Abdulbary Yahya – Leaving that Which Does Not Concern You – Al-Nawawi’s Forty Hadith 12, 40

Abdulbary Yahya
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That which is not, does not pretend to him is part of the excellence of a person such love. And sometimes, you know, when you're flipping the subject and the predicate, that's actually for emphasis. As for emphasis, you can say, for example, you could say, leaving that which does not pertain to you, is part of good character, perfection of character. But when you say part of the perfection of a person, Islam, the person's Islam is even that which does not pretend to him. And when you flip through something like that, it actually gives a little bit more eloquence, and more power when it comes to speech, and more emphasis. So I mean, hosted Islam and MA Poolman has a sound

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mark is the actual, the hub means the information that we and the leaving of it, that's the subject of it. So. So this is similar to when part of a person's good character is the leaves that which does not benefit him.

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And there's a similar Hadith, in which the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said in the Hadith business I Buhari and also for a Muslim, mankind, you will not be liable, the bill after failure will hire an LDS mob. So whoever believes in Allah and the day of jail in the last hour, then let him say that which is good, or let him be quiet.

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So that means what that means everything that does not benefit you, you abandon. And that's part of good character in Islam. Because people who speak too much about things that don't pertain to them. People look down upon that that's, that's part of bad character. Like you don't want to hang around with people who are always speaking a nonsense are speaking about things that don't benefit. And so when it comes to men hosted Islam, or who melayani is more,

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it's actually

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it's more general, than just the Hadith. Whoever believes in Allah in the last hour, let him be quiet. Or let him say something that's let's say that which is good, or let him be quiet. And so that's why this one this particular hadith is actually encompass it encompasses the other Hadith, why? Because when he says, Man, I need that which does not benefit him that which does not pertain to him is it pertains to actions, it retains its name pertains to

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every act pretty much of your life. And so if you can apply this in your life, first and foremost, you're going to have a lot more time. Secondly, you have a lot more stress, and we have a lot less stress to you, because you and, and also, you'll make less enemies.

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Those beat a lot. Those who always try to dig into people's business, then the something that sometimes it just makes it worse. And sometimes there are things like whether you know or not, it doesn't really matter, right? There are so many things. And so that's why and actually people are different. There are some people when you get a phone call, right you get a phone call, and somebody says you know so had a had a baby, but some people have delivered the baby boy or girl have the little boy now sometimes another person might pick it up and sometimes it is sometimes the husband that hasn't fixed up usually doesn't speak too much most of the time right? And the wife picks it up

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yeah right away. How was the labor? What color you know what were you know what what was his you know, complexion? It's a dark or a dark skin does he looked more like the father and the mother kind of eyes and nose and what did who

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just keep on going and going and going right and so when it comes to speech action for anything in Islam, if there's no benefit, then it's always prayed way was praiseworthy to leave it out. And so

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Islam gives us teaches us macadam will drop in, emigrate to the Ottoman macadam II.

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I have not been sent the prophets of Allah Allah Allah has upset except to complete. macadam Halab. noble character to complete noble character. What is this noble character? You know Allah subhanho wa Taala says in Allah Yeah, more moral validly when

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you look at this verse in Allah Yeah, tomorrow will hardly sign and Surah n

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A very, very beautiful and all encompassing verse, because a lot deliver lesson encompasses all these two words

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are the foundation of a Muslims character,

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you know at least what is justice, justice USA is doing good. Excellence and doing Ersan is

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being axon is that which

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is the perfection of your actions towards other people. That's why Allah subhanaw taala describes Surah to us. So, in Surah, Yusuf describes Prophet Yusuf alayhi salam over and over again, that he has a most in Elena Raka. Amina seen Cheveley surely we see you amongst them are seen in those who do axon. Why? Because he's always benefiting people always benefiting people. So even at home laden with the asset, what is other is being just and putting everything in its rightful place? Alexa is doing good taking that extra step to be there for the people. And so mahasin Well,

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how does it what does it have to do with this, this?

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This hadith because the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam said, Men hosts, a host in Islam and

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part of the sun,

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the goodness of a person's Islam, part of that good character, part of that foundation of noble character is

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leaving that which does not benefit you. Anything that doesn't benefit you, and you abandon it. That's part of good character, part of good character. So there are so many things that we do, that don't benefit us. There are things that we watch, that don't benefit it. There are things that we listen to, that don't benefit us. There are things there are places that we go to, that don't benefit us. There are words that we say, that don't benefit us, there are so many things that we buy, that don't benefit us. They don't help us, like you might say, well, let me see, is this gonna benefit me and like help me in the hereafter. In fact, there are a lot of times we buy things that

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are harmful for us. You know, there are some people who buy things that are harmful, that waste more time, waste their money. And not only that, maybe will corrupt your health also, that you buy things like people who buy for example, cigarettes, and things and things that they eat or that don't benefit them. So that's why when it comes to exon 30, Humala AI, is leaving that which does not live in that which does not pertain to him. That means it's not connected to you. You shouldn't worry about it, it doesn't benefit you. And isn't hard view, whether you know it or not. So some people like say, for example, Hey, you know, what do you think? How many? How much do you think he makes?

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Like, what does that benefit you? If he makes more or less? How does that benefit? How does that pertain to you? It doesn't pertain to you. It's not it doesn't benefit you any. And so another thing is some people, of course, there's certain things we're concerned about. But some people over exaggerate, they sit in their cafes, and you know, and they're all they speak about his politics. And they speak about politics. Yes. I mean, you, as a Muslim should be aware of what's going on. But there are things that you can do something about, and there are things that you can't do anything about. Right, and there are certain things you can't do anything about. And so they don't pertain to

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you. Because directly it's like, especially

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people are speaking about things that happen and other places and other countries overseas, and doesn't affect them. And the things that affect them more. What's, what's going on around them right now, with you, your children, your family, community, that's what affects you right now. And there's other things, yes, you're concerned about those things. But when it comes to your actions and that which you prioritize, that what you prioritize is that which you

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know that that concerns you? And so, there are so many things, you know, when it comes to this particular Hadith, one act one issue

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So what did you see somebody doing something bad meaning doing something haram

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should you is that part of that was pertains to you yes it is. You should try to prevent

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time there's disobedience of Allah and you're able to change it with words that you say or actions with limbs then you should do so because the Prophet that because Allah subhanho wa Taala orders us to enjoy that which is good and forbid that which is evil. And that's part of our deen was the Cominco materia Runa ELO hiree Morona visma Rofi and how NAD and Mocha, let let water coming from that group amongst you

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let let them call to that which is good and join that which is good and forbid that which is evil. And

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and so, this is part of part of our duty and if it is a part of your duty, then it pertains to you. So, there are so many things, what are some of the things that pertain to you the things that pertain to you or that which is directly related to your, your family members, right like your family, your sons, your daughters, why because you are responsible for them. And if you are responsible for them, then that pertains to you. That protects you why because Allah subhanaw taala He says, Yeah, you have

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full Alpha circle Alikum Nowra we're voodoo Hannahs will haidara

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that will voodoo Anessa

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Allah subhanaw taala says yeah, you had a demon

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Aliko Naira

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Oh in believe save yourself and your family from the fire that was which which the fuel of which is mankind and stops. And so when ALLAH SubhanA Adana borders us to save our families from the Hellfire that means those are the things that pertain to us, those are the things that pertain to us and those are the things that we should be concerned about. And so,

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the scholars and before when it comes to,

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to leaving that, which does not benefit. First of all, this this particular hadith is a straw is a if

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one of the major foundation and in controlling oneself, right and controlling myself because there are so many other things that are connected with it also. And if you're able to control yourself, then inshallah you'll be able to perfect your character. And you'll be able to not only perfect your character, but you'll also be able to protect your reputation. And you will also stay away from that which does not benefit into from in terms of actions. And also in terms of words and this is

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in this hadith

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you know the word the in Islam when you have the word

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Anwar, anybody know what the word

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for word means to be cautious. Or when somebody says, This person is what that means this person is pious and righteous. He's always afraid of doing anything that's haram. Like he even though there's anything on the border stays away from it. That's a law. Right? So that's somebody who is cautious. And this hadith combines all of that, as is mentioned by Abdul Karim Rahim Allah. Why because

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this hadith states that you abandon that which does not

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pertain to you. So any words that you speak, that doesn't pertain to you

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by saying,

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if it's not haram, is it permissible for permissible for us to say that?

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Yes, it is permissible for us to say that right.

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But there's a different level.

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There are some people who okay this is a MOBA is permissible, no, those who have a high level of aura

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of consciousness.

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piety, they take it to a different another level. Even the things that are permissible like MOBA, this

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Stay away from that, which is more

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and don't waste their time on that which is MOBA. But they are concerned about that which is most important that pertains to their well being in this life and the hereafter, and their family members and their D. And so that which pertains to them in terms of the words that they say, because sometimes you have things that you should be saying that you shouldn't be saying. And so, there are things that you can say the word but you know, it's not there's no benefit in it. Those who are following this hadith if you want to perfect your character, that which speech which does not benefit you, you should stay away from.

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That's what that's what the Hadith that we mentioned earlier, the prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he said, Makana Umino Billahi while EO mill ather for the full hierarchy, only a small whosoever believes in Allah and the last hour, then let him say that which is good. Or let him be quiet. So when it comes to that, which your speech? The second is that which you look at that what you watch your eyes, or your tongue, and then your eyes, there are so many things that we watch, that don't benefit us. Can anybody tell me something that's that we watched it as a benefit is?

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The News, the news, a lot of the news, you know, benefit, right? If you didn't, if you didn't watch the news for a whole whole month, most likely, you're not losing much, right?

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You're probably saving more time. So sometimes most of it, you know, is it permissible? Most of it's okay, you know, but to stay away from that and watch other things is more beneficial. And so what else? What else? Can you watch what you watch, that really doesn't benefit you.

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But you can't say it's haram, if you don't exaggerate it, and you're not, you're not neglecting your obligations? It's not

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like for example, what? There's other things, is it how long like for example, sports? No, but sometimes, sometimes, you know, like, essentially, a person might need to relax, but to really, to really watch to the point where you are

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scheduling your day around something like that, then you have your priority, you don't have your prioritize priorities. really correct. And to get involved to the point where you become depressed when your team loses, that's another level. Right? You lose sometimes. Yeah, sometimes you might see some of the players are sad, because they lost. But after they're sad, they lost they go out of the stadium, they get in the Lamborghini, and they get to drive to their palace into their mansion. And you after they lost you crying and you get to go back to your apartment.

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You get to drive and you get to go back to your car and like there's a big difference and he probably like

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myself right now and some people so like

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if they weren't they didn't get anything did he give you any money or they gave you anywhere? We

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we invest emotionally so much to certain things that don't benefit us the cause as extra stress when we shouldn't be stressing out over some of these things. And that's not part of that's not good a good good Muslim character. Right but at the same time also there's a time for this and there's a time for that. That means that there's a time you know that you need to relax when you go out with a family when the picnic you want some people like to go camping, doing things that you like fishing or whatever it is that you like once in a while. That's something that definitely permissible and it's probably it's also something that's recommended also because you really kept you know if you

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really can't focus completely because everybody's Eman is different. Sometimes you need a time for time for this like holiday but no yeah man. Are they for? He came to the Messenger of Allah or handler.

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He came to the messenger of allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. When he came he said he came to a water bucket beside me said he said, you know bucket, that Nafa

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like handler has become an asset but somehow I feel like a hypocrite. He says he feels like a hypocrite. Whenever we're with the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam

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whenever we're with him,

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and he speaks about the hellfire and Paradise. It's

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As if we can see it with our very own eyes.

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And then we go home and we play with our children. And it's as if we forgot all of that.

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Right our emotional state chances we forgot everything that was said by the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam and Abu Bakr Dylon, he said, You know, I feel the same way also, let's go and ask the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam about this. And so they both went to the messenger of allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.

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And they told him, what he you know, what they were talking about. And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he said, Messiah, there's a time for this. And there's a time for that.

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Oh, Hamdulillah, if you

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if you were to remain in the same state

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that you're in, when you're with me all the time like that, the angels, the angels of Allah would come down and shake your hands in the streets. And then your houses and your bedrooms, they would come down, they shake your hands, like, Oh, shake this man's head, like this is one heck of a man.

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The ages would come down? Well, I can say I was. But there's a time for this and this type of that it's okay to enjoy. You know, spend time with your family. And if you do so, you know, you're gonna forget the same time when you're speaking here is what the * fire about paradise. You might have your Eman might be very high. But then when you're doing other things, you almost it seems like you almost forget, but that's natural, it's okay, as long as one as long as one does not indulge in the mobile hack so much that they neglect the mandatory neglect the obligations. And so

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what should you be checking? This is this is the foundation of piety and righteousness, this hadith, if you can apply this idea, it's the foundation of piety and righteousness. Why? Because you

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are always careful what you say. You're always careful what you look at, you're always careful what you listen to, is it beneficial to me or not? What I'm what I am listening to is Is it harmful for me of course, you will stay away from but even that which is not beneficial.

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And that which is beneficial, that's that which is I mean, even that which is not haram, but it might be beneficial, a little bit beneficial in this world, you know, like some people they might

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they might be interested in something certain things and politics, others are interested in the economy and there are others who are interested in sports and so forth. And people we listen we watch, we talk about some of these things. So there are some people when you speak about anything

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like politics, or sports, or celebrities even or movies, mashallah they are very, very, very, very

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into it. Like they're very, very involved. And they, they just, they discuss it with a passion.

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They discuss it with the passion. As soon as you speak about the deen

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they start

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Why do you have to speak about that? Why? Because they know they know that this is important and they just want to follow their desires. Like let me relax. Let me relax and they think the dean is very, very hard know, when you speak to what they did. And you learn the deen of Allah subhanaw taala once you realize how important it is, and once you start to learn that's the most pleasurable thing that you can have is to remember Allah because in the remember learning the deen is reminding you of Allah, Allah, Allah, that my inner Paulo. And so those people who are speaking about those things, you know why they speak about sports?

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Do you know why? They watch sometimes politics because they want to forget about their problems.

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They want to forget about their problems. And so that's why when the economy is going bad,

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right, when the economy is going bad, when there's turmoil in politics, when there's a lot of clashes, some governments will increase entertainment.

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Right? They might go out and bring players from all to distract from what from some from the problems that they have you

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because they want to cover up those problems, but you're just covering it up, you're not solving anything.

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Like you're not solving anything, you're just distracting people, you're just getting, you're giving yourself a little bit more time, eventually, it will end. And when people don't have enough to eat, when people can't pay their bills, they look at the thing. And they will eventually, they'll get to the point where they won't care about sports, because they don't have anything to eat. They don't have to feed their families, they can't pay the bills, they're being kicked out of their houses, and they're unable to afford some of the even the basic necessities. And then when that happens, you can't cover up anyone, you can't cover up.

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And that's why sometimes you just some people are just buying themselves time. And when you realize that these things are not important, then you you focus on that you prioritize things that are more important. And also, you know, even thinking,

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there are, there are so there are so many things that we think about, we think about the future, and we have anxiety, we think about the past and we feel sad,

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we think about the present and the problems that we have, and we feel depressed. Right. And so anytime you're put in a situation, you your connection with Allah subhanho wa Taala strengthens your strengthens you because you're thinking about the hereafter, because any problems that you have in the here in this life, compared to problems that are in the Hereafter,

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that the possible problems that you may have in the hereafter if you're not obedient to Allah, all of these problems are nothing. I'll give you an example. I've given this example many times.

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But Cholos helps us to learn how to prioritize these and how some people you know, they have these seems like they have a lot of problem with they're always at peace. You know, a Muslim, being a good Muslim, there's no guarantee that you won't have any problems.

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But being a good Muslim, and holding on to the Quran and the Sunnah

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gives you peace and tranquility, even in times of turmoil and hardships, and difficulties gives you contentment. It gives you faith and strength, even in times of difficulty. Why? Because you're connected to the hereafter. Anytime you are connected with you after it gives you relief, anytime you're chasing the dunya it gives you stress, more stress. The dunya is a place of stress. When you think about the hereafter. It relieves that stress. Wow. Let me let me give you an example. If you were to sit if we were to sit in the mustard here right now. And a brother comes in with his children, like maybe his son's coming with him. And then he said he goes and he sits in the corner,

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just like you know, on the back on the wall. His children are running around, running around and people are reading Quran. People are praying sunnah.

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And he's and the children are just going wild. So you look, you look at these children running around.

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And then you look at the Father and the Father is just sitting like this.

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He's doing nothing. How do you feel?

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Some of us were like,

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take care of your children. Yeah.

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Mom, yeah, just sitting and the kids running

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up and down. They don't care anymore. Like

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take care of your children, right? Take care of children. So imagine you're in that situation right now. You feeling like irritated.

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You go to the brother was sitting in the back of the corner of the back of the Masjid. You go to him and he said, Brother, can you please take care of your children

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that he looks at? He says I really apologize. He just came from the hospital and when their mother just passed away, and I'm just not in it today. How do you feel?

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has fought his wife just died?

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His children running still they start running? Are you mad at him anymore?

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Are you mad at him? Can you even be mad at him? If you are still mad at them? There's something wrong with you.

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This brother his wife just passed away. You don't care now his children you feel it was hard for his children. They are so young that they don't even know that they will never see their mother again.

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they don't have a mother and they're still running around. Like, yeah, Allah like, poor, these children's are so innocent. They don't realize what's happening. And so are you mad at the children? Definitely not. Are you mad at the pilot? No. Did the children stop running?

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No. You what changed?

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The thing that changed was those little problems that you saw that irritated you.

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When it's nothing

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compared to what he's going through.

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It's nothing.

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Are you are you what are you worried about? Who are you, your children? This brother is my his wife just passed away.

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That's, that's death in this life. When you think about Jana, and you think about

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all the problems in this world are nothing.

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Nothing, they mean nothing. And that's one, the Messenger of Allah Salah lavalla, he was upset that they will on the Day of Judgment, Allah will bring forth a man

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this man is the what is one is amongst the people that Hellfire

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This man

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is one whom Allah Subhana Allah gave him all the pleasures and all the every, all the pleasures of this world. He had everything.

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People wanted to have what he had wanted to be him. He had everything.

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He had everything.

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And Allah subhanaw taala

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or just dip have one moment, all the all the all the things that he had that other people didn't have did to him one and he has the most ease. He doesn't have any hardship. Whenever he needs something, people always take care of them. No financial problems, nothing.

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He did some one moment. And the Hellfire takes him out.

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And Allah will ask him

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all seven of my Did you find any goodness in this dunya?

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Anything at all?

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He said No, not at all. Not a single moment. Oh, goodness, all that happiness, everything that happened

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after he saw the hellfire, forgot all of it all gone, it's worthless. All of that this is the one who has the most of anyone in this dunya

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and then Allah subhanho wa Taala will bring forth a man

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a man who went through the most who is tested more than anyone else went through the most hardships in this dunya and he will he of course as most of you will gender and Allah subhanho wa Taala will dip one dip in one moment, just one more minute agenda.

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And he will come out and Allah who will say when you are in this world did you find any difficulty whatsoever? So you have a lot not a single moment of difficulty if this were not a single moment of difficulty at all. Why he forgot every single hardships sickness difficulty in this world.

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Just because just because of one moment in Japan and that's why

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an example of us in this world

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you know how sometimes you have a person and a couple they may be living together happily for 1520 years

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1520 years and then they have a problem.

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Right they have a problem.

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And that wasn't the husband and the wife now are they are in

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so all the 20 years before

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that they enjoyed staying together and all the indications are the happy times that they had all the times that they enjoy

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at that moment when she has a lot a little bit of a problem. She says to him says you know I never He never did any good for me

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he never did any good for me at all whatsoever.

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Like you know never kind to me you're not read anything that you never have even thought there's some many times that you may have helped out even did this and that you you struggle to sometimes bring food to put a

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You know, to put bread on the table. And, and maybe you went on vacation and everyday,

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and you enjoyed the time that you had together. But one moment of anger

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as you forgot everything.

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And sometimes the opposite also, you may go through so many difficulties, hardships, financial hardships, struggles, difficulties. Finally, Allah gives you relief. And you get out of it and have the law you had it. You have you have what you have now. And so now you're happy. You know, you you have what you were looking for. And now you're, you're financially stable, and you just bought this and bought that. And you're like, relaxed, right? So like, Yeah, we did go through a lot of difficulties. But was it? Was it worth it? Yeah, it was worth it look like what we have right now. All those difficulties on that on those days in which you were going through difficult to use, I

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can't handle this. Right. But then when you came out of it, when Allah gave you relief, he said, Hamdulillah that wasn't too bad.

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Was it worth it? Now you're able to come together or you'll be together maybe before you weren't able to sometimes, you know, maybe she's in a different country, you're in a different country, and oh, man, so many difficulties with parents and in laws and outlaws, no kinds of things were happening. And now Alhamdulillah you're together and you're like, you know, quote unquote, and Charlotte successful in this life. You look back and say, How

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would you want any way? anything different? Would you have done? Nah, man, that's good. It just has been no problem. You know, I wouldn't, I wouldn't want to change a thing. Because you saw the end,

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man and ended up good luck, we made it

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happen. Look what we made it. Just like during the time that the story of profit use of La Santa.

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So proper use of harmony struggles, how many difficulties in profit uses have to go through with his brothers.

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And then he invites his brothers to Egypt, but he's on the on the top.

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His like next to the king of Egypt and all of the money. The store houses of Egypt are under his control.

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Allah raised his status to the point where he's on the throne of Egypt now.

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He's respected. He's Beloved.

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And all of Egypt is under.

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under his control authority,

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he calls his brothers over. Right? Even though they went through all of those difficulties, he forgave them. Why? Because we made it

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look good. Allah gave me

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but Manila Elena. In now my

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Yes, yes.

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Indeed, in Allah, Allah, you have mercy.

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Whoever has stuck, and his patient, like in the end, will give you know give, even after all those struggles, they tried to kill him. And they made him a slave. He was sold as a slave in Egypt. And then he was tested with all the women also and he was imprisoned after going out of prison. After that, Allah subhanaw taala. After many decades, ALLAH SubhanA wa antiracist has, who is it all worth it. So yes, if you're a patient, you have taqwa and you have patience, Allah will take care of you. Allah will give you in this life and hereafter. And so

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everything that you're looking at every error, even your thinking, don't be concerned about things that don't matter, that don't benefit. That's part of being pious and righteous men who personal Islam and

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that's part of the axon of a person, part of the noble character, of a person, even in his thinking, he doesn't think about things about past and future things that that will distract

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you. So this is if you can control this, then this is one of the most, this is one of the great one of the one of the greatest blessings that you can have in terms of your deed. This is the embodiment

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of piety and righteousness and noble character. And, and that's why

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that's why some

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other people before

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they used to say,

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you know, and in the sometimes

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they would visit some of the companions or some of the people who are sick. And some people who were, you know, before.

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In the

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they were, they were, you know, people were known for their Deen. And some of the companions even when they're sick, they you can see their faces, that they're still remembering a lot of making they care. And why when they saw them in that state.

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They said, you know, how is this how is this the case? And they said, he said, Ma'am, and I'm in our software Endymion has Latane there isn't

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any anything. There just there are two things that

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I took care of, I tried my try very hard.

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And two things I try very, very hard. And that's why it's giving me you know, like, lots of hands giving me strength in this moment, in which he's happy to making dekat, even though he's, he's sick. He's on his deathbed. He said, There's nothing that I have done in terms of my character will have taken care of except for two things, that I really, really took care of going to that kind of female ID.

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One thing is I used to never speak about that which did not concern me.

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If it doesn't concern me, I used to never speak about it, but can call me Salim and Muslim he said, My heart was always pure towards other Muslims, I was never jealous of them. I did not have envy of them. You know, because there are some Muslims who is concerned about others, not only the speak of others, you concerned about others. Like some people, they mashallah they buy a new house, they have a new car, or they have a new job, or they got this and they got that they are raised in this job and that job, and there are some people who are jealous of it. Like, why are you jealous?

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Why and sometimes they speak badly about that person, because they're envious of it, why? Allah subhanaw taala gave that person and who knows what he did to deserve that, that Allah Subhana Allah gave it to him. And so be thankful to Allah subhanho wa Taala be content with what you have. Because when you start looking at other people and what they have, then that affects you also, you know, so be thankful for what Allah Subhana Allah has given to you. And don't speak about that, which then doesn't benefit you don't speak about other Muslims. That which does not benefit you, and keep your heart clean and appear from all the envy and jealousy and so and so unwanted allegedly, one of the

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salehoo people before pious predecessors, the one he said he said I'm Ron and he told me he moved to Canada.

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One of the things I said like there's one thing I've been searching for for many years, such as I saw such and such years

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wellness to be Tarik intolerable whoever that so that when

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I'm searching for right now, and I will not leave it I will continue to search for and so they said what is it?

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He said Alkaff Who am I need

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to stay away from that which doesn't concern?

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I do not speak about that which does not concern me to not think about that for that which doesn't benefit me and doesn't concern me. And so

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Hassan Ali Mohammed Hassan Al Basri Rahim Allah said allow me to arrow later Allah I loved your Allah Shiva who female female lady. Listen to this. And Imam Al Hassan Vasily Rahim Allah I said, allow me to erode the lighter I the

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one of the signs that Allah has turned away from the servant.

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What wondering

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this is one of the signs that Allah has turned away from the seven a gr Nashoba. Who female I added, that he makes him concerned about things that don't concern him.

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That if Allah made you concerned about things that don't concern you

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that have nothing to do with you. This is a sign that Allah has turning away from you.

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That Allah is turning and then he was

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Should you do turn away from that which doesn't concern you? And go back return to Allah subhanaw taala and Allah Subhana Allah in sha Allah will strengthen you and guide you and give you faith. A Lima machete, Rahim Allah He said, for Latin does he do

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three things that will increase a person's optimum intelligence? Apple is not only intelligence, right? Because the cat is intelligence

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is intelligence. It's not only it's it's not just intelligence, but it's also like, smart and emotional intelligence also, right and wisdom muscle, that's Apple means you economies to hold back and to stop. That's what it means. So when that's when a person doesn't have, you know, good luck with somebody who's you know, Majnoon somebody who's crazy, he doesn't have an apple, he can control his actions. Right? So he's one who controls his actions. And so he says, The latitude to zero

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there are three things that will increase your

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your intelligence and your wisdom and your

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you know, your

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determination, right, your determination, your self determination and strength, emotionally, and so forth. Number one, Majelis.

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Spending time with scholars, increases your awkward when which are listened to solidly and being in the company of the pious people being in the company of scholars without good Calamy female ID and ethical color leaving that leaving this speech that does not pertain to you the speech that doesn't pertain to you and it was said that Mensa Allah, Allah, he sent me, your Li,

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anyone who asks about that was doesn't pertain to him, we'll hear that which one up please Him.

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If you always ask about things that don't pertain to you, then you will hear about things that won't pleases you. So don't ask him about things that don't pertain to you. Like if it doesn't matter, like who, for example? Or you know, how, how much does that brother make?

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What is it to you?

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Right, whatever he makes Hamdulillah? Like, why are you so concerned about it? Why are you worried about it? Right? And how did this person do this? And that what it's what Yeah, so you're speaking about this person, and that person, them doing this and then doing that, them having this and then having that it's a waste, it's wasting your time. It's harmful for you. It's harmful,

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harmful for you. And that's why

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men Elsner Islam in Turku melayani,

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leaving that which does not pertain to him, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam also was asked,

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he said, he was asked he absolute law, or Ulis law of law, what kind of Islam is the best? And he said, Man, Solomon was the moon and melissani. God, who are those the best Islam? The Muslim, the true Muslim, that's the best Islam is, is one who others are saved from his tongue, and his hands. That means his hands, he's not going to do things that doesn't pertain to him, and also does not harm other Muslims. And Muslim men Solomon Muslim Anomalisa and he will Yedi in Hadith in Sahih Bukhari and Sahih Muslim, a Muslim is one whom others are safe from his tongue and from his head. And so, of course,

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hosting that Islam is leaving that which is haram leaving that which does not pertain to you leaving that which is doubtful leaving that which is mcru Leaving that which is MOBA, if it's if it's,

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you know, if you're indulging in too much, also, or things that you don't like, or take the you don't need, and also become you know, there are things that you buy that you might not need also. And that falls into those that category also, because a lot of times, we buy things we don't need with money, we don't have a price we can afford. And sometimes it's just to impress people we don't even like right and so that's why if you can stay away from that, then inshallah you have solemnity

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and you have peace and tranquility and your heart and when people speak as Allah subhanaw taala says lifeaid of Ica theatrum La Jolla Rafi Kathira Minaj Well, there's no good

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In all of their discussions, and in the debates and discussions amongst themselves elimin Amara be sada except for those who ordered that to give Solokha

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or good goodness and joining that which is good, oh is lacking minus four in joining or rectifying

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bringing people together in other words when when two people are at odds with each other, to bring people together and just notice just know that Allah subhana wa Tada says, in Surah, two of my own feet I mean Colin Illa de Hiraki when it there's not a single errors that come from your mouth, except there is rocky when it angels, to your right and to your left that write down your actions. And, and of course, the hadith of mine about the love and hope who said, messenger will never end Allah

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in our home. The man at the corner, are we going to be accountable for what we say?

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When LM wha Hello, Nabil moneta, Carla Marie

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and the prophets of Allah they are so thank you let's go omocha Yeah, well, may or may your mother may you lose your mother. Well, Holly, a football, openness. Scenario Allah will do him. Oh Allah Menachem Illa Hassan.

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Said the people dragged by their noses on their faces into the Hellfire except because of what their tongues have earned them meaning that

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the words that you say you're accountable for that most people are dragged into the Hellfire by the drag their faces or dragged and thrown into the Hellfire because of their time because of their time. Our our OMA Abdelaziz used to say, he said, My alarm home and men at the Colombo Menominee Allah, Colombo female I am felt he said whoever considers his words to be part of his deeds,

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then he will speak less about that which does not benefit him. So if you consider the words that you say as part of your deeds that you do, because they are, these are, these are the time when you will spend less time speaking about things that don't benefit you. Why? Because they're so this is the same thing. So let's say how many times do we go out and do things that don't benefit us?

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Like for, you just go out, all of a sudden, like, you just want to go out, it doesn't benefit, you just go out and do things that you know, like, you know, meaning

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somebody goes out and just you know, sometimes you walk out in you do your exercising Hamdulillah that benefits you. But there are times in which you do things that don't benefit you. And then you look back because you know I shouldn't why? Why should they? Why should I do that? There's a benefit. Like why should I buy this if I don't need it?

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Right? Why should I buy this? If I don't need it? Why should I do this? So it doesn't benefit. Everybody thinks about what when you're buying something, when you're doing something you're looking for things that you benefit, and that will benefit you. Right? But also words that you say, why should you say if it doesn't benefit?

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Why should you say it? Right? If it's harmful for you, if it doesn't benefit, if you think if you have that mindset, you have that mindset or Omar Abdulaziz, he says, then you will speak less about that which does not benefit you. And so, of course

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this is just, you know, the Hadith of the messenger of allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. And it's a very, very important that is why we mentioned that this particular Hadith felt forms a foundation of whatever. If you want to be pious and righteous, then stay away from that which does not that which doesn't benefit you.

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Stay away from saying things that don't benefit. Staying away from doing things that don't pertain to you. You're talking about things that don't pertain to you. So leaving things that don't protect you, that's part of good character. That's part of the character. Nobody likes people who speak up. The more you speak, the more enemies you make.

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The word speak the more enemies you make, and the more you get to other people's business. The more and more people hate him hate you. People hate it when others are always trying to win you will actually just as well look

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Jakob Balou combat I do not go around trying to spy on people and know that by other people. So this hadith encompasses all of those things. And that's why it's one of the most

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encompassing it most important Hadith, in in trying to perfect when it comes to the person's own a person's character in sha Allah so we ask Allah subhana wa Tada to

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perfect our character just like He has perfected our features to also perfect character and we ask Allah subhana wa atta to raise us with the Prophets and Messengers. And we asked Allah subhanaw taala to help us to antigen the highest level in Ghana. I mean the ability Rasul Allah Allah and Amina Mohammed Vida Aliko silence

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