Abdur-Raheem McCarthy – A Night Out With Umar Ibn Al Khattab

Abdur-Raheem McCarthy
AI: Summary © The importance of being a good listener during a lecture is discussed, including the dean's opinion on marriage and the importance of not practicing too much. The topic of divorce and the importance of patience in Islam are also discussed, along with the importance of living in a house with only one person behind it and the need for patience and understanding the nuances of the message. The importance of actions and behavior in Islam is emphasized, along with the need for individuals to be responsible for their own actions to ensure everyone is the same. The segment also touches on the importance of following Islam and finding the right way to end the cycle of abuse.
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al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen wa certainly will sell him alma throckmorton in alameen Nabina Muhammad meanwhile early, he was a big marine. Well, but

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I think also part of Asana for this opportunity to come together once again, with our brothers in Islam here and find out in Doha, Qatar, and Hamdulillah, we've had a lot of good trips here, a lot of good session with the brothers and we asked a lot, this will be another one of them in shallow Tana.

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And tonight, and Thursday's lecture, usually I don't give lectures on Thursday night, I usually refuse to do it because it's the last day of the week. And it's difficult. I guess, as a listener, it's easier than

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the person who's talking. And I used to give lectures, but I almost had several accidents, going fallen asleep while driving. So I stopped giving them but today, I'm on vacation today. And I didn't have to go to work today. So when the brothers asked me to come, I said, Okay, we'll be okay. I'll be rested when I come. So tonight's lecture, I want it to be something obviously, it's Thursday night, after a

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week in the office, when something that we can unwind to and benefit from lunch at the same time. So I look into some of the stories from the center, from the center. And I found a story that stuck out to me, which I talked to my students in the school where I work some time back, a story that happened with a minute and what we mean, I'm an Uncle Bob, will be a loved one.

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Amara macapa, when he became the halifa, the ruler of the Muslims,

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he used to go out during the night time to mingle with the masses to see what was happening throughout the community. That was the scholars mentioned, there were several reasons for this part of the two main reasons was, first of all, to see the people who are in need and what their needs were, because he could gather this information during the night. And also, one of the things that he used to gain from this is to see for example, if it was any monkey or anything that was being haraam done during the nights, because as you know, the shelter you'd like to move at nighttime. That's why you find a lot of people up to heroin up to no good. This is the time that they like to move. So

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it's from the duty of the of the ruler to make sure he does his job. So he was out during this night. And he was with his servants by the name of SLM. And they decided to rest and we decided to rest, they rested against a wall of a house. And as they were resting, they overheard a story, or between

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or a conversation or a conversation between a girl and her mother. Now this family, they didn't have any men to take care of them. And their

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risk, or the provision they used to get their money from was selling milk. They were milkmaids.

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So the milk was becoming less and less they had and the situation they were in was very difficult and very tight. So the mother was looking for a way out, how can we make more money and fast. So shavon

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obviously, he had the solution, he came to her. And he said, I'll tell you how to do it. He said, all you have to do is add a little bit of water.

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If you add a little bit of water, nobody's gonna know, because there's gonna be a little bit that already changed the taste, it'd be 15 20% 10%. But think about the money that will come return. If you add 15% water it's gonna be

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and then it's just gonna taste like pure milk knows no difference. At the same time, you're gonna have 15% more. And when the money you get back with that money, you can do this and this and this, maybe they have some loans, they have to pay off debt to take care of, of whatever needs they need around the house. You can take care of this man, you need this money. So it's not really a big thing. It's a small percentage.

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So when she said this to her daughter, he said let's mix it so we can get some more money. Her daughter said to her, Did you not hear what I'm meaning? I'm gonna hop out of the low and what he said to the people today? She said no, I did it. He said he said to the people verily do not mix water with milk. Because this is too cheap to people. And he warned about this and one of his reminders that he gave to the people. So the mother said to the daughter barely. Omar cannot see us now. It's in the middle of night. Nobody can see us we go out to the market in the morning with our milk. Nobody's gonna know He mixed it or not. She said if Omar can't see us

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Verily Allah can see us.

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After this Oman called Pablo De La Hoya. And he was so impressed by this girl and her Eman. And her stands at the pay attention because it was the time of need. They were neat. And he was a way to make more money and fast. And she refused to do it because of her maraca, her knowledge, the loss of Panasonic and see her and knows what she's doing, and is behind closed doors. So Omar, first of all, he sent out some of his troops to see

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if these ladies are married or not. So they came back home so that both of these and in the bush the mother and the daughter are not married. So he gathered up his son's

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Abdullah Abdullah man and asked him and he said to them,

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I found this and this and this when this girl in this house and I want one of you to marry her, obviously, she's pious is the most important thing in the marriage. The Prophet sallallahu Sallam he said, marry the woman for four things. One of four, what are the four?

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Beauty first, okay, the beauty there, what else?

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That the tribe?

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Or Dean and what else?

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Money money's important these days, right? A lot of people get married for money these days. Right? So the most important thing, it processes which one, the dean or religion, but he mentioned the four things. So immediately, he went to him and said this, I found this woman, and this other people all of this elevated warmly when they looked into the wife, because they know the importance. It's not just, obviously she has to have some beauty because the process of him said, he said, Look at her, Andre, her are the real Am I a rookie lanica here, look at what caused you to marry her. So that the part of beauty is important, obviously, in the woman and in the man for both of However, the most

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important thing is the dean. And that's why he wanted one of his children to marry, marry this, this this girl when he saw what she had from the tuck what and the implementation of the TEPCO in her life. Even when humble Rahim Allah

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when his wife, his first wife, died.

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And I saw that by the way, he was a famous scholar of Islam. He's He's known about the kuhnian Abdullah, which is from a second wave, because the best names to a loss of both the most beloved names to Allah came in the Hadith is Abdullah Abdullah. So he was called Abdullah, but his first wife, his first big eldest son from his first life was solid. So it also passed away. He was, they look for a wife for him. They said, We found two perfect candidates for you. They said one of them. She's very beautiful. And her skin color nice, complex and everything. And the other one is from a dark complexion. And she's not as beautiful as the other one. And some of them said also that she

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had a problem with her eyes. She was like missing or I didn't open or whatever. She only had one eye. So a mama. He immediately asked which one is stronger than her Dean. So they said the other one who is less than beauty, and her complexion is darker. And he said, this is the one I want. He went for the DNA immediately. And she became the EMA the mother of a ma'am. Abdullah Abdullah Lima, the son of Mr. Mohammed was the famous narrative of 1000s of Hadith from his father and a famous scholar of Islam. The point is, is that Abdullah Abdul Rahman, the sons of Oman, they both said, we have enough wives. And we're not needs to get married today. Allison said, I'm interested in I want to

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marry her.

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Later, when he married her, what came from their offspring? Does anybody know the story?

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amadablam disease was born from them, their grandchildren offspring. The point is, is that what we want to gain from this story tonight, the show a perhaps a lot of you know the story. And these stories, a lot of us, we studied them, we know them and memorize them, but we want to know, what do we gain and what do we benefit? And now comes your part and lecture. You thought he was gonna come and get a free lecture. Now you have to give back. So now what do we gain from this lecture?

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From this from the store, excuse me?

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very good. The importance of picking a pious wife and that we said it from the idea of the process lm and what comes from the offspring. They when you pick somebody who is

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who is pious, a woman who is pious. What is the effect this has on the marriage itself?

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obedient to husband, is it watching for to be a better husband? Are

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you sure?

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We can turn the mic off so the sisters don't hear nor

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is it was almost

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as if obviously, for her to be obedient to her husband. Okay,

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What else? If the marriage is built upon taqwa,

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to pious people, they're married now, what else do we get from the from the marriage, the offspring, and most likely, it's not 100%. But most likely, and the offspring will be good, even if they're not practicing 100% you're going to see the effects. And I'll tell you a story that happened to me, I visited one of the most famous scholars of our time. And when I visited him and his household,

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his children, I found that most of them they weren't, like, you know, practicing like big beards and things like this.

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But you could see the effect of the upbringing of the shift had had on his children, their love for Islam, the mentors, the mentors they gained from Islam. You can see this in them. That's one of the most important things. So you'll see it's got to have some effect on them, even if they don't turn out 100% like their father, because not everybody is going to be a scholar just because the father is a scholar or died because his father died. And they always give the example of this with Imam Malik Rahim Allah. They said Mr. Malik,

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he had a son, when he used to sit and teach hundreds or 1000s of people in the Prophet's mosque, I listen to Simon Medina, his son will be outside playing with the pigeons. He used to train pigeons. And his thing would be to let them fly and come back to and this was his thing. Like now people were in the football and all this other stuff, wasting their time. That was his son. So the people used to look at me, Mr. Malik, you're the mom, everybody's gonna look at your son. He is in the hands of Allah subhanaw taala. It's not me. I've done my job is the Father. And that's that's the way he went. He wasn't like an evil guy. But that was his thing. He wasn't really into knowledge. But he

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had a daughter on the other side, how was she?

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I know her story. They said, if anybody missed up when they're reading the mortar, the famous book of Howdy, which is the oldest collection of ideas that we have today, in the written form, that, Mr. Medic, if anybody were to make any type of mistake, a small mistake, she would immediately

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knock on the wall from behind them.

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To tell them there was a mistake, and maybe her father would even pay attention. But she was said she might even been stronger than her father, and knowing the book. So you see how it comes in handy that there will be a positive effect. There's important on the kids, the story of cider mustachian

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cider Messiah who is considered the Imam of the Tiberias or the one of the greatest scholars of the temporary, according see the temporary.

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One of his students who used to always come to the lesson, missed one lesson. For some reason, he didn't understand why he missed, never missed any lessons. And he came to me said, Where were you yesterday? He said, my wife passed away.

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And I was very hurt during the time of the lesson. So I had to miss it.

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And then he start asking, Are you going to get married again.

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And he said, obviously, I want to get married. But nobody will marry me because I'm very, very poor.

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So she said to me, we'll see you.

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Later on that night, he came to his house, because he knew this was a good student of knowledge. Somebody who had tech was someone who feared the law, he knows this student. So the student hears a knock on his door

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during the night time,

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man, who is it is it's either Masaya for him a great honor. Imagine the greatest scholar of our time, knock at your door at night, how you're gonna feel. So he's very honored. But what brings him I'm sorry, to my house during this this time.

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So that he brought any, he said, This is my daughter, your new wife.

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He brought him he brought him to marry his daughter, obviously, his mother interfered and said, I won't let her know that you have her. And so she prepared for you properly. So obviously, it's been a few days preparing her until they were gathered together in the marriage. But the point is, is that after they finished their seven days together, as it came in, as soon as this man got up to go out of the house, she said, Where are you going?

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And he said, I'm going to your father's helicopter, to the circle where I study with your father, your mom say, and she said, sit down and barely I will teach you the knowledge of sight. Because everything he has a habit.

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You're not gonna learn anything new. I'll teach you. So you see what happens the pious upbringing, how it has on the children, when the two pious parents are married together, anything else? their marital problems?

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And it is impossible to Is it possible to have a marriage not problems?

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Not possible. All of us have problems. It doesn't matter how good of a Muslim you are, how much you practice your pronunciation. Because the prophet SAW Selim, he was better than me and better than you and better than all of us, and he had problems with his wives. So what's going to happen has to happen. There's no perfect marriage. But when the two people have tough for their fear of Allah subhanaw taala and their Eman and the nostrils or the text of the corner as soon as strong. What happens when they defer

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that first of all, take it back to the book of Allah subhanho wa Taala. What else

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They submit to the ruling. So now let's give an example now for the divorce is divorce something like Venice lamb? It's not something like something it's more cruel. And there's a difference of opinions that Heidi is it authentic or not authentic that the most disliked hello to Allah is divorce above the law of Pollock. And a lot of the scholars don't say it's authentic and some of them say it is. We're not gonna get into that. But the point is this other text which can support the meaning of this Heidi, for example, if you look at how are you supposed to divorce the woman

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when you divorce anytime

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Nadia Herrmann says, not during a time that you have been with her you wait and she has her menses and then after she finished her menses, this is the sooner to divorce her like this. But what if she's just finished her menses and you want to divorce her? Because divorce usually when does it happen at the time of happiness? When you're out you're out to dinner you have a nice evening nice Thursday night out after the lecture with the chicken By the way, you know we're getting a divorce it doesn't happen like that right? So it has to be some some anger in it from both sides. So Islam came to cut that off said no sooner wages divorce her after she finished her menses so after a

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month's time, usually the things that they're right after that, how long does she does she have to stay in her husband house what happens now? She said no, no divorce me if you're a man, throw me out. Take him back to my father's house. What happens he does it so it goes against the sooner but if you follow the sooner you have two people who believe in the Quran and Sunnah and this is the most important thing in their life. When they implement it act upon it is going to divorce her right away. He's going to wait and she's gonna stay until she has three menses

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and what is the heckler behind this?

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As I said it came sooner to Allah

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knows the verse

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you have to is better than a camera Allah subhanaw taala will make something come out of this that's why she's supposed to even wear like her makeup and look nice in the house and him the same thing. So Allah subhanaw taala will make something between them so we'll come back and they won't be in divorce after this. So Islam obviously doesn't like divorce. So when you come to the issue of acting upon the Quran, when you look at the effect it has on the marriage as well. But what are some other things we benefit from this from this story?

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Anything else?

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Patience. Okay, where do we get patients?

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Okay, we could benefit patients.

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Is it easy for the,

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the the child of organs with their parents saying if you disobey a law, so you need patience and deal with it? That's good. But what else other than patience? I'll write that one down.

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Good always come from it very good.

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But the issue is Shabaab of Morocco.

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What does the word Morocco mean?

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It was my own self in front of Allah subhanaw taala. To know that Allah subhanaw taala is always watching you,

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babe. So this now is a very, very important aspect of Islam. The issue that you know Allah subhanaw taala he's always watching you. He always hears what you say. And we learned this and we take this from the girls stance when she said, If Omar can't see us for in Eliana then barely Allah He sees us.

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So it's one of the main things we gained from the story actually, is the Morocco of Allah subhanho wa Taala to be mindful that Allah sees us and he hears us. They where does this come from? How can we have this be strong in our hearts?

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Have we had the strong in our hearts?

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The shift to heat pump does, it starts from the pure and authentic to heat. When you have pure to heat, and you're fearful in mind favela, supernodes Allah you worship Allah subhana wa tada to his names and attributes. Not like some of the people who deviate in this who said No, these don't mean anything. These names don't have no meaning. We just read them like this.

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You play with the Quran and the sooner Allah subhana wa tada said, he hears and he sees it he sees and he said in the verse Lisa committed cliche, was me. There's nothing like a pawn to him. And he is the all hearing the whole scene. So when you have this in your heart, when you the effect of it, you have it in your heart. This is when you see the reality of the merkabah it's very easy. Now. Let's say for example, if somebody

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is doesn't have a lot of money, everybody in the workplace has a blackberry or an iPhone, got some iPhones you Mashallah nobody can see us and the

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Mix, everything is given, given the shifter slammed, I can push it into my pocket brother coming where my iPhone go. And I have to pay a few 1000 for how much it costs. What stops you from doing that? Or if you walk into somebody's office and you see something valuable sitting there, he has a stack of 510,000 just sitting there. And you have to pay off some loans and you're in bad situation, what stops you from taking it? You're not gonna get caught.

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I lost about the Morocco once again, it comes back. So this issue of Eman, a lot of us we have an issue with this. If you're behind closed doors, a lot of us can go astray. If the door shakes, it moves from the wind or something like that. What does he do? He jumps he's scared, who's gonna catch me do what I'm doing. And he forgets that loss of power without is looking at it. So it goes back to the issue of to eat when the to eat is pure, majority strong. This is when you can act upon the maraca.

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And the hadith of Abdullah bears through the law and the Prophet sallallahu Sallam is a young boy, it shows the importance of theory. He taught him the reality of even at a very young age to show that so it is not something they say it's no longer important. All of us say let

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us focus on the bigger picture.

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And its focus on the issue of politics or politics important Islam

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is important.

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But is it more important than so heat? It's not more important to read is the is the origin of the doubt of the process in them. And their to the downfall of the NBA welaka badness equally omitted Rasulullah for what?

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why why do you say

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to worship a law and to stay away from a topcoat when the people say Allah Allah, and not to join partners with him. This is the basic the basic order the dour of the prophets,

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is the downfall of the prophets.

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And then he says even at best, the prophets I seldom hear woolum in new Allah mocha kalimat

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Oh, boy, or any young man, I will teach you some words for the law. Yeah. Further. If the lawyer tells you to jerk,

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he said,

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for the law, to be mindful of a law or protect the law. A law protects you to be mindful of a law you will find him

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in front of you.

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He said with a center for suddenly left with a center for Stein. Beloved, if you ask only a school, Allah and you need some assistance, only seek the assistance of who have a law. So what lm

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an ohmmeter, low stem alanine for OBC lemon focal adhesion catabolic, when it's done.

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Then you do rock elevation, catabolic, and to know that the oma if they come together to benefit you with something, they will never benefit you with anything except for that which a law has decreed for you. And if they come together to harm you with something, they will never harm you except for that which Allah has decreed for you.

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He believes in the importance of all of the aspects of to he in this hadith are being mindful of Allah subhanho wa Taala and the effects that will have on you also from the things that we benefit from this is the issue

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of a principle mentioned in one of the Hadith the Prophet sallallahu Sallam or his game, la Patil, mahalo FEMA says

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that there's no obedience to the creation. And the disobedience of the Creator, is a very important principle, a very important rule in Islam. It doesn't matter who it is, even your mother, or your father, your boss at work, or the ruler, or whoever it might be.

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It's harder for you as a Muslim, to do something that's harder.

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Here, the closest person to your mother and your father, this girl here, her mother is telling her to do this.

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Islam ordered us to obey our parents, except for that which is wrong. So also there's a rule and a principle he gained from this from this story that we need to act upon it in our lives as well. And when we started to spread throughout the Muslim societies, and the corruption,

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how did it happen by people obeying other people and the disobedience of Allah subhanaw taala. Also from the things we gain

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is the importance

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of the more house above yourself to hold yourself to account. And we gain this also from the issue of the merkabah being mindful of a law because when you hold yourself to account for your deeds, what happens in the end,

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for example, some of our machines they taught us a way where Medina to train ourselves, which was to write things down. So Easter

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Right. If you make the tech beer cooler

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when you go to the masjid did you make it today or not? That just the gym?

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You have to be there for the first tech Bureau. Did you read the Quran? Did you pray pmla for an hour night, all of these things. And when you actually have written down, you see it in front of you at the end of the weak use of previous surprise. cache atomic remember all the good things you did make you forget all the bad ones. That's why the cell is discouraged to say before you go to sleep. You should go through what you did every day. Hold yourself to account. What good did you do? build on it tomorrow continue? Make it better? What bad did you do try to erase it. Because when you hold yourself to account every night, you realize their reality. And I did some good things today I'm

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gonna do same thing two more even better.

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I do some bad thing. I'm gonna stay away from it. Because what happened in the past, we can't really fix it right? Something's done. And you don't know if you're gonna make it but you make Toba before you go to sleep. And if you have another chance, you'll strive to please Allah subhanho wa Taala. Also the importance of keeping good company. You take it if you look at the issue, because when somebody calls you to do that, which is displeasing to Allah subhanaw taala Is it a pious person usually,

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it's usually it's someone who is someone whose weekend they're a man. So it was gone astray, perhaps what wasn't a straight, but she got weak. So if her daughter wasn't strong, what would have happened

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to all of them. And then all of a sudden that would have spread to the community from them cheating the people. Also, we gain the danger of cheating in Islam.

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The danger of cheating in Islam,

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and we gain as well.

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The importance of the ruler, doing his job to make sure that nobody is cheated, to make sure that nothing goes wrong in a society. And that's why

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he was doing the same thing as he used to do.

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Who was he following?

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Before then before him

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because the process tell him he used to go out and he will check things himself.

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What is the famous Hadees about stay away from a fish about cheating, the dangerous

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version of la semana, whoever he says is not from us. Does anybody know the beginning of the Heidi?

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This is the famous part of that the last part?

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A very good.

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What happened is the man when he was walking through the soup to the market, and he found a person was sending some grain or whatever. And he put his hand inside of it. And he found the bottom was wet. So he said Maha Dasa have a plan.

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He said, What is this, the person owns the grain or the food.

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And he said, A Saba to cement that it rained upon the grain. He said I didn't want to be able to have to sell it. So I want to show the part of it was still good. And he said, Why don't you show both of it, both parts of it. And this was barely whoever she says Monica, Shanna la semana whoever cheated is not from us. So Panama. So this is the president without checking the things himself. And this is the duty the responsibility of anybody who is a ruler, or even if you're in charge of something in your company. If you are somebody who's the median, or your ad department officer in your company, you're in charge of it, it's a great responsibility. Because on the Day of Judgment,

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who's the first person that'll be asked about that?

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You don't want to ask you if you're somebody in any company,

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if you're somebody who is the media, so those in charge, the head of the company, the head of a certain department, you're going to be asked about the responsibility. That's why the process enemy described in a beautiful description that Id kulu camera in Baku, komatsuna, at all of you is like a shepherd, there is a shepherd. And it translates as the heady days all of your race is responsible. But the literal, literal translation to the idea is always like a shepherd. Because the shepherd is responsible for his flock, right? So if somebody or if a if a wolf comes east from the flock, whose fault is it,

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shepherds, so he's responsible for it, if they all go away and get lost, it's the job of the shepherd. So we learn from the story as well the importance of responsibility and being responsible when we're put in charge of something as Muslims, and we mentioned the dangers of cheating as well. And the profit center he mentioned in another study, that if the two people in a sales transaction, if they're honest with one another,

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Warrick Allahumma, forbade him he said, either sadhaka truthful, and their transaction with one another, Allah subhanho wa Taala will put Baraka blessing in them in their in their transaction.

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And that's why you always find the person who's clever when he when he says when he sells he's somebody who's honest

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And everybody respects him who's honest.

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And that's why you'll find somebody, even if he doesn't make a lot of money in his visit in the beginning, eventually you'll find lines in front of his store in front of his restaurant. Why? Because this person is honest. If somebody cheats you, are you gonna go back to him again and buy some from

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so shaytaan fools, the people to get the quick money, but always comes back on you. Now in the United States of America, over 56% of the people who are in jail might be more now this is a old information I have

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56% of them were incarcerated in prison, a drug related charge for drugs.

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So why did they get involved in selling drugs? Maybe some of them selling some of the music.

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Why do you get involved in selling drugs?

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Fast Money and big money. Now he might work all month, make $2,000 and he can work and selling drugs being a small time drug dealer make $1,000 a day. That's 30,000 a month.

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So now shadeland came to him the Fast Money the fast life of this now isn't is he spent 20 years in jail now. You think he regrets it.

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He's a thinker about two and three everydays thinking about it. Maybe I shouldn't went that path. So associaton will fool you. So the process he said if I saw the car if they're truthful, Albert Baraka for them in the in the in their,

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in their business, and then what we need to focus on as Muslims are benefiting from this. Also, we benefit from the story, the importance of raising our children, a proper upbringing,

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and the effect it has on them. I mentioned this before, the effect of the marriage, but also, it's not just the fact that you're pious. It's not, it's not just gonna rub off on them. Also, you have to teach them, you have to educate them, and show them. And obviously, the most important thing is the example is the role model they see in front of them. That's why a lot of people now, they don't realize when they're doing something bad, their kids are doing something bad. I remember when I was in America, before I became Muslim, one of our

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families, friends, I was 16. I went to visit them. And the house and the lady pulled out a cigarette, we're actually auto driving down the road. So we're driving their car, the lady pulls out a cigarette, she starts to smoke.

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Her daughter is 15. She was young, one year younger than me. She pulls out her pack of cigarettes, and starts to smoke. Now in America, by law, you have to be 18 to buy cigarettes. And my family even though they're not Muslims, they have some good qualities. And I can imagine myself 15 put in a cigarette for my mother. And it was for my father, it would have been you know, nothing, I would have said they would have an automatic

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strike to the head.

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And I was I was, I was amazed. How can this woman let her 15 year old daughter smoke in front of her. But she said something to me. I still remember even today, all these years later? She said, How can I tell her not to do something I do?

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So I thought about that, you know, when I learned more about Islam when I became Muslim, like, in a way she's writing, I'm just I was going for, he's not supposed to do that. But it has some, it makes some sense. Because when you and and that's why the shadow and the verse of poetry as an Arabic Latin handhold, open them attacked me through our alpha delta V mu, and this verse of poetry. He said, don't tell the people don't do something. And then to do it yourself. He said, it's an absolute fault in you to do something like that. When you tell somebody don't do something, you do it. And lo said in the capital macdon and alliander, follow mulata follow. It's a big thing to Allah

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subhanaw taala to do something that you do not say. So obviously, the most important thing is the role model. And so you know, tests have proven that the majority of children, no matter which direction they go in life,

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that they're their main characteristics they'll have their life is taken from the young age from what they see at home, before they see even on TV and on this what they see from their mothers and fathers that has the biggest effect. There can be changes made later, but it's very difficult to get them out of their ways. So the main thing it was from what they gained from their parents, and that's why the professor sent him when he mentioned and we're now here in the Dallas center we always call the people who became Muslim what reverts right because of the Hadith of the Prophet SAW Selim when he said a cooling unit Allah fitrah all of the the creation they're born on the fifth or

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on the instinct, the human instinct is the worship of law is one and that join any partners with him. And then his mother and his father, you whoa, wait anyway, no serrania images any that they make him into a Christian or a Jew, or to a fire worship or whatever. And this is why the effect once again, we see that the parents have and their upbringing on the children. We also gain from the story the importance of following the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and all aspects. And we see that Omar even though above or below and was doing that when he was going out, seeing how the people were doing

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Also the importance of forbidding the good, forbidding evil and calling to good. And also we gain from the father of the sinner. What came from his offspring the importance of finding the sooner disease, he was considered by a lot of scholars to be what? The fifth Khalifa of the Holy verschiedene because he was so much like his grandfather, I'm Papa obviously a great great grandfather. But he was so much like him and his ways and like the other stuff as well, that they consider him to be the fifth rifling guy, the Khalifa. Also from the things we can gain from the story

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is that change is always possible for all of us, no matter how far away you might have gone from Allah subhanho wa Taala. No matter how many sins you might have done, you can always return to Allah subhana wa Tada, because this is all

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over pop before Islam.

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Was he a good guy.

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I mean, he was a great after Islam, don't feel bad about saying that he was not a good guy before Islam. He had some good qualities. But he was not a good person.

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That was how you should treat the Muslims in the beginning of Islam.

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Very rough with the money anyway. And when he became Muslim, what was he going to do? He was on his way to do what killed the prophets or seller. He had enough loss of this doubt if people changing their religion

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he was going he was going to kill the prophets, I send them the loss of panatela put the the light of guidance into his heart when he heard the Quran.

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He was somebody used to worship statues. Somebody who had a statue made of dates, and they will get hungry. He is God as He said, somebody who buried his own daughter alive. Somebody who didn't have a good start. But he did have a good finish.

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So it's another thing we gain from the story. As it came in, I had the the process in in ml.

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In ml ml will have a theme that the DS or what the Interpol that's an important thing is ending is the ending of the affairs, Oberon kotak didn't have a good start. But he had a great finish. And he changed to become the second greatest man in Islam. After the professor sent me off Oh, because of the somebody that he if he walked down the road, the shape, one will take the other path, shape and feared him because of the strength of his email. Somebody who strove night and day to help us learn to spread Islam.

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So we gained from this the beauty of

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the change or the reality that we can change and change is possible for all of us. And we look into the stories My dear brothers and sisters

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of the self.

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We remind ourselves of the importance of benefiting from these stories, not just to read them to see them in a way so we know about Oh yeah, I know that story to what did you benefit from it?

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Tomorrow how many of us are going to be sorted?

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A lot of us, not all of us inshallah.

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What do you gain from that story? You ever thought about the benefits? You were thinking about? Why the process enemies to tell us to read every Juma? What's in it?

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We have to reflect on these meanings. Reflect on the stories of the Koran, the stories of the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam the story of the Sahaba to benefit from them gain from them. This is your something I want to remind myself and my brothers with here tonight in my trip to Doha. And Allah knows best Allah Allah solo Sullenberger, NTV, Mohammed

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