sorrow, weakness and laziness, miserliness and cowardice, the burden of debts and from being overpowered by men. So this is a very powerful duar for depression, anxiety and stress. Let us take a few more questions in sha Allah.

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audit a similar question Islamic way and duar to deal with depression I have mentioned already, you can read you know, the Quran as much as you can. And you can actually read this, as I mentioned, which will help us inshallah to overcome the anxiety.

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A similar question, I'm a mother of 14 year old daughter, who was, who has social anxiety kindly advise me on how to help her. She doesn't like to mingle with her classmates or even outsiders prefers to be alone by herself. Most of the times doesn't enjoy going to school or social gatherings and sometimes I find her quite depressed due to this. Well, this is this seems to be a common thing. What we need to realize and understand is we need to first and foremost identify the factors why or the causes why this problem is happening?

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You as a mother as a father have to realize and understand why that problem is is coming to play, why is it that you know, our daughters, our children, our spouses, our parents, they are getting into depression, this is something which is very, very common and a lot of times if you do not have a structured, you know, pattern or way to deal with such, you know, elements or such issues, we will actually end up you know, failing, you know, and or losing at times relations, so, have a look. So, first we need to do, what we need to do is we need to identify, what is the, you know, root cause of this attitude or behavior to when we find that, cause, you know, it could be a setback, it could be

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a word that is spoken by someone which actually affected so negatively on that person that you know, that person is actually not feeling, you know, well and this is how they actually try to live a secluded life, you need to find those causes find after you've identified those causes, what you need to do is you need to actually start you know, giving the solutions and to handler one of the biggest way to give solution is to create hope or develop hope in their in their lives. Most of the people who are, you know, depressed or sad is because they do not have real hope in Allah subhanaw taala. And a lot of will easily said something extremely important. Allah says, What locked up in a

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to Latina tumor Rahmatullah Do not be hopeless, in the mercy of Allah subhanho wa Taala. So, it doesn't matter what kind of or how many amount of sins that we have done, what kind of life that we have spent in the law in the past, what kind of you know, behavior that we had, now, we want to correct ourselves now we want to come back to Allah. Now we want to turn to Allah. Now, we want to gain the mercy of Allah subhanaw taala Allah has, you know, open ways open doors for those kinds of people. So, create hope, hope actually helps big time to people who do not have the you know, you know, good thinking in their lives, a lot of times they actually get into this situation, because

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also they think that you know, there is no solution for their problems, there is no one to listen to. So, this is also very important, listen to their problems, listen to their, you know,

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issues, give importance to their issues, you know, when you listen to them, when you listen from them, when you give time to them, when you give importance to them, they will come closer to you and when they come closer to you, then share the things that they're going through. So, when they you know, share with you things inshallah, according to those things, you need to find the solutions from the Quran and the teachings of the Prophet sallallaahu Selim and you you need to also have this is very, very important, this is my piece of advice for everyone, we need to have a Schuler group in our life v. Every individual one must have a group of people who will be like a Shura group, who

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will be like a consultative body, which should consist of an island which should consist of a person who is wise, which should be someone who loves us, who understands this. So, you need to have four or five people whom you can actually consult any time whenever you have these sort of things. So, you can go back to them, you know, time to time and and gain their you know, advisors and understand the wisdom from them and understand the direction that you need to take in your life. So, so, this is something which is applicable in everybody's life, that we need to have that kind of body and accordingly we deal with, with such you know, crisis. So you need to feed you know, positive hopes

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in in in you know, your daughter's you know, mind and that's how inshallah slowly by but surely you will get results. One of the things that we also need to understand is, we cannot expect very quick results, right? We need to give time we need to have patience with these sorts of people who go on to you know, in trauma in depression and sort of things. We need to be patient with them in dealing with them.

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Okay, we have a few more questions.

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Okay, so we have one scholar

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anonymous

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Sister

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also like to

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ask question, perhaps seven to eight months, she has problem in life. And

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I'm not able to understand what exactly the question is because it's written in Roman language.

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Okay, will, I think that there is some issue with with with one sister with regards to the husband in terms of keeping up with the challenges that that, you know, we all are going through

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with regards to the job or with regards to the coping up with the financial, you know, challenge that we have. So, I the the suggestion or the advice that I would like to give is two things, number one, have contentment in your life have the element of gratitude, gratitude to Allah subhanaw taala is something very, very powerful and this helps us a lot sugar, you know, the the gratefulness to Allah subhanaw taala. A lot of times we try to have, you know, try to focus on most of the times, but we focus on that which we don't have, what we don't focus what we have, there is so much that we have Subhanallah a lot of diseases were injured to narrow Matala, he loved to sue her, if you were

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to count the favors of Allah subhanho wa Taala, you will never be able to count them. So, this is something which is really, really important and that is to be grateful to have the sense of gratitude in our lives, this is one, two, we need to ensure that we be patient life is not always the same. Sometimes it has, you know, you know, challenges from from the perspective of the finance, sometimes emotions, sometimes psychological problems sometimes, you know, emotional problems. So,

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the the issues or the challenges could vary. So what we need to do is we need to be patient, we need to be patient and just not a word. It's actually a recipe for happiness. Mark my words My beloved brothers and sisters, mark my words, patience is a recipe of happiness. Imagine the profits of the lover instead of me said the price of patience is Janna. glovework. So when Allah can give Jenna if you only have patience, what about the solutions of this world? Will it get through like this? Right? So we need to be patient insha Allah, the the way how we can be patient is number one, number one very, very important principle my brothers and sisters, for us to you know, implement in

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practice in our lives is a lot of bluster, he says in Surah Baqarah, so number two and number 286. Now you can lift Allahu knutsson illa Allah, Allah does not put a burden upon you, that which you cannot bear Subhana Allah. So, the idea is a little bit as I said, something very profound and powerful, we will not be burdened, burdened, or we will not be given the pressure, that which we cannot bear, meaning, we will have the pain, the problem, the difficulty, the option, the challenge, that which is bearable, that which we can deal with Subhana Allah, when we have this mindset, automatically, we will become mentally strong, that yes, doesn't matter what kind of problem is it?

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I'm, you know, a believer in Allah and he said, he will not put a burden on me that which I cannot bear meaning that I am able to, you know, cope with this problem, deal with this problem. So, I will stand firm and and face those problems or, you know, or challenges. So, we need to have this mindset that Allah does not put a burden that which we cannot bear to Allah subhanaw taala he says in Surah to share that

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with the difficulties with the hardships is easy in the module three to zero. So, a lot of good Isaiah he says, whenever there is any problem, any difficulty, any challenge, Allah will give the ease as well. So when you have this, this positive mindset of coping of things, inshallah things will settle very, very well.

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Okay, we have too many questions more or less.

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Okay, this seems to be very important. What's the suggestion for a person suffering from OCD that is

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obsessive compulsive disorder and have having negative religious thoughts and can't overcome them, he is heat sinful for not overcome, for not overcoming such doubts or thoughts. Well, this is something what I actually mentioned just a few minutes back, and that is, you know, Allah does not put a burden on you that which we cannot bear. So, Allah is going to take us accountable on things which we do consciously on on the life which is conscious. So, when we lose consciousness, when we don't, or when when you are not able to differentiate between right and wrong, you know, good and bad, Allah is not going to, you know, put a burden on you on asking or questions to you. So, we need

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to realize that, sometimes sometimes we get into, or people get into certain, you know, phases where they don't know what they're doing. Right. So they need to be obviously, clinically be dealt, you know, they need to be treated clinically, to they need to be spiritually, you know, benefited, which means that they need to actually be counseled by a religious advisor, who will bring up certain strong concepts that would actually combat these negative religious thoughts that could come in aqeedah, you know, you a person might question the villa about Allah subhanho wa Taala, whether they exist or not, a person might, you know, have negative thoughts about the Avada you know, the prayer,

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is it really compulsory or not, so these negative thoughts, if, if a person is conscious, then he's accountable, if a person is is is in, in kind of a trauma is a is kind of, you know, in Compulsive Disorder, and he doesn't really, you know, realize what he says what she says that obviously, Allah is not going to take account of that person in sha Allah and Allah knows best.

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One more question is 100 I do have a lot of faith in Allah hamdulillah but I tend to worry about things, especially in this climate, Is this considered a sin? So this is the first question now Subhan Allah wadding is a is in the nature of the human being, you know, we've already we actually have this tendency and this quality, which is very humanly, you know, which is very general, which was, which is there every human being right. So, but after very, how do you deal with that very, is very important. You know, for example, you can't escape from the problem, but how do you actually deal with the problem decides, or defines who you are, if you are a believer, you deal with that

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very, in a very proper and powerful manner, in the light of the Quran and the teachings of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. And the practical way of doing that is you immediately come out of that very, you immediately remain yourself as patient, you observe patients at that situation, and you try to deal with that very, in a way that is pleasing to Allah subhanho wa Taala and that is to not over you know, filmed with with with with those berries to lose, that would actually lead people to lose faith to handle that, as you mentioned, what hamdulillah increase you in your faith, when you have faith in Allah subhanaw taala Yes, it could be that at times you might get worried but

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you cannot remain worried that is very, very important. You have to come out of that, you know, worry as soon as possible. If you believe as Allah subhanaw taala he says in Surah, two REM Rancho number three, number 131 39 when he no one has no one to move alone in control, meaning Allah subhanahu wa taala he says is don't be sad, don't be hopeless, don't grieve you will be successful, if you are believing, so as to how to love fate, which stands you know and helps us to stand firmly and face these various Sukarno. So, it is very common especially in the current time that we are living with the challenge of COVID-19 there will be various they will be you know, kind of, you

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know, feelings that would be experienced by everyone. But important thing is you do not have to remain in that situation, but come out of it immediately.

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The question is, is the presence of worry a sign of weak fate? I definitely do not want Allah to be displeased with me or my family. Unfortunately, I'm just made that way. If there is any tips, I would love to follow them. Well, the presence of worry is a sign of weak faith. Well, to be honest, as I mentioned, if you remain worried, then that is a definitely a sign of weak faith because Allah subhanaw taala said very clearly, that if you have faith, there'll be no you don't have to worry about you know, you don't have to worry and you don't have to be hopeless, meaning the believers are highly hopeful, meaning the believers they do not live with worries and they are not in grief all

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the time. Right. So the stronger the fate is, the the way that you can be away from this hopeless attitude and hopeless behavior. And the fate actually distend this despair or disappointed or disheartening, you know, mindset actually speaking. So

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as a person, you need to have strong, you know, faith in Allah subhanaw taala and remain on it. Las panatela says, In the Latina corner of God, Allah, so must move. Those who have said Allah is my Lord, and they remain on it. So being on it is very, very important meaning being on the team, being stable on the deen being firm in the faith in Allah subhanaw taala is very, very important and kind of love this worry. And this kind of, you know, problems and issues are a part of life, they are not a sign of weak faith in short luck.

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Alright, so we have a

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few minutes left, inshallah we'll try to take some more

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wishes.

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Okay, so I'm an Indian, my name is Jeanette back

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out of India past many years, our daughter as well, and two sons. Since being in Gulf states past so many years, it is difficult to get much for my children. Alright, so it seems to be a very long

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question. So I'll just go to the main part of it.

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Okay, so the question is, sometimes the children, whether it's sons or daughters, they do not come on the same page of religious, you know, understanding or religious maturity, so to say, and they do not want to marry someone who is religious widow, and this is something which is a real problem. And that actually goes back to the fundamental, you know, teachings that we as parents must, you know, give to our children, when we give them Islamic upbringing, you know, this problem of would not actually arise. So, now that this problem has arise, what you need to do is you need to actually ensure that you counsel and you try to you know, explain whether daughter or son about the

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importance and the benefits of a person who is religious, you know, to marry words of a person who understands and being conscious of Allah subhanaw taala that person is far more superior than any military in the world because that person will, if he's really conscious of Allah Almighty, not just a religious God, not just having a beard and a coffee and all sorts of things, but religious in a practical sense, that person is conscious of Allah Almighty, that person will keep you know her or him you know, always happy inshallah and that is something which we always look for when it comes to marriage.

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Okay, seven years I've been in relationship but my part my parents know about this and became an issue however, I tried to convince them they are not ready. They want me to get married to the person they choose, but I can't even you know this but about another

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The relationship, their main problem is financial issue and that I'm 22 years and should get married, my person worked for me so hard at a young age, even though he lost his father so that he could look after me. Now, the big question is,

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obviously, the girls, the, you know, girls, they have absolute choice of choosing their life partner, this is given and granted by Allah subhanaw taala. And nobody can take this, right. However, however, this has to be, uh, you know, kept in a holistic perspective, the parents need to understand the interest the likes of the daughter and have to, you know, do a, an assessment of, you know, her choice, and respect her choice, and try to evaluate whether this is actually good for her or not. If it's not, then you need to explain in a better way, in a way that is, you know, understandable and reasonable and logical, and that would most of the times would, you know, resolve

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the problem, if that problem.

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You know, another problem is, sometimes they actually go out of, you know, the, the, under the guardianship of the parents and they married Pamela, which again, as we know, the Prophet sallallahu, alayhi wasallam, he said, there is no Nikkor without worry, the worry, The Guardian, in in most of the cases, its father must be there for a girl to marry to holla. So, there are so many problems that comes into play. So the idea is on the concept is you need to respect the choice of the children who would like to, you know, choose, there would be one, and you need to guide and advise as much as you can, and assess in a proper way and don't just be driven by something which is

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trivial, meaning that many times appearance, they do want to accept the choice of a daughter or son for that matter, only big only because of the less financial standing. Well, that's not the reasonable, you know, you know, point for for a person to reject based on the less financial standings to Pamela, what you and everyone has to look at the first criteria is the virtue, how is the religion or the Dean of that person that the man or woman, how is the Dean of that person that should be the number one priority of course, the finance also have to be considered, but that should not be the factor which is the deciding factor whether in or out, so, we need to balance and give

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freedom and give choice which is given by Allah subhanaw taala to our daughters.

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So I think we are running out of time and final love you have so many other questions, which I would love to, you know, deal with. But I think we can deal with the with last question in Sharla. From one week on feeling heaviness in chest and breathing issue of and honest, this anxiety, what solution do you suggest, well, don't worry about dystonia too much. A lot of times we vary about dystonia, and we keep dystonia in our heart. And when we lose something from this dunya our heart hurts, our heart hurts. So stop worrying about dystonia, attach your heart with a hero, that doesn't mean that you leave dunia or your abandoned dunya No, it means that you keep Allah in your heart and

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you keep doing it in your hand. When you keep dunya in your hand it will come and it will go. So, you will not be completely worried and boggled with with such situations. So you need to ensure that you start you know, detaching yourself as much as you can from this dunya and balance your approach too much of varies based on the situation you know, especially again, I would like to remind myself and everyone with the situation of this COVID-19 everyone is worried about their health, their finances, their you know their emotions and their social life so much that they are actually not coming out of it. Well, my message my brothers and sisters is Be positive, be hopeful in the mercy

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of Allah subhanaw taala be highly hopeful have good thoughts from Allah subhanaw taala says things will get better situations will be in favor of us and inshallah we will have a very happy and joyous life by the will of Allah subhanaw taala so too much worry, worrying about this dunya about the you know, attachment of this dunya will actually make people sad, and that is not the approach of happy people. They attach to Allah and

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Whoever is attached to Allah, they will get the contentment as Allah subhanho wa Taala is is Allah basically lie that in Nakuru, the remembrance of Allah do hearts find serenity, peace, satisfaction, joy, pleasure. So my beloved brothers and sisters, we need to have this satisfaction from Allah subhanaw taala When, when, when this satisfaction when this, it manaan, when this joy when this peace stays in our heart, the dunya can never do anything to us Subhana Allah, yes, at times will, you know, you'll be faced a loss of job or relationship, but that's again, a part of life a part of life and that is a test as I mentioned the beginning. So we need to have this very, very strong, you

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know, process number one, treat this life as a test number two, have faith in Allah Almighty and be always positive, accept his decisions and govern your life with the principles of Islam, and, and make sure that you, you know, take the solution of Islam, based on the terms of Islam, and inshallah, when we do this, we will definitely get, you know, a solutions and that will help and benefit us big time by brothers and sisters, I really wish to continue more, but time is definitely a challenge over here, we need to end this inshallah, but I I, on behalf of the center would like to definitely thank each one of you for joining us. And I would like to extend You know, this proposal

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to the center that to have this kind of sessions, you know, quite often because I see there's a huge need of addressing and providing, you know, answers and solutions to those who are distressed to those who are depressed to those who need help to those who need counseling, to those who need consultation, definitely will look into it and consider to do these kind of sessions again and again, which will inshallah be a factor of benefit for one and all, we are there to help you out. And in case if we missed any questions, we'll try to you know, answer those questions privately. There are certain questions which are quite long and which are quite personal, so inshallah, from

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our team, we will try to contact you and try to you know, provide whatever best services and help that we could extend inshallah, to all of you to reach out to you to be able to provide you, you know, solutions from Islam, from the Quran and the teachings of the Prophet sallallahu sallam. Again, I ask Allah subhanaw taala to accept the service from us. I ask Allah subhanaw taala to reward every one of you and to bless you and to ease your situation and to ask Allah subhanaw taala to provide the best position in this world and the hereafter and to unite us all. in the company of the Prophet sallallaahu Selim, witness in the face of Allah subhanaw taala will actually do that

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Allah Anil hamdulillahi Rabbil aalameen