Abu Taymiyyah – Your wife committed ZINA! How would you react to accusations
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Their respective brothers and sisters
part of trying to get the best out
of Ramadan
is knowing how the salafs, the Sahaba,
the Tabi'een and the Tabi'i Tabi'een
How they used to enter the month of
Ramadan?
Because there's many many things that the prophet
sallallahu alaihi wa sallam in this month used
to engage in. He never just used to
waste his time. He never just used to
waste on sleep. And the Ramadan, the fasting
is not only about staying away from food
and drink. The Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam told
us,
Fasting
in the month of Ramadan is not just
about staying away from food and drinks. Rather,
it is also about abstaining
from false talk, and also about falling into
obscenity.
So there's many many things that person needs
to consider when the month of Ramadan comes.
2 things, 2 characteristics
that we wanna speak about today. And they
are mentioned in the Quran consecutively
in suratul iman.
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala He says in the
Quran,
And then Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala says,
Allah
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala mentioned,
those that pardon one another, those that forgive
each other. Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala loves those
that do good. And then in the second
he mentions,
those when they do bad deeds, they fall
into sin, they remember Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala
very very quickly, And they seek his forgiveness.
But indeed Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala forgives those
who seek his forgiveness.
For indeed these people, these 2 people that
are mentioned in these 2 ayaat, Allah subhanahu
wa ta'ala then says, that he will forgive
them, and for them is the jannah. Abdullah
ibn Mas'ud,
he was asked who was from the tremendous
of the Sahaba,
How did Jireh used to enter the month
of Ramadan?
So Abdullah ibn Mas'ud, he replied back and
he said,
Never did we used to enter the month
of Ramadan.
And any of us would have in his
heart,
any hatred,
any envy,
any dislikedness
towards his believing brother. This is how the
salaf were when the month of Ramadan came.
Brothers and sisters, this characteristic,
which is from the characteristics
of the people of Jannah. And this is
how the sahabah they used to enter the
month of Ramadan. To give and pardon one
another not to have anything,
anything in your heart against any of your
Muslim brothers. This is how the Sahaba were
when the month of Ramadan came. Brothers and
sisters,
If we can't rectify
that which is between us and our brothers,
and we can't take out the hatred that's
in our heart in this month, when the
shayateen has been locked up, the Prophet sallallahu
alaihi wa sallam told us,
When the month of Ramadan comes, the doors
of paradise are swung open. And the doors
of hellfire are slammed shut, and the
they've been chained up. When the shayateen are
chained up, if we can't rectify,
If we can't take out the hatred, the
problems that we have in our heart, wallahi
we have to ask questions about ourselves. We
need to look back on the kind of
people that we are. Brothers and sisters, there's
many many virtues, many many ahadid
which talks about
forgiving one another, pardoning one another. Today you
find within families,
in our own communities,
people they boycott each other for the smallest
things. Maybe this guy didn't invite me to
his wedding, or he never gave me 2
months. He never gave me a 2 months
notice in regards to the wedding that's taking
place. Due to these kind of things, you
find that the Muslims they don't speak to
each other for maybe months, If not years.
The other day,
we had the few people they talking about.
A person did not call the family of
an individual that became sick. And because of
this small thing, this small thing that took
place, they never spoke each other. Smoked to
each other for over 2 years. Over 2
years, over 2 people not even talking about
each other, or a person not being visited.
And this is very very common. Very very
common that happens in our communities.
Tribal matters.
Tribal matters. Things that may have taken place
10 years ago. 10 years ago between our
grandfathers
and our great great grandfathers.
We find that the people, they
insult each other or they boycott each other.
They don't speak to each other over the
things that have absolute no concern to maybe
some of the things that we do today.
This is a problem, it's a fitna that
has now evolved in our communities,
and because of this you find that the
later generations, they are told about maybe some
things that happened between families years years ago.
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala he tells us in
many places in the Quran, the virtue of
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala he says in the
Quran,
Quran. The good action and the bad action,
they're not equal. Then let this person react
to him in a better way. Today we
have this kind of mentality,
that maybe if a husband, he's back to
his wife, she's gonna try and get him
back.
She's gonna try and do something to him
in order for him to realize the mistake
that he's done.
Over something that he may have said, and
he never looked at it in such a
negative way. She's easy to be very very
bad, so she tries to get him back.
So it becomes like 2 little kids, they're
fighting each other. This guy does something, and
he does something, and then she does something,
and then he does something, And this just
carries on, carries on until
the whole relationship
breaks down. This is the kind of mentality
that we've adopted
from the kuffar. Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala tells
us in this ayah.
And who is more truthful than Allah subhanahu
wa ta'ala in His speech?
When a person does something bad to you,
then react to him in a better manner.
As they say in the English language, Be
the bigger man. Be the bigger man.
It's react to him in a better way.
This letter,
when Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala
That this fa is
a The letters in the Quran
those that contemplate and ponder upon the Quran,
you find that small letters
have very very great meanings and great emphasis.
He mentioned this is a
something happens unexpectedly.
The 2 people, the guy that you and
him have some sort of hatred,
enmity,
problems between both of you, then Allah subhanahu
wa ta'ala. Because of you reacting
in a better manner, Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
will make him a very good friend of
yours.
Just because you reacted
in a better way,
A very close friend, Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala
will make that person who's been back to
you because you've reacted in a better way.
Then Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala says,
And the only people that actually do this
is those that are patient, and they've been
given a great portion of this. Brothers and
sisters, Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala He tells us
in the Quran about what happened to Aisha
radiAllahu anha. So I ask you brothers,
and this test, the manhood, the wuduul of
an individual, of a man. If someone was
to come up to you now,
or if I was to say
that your wife,
or your mother, or your daughter
has been sleeping around with another guy. Or
she did this, and she did that. To
another man. Wallahi. Every single person,
every man that has the manhood, he has
the rujula, he's gonna get up and there's
gonna be problems. Tables are gonna get flipped,
there's gonna be insulting. Even if this person
is from the best of the people.
Because this test, the manhood of an individual.
Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala tells us in the
Quran about Aisha. There were some people from
the hypocrites.
People from the hypocrites who slander
and spread lies, accusations
about our mother, Aisha
They said about her that she slept with
this guy. And from those that mentioned this,
was her own uncle,
mister Khidr Rufasa, who was the cousin of
Abu Bakr radiAllahu anhu.
This man, may Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala be
pleased with him, and we ask Allah azza
wa Jal to forgive all of us in
what we say, was the cousin of Abu
Bakr radiAllahu An. His own niece, his own
niece, he was from those that spread about
her, that she slept with this guy.
That she slept with another man. Abu Bakr
radiAllahu anhu used to pay him, used to
look after him. When he made Hijra,
the only source of income that mister
had was the income that Abu Bakr radiAllahu
anhu used to give us. He used to
look after him. He used to pay him.
He used to give him from his wealth.
So of course, when a man is, that
someone has been spreading lies,
and accusations about his daughter, he's gonna get
really really angry.
People in this time, they're gonna start getting
very very physical and violent. This is bound
to happen because this is now testing the
manhood and the integrity
of a man.
The only thing that Abu Bakr did,
he swore.
He swore that he's not gonna help this
individual again.
He said, I'm not gonna help this individual
again. His own cousin, I'm not gonna help
him again. After all the Ayat came down
in Surat Anur, whoever wants to go back
to the story, go back to and you
find the full extent of what actually took
place.
The only thing that Abu Bakr radiAllahu anhu
did, I'm not gonna help this person again.
Allah
sent down
a whole aya in regards to Abu Bakr
What Allah subhanahu wa
ta'ala says,
Do not let those who have been given
virtue
and grace people like Abu Bakr, radiAllahu anhu,
they were very, very great from the best
of those that have ever walked upon this
Earth.
Do not let them swear that they won't
be helping the Muhajireen
and those that are poor in regards to
what you may or might have been giving
them.
Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala tells us about the
incentive.
Most of us, we have sins. All of
us. All of us, we have
so many sins that we want Allah subhanahu
wa ta'ala to forgive.
Allah said
Turn the page.
Forget about it. Forgive and forget.
Do you know when Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
to forgive you?
Do you know one Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
to forgive you?
How many of us we have grudges against
our own parents,
own family members?
They might have done this, or they took
this from us, or he never invited me
to when they were having a dinner.
Small, small, petty things
that have absolute no significance to our religion.
Brothers and sisters,
Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala tells us in the
Quran
about cutting one another, the danger this has,
and the problems that he has on this
society.
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala tells us,
Have you not been disobedient?
That you cut the relations between you and
your families,
and you cause corruption on the earth.
This causes corruption on the earth.
How do we expect?
We hear many many many people.
They want the Khalafa. You heard them, they
say,
Without the doubt, the Khalafa is something that
is important.
The Khalafa to be established.
We can't
rectify
the smallest things in our own households.
Rectifying the problems that we have with our
families.
How do we expect that the Ummah, the
Muslim Ummah is ever gonna get united?
How do we think that the problems that
the people in Syria, the people in Palestine
is gonna get uplifted? All them people that
are dying. If we can't rectify the small
problems that we have in our communities today.
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala said,
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala doesn't change
the state and the situation of the people
until they change themselves.
Khali is down to us. We can't rectify
these small issues. Tell Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
The Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam, he tells us
in a authentic narration, in Sahih al Bukhari,
that the prophet Sallallahu
Alaihi
Wasallam
said,
The one that cuts the family relations,
this person doesn't enter into Jannah.
This is the threat of a person. His
close family members, whether it is anyone,
Whether it is anyone from your Muslim brothers.
Does the have a one like this? Ramadan
must come, and they won't have any hatred.
No hatred, no dislikeness towards any brother.
They would forgive and forget.
This is how they work.
So brothers and sisters, we ask ourselves,
In this month, the month of Ramadan, when
there's Rahmah, there's blessing, a month of forgiveness.
Ask yourselves again, if we can't forgive one
another in this month,
when are we gonna forgive each other?
The prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam told us,
Silman Utta'a,
the one that cuts your relations,
the one that cuts you,
then connect it.
And the one that has prevented you from
having something,
then give it to him.
What for
And the one that forgave the one that
oppressed you, cause oppression towards you, then forgive
this individual.
There was a time a time
who was from the tremendous of the
He's making dua to Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala.
Oh, Allah forgive the one that has oppressed
me. He's making so much dua, so much
dua. Oh, Allah. Forgive the one that oppressed
me.
A man came up to him and he
said to him,
why?
Why are you making so much dua?
Why are you making so much dua?
You're making so much dua
that even I wish
I wish
or I hope that I was from those
to affect you because you're making so much
dua for them.
This. Then he replied back and he said,
doesn't Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala say in
The one that forgives
and rectifies the problems between the people,
then his reward is with Allah Subhanahu
Wa
Ta'ala. The actions, they go up to Allah
Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala every Monday and Thursday.
Every Monday and Thursday,
except for a person that was committing shirk
with Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala,
and the 2 people that had problems between
them, 2 people that has problems between them.
And the prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wa Salam told
us
The best of them the best of
them is the one that starts with the
salam.
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala is not happy with
the one. So when they meet,
they meet each other, this guy turns away,
this guy turns away, and he's got shit,
and hatred and problems with within within himself
against other individuals.
Brothers and sisters, this mentality
that we have now adopted
of being arrogant.
I am the older one. I am the
parent.
I am the mother.
Oh, I am higher than him in status.
The prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam taught us
about
the, humbling yourself.
The prophet said
3 things that I swear by Allah.
I swear by Allah from the things that
he mentioned.
Never ever does a person humble himself except
the Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala read the
Prophet and sister, this is a month of
forgiveness.
Wallahi, every single one of us will fall
into sin. None of us are free from
sins. And this is part of Bani Adam.
With time and time we mentioned that we
all sin, and this is part of Bani
Adam, the son of Adam. The prophet sallallahu
alaihi wa sallam
said,
You make mistakes
day night. This is bound to happen.
And I forgive all sins of Allah as
a witness.
But that which we
lack in
is us going back to Allah Subhanahu Wa
Ta'ala, taking the extra step.
How many mistakes have we fallen into? How
many people's orders have we spoken about? We've
said this thing about that guy. We've said
this about that.
Even though we fall into these mistakes,
do we actually raise our hands to Allah
Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala? Or we think about these
issues, or do we just let it go
past?
The prophet
told us then in the Hadith,
The best of them are those that repent
to Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala,
and they constantly go back to him.
Brothers and sisters, this is the month that
we seek forgiveness,
and I'm gonna conclude with this hadith.
Whether from Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala from the
heart, the creation, the people that we've spoken
about.
This tongue that we always mention, the tongue,
the amount of damage that you can have
on an individual in this dunya and likewise
in the akhirah. The prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam
said,
Whoever has oppressed his father in any way,
whether it's about his honor
or in any
way, then let him seek his forgiveness today.
Let him seek his forgiveness today.
Before there is no currency that will help
this individual
And if he had any good deeds,
then his deeds are taken away from him.
The fight of the oppression that he did.
And if he doesn't have any good deeds
left, the bad deeds of the guy that
he oppressed gets taken away from him and
it gets put to him on top of
him.
You know, being from those that are like
the Muslimists, the bankrupt individual that's been fasting
Imagine all these months that we've fasted,
all these days, all these years,
and we pray in qiyamalay.
And then we come on Yom Al Qiyamah,
the Prophet Sallallahu Wa Alaihi Wasallam told us
the
So the people, they come.
They take the fast of 2016.
The prayers that he's doing in 2,009, he
gets taken away from it. Everything that he
was doing gets taken away.
We ask Allah
to benefit us from that which we heard.
To make us from those who get the
best of